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Episode 23 - You Minding Your Own Business By Stop Trying To Building Bears and Dolls. · You Minding Your Own Business

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, hello ever buddy. Welcome to you Minding your
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Speaker 1: Own Business. I'm your host, Scottish Austion Mary. I'm'a thank
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Speaker 1: forest Le's my name A Saha m A r Iam
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Speaker 1: am a certified recovery and healing coach as well as
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Speaker 1: a spiritual coach and a couple other coaches that I'm
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Speaker 1: this episode. This particular podcast, it's all about the importance
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Speaker 1: of healing and recovering from you minding your own business,
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Speaker 1: not worrying about what other people think, what other people
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Speaker 1: have to say, not letting people's words get the best
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Speaker 1: of you, not letting the power of the ton of
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Speaker 1: someone else dictate what your life is supposed to be,
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Speaker 1: and not worrying whether somebody else tells your story or not.
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Speaker 1: People can tell your story and say whatever it is
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Speaker 1: they want to. The point is, nobody can tell your
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Speaker 1: story the way you tell your story. Nobody can tell
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Speaker 1: your story the way that you tell your story. So
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Speaker 1: even though a lot of people think that they can
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Speaker 1: tell your story, they can't. Nobody can tell your story
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Speaker 1: the way you tell it because nobody knows your story
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Speaker 1: the way you do. And even though a lot of
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Speaker 1: people may say they can tell your story, trust me,
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Speaker 1: they can't. But a lot of people can try. They
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Speaker 1: absolutely can try. But at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: this particular episode is about you not worrying about people
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Speaker 1: trying to tell your story. No one else can tell
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Speaker 1: your story the way you tell your story. Nobody else
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Speaker 1: knows what you've been through except you and the other
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Speaker 1: people involved. People can only tell their version of certain things,
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Speaker 1: but it doesn't mean that their version is true. There's
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Speaker 1: your version, everybody else's version, and then there's the evidence
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Speaker 1: that supports either side, and then there's truth. That's why
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Speaker 1: you have prosecution, and then you got defense attorneys. Now
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Speaker 1: you're gonna have a lot of people, especially when you
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Speaker 1: get in the limelight, that's gonna have a lot of
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Speaker 1: things to say about you, a lot of things that
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Speaker 1: may be negative, may be positive. And the one thing
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Speaker 1: I learned in my own recovery is that you might
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Speaker 1: have people to have more negative things say about you
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Speaker 1: than they do positive. You're gonna have people that's going
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Speaker 1: to try to break you down, leach off, you take
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Speaker 1: advantage of you and trying to make it seem like
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Speaker 1: you're not good enough and that you're not worthy. Well,
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Speaker 1: I'm here to tell you I don't pay stuff like
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Speaker 1: that no attention. To be honest, I just don't because
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Speaker 1: at the end of the day, the way I live
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Speaker 1: my life is the way that I choose to live
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Speaker 1: my life, not the way everybody else wants me to
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Speaker 1: live my life. So even though some people may say, well,
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Speaker 1: you're not this and you're not there that I honestly,
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Speaker 1: I don't, honestly really care about the fact that you
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Speaker 1: think whatever it is that you think, I don't care.
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Speaker 1: I live my life based on what makes me as
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Speaker 1: an individual happen, and that's just it on that if
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Speaker 1: I feel that I want to live my life in
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Speaker 1: whatever way I choose to live it, I got the
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Speaker 1: right to do so nobody else can tell me how
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Speaker 1: I'm supposed to live the life that I am choosing
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Speaker 1: to live. So even though you may not like my
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Speaker 1: life and how you know my life is, it ain't
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Speaker 1: really honestly for you to decide. So it's just funny
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Speaker 1: to me when I see people trying to tell people, oh,
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Speaker 1: you should live your life this way. But what's funny
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Speaker 1: about the situation. It's the people that's telling your story
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Speaker 1: don't even know your story. And what's even more crazy
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Speaker 1: is they act like they know you. And it's just
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Speaker 1: funny when you think about it. You're like, dude, you
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Speaker 1: don't know what I've had to endure and what I've
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Speaker 1: had to deal with, So how are you gonna tell
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Speaker 1: me what my story is? And then they'll go and
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Speaker 1: they'll try to get people to try to make you
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Speaker 1: look bad, and you're just sitting here shaking your hand
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Speaker 1: like you can't be serious here. So because you decide
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Speaker 1: to go get my ex, what do you think my
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Speaker 1: ex is? Gonna tell you my ex can only tell
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Speaker 1: you about who I was when I was with the person.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that i'm that person now. But here's
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Speaker 1: what the problem is. People only see you in the
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Speaker 1: way they're so used to seeing you. They're not even
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Speaker 1: seeing your growth, they're not even seeing your development. They're
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Speaker 1: only seeing what it is that they want to see,
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Speaker 1: but not what it really is. So when you have
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Speaker 1: people that's sitting up here talking about your past, and
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Speaker 1: you get all these people getting pissed off because somebody
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Speaker 1: brought up your past, Why are you upset about it?
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Speaker 1: It was a long time ago. And for some people
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Speaker 1: they don't want to relive what happened twenty thirty years ago.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what they did twenty thirty years ago
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Speaker 1: unless it's gonna impact you now. If it's not something
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Speaker 1: that's gonna impact you now, then why does it matter
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Speaker 1: about what happened twenty years ago. Something that happened a
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Speaker 1: long time ago that really has really much to do about.
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Speaker 1: None of it matters at this point. And what's really
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Speaker 1: funny to me is when you have people that are
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Speaker 1: trying to destroy people's lives with mistakes they made in
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Speaker 1: their lives, or people that's trying to basically better their
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Speaker 1: lives that cannot better their lives because society won't let
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Speaker 1: them basically get over whatever. And I'll give you an
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Speaker 1: example of felons, people that are felons that have been
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Speaker 1: in prison that basically essentially get out of prison and
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Speaker 1: they still can't find a job. They still can't be
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Speaker 1: the better version of themselves because of the fact of
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Speaker 1: people not letting go of what it is. People that
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Speaker 1: don't want to hire these people because of the fact
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Speaker 1: of what they did twenty thirty years ago. Nobody wants
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Speaker 1: anybody to grow an evolve, I notice, or even elevate.
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Speaker 1: Nobody wants people to be a different version of themselves.
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Speaker 1: Even if you lose weight, people still gonna remind you
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Speaker 1: of the person you were when you will overweight. You
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Speaker 1: could have had a high body count count and people
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Speaker 1: still gonna remind you that you had a high body count.
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Speaker 1: Example is there was a Caucasian on them and she
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Speaker 1: slept with over six hundred men. Now she's pregnant and
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Speaker 1: people are in them chat rooms letting this woman have
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Speaker 1: it because she's pregnant and don't know who the baby
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Speaker 1: daddy is. Now do I condone her behavior, Absolutely not,
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Speaker 1: do I condone it. But am I going to judge
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Speaker 1: her No, Because at the end of the day, I
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Speaker 1: have met my share of mistakes. Trust me, I have
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Speaker 1: made a few. But I'm not gonna hold against somebody
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Speaker 1: what they did unless it impacted somebody else. Now, let's
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Speaker 1: say this child ends up with her bees and some
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Speaker 1: std That's when I'm gonna hold her account Now, there
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Speaker 1: are times you do have to hold people accountable, especially
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Speaker 1: if other people are impacted and affected by certain things.
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Speaker 1: Jeffrey Dahmer impacted a lot of people. Uh, Charles Manson
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Speaker 1: impacted a bunch of people. What's the name, Jesus, somebody
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Speaker 1: just said his name, the one that had the quote
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Speaker 1: that had nine hundred and some people unlived. When you
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Speaker 1: have people that are in cults that are basically marrying
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Speaker 1: young girls, then that's a whole nother entity. When people
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Speaker 1: are affected and impacted in a negative manner, that's a
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Speaker 1: whole other conversation. Then those people have every right to
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Speaker 1: be judged because they don't did something wrong and there
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Speaker 1: are consequences. But at the end of the day, regardless
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Speaker 1: of whether I think something is right or wrong, or
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Speaker 1: a person is right or wrong. It ain't for me
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Speaker 1: to judge, because at the end of the day, God
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Speaker 1: is the only one that in honesty that can judge.
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Speaker 1: I can't judge if I wanted to, But what I
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Speaker 1: can do is not be around that person. So in
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Speaker 1: my mind, I condone what they did, but I can't
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Speaker 1: condone them as a person. You can always condone what
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Speaker 1: somebody did, their actions, behavior, choice and decisions and the
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Speaker 1: consequences be because of the karma that came with it,
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Speaker 1: but I can't necessarily condone the person. But at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day, like I said, you don't have
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Speaker 1: people no matter what you do, that's going to come
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Speaker 1: for you as a positive person. They just are. There's
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Speaker 1: no way around that. And no matter how much you
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Speaker 1: don't want negativity to impact your life, that don't mean
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Speaker 1: it won't. Even though you might be strong enough to
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Speaker 1: handle people negatively. And even though you might be mentally strong,
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Speaker 1: psychologically strong, even emotionally strong, even financially strong, that don't
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Speaker 1: mean your health and wellness won't be affected. Negativity gonna
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Speaker 1: hit you someway somehow. There's not one person that has
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Speaker 1: not been hit with negativity somewhere or some how or
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Speaker 1: hasn't dealt with some type of trauma. But I tell people,
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Speaker 1: is now you fall, it's how you rise. The problem
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Speaker 1: is you got godly people that when they hit, when
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Speaker 1: they fall, they hit robottom. They don't have nobody to
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Speaker 1: catch them when they fall. They don't have a soft
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Speaker 1: place to land. But yet negative people always have a
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Speaker 1: soft place to land, don't they. Negative people think they
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Speaker 1: can say whenever they want to and think they have
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Speaker 1: the right to say it. But what I learned now
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Speaker 1: is I don't say nothing to them at all. I
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Speaker 1: don't care what you say. Negative, I am not gonna
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Speaker 1: respond to you. And an example of that was the
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Speaker 1: other day before I took my channel down on TikTok,
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Speaker 1: I was doing pretty well talking about country waying skits
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Speaker 1: and I would go live talking about the skits or
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Speaker 1: different topics or whatever as a life coach. Somebody flagged
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Speaker 1: my channel saying something about you know, unlive in situations,
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Speaker 1: which I did not, and yet my video got my
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Speaker 1: live got taken down. I said, you know what, I'm
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Speaker 1: taking my channel down. I'm not dealing with this. Like
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Speaker 1: if I talked about certain things about government or or
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Speaker 1: Donald Trump from a life coaching perspective. Oh, I had
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Speaker 1: a whole people, I'm my gentle man, but I still
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Speaker 1: took it down and made the executive decision to take
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Speaker 1: it down. Now, I thought about bringing it up just
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Speaker 1: to go live, just to basically break down why I'm
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Speaker 1: about to take it down yet again. But at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day, like I said, trying to have
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Speaker 1: that conversation with negative people is a waste of time.
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Speaker 1: Arguing with them, defending yourself is a waste of time.
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Speaker 1: Let them think whatever they want to think. And if
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Speaker 1: people are stupid enough to believe them, this is the
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Speaker 1: advice I will give you. Look at it as they're
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Speaker 1: moving things out your life that don't belong. By you
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Speaker 1: showing what you really look like, you're gonna see how
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Speaker 1: people really see you. So by doing that, it eliminates
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Speaker 1: a lot of the people that would come in your
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Speaker 1: life and try to use you, if that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: So by you showing people the truth about yourself, you're
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Speaker 1: gonna see the truth about them. So it's not about
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Speaker 1: you showing the world what you got. It's about showing
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Speaker 1: people what they think they think about you. Because that
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Speaker 1: way you see how they really see you. You're not
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Speaker 1: gonna see that when you at your best, you're gonna
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Speaker 1: see that. When you wearing fake hair and fake nails,
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Speaker 1: you ain't gonna see that at all. The only way
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Speaker 1: you're gonna see that is if you show the truth
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Speaker 1: about yourself. So, for example, you have men in these
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Speaker 1: African folk tales that will pretend like they're broke just
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Speaker 1: to go out here and see who will really accept
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Speaker 1: them for them, that's what you're gonna have to start
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Speaker 1: doing it as a godly person. You can't show the
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Speaker 1: world what you got because I'm telling you all these
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Speaker 1: people that would never deal with you if you didn't
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Speaker 1: have it are not gonna be around you. They're gonna
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Speaker 1: come around you because you have something they want. So
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Speaker 1: when it comes to attraction, and attraction is not always
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Speaker 1: about attracting people for the right reasons, nine to nine
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Speaker 1: point nine percent of the time, you gonna basically attract
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Speaker 1: the wrong type of people, negative people. You're not gonna
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Speaker 1: attract the people that you're meant to attract because you're
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Speaker 1: attracting them based on the wrong reasons. When you're on
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Speaker 1: social media showing off everything and these dudes are in
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Speaker 1: your dms, they're not in your DMS because they want
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Speaker 1: to get to know you. They're in your DMS because
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Speaker 1: they want to have sex with you. I'm just being real.
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Speaker 1: But by showing yourself in a modest way, the lack
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Speaker 1: of attention you may not think is a good thing,
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Speaker 1: but in all actuality is a great thing. Because if
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Speaker 1: you're if your whole entire thing of getting people like
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Speaker 1: you is money and attraction and sex, that's demonic. That's
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Speaker 1: based on the devil, not based on God. But if
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Speaker 1: you're someone that is modest, you're not showing off everything,
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Speaker 1: you're coming on camera as you are, and you're still
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Speaker 1: able to have people drawn to your channel, then that's
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Speaker 1: a whole nother conversation. And that just shows pretty much
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Speaker 1: essentially how you're able to bring people to you and
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Speaker 1: you don't have to do all the bills and whistles
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Speaker 1: to do that. That right there tell you what kind
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Speaker 1: of person you are. So if someone that's unattractive can
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Speaker 1: attract a really attractive man or female and you don't
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Speaker 1: understand how and this person, it wasn't even about the money,
16:37
Speaker 1: wasn't even about none of that. It was just a
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Speaker 1: fact these two basically have a great relationship. Far as communication.
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Speaker 1: They have a lot in common far as internally, which
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Speaker 1: in turns makes their relationship stronger. It's just like saying
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Speaker 1: that you'll see a lot of women that lower themselves
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Speaker 1: and then end up getting divorced. And now they can't
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Speaker 1: do nothing because for twenty five years they depended solely
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Speaker 1: on their husbands. God never said to give up anything.
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Speaker 1: God never said to lawyer yourself. I don't know why
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Speaker 1: y'all keep believing these people when theyre talking about lawyer yourself.
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Speaker 1: I don't understand why you would do that. But that's
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Speaker 1: what y'all do. And what I don't understand is why.
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Speaker 1: So let me give an example. I'm gonna use mister
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Speaker 1: Aaron Pierre. That's move aside. Aaron Pierre, that's move Basside.
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Speaker 1: But anyway, airbody and their mama is so so you
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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. They're all about, you know, Aaron Pierr.
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Speaker 1: And like I said, it's crazy how you know a
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Speaker 1: lot of people will sit here and talk about this
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Speaker 1: man and was even more crazier. He is a track.
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Speaker 1: He is to me, he looks like Scar but he's
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Speaker 1: playing with Foster, which is really cute. And he's a
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Speaker 1: very attractive man, but he grew into his looks. Though
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Speaker 1: he wasn't a guy that just was naturally attractive, he
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Speaker 1: grew into his looks. And all these women, since they
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Speaker 1: saw him on the magazines with no shirt ons showing
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Speaker 1: his workout, and then the fact that he has an
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Speaker 1: English accent that right there might have something to do
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Speaker 1: with it. Weird. I'm sorry, y'all. Sorry, I'm trying to
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Speaker 1: I'm on TikTok. I got a pretty much log in.
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Speaker 1: But anyway, like I said, I get it, I do,
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Speaker 1: I get it, I even understand it. But at the
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Speaker 1: same time, yes, Aaron Pierre is a drop dead gorgeous man.
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Speaker 1: He is. He's gorgeous. I'm not gonna lie and say
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Speaker 1: that he isn't a drop dead gorgeous man because he is.
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Speaker 1: But at the same time, I'm what, how old am
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Speaker 1: I I'm what thirty? I'm fifty, he's thirty. What do
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Speaker 1: I look like dating someone that I'm fifty and he's thirty.
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Speaker 1: I'm old enough to be that man's mama. Now, don't
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Speaker 1: get me wrong, there's some man that do in their
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Speaker 1: thirties warn to day the woman that's in their forties
19:29
Speaker 1: or even in their fifties, if she looked good and
19:31
Speaker 1: she looked yup now not the same that it wouldn't
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Speaker 1: be a thought in my mind not to say that.
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Speaker 1: You know that my eyes ain't gonna lure me in
19:43
Speaker 1: and that body just ain't gonna help either. And I'm being,
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Speaker 1: you know, thinking to myself, should I could? I would I,
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Speaker 1: But then I have to think about the maturity of
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Speaker 1: the man, and being that he's very mature, being that
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Speaker 1: he's an introvert, being that he just seemed like he
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Speaker 1: is just so sweet and some kind. Yes, would I
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Speaker 1: date him? Yeah, I probably would if its mama didn't
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Speaker 1: have problem with it, you know what I'm saying. It
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Speaker 1: would be one of them things. If the mother had
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Speaker 1: a problem with it, then I would be fine with it.
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Speaker 1: But just dating somebody thirty, No, it just depends on
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Speaker 1: the maturity of the person. If that person is very
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Speaker 1: grown and very mature for their age, then yeah, but
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Speaker 1: normally I probably wouldn't. For him, I would make an exception,
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Speaker 1: but I wouldn't make that exception for everybody. But at
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Speaker 1: the end of the day, like I said, I get it.
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Speaker 1: I do. I absolutely get it. I do. So I'm
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Speaker 1: not somebody that don't that don't understand. But to have
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Speaker 1: somebody that is that drop their gorgeous you know what
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Speaker 1: I'm saying. I get it. But at the same time,
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Speaker 1: would that be a forbidden fruit for me? Absolutely? What
21:01
Speaker 1: I have to worry about what other people think about
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Speaker 1: me because of the fact, look wise, I may not
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Speaker 1: m meet the bar. And it might be a lot
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Speaker 1: of people that say he shouldn't be with me because
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Speaker 1: of what I look like or because of my weight,
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Speaker 1: and he might say, I don't care nothing about that
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Speaker 1: because she treats me well. And let's say, for example,
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Speaker 1: they end up getting me all dressed up and they
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Speaker 1: shocked at the fact that me dressed up, I look
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Speaker 1: completely different. There you go. So you can never judge
21:35
Speaker 1: a book by its cover. So at the end of
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Speaker 1: the day, you have some people that are at a
21:41
Speaker 1: point in their life it's not about what somebody looks
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Speaker 1: like anymore. It's about who they are as a person.
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Speaker 1: It's about the heart and the spiritual of the person,
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Speaker 1: not the things y'all think that it's about. So again,
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Speaker 1: you know, for me, it's one of those things where
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Speaker 1: when it comes down to these d these particular situations,
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Speaker 1: I just feel like that you're always gonna have people
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Speaker 1: that's gonna want to see people not even happy. They
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Speaker 1: want to see people miserable, lonely and better. I don't
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Speaker 1: know why, but they do. They want people to be miserable.
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Speaker 1: So my whole thing for me is that, you know,
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Speaker 1: I want people to understand that when it comes down
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Speaker 1: to these situations, people have the right to do whatever
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Speaker 1: they want to be whoever they want to. But sometimes
22:40
Speaker 1: you got to accept things for what they are and
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Speaker 1: say to yourself, you know what, maybe I shouldn't be
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Speaker 1: with someone blah blah blah blah blah. But sometimes it's
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Speaker 1: not about being with people because of what everybody else thinks.
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Speaker 1: You're the person dating them, but yet you're worried about
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Speaker 1: everybody else and what everybody else is about their person.
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Speaker 1: Understand you're not the understand again, you're the one dating
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Speaker 1: the person, not everybody else. But yet you got all
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Speaker 1: these people that are worrying about what somebody else thinks
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Speaker 1: about their relationship or what somebody else thinks about something else.
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Speaker 1: To me, it's just stupid, and to be honest, I
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Speaker 1: feel like that people shouldn't be worrying about everybody else
23:25
Speaker 1: and what they think they should be worrying about, you know,
23:30
Speaker 1: basically what the person that you're in a relationship with things.
23:34
Speaker 1: But the fact that you're giving so many people power
23:37
Speaker 1: over your life is why so many people are miserable
23:41
Speaker 1: and why so many people are unhappy because the fact
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Speaker 1: that they're not able to live the life that they
23:48
Speaker 1: want to live. They're living the life based on everybody else.
23:53
Speaker 1: So I just tell people, y'all need to stop living
23:56
Speaker 1: your lives based on everybody else and live your life
23:58
Speaker 1: based on you because at the end, like I said,
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Speaker 1: you're the one that is going to be dating that person,
24:05
Speaker 1: not everybody else. Just like, whatever you decide to do
24:08
Speaker 1: and your own life is your own life. But trying
24:11
Speaker 1: to chase behind celebrities and what celebrity is doing and
24:14
Speaker 1: what everybody else got going on, y'all don't need to
24:17
Speaker 1: stop seriously doing that because these people that you're basing
24:23
Speaker 1: yourselves on are not basing themselves on you. So even
24:29
Speaker 1: though you out here doing whatever, you know what I'm saying,
24:34
Speaker 1: these other people are basically making money off your misery
24:39
Speaker 1: because you don't have self esteem and you don't believe,
24:44
Speaker 1: you know what, you don't believe in your own self
24:49
Speaker 1: because you're letting other people stop you from your dreams
24:52
Speaker 1: and goals. It's just like people that are trying to
24:56
Speaker 1: basically build business and brands, and then when they make it,
24:59
Speaker 1: here come all the people that basically weren't there all
25:03
Speaker 1: of a sudden now trying to stop you from your greatness,
25:08
Speaker 1: trying to stop you from your happiness. And that shouldn't
25:14
Speaker 1: be based on anybody else but you. But worrying about
25:19
Speaker 1: everybody else and thinking that you're missing something, what exactly
25:24
Speaker 1: what you're missing? Because being single anymore is not what
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Speaker 1: is cracked up to be. Being married is not everything
25:29
Speaker 1: you're just cracked up to be. No more people nowadays,
25:33
Speaker 1: when it come to being single, it means they're traveling
25:36
Speaker 1: by themselves, they're paying their bills by themselves. These are
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Speaker 1: people that really tell the truth no matter what they do,
25:44
Speaker 1: no matter how much they get dressed up. These people
25:47
Speaker 1: ain't never gonna get a man point blame period or female. Now.
25:52
Speaker 1: With men they got a better chance because of money,
25:55
Speaker 1: But women, it don't matter whether they got money. It
25:58
Speaker 1: don't matter whether the girl got a banging, But I
26:00
Speaker 1: don't care if she got a cute personality, if she
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Speaker 1: is not attractive. No man is gonna touch her yet
26:04
Speaker 1: to sleep with her. Yes, they will deal with her
26:06
Speaker 1: while he's in between relationships, but she is not the
26:09
Speaker 1: one he gonna end up within the loan game. So,
26:13
Speaker 1: like I said, I just think it's important that people
26:16
Speaker 1: understand that there will be people that will be alone.
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Speaker 1: I did just say alone. I say elone alone the rest
26:25
Speaker 1: of their lives. And that's okay. Say at the end
26:29
Speaker 1: of the day, even though you okay you, even though
26:31
Speaker 1: you might be alone, you might be successful. Even though
26:35
Speaker 1: you're alone. You can travel the world, get up whenever
26:37
Speaker 1: you want to, because guess what, you ain't got no kids.
26:41
Speaker 1: But see, the problem is the people that should have
26:43
Speaker 1: had this mentality don't have that mentality. Now they got kids,
26:48
Speaker 1: and that they're still single. So you're single with kids.
26:51
Speaker 1: Why this man is running around the world now, y'all
26:53
Speaker 1: y'all keep going pro procreating having more kids. So I
26:59
Speaker 1: get the fact that you want, you know, certain things,
27:07
Speaker 1: and I get that. But at the same time, what
27:12
Speaker 1: I will say is sometimes it don't work out like that.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes you might end up not having right now what
27:26
Speaker 1: everybody else got, And that's okay. That's you don't. What
27:31
Speaker 1: matters is that your time is coming. Let God bring
27:36
Speaker 1: them things to you. All you gotta do is pray
27:38
Speaker 1: on it. But when you pray for, whatever you pray for,
27:42
Speaker 1: can you be more specific? But if you're saying you're
27:45
Speaker 1: looking for a good man and yet you and you
27:48
Speaker 1: didn't say that he had to be attractive. You just
27:51
Speaker 1: said that ban's essentially they had to be whatever, They
27:56
Speaker 1: had to have money, they had to have this. But
27:58
Speaker 1: you didn't say nothing, absolutely nothing about this person being attractive. Kay,
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Speaker 1: So be mindful of that. Be specific and what it
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Speaker 1: is that you asking for, Kay, be specific on that,
28:16
Speaker 1: because if you ain't specific, God is gonna gonna bring
28:18
Speaker 1: you the type of person that you need internally. The
28:21
Speaker 1: devil gonna bring you what you want as far as
28:24
Speaker 1: the external. So just keep that in mind when you
28:28
Speaker 1: are trying to pick whatever it is that you won't
28:31
Speaker 1: be mindful of that. So at the end of the day,
28:34
Speaker 1: like I said, as long as you doing what's right
28:37
Speaker 1: by you and just sit back and wait, continue to
28:42
Speaker 1: do the work, continue to do the things to make
28:45
Speaker 1: your body internally and externally healthy, it don't mind what
28:49
Speaker 1: nobody else says, because, like I said negative people just
28:53
Speaker 1: move things out the way of things that don't need
28:56
Speaker 1: to be in your life. No way, So let them
28:58
Speaker 1: continue to move them things out, because at least they're
29:02
Speaker 1: moving it out. And that's what I'm saying. By showing
29:06
Speaker 1: what you really look like, making people believe that you
29:09
Speaker 1: don't have certain things, you gonna see their true reaction.
29:13
Speaker 1: But you're never gonna see their true reaction. When you
29:16
Speaker 1: have yourself together, you gonna only have people that are
29:20
Speaker 1: gonna be fake and phony, and they're only using you
29:23
Speaker 1: for what you got in the minute you lose it all,
29:26
Speaker 1: you gonna end up. All them people gonna be gone.
29:29
Speaker 1: And before I go, let me tell you all this
29:32
Speaker 1: folk tale that I just saw, and there's two of them,
29:35
Speaker 1: but it's the same equation. One woman was a her
29:40
Speaker 1: father owned a business, and her husband and her best
29:44
Speaker 1: friend basically sabotaged her family's company and it ended up
29:50
Speaker 1: going bankrupt, and he ended up kicking her out the
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Speaker 1: house because of the fact that they basically destroyed her
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Speaker 1: her family and destroyed her company. She ended up homeless,
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Speaker 1: and then she found out she was pregnant. Luckily, one
30:08
Speaker 1: of her friends let her stay with her and she
30:12
Speaker 1: gave birth to a baby, some twins, and what ended
30:17
Speaker 1: up happening was she ended up looking for a job
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Speaker 1: and she ended up working for this one guy by
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Speaker 1: the name of Harry, and so Harry from the moment
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Speaker 1: he saw her, he fell in love with her. But
30:29
Speaker 1: he decided to give her a chance, and she proved
30:33
Speaker 1: that basically essentially, that she could run suckles around these
30:36
Speaker 1: other employees. So when she told him about her story,
30:40
Speaker 1: he decided to help her. So he helped her to
30:44
Speaker 1: not only build her own company, but also being able
30:48
Speaker 1: to suck the life out of his. But because he
30:51
Speaker 1: hadn't seen his ex wife in years, she looked completely different,
30:56
Speaker 1: didn't recognize her. This girl tripped that man everything him
31:01
Speaker 1: and that girl to the point where the girl of
31:03
Speaker 1: the girl ended up going to jail, and then he
31:07
Speaker 1: ended up losing everything. She ended up taking his company
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Speaker 1: from him. She stripped him of everything, and at first
31:13
Speaker 1: it felt good because when it comes to revenge, yeah
31:16
Speaker 1: it does feel good. Revenge does feel good, but it
31:19
Speaker 1: is bittersweet. But as time went on, she realized holding
31:24
Speaker 1: on to that anger is not something that is good,
31:29
Speaker 1: not only for her, that she had to forgive him
31:32
Speaker 1: because again, they had kids, and so when she found
31:36
Speaker 1: it about the when he found it about the kids,
31:38
Speaker 1: he was devastated when he found out that he had twins,
31:42
Speaker 1: and so he felt bad after losing everything, but he
31:46
Speaker 1: did try to make amends. But like she said, you
31:50
Speaker 1: set up here and destroyed my whole entire family. This
31:53
Speaker 1: is about me basically getting everything back that was stolen
31:56
Speaker 1: from me, that you took from me, which I can understand.
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Speaker 1: But sometimes if if it's that easy for somebody to
32:05
Speaker 1: take something from you, then it was never yours in
32:07
Speaker 1: the in the first place, or you never appreciate it anyway,
32:11
Speaker 1: because if you did, you would have done everything to
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Speaker 1: protect it, which something her father didn't do. And when
32:17
Speaker 1: you trust the wrong people, you're not protecting what is yours,
32:21
Speaker 1: and that's kind of where the problem was. Anyway, long
32:25
Speaker 1: story short, they made amends. They never got back together,
32:31
Speaker 1: but her her business continued to thrive. In the end,
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Speaker 1: she let go of all of the anger, and her
32:37
Speaker 1: and Harry dig end up getting together. She did get
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Speaker 1: her family home back, and she got back everything she lost,
32:44
Speaker 1: but the business was already gone, but she got something new.
32:48
Speaker 1: So even though she got some of the things back,
32:52
Speaker 1: she didn't get everything back. The second story was a
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Speaker 1: woman that created a caterie business and started making all
32:59
Speaker 1: this money, and her husband was in finance, and he
33:03
Speaker 1: was doing the financial part. He let some investors convince
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Speaker 1: him to get rid of his wife out of the company.
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Speaker 1: That's what he did. She ended up in the end
33:14
Speaker 1: taking the high road, got our business up and running,
33:17
Speaker 1: and he lost everything. So even though she didn't do
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Speaker 1: nothing negative to him, she walked away with nothing but
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Speaker 1: came out with some. So in the end, you gotta
33:33
Speaker 1: be mindful of what you got and understand that. Now
33:36
Speaker 1: everybody needs to know you got it. Number one and
33:39
Speaker 1: number two, not everybody deserves to have a piece of it.
33:44
Speaker 1: Because here's the thing. You're gonna be the one doing
33:46
Speaker 1: all the work. It's your idea. And yet still you
33:50
Speaker 1: got people that basically essentially are trying to be a
33:57
Speaker 1: part of something that you created. They didn't come up
34:01
Speaker 1: with the idea, but yet there making money off you,
34:04
Speaker 1: just like accountants to steal money from you, you know,
34:07
Speaker 1: just like family members. And there have been many African
34:10
Speaker 1: folk tales where I've seen about family members that took
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Speaker 1: care of their families, and yet the sibling didn't have
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Speaker 1: to do nothing like this one guy in one of
34:19
Speaker 1: the episodes where he took care of his parents, took
34:24
Speaker 1: care of their bills, but they couldn't even watch his daughter.
34:27
Speaker 1: But yet they were always watching h his sister's kids.
34:30
Speaker 1: She didn't have to do nothing, she didn't have to
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Speaker 1: do nothing for her family, but yet she was the
34:34
Speaker 1: one that he was the one that was always doing stuff,
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Speaker 1: and he ended up cutting them off. They got mad,
34:39
Speaker 1: went on Facebook, started trashing him. Then he turned around
34:42
Speaker 1: and said, well, no, that ain't what happened. I always
34:45
Speaker 1: took care of them until they st they didn't want
34:46
Speaker 1: to help me. When they came to my daughter, everything
34:49
Speaker 1: changed and he cut everybody off. And then what ended
34:53
Speaker 1: up happening was they came to the realization you don't
34:57
Speaker 1: bite the hand to feed you. You have a lot
34:59
Speaker 1: of the siblings that definitely go through this issue of
35:04
Speaker 1: the one that actually is doing the right thing is
35:06
Speaker 1: not the one they praise. They praise the one that
35:10
Speaker 1: is not doing so well. It just is what it is.
35:16
Speaker 1: So you're always the one that's dependable. You're always the
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Speaker 1: one that they can count on. So guess what they
35:23
Speaker 1: gonna continue to no matter what, But the problem is
35:28
Speaker 1: you gonna be the one that's gonna end up hurt
35:31
Speaker 1: and used. So everything that you get, unfortunately you have
35:36
Speaker 1: to constantly give it to somebody else, which is said,
35:39
Speaker 1: but that's what's going on in this world, in this society.
35:42
Speaker 1: Everybody unfortunately, no matter what you get, other people want
35:46
Speaker 1: a piece of it, even though you did the work,
35:50
Speaker 1: even though you did everything to make it happen. Employees
35:54
Speaker 1: are one thing, but when it comes to investors and
35:58
Speaker 1: all of that is a hole in the ball game.
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Speaker 1: But even with your employees, understand, without your employees, you
36:04
Speaker 1: wouldn't have a company. So it's important that you treat
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Speaker 1: your employees the way they's supposed to be treated, that
36:11
Speaker 1: you take care of them and you make sure they're good.
36:16
Speaker 1: They should have enough money to pay their bills. You
36:19
Speaker 1: have the money, so why would you not pay them
36:22
Speaker 1: a salary to where they're able to live. Maybe shouldn't
36:26
Speaker 1: have daycare, but yet that's not what his companies do.
36:30
Speaker 1: So there you go. But I didn't want to tell
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Speaker 1: those two stories because, like I said, in the end,
36:38
Speaker 1: when it comes to you minding your own business, you
36:41
Speaker 1: gotta stop being a person carrying all the weight. You
36:44
Speaker 1: gotta stop being the people please to seek theller Captain
36:46
Speaker 1: sablehold the build a bear and a build a doll.
36:49
Speaker 1: You gotta stop wanting to be loved life to appreciated, value,
36:53
Speaker 1: to want it needed to be a part of something,
36:56
Speaker 1: to be validated, to be approved or to be accepted
36:58
Speaker 1: for somebody, know your word improve is something to people
37:02
Speaker 1: that are never gonna reciprocate that you want, people that
37:05
Speaker 1: don't want you. You chasing behind people that ain't gonna
37:08
Speaker 1: do nothing but purity destroy you, And that's what they're
37:12
Speaker 1: gonna do. So I don't recommend that you continue to
37:18
Speaker 1: be that person. Live your life the way you want
37:22
Speaker 1: to live your life, because I'm telling you, if you
37:24
Speaker 1: live your life based on other people, you're gonna be miserable.
37:27
Speaker 1: A lot of y'all who been winning get plastic surgery
37:30
Speaker 1: are now regretting that decision of getting that plastic surgery. Well,
37:34
Speaker 1: you made a choice to get it, and now you're
37:36
Speaker 1: regretting it. Like I said, if you base your self esteem,
37:39
Speaker 1: self worth, and self values on other people, honey, you
37:42
Speaker 1: ain't never gonna live up to expectations. But now, like
37:47
Speaker 1: I said, once you learn to take the mask off,
37:51
Speaker 1: and you learn to accept your flaws and your imperfections,
37:54
Speaker 1: and you learn to stop worrying about what everybody else thinks.
37:59
Speaker 1: Then n there you go. So, yeah, but i'm'a get
38:06
Speaker 1: off here right quick, because I see there's something I
38:08
Speaker 1: need to address. Yeah. I decided to bring my channel
38:11
Speaker 1: back for one particular reason cause there are some things
38:15
Speaker 1: i'm'a get off my chest. So this is gonna be fun. Hm.
38:21
Speaker 1: But the one thing I'm not gonna be is negative,
38:24
Speaker 1: cause I'm not gonna let negativity ruin money. I just
38:27
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not gonna let negative people get the
38:30
Speaker 1: best of me. Cause at the end of the day,
38:31
Speaker 1: you don't have power over me. Y'all gotta start letting
38:34
Speaker 1: people and what they say have power over you. Like
38:37
Speaker 1: I said, rejection is a part of life, and sometimes
38:41
Speaker 1: rejection can be a good thing because those people ain't
38:43
Speaker 1: meant for you, no way. And if you keep getting rejection,
38:46
Speaker 1: then that means it ain't meant for you to work
38:48
Speaker 1: a regular nine to five job. It is meant for
38:50
Speaker 1: you to make your own money. So the best thing
38:53
Speaker 1: to do if you don't fit society standards go back
38:55
Speaker 1: home to your parents, save up your money, stack up
38:57
Speaker 1: your money and build your own business and then quit
39:00
Speaker 1: your job within three years. After you made twenty thousand
39:02
Speaker 1: dollars a month for three years straight, then quit your job.
39:06
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, like I said,
39:09
Speaker 1: I don't have to go looking for anything. Things come
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Speaker 1: to me and whatever's meant for me will come to me.
39:16
Speaker 1: I no longer go looking for it because if it
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Speaker 1: ain't meant for me, I don't need to go find
39:21
Speaker 1: it because God is gonna bring whatever is meant for me.
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Speaker 1: And that's how that's worked ever since the past few years.
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Speaker 1: So instead of looking for things, stop looking, stop worrying
39:34
Speaker 1: about it. If it's meant for you, it will come
39:37
Speaker 1: for you. Ain't need to do. Just pray on it, sit, steal,
39:39
Speaker 1: and wait, continue doing other things until it does. You'll
39:42
Speaker 1: know when it's your time, and when it is, you
39:44
Speaker 1: gonna appreciate it and value it more than you did
39:47
Speaker 1: if you went to go look for it. So that
39:50
Speaker 1: being said, thank you guys for joining me for this episode.
39:53
Speaker 1: I am your host, scottis Austion Mariyama. I love y'all.
39:56
Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all to support me where I've been gone
39:58
Speaker 1: And I'll see y'all next time, ye