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DLHS Hour 2 | No mom, you cannot sleep with your boyfriend in my house · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: So a woman tells her mother this.
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  Speaker 2: Am I well safe for telling my mom she can't
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  Speaker 2: share a room or a bed with her boyfriend in
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  Speaker 2: my home?
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  Speaker 3: Not at all.
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  Speaker 1: This was my type of story.
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  Speaker 2: When I, a twenty seven year old female, was in college,
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  Speaker 2: I met my boyfriend and we moved in together, sharing
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  Speaker 2: a place with some friends, after dating for a year.
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  Speaker 2: I was nineteen when we met and twenty when we
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  Speaker 2: moved in together. We decided from that point onward to
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  Speaker 2: take turns spending Christmas with our families. But the first
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  Speaker 2: year we were supposed to see mine, my mom made
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  Speaker 2: it clear my boyfriend could not stay and we weren't
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  Speaker 2: sharing a room or a bed in her house. Two
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  Speaker 2: years ago, my dad died and for eleven months, my
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  Speaker 2: mom has been in a relationship with her boyfriend. So
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  Speaker 2: she wanted to visit for a week or so soon.
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  Speaker 2: She wanted to bring her boyfriend along, and I told
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  Speaker 2: her that she cannot share a room or a bed
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  Speaker 2: with him in my home. She got mad at me
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  Speaker 2: and said that she's a grown woman and that she
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  Speaker 2: should be allowed her freedoms. I told her she was
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  Speaker 2: all right denying it to me, and I wasn't even
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  Speaker 2: planning to have sex in her house. I also told
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  Speaker 2: her that I wasn't going to reward her with sharing
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  Speaker 2: with her boyfriend when she had been so strict with
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  Speaker 2: me about it. My mom accused me of acting like
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  Speaker 2: a petty child.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think she was wrong, Jadman? What do you think?
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  Speaker 3: I think She's right her house, her rules.
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  Speaker 4: I will say that, even though she is grown and
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  Speaker 4: her mama is grown, I would not allow that either.
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  Speaker 4: But I certainly would not talk to my mom any
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  Speaker 4: kind of way, even though I'm grown too. I'm still
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  Speaker 4: gonna give her the respect as my parent and as
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  Speaker 4: my mother. But she can't. If she couldn't let me
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  Speaker 4: sleep with my boyfriend in her house, she can't sleep
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  Speaker 4: with her boyfriend. So I'm gona leave a note. I'm
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  Speaker 4: gonna leave a note to see it. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna tell my mama's everything. You ain't gonna
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  Speaker 4: do this because we both got now. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 4: have that conversation with my mama.
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  Speaker 1: So you would do it for vengeance?
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  Speaker 4: No, I would never do it for vengeance.
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  Speaker 1: She would really just have an aversion to it.
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  Speaker 4: No, I don't have an aversion. She first of all,
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  Speaker 4: I'm happy if my mom. Well, first of all, my
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  Speaker 4: daddy died first. I mean, my mama died first, and
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  Speaker 4: my mom my daddy found a wife, a whole wife
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  Speaker 4: after a year after, just like this one found a
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  Speaker 4: boyfriend after, so congratulations on that. So I would be
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  Speaker 4: so happy that she found somebody after. You know, my dad,
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't care.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you wouldn't want to hear him doing next next
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  Speaker 1: door to you. You wouldn't want.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think it would bother me. It wouldn't. It
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  Speaker 3: just wouldn't bother.
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  Speaker 5: Me, which means it's probably a revenge thing, because what
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  Speaker 5: would be the difference if they were married. Now, say,
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  Speaker 5: if they were married, would would it be okay for
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  Speaker 5: them to stay?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Well, I think in this case it was a revenge
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  Speaker 4: case for the daughter and probably being super petty for me,
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  Speaker 4: it would.
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  Speaker 3: I would.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think it's petty to not want to hear
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  Speaker 6: you your mama get down with your boyfriend.
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  Speaker 7: Just I don't think that's not want to condone on
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  Speaker 7: premarital sex in your house.
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  Speaker 5: Your mama didn't let you do it exactly. No, But
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  Speaker 5: I'm saying if they if she was married, you would
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  Speaker 5: still hear be married.
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  Speaker 4: Well, exactly, you still gonna hear it.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but at least I have at least that going
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  Speaker 6: in at home in the middle of the night.
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  Speaker 1: You still have to get this dock my mama off
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  Speaker 1: and leave. Now, come on now and not have me
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  Speaker 1: nobody where you Where are you.
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  Speaker 8: Living?
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  Speaker 1: Heart is bro? Can you use the towels that are
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  Speaker 1: hanging in the bathroom?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, some monograms?
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  Speaker 1: That's my baby once club, What do you do?
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  Speaker 3: Ain't no warm towels in their path?
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  Speaker 6: A woman said she won't let her mom share her
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  Speaker 6: her room with her boyfriend in her home.
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  Speaker 1: Is a woman right? Or is she out of pocket? Junie?
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  Speaker 1: Do you think she was wrong?
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  Speaker 6: Uh?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, just because on the petty front.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, you know, I still think that if you know,
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  Speaker 5: if she was married to the man, I don't think
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  Speaker 5: she would have a problem with it. So and her
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  Speaker 5: mom is old, you know, so she's been through it.
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  Speaker 5: It's not like when you're young and you so you
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  Speaker 5: can you can sing when you're old in his house.
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  Speaker 7: Well, that's what they used against.
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  Speaker 3: It was a sin.
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  Speaker 1: Parents.
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  Speaker 3: What have you been married before?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, was married to They were trying to protect you
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  Speaker 5: because you're still you know, basically a child. This is
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  Speaker 5: your first four fourier into the old sexual arena.
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  Speaker 3: You're not doing it in my house. Suppose you got kids.
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  Speaker 1: Who's in there with grandma making Why is the wig
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  Speaker 1: pushed back? I don't know that wig other than I do.
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  Speaker 3: I smell funny in here.
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  Speaker 1: Every time I spell that spell, I get an xbox.
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  Speaker 6: What I do think that Maybe I don't know her
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  Speaker 6: or anybody in this situation, obviously, but I do think
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  Speaker 6: maybe there was an the element of pettiness to it,
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  Speaker 6: or maybe she actually learned when she tried to teach her.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe she takes you at your word. Maybe she believed
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  Speaker 1: that you believe that that's inappropriate and and you're carrying.
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  Speaker 6: On the family pradition of having a stick of you.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe that's what they do.
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  Speaker 3: You don't it in rose colored glasses. Maybe if your
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  Speaker 3: kids tell you what to do, stop it. Trying to
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  Speaker 3: her kids right too, she got.
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  Speaker 1: That's what Maybe she took the advice. Maybe she listened
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  Speaker 1: to her mama. Maybe she did that's the funniest thing
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  Speaker 1: you said all after Maybe it is maybe she learned,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you or Mama I was wrong.
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  Speaker 7: For you know one of the you was right, just
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  Speaker 7: because old Earl can't sneak in and jump into work
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  Speaker 7: like we used.
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  Speaker 3: To do it, you know.
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  Speaker 6: But obviously I think that it was probably some I'm
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  Speaker 6: getting back at you, or maybe just trying to be
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  Speaker 6: ironic or whatever. I don't know, but the fact that
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  Speaker 6: the mother got upset and couldn't see the folly and
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  Speaker 6: all that select is me like, you don't get house
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  Speaker 6: kiper criticals. You sound right now, you don't. It's hilarious
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  Speaker 6: question we're asking. Here's the scenario.
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  Speaker 2: Two years ago, my dad died and for eleven months,
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  Speaker 2: my mom has been in a relationship with her boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: So she wanted to visit for a week or so soon.
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  Speaker 2: She wanted to bring her boyfriend along, and I told
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  Speaker 2: her that she cannot share a room or bed with
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  Speaker 2: him in my home.
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  Speaker 1: You think she was wrong with going to their phones.
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  Speaker 9: No, I don't think she's out of pocket. It's her house,
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  Speaker 9: just like it's her mom's house, and it's just a
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  Speaker 9: thing of respect. So if that's what she requests, that
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  Speaker 9: she can't live up with her boyfriend, then that's her,
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  Speaker 9: you know, her rules in her house.
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  Speaker 10: I think one of you guys already said that turn
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  Speaker 10: about is fair play. Absolutely. The cous me is the child.
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  Speaker 10: She does have her rules like her mother has the
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  Speaker 10: rules when she was coming up. And I guarantee you
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  Speaker 10: I will be the same way I go to my
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  Speaker 10: children's house.
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  Speaker 11: They have rules.
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  Speaker 10: I could go ahead and go guard and say, yeah,
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  Speaker 10: I'm the parent, but your house to your rooms, bottah bla.
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  Speaker 12: I'm gonna be like Feller, getting my groove on. So
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  Speaker 12: you like to gone and bounce like you doing. How
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  Speaker 12: about that part? Eh, that's right, getting my groove on
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  Speaker 12: because you know what, wan mon, nonna stop noself because
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  Speaker 12: you're older and your kids in the house to two now,
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  Speaker 12: they need to vacate the premises and find them something
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  Speaker 12: to this so they.
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  Speaker 1: Ain't gonna come in my house and be doing nothing.
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  Speaker 12: They nobody gonna be doing nothing in my house but me,
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  Speaker 12: So let it be done. I'm gonna tell you, like
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  Speaker 12: a ti is, Mama don't take no mess. And I
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  Speaker 12: know Papa didn't, but Mama ain't taking nothing.
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  Speaker 13: Papa gowne and.
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  Speaker 10: Mama don't take no mess. I'm gonna get my groove on.
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  Speaker 10: That's trying to bounce.
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  Speaker 11: Be honest with you. Your mother is your mother First
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  Speaker 11: of all, you don't dispect your mother. I don't care
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  Speaker 11: what she do wrong or right. Moms is moms. You
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  Speaker 11: cannot feel that you should do the same thing on
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  Speaker 11: the same up as your mother. That's wrong. At the
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  Speaker 11: end of the day, you're a grown adult. Look at
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  Speaker 11: your mother, who she is, your mother. Certain things you
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  Speaker 11: just just don't do. And at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 11: you're at one other person that's too weak. You're going
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  Speaker 11: by your mother. That's God, cause you have to see
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  Speaker 11: him because he says, honored our mother, our father. Some
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  Speaker 11: people just forget about that, the lost concept for what
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  Speaker 11: that needs.
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  Speaker 9: Well, I think that because I would be the mother, probably,
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  Speaker 9: but I think that it would be okay because the
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  Speaker 9: Bible says to honor our mother and not father. It
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  Speaker 9: doesn't say mother and father honored our children. So I
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  Speaker 9: think my much gets to do what she wants to
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  Speaker 9: do and the daughter should be okay with that.
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  Speaker 1: Kip, I didn't get your thought.
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  Speaker 3: What do you think, don't let my mom?
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  Speaker 7: Mama might be old, might not have too much left
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  Speaker 7: in a gone And you know, it depends how big
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  Speaker 7: your house is though, like you said, you know, but
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  Speaker 7: and it depends if you've.
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  Speaker 1: Got I never said it, depending on how big the house.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm saying that, you know, and if you guys, now,
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  Speaker 3: if I got small kids in.
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  Speaker 7: The house, and as an example, okay, now like now
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  Speaker 7: my kids off to college and my mom was still alive.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I don't care.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: Gone, yeah, yeah, you tell yourself, Mama. I know that's
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  Speaker 3: one chure she's gonna have left. Yeah, I don't want
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  Speaker 3: her point out. Yeah, so hey, go ahead, mama, Shela.
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  Speaker 1: She spent eighteen years doing that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, tell me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to Hell's.
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  Speaker 6: I really do think it's ironic that she can take
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  Speaker 6: what she dished up. I do think that's a little ironic.
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  Speaker 6: But that's part of the hypocrisy of being a parent.
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  Speaker 3: Do as I say, not as I exactly right?
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  Speaker 6: Right, But I ain't one of your little friends. How
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  Speaker 6: come you don't follow me on social media? Because you
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  Speaker 6: ain't one of my little friends. That's why we are
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  Speaker 6: not friends by any stretch of the imagination.
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  Speaker 1: That's why question we're asking. Here's the scenario.
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  Speaker 2: Am I well site for telling my mom she can't
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  Speaker 2: share a room or a bed with her boyfriend in
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  Speaker 2: my home?
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  Speaker 1: Not at all? This was my type of story.
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  Speaker 2: When I, a twenty seven year old female, was in college,
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  Speaker 2: I met my boyfriend and we moved in together, sharing
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  Speaker 2: a place with some friends after dating for a year.
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  Speaker 2: I was nineteen when we met and twenty when we
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  Speaker 2: moved in together. We decided from that point onward to
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  Speaker 2: take turns spending Christmas with our families. But the first
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  Speaker 2: year we were supposed to see mine, my mom made
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  Speaker 2: it clear my boyfriend could not stay and we weren't
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  Speaker 2: a room or a bed in her house. Two years ago,
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  Speaker 2: my dad died and for eleven months, my mom has
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  Speaker 2: been in a relationship with her boyfriend. So she wanted
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: to visit for a week or so soon. She wanted
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  Speaker 2: to bring her boyfriend along, and I told her that
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  Speaker 2: she cannot share a room or a bed with him
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  Speaker 2: in my home. She got mad at me and said
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  Speaker 2: that she's a grown woman and that she should be
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  Speaker 2: allowed her freedoms. I told her she was all right
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  Speaker 2: denying it to me, and I wasn't even planning to
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  Speaker 2: have sex in her house. I also told her that
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't going to reward her with sharing with her
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  Speaker 2: boyfriend when she had been so strict with me about it.
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  Speaker 2: My mom accused me of acting like a petty child.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think we're going right to the phones?
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  Speaker 13: I agree with d L in terms of the fact
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  Speaker 13: that you have to have as a parent. You have
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  Speaker 13: to respect your now adult child's boundary. And a lot
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  Speaker 13: of parents get slapped in the face, especially when a
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  Speaker 13: child goes to college and they find out from the administration,
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  Speaker 13: Oh no, you don't have access to your child's information.
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  Speaker 10: They are in an don't now.
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  Speaker 13: So you have to understand every relationship is built on
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  Speaker 13: communication and cooperation and respect is earned. Just because you
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  Speaker 13: raise them doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to
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  Speaker 13: still dictate in their life.
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  Speaker 9: All grown people need They all key to their own house.
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  Speaker 1: Period.
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  Speaker 9: If I need to own key to their own house,
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  Speaker 9: I don't like their rules, I go to my house,
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  Speaker 9: put my key in my.
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  Speaker 10: Door where I can do whatever a couple of rules
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  Speaker 10: I want. If she didn't like that, the moment did
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  Speaker 10: like a vice version.
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  Speaker 9: That's why our grown people need their own key to
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  Speaker 9: their own house.
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  Speaker 10: Well, I take the daughter's point of view, because.
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  Speaker 8: If her daughter, if the mama got a man, how
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  Speaker 8: come the man can't text the woman to his house?
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  Speaker 8: Why does the man, take that woman, take his crib.
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  Speaker 8: You hear what I'm saying, that makes sense to me.
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  Speaker 8: I think the man it's weak. I think the mama
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  Speaker 8: it's disrespectful. The mama wanted their daughter to.
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  Speaker 10: Respect her home.
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  Speaker 8: Why can't she respect her daughter at home.
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  Speaker 14: I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing my boyfriend and I sleeping
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  Speaker 14: in my son's bet and sleeping in my son's house
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  Speaker 14: in the same room because number one, I didn't allow
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  Speaker 14: them to do it, and my son's very Christian based.
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  Speaker 14: He's more Christian based than I am, so it would
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  Speaker 14: make me feel uncomfortable because I'm not one of those
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  Speaker 14: little quiet people who did I say that.
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  Speaker 8: Sorry, if it's the daughter's apartment the house, and now
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  Speaker 8: the mother has her boyfriend, then her daughter say you
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  Speaker 8: can't have sex in my house.
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  Speaker 6: That's the way it is, because if it's my house,
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  Speaker 6: my rules, Mama, if you don't want to go about
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  Speaker 6: my rules, she needs to get out and get your
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  Speaker 6: own house.