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What type of narcissistic supply are you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  All about that sweet, sweet narcissistic supply.
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  That's what we talked about today everybody.
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  Narcissistic supply. What type of narcissistic supply
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  are you right so like so so let's let's start it over.
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  Welcome to the mental illness diner.
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  Look, have a seat, pull up a chair, check out the menu.
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  Today we're talking all about narcissistic supply or
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  validation, whatever y'all want to call it.
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  Most people tend to think that supply, when you hear it, is
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  just praise. That's what people think.
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  Just like, oh, you're praising this person.
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  That's all narcissistic supply is.
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  That's why you they're all after praise.
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  But as someone that is diagnosed with MPD, that's not what it is.
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  That's not all it is, right? It's way deeper than that,
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  right? Is way deeper than that.
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  It's not just one single solitary flavor.
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  It's it's multi flavor. It's it's rainbow sherbet.
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  It's rainbow sherbet, it's rainbow sherbet.
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  Narcissistic supply, right? Some narcissistic supply, some
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  flavors are better than others, right?
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  Some way more than others and things of that nature.
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  So today we'll talk about what type of narcissistic supply you
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  are. Welcome to the live y'all.
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  What up? What up?
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  What else? What's going on Tammy?
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  Hey everybody. Hey, if you join in on YouTube,
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  make sure y'all hit that thumbs up and hit that subscribe button
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  too. Thumbs up, drop a comment.
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  We are chatting today. Y'all gonna do AQ and A at the
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  end and what not? What's going on Donna?
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  I see your name pop up in there girl.
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  What's up? What up, what up, what up?
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  But yeah, yeah, we'll hop right into it.
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  First of all, I'm going to go into the heavy hitters.
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  The heavy hitters of narcissistic supply, the number
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  one, number one, the ego, adulation supply, all about that
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  ego, all about that bass, no treble, all about that bass,
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  that bass, that bass, no trouble.
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  The ego supply and whatnot. What's going on?
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  What up, What up, what up, what up?
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  This is the classic, like this is the one everybody talks
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  about, right? This is the praise and whatnot.
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  Like you're the one telling the narcissist, telling us that we
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  are geniuses, right? You keep the narcissistic mask,
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  mask, said mask, like a boat mask, all polished and shiny for
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  the world, right? You're you typically the person
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  who is the narcissist is getting.
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  If you are ego or adulation supply, you're typically the yes
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  man or the yes woman in their life, right?
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  Either the person that always says yes to them or the people
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  in their life that always says yes to them, no matter what they
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  do, no matter what they ask. That's an ego supply.
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  That's an adulation supply right there.
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  Somebody who always strokes the ego, like somebody who's in The
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  Who, somebody who's within the inner circle, right within the
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  inner circle or just exterior circle, there's always says yes
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  to this person. This doesn't know how to say no
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  to this person. No matter what they say, no
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  matter what they do, they always say yes.
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  Now do y'all know some ego or adulation supply?
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  Put a thumbs up in the comment section.
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  Y'all have seen an ego or you might have been.
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  You might be the ego supply the the thumbs up, the yes man, the
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  yes person, right, yes man, yes woman.
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  You're always saying yes to this person.
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  Maybe it's out of you just didn't know or maybe it's out of
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  fear Lee, if I don't say yes to them, they they threaten me.
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  Gotcha. I understand that as well,
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  right. I definitely can understand
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  that. I can definitely attest to that
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  as well. You know what I mean?
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  I see some thumbs up in there. I see some thumbs up.
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  They're coming through. They're coming through.
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  They're coming through the 2nd heavy hitter of narcissistic
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  supply that some of y'all might be some of y'all might be
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  financial supply. That skrilla you did money
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  supply the money, money, money, money, money, money, money,
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  money, money. Like what is it from a toy
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  store? Money, money, money.
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  You are too if you are. If you are financial supply to a
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  narcissist right or narcissistic person, you are not a partner.
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  It might seem like it. You might have the title of
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  partner, husband, wife, whoever right fiance.
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  You damn near you're not a partner.
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  You're pretty much the four O 1K.
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  You are the bank. You are the investor.
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  You invest. You are investing in narc narc
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  core right? You investing in narcissistic
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  incorporated narc narc Inc. You are the you all want to be
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  foundational investors in Narc Inc.
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  You were one of the top ones. Welcome.
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  You know what I'm saying? You're you're you're an Angel
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  investor in narcissist Incorporated, right?
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  You're an Angel investor in Narc Inc Welcome to the team right?
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  This is this is what happens so many people Angel the Angel
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  investor is crazy an Angel investor in the devil and that's
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  what ends up happening right there, right.
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  That's what I'm sure. Yep.
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  Till you are down and out, then they leave.
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  Yeah, I hate that. I hate that.
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  But you on your glow up journey, girl, I see you on your glow up
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  journey, glowing up in the gym, doing your thing.
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  Look good, feel good, you are good.
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  But yeah, this one ends up happening.
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  You at 4 O 1K. You pay the bills, you provide
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  the house, you facilitate the lifestyle.
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  As long as the check clears, the narcissist is happy.
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  Boom, Exhibit A. You see what I'm saying?
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  And then when you're then you're down and out.
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  They know you know you. They're they're no, you no
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  longer serve a purpose right there, right?
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  You're down and out. Hey, I got to move on.
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  I'm I'm accustomed to a certain type of lifestyle and you could
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  no longer provide that for me. Sorry.
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  That's how they think, though. That's how narcissists think.
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  They have this mentality that you have to serve.
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  Like, yeah, to be in a narcissist's life, regardless of
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  whatever type of supply you are, you have to serve a purpose.
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  You absolutely have to serve a purpose.
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  You have to. There has to be a reason why
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  you're there in their life. Yep.
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  Until I stopped being the bank boy did he blow up.
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  Yep, my ex is a narcissist. Yep.
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  Narc Inc. Narc Inc.
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  I'm definitely in search of support groups.
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  I have a support group called mental healers.
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  Check out my my mental healer support group is that you can
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  find my mental healer support group at mentalillness.net.
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  This is what happens right here. Y'all don't take your 4-O1K or
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  refinance your house with your name and mortgage to help his
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  two ass get out of his own business that you get stuck with
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  nothing. Yep that could happen.
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  Once you hey you can't you have no more equity in your house.
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  Damn I got to find somebody else.
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  I got dreams this ends up happening y'all.
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  The third type, and this might resonate with a lot of people
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  right here. The third type of heavy hitter
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  narcissistic supply is the sexual sexual supply, right?
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  The bedroom supply, the cheek clapping supply.
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  This, this is the physical like literally the physical dopamine
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  hit. And you do sometimes, like you
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  get a lot of narcissist that tend to be SEX addicts or
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  borderline SEX addicts, right? This will end up happening like
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  you, they get a consistent dopamine hit from you.
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  Like it becomes a distraction from their real life, from
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  their, from their zone or whatever, right, from whatever
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  zone that they're in in life. This can be a distraction
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  technique, right? This can be like the bedroom
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  stuff can be a form of escapism for a narcissist, right?
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  So when, when a narcissist is bored or feeling low, hey, let's
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  go to the bedroom. Hey, bend over real quick.
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  Hey, come here, come here real quick.
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  Let's go in the back seat of the car.
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  You know what I'm saying? Whatever the case may be, it's,
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  it's really typically it's going to be high intensity, very high
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  intensity, low, high intensity, low intimacy, right?
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  High cheek clap rate, low love rate in that space, in that
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  situation right there. So that's what ends up happening
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  like the high and that's what they do right there either way.
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  And that's what goes on. So you have, you do have some
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  sexual saviors I saw somewhere in there, right there, right?
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  But sometimes this was, this is how a lot of people get twisted
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  up right here with narcissistic people, right?
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  Because they can be prolific in the bedroom, right?
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  You'll give them financial supply.
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  So one thing leads to another, one thing leads to another.
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  Not, not every narcissistic person is going to be good in
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  the bedroom, but sometimes when they are, you'd be willing to
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  get them, you'd be willing to cut them off, cut them off.
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  You'd be willing to cash out a little bit, right?
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  You'd be willing to hit that hit that PayPal that, that Venmo a
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  little bit, right? You're like, damn, that was
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  good. I guess I give it a little
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  $350.00, your little bids for you to start your LLCI Guess,
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  you know what I'm saying? That's what ends up happening,
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  right? It's just like, guess you put it
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  down, here's a little $400.00 LLC.
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  You, you renew your license, get your CDL, take that CDL class.
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  You just, you see how to go like that when sometimes that's what
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  ends up happening. What's going on, What's going
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  on? Well, that's what ends up
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  happening sometimes. Yeah.
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  Yeah, a lot. You see a lot of sex, but very
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  little intimacy. See, there ain't happening.
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  It's just like you just feel like they're using you or
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  something right there. So now we go shift into the
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  other forms in our the other forms of narcissistic supply,
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  Right. Wait.
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  It's like, hold on. Somebody said after sex, after a
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  good night of fun, he would ask to borrow money.
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  Yep. He would ask to borrow money.
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  Yeah. Can I get your.
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  I'm in a I'm in a bind, Nate. Y'all know that movie?
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  I'm in a bind, Nate. But the other forms of
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  narcissistic supply, y'all, these are not necessarily heavy
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  hitters, but they still matter. These are still forms of
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  narcissistic supply that the narcissists could get, right?
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  First one, the emotional fixer type of supply, right?
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  The emotional fixer will leave. Narcissists don't even have
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  emotions. Yes we do.
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  Yes they do. Narcissists absolutely have
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  emotions. They might not know how to
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  regulate them correctly, but they absolutely do have
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  emotions, right? So if you are the emotional
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  supplier, you become their therapist.
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  You're their personal therapist that doesn't you're their
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  personal unpaid therapist that doesn't get paid.
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  You get to be the trauma dump. You carry the narcissist trauma.
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  You listen to their rants and you make a narcissist feel
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  normal. You're damn there.
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  You're like, yeah, you like an emotional sponge.
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  You suck it all up from them, right?
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  You you take it all from them. They give you everything in that
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  situation right there. Like you become that emotional
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  sponge, like they just vent to you, trauma dump on you all the
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  time. And then they just go about
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  their they just go about their day.
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  They don't care about your trauma now you don't, they don't
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  sponge back. It's a one way sponge.
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  They squeeze, look, they squeeze themselves out onto you, right?
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  They squeeze themselves out and you suck it up so they're dry
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  and then they go out and go out into the world, traumatize
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  everybody else, get soaking wet again and then squeeze
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  themselves out on you again. You see what they they use you
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  to squeeze out? That ends up happening, right?
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  And because they share someone, they because they could be
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  sharing some trauma with you. This is another way to get you
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  to feel bad for them. You know what I mean?
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  You know what times I do one on ones with people and they just
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  say, well, Lee, they had a horrible childhood, lady.
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  They had childhood trauma. They went through some stuff.
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  They went through a lot of things.
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  They went through a lot of things.
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  You see the name they they went through some stuff because they
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  keep telling you, you know, my dad used to beat me and here you
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  are going to try to hold me accountable for cheating on you.
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  Wow, wow, you really don't give a fuck, do you?
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  How crazy it sounds. The next one right here.
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  Y'all is the next form of supply might resonate with some people,
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  maybe not all right. It is called the transitional
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  supply, transitional narcissistic supply, or the
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  placeholder. You, the transitional supply or
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  the placeholder. This is the person that a
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  narcissist uses to get over their last person, right?
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  You might be the new supply. They might be loved by me, you,
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  but you're just a placeholder because they still want their ex
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  back, right? This is I thought there's so
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  many people like in my groups or resume or whatever they say Lee,
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  they they seem so happy with the new person, but they're still
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  texting and calling me. The new person might just be
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  transitional narcissistic supply and guess what happens And
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  that's it. They just a placeholder.
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  Now. If you take them back, will they
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  get rid of the placeholder? Maybe not.
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  Sometimes they'll keep the placeholder around because just
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  in case y'all blow up, they have another placeholder.
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  You something back and forth. You might become the
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  placeholder. Shit, you might become the
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  placeholder. Even if we we with them, you
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  might become the placeholder in this situation right here.
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  So if you had a placeholder supply, narcissists don't even
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  really see you. They're just using you to keep
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  from being by themselves. Narcissists.
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  A lot of narcissists have a fear of being alone, which sounds
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  crazy, right? But you're transitional.
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  It really is true. Who said that right there yes
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  Ladon, I appreciate you. I always appreciate you Click
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  the thumbs up button y'all on YouTube or Facebook.
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  like hit the hit the like or you know drop a comment as well.
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  I'm going to do AQA here in a few minutes.
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  Y'all only got a couple more left.
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  I don't got a couple more left. The next last but not least what
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  I have written now y'all is the conflict reactive supply.
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  Now this is one of my favorites to talk about right here
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  honestly because it confuses some people.
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  It gives you like wait conflict reactive supply?
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  What the hell are you talking about?
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  What Lee what is conflict reactive supply?
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  Some narcissist y'all. Y'all hear me say this before.
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  Some narcissist love when you scream at them.
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  They love when you are the one raging out.
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  They love it. They love it.
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  They cannot. They get a high offer.
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  They might start look, they might start shaking their body
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  like they just to the sip of a crispy ass cold Sprite.
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  Woo you screaming at me. But Lee Lee, why did they like
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  that? Why did they love it?
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  It proves that narcissists still have some power over your
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  emotions. Your tears become fuel, right?
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  Your tears become fuel for a narcissist fuel, fuel for some
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  narcissist. That's what ends up happening.
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  Your tears become fuel for that narcissistic person.
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  And sometimes y'all this would look.
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  Let me tell you how the vicious this cycle can be sometimes
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  right here y'all. Sometimes they'll poke you and
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  poke you and poke you on purpose to get you to react right.
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  You react, you'll start screaming and cussing and then
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  guess what else happens? They get turned on.
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  You didn't become sexual supply because they'll fuck you and
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  then guess what happens? They'll ask you for some money.
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  So you just they'll ask you for some money and then you also
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  praise them. So not only could they go from
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  conflict could get you a bit. You can give you can become four
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  forms of supply very quickly. You could be reactive supply
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  because you reacted and then your reactions, your your, your
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  tears, you're crying, you're screaming turns them on.
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  So y'all go sleep together right?
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  And then you praise them for putting it down like hey, I
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  ain't you ain't never you ain't you ain't bounced like that in a
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  long time. I said it's too much, too much
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  going on. Are you bouncing too much?
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  Whoa. And then guess what you'll get
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  in some money. So you just became 4 forms of
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  supply, 4 forms of supply quickly very quickly, very
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  quickly. Is that what, how quick that
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  went? It just became 4 forms of supply
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  very quickly. It yeah, it's crazy how that
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  works or not, isn't it? It can be extremely crazy how
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  that works out sometimes because like 1 transitions into the
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  other. You know, you can actually
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  become five forms of supply if you, if you think about it in
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  that, in that situation in the world, because they get trauma
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  dumped on you at the same time, right?
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  So you can become an emotional supply and trauma dump right at
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  the same time. So you can become five forms and
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  whatnot. What's going on?
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  You. You're a liar.
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  Yeah, obviously. Yeah.
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  If it pops up, I just say it. This is crazy about my stuff.
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  If it pops up in my head, I'm just going to say I think it's
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  funny and whatnot. But that smirk, when you finally
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  snap, yeah, that smirk turns them on.
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  They're like, you see? You see that?
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  Yeah, there are. People's are dilated.
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  Like you start yelling and screaming.
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  They're like, and then they'll try to hug, then they'll try to
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  come up to you and hug you. Are you yelling and screaming
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  and trying to hit them? They'll be hugging you and
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  you'll feel you're like, you're like, what's what's that poke at
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  me? Are you, are you excited right
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  now? No, no, just you know, you know,
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  I had that trauma, you know, you know, I had that trauma when I
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  was younger. I told you about that trauma.
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  You know, sometimes tears just make me, you know, man, they
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  give me little, they give me started a little bit, you know,
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  man. And then it goes from there.
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  It goes from there. It said This is why antifreeze
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  is locked up and behind the counters at Home Depot because
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  it always ends up with the show snap.
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  Oh, God, yeah. Oh, God, man.
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  Yeah. That's what ends up happening.
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  I've seen it twice. But now I'm one of those
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  impasse. That's real chill.
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  He couldn't go there with me. I make sure he stop it.
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  I didn't get much wrong. There you go.
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  Look at the take away before the Q&A.
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  If you recognize yourself on this supply menu right, you need
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  to understand that that the narcissist diner only stays open
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  as long as you keep coming, as long as you keep cooking.
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  The second you stop providing supply, the narcissistic person
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  either stars or they find someone else to go to.
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  They find a new restaurant to get served.
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  That right, it's time to close down the damn kitchen.
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  Stop serving up that narcissistic supply.
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  Appreciate the the Super sticker, Joan.
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  Is it Joan? Yeah, appreciate, appreciate the
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  Super sticker Joan. Now I got a few minutes for AQ
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  and a y'all if you in like I said, if you're actually in
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  Durham, NC, where I am stationed at, I actually am participating
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  in AI actually have a a stage reading today.
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  We're doing like a, it's kind of a stage reading for a play in
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  Durham, NC. It's Bell, Bell Books and hold
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  I'm doing a stage reading for Bell's Bell Book and Candle, a
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  stage, a stage reading today. It's kind of like a performance
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  and whatnot. So if y'all in Durham, NC, y'all
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  want to come out, check it out tonight.
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  It's tonight, Durham, NC, 6:00 at the Durham Durham Arts
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  Council downtown Durham, the link right here.
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  Check it out. It's insane.
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  I never had to dealt with someone like that that took
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  lysotherapy to finally see it clearly.
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  He lingered and tried pulling me back so I wouldn't testify
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  against in the court. Yep, that's what happens right
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  there. They'll try to play, they'll try
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  to play the nice guy or the nice gal until you give them what
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  they want, right? That's what ends up happening,
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  the nice guy and the nice girl, until you cave and get them.
• 19:34
  Exactly. Give them what they want and
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  that's what they do. It's like, you don't really want
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  to press charges on me, do you? You don't want to press, you
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  don't really want to see me locked up, do you?
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  You love me, right? Right.
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  Unfortunately, mine uses my kids to try and get to me.
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  The state of Missouri is allowed in this evening with parenting
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  app. Yeah, that.
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  I hate this sometimes, especially when you have the
• 19:53
  kids involved. Like they will keep doing this
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  type of stuff because they know that you're, you know, they
• 19:58
  can't, you can't just cut them off sometimes, right?
• 20:01
  They understand that and they know that as well.
• 20:05
  Nicole, what's going on, girl? Mine has a whole woman and keeps
• 20:10
  trying to reach out to me telling me he misses me.
• 20:11
  Yep. Transitional supply.
• 20:13
  We just went over that. I testified against mine, he got
• 20:19
  guilty for DB and still tries to contact me to talk or hang out
• 20:21
  yet. Don't go that though.
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  Do not go hang out or talk. You're going to end up you're
• 20:25
  going to end up somewhere hurt. Don't do that, don't do that.
• 20:32
  I told them I wasn't going to argue with them.
• 20:35
  They cursed me out like a dog and hung up.
• 20:37
  I finished the discord after that, hanging up in my face in
• 20:39
  violation. There you go.
• 20:40
  Power up. I testified to get.
• 20:45
  Oh, I I've read that already. Mine just got out of prison.
• 20:49
  We divorced while he was in there.
• 20:50
  He came out a month ago, and not a word from him, not even to
• 20:52
  check on the kids. Why is this so worried to me?
• 20:55
  Because. Yeah, because you you at least
• 20:57
  you probably at least expected him to check on the kids and not
• 20:59
  be angry at the kids. But sometimes they go full
• 21:02
  punishment mode. They try to punish everybody
• 21:04
  because they got locked up. Right.
• 21:06
  I want to start fresh. I want to start a few.
• 21:09
  Tammy says, what do you do when the narc switches tactics?
• 21:12
  Once you catch on to the old tactics, sometimes you can just
• 21:15
  call it out. Like what are you doing?
• 21:16
  Like if they if they go from gas lighting to just being to future
• 21:19
  vacant, you just call it out. Like why are you future vacant?
• 21:22
  But be careful, be careful calling people out.
• 21:24
  Y'all, you know, I go, you call them out.
• 21:26
  They'll do that type of stuff right there.
• 21:27
  But even if they switch tactics, you don't have to acknowledge,
• 21:29
  you don't have to acknowledge anything.
• 21:30
  You just like, hey, stand, you have the truth on your side.
• 21:33
  Stand on the truth. Stand on the truth.
• 21:37
  It's hard to not react to the triangulation and fly monkeys
• 21:39
  when you get made out to be the villain for leaving and moving
• 21:41
  on. Yeah, but in this situation
• 21:43
  right here, if this is what I'd say right here, if people are so
• 21:46
  easily swayed by somebody else's opinion of you and don't even
• 21:50
  contact you, but automatically believe the other person, I
• 21:53
  don't think that they, they shouldn't have a place in your
• 21:55
  life anyway, right? It's kind of like they their,
• 21:57
  their, their place in your life is their, the lease has been
• 22:00
  extended. The lease has been, the lease
• 22:01
  has been revoked, right? Everybody's everybody has a
• 22:04
  lease to be in your life and they there's just ran up.
• 22:13
  My favorite is when a therapist says narcissistic people are
• 22:16
  beautiful people, they're just hurt by trauma.
• 22:18
  Like they're not beautiful people.
• 22:19
  They're even. Yeah, no, it's just like, so
• 22:22
  yeah, I don't believe, I don't necessarily believe that to be
• 22:24
  true either. I yeah, I don't.
• 22:27
  It's just like just initiate leilando.
• 22:29
  What's going on it just, I don't know.
• 22:32
  I don't believe that as well. It's like they just like every
• 22:34
  narcissist is just a traumatized person.
• 22:35
  Not not every narcissist is traumatized y'all.
• 22:38
  Not every single narcissist is traumatized.
• 22:40
  That becomes an excuse. Not every narcissist has
• 22:42
  childhood trauma. Anyway y'all, like I said, I do
• 22:47
  have to hop off how to get ready for this this this stage reading
• 22:50
  in Durham, NC tonight. Like I said, I dropped the link
• 22:52
  earlier. Y'all come check it out.
• 22:55
  Check it out right here. The link is going to be in the
• 22:56
  bio or in the cap, not bio. And also I'm about to be live
• 23:00
  again this week. Y'all sometime just keep it turn
• 23:04
  on no notifications on YouTube. If you haven't already.
• 23:07
  Thank y'all for tuning in and all the other good stuff.
• 23:10
  Hold on one more question. Are you tired?
• 23:12
  Are you tired to talk about MBDA?
• 23:13
  Little bit honestly, a little bit yeah.
• 23:15
  But hey, I like it, but I'll get tired of it.
• 23:17
  I'm about to like I said, I'm about to start adding other
• 23:19
  things here. Just I'm about to broaden the
• 23:21
  topics over here. Y'all more other mental health
• 23:24
  things as well. I'm going to start doing
• 23:25
  commentary and shit like that as well too.
• 23:27
  So good question. It does get out of my my.
• 23:30
  I probably say the word narcissist probably 10,000
• 23:32
  times. But no wait more than 100,000
• 23:35
  times last few years. Nurse, nurse, nurse.
• 23:36
  I probably said it 1000 * 100 times a day.
• 23:41
  Anyways y'all I appreciate y'all so much.
• 23:43
  Take care of yourselves. Take care of like take care of
• 23:45
  yourselves, take care of each other, be safe.
• 23:48
  Like I said, mental illness.net for all things Lee Hammock and
• 23:51
  we will chat later. Y'all peace.