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#134 Introducing Our New Co-Host · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: I'm really excited that we're going to do this podcast together.
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  Speaker 1: You're not nearly as excited as I am. I can
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  Speaker 1: tell from the look on your face. It's the Happy
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  Speaker 1: Families podcast, the podcast for the time poor parent who
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  Speaker 1: just wants answers. Now. Hello, my name's doctor Justin Colson.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the dad to six daughters, the author of six
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  Speaker 1: books about raising happy families, and well, we're changing the
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  Speaker 1: podcast up starting right now. We've had loads of great
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  Speaker 1: feedback about the Pairing and Perspective podcast. People have enjoyed
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  Speaker 1: the interviews, although I have to be honest, some of
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  Speaker 1: the feedback that I've had has been a little bit
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  Speaker 1: shall we say, well, some people have said that we
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  Speaker 1: talk a little bit too much. In fact, the complaint
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  Speaker 1: has been I don't have time to listen to the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: There's just so much, so much going on in my life,
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  Speaker 1: and these long podcasts, these pairing and perspective interviews are
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  Speaker 1: just not quite working for me. So as much as
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  Speaker 1: we've loved the feedback and the reviews that have come
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  Speaker 1: through that have been extremely kind, I want to be
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  Speaker 1: responsive to you and I want the podcast to be real.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want it to be this exercise in academic
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  Speaker 1: interviewing or something like that. So we're going to make
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  Speaker 1: some really significant changes, and I hope that you love them.
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  Speaker 1: The first thing that you need to know is the
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  Speaker 1: podcast is shifting. It's now going to be Well Fingers Crossed,
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  Speaker 1: a daily podcast, and it's going to go back to
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  Speaker 1: very much being the podcast for the time poor parent
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  Speaker 1: who just once answers, Now ten minutes max. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes we're going to try to make it even shorter.
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  Speaker 1: Today's well, we're going to stretch our way all the
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  Speaker 1: way to ten minutes. But I'll tell you why, because
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  Speaker 1: we're going to have a lot of fun. And the
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  Speaker 1: reason for that is I'm not going to do this
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  Speaker 1: podcast on my own anymore. Instead, I've got a co host.
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  Speaker 1: I want to introduce to you somebody that I think
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  Speaker 1: is going to light up your days every single day
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  Speaker 1: that you listen to this podcast. I think that you're
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  Speaker 1: going to have so much fun listening to her and
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  Speaker 1: her insights. This is a person who I have admired
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  Speaker 1: for decades, and I'm so honored and so excited to
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  Speaker 1: be able to introduce somebody who I simply adore as
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  Speaker 1: my co host of The Happy Families Podcast. Her name
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  Speaker 1: is missus Happy Families. It's Kylie Colson, my wife. She's agreed, Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to the Happy Families Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you very much.
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  Speaker 1: Now now you're in the hot seat. You've never been
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  Speaker 1: in this situation before. I'm the former radio announcer and
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  Speaker 1: the guy that gets up on stage and I want
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  Speaker 1: to ask you a handful of questions about your well,
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  Speaker 1: your role as a mum, and your role in this
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  Speaker 1: podcast without notice.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a little bit scared.
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  Speaker 1: I've got my list in front of me. I think
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  Speaker 1: Kylie's like before we started, she's going, You're gonna show
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  Speaker 1: me the questions, aren't you. I said, no, I want
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  Speaker 1: you to answer them just as anyway. Here we goes. So, Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: you're in the hot seat. Question number one. I think
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  Speaker 1: this is actually the hardest question for you to answer.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to start with the big one. You're ready.
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  Speaker 1: Why did you say yes? Why would you do a
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  Speaker 1: podcast with me?
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  Speaker 2: Like?
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  Speaker 1: Why did you say this would be a good idea?
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  Speaker 2: Well, one of the things that I have loved over
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  Speaker 2: our time together as friends firstly and then husband and
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  Speaker 2: wife is the fact that we just do everything better together.
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  Speaker 2: And so I was really looking forward to having the
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  Speaker 2: opportunity to work alongside you.
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  Speaker 1: My heart just went flid flutter. Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Here here the parenting questions. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: because this is a this is a podcast for parents
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  Speaker 1: about parents and parenting. So this question is a pretty
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  Speaker 1: simple one. I think, how hard is it being married
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  Speaker 1: to a parenting expert?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? In the early days, it was really, really, really
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  Speaker 2: hard because as a mom, or as a young woman
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  Speaker 2: growing up wanting to be a mum, I really thought
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  Speaker 2: like I had a handle on what it was and
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  Speaker 2: what it would take to be a mum.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, and not not just that I'm interrupting you, but
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  Speaker 1: so you've got this biological, innate sense that you know
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  Speaker 1: how to be a mum. But you also had early
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  Speaker 1: childcare qualifications, right, And I was a lousy dad.
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  Speaker 2: Well I wouldn't go that far, but there was room
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  Speaker 2: for him forever.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So how hard is it being married to me?
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  Speaker 1: Why was it? Why was it hard?
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  Speaker 2: Then? Well, as you started to develop and hone in
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  Speaker 2: on your skills and your passion and become a passion
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  Speaker 2: for you to want to be better at being a dad,
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  Speaker 2: that was the most important role, and that flowed into
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  Speaker 2: being the best husband that you could be. And so
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  Speaker 2: it really drove everything that you did. And as you
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  Speaker 2: would come home and you'd see me flustered or upset
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  Speaker 2: or frustrated with the children, and you'd kind of try
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  Speaker 2: to coach me a little bit on what you might
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  Speaker 2: be able to do, like what I might be able
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  Speaker 2: to do better. I used to really get under my
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  Speaker 2: skin because I was like, you're not here. You don't
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  Speaker 2: see what I'm doing all day every day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you're coming home and telling me how
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  Speaker 1: to do this, but you haven't been here for the
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  Speaker 1: last three hours going through help.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So it was really really frustrating in the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: And do I still do that?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: No, I can't believe that you said that.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, but it's something Yeah, in the nearly twenty years
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  Speaker 2: that we've been doing this together parenting.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's more than that. It's twenty one.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying.
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  Speaker 2: I know that first year while you're still incubating was
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  Speaker 2: a very easy start to parenting.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so what have you learned?
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  Speaker 2: I've learned that more times than not, you're right.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, oh, ladies and gentlemen, did you hear that. I
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  Speaker 1: can't believe Oh this, I'm enjoying this podcast a lot. Okay, so,
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  Speaker 1: but that doesn't really So in the early days, it
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  Speaker 1: was hard to be married to me because you didn't
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  Speaker 1: like that I actually did know stuff and you thought
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  Speaker 1: that you were supposed to know it. Now I'm telling
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  Speaker 1: you to do it differently. What's it like now? I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I know that you love me like crazy, We adore
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  Speaker 1: each other, so, but what's it like actually being married
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  Speaker 1: to the guy that writes the books and stands up
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  Speaker 1: on stage and then you know, I'll come home sometimes
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  Speaker 1: and I'm not actually the parenting expert that I say
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  Speaker 1: that I am. Like, I have moments, right.
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  Speaker 2: You do have moments, And I think one of the
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  Speaker 2: great things about the relationship we share is the opportunity
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  Speaker 2: to bounce off each other and for the most part,
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  Speaker 2: when you're having a bad day, I seem to be
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  Speaker 2: able to pull things together and vice versa.
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  Speaker 1: So and I have to pull things together much more often,
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  Speaker 1: let's face it. Yeah, okay, all right, next question for you,
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  Speaker 1: which our kids do you love the most?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? You can't ask me that. Come on, Well, at
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  Speaker 2: least I'm not going to say on.
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  Speaker 1: Right on a podcast. God, okay, all right, Next question,
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  Speaker 1: funniest or favorite memory of any of our kids. Just
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  Speaker 1: a memory that either cracked you up so much or
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  Speaker 1: that you just think such a favorite memory.
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  Speaker 2: My all time favorite would have to be one of
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  Speaker 2: our children. She comes into our bedroom every morning without
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  Speaker 2: fail and wants morning huggies with her hot mama.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So we've got one particular child. We won't
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  Speaker 1: mention which one it is. But from the time she
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  Speaker 1: was a baby, well, one time she got into bed,
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  Speaker 1: in fact, she she did these two things. First of all,
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  Speaker 1: she's got this smell thing going right, so.
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  Speaker 2: She inhales me. She sticks her nose right into the
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  Speaker 2: crook of my neck and she just inhales me.
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  Speaker 1: And she'll always be like, you smell, and she'll tell
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  Speaker 1: us what we smell like. And usually it's good. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you smell beautiful, you smell like this, you smell like that.
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  Speaker 1: Every now and again it's not so good. But most
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  Speaker 1: of the time, oh you. And she's been so attuned
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  Speaker 1: to smells. But this particular day she got into bed
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  Speaker 1: with you and she goes, you're a really hot mamma,
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  Speaker 1: because you it was hot under the blankets and you've
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  Speaker 1: gone you're a hot mum, and she still says it,
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  Speaker 1: this is my hot mamma. I think that's so cool.
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  Speaker 1: I love that all right. My next question for you've
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  Speaker 1: only got a couple to go, because we need to
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  Speaker 1: make sure that this is a podcast for the time
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  Speaker 1: poor parent who just wants answers now, and people want
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  Speaker 1: these answers from you. By the way, what's the trickiest
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  Speaker 1: thing that you think that you faced as.
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  Speaker 2: A mum Learning to let go, let go of who
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  Speaker 2: or let go of what, Learning to recognize that our
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  Speaker 2: children need to have the space to make their decisions
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  Speaker 2: for themselves, whether they would be decisions we would make
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  Speaker 2: for them or not, and giving them the space to
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  Speaker 2: do it and love them in spite of the decisions
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  Speaker 2: they make or because of the decisions they make.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's kind of it's not such a big
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  Speaker 1: deal when they're young. I mean, sometimes it's hard to
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  Speaker 1: let go when they're young. But you're speaking specifically about
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  Speaker 1: as our kids have gotten older and they've started to
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  Speaker 1: live their own lives and they haven't always wanted to
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  Speaker 1: make the kinds of decisions that we've dreamed and hoped
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  Speaker 1: that they would make.
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  Speaker 2: We've ben just wanting to include us. You know, as
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  Speaker 2: our children get older, they want their space and they
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  Speaker 2: want their independence, and there are times where they want
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  Speaker 2: space from us. They actually don't want us so involved
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  Speaker 2: in their lives, and that's been hard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'm really grateful that you shared that. Now
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  Speaker 1: I've got three more questions and we're pretty much out
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  Speaker 1: of time, so we need fire answers. Okay, this one
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  Speaker 1: might actually sort of overlap with the last one, or
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  Speaker 1: you might have a completely different answer. What's the most
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  Speaker 1: challenging thing that we've faced. I think it does overlap
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  Speaker 1: the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's the same.
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  Speaker 1: See, I would give a different answer. I would say
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  Speaker 1: that the most challenging thing that we face is the
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  Speaker 1: day to day grind.
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  Speaker 2: For a split second, when you asked me that question,
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  Speaker 2: I had a vision of being stuck in a hot
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  Speaker 2: car and a car park with a child who wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: put their seat out on regular Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's frustrating. Yeah, Okay, last two questions, what's your
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  Speaker 1: perfect day as a mum?
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  Speaker 2: That would be an early start down at the beach with.
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  Speaker 1: The kids, with the kids, okay, just asking with.
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  Speaker 2: The kids and just watching them explore their surroundings and
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  Speaker 2: you and I walking along the beach holding hands.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well that's a perfect start to the perfect
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  Speaker 1: day as a mom.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't usually get much better.
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  Speaker 1: Than if we even get that far, we've done. Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's face that last question for you. What's your favorite
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  Speaker 1: age to have a child? Like, We've had children from
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  Speaker 1: obviously brand new right through to our our twenty one
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  Speaker 1: year old. Favorite favorite age?
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  Speaker 2: I think that's really really hard.
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  Speaker 1: Because because some of them allows you at a certain age.
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  Speaker 1: I'm great at that same.
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  Speaker 2: Age that I have to admit I have always, obviously
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  Speaker 2: with my early childhood background as well, I've always been
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  Speaker 2: drawn to that kind of preschool, first year of school age,
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  Speaker 2: you know, five six four five six. They're just so
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  Speaker 2: inquisitive and so excited about life and everything that it
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  Speaker 2: has to offer. And I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, our baby's six now and at that age,
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  Speaker 1: and it's pretty adorable. Pretty it's pretty hard to take.
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  Speaker 1: It's that good. You know, I'm really excited that we're
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  Speaker 1: going to do this podcast together. Well, you're not nearly
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  Speaker 1: as excited as I am. I can tell from the
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  Speaker 1: look on your face. Guys, we really hope that you
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed the changes that we're making, and we hope that
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  Speaker 1: you feel like you part of the family. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to interview Kylie this way today, so that
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  Speaker 1: you could just get to know this wonderful woman that
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  Speaker 1: I call my wife. Missus Happy Families Kylie Coulson. She's
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  Speaker 1: going to be co hosting from this point forward and
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  Speaker 1: joining in on the Happy Families podcast. Thank you for listening.
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  Speaker 1: If you enjoy what we do, please go to Apple
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  Speaker 1: that help people to find the podcast and have happier families.
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  Speaker 1: If you'd like more information about how we can help
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  Speaker 1: your family flourish, Happy Families dot com dot a. You
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  Speaker 1: loads of great information there, or find us on our
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