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George St-Pierre Exposes the Silent Dream-Killer Lurking in Your Life · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I know confidence is very important because you could have
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  Speaker 1: all the skills and what you want if you have
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  Speaker 1: the skills, but you do not have the confidence. I
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  Speaker 1: believe it's like someone who have a lot of money
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  Speaker 1: in his bank account but no way of accessing it
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  Speaker 1: for the magic to happen.
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  Speaker 2: I think you need the skills and the confidence.
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  Speaker 1: You go ask a girl on a day, then you
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  Speaker 1: go nothing with no confidence.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, would you please? I mean, if you wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: mind come.
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  Speaker 1: To the movie it's a very attractive or or you
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  Speaker 1: goes for a job interview you go like this shake
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  Speaker 1: like yeah, I would work really hard, like like the
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  Speaker 1: guys like yeah, I don't want to get that. It's
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  Speaker 1: ay same thing like you go, when you do something,
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  Speaker 1: you go you need to come out one hundred percent
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  Speaker 1: or don't come out at all. When I do something
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  Speaker 1: in life, I go one hundred ten percent. I win,
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  Speaker 1: I went big, I lose. I lose big. But I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna go and lose and tell myself after, Oh
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  Speaker 1: I wish I would have because I've done a lot
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  Speaker 1: of stupid things in my life and I but there's
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  Speaker 1: things that I it's hard to live with. Is regret,
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  Speaker 1: and for me regret as that were, so I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to have regret.
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  Speaker 2: I always doubt myself before every fight.
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  Speaker 1: The only fight that I didn't not doubt myself was
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  Speaker 1: when I thought Matt Sarah the first time and I
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  Speaker 1: got knocked out.
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  Speaker 2: Nowhere, I swear that's the only fight.
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  Speaker 1: And I got humiliated, and I've learned from that mistake
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  Speaker 1: because it taught me that I should never understand me anybody.
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  Speaker 2: It was a terrible experience for me, but I think
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  Speaker 2: it made me a better fighter.
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  Speaker 1: I tap out like a cowur, and I got blame
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  Speaker 1: a lot because he said, oh, he's a quittory tap out.
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  Speaker 2: And now I'm older. When I look back at things,
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  Speaker 2: it's it's a thing that I've done. I don't regret.
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  Speaker 1: I regret it and when it happened a few weeks
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  Speaker 1: months after, because I saw it like a coward move.
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  Speaker 1: But now it's a sport. We're not in a war
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  Speaker 1: like a soldier, and I tapped out. Maybe if I
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  Speaker 1: would not have tapped out, I would get break damage.
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  Speaker 1: I would never have come back. So I saved myself
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  Speaker 1: for another day. So there's no shame. And now I'm
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  Speaker 1: proud to say it in front of everybody.
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  Speaker 2: That's correct.
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  Speaker 1: But I wasn't proud of myself. I was remliated because
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  Speaker 1: I tapped out on strike. That's why I was amliated.
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  Speaker 1: I was not necessarily immediate because I lost. So it
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  Speaker 1: makes people wonders, Oh, he's a coward, he's a quitter.
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  Speaker 2: And so I had a lot of anger. I felt
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  Speaker 2: like I needed to come back, and I add a
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  Speaker 2: lot of things to prove.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember I used to carry that in deside,
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  Speaker 1: and I wanted to get my revenge.
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  Speaker 2: As fast as possible.
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  Speaker 1: And I saw a sport psychologist and he says to
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  Speaker 1: me and says, you're not focusing on the right thing.
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  Speaker 1: You're you're focusing always on what happened in the past,
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  Speaker 1: in the past.
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  Speaker 2: You need to live in the present moment, not live
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  Speaker 2: in the future, live in the present.
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  Speaker 1: So he made me carry a brick and make me
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  Speaker 1: wrote a name Sarah Matt Sarah on it, and I
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  Speaker 1: carry that brick every day in my gym back brick
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  Speaker 1: with a chuck I wrote, I wrote Sarah on it.
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  Speaker 1: And I carry that brick every day every training and
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  Speaker 1: I carry it, carry it until the time I got
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  Speaker 1: tired of carrying it and I told him was a man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm tired of that, you know, he says, I'm coming
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  Speaker 1: to see you. I took the brick. I went near
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  Speaker 1: the Seagra River. I know it sounds crazy, and I
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  Speaker 1: threw it on the river and I feel deliver I
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  Speaker 1: felt like, man. I know it sounds crazy to many people,
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  Speaker 1: but because they cannot relate, but I feel great because
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  Speaker 1: by this physical gesture and emotion just manifest and it's
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  Speaker 1: an emotion of delivering me like I didn't have. Like
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  Speaker 1: you know, sometime you have stressed, you're all stuck, you
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  Speaker 1: write the same thing release by throwing the brick and
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  Speaker 1: the whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I know it sounds crazy, but it.
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  Speaker 1: Play a big role into the growth of my career.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the kind of guy that when I get ready
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  Speaker 1: for a fight, the idea of fighting the person, the
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  Speaker 1: scenarios hunt my mind, and sometime before a fight, it
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  Speaker 1: hunts you so much that when you eat, when you
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  Speaker 1: drive your car, before you go to bed, when you
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  Speaker 1: wake up, when you go to bed, every time, every time, to.
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  Speaker 2: The point that there's some highlight that pop ups in
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  Speaker 2: your head.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes you see yourself winning, sometimes you see yourself losing. However,
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  Speaker 1: the trick that I've learned is and I think one
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  Speaker 1: of the reason of success. I believe that I stay
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  Speaker 1: very strong mentally is that. And sometimes it pops in
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  Speaker 1: your head. It's not because you want it.
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  Speaker 2: You just pop in your head.
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  Speaker 1: You don't control it, and you don't you're in trouble.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you're not winning. However, you never want to let go.
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  Speaker 1: You're thought on a negative and you always want to
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  Speaker 1: let go. Let's say you're in trouble. You want to
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  Speaker 1: think at forces about thinking because like even if you're
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of something, it's like, wait a second,
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  Speaker 1: put things on puss and say, OK, if this happened,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna do this, this this to get out
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  Speaker 1: of trouble and get the operam. Now I can go
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  Speaker 1: to my new word, you know what I mean. So
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  Speaker 1: that's how That's what I've been doing to all my life.
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  Speaker 1: But it become an obsession because it hunts. It hunt
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  Speaker 1: hunt you, and I believe it hunted me because of
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  Speaker 1: my pride, because I care so much about it, Like
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  Speaker 1: I want to be humiliated that.
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  Speaker 2: It's working up there for me right now.
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  Speaker 1: Training people ask me, if why do you train, you
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  Speaker 1: don't have a fight coming up for me.
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  Speaker 2: It's not because only I like it.
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  Speaker 1: It's because it's a it's a therapy, I believe because
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  Speaker 1: I was bullied when I was young and left a
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  Speaker 1: scar in my mind. And it sounds crazy to most
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  Speaker 1: of people because most of them cannot relate to that.
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  Speaker 1: But because when I was young, I got bull lead
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  Speaker 1: so much, I got humiliated so much, and sometimes physical
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  Speaker 1: damage is not as bad as like emotional damage, and
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  Speaker 1: that's what happened to me.
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  Speaker 2: So I hate to train.
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  Speaker 1: I remember even sometime when I when I'm not in
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  Speaker 1: shape and or I got an.
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  Speaker 2: Injury, I don't feel as confidence and as I am.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I know I would never get probably beat up because
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm an adult now, but I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: It's inside my head like it's a confidence thing for me,
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  Speaker 1: and I believe confidence is very important for me. So
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  Speaker 1: I like to walk in a room knowing that if
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  Speaker 1: something happened, I can take care of business. I know
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  Speaker 1: it sounds maybe preposterous because we're in a very civilized world, but.
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  Speaker 2: Because I was victim when I was young, it left
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  Speaker 2: left that scar.
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  Speaker 3: If you learn how to breathe properly growing up as
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  Speaker 3: a fighter, and did they teach you this in martial arts?
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  Speaker 3: And because breathing is everything in competition any sport, you
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  Speaker 3: don't have your breath under control, your you're tired.
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  Speaker 1: I've learned the technique, but I didn't know why. So
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  Speaker 1: let's say you you do a crazy uh physical activity,
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  Speaker 1: or you're exhausted and you you're out of breath. The
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  Speaker 1: worst thing you can do is bend over and bread by. Now,
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  Speaker 1: so you take a take a straw for example, and
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  Speaker 1: try to make the air go. If you bend it,
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  Speaker 1: it will it will not go through. So so you
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  Speaker 1: try to stand up straight. And we call it and
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  Speaker 1: karate in cilcashon karate, it's called ebuki.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's a breeding.
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  Speaker 1: So we used to do an exercise after let's say
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  Speaker 1: a fight, a fight when I was young, and I
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  Speaker 1: always wonder why it was making us do that, but
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  Speaker 1: I knew it was helping me recover recover very fast.
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  Speaker 2: So you you you stand up straight.
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  Speaker 1: You're exhausted, so go you take big, big in hell,
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  Speaker 1: buy the nose.
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  Speaker 2: And excel by the nose.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like you're trying to I perventilate yourself but
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  Speaker 1: you you you.
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  Speaker 2: In l long hell a very quick excel but very powerful.
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  Speaker 2: What is that for example?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's called EBOOKI it's a chat.
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  Speaker 2: So you go like this.
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  Speaker 1: You can do like five to ten to thirty depend
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  Speaker 1: we used to do like I was a kid.
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  Speaker 2: We used to do five.
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  Speaker 1: Then you all did as long as you can. Then
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  Speaker 1: when you're ready, then that's the first cycle. Then you
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  Speaker 1: do three cycle.
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  Speaker 2: You do that in between round.
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  Speaker 1: We have a nose, and a nose is like a
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  Speaker 1: hearing if it if you don't use it, it will
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  Speaker 1: close a little bit like I hit like a woman
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  Speaker 1: that put earring, you know, like very often, so it
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  Speaker 1: closed down after you take it off or too long.
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  Speaker 2: And your hair will close down.
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  Speaker 1: But if you want to keep it open, you need
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  Speaker 1: to exercise it or breathe.
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  Speaker 2: Some people are a mouth breeder. I think it's very bad.
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  Speaker 3: Do you feel like you ever learned how to heal
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  Speaker 3: from the bullying?
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  Speaker 2: I think it left a scar.
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  Speaker 1: But sometimes for the best and sometimes for the worst,
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  Speaker 1: there's good things and and I'm not a psychologist, but
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  Speaker 1: I think it helps me to be stronger to face adversity.
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  Speaker 2: When you get ready for a fight, it's the stress
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  Speaker 2: the fear it's unbearable.
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  Speaker 1: So I think it build up that tolerance and that
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  Speaker 1: courage to go face certain adversity that you would not
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  Speaker 1: have the courage to face if you wouldn't if I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't have gone through that