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Episode 44 - Moving In Silence and Tell No One How You are Moving and Doing. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello everybody. Welcome to you Minding your Own Business.
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  Speaker 1: It's a s A J dot M A r I
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  Speaker 1: A M A zero one at gmail dot com. A
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  Speaker 1: little bit about me. I'm a sort of fire recovery,
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  Speaker 1: healing and recovery coach. An addiction coach is all about
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  Speaker 1: helping people in their past and their journeys to a
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  Speaker 1: new and better us through self discovery. I like to
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  Speaker 1: help people on this podcast. It's exactly what it is.
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  Speaker 1: You minding your own business instead of you trying to
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  Speaker 1: be like everybody else. You being yourself instead of you
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  Speaker 1: trying to fit somebody else's mode, or luring yourself, or
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  Speaker 1: being Captain saber Hose, build a bears, build dolls, seat fillers,
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  Speaker 1: people pleasers, you trying to go through all these hoops
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  Speaker 1: and bounds and doing any and everything. Just be love, liked,
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  Speaker 1: to appreciate it, valued, want it needed to be a
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  Speaker 1: part of something, to be validated, to be approved of,
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  Speaker 1: to be accepted for somebody know you're worth improving some
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  Speaker 1: to people.
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  Speaker 2: You just focus on you.
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  Speaker 1: Now, today's podcast, it's probably gonna hit people a little deep.
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  Speaker 1: And this is gonna be about you finding your way
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  Speaker 1: back to you. And when I say that, it means
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  Speaker 1: that you going from being a the world to being
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  Speaker 1: of yourself. Instead of you trying to please everybody else,
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  Speaker 1: instead of you trying to make everybody else money, instead
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  Speaker 1: of you trying to make everybody else happy, instead of
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  Speaker 1: you trying to lower yourself to build everybody else up,
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  Speaker 1: making sure everybody else is good, You're gonna be taking
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  Speaker 1: care of yourself. The one thing about recovery is bringing
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  Speaker 1: yourself back to you. And this is when you've been
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  Speaker 1: out there in the world for a while, and you
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  Speaker 1: say to yourself, I've had enough with being out here
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  Speaker 1: in the world.
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  Speaker 2: Now I want.
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  Speaker 1: To come back to God, or I would like to
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  Speaker 1: say besides that, coming back to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Now, why is that important?
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  Speaker 1: Because majority of the time we have not been who
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  Speaker 1: we are.
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  Speaker 2: We have been who everybody else wants us to be.
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  Speaker 1: Because when you're in a relationship with somebody, it's not
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  Speaker 1: just about what you want and what you're looking for.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes to people is also about what they expect.
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  Speaker 1: The problem is a lot of people are living lives
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  Speaker 1: and they're not being who they truly are. They're not
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  Speaker 1: showing a person who and what they truly are, who
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  Speaker 1: and what they really look like their characters. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people are dumbing themselves down in order to build
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  Speaker 1: other people up. You're taking care of other people, paying
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  Speaker 1: for trips, doing everything for everybody else instead of keeping
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  Speaker 1: your money to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: There was something I'm looking at now.
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  Speaker 1: Where this guy talks about how when you make money,
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  Speaker 1: you don't tell nobody, and you don't you don't say
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  Speaker 1: nothing nobody about what you do.
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  Speaker 2: Well.
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  Speaker 1: Part of recovery and healing is whatever you do, you
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  Speaker 1: go Number one, move in silence.
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  Speaker 2: Number two.
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  Speaker 1: You not going to be worrying about everybody else and
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  Speaker 1: what they got going on. You are only worried about yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about in a selfish way. I
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  Speaker 1: am talking about non negotial and boundaries. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: people do not have boundaries when it comes to people.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't have non negotiables, and or
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  Speaker 1: they do, and they'll go against their non negotiables just
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  Speaker 1: to be.
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  Speaker 2: In a relationship with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: People think that being alone is this terrible thing when
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  Speaker 1: it all actuality is not. That's what we've been told,
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  Speaker 1: But that's a lie. A lot of people need to
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  Speaker 1: be alone to get themselves where they need to be. Now,
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  Speaker 1: when I think about being alone, I mean nobody's around you,
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  Speaker 1: nobody's your friend, nobody's there to help you, and you
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  Speaker 1: are on your own. But that's not always the case.
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  Speaker 1: Even though you may be alone, that don't mean you're lonely.
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  Speaker 1: So when it comes to you mind your own business,
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  Speaker 1: what that means is you are now doing for yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You are now building something that is yours. You are
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  Speaker 1: now doing something that you love, something that makes you happy.
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  Speaker 1: Something where you made money and you're able to live
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  Speaker 1: the lifestyle that you want to live. And the one
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  Speaker 1: thing I'm learning about everything that's going on in politics,
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  Speaker 1: we've been bamboozled and led astray. And so the fact
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  Speaker 1: that always when people say when people show you who they.
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  Speaker 2: Are, believe them.
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  Speaker 1: Now, a lot of people don't know that that's a
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  Speaker 1: double edged sword.
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  Speaker 2: Let me explain.
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  Speaker 1: Some people show you a representation of themselves and other
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  Speaker 1: people show you who they truly are. But how do
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  Speaker 1: you know which one is the real person that's gonna
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  Speaker 1: come in time? So when you start to see things
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  Speaker 1: their mind, you of your ex walk away. Then if
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  Speaker 1: you see that it's not gonna end, well, walk away.
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  Speaker 1: There's no point of trying to stay with somebody don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be kept. There's no sense of being with
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  Speaker 1: somebody's being with multiple people. It's no sense being with
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  Speaker 1: somebody don't respect you, don't honor you, and don't honor
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  Speaker 1: the vows that y'all took when you when y'all got married. No,
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's not worth staying
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  Speaker 1: with somebody that doesn't make you happy. There's no point
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  Speaker 1: of going through hoops and bounds to make this person
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  Speaker 1: happy and going through all of these things to please
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  Speaker 1: this person when they're not reciprocating it to you. So
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people are in these relationships that God
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  Speaker 1: didn't choose for you. God didn't choose these people. Now,
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  Speaker 1: mind you, your family, you can't choose them when they
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  Speaker 1: come to biologically. But that don't mean you can't choose
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  Speaker 1: your family. You can have family and not be related
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  Speaker 1: to one of not any of them, but they feel
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  Speaker 1: like more like family than your own family do.
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  Speaker 2: And that's okay too.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like today, I made pasta sell it last
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  Speaker 1: night and I don't even know what happened. I know
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  Speaker 1: in the next day, I started feeling horrible and I
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  Speaker 1: ended up, you know, having to take advantage real and
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why. My throat just started feeling bad
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  Speaker 1: so I couldn't eat it. I gotta throw it out.
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  Speaker 2: But what did that teach me?
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  Speaker 1: That teach me that I'm gonna have to start making
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  Speaker 1: my own condiments. I'm going to start making my own creamers.
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  Speaker 1: I've got to start making my own juices. Yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: part because there is something in these foods in the
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  Speaker 1: grocery store that are literally irritating my throat, literally irritating
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  Speaker 1: it to the point of swelling.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't know why.
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  Speaker 1: I can't explain it, but they say that it may
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  Speaker 1: not be allergies, but I don't know what it could be.
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  Speaker 1: And if anybody doctor can tell me, please let me know.
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  Speaker 1: So when you get to the point that you can't
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  Speaker 1: even eat or drink anything because or whatever is in
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  Speaker 1: it that's causing your throat to act, to act up
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  Speaker 1: and ask a whole another conversation. But when you are
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  Speaker 1: out here, and I'll give you an example, you may
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  Speaker 1: have somebody that got accepted into a gym camp. The
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  Speaker 1: problem is the girls. They don't like you. So even
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  Speaker 1: though you got picked that people on the team don't
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  Speaker 1: like you. And I asked myself that question, Why would
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  Speaker 1: I go somewhere that I'm not wanted even though I
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  Speaker 1: have a talent, even though I'm good, These people don't
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  Speaker 1: want me there. So it'd be better if you have
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  Speaker 1: somebody there to have me mail or someone there's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be an understand And like I said, you know, when
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  Speaker 1: you have people that are trying to be like everybody else,
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  Speaker 1: trying to be loved so bad, you don't understand your
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  Speaker 1: damaging yourself when you're sitting at here and you're going
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  Speaker 1: to work every day. This person is at home spending
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  Speaker 1: your money. This person is at home doing absolutely nothing
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  Speaker 1: but try at work. You know how envious that that is.
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  Speaker 1: That I'm up here working while you're sitting home. Now,
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  Speaker 1: it's one thing if the person is at home, but
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  Speaker 1: they own a business and when you leave their working,
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  Speaker 1: when they come home, they're still working.
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  Speaker 2: That's one thing.
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  Speaker 1: When you see in the dollar signs that support it.
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  Speaker 1: It's a whole other thing when you don't. So, like
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  Speaker 1: I said, I get it. And like I said, when
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  Speaker 1: it comes down to being a gymnast and these girls
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  Speaker 1: don't like you, even though you got chosen, that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean that that person don't that person likes you. Just
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  Speaker 1: because somebody chooses you does not mean that you're.
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  Speaker 2: Supposed to be there.
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  Speaker 1: So it doesn't always mean that you're supposed to be
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  Speaker 1: anywhere because of the fact that somebody shows you. That
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  Speaker 1: means absolutely nothing, to be honest. So, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: me personally is if I get chosen, but yet the
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  Speaker 1: people that I'm going to be working with, the people
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  Speaker 1: that I'm going to be doing anything with the answer
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  Speaker 1: is going to be no, asal not so.
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  Speaker 2: July.
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  Speaker 1: Today, I was looking at some clothes and looking at
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  Speaker 1: a few things that I'm getting ready to buy because
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  Speaker 1: next year I don't plan on buy nothing, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: getting ready to start my business, starting new motivational speaking,
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  Speaker 1: starting to do that.
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  Speaker 2: So I have to change my look.
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  Speaker 1: I decide on changing my look altogether, and I like
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  Speaker 1: to do the new look that I'm going with. If
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't feeling well today, I probably would have exercised day,
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  Speaker 1: but I didn't, and I might get up and do
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  Speaker 1: a couple of squads before I go to bed.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, like I said.
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  Speaker 1: You know, when it comes to getting away from society
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  Speaker 1: and becoming a person that you are going to become,
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  Speaker 1: none of your family and friends or anybody else is
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  Speaker 1: going to be with you while you're doing They're just
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  Speaker 1: not and they don't need to be because they are
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  Speaker 1: they gonna stop, they' gonna try to stop you from
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  Speaker 1: doing it, or they're gonna want to be a part
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  Speaker 1: of it. So when that person said to shut up
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  Speaker 1: and not say nothing about whatever you got going on,
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  Speaker 1: I suggest you don't. If you're trying to own your
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  Speaker 1: own business, I suggest you just don't even say nothing,
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  Speaker 1: just go ahead and do it, because that's like saying
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  Speaker 1: you're telling your supervisor you got a whole another business,
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  Speaker 1: and your supervisor ends up letting you go because you
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  Speaker 1: have a business, even though your business ain't up and
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  Speaker 1: really running as off. Yet the point is you shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: say nothing to them. That's like saying that your social media.
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  Speaker 1: They want access to your social media for what Why
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  Speaker 1: do you need to see what's on my social media?
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  Speaker 2: So you gotta be real mindful of stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: Because they look for stuff like that, They look for
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  Speaker 1: your social media. So again, a lot of people are
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  Speaker 1: not with people for the right reasons. So when you
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  Speaker 1: start seeing things for what they are when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to other people, then you can make your decision based
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  Speaker 1: upon that. But when you don't, but when you see
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  Speaker 1: them the way you want to see them, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: go above and beyond for people that's not even worth you.
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  Speaker 1: You're not point blame, period, you just not. So, like
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  Speaker 1: I said, it's sad, But at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: there are consequences and repercause. In Caromeena, every action behavior,
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  Speaker 1: choicing the decision. So when it comes to other people.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong being around people, but there's just certain
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  Speaker 1: things that no matter what, I'm sorry, I can't do.
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  Speaker 1: Another example of this is a person that worked hard
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  Speaker 1: to get through cancer and they're in remission and the
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  Speaker 1: cancer comes back. You did everything, you thought you did
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  Speaker 1: everything right, and now the cancer is back, and now
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  Speaker 1: it's spreading. Well, the reason it's spreading is because number one,
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  Speaker 1: the digestive system is compromised by all the chemicals in
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  Speaker 1: our foods, and most of these chemicals are what caused
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  Speaker 1: cancer in the first place.
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  Speaker 2: And instead of the.
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  Speaker 1: United States getting rid of all of these things that
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  Speaker 1: basically are causing these issues, they continue to sell it
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  Speaker 1: in the store. Why because they're afraid to go up
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  Speaker 1: against these these rich and wealthy people are saying, y'all
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  Speaker 1: need to stop selling and stuff, but yet we continue
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  Speaker 1: to eat it.
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  Speaker 2: It's just like with liquor. You ain't supposed to drinking liquor.
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  Speaker 1: Liquor messes up your liver and your kidneys, and yet
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  Speaker 1: people continue to drink anyway. So if you're somebody that
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  Speaker 1: does research, then you know I ain't doing that no moment.
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  Speaker 1: I'll still do certain things, but I'm not gonna do
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  Speaker 1: that it ain't nothing wrong with that. So if you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to do it, don't. So that's the way
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  Speaker 1: I look at it. So again, you gotta, I know,
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to feelings that we want to see
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  Speaker 1: things and we want these particular people and we want
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  Speaker 1: them to be in our life, whether it's friends, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's our parents, siblings, whatever, And we want these people
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  Speaker 1: to be in our lives and we want them to
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  Speaker 1: care about us, we want them to love us, But
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  Speaker 1: in all actuality, they don't, and I don't think that
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  Speaker 1: they probably more than likely probably never will. So when
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  Speaker 1: you accept that, life is a lot better for you,
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  Speaker 1: when you accept the fact that the people that you
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  Speaker 1: want to love you back, they more than likely won't.
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  Speaker 1: And the only thing they gonna do is just use you.
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  Speaker 2: That's about it.
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  Speaker 1: They're gonna use you, take advantage of you, and then
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  Speaker 1: after they take everything that can take from you, then
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  Speaker 1: they're gonna bounce. So at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes you gotta accept the fact that there may be
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  Speaker 1: certain groups that you don't need to be around.
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  Speaker 2: Certain groups.
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  Speaker 1: If you ain't got nothing in common with these people,
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  Speaker 1: you don't need to be around them at all. Because
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  Speaker 1: I'm here to tell you these people will get you
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of trouble. And then guess who's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be bailing you out. It ain't gonna be them, It's
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: gonna be your mom and them. The same people that
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  Speaker 1: that sat there and told you lead them people alone,
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  Speaker 1: the same ones that told you them people wasn't no
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  Speaker 1: good and you didn't listen. So, like I said, is
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  Speaker 1: there anything wrong with having people that that's the eyes
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  Speaker 1: behind your your head.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: Is there anything wrong with having people that's telling you
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  Speaker 1: that something ain't right.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: But at the same time, there are also people that
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  Speaker 1: you may think that got your back, that are leading
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  Speaker 1: you down the wrong direction, leading you in a place
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  Speaker 1: that you don't want to go, making you go against
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  Speaker 1: everything that is right to do something wrong. Trust me,
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  Speaker 1: I've seen it multiple times. I've seen it enough to know,
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  Speaker 1: so I do understand when people say, well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just looking out for your best interest.
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  Speaker 2: Where were you when I was doing it?
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  Speaker 1: It's like, it's this one story I was listening to
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  Speaker 1: today and these are African stories, and it's this one
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  Speaker 1: about this one girl whose father sold her patent for
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  Speaker 1: fifteen hundred dollars, didn't even realize how much that patent was.
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  Speaker 2: Worse, but sold it for fifteen hundred dollars.
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  Speaker 1: She had to recreate a whole nother patent and it
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  Speaker 1: ended up having a billion dollar business. And then the
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  Speaker 1: father and the mama come back time out. They wanted
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  Speaker 1: to try to get money off her, trying to get
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  Speaker 1: her to help her brother. She was like, no, you
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  Speaker 1: already sold my business. So I already sold my patent.
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  Speaker 1: Why in the world would I let you it close
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  Speaker 1: to me again. I'm not doing no fool me once.
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  Speaker 2: Shame on me. Shame on you fool me twice.
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  Speaker 1: No, you already fooled me once when you sold my
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  Speaker 1: patent for fifteen hundred dollars, not knowing it was worth millions,
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  Speaker 1: and yet you sold it now all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 1: Now you want me to give you money. Then they
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  Speaker 1: time money, were gonna sue her, and so she said, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you one hundred and fift thousand dollars for
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  Speaker 1: non disclosure. And so even though they didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: do it, the brother's like, no, y'all gonna do it
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  Speaker 1: because it ain't right after everything y'all did to her,
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  Speaker 1: y'all need to make it basically make it right. So
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  Speaker 1: even though they signed it, that don't mean that they
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  Speaker 1: not gonna continuously try to sue.
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  Speaker 2: But she got it so they can't sue again.
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  Speaker 1: So she gave them a hundred thousand dollars and so
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  Speaker 1: and have them sign a non disclosure as she should.
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  Speaker 1: But a lot of people don't do that. They don't
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  Speaker 1: get people to sign non disclosures.
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  Speaker 2: They don't.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, you have to nowadays, you have to
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  Speaker 1: because the way if you cross people, or you don't
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  Speaker 1: give them what they want, or you decide to not
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  Speaker 1: have nothing to do with them, they are gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: all your business, every single bit of your business. That's
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  Speaker 1: just what they're gonna do. And then when they tell
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  Speaker 1: all your business, they don't care and they will sell
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: your business to the highest bidder. Everything you told them, everything,
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: private moments, all of that they gonna tell. Delight with
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj, everything that's going on with her. People are
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: now speaking out. So again, if you don't have an NDA,
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: these people speaking and they are gonna get paid for it.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: And like I said, it's just like the Gucci man
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: and the Kisha k R situation. They spoke out about
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: schizophrenia and yet instilled people making it seem like she's
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: a handler.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Tom. It couldn't have been me.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: But my old thing is when you with somebody for
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: better or worse, what you think better or worse, is
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: better or worse? Is you there to be there for
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: them to support them people. Now, I'm not saying that
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: schizophrenia is not dangerous. I'm not gonna sit there and
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: say that you gotta be very careful, but there are
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: some people that will stick by a person despite.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: What they're going through.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: They will be there and they will have their back
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: and they will support them through everything that they're going through,
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: which is what is doing.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: And I'm not mad at it. Now explains why she's
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: with him all the time. Now it makes more sense.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Now I understand why she's with him all the time,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: why she's on stage with him all the time.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Now it makes sense. But yet, what the first thing
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: that people did.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: They started criticizing it instead of trying to understand and
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: try to instead of trying to get.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: Some type of learning from it.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: No, they were on social media, pure tea, just disrespecting her,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: just spat her hug and like I said, I don't
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: like stuff like that. People claim they want to heal,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: people claim they want to learn from other people, But
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: then as soon as they put something out in there,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: you're quick to judge, you're quick to ridicule that person
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: because they decided to put something out there.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: And that's why a lot of people don't put nothing
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: nothing at the more because y'all rid of kill.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: People, you hurt people, y'all do all these things that
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: don't make no sense and don't and don't. So at
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, all this stuff that's going
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: on is just pretty much a lie because there's nothing
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: that said that you have to pay for land or
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: pay for anything else, but you do so at the
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: end of the day, I'm not surprised by the fact
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: that a lot of people, even when they heal, even
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: when they get better, even though they're trying to uplift
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: themselves else, it's the same nonsense, the same nonsense. So again,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: the one thing about negative people, they're not gonna rest
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: till they can get you to do whatever they want
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: you to do. So no, So I do agree with
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: the fact that when it comes down to you trying
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: to basically essentially be the best version of yourself, or
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: when you make it. A lot of people are gonna
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: be in your vice because you made it, not because
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: of you, because you made it, and you think they
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: think that they can basically leach off you. Now you
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: might have a situation where you might have somebody trying
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: to move into your house. You leave town and you
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: come back, your sisters in your house. You don't even
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: know how she got into the house. Goin to find out,
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: your mama gave her key. So while you're paying the rent,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: that person that living rent f in your house. And
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: then it's to the point now.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be hard to get them out.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: So yeah, that's crazy. So the end thing I'm gonna
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: do is just sit back and just watch because this
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: is ridiculous. But I'm not mad, mat even what said,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do me be me no matter what.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: That's just it on that.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: So when they come to these situations, you are an individual,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: You're not a group. So yeah, you may have been
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: born by your mom and them, but you're still an individual.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: So that's all I can say on that. But I
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: ain't gonna be on here for too long.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: I just want to come out here real quickly and
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: just say to you, mind your own business. Y'all gotta
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: stop worrying about other people. And like I said, going
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: back to Gucci, going back to Chris Brown and Kevin McCall,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: you can tell that Kevin McCall them drugs or whatever
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: it was done got to him. He is upset because
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: bryceon Tailor bought Chris.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Brown a car.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: Well, Kevin, you had it made with Chris, whatever it was,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: it was disagreement. You just made it worse. I don't
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: know why you just didn't go talk to him after
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: this situation happened. That way, none of this would have
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: been an issue. Everything would have been good between y'all
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: and there will be no issues. But no, so all
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: I'm saying that, y'all is you gotta be an individual.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: You gotta be able to stand ten toes down on
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: your own. You gotta be able to take the consequence
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: and repercussion karma of your action, behavior, choice and decisions.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to understand that you sometimes you have
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: to stand alone sometimes.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: Now everybody can go with you on the journey.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: You gotta let God bring the people that's meant to
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: be in your life mental help. Don't get me wrong,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: The devil with send people too, but you got de
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: termin which ones which. So but it's crazy. Like I said,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: the only thing we all can do right now is pray.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: The only thing we all can do is try to
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: be the best version of ourselves. And that's pretty much
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: that is the only thing monesstor we can do because
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, sometimes you gotta walk
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: to the be of your own drum. Sometimes you gotta
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: walk away from the grains. Sometimes you gotta create something
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: that is your own. Sometimes you gotta build something that
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: is your own. Sometimes you're gonna be raising kids by yourself,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: so there will be a time where you'll be alone.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: But it's also the heal and to remove the negativity
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: that's in the relationship.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: So yeah, So all.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: I can say is is that this stuff happens, so
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: be mindful of that. So all I can say about you,
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: know you, being the best version of you is not
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: worrying about what everybody else got to say, what everybody
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: else got to do, what everybody else got going on.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Just focus on you, walk to the beat of your
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: own dumb do what makes you happy, and be the
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: best version of you.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: And even though a lot of people ain't gonna like it,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: So what who cares?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: The point is you do as long as you know
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: what you're getting into, long as you do the right thing,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: long as you don't get distribued by women, you should
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: be good. And with that being said, I'm gonna go
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: mana be my business everything. So, like I said, there's
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: no consequence for negative behaviors. So, like I said, people
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: will always get away with certain things cause they'll always
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: be somebody's gonna back them up, always gonna be somebody
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: that's always going to protect them, always think they're better
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: than the last person, and that's just what they're gonna do.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, like I said,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: just do the best you can, be the best bird
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: you can, and just try to do whatever you can.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: And with that being said, in bed, I will see
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: y'all next time. I love y'all. I appreciate y'all, and
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: I thank y'all so much for joining me for this episode.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I'm your host Scott as I'm Ashamyama. I think the
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: appreciate y'all. If I didn't have been a dream on system,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: i'd have been you know, did this but or any
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: access to it. So so with that being said, I
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: will see y'all next time.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: Bye y'all.