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- Kait Tregenza: Hi everybody and welcome back to another episode of Becoming Flame. Last episode I spoke a lot about the erotic intelligence of plants and I feel like there's a part two. ⁓ There's to say. So this... I think can listen to this episode without listening to number one or the first part I should say. But if you go back and listen to that first episode first and then come back to this one. This episode of Becoming Flame is brought to you by Phenxx. is a ritual luxury house devoted to erotic feminine embodiment. We alchemical intimacy oils and functional fragrances infused with spagyric botanicals designed to soften the nervous system, open the ⁓ and awaken force vitality. Our formulations are as tools of self-initiation. ⁓ They are not They are not decorative. 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It's not just the unification, it's the ⁓ because first we separate it all out and then we reunify ⁓ soul and spirit within the planet itself. ⁓ call it in in spagyric, we would call it more around the erotic intelligence. believe that women who sit deeply in their bodies, ⁓ their erotic intelligence and sovereignty, ⁓ powerful creators of their lives and the environments around them. Our are initiations into that coherence. Luxury in Devotional in use. ⁓ in effect. yours ⁓ at That's P-H-E-N. opens when salt, mercury and sulfur in the woman come back into relationship. So not only in the plant but also in the woman. So salt is really the idea where the body becomes inhabitable again. Mercury is the breath, the current, the sensuality and the nervous system begin to move again and then sulfur is that soul fire, the desire, the radiance, the consciousness. That all comes online. xx.com And the spagyric botanical is relevant because in our chemical thought, the plant itself has undergone that process of separation, of purification and reunion before being offered back to the body. So it's definitely plants make women horny. It's not aphrodisiacs reduce. the time that it takes for you to come online for another person, we're really changing the rhetoric around what an intimacy oil is. again, listen to the prior to this, the part one of this, because we really talk about the reframing of intimacy ⁓ and importance of intimacy for women who want to live their most erotically ⁓ alive But the takeaway, the cliff note, ⁓ the that you need to know, ⁓ If you haven't listened to that, and even if you have, is this. Intimacy with self of our most primary concern we seeking to live an erotic life. It is primarily a way for us code safety through our intimate connection with ourself. ⁓ so becomes a way to cycle and intimacy, to cycle connection to self. ⁓ And so approach to intimacy oils is primarily an relationship with you. Who are you showing to be? Who are you living as? What are the foundational beliefs that you hold and operate here within body set, this lifetime that you ⁓ to show up, that you want ⁓ create from within? Erotic intelligence is not performance. It's just not. It is the return of the woman to the embodied aliveness. So as we said in the previous, like the cliff note of the part one that plants can open ⁓ to women in nine different pathways. Purification, sensory refinement, trauma or healing, so to speak, self-relationship, intimacy with self, cognition and a heightened conscious awareness, perception and an awareness of your subtle perceptions and connection back to self and back to a higher version of you. So in terms this is reuniting of the body the vital force and the soul fire. And then I about how ⁓ Phenxx and the Alchemy Oils that we've created in that meeting place, in that connection point, in that opening, in that relaxation and in that point of intimacy. And we've had a real, ⁓ we've had ⁓ much challenge in our ⁓ naming what do, naming what they're for. because we're really trying to shift a narrative, shift a rhetoric and sort of speak about this. And 15 second videos, 30 second videos are not enough to recalibrate an entire generation of women a patriarchal positioning point ⁓ so much of our thinking, so much of our conditioning, so much of our ⁓ of self is misogynistic, is patriarchal, is capitalist. And you don't really, and I didn't even know this myself until I started going deeper and deeper and deeper. that's where that cognition, one of the, one of the ⁓ of, of refinement and ⁓ into erotic intelligence ⁓ that cognition. And when you, ⁓ you come into a cognition where the plants are holding a frequency and access point into truth, where feminine and erotic embodiment and erotic intelligence is held and available. I actually found that part of the biggest leap that I had to take was actually understanding how misogynistically I was living. Isn't that crazy? so confronting to understand that so of the conditioning that I was raised in was to hate ⁓ not myself but women. to hate women, to put women as such a low in world. And with these plant teachers has ⁓ only changed my relationship to myself and the intimacy that I have with myself, but if you yourself are also being raised ⁓ misogyny, you naturally live in a way that is ⁓ towards women, ⁓ towards yourself. ⁓ so your intimate relationship with self is always going to be distant because there's an innate factor ⁓ hate animosity. and disregard for the body that you actually live in. And when you hold that in you, you cannot come into erotic intelligence because erotic intelligence is the love of all beings. is the vital life force ⁓ women ⁓ ⁓ ⁓ of life. ⁓ And the cognition step around ⁓ the plant eroticism and the erotic intelligence that these plants hold and the codes and the access points ⁓ taken. you work with plant teachers. People know this like in ayahuasca or other kinds of plants, mugwort. ⁓ Herbalists have working with plants for a long, long This is not a new concept. The part that's new the part that's interesting, I think, that has benefited me enormously in my life working with the spagyrics is working with the alchemy. And it really is that willingness be ripped apart, apart, and have those points purify within you and reunite them in a way magnifies and... brings to the surface a lot of that which is no longer available for you. So ⁓ you start to feel like, wow, I'm different, and ⁓ start to come to an understanding of like, ⁓ I'm no longer living in a misogynistic way. I'm no longer living in a masculine way. I'm no longer living in a feminist way that also has this competitiveness around men and women. Because you will always be outside of your body and your erotic self when you're in a competitiveness between men and women or masculine and feminine. And the reunification of this yin yang masculine feminine within yourself. And I'm sure that, you know, I've got 60, 70, 80, maybe 100 years more to live. If I've already worked out the depth of myself at this point, I would be very surprised. But I think what life is about is as you continue to soften and relax into yourself, into your truth, into your authenticity, more and more and more comes away and more comes in. in that sacred connection part. So that's the ninth set is that sacred connection. And I think that's when it, if you can show up there every day and know that's my teacher, my sacred connection into this infinity of all that I am and could be and hold within me, becomes your teacher. That becomes your guide. That becomes the compass of you. You have an infinite amount of knowledge to not only learn but embody from that place the were the fastest most beautiful soft gentle teachers ⁓ to usher into ⁓ that of showing up unlike any teacher that i had ever been and ⁓ and myself my wisdom and my access to my own wisdom my own voice my own ⁓ clarity around this and the ability that I have to take this extremely complex infinite information and try to distill it into these bite-sized pieces ⁓ podcasting and without ⁓ ability to disseminate this information from the comfort of my own home where I can sit in my energy and connect with my plant teachers, ⁓ own wisdom teachers in a place that's not going to be ⁓ and you know combated with lots of people in the space is an extraordinary time in history because I think we're getting to a point where our wisdom is coming online in such a way that we've never been able to access before. But also we can disseminate that information without the overwhelming nature of sitting in a stadium with many, many women, many, many people hold that frequency and hold that note and that that preciseness of the transmission. it's a really interesting time in history. And while podcasting and technology has allowed this, ⁓ you for 10 plus years, 20 years, I mean, then we had the radio and all of that. It's not technology necessarily that I'm talking about. It's the biotechnology. It's the availability of women's bodies ⁓ to actually this as the antenna that they currently are. And I really started to feel this shift, this process, this shift from ⁓ going of your body, which was a very common spiritual to be trying to get women to do, which I think is a very masculine technology. Men do need to do that maybe. ⁓ Women don't. Women hold wisdom in themselves. ⁓ And if really think about the way that a woman births, That's the way that a woman has access to her energy. So spirals need to go down for women. Power needs to come in and down and out. And she births like that. for many, many years, when I was following other teachers, ⁓ were always asking me to take my energy up out of the body. And I would instantly lose connection to my wisdom. I would now be talking somebody else's language. I would now be ⁓ somebody else's compass. And so Plant Teachers helps me to solidify into the knowledge that I already had and validate the knowledge that I already had. And that was really great for me. And that's another one of the points, right? Is this discernment, this intimacy with self, the subtle perception, but also most importantly, self-relationship. You learn to trust yourself. You learn to trust your body and trust your vital force and the knowledge that comes from that. And so really going into... why I then felt the need and the call and the inability to walk away from this healing modality. ⁓ from this embodiment tool is what I was going to say mostly because it's very dissimilar to like adaptogens ⁓ micro dosing ⁓ DMT ⁓ or psilocybin any of those kind of other plant teachers. What I personally being called to open into and was this ⁓ very precise teaching around feminine embodiment. So DMT or psilocybin or any kind of, let's call it popularized Amazonian plant, medicine plant teachers was again, this concept of going outside the body. experiencing yourself from outside and looking back in, experiencing yourself through the plant teacher eyes. And that's very dissimilar to what medicines here doing and helping you to do. ⁓ In I was extremely capable of leaving body from the moment that I was a child because I had ⁓ no known of safety within my body. And so leaving my body was where I gained ⁓ a sense of safety. gained safety by the disembodiment, by the disconnection. And tried to hang out in these other realms where at least I could feel something meaningful and feel something that was familiar to me because in my childhood and in the world around us at that time, it felt unsafe. It felt very dysregulated. It was a where people were constantly ⁓ ⁓ Gaslit abused manipulated nobody apologized to you. Nobody came to a relationship where children were honored valued or seen as important members of society. ⁓ I'm ex I'm describing the majority of people's lives in the eighties nineties noughties right like it is ⁓ ⁓ now that we are showing up to parenting with the concept that the child is a is a human. and deserves respect and deserves to be listened to. These were foreign concepts the of most people, This is why we're seeing the shift in parenting and relating to each other. And so when came to and me if I would be its guardian, its custodian, its transmitter, translator, I didn't know what it meant. I didn't know what it meant. than knowing the colors, other than like choosing brand swatches and ⁓ about what our marketing messages would be, it made it very clear to me that I was going to go on a journey of understanding this, embodying this first, ⁓ and being someone who can hold that frequency with the precision required, with the ability to the alchemical journey that I was on. in such a way that I would no longer flinch, in such a way that made made me care so deeply about what I was doing because it would have it it because it helped me in my life to such a degree to such a ⁓ And was interesting because I have ⁓ ⁓ development journey that follows almost nobody on the history of the world, right? And which makes sense because ⁓ this a company that has never existed, bringing forth technology that has never existed, but in a way that we're borrowing from ancient technologies as well as ancient methodologies. bringing that ⁓ at a time for women ⁓ need an activation of remembering in a way that they ⁓ really couldn't before. I remember saying I don't know how I will trust this. don't know how ⁓ will happen. So I had a lot of spiritual work. had done a lot of opening up of my gifts, my psychic abilities, my receivership. ⁓ had done a lot of that work. But there was something that was always missing. I was still ⁓ not true, innate worthiness, true, innate self-belief. I didn't know. how to fully trust myself yet. I trusted myself to the extent that I knew how, and I thought that I trusted myself completely. But having gone through this journey and having come out the other side, this realization point that place within you that you think you've got the answer, you will be shown whether you do or not. It's not a journey for lighthearted, let's do this on the weekend, let's have a little trip. Working plant medicine, no matter what the kind ⁓ is, with plant teachers is life changing if you allow the process to unfold. ⁓ And me, I was willing to allow the process to unfold and it changed my life. But not in... not in the way that i want to say and then the abundance of my life just opened up and i had millions of dollars coming to me and you can have it too working with plant medicine so much of you It asks you to give up everything that's false. It asks you to relinquish fake stories, false stories, false foundations. it asks you only to work with that which is true. And I had always thought that was what I was doing in life. I had always thought, no, this is 100 % what I'm doing. This is who I am. This is what I stand for. I really put my hand on my heart saying, that's what I think ⁓ ⁓ situation until it revealed. ⁓ No, is so much of you that's not coherent. And I started to understand coherent beauty in a very different way to beauty in general. Because beauty in general focuses on what you look like. It focuses on what you wear. It focuses on your exterior the perception of others towards you. ⁓ focuses on the mask that you're putting on and what you want ⁓ show to the world. ⁓ has nothing to do ⁓ your frequency, with your innate capability to hold who you are. has nothing to do with nervous system capacity work. ⁓ has nothing to do with the expansion of yourself and it has nothing to do with the alignment of your truest identity ⁓ who you are as who you are for the rest of your life. Developing expanding that out. I eat very surface level and the depth we had gotten to with the clean beauty or the green beauty was. Clean ingredients, transparently sourced, things of that nature. So we were looking at things that should have always been innate to what we were putting. fact is that women had moved so far out of alignment to coherence, ⁓ far out of their truth, ⁓ they were willing to put ⁓ Endocrine disruptors, materials, materials they knew nothing about and that was not sourced in nature in any way on their in their organs, in their system, ⁓ and have filtrate everything about them. And then as continued to be something that you applied every single day and from very young ages, ⁓ didn't even really understand how far outside of your coherence you were ⁓ you were using these products every day. And if there's a nefarious thought in my mind, ⁓ it that the way to control women on this planet has always been through the beauty industry because you disrupt their hormones, you bring them out of their truth, you don't let them sit in their bodies, in their power centers, you don't let them have access to power center, to their voice, to the way that their biotechnology functions ⁓ you clog it up with all of this artificial nonsense that nobody needs. Then tell them... These are a series of things that are wrong with every single woman. if you go to, you know, I've been to 75 different countries and I have experienced in every single one of those cultures, there are a list of things that each one of those cultures believes is beautiful and ugly. There are certain traits and they're always physical characteristics. They are always defined by the exterior appearance of what is beauty and what is not beauty. even with the most recent consideration of ⁓ ⁓ different body types and different ⁓ of beauty that are far broader than they ever have been, the truth of the matter is that we have an extremely narrow definition of what is beauty ⁓ it is never correlated to truth, to coherence, to your individuality or the power that you bring. We know that magnetic women exist. We know that about Marilyn Monroe and we talk about Marilyn Monroe as if she's the most magnetic woman on the planet. Marilyn Monroe took her own life. Magnetic women do not have depression. They have expression. ⁓ embodied in their full power. They are full life force. They don't consider suicide or death. And so even the pinup girl to magnetic womanhood, magnetic femininity has also been hijacked. And I don't mean to disrespect Marilyn Monroe because there was a much about her and she knew how to play with that energy. What she didn't know how to do was embody it and live from it. She didn't know how to use her embodied femininity, her embodied erotic power to shift and change her life into a place where she did feel good. where she did have vitality, where she did have overflow and opulence. She was still her magnetism ⁓ the realm ⁓ capitalism. She was a misogynist in same way that I ⁓ came discover that I was. If your and your life force ⁓ are for somebody else and you're feeding somebody else with your life force and not circulating that and reticulating that through your own being. are not ⁓ ⁓ fullness of your truth, your coherence and your life ⁓ ⁓ magnetic embodied feminine women have opulence, have that overflow, have that ⁓ as gift. They are full up of themselves and then they give that out. Their power is overflowing and effervescent. It lifts. It doesn't depress. And so this is a really important thing to start deconstructing because even the feminist or the feminine ⁓ magnetic women, of embodied women, of erotic women that we've known ⁓ are incomplete examples and they still stem from and this was for another. The expression of your magnetism is for the good of others. No, it's for being yourself because that's your native state. My magnetism is not a goal to something. It's me. It is. going to say that again because this is such a big shift. If you are seeking to be a magnetic woman, an erotically embodied woman in order to get something, in order to be something, in order to do something, in order to shift your identity for a gain that is so far outside of you. you're still operating from a cognizant perspective of unworthiness, of less than, potentially potentially capitalism, potentially patriarchy. And working with the plant intelligence, ⁓ I came to understand this subtle refinery around that, subtle perception of magnetism in its truth. in its truth is. You don't to be magnetic and then get what you want. The goal is to be yourself, to coherent. And in your coherence, you are naturally magnetic ⁓ because are magnetic beings. We have bodies. ⁓ and your magnetism exists inside of a body that is functioning correctly. I hope that is landing and making sense. You are not seeking magnetism. You are seeking yourself and the return to self. from the of your coherence, you understand the biotechnology bodysuit that you are wearing ⁓ to a degree that you ⁓ witness magnetism. You witness yourself existing ⁓ in and synchronicity in creative energies of abundance and opulence and overflow because that is your nature. You're not seeking that outside of yourself anymore. You're not seeking to recreate what other people have. What you are doing as a creator is you are replicating that which is you. You are creating your mirror in love. And when your system is coherent and you are in your electromagnetic self, you are naturally magnetic, but you are naturally electric as well. and you know how to use these systems. You know how to be in creation because you are in sync with that. You are in your nature and you are in alignment with nature. So no longer are you ever going to create a product that says, ⁓ we have to go out and ⁓ source transparent, you know, ⁓ our sourcing transparent, make sure it's organic, make sure that it's not synthetic, make sure that it's not endocrine disrupting, ⁓ sure that our ⁓ is recyclable or whatever. You actually shift beyond that. And you think as I nature and as I am at one with nature, and I am loved by this universal mother that is the nature of this earth and the frequency of this earth is this mother It is the ultimate feminine embodiment of love, ⁓ of of who I be in the fullness of me. I am coherent with myself and therefore incoherent with nature. How do I receive product? instructions and create that this place of receivership, from this place ⁓ openness, relaxation ⁓ erotic intelligence. ⁓ And that's the foundation When I first was introduced to Spedurex, dreamscape opened up ⁓ quickly. And I was dreaming of this. I was seeing this. I was having these experiences. ⁓ as I kept ⁓ that internally every day, and then in the oil as well, I to feel this electric current, this aliveness, this vibrancy, this life force this magnetism, of course. ⁓ But what it then did was rip and completely destroy the externality of my life where any part of my life was not held. Not in the truth but in the fullest most coherent truth because that was my agenda. That's when I started to understand the role of the phoenix, the role of the dragon and the between those two. And so made sense to me that, ⁓ okay, so... ⁓ So basically, lot had been created about the company that then I learned ⁓ ⁓ I understood the symbolism and the creation and all of these elements of it. and so I started dreaming. I started dreaming a lot about this woman and she would come and she would wear this very similar colors to what I'm wearing now. And she had longer hair than me and it was sort of drape over her. And she walked as if she were made of water, made of elegance, opulence, just incredible finery and decadence. And she was delicious. And she was every bit. alive as you could imagine. Her was glowing and vibrant, her skin ⁓ dewy and open. It was ⁓ of incandescent nature and she was just a glow. And I wanted to be everything about her. I loved... She was love. was ⁓ incredibly in every way. She was just shining. ⁓ She this diamond woman. And she loved herself so much. god, did she love herself? And she walked and held Grace. ⁓ She was Grace She loved herself, she put up with nothing, but she never needed to fight anyone. She just held the line. And I dreamed of her and I dreamed of her and I dreamed of her every night for a long time. And then eventually I could smell her. And this is what I'm saying when you start to work with the plant medicine, you start to open up these senses and these perceptions and everything. She helped me understand what it was that we were doing, who it was that I was becoming the purpose of why this was so important because I was always ⁓ interested in impact. was like, if we need to do something that's impactful, that's actually going to move the needle ⁓ women in the world. And she was in me the codes. ⁓ of receivership and openness and the clarity of what I needed to do to change my life. from the moment I met her to now, a single part of my life, apart from my daughter, is the same. was it hard? I as the founder of the company you go through a much, much, much, much more deep, catalytic and completely de-tonic ⁓ version of what alchemy can do ⁓ to show you it is true, to show you that it is real. And I myself you know, had to rise up into the alchemist to hold the space. I needed to set a nervous system capacity to hold other women coming into this field, because if I couldn't hold myself, if I couldn't hold others around me, how is the company going to withstand? How is it going to, you know, to persist and to to continue? And as I learned this and I got her, I understood the scent. and I would relay that scent to our perfumer. then worked with ⁓ the of that and the evocation of what that scent would be evoking ⁓ and ⁓ and that would work in the neuro patterning of the woman. So the very ⁓ foundations functional fragrance. And I said, it can't just be functional. it needs to be alchemical. We need to move this. This is about coherent beauty. This is about moving women into the era of the Aquarian Age,