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HIGH SCHOOL REUNIONS WHEN YOU ARE A MIDLIFER · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back.
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  We've nationally acclaimed professional organizer Christine
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  Stone and self-proclaimed Hot Damn Mess radio and TV
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  personality Eden Kendall. Welcome everybody to another
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  episode of Uncluttered and Unfiltered.
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  It's the podcast for women over 50 with me, Eden, and with
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  Christine Stone, professional organizer.
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  How you doing? A good I'm recovering from a
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  long wedding weekend, not my own.
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  Not your own and not not a immediate.
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  Fan over, but a relative. OK, well, we're talking about
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  festivities today. Our subject is actually
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  reunions. Yes, whether it's your high
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  school reunion, 10 years post graduation, a college reunion,
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  whatever. But we're talking about reunions
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  and just the pressure. Oh, the pressure.
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  And do you even go and all these, all of these pieces of
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  it. But let's talk about the
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  wedding, because one thing that happened is you ran into
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  somebody who's a listener of our podcast.
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  A listener of our podcast and went to college with the.
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  Iris a lot, yes. So excited what a small world
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  though I mean I didn't even know you 2 knew each other so you
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  never know you could be anywhere Exactly.
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  So yeah, it was a lot of fun. Of course, you know, comes with
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  weddings is. High heels.
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  High heels, your feet hurt, you know.
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  Spanx all those goodies for you know.
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  It's so funny because we when I came to greet you in when you
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  first arrived to this TV station, we were recording this
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  at my workplace. I had I had my comfy shoes.
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  On. Because if you watch this video,
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  you'll see I have big giant heels on, which is not something
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  I wear all day. I'll wear them on TV for a 30
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  minute time period. If I had to wear these to a
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  wedding, they would be kicked off under the table.
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  Yes. And I didn't realize and, and I
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  guess this is common now at weddings and bar mitzvahs and
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  these kinds of parties where they will give out flip flops or
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  or slippers. For you stances so that when
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  your feet hurt you won't leave. You can just put these on and
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  still go out dancing. Although at my age, you know,
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  you knew some of the songs, but some of the songs I was like,
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  huh, this must mean I'm in the getting old error because I
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  didn't really know some of the music.
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  But yeah, my feet, thank God we were staying at the hotel.
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  So when my feet started throbbing with the high heel,
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  like not platform shoes, I was able to go up and switch,
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  although the shoes did not go with the dress.
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  I didn't care. My feet were in so much pain.
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  Yeah, there's so. You know, you're a couple of
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  cocktails in you're, you're celebrating young love.
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  Right. Oh yeah, young love.
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  The Spanx part you mentioned made me laugh because when my
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  when my husband's cousin got married I disappeared into the
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  ladies room and I took my Spanx off like people do after a
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  couple of hours in those things. And they're expensive so you're
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  not leaving it anywhere. And I didn't have a big enough
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  purse so I hid it behind the sanitary napkin little dispenser
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  thing and came back for it at the end.
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  Of the night, I've never taken my Spanx off, I've taken shoes
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  off. No, I.
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  No one wants me to take those Spanx off.
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  Well, you get to a point where you're like, OK, at least for.
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  Me especially after you eat, they get a little tight and yeah
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  and uncomfortable. A.
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  Little bit tight. So a couple of things that are
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  coming up. We're also going to be doing an
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  episode and this is my little pun I made of procrastination
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  and I said what should we do first?
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  I feel like we should put the procrastination episode off.
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  So we're going to do that next week.
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  So but I do want to speak about the fact that you and I are now
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  connecting telepathically. It's weird, it's weird.
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  I'll go to text you or you'll go to text me.
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  And while we're about to put the 1st letter into the phone, the
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  other person texts 1st. With the same thing exactly.
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  And it was not only the same exact thought, but it was the
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  same exact moment. And if my husband wouldn't have
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  called me into the other room real quick, you'd have won.
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  I would have won. I would have texted first.
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  So it's weird we're starting to both think the same things at
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  the same time. I know.
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  Tell that, say, we'd sync our cycles up and neither of us are.
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  Able to that won't happen. That's not.
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  Happening. OK, so, so let's talk about
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  reunions. I my high school has it's 50
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  year anniversary coming up. It's not a reunion.
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  And I hesitate to say that because it sounds like I'm
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  saying it's the 5050 year reunion, right?
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  Not that that's that far off. I'm not saying it's that far
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  off, but. But your 50th or your 40th?
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  No, I'm saying the 50th. It's not like this one's the
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  50th anniversary, the 40th. Oh, for your 40th, See, I've
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  already been to my 40th, right? Yeah.
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  So reunions are a funny animal because you've got your 10 year
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  class reunion where pretty much everyone shows up or they did
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  before social media. Now with social media, there's
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  not that compulsion to where you want to see everybody because
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  you've lost touch, right? You know that's.
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  True. I didn't think about that in in
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  1990 when we had our 10 year, there was no social media, so it
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  was a big turn out. So I didn't go, but it was a big
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  turn out. And then the 20 year comes
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  along, things are very different.
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  People are now settled down. They've found a lot of them have
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  found their spouses, some are on their You don't think so?
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  That wasn't the case for you. No, but I grew up in Miami.
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  I think honestly, I honestly think it depends where you went
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  to high school because I have friends who, I mean, they could
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  be in different parts of the country and it's not the same as
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  growing up in Miami because Miami in the 80s.
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  I mean, need I say more Miami Vice?
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  You know what I'm? Saying of course.
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  So it was very different for the 20th for for ours.
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  So at your 20th, you would, you didn't.
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  I'm trying to think my 20th was. I married, but no kids yet.
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  I'm trying to remember. That would have been.
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  Yeah. No, I mean, I had.
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  I already had. No, I had one, yeah.
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  Yeah, I was married and had. Right.
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  But that's my point. I felt like at the 20th that's
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  when people have been married and they they're coming back
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  with their families and then the 30th, some of them are, we
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  didn't have a 30th, but I'm assuming some of them are then.
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  Divorced. Went to the 30th too You.
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  Did OK, so 1980 was your graduation year?
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  Yes. What were some of the popular
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  things of that time? Well, I'm glad you asked.
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  OK, The wall from Pink Floyd was the number one record.
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  Another record out. OK.
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  And that was the one everyone would love to sing because you
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  could say we don't need no education.
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  Like I did know the song. I wasn't just, I just wasn't a
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  big Pink Floyd fan. I was still in my display.
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  I. Don't know that I was a Pink
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  Floyd fan so much as I was like like the anarchy of it all at
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  the time. Call Me from Blondie was also
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  number one and Lady from Kenny Rogers, so if that isn't a
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  mixture of #1 music of 1980, I don't know what it's.
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  Funny you say that Lady from Kenny Rogers was your.
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  Song I loved. That song, the number one song
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  because our prom song and I graduated in 84.
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  Our prom song was Through the Years by Kenny.
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  Rogers I love that song too. I was a big Kenny Rogers fan.
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  That's no dumb coal miner's daughter.
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  Friday the 13th, the first one. OK.
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  Star Wars Empire Strikes Back. Another movie you never.
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  Seen another movie I never saw and of course one of my all time
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  favorites, Urban Cowboy. Oh, that was your?
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  Movie. Yeah, that was TV.
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  Was Dallas in The Who shot junior episode?
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  Was in 1980 Dukes of Hazzard ah? Those Duke boys.
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  Magnum Pi OK Jimmy Carter was president and Ronald Reagan was
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  president-elect. Pittsburgh Steelers won the
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  Super Bowl. John Lennon was assassinated in
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  1980. Eddie Murphy started on Saturday
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  Night Live and the launch of MTV as well, which that's important
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  because we didn't have MTV like as music.
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  It started as music and that started everything.
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  Sure, you know, it was a whole new music.
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  It was actually music back then on MTVCNN started.
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  And then in Miami we had drug problems, you know, the cocaine
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  cartel from Columbia. We had the first race riots in
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  1980. And of course I've talked.
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  I don't know if I've talked about this before, but when
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  you're living there and going through it and going in high
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  school, I knew nothing. My mom never said, oh, don't go
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  out there's. Sure.
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  I mean, when you grew up in that day and age, I mean, as long as
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  you just stay like you never were told there's a riot going
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  on in your neighbor like 5 minutes, 10 minutes from your
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  house, don't go. It was like, OK, yes, whatever.
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  There were people shot at the mall for a drug you know we
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  used. To in high school and I
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  shouldn't, you know, it's not like my kids will hear this and
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  they're past the age where I have to worry about it.
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  But we had I DS, you know, even in high school, fake I DS.
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  And we go down to Miami to this bar called Casanovas and this
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  place, looking back, I mean, we had no business going, you know,
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  to these to these places where there was a lot happening that
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  was not for high school kids. And we'd go to all of those
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  places. But you know, the, the getting
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  back to the whole reunion piece of it, what I, what I was
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  getting to with the social media is you really with social media,
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  you can show your best side. So when you're doing that, do
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  you still want to go to the reunion and see everybody face
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  to face when you can pick and choose who you're going to stay
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  connected with much more easily on social media.
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  So I. Actually good question.
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  Yeah, I just wonder, do people still feel the same way about
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  their reunions? We, for example, when I turned
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  50, a group of us from high school did go down to South
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  Florida and all get together. But we were able because of
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  social media to really pick and choose and the people that we
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  really remembered spending time with versus the people that, oh,
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  I was in your class, such and such.
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  And I don't really remember them, but vaguely, I don't know
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  your name. So I don't know if it's
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  different now. Well, for all my reunions except
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  the last one, the 50th, No, the 40th, we there wasn't social
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  media yet. I mean, there there was, but our
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  age group was definitely not using it.
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  So that wasn't an even an issue. And I remember the 40th, they
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  had a photographer there and I don't remember, you know, people
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  took their own group photos. But it wasn't, it wasn't like it
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  is for some reason now I feel cuz maybe cuz there wasn't
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  TikTok back then and there wasn't Snapchat there, you know
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  what I mean? There was only Facebook.
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  And so it was just different. And I think everyone went each
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  year cuz everybody did go. It's because we didn't have
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  social media. I don't know if people would be
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  jumping to go now that they see the same people on all.
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  Social well that's yeah, that's it exactly so so this I've got
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  to tell you this 50th high school anniversary that's coming
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  up in just a few weeks. I'm really on the fence.
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  I've already decided I'm going down to South Florida like that
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  is going to happen. I will be going, will I go to
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  the events? First of all 1 is a food truck
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  family style event on the Friday night.
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  The Saturday is a dinner in the gym and a tour of the school.
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  It's a dry event. No alcohol.
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  Yes, no alcohol because it's in the school, but they said they
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  made it early enough so people could form like their groups and
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  go out afterwards, which I think is really, yeah, that's good.
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  And they said they'll be seating people with their classes pretty
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  much because it is an all classes reunion.
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  So they'll try to put you with people from your era so you can
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  talk and chat and maybe take a place for everyone to meet up
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  afterwards. So I'm on the fence as to which
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  portions of those I will attend. I'm kind of curious to walk
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  through the halls of the high school.
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  I think that would be really interesting to do.
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  Have you been back to your high school?
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  Oh yeah, I've been back many times.
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  OK, but it's when I go to South Florida.
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  My in laws live right near my high school so it's so easy to
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  drive by. And one reunion, we went inside
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  and we looked around and saw how different we didn't have air
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  conditioning back then in, in Miami.
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  Now they have air conditioning. So no, no air conditioning.
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  Yeah, none, none, No air unless you got one of the the trailers
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  that were extra outside that had the portables.
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  So now they have air conditioning in the whole
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  school. So that was that was nice for
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  these new kids. I can't even imagine sitting
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  there sweating. I remember going to PE class,
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  physical education class, and then having math after that and
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  I'd still be sweating. Oh, it was brutal.
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  It was brutal. But I but we we had.
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  A Oh no, we did. Definitely did not.
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  And I mean, it was hot, especially when you got in the
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  beginning of school and at the end of school it was sweltering
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  hot. And they'd open the windows like
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  that helped, but it didn't. But.
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  Opening the window, Yeah. Like that really helped.
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  May late, May early. Talk about timing.
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  June. I can't even imagine.
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  But that brings me an interesting question.
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  When you said family night, I never have brought my husband to
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  one of these events. You're not even one.
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  Number one, he did not want to go.
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  But #2 I don't think you can have as much fun because you're
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  making sure they're happy. I agree with.
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  That and when you get to a high school reunion, everybody, in my
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  opinion, assumes their role from when they were in high school.
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  I don't care how old you are, the popular girls pretend
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  they're still popular. You know what I mean?
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  Like you, you can't avoid that. It's happened with every single
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  reunion I've been to. With I'm going to give you an
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  exception to that rule that happened at mine and that is one
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  of my friends, Kim was. First of all, I have to tell you
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  I did enjoy my husband attending with me because I used to tell
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  him about all the girl fights at my school.
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  We had a lot of. Oh, really?
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  Girl fights, hair, people pulling it out.
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  Wow. Oh yeah, like fist fights, girls
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  would fight all the time at my high school and.
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  Oh yeah. And I kind of like it was
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  affirming to have him come back and hear the stories.
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  And so one of my and Kim actually approached another lady
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  at the reunion and said, I want to apologize.
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  She's like, I remember pushing you against a locker and
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  threatening you. And yes, and I want to
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  apologize. This woman has went on to be a
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  guidance counselor. I'm talking about the pusher,
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  not the pushy. She went on to be a guidance
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  counselor at a local private school here in town where we
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  live now. And she helps teens.
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  She she really has turned over a new leaf.
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  But she was apologizing. So there are, I think, some
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  things like that that go down at a reunion.
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  But for the most part, I agree with you.
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  It is definitely a step back in time and the roles, the
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  hierarchy. Happened.
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  It just happens. And then one funny thing from
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  our 20th Not funny. Ha ha, funny.
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  Strange we were because they still did the old school
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  slideshow, you know, back at the 20th.
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  So they were getting ready to do the slideshow and then all of a
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  sudden there was this commotion going on and everyone's like,
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  what's going on? What's going on in the ballroom
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  of the hotel? Someone from high school or that
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  went to our high school, I don't know if it wasn't from the same
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  year, knew we were having a reunion and had a bone to pick
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  from all those years ago from 20 and showed up in a threatening
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  manner to the person they were picking the bone with.
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  And they were threatening the person.
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  And we were all like, Oh my God, thank God.
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  There was a police officer that was from our reunion drama.
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  We had a drama, a drama. So that was like everyone was.
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  And then they were like OK, slide Showtime and we're like
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  OK, someone just. Came in here and like threatened
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  people and was angry from 20 years ago.
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  I don't know if I can watch the slideshow.
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  Yeah, that's an anticlimactic. Moment exactly.
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  So 20 years was very bizarre. That is at ours.
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  I think. I remember watching that
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  slideshow and thinking to myself, wow, you know who had
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  the most fun in high school? The band kids.
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  As I was watching these these slideshows, I was thinking to
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  myself, wow, I didn't know that this group because people had
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  submitted their photos and I was like, this group was having a
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  ton of fun and we didn't even know, you know, they were just
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  lots of pictures of them, like hanging out, partying and just,
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  it just seemed like they were having a blast in high school
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  and I never even knew that. Well, I think the 20th is at
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  least for that, because like I said, we didn't have social
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  media then. I think the 20th was very funny
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  because you see how people changed from how from their past
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  experiences living in Miami, like a lot of people had just
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  gotten out of rehab, you know, they, it was a different time.
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  Oh yeah. It changes so much 10 to 20 to
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  30, right? And like I said, we didn't have
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  a 30th. We had the thing where a bunch
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  of us kind of in between 30th and 40th, we all got together
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  and, and did something just just a bunch of us.
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  But yeah, it's interesting. It's let me ask you this
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  question because I thought about posting this on our group page,
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  the uncluttered and unfiltered ladies only page.
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  And then I rethought it because I don't know that anyone would
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  answer it honestly. And there was always somebody
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  who wants to say I'm not shallow like that, so I wouldn't do
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  anything different. But I and I respect that.
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  But would you answer this honestly?
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  You just found out that in three weeks you're having a high
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  school reunion. What is the first thing you're
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  going to do right now? I only have three weeks.
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  You have three weeks. What are you going?
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  To do, I may debate on not going if I only had three weeks.
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  Oh, I have. To go, let's think of some
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  reason you have to go. You have to go because somebody
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  you haven't seen in many, many years that you just so they're
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  out of the country and they're going to be in the country.
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  So you really have to go. Well, are.
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  You booking Botox appointment? I couldn't get a facelift in
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  three weeks, right? So that would be out OK, Three
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  weeks got three weeks. Spray tan some appointments.
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  Well, of course a spray tan, that's a given.
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  I would try to do a rushed Botox appointment, although I just two
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  weeks, although I just don't think that would be enough in
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  three weeks. Make sure.
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  The hair, you know, make sure your hair is cut and colored and
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  highlighted. But I just feel like, I almost
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  feel like with only three weeks, I might just say, forget it.
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  You're getting what you're getting.
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  Which is the right answer? Of course that is the right
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  answer, but it's not my answer. I mean, my answer is all the
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  things you just said, like being a tizzy, only that's an
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  insecurity thing. I get it, I get it.
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  But the last thing I want to do is like walk into that place and
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  feel that old high school insecurity.
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  I want to feel polished. I want to feel good about
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  myself. What was funny was I went to my
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  30th and my 40th and the 30th. I felt like the men looked
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  better, like the men looked amazing.
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  But then the 40th, the women started to look really amazing.
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  Whether they had work done, I don't know, I didn't ask.
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  But the 40th, the women looked better, I felt than the men.
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  And it, you know, it, it's weird how that changes and how people
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  like by the 40th, a lot of people were on their second and
• 23:59
  third marriages. Every reunion had weird, odd
• 24:04
  things about yeah. Let me ask you this question
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  that since you're from South Florida like I am and this isn't
• 24:10
  to exclude anybody else. Every every state, every country
• 24:14
  has something different. But when I went back, there were
• 24:17
  a lot of very wealthy men who profited over hurricanes.
• 24:22
  There were a bunch of roofers. Yeah, there were a lot of guys
• 24:25
  who now were contractors and roofers and they all cashed in
• 24:28
  because it was the late 80s, mid to late 80s, and there were some
• 24:31
  big hurricanes in South Florida. After that, right, Andrew?
• 24:35
  Yeah. And so they they had become very
• 24:39
  successful. Now I'm trying to think, no, I
• 24:42
  didn't get any. I I didn't even ask and I don't
• 24:45
  think anyone asked like us girls about jobs or anything.
• 24:50
  It was when I tell you people go back to their roles, they go
• 24:53
  back to their roles. I mean, the popular girls, even
• 24:58
  if they didn't look good, they they wanted to be, they were
• 25:03
  still, they were still the queen bees, which is funny because I
• 25:06
  always say the ones that are cheerleaders and the homecoming
• 25:09
  queen, I think they peaked early.
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  You know what I mean? Like, I think that that that's
• 25:15
  their glory days. Well, in some cases.
• 25:18
  In some cases, in some cases it's true.
• 25:22
  And so it was just interesting to see now.
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  So which one were you? What were you?
• 25:27
  You know, I was kind of the middle of the road.
• 25:31
  I same with. Me, I was like friends out like
• 25:33
  the outlier to every single. Yeah, I, I was kind of anyone
• 25:37
  that was friendly with me, I kind of would be friendly with
• 25:39
  them. I mean, I was friends with
• 25:42
  popular girls and then I was friends with people that weren't
• 25:45
  popular. But I loved my reunion because I
• 25:48
  went to every single reunion with my best friends in 7th
• 25:52
  grade, Valerie. And so we would always go
• 25:55
  together and make it a girls weekend.
• 25:59
  And it was just so fun because we went to high school together.
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  We did everything together so we could relate.
• 26:05
  That's a great experience. It's a great how people change a
• 26:09
  lot of people also by the four 40th passed away from illnesses
• 26:16
  from whatever that they had passed away.
• 26:19
  So I we're debating on the 50th that's in.
• 26:22
  Five years high school memorial Facebook page We.
• 26:25
  Want. Yes, we do.
• 26:26
  It's brutal. It's brutal.
• 26:29
  It's sad. Yeah.
• 26:30
  And so my 40th, it was a week before Covic hit and the
• 26:36
  shutdown. So we went to the reunion.
• 26:39
  Had I known, by the way, I think I would have really partied a
• 26:42
  lot more because we kind of were very tame.
• 26:46
  Yeah, but we went and the girl that was running everything, you
• 26:52
  know, you're the president of your class plans to read.
• 26:55
  She was so sick and coughing. And we were like, oh, what a
• 26:59
  bummer because she's so fun and so funny.
• 27:02
  And we're like, what a bummer because she couldn't really do
• 27:04
  anything. And then we get back and a week
• 27:07
  later, it's a shutdown and it's COVID.
• 27:10
  And we're like, Oh my God, she had COVID.
• 27:13
  And then we were all scared we were going to get COVID because
• 27:15
  we knew she had COVID. So every reunion had its little
• 27:19
  bit of drama on what what had happened.
• 27:23
  I love that you use the word bummer too, because that's so of
• 27:26
  the times. You know.
• 27:27
  It is summer, man, what a bummer.
• 27:29
  Yep. So is there anything else you
• 27:31
  want to add to our conversation about reunions?
• 27:34
  I think you family. Reunions is a whole.
• 27:36
  Other that's a whole different thing.
• 27:38
  I have to say one thing about college reunions.
• 27:40
  When I graduated, I did go back like to the five year, the
• 27:45
  tenure with my sorority sisters. We'd all meet, make it like a
• 27:48
  girls weekend. So fun.
• 27:51
  But then with college as the years went by, some people
• 27:56
  bailed and they didn't want to go and it just, you know, and so
• 28:00
  the and then COVID hit and everyone stopped traveling.
• 28:04
  So that one has not been as big as a deal to me as high school.
• 28:10
  And so although I had, you know, you have your sorority sisters
• 28:13
  or whatever, you it's different, it's not the same as high
• 28:17
  school. And I think if you're on the
• 28:20
  fence about going, I would go to a high school reunion.
• 28:24
  I think I probably will attend one or the plus because it's all
• 28:27
  classes my sister and I can go to.
• 28:29
  Go so that. Yeah, so we're, but she's the
• 28:32
  same as I am. She's like, I don't know.
• 28:35
  I would definitely go. I think it's funny and it's and
• 28:38
  it really is like belly laughing, like where you laugh
• 28:42
  so hard that your stomach hurts. Or OK, you've talked me.
• 28:46
  And yeah, I just think that you see things that you're like,
• 28:50
  wow, you know, just that shock you, you know, or amaze you or
• 28:56
  wow, so and so looks amazing. Who was her?
• 28:59
  You know what I mean? Who was her?
• 29:01
  I mean, you know it just. Being a good queen.
• 29:03
  Living. I, I, I think now I don't think
• 29:06
  I'll go to my 50th now I could change my mind, but I don't,
• 29:10
  it's not for five more years. So I have 5 more years to
• 29:13
  decide. I may though, but I thought I
• 29:15
  was done after the 40th. I'm like.
• 29:18
  They just didn't do a 40th for us.
• 29:19
  It would have been last year, but yeah, this will count.
• 29:22
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• 29:24
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