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April Showers with April Kirkwood Part 1 · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: It's almost Famas podcast. We're here with April sat down
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  Speaker 2: and she said, let's make this quick. Why do you
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  Speaker 2: want to make this quick?
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's getting late and I have to catch a
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  Speaker 3: flight tomorrow. So and I've been interviewing all night, so
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready and I'm fired up. So I'm all warmed
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  Speaker 3: up for you. So you eat to get the best
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  Speaker 3: of me.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: How does it feel to be being interviewed all night
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  Speaker 2: and to be so busy at ten forty?
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  Speaker 3: Actually, when I did have a radio show with Cumulus,
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  Speaker 3: I did work till midnight.
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  Speaker 4: Every night.
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  Speaker 3: I did the drive five home, so I would start
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  Speaker 3: at five and end up. Of course, we'd go home
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  Speaker 3: a little bit early, pre tape some of the endings,
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  Speaker 3: and I'd be home in bed by eleven thirty.
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  Speaker 4: But yeah, I like it. I'm cool, I'm down.
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  Speaker 2: Well, we're here at the Bachelor Mansion.
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  Speaker 4: Yes we are.
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  Speaker 2: Feel good to be back.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, bittersweet. I had a great time here. It was
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  Speaker 3: very healing.
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  Speaker 2: It was.
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  Speaker 3: An experience that for me I got to go back
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  Speaker 3: and pick up things I had missed as a younger person.
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  Speaker 4: I mean it was really healing.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a theme tonight April where people have came
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  Speaker 2: in and said a few different ways. You're the first
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  Speaker 2: one that say healing. One person said they felt less alone.
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  Speaker 2: Another said they kind of found their like tribe or
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  Speaker 2: their people. Uh when they walked in the house. Why
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  Speaker 2: do you use the word healing.
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  Speaker 3: For Well, I'm a therapist, so I'm always looking at areas.
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  Speaker 4: That I still need work on.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, we're human beings and this is a lifetime process,
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  Speaker 3: and so I don't think that healing is ever finished.
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  Speaker 3: So when I came in, we got to stay in
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  Speaker 3: these bunk beds. I'll give you an example. I had
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  Speaker 3: never had the opportunity to go away to college. I
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  Speaker 3: went to a local college. My mother had mental health issues.
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  Speaker 3: I never got to be a freshman in college. So
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  Speaker 3: when I got here and I was up there with
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  Speaker 3: those girls and we were rowdy and I was crazy,
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  Speaker 3: and they took those mics off us, I just went
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  Speaker 3: I had so much fun, and it was like I
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  Speaker 3: was given an opportunity to go back and catch up.
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  Speaker 3: And there was other things that I had realized that
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  Speaker 3: it was time to let go of Ralph my significant
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  Speaker 3: other that I had been with for twenty years, that
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  Speaker 3: he had passed away, that Gary. That interaction with Gary
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  Speaker 3: gave me the opportunity to realize that it was time
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  Speaker 3: for me to move on women issues that I thought
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  Speaker 3: I struggled with alone. I realized that it was a
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  Speaker 3: universal kind of feeling that I was going through and
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  Speaker 3: many aspects of my life. Also, I saw people getting
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  Speaker 3: triggered a lot. And what really helped me is to
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  Speaker 3: know everybody, even at our age, has issues. Nobody's ever
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  Speaker 3: completely healed. I mean, be afraid. If someone says they
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  Speaker 3: don't need a counselor and they got it together, they're
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  Speaker 3: a bat crazy run the other way, because we are
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  Speaker 3: all constantly learning and struggling and catching things. And it's
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  Speaker 3: like peeling a lemon, you know, just keep you know,
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  Speaker 3: you keep peeling it and peeling it and peeling it
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  Speaker 3: until you get to the center.
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  Speaker 2: Well, this is obviously something that you aren't unfamiliar with.
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  Speaker 2: This isn't something that you knew, uh, just because you
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  Speaker 2: walked into the mansion. You've known this obviously for for
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  Speaker 2: a long time. When you come across people, you're like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: we're all working on something. We're all trying to figure
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  Speaker 2: it out. So you come into the mansion, you meet
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  Speaker 2: all these women, they're all beautiful. What's your first kind
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  Speaker 2: of then reaction to once you kind of got comfortable
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  Speaker 2: with them, Like what you were learning from being around
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  Speaker 2: all of them?
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  Speaker 3: Well, first of all, I've always had issues with women
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  Speaker 3: because I've always First of all, I was raised as
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  Speaker 3: an only child, so I really never had siblings. I
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  Speaker 3: had a brother eight years younger than myself, but so
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  Speaker 3: I really never had to share or really get along
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  Speaker 3: with a lot of women. Second of all, it was
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  Speaker 3: always very spoiled and loved and pampered, and I always
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  Speaker 3: had everything.
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  Speaker 4: So girls always picked on me. I got beat up.
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  Speaker 3: I had lots of you know, bullying. They would put
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  Speaker 3: fish in my locker, they would throw stones at me.
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  Speaker 3: I was feature twirler, I was Miss Ohio and.
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  Speaker 4: Blah blah blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 3: So I have fear intrepidation of women. I much rather
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  Speaker 3: work with men. Women scare the shit out of me
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  Speaker 3: because they're vicious. They can be vicious, let's put it
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  Speaker 3: that way. So when I I came here, I really
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  Speaker 3: didn't know what to think. And I had seen some
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  Speaker 3: of the episodes of the younger Bachelor shows, and I
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  Speaker 3: saw those young girls going at each other like you know.
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  Speaker 4: Little coyotes, baby coyotes.
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  Speaker 3: Ah, And I was pleasantly surprised at how nice everybody
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  Speaker 3: was and how I did really make some friends. So
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  Speaker 3: that was another aspect of me going there are nice girls.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, girls will like me. Oh. If I put myself out.
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  Speaker 3: There, good things can happen in relationships with women. So
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  Speaker 3: I really didn't know what to expect. I was leary
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  Speaker 3: of working being here in a house with women.
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  Speaker 2: And then when you mean, for the most part, it
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  Speaker 2: sounds like most of these women are very kind.
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  Speaker 3: They're very, very very nice. They only got nasty after
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  Speaker 3: the show was over. That was enlightening to me, and
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  Speaker 3: that so you can imagine the few things we touched already,
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  Speaker 3: how much internally was going on within each of us,
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  Speaker 3: whether they consciously know it or not. I'm a little
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  Speaker 3: bit more conscious of it because of my career, but
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  Speaker 3: I was watching all of it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So you mentioned something earlier you were in a
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  Speaker 2: blasting went up to like the bunk rooms, right, something
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  Speaker 2: that is not a secret, but pretty much most of
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  Speaker 2: the people at stay in this house, men or women
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  Speaker 2: when they're a contestant. You're living in a bunk and
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  Speaker 2: at the start, you're definitely having somebody on the top,
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  Speaker 2: you're definitely having somebody at the bottom. It's kind of
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  Speaker 2: spread out all over. Who was the wildest, like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: give us a picture of what this mansion look like.
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  Speaker 4: I was the wildest.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, wildest, Because the wildest I called the ladies that
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  Speaker 3: took care of us outside that would make sure we
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  Speaker 3: didn't go anywhere, I called them my ra And when
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  Speaker 3: I got that mic off, and then I would, I
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  Speaker 3: hate to say this, I would imitate.
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  Speaker 4: Gary all night.
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  Speaker 3: I had those women cracking up, and I'm dancing on
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  Speaker 3: the lake in Indiana and the mud and I'm doing
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  Speaker 3: the dance and you know, and I just had so
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  Speaker 3: much freaking fun.
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  Speaker 4: It was a blast.
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  Speaker 3: And then I got as people got, you know, take
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  Speaker 3: didn't get the rose, and they had to leave. I
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  Speaker 3: took my bed and I pushed it against the other's
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  Speaker 3: beds and we had a big California bed.
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  Speaker 4: Across the whole room. Yeah, we put roses all over them.
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  Speaker 3: And when we got a rose, so I really got
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  Speaker 3: to be silly and funny. Yeah, and I just loved it,
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  Speaker 3: and I like but I like to be silly and
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  Speaker 3: funny anyhow. If I can make you laugh or somebody
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  Speaker 3: laugh every day, then to me, it's a good day.
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  Speaker 2: Oh it's great. So then cameras come off, they leave,
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  Speaker 2: mikes come off. This place just gets even more fun
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  Speaker 2: than it is. Even when the cameras.
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  Speaker 4: Are outd in our room, everybody else went to bed.
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  Speaker 2: What room were you in?
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  Speaker 3: We were upstairs in that top room. It was the
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  Speaker 3: big room with the nice bathroom. But I guess the
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  Speaker 3: other ladies complained about us. At this point, I was
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  Speaker 3: just happy I was here having the experience. Girls are
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  Speaker 3: being nice to me. This is a pretty cool place.
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  Speaker 3: The producers treat you like your gods. I mean, they
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  Speaker 3: really treat you wonderful. I mean, they can't be any nicer.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, so I was having the time of my life.
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  Speaker 3: But you know, I guess other people didn't appreciate us
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  Speaker 3: being up till four am.
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  Speaker 2: I love it it is. It's literally a ct Purney house.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing changes even at our age. Nothing change changes.
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  Speaker 2: Every in one house. Let them have this common interest
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  Speaker 2: in competing for romance, and good things.
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  Speaker 4: Happen, aren't you glad? To hear that this will not
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  Speaker 4: change when you get older.
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  Speaker 2: No, so happy. Well, I have one really one final
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  Speaker 2: question for you, April. So obviously the show's over, yes
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  Speaker 2: it is. What does life look like now for you?
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  Speaker 2: What are you excited about? Oh?
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  Speaker 3: God, okay, right now, after seeing the show tonight, I'm
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  Speaker 3: rethinking again. The real reason I went. I came to
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  Speaker 3: The Bachelor was to find love. And when I saw
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  Speaker 3: the connection with Gary and Teresa and I saw the
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  Speaker 3: love that they did seem to have and all of
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  Speaker 3: that happening, I was deeply immoved and impressed that the
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  Speaker 3: Bachelor did work. I mean, they did seem to find
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  Speaker 3: their person. So I kind of am I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: revisit if I should try to date, because I'm not
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  Speaker 3: dating right now.
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  Speaker 4: I work part time. I work at a drug addiction center.
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  Speaker 4: I do the groups.
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  Speaker 3: Also, I'm still doing a few things for The Bachelor,
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  Speaker 3: and I do a lot of social media. Now I'm
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  Speaker 3: you know, hired someone to help me, and I'm kicking
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  Speaker 3: ass and and I'm just I am rethinking everything, honestly, rethinking,
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  Speaker 3: sitting back and seeing where this goes.
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  Speaker 2: I once Scott Wise advice. I used to work on
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  Speaker 2: the show. They said, use this to enhance the life
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  Speaker 2: you already had, change your life completely.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's what I think I'm doing. I think
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  Speaker 3: I have an audition on Tuesday for a podcast through them.
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  Speaker 3: And but I also know that people can turn on
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  Speaker 3: a dime. They could change their their mind in a minute.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm staying grounded in what I have. I have
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  Speaker 3: a beautiful home, I have a beautiful house. I'm in Florida.
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  Speaker 3: I have a nice little job. I got a nice
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  Speaker 3: gig going on. But I am going to pursue. I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to take dance class. Well I was a dancer
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  Speaker 3: of my whole life, but I'm going to go back
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  Speaker 3: and do that. And falling in love. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: how you guys do it, Like the swipe left and
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  Speaker 3: right and shit and asking.
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  Speaker 4: People out on you know, texting luck. Yeah, it's stupid.
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  Speaker 4: I want to hear your voice. I mean, you're not
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  Speaker 4: using any of your senses. You're using a finger.
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  Speaker 2: It's all physical.
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  Speaker 4: I want to hear you know.
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  Speaker 3: I want to look in your eyes. I want to
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  Speaker 3: hear that voice. I want to, you know, manipulate me.
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  Speaker 3: Come on moves, you know, be nice, not oh baby,
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  Speaker 3: or send me some stupid hearts. How long does it
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  Speaker 3: take you to send a heart like you can do
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  Speaker 3: one hundred and fifty women in two minutes? Come on,
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  Speaker 3: I look stupid, April. Yeah, I mean like, come on, guys,
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  Speaker 3: give me.
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  Speaker 2: Your additions here.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. And girls don't.
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  Speaker 3: Sleep with everybody right away? No wonder they don't want
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  Speaker 3: to marry you. Why should they? Well, God almighty, I
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  Speaker 3: mean women ruined it for themselves.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, this is your show. Your show is going to
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  Speaker 2: be one that I would like to listen to. I
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  Speaker 2: believe we could learn. We can laugh with you, and
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  Speaker 2: we can be surprised with you and buy you, which
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  Speaker 2: would be something.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and love yourself too. And I will say this
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  Speaker 3: for anyone who is listening. You are perfect just the
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  Speaker 3: way you are. You're human. You have done nothing wrong
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  Speaker 3: no matter what has happened in your life. I really
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  Speaker 3: believe it was meant to happen for you to gain
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  Speaker 3: more insight about your truth and live your truth as
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  Speaker 3: long as it doesn't harm anybody. And no matter what, yes,
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  Speaker 3: we will harm people, but it's your intention.
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  Speaker 4: People.
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  Speaker 3: You will be judged inside of your heart, inside of
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  Speaker 3: your own head by I didn't intend for that to happen.
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  Speaker 3: There's a difference in being vicious and an intention. You know,
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  Speaker 3: I have no intention to harm anyone.
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  Speaker 2: Well, one of the beautiful parts about The Golden Bachelor
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  Speaker 2: because I believe a lot of people are going to
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  Speaker 2: benefit from the stories of the women, Gary's story, the
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  Speaker 2: love that came from it. I think it's going to
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  Speaker 2: be a really it has been, at least from my experience,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people have benefited from this airing on television.
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  Speaker 4: I agree.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm excited.
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  Speaker 3: For years ago, I think we're breaking the glass ceiling.
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  Speaker 3: I think there's women and men sitting alone wondering is
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  Speaker 3: there anything left for them? And yes, there is something,
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  Speaker 3: even if it's just to love yourself and to be
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  Speaker 3: happy and to and to try new things. Whatever it is.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't even have to be dating. It could just
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  Speaker 3: be living better, living larger. Don't lean in, fall in.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh, that's worth ending on God bless don't lean in.
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  Speaker 3: Don't lean in, baby, you fall in? What's that's the
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  Speaker 3: worst that can happen? You've already been hurt before.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I've got a wife. It's eleven o'clock at night.
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  Speaker 2: I'm about to not lean in. I'm about to fall in.
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  Speaker 3: Oh good, Yes it is, yes, it is. You can
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  Speaker 3: use anything I have. I'm here to share.
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  Speaker 2: This has been another episode of the Almost Famous podcast.
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  Speaker 2: We have April here. It's eleven o'clock at night. We're
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  Speaker 2: getting ready to go home. Thank you for joining us.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for giving us your time. It means a
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  Speaker 2: lot to us that you came tonight, that you're here,
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  Speaker 2: that you came on the show. You've been a blast
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  Speaker 2: to watch and now to talk to tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much. Time is the only non replaceable
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  Speaker 3: thing that we have. We can never replace time.
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  Speaker 2: So resource that we don't get back exactly.
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  Speaker 4: So with that, the bell is this.
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  Speaker 2: Is famous podcast and I've been Ben. We'll talk to
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  Speaker 2: you next time.
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