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5 Signs You're More Likable Than You Realize: The Quiet Psychology of Admiration · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Psych2Goers, and welcome back to another video. Your love
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  Speaker 1: wealth of everyday psychology, and we're grateful beyond words. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's begin. What is it that makes you say, I
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  Speaker 1: like that person so much? Is it their compassion towards others,
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  Speaker 1: their impeccable character, or their outrageously good-looking smile? It's not
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  Speaker 1: always so obvious, but it's the little things that endear
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  Speaker 1: others to us. You may have someone you yourself admire,
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  Speaker 1: and perhaps you wonder if you too in turn are
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  Speaker 1: as likable. Well, don't be too hard on yourself, because
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  Speaker 1: you may just be more admirable than you presume. Here
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  Speaker 1: are five signs to key you in if you are
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  Speaker 1: as likable as you think. Number one, you emit positive energy.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know how you feel in a setting or
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  Speaker 1: situation can impact how others feel around you? So, if
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  Speaker 1: you are a little ray of sunshine most of the time,
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  Speaker 1: chances are others will feed off that positive energy from you,
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  Speaker 1: liking you for making their day as well. A research
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  Speaker 1: paper from the University of Hawaii and Ohio State University
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  Speaker 1: suggests that many individuals can unconsciously tell what mood you're
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  Speaker 1: in just by being around you. Seems fair, right? So,
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  Speaker 1: if you display positive emotions, others are likely to mimic
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  Speaker 1: your happy facial expressions and gestures. Therefore, they're likely to
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  Speaker 1: feel positive emotions around you and want to be with
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  Speaker 1: you more, meaning they like your company and ultimately you. Two,
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  Speaker 1: you listen and let others talk about themselves. Are you
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  Speaker 1: a good listener? Do others find it easy to share
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  Speaker 1: their thoughts with you? If others look towards you to
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  Speaker 1: share what's been on their mind, it's a sign they're
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  Speaker 1: comfortable with you, knowing you won't judge or interrupt them.
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  Speaker 1: Humans love to talk about themselves, which means if you
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  Speaker 1: let them do so, they may just like you a
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  Speaker 1: bit more. Harvard researchers discovered that taking the time to
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  Speaker 1: talk about yourself triggers reward areas in the brain. And
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  Speaker 1: when it's associated with your presence, they ultimately begin to
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  Speaker 1: like your company. In another study conducted by Harvard researchers,
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  Speaker 1: some subjects even declined money to talk about themselves more.
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  Speaker 1: So if you go ahead and let others talk about
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  Speaker 1: themselves for a while, they'll enjoy their time around you
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  Speaker 1: more and increase dopamine too. As long as you make
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  Speaker 1: sure to listen and not doze off. Three. You're human
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  Speaker 1: and have imperfections. Do you strive for perfection? You wear
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  Speaker 1: your mistakes with pride, or do you cover them up
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  Speaker 1: to present a perfect facade? Contrary to popular belief, it's
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  Speaker 1: one's imperfections that endear you to others and not your perfection.
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  Speaker 1: Does the thought of making a mistake terrify you? Well,
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  Speaker 1: it shouldn't. Others may be intimidated if you come across
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  Speaker 1: as perfect. Mistakes show your human side. When you show
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  Speaker 1: you're capable and yet still relatable as a human being
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  Speaker 1: who makes mistakes, people tend to like you more. In
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  Speaker 1: a study, researcher Elliot Aronson had people rate fake test
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  Speaker 1: takers based on their attractiveness. Some test takers would act
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  Speaker 1: clumsy and spill coffee at the end of the interview
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  Speaker 1: after their scores were revealed. Poor test takers, mediocre test takers,
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  Speaker 1: and even great test takers were still rated lower than
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  Speaker 1: the superior test taker who scored great and spilled coffee
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  Speaker 1: at the end, meaning People want to see you are
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  Speaker 1: intelligent and capable, but that you aren't perfect. Number four,
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  Speaker 1: you make great first impressions. Do you believe in that
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  Speaker 1: saying that the first impression is the last impression? Are
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  Speaker 1: you extra vigilant regarding your attire and behavior during first meetings?
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  Speaker 1: If you succeed in making a good first impression on someone,
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  Speaker 1: your chances of being liked increases even further. That's because
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  Speaker 1: first impressions leave a lasting mark. In a study published
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  Speaker 1: in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science, People
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  Speaker 1: were to evaluate others based on their photograph and then
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  Speaker 1: to meet them. The first impression through the photograph influenced
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  Speaker 1: the individual's judgment of the person even after they met formally. So,
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  Speaker 1: when you're on time on a first meeting, dress to
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  Speaker 1: present yourself accordingly and show your personality through a great
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  Speaker 1: first impression. It emits a vibe that others take an
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  Speaker 1: instant liking to. Number five, you have a lot in common.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know having something in common with the person
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  Speaker 1: you're talking to can also increase the chances they'll like you?
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  Speaker 1: In a study by Theodore Newcomb, subjects were made to
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  Speaker 1: live together after taking their opinions on certain topics. Those
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  Speaker 1: who had more in common and shared beliefs on the
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  Speaker 1: topics recorded liked each other better compared to the subjects
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  Speaker 1: with opposing beliefs. When there's more to talk about, you
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  Speaker 1: find yourself wanting to listen to their thoughts on the
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  Speaker 1: subject as well, and you share your opinions in a
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  Speaker 1: positive light. Hence, When your like-mindedness surfaces, so does your
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  Speaker 1: liking for the other. Everyone likes to have someone who
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  Speaker 1: shares their beliefs. And when you find them, well, what's
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  Speaker 1: not to like about it? The most important thing is
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  Speaker 1: to be true to yourself and show others your real
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  Speaker 1: self and personality. Don't try to be someone you're not
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  Speaker 1: just to make someone like you. Start your encounters off
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  Speaker 1: right by laying the groundwork for a great relationship. Make
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  Speaker 1: a great first impression. Share your interests. Listen to the
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  Speaker 1: other person's opinion. But hey, If things just aren't working out,
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  Speaker 1: whatever you do, maybe don't spill a coffee on yourself. So,
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  Speaker 1: do you think these are sufficient to measure someone's likableness?
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  Speaker 1: Do you integrate some of these signs or tips into
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  Speaker 1: your life? Let us know in the comments below. If
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