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Control Your Emotions: Unlock Inner Strength and Peace · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: How do you respond when you find yourself dealing with
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  Speaker 1: the situations that are very painful? In fact, you get rejected,
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  Speaker 1: somebody walks out on you. You feel like they were
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  Speaker 1: dishonest with you, they didn't tell you the truth. You
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  Speaker 1: feel lonely, you feel hurt, very discouraged when you think
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  Speaker 1: about all the things that happen to people and the
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  Speaker 1: reactions we have, how do you how do you feel?
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  Speaker 1: You just want to say, you know what, I don't
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  Speaker 1: have to put up with this anymore, and you just
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  Speaker 1: decide I'm gonna walk away, I quit, I give up.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to do this, I don't have to
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  Speaker 1: stay here. How do you really interly feel?
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  Speaker 2: Discouragement is so bold that it will even hide behind
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  Speaker 2: a smile. I tell you life is not worth living.
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  Speaker 2: If you listen at discouragement, it will cause you to
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  Speaker 2: make bad decisions. It will cause you to think that
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  Speaker 2: life is not worth living. And secretly behind the facade
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  Speaker 2: of a smile and a good morning and a praise Lord,
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  Speaker 2: and how are you you will wonder if you're ever
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  Speaker 2: going to get out of what you're into.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're in the process right now giving up
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  Speaker 1: on your marriage, giving up on your job, giving up
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  Speaker 1: on your children, giving up on your financial situation, whatever
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  Speaker 1: the situation may be. Before you give up, you stop
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  Speaker 1: and ask yourself the question does this fit who I am?
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  Speaker 1: And this message is all about listen. It's all about
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  Speaker 1: keeping on keeping on, and that is to have the
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  Speaker 1: courage to keep on keeping on. And if you will
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  Speaker 1: listen careful and apply these points that I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: lay out before you, you don't have to give up quit.
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  Speaker 1: There is an answer and a solution to what God
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  Speaker 1: wants to do in your life at this point, no
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  Speaker 1: matter what it is.
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  Speaker 3: You'd have to say everybody, here's the other thing is
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  Speaker 3: you look at your goals and look at your dreams.
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  Speaker 3: When you're going through some stuff. When things go wrong, don't.
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  Speaker 2: Go with them.
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  Speaker 3: When things go wrong, don't go with them. When you're
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  Speaker 3: working on a business deal, you're counting on some money.
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  Speaker 3: Someone said you will get the loan and it falls through.
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  Speaker 3: You have an event and the people that you thought
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  Speaker 3: would be there and support you, they don't come through,
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  Speaker 3: or someone turns against you, or you get ripped off.
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  Speaker 3: It's going to happen to you.
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  Speaker 2: Happen to me.
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  Speaker 3: Someone stole all my products, my database over one hundred
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  Speaker 3: and eighty thousand names and addresses. It's not personal. It's
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  Speaker 3: gonna happen to everybody.
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  Speaker 4: It does.
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  Speaker 3: Eight out of ten millionaires have been financially bag R.
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  Speaker 3: Walt Disney had seven keep profile, bankruptcy seven times and
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  Speaker 3: had two nervous breakdowns. It's called life, but I got
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  Speaker 3: a saying. Life knocks you down, try and land on
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  Speaker 3: your back because if you can look up, you can
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  Speaker 3: get up. You've got the power in you to do that.
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  Speaker 3: You've got something special. You've got comeback power. Take ownership
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  Speaker 3: for your life. Nobody can live your dream for you,
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  Speaker 3: but you. Nobody's gonna take care of your business like you.
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  Speaker 3: Stop coming up with excuses. Don't give yourself permission to
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  Speaker 3: continue to live a small life. You can't fit a
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  Speaker 3: big dream into a small life. Give yourself permission to
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  Speaker 3: go for it, to test yourself, to challenge yourself to
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  Speaker 3: live full Like the saying, always strive to get on
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  Speaker 3: top of life because it's a bottom that's overcrowded. There's
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  Speaker 3: something in you that tells you this is not it
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  Speaker 3: for you. You have not peeped here. There's more in you
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  Speaker 3: that you're expressing. Eyes stop seeing ear is not her,
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  Speaker 3: knows that it the man heart of mankind. What's in
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  Speaker 3: store for you if you challenge yourself, if you persist
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  Speaker 3: and persevere, if you take ownership for your life? George
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  Speaker 3: Bernard Shaw said, the people that make it in its life,
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  Speaker 3: they look around from the circumstances that they want, and
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  Speaker 3: if they can't find them, they create them.
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  Speaker 2: Create what you want.
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  Speaker 3: You have the power you to do more than you
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  Speaker 3: can ever begin to imagine, to control your destiny, to
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  Speaker 3: make a difference in our children, to make a difference on.
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  Speaker 5: The planet, to make an impact.
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  Speaker 4: Let us say together, it's me.
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  Speaker 2: Let us say together, it's hard. Yes, it's hard.
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  Speaker 5: It's hard, and we will do it hard.
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  Speaker 3: And once we do it hard and we go through it,
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  Speaker 3: we realize it was worse.
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  Speaker 5: And once you discover it's what's worth it, it is done.
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  Speaker 6: What's at the core of achieving the good life? The
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  Speaker 6: major key to the good life. The major key is
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  Speaker 6: not in learning how to set goals. It is not
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  Speaker 6: in learning how to better manage your time. It is
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  Speaker 6: not in mastering the attributes of leadership. Every day, in
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  Speaker 6: a thousand different ways, we are trying to improve ourselves
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  Speaker 6: by learning how to do things. We spend a lifetime
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  Speaker 6: gathering knowledge in classrooms, in textbooks, and experiences. Now, if
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  Speaker 6: knowledge is power, if knowledge is the forerunner to success,
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  Speaker 6: then why do we fall short of our objectives? Why,
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  Speaker 6: in spite of all our knowledge, and in spite of
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  Speaker 6: our collective experiences, do we find ourselves aimlessly wandering, settling
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  Speaker 6: for a life of existence rather than a life of substance.
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  Speaker 6: There may be many answers to this question. Your answers
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  Speaker 6: may be different than your associates, or your spouses or
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  Speaker 6: your friends. While there may be many answers to this question,
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  Speaker 6: the fundamental answer is the absence of discipline applying all
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  Speaker 6: that we know. That's the key word, discipline, self discipline.
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  Speaker 6: We might add one more word here, consistent, consistent self discipline.
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  Speaker 6: It doesn't really matter how smart you are or how
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  Speaker 6: much you know if you don't use it. It doesn't
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  Speaker 6: really matter that you graduated magna cum laude if you're
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  Speaker 6: stuck in a low paying job. It doesn't really matter
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  Speaker 6: if you attended every seminar that comes to town if
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  Speaker 6: you don't apply what you've learned. Better than knowledge is
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  Speaker 6: applied knowledge, and once we've applied our knowledge, we must
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  Speaker 6: study the results of that process, apply our knowledge, study
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  Speaker 6: the results, refine our approach. Finally, by trying and observing,
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  Speaker 6: and refining and trying again, our knowledge will inevitably produce
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  Speaker 6: worthy results, admirable results. And with the joy and results
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  Speaker 6: of our efforts, we continue to apply, to learn, to observe,
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  Speaker 6: to fuel our ambition with the positive reinforcement of continued progress.
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  Speaker 6: Pretty soon we'll find that we're swept into a spiral
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  Speaker 6: of achievement, a vertical rise to success, and the ecstasy
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  Speaker 6: of that. Total experience makes for a life of triumph
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  Speaker 6: over tragedy, dullness, and mediocrity. But for this whole process
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  Speaker 6: to work for us, we must first master the art
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  Speaker 6: of discipline, self discipline, consistent self discipline.
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  Speaker 3: Now, when you decide to act, you're gonna have some
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  Speaker 3: people like that. We are no longer friends. I lost
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  Speaker 3: sleep over that. Ladies and gentlemen, I said, I can't
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  Speaker 3: believe that. I remember sitting up one night looking at
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  Speaker 3: the phone. I said, I gotta call him. Said no that,
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  Speaker 3: I said, don't forget that. I called, man. Look here,
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  Speaker 3: We've been knowing each other too long to allow this
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  Speaker 3: to come between us, he said, don't call me anymore
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  Speaker 3: hung on? And then I wanted to think about how
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  Speaker 3: what can I do to make it up to him?
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  Speaker 3: And then something came to me, less, what do you
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  Speaker 3: have to prove? See, many things we don't do is
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  Speaker 3: because the fact we want people to like us. There's
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  Speaker 3: some necessary losses in life. When you decide acting in
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  Speaker 3: your best interest, You're gonna lose some friends. Everybody's not
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  Speaker 3: going to approve of you. There are some people that
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  Speaker 3: won't like you. Who do you think you are? You're arrogant?
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  Speaker 3: What do you think you can do? You think you
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  Speaker 3: can get away with that? You're selfish? Thanks, I got that.
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  Speaker 3: It's my life. And so what I'm saying to you
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  Speaker 3: is that as you begin to look out on your life,
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  Speaker 3: this is challenging, This is not easy acting. So what
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  Speaker 3: are the things that we can begin to do to
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  Speaker 3: harness our will? Number One, You've got to bring it
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  Speaker 3: out and look at it. You've got to take the
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  Speaker 3: power out of it. You've got to expose it to
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  Speaker 3: the truth, and the truth is that it has no
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  Speaker 3: power over you. So write down something you want to
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  Speaker 3: act on but for some reason that you've been holding back,
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  Speaker 3: and look at it. The next thing is ask yourself
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  Speaker 3: the question is it helping you to continue to put
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  Speaker 3: it off? If it's an asset for you to continue
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  Speaker 3: to procrastinate, then continue to do that. But if it's
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  Speaker 3: a liability for you, if it's causing you some mental
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  Speaker 3: and some emotional challenges, or perhaps a financial problem, look
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  Speaker 3: at that. Examine that for what it is. Next step
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  Speaker 3: ask yourself what's blocking you, what's preventing you from acting?
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  Speaker 3: Why don't you have the courage to handle that? Why
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  Speaker 3: won't you face that? What are you running away from?
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  Speaker 3: What kind of avoidance behavior are you engaged in? Next
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  Speaker 3: is what is the worst thing that can happen when
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  Speaker 3: you take action? So I looked at that, and I said,
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  Speaker 3: what's the worst thing can happen? When I tell him this?
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  Speaker 3: He can say I don't like you?
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  Speaker 1: And he did.
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  Speaker 3: Now what happened? I experienced that. I looked at that.
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  Speaker 3: I saw that, and guess what, ladies and gentlemen, I
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  Speaker 3: didn't die. My feelings were hurt a little bit. I
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  Speaker 3: lost some sleep about it, and sometimes I think about
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  Speaker 3: it when I drive past his house. But I'm still here.
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  Speaker 3: It's uncomfortable, but it's okay. Doesn't bother me anymore. I've
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  Speaker 3: gotten used to it now, So what is the worst
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  Speaker 3: thing that can happen? I want you to visualize that experience,
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  Speaker 3: that feel the nervousness and the discomfort, and the more
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  Speaker 3: you run it in your mind, the less power that
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  Speaker 3: it will have.
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  Speaker 4: If you think about what makes up who we are.
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  Speaker 4: So obviously there's genetics, there's our genetic makeup, so our predisposition,
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  Speaker 4: our propensities, and that makes up a percentage of how
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  Speaker 4: we see the world and how we show up. But
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  Speaker 4: then the rest of it we're trained on. So we're
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  Speaker 4: trained to see the world a certain ways. So there
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  Speaker 4: are certain people that have something called a negativity bias,
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  Speaker 4: and a negativity bias is nothing more than they see
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  Speaker 4: the negative first. It's not that they don't see the positive,
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  Speaker 4: but they see the negative first. There's other people who
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  Speaker 4: see positive first. They have a positivity bias, and they
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  Speaker 4: see that first. And the truth is, in almost every situation,
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  Speaker 4: in every circumstance, there's both. You can train somebody to
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  Speaker 4: recognize that there's always both. Just like every inside has
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  Speaker 4: an outside, every one side of a coin has another
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  Speaker 4: side of a coin, every up has a down. That's
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  Speaker 4: called the law of polarity, and in the universe that
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  Speaker 4: we live in, there is that law of polarity. And
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  Speaker 4: so you can teach somebody to say, okay, if your propensity,
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  Speaker 4: if the way you naturally are is negativity bias, first great,
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  Speaker 4: be aware of that. Then flip over. We call flip
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  Speaker 4: the switch. So if one side of your brain is
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  Speaker 4: going negativity, first great, learn to flip the switch. Go great,
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  Speaker 4: what's the positive side of that? That's a skill you
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  Speaker 4: can learn no differently than playing tennis, or chess or music.