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Does Being Pregnant Slow Down Your Career? · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: It's topic time.
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  Speaker 2: Eight hundred five five one five one to join into
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  Speaker 2: the discussion with the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 3: Morning everybody, It's DJ Envy, Charlomagne, the God we are
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  Speaker 3: the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 1: Jess Hilarious is here, Charlomagne is out.
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  Speaker 3: Now if you just joined us, we were talking about
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  Speaker 3: eight hundred five eight five one oh five to one.
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  Speaker 3: Ray in an interview yesterday with Ticket Easter Ray was
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  Speaker 3: talking about one of her biggest fears is to get pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: She said, I have a fear of getting pregnant. I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to be slowed down. And I'm talking about
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  Speaker 3: in her career. So that is the question. Eight hundred
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  Speaker 3: five eight five one oh five to one. We're asking ladies,
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  Speaker 3: do you feel like if you become pregnant it slows
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  Speaker 3: you down? Is that your biggest fear when it comes
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  Speaker 3: to your career and life? That is the question eight
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  Speaker 3: hundred five eight five one oh five one. Let's listen
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  Speaker 3: to Easter Ray first.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's always been a been a thing for me, Like,
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  Speaker 4: I just have a fear. Maybe this will changed my
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  Speaker 4: mind playing this role, but I'm just like I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to I don't want to be slowed down.
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  Speaker 1: For any reason.
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  Speaker 4: And my friends are like, girl, it's not gonna slow
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  Speaker 4: you down, It's fine, But I don't believe them.
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  Speaker 1: Now let's start with you. Just yes, what are your thoughts.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think that it slows you. I don't think
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  Speaker 5: it has to slow you down. I think like times
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  Speaker 5: are different now I don't And I can't even speak
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  Speaker 5: for everybody because I know when I was pregnant, I
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  Speaker 5: got pregnant at a young age, and I got pregnant
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  Speaker 5: when I was nineteen.
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  Speaker 6: I had my son when I was twenty.
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  Speaker 5: It didn't slow me now, but I also didn't know
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  Speaker 5: what I what I wanted to do yet, you know,
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  Speaker 5: I was still like working like dead end jobs, you
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  Speaker 5: know what I mean, McDonald's overnight and I couldn't even
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  Speaker 5: keep a job at nineteen, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: So when I but when I realized I wanted to
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  Speaker 5: step into a career, and that was this you know,
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  Speaker 5: he was like two, and it just still didn't slow
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  Speaker 5: me down. I want to have actually more children now,
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  Speaker 5: I would if I was already you know, married and everything.
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  Speaker 6: But I don't think it has to slow you down.
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  Speaker 1: Let me ask your question.
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  Speaker 3: If you were pregnant now, do you feel like it
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  Speaker 3: would slow you down? Because you know, right now, Jess
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  Speaker 3: is doing everything right. You're doing concerts, you're doing you know,
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  Speaker 3: you're on the road, you have TV, you're doing the
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  Speaker 3: breakfast club, You're doing so much. Do you feel like
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  Speaker 3: if you're pregnant now that that would slow you down?
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  Speaker 5: I often think about that and I really do not
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  Speaker 5: think so. I have a big, huge support system, both
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  Speaker 5: of my parents. Even with my son now his dad
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  Speaker 5: is in his life, and then I have a huge family.
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  Speaker 5: My little sister she acts as a nanny for me sometimes. No,
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  Speaker 5: I just it depends on like the support and I
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  Speaker 5: have a huge support system and a great foundation.
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  Speaker 6: So I don't think it'll slow me down now.
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  Speaker 3: Tesla Figurero, she's still with us now you have a
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  Speaker 3: young daughter as well. So do you feel like being
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  Speaker 3: or being pregnant? Do you feel like it slows you down?
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  Speaker 3: And if you're pregnant now, do you feel like it
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  Speaker 3: would slow down what you're doing now?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah?
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  Speaker 8: Absolutely, And thank you for let me sit in on
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  Speaker 8: this because I think it's important people here too different
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  Speaker 8: perspectives from women and just hit it right on the nail.
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  Speaker 8: It really does come down to your support system. Now,
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  Speaker 8: for me, I got married and we didn't have our
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  Speaker 8: first child. I have won until we were married for
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  Speaker 8: seven years, so I didn't have a.
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  Speaker 6: Child young and even still being married.
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  Speaker 8: When you are married, your husband and your children really
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  Speaker 8: do come before you. So that means that you're making
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  Speaker 8: an adjustment. His career move, so I had to move,
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  Speaker 8: which means I had to stop school. I had to
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  Speaker 8: pick it back up online. I mean, it is an adjustment,
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  Speaker 8: and I want you know, to be very clear with
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  Speaker 8: women that although you know, you may think your family
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  Speaker 8: may be supportive, or you may think you have the support,
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  Speaker 8: you don't know if you'll have to move. I've had
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  Speaker 8: to move in five different cities. I've moved over ten times.
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  Speaker 8: Both my parents are in the ground, you know, so
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  Speaker 8: I've lost both my parents and even then they wouldn't
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  Speaker 8: have been in the city to help me anyway.
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  Speaker 6: So I'm an only child. I don't have brothers and sisters.
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  Speaker 8: There was not you know, this large family that's just
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  Speaker 8: gonna come by and you know, and help.
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  Speaker 6: But I was still highly successful.
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  Speaker 8: I ran my own business in Orlando called the Ally Group.
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  Speaker 8: I had three hundred employees, you know, I won Orlando
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  Speaker 8: Business Journal twice, so you can still be successful, but
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  Speaker 8: it is an adjustment. It took me longer to finish
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  Speaker 8: my degree. I got two degrees, but it still took
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  Speaker 8: me longer. There was an adjustment. I had to slow down.
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  Speaker 8: And to be clear, my ex husband's my ex husband
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  Speaker 8: now he is very much involved, you know, in my
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  Speaker 8: child's life from an emotional, physically financial, So there's no
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  Speaker 8: dad beat dad. You know, this is a co parent situation,
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  Speaker 8: similar to Jess. But even still it slowed down. Some
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  Speaker 8: of the things I wanted to do still got it done,
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  Speaker 8: but it did take a little bit longer.
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  Speaker 3: I would say that, you know, part of me is
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  Speaker 3: being a little guilty to feeling like my career took
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  Speaker 3: off and I didn't allow my.
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  Speaker 1: Wife's career to take off.
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  Speaker 8: Right.
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  Speaker 3: So my wife is, you know, a major in communications,
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  Speaker 3: and she had aspirations for doing so many different things.
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  Speaker 3: But you know, we had our We had Madison early,
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  Speaker 3: and being from New York, I couldn't afford to living
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  Speaker 3: in New York because it was too expensive, so I
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  Speaker 3: had to drive an hour out the way in Jersey,
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  Speaker 3: which put us in a place in the suburbs where
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  Speaker 3: she knew nobody. There was no way for her to
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  Speaker 3: get to work, and there was no way for her
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  Speaker 3: to get to the city and then get back to
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  Speaker 3: pick up our child. And she wanted to raise as
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  Speaker 3: a child. So it wasn't no nanny, so it wasn't
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  Speaker 3: a babysitter because we didn't have any family out there.
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  Speaker 3: So because you know, we did that, she had to
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  Speaker 3: sacrifice her career to raise our family, which has always
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  Speaker 3: been something that I always you know, felt funny from
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  Speaker 3: because it's like, you know, she allowed me to help
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  Speaker 3: me get my career and I never did the same
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  Speaker 3: for her because she had the family.
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  Speaker 1: So I think it did. I think it did slow
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  Speaker 1: her her career down.
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  Speaker 5: Does damn you envy what you just just let loose
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  Speaker 5: all with dingling all early and you just pursuing your
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  Speaker 5: life and you didn't even say, hey, baby, you want to.
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  Speaker 1: Go back to school.
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  Speaker 6: You just say no, baby, want to keep having these kids.
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  Speaker 3: But let's open up the phone lines eight hundred five
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  Speaker 3: eight five one oh five one. The question is, ladies,
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  Speaker 3: do you feel like being pregnant slows your career down?
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  Speaker 3: Or did it slow your career down? Or maybe it didn't.
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  Speaker 3: Let's talk about it when we come back. It's the
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  Speaker 3: Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, it's topic time.
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  Speaker 2: Called eight hundred and five eight five five one to
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  Speaker 2: join it to the discussion with the break was Glow
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  Speaker 2: talk about it morning.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody's dj NV Charlomagne the god we are the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 1: Charlomagne is out. Just hilarious is he?
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  Speaker 3: And if you just join us. We've been talking about
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  Speaker 3: women being pregnant? Does that slow your career down?
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  Speaker 9: Now?
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  Speaker 3: This came from Eastern Ray. She was interviewing with Tiger
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  Speaker 3: and this is what she said.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's always been a been a thing for me, Like,
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  Speaker 4: I just have a fear. Maybe this will changed my
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  Speaker 4: mind playing this role, but I'm just like I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to. I don't want to be slowed down for
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  Speaker 4: any reason. And my friends are like, girl, it's not
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  Speaker 4: gonna slow you down, it's fine, but I don't believe them.
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  Speaker 3: All Right, So we're asking eight hundred and five eight
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  Speaker 3: five one oh five one does pregnancy slow you down?
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  Speaker 3: Has it slowed you down? Let's go to the phone lines. Daisy,
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  Speaker 3: good morning.
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  Speaker 10: Morning, How are you dying?
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  Speaker 3: Are you?
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  Speaker 9: So?
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  Speaker 10: I just wanted to tell you guys that I just
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  Speaker 10: had a baby a year ago.
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  Speaker 7: He fout from one July every first.
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  Speaker 10: And I just graduated with my AA and Business administration,
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  Speaker 10: and I'm going back for my bachelor's degree in business
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  Speaker 10: as well. And I'm a full time social media influencer.
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  Speaker 7: And I just want to say, like.
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  Speaker 10: How about baby does not show you down whatsoever. It's
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  Speaker 10: just how motivated you are and how determined you are.
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  Speaker 10: That's what's gonna push you. A baby does not stop nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Agree with you? Hello? Who's this?
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  Speaker 9: This is Dre. How you doing, Hey, Dre? Good morning,
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  Speaker 9: good morning, good morning.
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  Speaker 1: Has the pregnancy slowed you down?
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  Speaker 9: Dre? No, it has h you know, I feel like
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  Speaker 9: it would slow my girlfriend thought, but not too much.
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  Speaker 9: She's actually a model in the fashion designer, so she
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  Speaker 9: would just get pregnant then, you know, she wouldn't be
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  Speaker 9: able to do as much as those things. No disrespect.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to it from you. Uh you know,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want it from the women.
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  Speaker 9: Oh I feel really, I ain't.
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  Speaker 6: Gonna answer the question like, yeah, I mean I feel
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  Speaker 6: like it has slow my girlfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Hello. Hello, Hey, what's your name?
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  Speaker 7: Her name is Angie? Good morning, morning Angie.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about pregnancy.
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  Speaker 3: Do you feel like it would slow you down or
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  Speaker 3: are you nervous about it?
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  Speaker 9: No?
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  Speaker 10: Okay, So this is a funny topic because I just came.
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  Speaker 7: Home from floridam originally from Miami. Day returned five and
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  Speaker 7: we went to Orlando though with my family, okay, and
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  Speaker 7: they were just pressuring me to have a kid. They
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  Speaker 7: weren't my son to have a sibling. I'm the oldest
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  Speaker 7: of four I'm the oldest of fourteen grandchildren. I don't
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  Speaker 7: want the more damn kids.
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  Speaker 6: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Why why are you scared of to slow you down more?
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  Speaker 5: Or did your first one slow you down?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah?
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  Speaker 9: Do that.
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  Speaker 7: I just don't have patience. But I feel like I
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  Speaker 7: feel like I will get slowed down because I'm kind
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  Speaker 7: of driven and I wanted to.
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  Speaker 9: Get to where I want to get.
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  Speaker 7: So multiple kids, I don't know how even Enz has
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  Speaker 7: so many children. That's a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I have six.
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  Speaker 3: But you know the thing about my six is they're
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  Speaker 3: all over the gain and like I got a twenty
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  Speaker 3: one year old in nineteen or pretty much self sufficient.
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  Speaker 3: They don't need me, you know. Every once in a while, Dad,
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  Speaker 3: can you throw some money in my account? Or Dad,
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  Speaker 3: I need this, and I do have a ten, a
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  Speaker 3: nine or six, and an eighteen month old, which requires
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  Speaker 3: a lot. And I will say it did slow my
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  Speaker 3: wife down. It did slow her career down because there's
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  Speaker 3: certain things that she cannot do.
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  Speaker 1: You know, she has to get up in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: take those kids. She has to pick them up.
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  Speaker 3: And my kids were in all types of activities and
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  Speaker 3: she has to get around and get them and you know,
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  Speaker 3: I help as much as possible, and we do have
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  Speaker 3: some help.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, it definitely slowed her career down of what
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  Speaker 1: she wanted to do. I'm not you know, I can't
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  Speaker 1: even sit in life.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I lived with mans. I take a little distance,
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  Speaker 7: you know, it's just my mom mom all the time.
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  Speaker 7: And I don't know. Even with my mom, I gotta
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  Speaker 7: stay from you take come back. I can't do another one.
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  Speaker 7: Didn't they want me to have a girl. It's just
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  Speaker 7: not happening.
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  Speaker 6: I feel you.
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  Speaker 1: Hello. Who's this Hi?
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  Speaker 7: I mean it's Katy.
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  Speaker 10: I'm from Orlando, born in rains Hey.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, now you talking about being pregnant and slowing you down.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about it.
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  Speaker 10: Well, my sister, she's three years old. She lives alone,
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  Speaker 10: you know, to dogs, cat, tarantulas, and she actually says
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  Speaker 10: to Florida there and she got the two oligation you know,
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  Speaker 10: Bernie and two just to prevent herself from getting pregnant
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  Speaker 10: or Bue forced to carry her pregnancy in Florida.
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  Speaker 3: So she was so scared to get pregnant, and with
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  Speaker 3: the pregnancy with the abortion bands, she got a two bligation.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I see, Jesus Christ.
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  Speaker 3: She definitely don't want to get pregnant, and she nervous
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  Speaker 3: and being pregnant because she feels like it's a slow
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  Speaker 3: her career down or something like that.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah, she's twenty three. She lives alone, she has her
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  Speaker 10: own apartment, home places, don't depend on nobody but herself.
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  Speaker 7: She's twenty three, started going on, if she worked.
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  Speaker 10: To get pregnant, she wouldn't be able to keep her animals.
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  Speaker 10: But as it is, but it would told me up
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  Speaker 10: front and change her life.
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  Speaker 6: Twenty three A two obligation.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it's twenty three or two bligation.
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  Speaker 5: I thought you had to be able to have a
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  Speaker 5: certain amount of kids to even do that. I don't
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  Speaker 5: think that you have you can, And then went three,
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  Speaker 5: you got to be a certain age to do that too.
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  Speaker 6: And now how does she know she gonna fall her
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  Speaker 6: way at thirty three.
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  Speaker 3: Well, she got two dogs, two cats, a tarantula, a spider,
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  Speaker 3: and I.
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  Speaker 6: Not to do it. So she's straight.
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  Speaker 1: She's straight. Now, let me ask you a question, Jess,
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to being pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: Let's say, you know, I guess you would have to
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  Speaker 3: feel a way too, because let's say you're shooting a movie,
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  Speaker 3: right and you become pregnant during the movie, and the
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  Speaker 3: character is not pregnant, so I guess you have to
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  Speaker 3: hide that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm guess you would kind of be nervous.
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  Speaker 3: You know, if you are a woman and those situations happen,
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  Speaker 3: or if you're on a sitcom, or if you're on
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  Speaker 3: a series, or if you're doing something where you know
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  Speaker 3: you have to play a character right and then you
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  Speaker 3: become pregnant, you know.
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  Speaker 1: How does that work? Because you know, what do you
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  Speaker 1: do for shooting now?
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  Speaker 5: And nowadays it's different. Nowadays, it's like it would be considered.
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  Speaker 5: They're so scared of like discrimination, Like, oh, they put
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  Speaker 5: me on because I was pregnant. So what they would
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  Speaker 5: do is, if it's an ongoing show, they will write
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  Speaker 5: it in they will write it in some type of
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  Speaker 5: way and then It depends on the type of show
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  Speaker 5: it is. They would either have to put put it
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  Speaker 5: on hold until after you had a baby, or rush
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  Speaker 5: and shoot it before you start showing. It just depends.
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  Speaker 5: It depends on a bunch of different variables nowadays. Back
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  Speaker 5: then it was like uh uh, But now people embrace
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  Speaker 5: all types of like you know, maternity shoots and I mean,
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  Speaker 5: you know, but that, Yeah, paternity is different maternity like
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  Speaker 5: roles and stuff like that. And I can still do
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  Speaker 5: stand up, I can still come in, Yeah, I can
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  Speaker 5: still you know, it is not as limited as it.
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  Speaker 6: Used to be.
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  Speaker 3: Right, So all right, well, all right, you got a
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  Speaker 3: final thought, a.
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  Speaker 5: Final thought, just don't get pregnant if you don't have
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  Speaker 5: no support, but get pregnant if you have support.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think the whole thing is a support system.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, and having family around it definitely helps women
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  Speaker 3: who have to take on being pregnant by their self.
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  Speaker 3: I know, it's a lot on them because there is
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  Speaker 3: nobody to help. There is nobody to give.
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  Speaker 1: Them the break. Because sometimes as a parent, you just
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  Speaker 1: need a break.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you get your kids bothering shot of you or
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  Speaker 3: babies crying, and you just need that little give me,
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  Speaker 3: my little ten fifteen minutes or my hour or my day,
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  Speaker 3: just to breathe a little.
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  Speaker 6: Bit, because it could send you mentally insane. Just as
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  Speaker 6: a parent like you use it said.
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  Speaker 5: For a first time parent who has to do it
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  Speaker 5: by themselves, it is definitely hard. So I just do
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  Speaker 5: as best for you, and you know, if you have
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  Speaker 5: support and you're not scared, jump out there, but.
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  Speaker 6: Do what's best for you.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, we got roomors coming up. What were
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  Speaker 1: we talking about?
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  Speaker 7: Uh?
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  Speaker 5: Ray J took his kids to school for the first
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  Speaker 5: time in June. Yeah, I said, well, damn school, they
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  Speaker 5: go to Jesus.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, all right, we'll get to it next. It's the
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  Speaker 3: Breakfast Club. Good boarding, Good morning,