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(#31) 11 HABITS TO MAKE YOU OBSESSED WITH YOUR LIFE ✨ This is Guaranteed to Work · Alignment With Jenn

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  When we want to become creators of our life, we have to become
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  the cause and we have to start seeing how are we creating these
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  positive cascades versus these negative cascades in our life.
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  And so that's really truthfully what this episode's all about.
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  It's about creating positive cascades in your life.
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  OK, hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with
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  Jen podcast. This episode is a really fun one
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  that I'm excited to share with you.
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  I'm going to give you 26 habits that you can implement in your
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  life to really get your spark back and to become obsessed with
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  your life. So I started implementing these
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  different habits over the last few years and really, really
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  ramping them up this past year. And I felt like it caused my
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  life to do this massive jump in quality and just really loving
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  and enjoying every single day. So if you wanna have a glow up,
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  if you want to just feel super good about yourself, super good
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  about your life, to be obsessed with the life that you live now,
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  this episode is for you. And I think you're gonna get so
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  much out of it. What we're going to kind of
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  focus on is basically three different areas.
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  So we're going to talk about the energetics and some tools around
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  energetics. We're going to talk about the
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  body, the physical body of caring for your physical body
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  and also the nervous system as well as your mind.
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  So I guess four, the first habit that I think about is creating a
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  diet that calms your nervous system.
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  So this is not something I usually talk about.
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  I don't usually talk about health or the body, but it is
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  something that I feel goes really, really, really tightly
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  with all of the other things, the mindset things that I talk
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  about. Because what happens is if our
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  body is very dysregulated, right?
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  If we're fueling ourselves with sugar or processed foods or
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  things that 'cause our blood sugar to spike and then drop and
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  then spike and then drop, we're having to work against that in
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  order to regulate our nervous system, calm ourselves, and show
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  up as the version of ourselves that we want.
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  And I am very sensitive. My body's very sensitive to
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  basically everything. And so I notice almost
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  immediately when I am not eating in alignment with my body, I get
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  more puffy. I don't feel as good, I feel
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  lethargic. My sleep is affected.
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  And it creates what I call the cascade effect.
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  So there's like a positive cascade effect and then there's
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  a negative cascade effect. The negative is, let's say that
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  I eat a tub of ice cream before I go to sleep, then I don't
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  sleep as well. Then the next day I wake up and
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  I don't, I'm not as productive in my business.
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  Then my business doesn't do well or as well.
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  And then I think like, what's going on?
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  Why is my business not doing it as well, right?
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  And I'm looking for all these reasons when it was actually
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  that I was just causing my blood sugar to spike before I went to
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  sleep. So I didn't sleep as well and my
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  cortisol was elevated and it was this physical part.
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  I want you to start thinking about your life in terms of
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  these cascades that you're creating, because we're creating
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  cascades all over the place. And oftentimes I think it's
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  human nature. We think of things in isolation
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  where we think of, okay, well, you know, I'm not feeling good
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  in this moment. So what did I do in this moment
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  or the last few moments? We're not thinking about a day
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  before or a week before that actually fed into that moment.
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  And so when we start to stack these positive habits, what
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  happens is we start to create this positive cascade where, OK,
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  let's say I ate something for dinner, maybe like protein and
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  vegetables. I know for me that's super
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  positive and helpful so that I slept better, right?
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  And then I woke up earlier and I was able to do a longer
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  meditation because I woke up earlier.
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  Then I was feeling super creative from this meditation
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  and I released an amazing podcast which connected me with
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  the most amazing client, right? You see this cascade and that
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  cascade could take a week to be created.
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  But we don't often link the cause and the effect of our
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  actions. But when we want to become
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  creators of our life, we have to become the cause.
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  And we have to start seeing how are we creating these positive
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  cascades versus these negative cascades in our life.
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  And so that's really truthfully what this episode is all about.
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  It's about creating positive cascades in your life.
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  And the way I recommend doing this is I recommend keeping a
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  note on your phone. My, I'll shout out to my health
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  coach Meg, who recommended this for me, keeping a note on your
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  phone of what you ate that day, how you exercised and how you
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  felt and just noticing these patterns.
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  And for me, I find it really fun because I'm kind of a nerd.
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  I love it. I think it's so cool to see.
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  OK, well, I ate this and I felt this way or I didn't sleep as
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  well. And then I had this result.
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  Because what you can do is you can kind of tinker with yourself
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  and it's not meant to be something that's super rigid or
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  it has to be perfect, but it's fun.
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  You get to understand yourself better.
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  Keep that note on your phone and you can just notice.
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  How do certain foods make you feel?
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  For me, I know processed foods. I know gluten, I know dairy, I
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  know sugar don't make me feel good.
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  Alcohol doesn't make me feel good.
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  I don't really drink alcohol at all anymore because it doesn't
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  make me feel good and I know it's going to drop my vibration
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  probably the next few days, so I just don't do it.
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  So noticing these things for yourself, I'm not saying
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  anything is good or anything is bad.
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  I'm saying create a diet for yourself that helps you feel
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  really good. And it doesn't mean never having
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  the things that you want to have, but it means being
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  empowered and knowing the results of those things that you
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  enjoy or don't enjoy. So that's the first habit that I
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  personally find has dramatically changed my life in so many ways.
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  The second one is lymphatic drainage.
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  So our lymphatic system does not have a pump and it's essentially
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  A detox system with our body, unlike our heart, which our
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  heart pumps on its own and moves our blood on its own, our
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  lymphatic system does not. And I was talking to one of my
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  friends about this, and he's a doctor, and he said that there's
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  actually a lot of energy that can get stuck in our lymphatic
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  system if we don't move it. So in addition to the toxins
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  within the physical body, it can also cause energy to stagnate
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  within the body when we don't move that lymphatic system.
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  So there's a lot of different ways you can do this.
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  I have found this improves my energy dramatically.
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  It helps me feel prettier, my skin looks better, I feel more
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  slim, I feel less sluggish. I've felt so many benefits from
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  this. So you can go somewhere and you
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  can get a lymphatic drainage massage.
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  I like Brazilian lymphatic drainage massages.
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  If you're in San Diego. If you need a recommendation,
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  you can message me on Instagram and I'll send you a
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  recommendation. You can do dry brushing before
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  you take a shower. That will move your lymphatic
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  system. Movement also works, but I like
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  to have a tool as well that will move it.
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  You can also go on YouTube and find some different lymphatic
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  drainage massages. There's APT on on YouTube.
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  I think her name is the cancer rehab PT and she's got a really
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  good lymphatic drainage massage, but it is going to move your
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  energy system. You are going to feel better,
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  you're going to feel more beautiful, and you can do it a
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  couple times a week for like 10-15 minutes.
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  So that's an amazing tool to have in your back pocket.
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  Another thing that I really like to think about is I like to
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  think about my schedule and optimizing my schedule to
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  support my energy levels. So something I have been
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  thinking a lot about is when I exercise and when I wake up and
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  when I meditate and how those affect my energy level.
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  So what I recommend is if you're able to create a schedule for
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  yourself where you are able to align it with your peaks of your
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  energy. So for me, what I find is that
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  when I exercise at the end of the day before I go to sleep, I
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  feel a lot more tired the next day because apparently what
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  happens is your cortisol goes up two to three times when you
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  exercise late in the day. So I find yes, I'll sleep, but
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  I'll either wake up earlier or I won't have his restful of sleep.
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  And that creates that negative cascade for me the next day.
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  So what I started doing is I started exercising earlier in
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  the day and I have a lot of flexibility.
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  I make my own schedule. So that's possible for me.
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  But I recommend on that little health note that you create
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  noticing when you do different things.
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  How does it affect you? I find the same thing with
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  meditation is my meditations are more effective when they're in
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  the morning or at night, not as much in the middle of the day.
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  So noticing when these different habits are benefiting you versus
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  not. And this is all about how do I
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  actually begin to work with myself and create a lot of
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  positive results for myself versus work against myself and
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  work against my biology and my mindset.
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  So another habit that I love is reading 10 pages a day.
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  I started this habit a few years ago and it's helped me to read a
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  lot of books every single year. You will improve your
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  vocabulary, you will become smarter, you will become more
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  creative, you will feel more connected.
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  And you also are flooding in more of those positive inputs
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  when you allow yourself to read more books.
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  And I'm not talking about reading on your phone.
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  I'm talking about physical books, so you reduce the screen
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  time, you're not scrolling because scrolling can create
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  stress in our mind. It can create a lot of
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  comparison. And so we're replacing it with
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  reading a book, which is really calming for the nervous system.
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  It's really peace creating. I love that one.
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  Another one that I really like to do is I like to romanticize
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  my life. So the way that I do this is I
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  try to do it in lots of different moments, like when I'm
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  driving somewhere, I will get myself like a nice little drink
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  in the car or put a nice song on.
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  Or I have like on Monday mornings, I love going to my
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  favorite Cafe and planning out the podcast that I'm going to do
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  that week. And I make it special.
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  I have a certain latte that I like.
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  I love having these little moments throughout my week where
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  there's things that I get to look forward to and it makes me
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  feel like a little bit of a movie.
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  And a really powerful way to do this is to think about what are
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  some moments that you want from your future life?
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  Maybe it's that when you have kids you'll go to the park, so
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  maybe you have a certain time of the week where you go and you
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  just walk in the park. To be in that energy, to be in
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  that frequency, think about in your future life, maybe you'll
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  walk in a certain neighborhood, so maybe you go walk in that
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  neighborhood. Or maybe when you quit your nine
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  to five, you're going to be able to work in cafes.
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  So maybe you figure out a certain time, maybe a Sunday
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  morning where you can go work in a cafe.
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  So you're plugging yourself into that frequency of your future
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  life. Or maybe if you're manifesting
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  love, you imagine yourself going on these sunset walks on the
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  beach with your future partner. So maybe you go take yourself on
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  those sunset walks and you play a song and you just imagine what
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  it would feel like to be with that person.
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  Not only are you going to feel amazing, but you're going to
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  collapse time between your future life and the now.
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  Another habit that will improve your energy as well throughout
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  the day is just drinking water as soon as you wake up.
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  And so many of these are so easy to implement that what happens
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  is as you stack these habits, you get all of these little
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  dopamine hits and you create this massive positive cascade
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  because you're essentially constantly winning.
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  I heard this video years ago of Michael Phelps talking about how
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  he would prepare for the Olympics, essentially, and he
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  started preparing years before because what he would do is he'd
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  wake up in the morning, he'd always make his bed, he'd always
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  have the same morning routine, have the same thing for
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  breakfast, and he'd never miss. So it was like he did this,
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  check that off, he did this, check that off.
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  He did this, check that off. So what he's doing is he's
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  creating this cascade of all of these positive moments
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  throughout the day. Then as he creates those
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  positive moments, then what he's doing is then he goes to swim
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  practice and he gets in the pool, he completes his workout.
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  So he's creating essentially this string of wins for himself.
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  So then when he gets in the pool to race, he's already won
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  everything else that morning, the day before, the week before.
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  So he gets in the pool and of course he's going to win because
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  he always does what he says he's going to do.
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  He always wins. So that's what you're doing when
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  you put in these easy wins like waking up and drinking 10 ounces
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  of water immediately when you wake up is so easy to do.
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  It takes no time at all. You're creating this positive
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  momentum to become the winner of your life, right?
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  You'll become the Michael Phelps of your life.
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  That always inspired me thinking about it in terms of that of
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  these small wins, right? Making your bed in the morning
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  makes a difference because you get that little dopamine hit and
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  you think subconsciously to yourself, like, I'm somebody who
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  makes her bed. I'm somebody who follows
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  through. I'm somebody who, you know,
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  keeps my space clean. There's all these positive
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  associations with it. And so you're building that
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  momentum for the person you want to be in all of these micro
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  moments. Another fun thing that I did
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  this past year was I got a color analysis.
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  And if you look back at my Instagram content, you'll see my
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  hair was lighter. I dyed my hair a little bit
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  darker and I got a color analysis of the clothes that
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  were more in my season. And I found this so fun because
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  I almost think of it as like, you are creating this new
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  identity of this new version of yourself that you want to be.
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  And so you have that old chapter that you can look at and when
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  you look at photos, you actually see a physical difference.
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  So it's fun. It makes you feel pretty.
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  It is just a really fun thing to do for yourself and to gift
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  yourself as you're creating this new chapter, this new version of
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  you. I loved doing that.
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  I highly recommend doing that. And then another thing that I
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  think is also really valuable to do as well is to clean out your
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  spaces. So your physical items that you
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  own, clothes, shoes, jewelry, books, all of these things that
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  you own old notebooks carry an energetic frequency, right?
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  This is why people go visit relics is because relics hold
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  energy from the Saints or the place, the spiritual place or
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  whatever it might have been. Your stuff holds that energy
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  too. And so if you're holding on to a
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  lot of old stuff from old past versions of yourself, it's going
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  to be harder to let that go. I recommend doing a big old
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  cleaning out a few times a year where you're just getting rid of
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  that old stuff, especially if you haven't done it in a while,
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  to not only make space for the new, but also to clear out the
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  old and open up your frequency, open up your your vibration.
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  Another thing that I highly, highly recommend is just doing a
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  daily visualization. And this could be you put on a
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  song and you do it for 5 minutes.
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  And what you're doing is visualizing that version of
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  yourself in the future. You're just connecting to how
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  you want to feel, how you would move through the world as that
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  version of you, because your mind doesn't know the difference
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  between what's real and imagined.
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  So when you plug in to that future version of you, you are
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  teaching your mind, you're teaching your brain, you're
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  rewiring yourself to actually become that person.
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  What are micro moments you can picture?
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  How would you show up as that version of you?
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  And what you will find is the more you do it, the more you
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  start to easily become that person throughout your life.
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  Another thing I highly recommend doing is taking some form of
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  dance class. So I really like taking sensual
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  dance classes. I think that it's so empowering
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  for women to connect with their body in that way and feel into
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  your feminine energy in a way that feels super, super good.
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  If you've never done it before, you can start with a more mellow
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  like a Zumba or something like that.
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  In San Diego, we have a place called Madhouse that I really
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  like to go. It's like cardio dance, but it's
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  kind of sexy. It's super fun finding something
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  like that. Typically the studios are only
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  women, so it feels super, super safe is going to connect you to
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  a new aspect of yourself. It's going to connect you to
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  this more feminine, this more free, this fun version of you
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  who's not so stuck in the 3D and the to do's and the society.
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  That's something I absolutely love.
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  If you do do and you love it, message me.
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  I'd love to hear your experience.
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  I love it. There's also's factor you can
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  check out's factors online. It's slower, more sensual dance,
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  but there is something so amazing and so powerful about
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  connecting to that aspect of yourself as a woman, especially
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  if you've never done it. Another habit that I recommend
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  is journaling before you go to sleep and you can do it for
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  literally 3 minutes and you basically write down three
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  things. One is you do self
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  acknowledgement. So you acknowledge yourself and
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  say I'm proud of myself for a couple of things you did that
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  day. It's going to make you feel
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  super good. It's going to teach your mind to
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  look for things to be proud of for you.
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  Then you write down a couple things you're grateful for.
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  Of course, we know gratitude research has shown that
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  gratitude rewires your brain to find things to be grateful for.
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  It makes you happier. It's such an easy win to check
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  off of your bucket list. And then the last one I
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  recommend is think about, OK, how do I want to show up
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  tomorrow as that future version of myself?
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  So is there anything I did today that I would like to change for
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  tomorrow? That's sort of how I think about
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  that last one. And something I have seen is
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  that this is a practice that a lot of really success people
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  will talk about that they do is that they'll reflect on the day
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  and notice things that they're proud of and things that they
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  would like to adjust for tomorrow.
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  Another really, really simple habit that I love as well is
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  just walking daily. And I love to walk as my future
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  self. So I love to walk my dog and
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  really think about an anchor into the version of me that I
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  want to be in the future. And if I had what it was that I
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  wanted, now, how would I show up?
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  How would I walk in this moment? What would I be thinking about?
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  What emotions would I be feeling?
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  It is so fun. It will make you addicted to
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  walking. And then another one that I find
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  very, very valuable as well. And this is something that I've
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  heard a lot of, like biohackers talk about on podcasts, is
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  getting morning sunlight. So it helps to set your
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  circadian rhythm so you have more energy throughout the day.
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  You fall asleep more easily at night and so if you can do that
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  walk in the morning, get that warning sunlight, you are going
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  to feel more energized, you are going to feel better.
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  When I was in college and I was really depressed, I was just, I
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  was having a hard time getting out of bed, all sorts of stuff
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  like that. I started a habit of just riding
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  my bike in the morning to go to campus and I found that that
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  alone helped so much of my depression.
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  All of these habits seem so, so, so simple, but the idea is that
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  these habits are part of a large under cascade of who you are
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  becoming and the life you're creating for yourself.
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  So what I recommend is just think about a couple of these
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  habits from this episode that I've shared or a couple of
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  habits that you're like, I've been wanting to do that, but I
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  haven't done it. And start to do them and start
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  to intentionally notice what's the positive ripple effect of
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  doing this habit? Because what you're going to see
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  is that you'll want to do it more when you start to link it
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  to all of the positive benefits in your life.
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  So I hope that you have loved that I've loved doing this
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  episode for you. And if you would love to learn
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  more about my work, you can always follow me on Instagram at
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  alignment with Jen. I would love to hear your
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  reviews on the episode. Any questions that you have,
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  please comment or review on the episode and I'll see you in the
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  next one.