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Season 2 - Episode 120 - Allow yourself to ask for help! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the porch because it's too rainy to be at
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  the chicken coop. Although they seem to love the
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  rain, I just don't want to be out there in the rain standing
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  there because it's driving this morning.
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  It's one of those Southern mornings that you have to just
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  deal with sometimes. Okay?
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  So today we're talking about asking for help and when you ask
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  for help, does that is that a sign of weakness?
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  And for a lot of people asking for help is not something that
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  comes easy. They just Side.
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  Hey, I don't want to ask for help, I don't want to seem like
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  I'm bothering anybody. I don't want to seem like I
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  can't handle this on my own. They've got a Litany of excuses.
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  And I'm here to tell you that asking for help is actually a
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  very pointed sign that you are on a spiritual path of growth
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  because you understand that, we are all connected.
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  And that, that is you actually taking control.
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  Role of a situation and saying, I can't do this on my own, I
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  need somebody else's expertise, I need their help.
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  I, I don't care if it's just to drop food off at your house.
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  When you ask for help, you are showing a sign of saying.
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  I am humbling myself to know that I am not an island and that
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  it's okay to ask for help. Now, the flip side of this is,
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  when you ask someone for help, you're actually empowering them
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  on a spiritual level to say, you know what I matter.
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  Person. Get is giving me a piece of
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  their life to say, help me doesn't matter if it's two fold,
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  the towels, or if it's something big, you're asking for help, and
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  you're empowering, whatever that, you know, that person is
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  to you to step up to a different level.
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  It's a win-win situation. Now, sometimes people don't like
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  it. When you ask them for help,
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  they'll say, oh my God, they asked me to help them move or
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  something like this. And you have to question, you
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  know. Okay well did I overstep my
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  boundaries? Sure, there are those moments
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  when we ask for something so big to someone that we barely know.
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  There was a whole Seinfeld episode about that and it was
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  very funny and you know, it probably was right in that
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  situation, you know, it was not something that you were supposed
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  to do and ask somebody to help you move when you barely know
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  them. But for most of us that's not
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  the case. For most of us, this comes down
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  to one. Simple fact, we don't like to
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  ask for help and when we do we feel like we're a burden.
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  And we're not looking at it, from the perspective of this
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  person is going to feel extraordinarily valued by me,
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  actually taking that initiative and asking them for the help and
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  empowering their soul to feel like they're valued and matter.
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  So, again, win-win situation, the real Crux of it is, how do I
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  get myself to say I need help? How do I get myself to actually
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  say? The words?
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  I could use the help. I wish I had the help, I mean
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  It's so funny. How this shows up?
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  Because for years I would not let somebody come in and help me
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  at all. We cleaning I would not.
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  I'm very particular no surprise there and I didn't grow up in a
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  house where my mother ever allowed that either.
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  And I just, you know, this is what I did.
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  And then I realized that the time that it was taking me out
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  of my life to do. This would allow me to
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  essentially do more coaching sessions help What people what
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  was I doing? When I'm kind of plugged it in
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  together and I said, okay I'm going to do this.
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  I put my daughter on the mission.
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  I said, can you please help me find somebody which was my first
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  thing? I didn't want to be the one to
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  look for it because I knew if I was going to look for it, I
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  would be too damn picky. So I let my daughter do it and
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  my daughter found this wonderful woman and her crew and she comes
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  in and they clean. And this woman is so incredibly.
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  Sweet mind you the girls egg. Exile.
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  Whenever they come to clean, the girls from the chicken coop,
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  provide eggs to the girls that come and clean.
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  Everybody's so happy about it. They constantly tell me how much
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  they love to come out here and do this because it's so Serene
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  out here and that it's, it makes them feel good.
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  And I love that they tell me that all the time.
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  You know? And here's the other piece of
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  this, I was able to pass her so many other people to recommend
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  her to. She's honored for the fact that
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  I That I'm honored for it. So I guess what is the house?
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  Always perfect. No, it's not, but I can let go
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  of it because I'm like, you know what?
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  It at least 90% of it is done the way I like it.
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  I can fix the rest of it and I can allow myself to have the
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  help. And for that piece, I can peace
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  of mind so to speak. I can absolutely embrace it.
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  So asking for help no matter how simple the In is, or how dire
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  the situation is, it is something that we have to look
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  at because I promise you, it will change your life, and when
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  you ask for help it empowers people around you.
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  So, ask for some help. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed and much drier day than I'm having
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  bye. And I'll see you tomorrow.