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Ep. 115 – From Curiosity to Acceptance: Embracing Neurodiversity in Parenting · ADHD & Neurodiversity: The Spicy Brain Podcast

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Foreign.
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Hello,
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Michelle.
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Welcome
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to
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the
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Spicy
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Brain
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Podcast,
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where
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we
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are
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navigating
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neurodiversity
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with
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curiosity,
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joy,
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and
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radical
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acceptance.
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Hi,
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Kick.
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So
0:26
welcome.
0:26
If
0:27
you're
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new
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to
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the
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podcast,
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we're
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so,
0:29
so
0:29
happy
0:30
to
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see
0:30
you,
0:30
hear
0:31
you.
0:32
What
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are
0:32
we
0:32
happy?
0:32
No,
0:33
I
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guess
0:33
we're
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just
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happy
0:33
that
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you're
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here.
0:35
Happy
0:35
to
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have
0:35
you
0:35
here
0:35
listening.
0:37
Yeah,
0:37
like,
0:37
I'm
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seeing
0:38
you,
0:38
Megan.
0:38
So
0:38
that
0:39
I'm
0:39
thinking
0:39
I'm
0:39
seeing
0:39
them,
0:40
but
0:40
I'm
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not.
0:40
Because
0:40
you're
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just
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listening
0:41
to
0:41
me.
0:41
Because
0:41
this
0:41
is
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a
0:41
podcast.
0:42
Hello.
0:43
Whatever.
0:43
I'm
0:44
with
0:44
it.
0:44
And
0:45
then
0:45
those
0:45
of
0:45
you
0:45
guys
0:46
who
0:46
are
0:46
returning,
0:46
we
0:46
are
0:47
so
0:47
happy
0:47
to
0:47
have
0:47
you
0:48
back.
0:48
We
0:48
love
0:48
our
0:49
OGs
0:50
and
0:51
just
0:51
so
0:51
much
0:52
community.
0:53
Our
0:53
new
0:53
GS
0:53
and
0:53
our
0:54
OGs,
0:54
everybody.
0:56
It's.
0:56
It's
0:57
amazing
0:57
to,
0:57
like,
0:57
have
0:58
this
0:58
whole
0:58
community
0:58
around
0:59
us
0:59
and
0:59
get
0:59
to
1:00
hear
1:00
feedback
1:00
from
1:00
people.
1:01
So
1:01
we
1:02
love
1:02
to
1:03
dissect
1:04
books.
1:04
That's
1:04
usually
1:05
what
1:05
we
1:05
do.
1:05
So
1:05
we're
1:06
on
1:06
a
1:06
book
1:06
called
1:06
the
1:07
Essential
1:07
Guide
1:07
to
1:07
Raising
1:08
Complex
1:09
Kids.
1:10
And
1:10
Elaine
1:11
Taylor
1:11
Clouse
1:12
wrote
1:12
this
1:12
book.
1:13
We
1:13
have
1:13
been
1:14
in
1:14
this
1:14
book
1:14
for
1:14
a
1:14
while,
1:14
and
1:15
we
1:15
kind
1:15
of
1:16
think
1:16
we'll
1:16
get
1:16
through
1:17
a
1:17
chapter,
1:17
an
1:18
episode,
1:18
and
1:19
that
1:19
just
1:20
seriously
1:20
has
1:20
never
1:21
happened.
1:21
Never
1:21
happens.
1:22
So
1:22
we
1:22
just
1:22
take
1:23
little
1:23
chunks
1:23
at
1:23
a
1:23
time.
1:24
We
1:24
learn.
1:24
We
1:25
kind
1:25
of
1:25
reflect
1:25
back
1:26
sometimes
1:26
on
1:26
things
1:27
we
1:27
usually
1:28
dig
1:28
into
1:28
my
1:29
brain
1:29
or
1:29
Rosie's
1:30
brain.
1:30
I
1:31
call
1:31
her
1:31
Rosie.
1:31
I
1:32
call
1:32
her
1:32
Meg.
1:32
I
1:32
call
1:32
her
1:33
Megan.
1:33
Mego.
1:34
You
1:34
know,
1:34
there's
1:34
a
1:34
lot
1:34
of
1:34
different
1:34
names,
1:35
and
1:37
we
1:37
really
1:37
kind
1:38
of
1:38
dissect
1:38
our
1:38
own
1:39
brains
1:39
and
1:39
understanding
1:40
how
1:40
these
1:41
things
1:42
manage
1:42
themselves
1:43
or
1:43
not
1:44
in
1:44
our
1:44
brains
1:44
and
1:45
figure
1:45
out
1:45
sometimes
1:46
strategies.
1:48
Yeah.
1:49
I
1:50
have
1:50
a
1:50
theory
1:50
about
1:50
why
1:51
it
1:51
takes
1:51
us
1:51
so
1:52
long
1:52
to
1:52
get
1:53
through
1:53
a
1:53
chapter.
1:54
Okay.
1:56
And
1:56
my
1:56
theory
1:57
is
1:57
that
1:58
these
1:59
books,
1:59
like,
1:59
if
2:00
I
2:00
were
2:00
to
2:00
read
2:00
one,
2:00
it
2:01
would
2:01
not
2:01
fix
2:01
me
2:02
because,
2:02
like,
2:02
there's
2:02
just,
2:03
like,
2:03
what
2:03
they're
2:04
saying
2:04
is
2:04
true.
2:05
It's
2:05
just
2:06
so
2:06
dense,
2:06
and
2:07
it's
2:07
like,
2:07
yes.
2:08
Each
2:08
sentence
2:09
could
2:09
be
2:09
a
2:10
podcast.
2:11
And.
2:11
Yeah.
2:12
And
2:12
that's.
2:12
I
2:12
feel
2:13
like
2:13
you
2:13
have
2:13
to
2:13
go
2:13
down
2:13
the
2:14
rabbit
2:14
hole
2:14
because
2:14
that's
2:14
like.
2:15
It's
2:15
just.
2:15
It's
2:15
not
2:15
gonna.
2:16
It's
2:16
not
2:16
gonna
2:16
fix
2:16
itself
2:17
overnight.
2:18
Absolutely.
2:19
And
2:19
you.
2:19
You
2:19
know
2:20
the
2:20
whole
2:20
idea
2:20
of
2:21
strategies.
2:21
We
2:21
always
2:21
say
2:22
we
2:22
want
2:22
to
2:22
have
2:22
strategies,
2:23
but
2:23
the
2:23
reality
2:23
is,
2:24
is
2:24
that.
2:24
Well,
2:25
first
2:25
of
2:25
all,
2:25
we're
2:25
not
2:25
professionals,
2:26
right?
2:26
Like,
2:27
we
2:27
don't.
2:27
We're
2:27
just
2:27
expert.
2:28
Wait,
2:28
we're
2:29
just
2:29
experts?
2:31
No,
2:31
we're
2:31
not
2:31
experts.
2:33
We're
2:33
just
2:33
sisters.
2:34
Just
2:35
sisters,
2:35
my
2:36
friends.
2:36
That's
2:36
totally
2:37
true.
2:37
But
2:37
we've
2:37
learned
2:38
A
2:38
lot.
2:38
And
2:38
I
2:39
think
2:39
we've
2:39
become,
2:41
you
2:41
know,
2:41
to
2:41
learn
2:42
a
2:42
bit
2:42
more
2:42
about
2:42
our
2:43
own
2:43
brains,
2:43
and
2:43
I
2:44
think
2:44
about
2:44
each
2:44
other
2:45
and
2:45
our
2:45
relationship
2:46
because
2:46
of
2:47
it,
2:47
which
2:47
has
2:47
been
2:47
great.
2:50
This
2:50
particular
2:53
chapter
2:53
is
2:53
talking
2:54
all
2:54
about
2:55
sort
2:56
of
2:56
executive
2:56
functioning
2:57
again.
2:57
And
2:58
so
2:58
I
2:58
wanted
2:58
to
2:58
kind
2:58
of
2:58
bring
2:59
that
2:59
up.
3:00
And
3:00
so
3:01
she
3:01
says
3:01
EF
3:02
for
3:02
short,
3:04
but
3:04
just
3:04
to
3:04
kind
3:05
of
3:05
remind.
3:05
Functioning.
3:06
Yeah.
3:06
Executive.
3:07
She's
3:07
like,
3:07
ef.
3:08
I'm
3:08
like,
3:08
okay,
3:08
that's
3:09
great.
3:09
We'll
3:09
do
3:09
that.
3:10
You
3:10
know,
3:10
Michelle,
3:11
she
3:11
wants
3:11
to
3:11
kind
3:11
of
3:11
go
3:11
through
3:12
the
3:12
brain
3:12
science
3:13
again.
3:13
And
3:13
I
3:13
was
3:13
like,
3:13
okay,
3:14
that's
3:14
not
3:14
bad,
3:14
because
3:15
it's
3:15
good
3:15
to
3:15
refresh
3:16
on
3:16
it.
3:17
Mm.
3:17
It's
3:17
true.
3:18
It
3:18
is
3:18
very
3:18
good.
3:18
Refresh
3:19
on
3:19
it.
3:19
And
3:19
I
3:19
realize
3:20
that,
3:20
like,
3:20
one
3:21
of
3:21
the
3:21
biggest
3:21
strategies
3:21
that
3:22
we
3:22
have
3:22
found
3:22
is
3:23
just
3:23
talking
3:23
about
3:23
it.
3:24
Yeah,
3:25
like,
3:25
that
3:25
is,
3:26
like,
3:26
that
3:26
is
3:26
the
3:26
greatest
3:27
strategy
3:28
of
3:28
all,
3:28
is
3:28
that,
3:29
like,
3:29
we
3:29
just,
3:29
like.
3:31
I
3:31
mean,
3:31
I
3:31
was.
3:31
I
3:32
spent
3:32
so
3:32
many
3:32
years,
3:33
so
3:33
many
3:33
decades
3:34
just,
3:34
like,
3:35
trying
3:35
to
3:35
avoid
3:36
it
3:36
and
3:36
shove
3:37
it
3:37
away.
3:37
And,
3:38
like,
3:38
the
3:38
more
3:38
I
3:38
talk
3:38
about
3:39
it
3:39
with
3:39
people,
3:39
the
3:39
more
3:40
I
3:41
get
3:41
more
3:41
comfortable
3:42
with
3:42
it,
3:42
and,
3:42
like,
3:42
the
3:43
better
3:43
I
3:43
get.
3:43
And
3:44
so
3:44
I
3:44
think,
3:44
like,
3:45
we
3:45
have,
3:45
like,
3:46
in
3:46
a
3:46
weird
3:46
way,
3:46
we
3:46
have
3:47
found
3:47
the
3:47
greatest
3:47
strategy.
3:48
It's
3:48
just
3:48
a
3:49
talk,
3:49
which.
3:49
We're
3:50
good.
3:50
Yeah.
3:50
And.
3:50
And
3:51
to
3:51
understand,
3:52
you
3:52
know,
3:52
for
3:53
ourselves
3:54
what.
3:55
You
3:55
know,
3:55
because
3:55
I
3:56
really
3:56
didn't
3:56
come
3:56
into
3:56
this
3:57
thinking,
3:57
oh,
3:57
we're
3:57
going
3:57
to
3:58
explore
3:58
my
3:58
brain.
3:58
And
3:58
like,
3:59
oh,
3:59
yeah,
3:59
here
3:59
we
3:59
go.
4:00
We
4:00
all
4:00
have
4:00
something,
4:01
generally
4:02
speaking,
4:02
to
4:02
think
4:03
about.
4:03
And
4:03
that
4:04
that
4:04
concept
4:05
of
4:05
an
4:05
owner's
4:05
manual
4:06
of
4:06
your
4:06
brain
4:06
is
4:07
a
4:07
little
4:07
bit
4:07
where
4:07
she's
4:08
going
4:08
with
4:08
this
4:08
chapter.
4:09
And
4:09
I
4:10
really
4:10
do.
4:12
I
4:12
prescribe
4:13
to
4:13
that
4:13
line
4:14
of
4:14
thinking.
4:14
I
4:14
think
4:14
when
4:15
we
4:15
understand
4:16
how
4:16
our
4:17
brains
4:17
work,
4:17
at
4:17
least
4:18
in
4:18
some
4:18
sort
4:18
of.
4:20
Maybe
4:21
not
4:21
neuroscience,
4:22
down
4:22
to
4:22
the
4:24
exact
4:24
chemicals,
4:25
but
4:25
I
4:25
think
4:26
understanding
4:26
how
4:26
our
4:26
brains
4:27
work
4:27
can
4:27
really
4:27
help.
4:28
She
4:28
talks
4:29
about
4:29
in
4:29
this
4:29
one
4:30
that
4:31
the
4:31
brain,
4:32
just
4:32
to
4:33
remind
4:33
us,
4:33
sends
4:34
messages
4:34
through
4:34
chemical
4:35
reactions.
4:36
So.
4:36
So
4:36
these
4:37
are
4:37
these
4:37
neurotransmitters,
4:38
and
4:38
they
4:39
help
4:39
us
4:40
really
4:40
to
4:41
figure
4:41
out
4:41
what
4:41
we're
4:42
thinking,
4:42
feeling,
4:42
or
4:43
acting.
4:43
So
4:43
when
4:44
they're
4:44
released,
4:45
they
4:46
help
4:46
to
4:47
make
4:47
that
4:47
communication
4:48
between
4:48
our
4:49
brains
4:49
and
4:49
our
4:49
bodies,
4:50
our
4:50
brains
4:50
and
4:50
our
4:51
feelings.
4:51
All
4:52
of
4:52
that
4:52
together
4:53
is
4:54
happening
4:54
inside
4:55
of
4:55
our
4:55
brains.
4:55
And
4:55
there's
4:56
really
4:56
sort
4:56
of
4:57
the
4:58
issue
4:58
with
4:58
people
4:59
who
4:59
have
4:59
complex
5:00
issues.
5:00
And
5:00
she
5:00
specifically
5:01
stated
5:02
adhd,
5:04
you
5:04
know,
5:04
anxiety,
5:05
depression,
5:07
or
5:07
some
5:07
other
5:08
executive
5:08
functioning
5:09
challenge
5:09
that
5:09
the
5:10
level
5:10
of
5:10
neurotransmitters
5:11
are
5:11
lower.
5:13
Like,
5:13
you
5:13
just
5:14
have
5:14
less.
5:15
So
5:15
you
5:16
have
5:16
less
5:16
dopamine,
5:17
less
5:17
serotonin,
5:18
less
5:18
Norepinephrine.
5:20
Like,
5:20
I'm
5:20
saying
5:21
that
5:21
wrong.
5:25
Norepinephrine.
5:27
Norepinephrine,
5:28
yes.
5:28
Thanks.
5:29
Like,
5:29
all
5:29
of
5:29
a
5:29
sudden
5:30
I
5:30
was,
5:30
like,
5:30
looking
5:30
at
5:31
what
5:31
I
5:31
wrote
5:31
and
5:31
my
5:31
dyslexia
5:32
just,
5:32
like,
5:32
flipped
5:33
everything.
5:33
And
5:33
I
5:33
was
5:33
like.
5:34
Yeah,
5:34
I
5:34
was
5:34
like.
5:34
And
5:34
I
5:34
was
5:35
Nora
5:35
Ephron.
5:36
That's
5:36
not
5:37
Nora.
5:40
You
5:40
gotta
5:40
laugh
5:41
or
5:41
you
5:41
would
5:41
just
5:41
cry
5:41
all
5:41
day
5:42
long.
5:42
That's
5:43
true.
5:43
So
5:44
I
5:44
like
5:45
the
5:45
way
5:45
she
5:45
says
5:45
this,
5:45
and
5:46
I
5:46
thought
5:46
we
5:46
could
5:47
kind
5:47
of
5:47
ponder
5:48
on
5:48
this
5:48
a
5:48
little
5:48
bit.
5:49
She
5:49
says
5:51
that
5:51
people
5:51
that
5:52
are
5:52
going
5:52
through
5:52
this
5:53
don't
5:53
always
5:53
have
5:55
the
5:55
brain
5:56
chemistry.
5:57
So
5:57
the
5:57
chemicals
5:58
in
5:58
the
5:58
brain
5:58
necessary
5:59
to
5:59
make
6:00
something
6:00
happen.
6:01
Because
6:01
this
6:01
whole
6:01
chapter
6:02
was
6:02
about,
6:02
like,
6:03
getting
6:03
it
6:03
done.
6:04
Yeah.
6:04
And
6:05
that
6:05
you
6:05
just
6:05
don't
6:05
have
6:06
that
6:06
get
6:06
it
6:06
done
6:06
button
6:07
that
6:07
you
6:08
can
6:08
push
6:08
in
6:09
your
6:09
head,
6:10
and
6:11
you
6:12
don't
6:12
have
6:13
the
6:13
chemicals
6:13
necessary
6:14
in
6:14
your
6:15
brain
6:16
to
6:16
be
6:16
able
6:16
to
6:17
make
6:17
something
6:17
happen
6:17
without
6:18
external
6:19
forces
6:19
stepping
6:20
in.
6:22
So
6:23
this
6:23
is
6:23
interesting
6:24
to
6:24
me
6:24
because
6:26
then
6:26
it
6:26
really
6:26
isn't
6:27
your
6:28
fault.
6:28
Right.
6:29
Yeah.
6:29
Your
6:30
brain
6:30
just
6:30
doesn't
6:31
produce
6:31
the
6:31
things
6:32
that
6:32
maybe
6:33
my
6:33
brain
6:33
does
6:34
produce.
6:35
Right.
6:35
Or
6:35
as
6:36
much
6:36
of
6:36
them.
6:37
And
6:37
so
6:38
when
6:39
I
6:39
think
6:39
about
6:39
that
6:39
as
6:39
a
6:40
parent,
6:40
because
6:40
this
6:41
is
6:41
all
6:41
about
6:41
raising,
6:42
you
6:42
know,
6:42
complex
6:43
kids,
6:43
I
6:43
think
6:44
about,
6:45
again,
6:46
we
6:46
talked,
6:46
I
6:46
think,
6:47
a
6:47
little
6:47
bit
6:47
in
6:47
the
6:47
last
6:48
one
6:48
about
6:48
sort
6:48
of
6:48
the
6:49
disability
6:49
mindset,
6:50
and
6:50
we
6:50
didn't
6:50
like
6:51
that.
6:51
But
6:51
differently
6:52
abled
6:53
maybe
6:53
was
6:53
a
6:54
better
6:54
way
6:54
of
6:54
thinking
6:54
of
6:54
it.
6:55
But
6:55
this
6:55
idea
6:56
that
6:56
there
6:57
is
6:57
a
6:57
difference
6:57
chemically
6:58
in
6:58
your
6:58
brain
6:59
versus
6:59
my
6:59
brain,
7:00
and
7:00
that
7:00
would
7:00
be
7:00
true
7:00
of
7:01
everybody's
7:01
brain.
7:02
Right.
7:02
Not
7:02
everyone
7:03
acts
7:03
exactly
7:04
the
7:04
same
7:04
way.
7:06
So
7:08
this
7:08
idea
7:09
of
7:09
executive
7:10
functioning
7:10
is
7:10
something
7:11
she
7:11
says,
7:11
like,
7:11
we
7:12
hear
7:12
a
7:12
lot
7:12
about,
7:12
but
7:12
a
7:12
lot
7:13
of
7:13
people
7:13
don't
7:13
know
7:13
what
7:13
it
7:13
means.
7:14
And
7:15
she
7:15
really
7:16
goes
7:16
into
7:17
very
7:17
basic
7:18
kind
7:19
of
7:19
idea
7:19
of
7:19
the
7:20
primitive
7:20
brain
7:20
versus
7:21
the
7:21
frontal
7:21
cortex.
7:22
So
7:22
the
7:22
primitive
7:22
brain
7:23
being
7:23
the
7:24
thing
7:24
that's
7:24
sort
7:24
of
7:24
at
7:25
the
7:25
base
7:25
of
7:25
your
7:25
neck
7:25
and
7:26
at
7:26
the
7:27
back
7:27
of
7:27
your
7:27
neck,
7:29
bottom
7:29
of
7:29
your
7:29
head,
7:30
that
7:30
just
7:30
is,
7:30
like,
7:31
keeping
7:31
you
7:31
alive.
7:32
So
7:32
it's
7:32
the
7:32
thing
7:32
that's
7:33
going
7:33
to
7:33
get
7:33
you
7:33
to
7:33
run
7:33
from
7:33
the
7:34
lion.
7:35
You
7:35
might
7:35
freeze,
7:36
you
7:36
know,
7:36
you
7:37
might
7:37
fight.
7:37
And
7:38
that's
7:39
the
7:39
adrenaline.
7:40
And
7:40
so
7:40
those
7:40
are
7:41
those,
7:41
like,
7:41
stress
7:41
hormones
7:42
that
7:42
get
7:42
you
7:43
moving.
7:43
And
7:44
so
7:44
people
7:44
who
7:45
have
7:45
executive
7:45
functioning
7:46
issues
7:47
tend
7:47
to
7:47
have.
7:47
The
7:47
prefrontal
7:48
cortex
7:49
doesn't
7:49
have
7:49
as
7:49
much
7:50
firing
7:50
to
7:51
them.
7:51
Like
7:51
all
7:51
these
7:51
neurotransmitters
7:52
aren't
7:53
firing
7:53
as
7:53
strongly
7:54
or
7:55
as
7:55
potently.
7:56
And
7:57
so
7:58
she
7:58
called
7:58
it,
7:58
like
7:58
a
7:59
sluggish
8:00
prefrontal
8:01
cortex.
8:01
Right.
8:01
Which
8:02
you
8:02
talk
8:02
about
8:02
the
8:02
Sluggishness,
8:03
the
8:03
feeling
8:04
of
8:04
that
8:05
a
8:05
lot.
8:07
But
8:07
that.
8:08
That
8:08
is
8:08
the
8:09
thing
8:09
that
8:09
you
8:09
might
8:09
rely
8:10
on
8:10
your
8:10
primal
8:11
or
8:12
primitive
8:12
brain
8:13
to
8:13
get
8:13
things
8:14
done
8:14
because
8:14
you're
8:14
relying
8:15
on
8:15
the
8:15
stress
8:16
hormones
8:17
and
8:17
the
8:17
adrenaline
8:18
to
8:18
get
8:18
you
8:18
moving,
8:19
which
8:20
can
8:20
have,
8:20
of
8:20
course,
8:21
we've
8:21
talked
8:21
about
8:21
before,
8:21
a
8:22
whole
8:22
lot
8:22
of
8:22
implications
8:23
in
8:23
terms
8:23
of
8:24
health.
8:24
Yeah,
8:25
right.
8:26
So
8:27
just
8:27
to
8:28
kind
8:28
of.
8:28
Her
8:28
idea
8:29
of
8:29
this
8:29
was
8:29
that
8:29
the
8:29
prefrontal
8:30
cortex
8:31
is
8:31
thinking.
8:32
She,
8:32
instead
8:33
of
8:33
the
8:33
butler,
8:33
she
8:33
said,
8:33
like
8:34
the
8:34
conductor
8:35
of
8:35
the
8:35
orchestra.
8:37
Okay.
8:37
And
8:37
she
8:37
was
8:37
like,
8:38
well,
8:38
all
8:38
the
8:38
musicians
8:39
in
8:39
the
8:39
orchestra
8:40
are,
8:40
like,
8:42
organizing.
8:43
Like,
8:44
that's
8:44
one
8:45
of
8:45
the
8:45
instruments.
8:45
And
8:46
another
8:46
instrument
8:46
is
8:46
managing
8:47
time.
8:47
And
8:47
another
8:47
instrument
8:48
is
8:49
how
8:49
you
8:49
think,
8:49
how
8:50
you
8:50
feel,
8:50
your
8:51
impulsivity,
8:52
what
8:52
you
8:52
will
8:52
do
8:53
or
8:53
won't
8:53
do.
8:54
And
8:54
that
8:54
if
8:55
any
8:55
one
8:55
of
8:56
these
8:56
are
8:57
players
8:58
is
8:58
out
8:58
of
8:58
tune,
8:59
she
8:59
says
8:59
the
9:00
brain
9:00
function
9:00
will
9:01
be
9:01
discordant.
9:03
And
9:03
I
9:03
thought
9:03
that
9:04
was
9:05
interesting.
9:05
Like,
9:06
discord.
9:06
Like,
9:06
it
9:06
would.
9:07
Attitude
9:08
out
9:08
of
9:09
10.
9:10
Okay.
9:11
It'll
9:11
be
9:11
off.
9:11
You
9:12
know,
9:12
that
9:12
feel
9:12
like
9:13
Cordant.
9:14
It's
9:14
like
9:14
going
9:14
to
9:15
an
9:15
elementary
9:16
school
9:16
band
9:17
night.
9:18
Oh,
9:18
yeah.
9:19
Like,
9:19
every
9:20
single
9:20
one
9:20
of
9:20
those
9:21
little
9:21
sweethearts
9:21
is
9:22
in
9:22
their
9:22
own
9:22
tune,
9:23
so
9:23
sweet
9:24
and
9:24
together.
9:25
It
9:25
just
9:25
makes,
9:27
you
9:27
know,
9:27
a
9:28
discordant
9:28
cacophony.
9:29
A
9:29
discordant
9:30
cacophony
9:31
of
9:31
sound.
9:33
That
9:33
we
9:34
just
9:34
love
9:34
and
9:35
cherish.
9:37
Yeah.
9:37
And
9:37
so
9:38
she's
9:38
saying,
9:38
like,
9:39
many
9:39
complex
9:40
kids
9:41
have
9:41
a
9:42
developmental
9:42
delay
9:42
in
9:43
this
9:43
part
9:43
of
9:43
the
9:43
brain
9:44
because
9:45
of
9:45
what
9:46
they're
9:46
going
9:46
through.
9:46
And
9:47
so,
9:47
like,
9:48
there's
9:48
not
9:49
as
9:49
much
9:49
of
9:49
this
9:49
happening
9:50
in
9:50
the
9:50
timeframe
9:51
that
9:51
you
9:51
think
9:51
it's
9:52
gonna
9:52
happen.
9:53
And
9:53
I
9:53
don't
9:53
know,
9:54
like,
9:54
I
9:54
don't
9:54
know
9:54
how
9:54
you
9:55
feel
9:55
about
9:55
that
9:55
when
9:55
I
9:56
say
9:56
it
9:56
that
9:56
way,
9:56
but
9:56
that's
9:57
how
9:57
she
9:57
said
9:57
it.
10:00
But
10:01
this
10:01
idea
10:01
that
10:01
your
10:01
executive
10:02
functioning
10:04
because
10:05
of
10:05
the
10:05
chemicals
10:06
or
10:06
lack
10:07
thereof
10:08
isn't.
10:09
Is
10:09
just.
10:10
That
10:10
is
10:10
just
10:11
true.
10:11
Like,
10:11
it's
10:11
just
10:12
not
10:12
going
10:12
to
10:13
be
10:13
able
10:14
to
10:14
necessarily
10:14
do
10:15
all
10:15
of
10:15
these
10:15
things
10:18
in
10:18
this
10:18
way.
10:19
Like,
10:20
my
10:20
executive
10:21
functioning
10:21
right
10:21
now
10:22
struggles
10:22
to
10:23
hear
10:23
all
10:23
these
10:24
words
10:24
and
10:25
process
10:25
them
10:26
and
10:26
understand,
10:27
like,
10:27
how
10:27
to
10:28
then
10:28
take
10:29
my
10:29
thoughts
10:30
and
10:31
bring
10:32
them
10:32
out
10:32
of
10:32
my
10:33
mouth
10:33
hole.
10:36
Yeah.
10:37
Yeah.
10:37
It's
10:38
like
10:38
I.
10:38
It's
10:39
like.
10:39
It's
10:39
like
10:39
as
10:39
soon
10:39
as
10:40
we.
10:40
It's
10:40
so
10:40
interesting
10:41
as
10:42
soon
10:42
as,
10:42
like,
10:42
there
10:42
is
10:44
any
10:44
kind
10:44
of,
10:45
like,
10:46
you
10:46
know,
10:47
scientific
10:48
language
10:48
or,
10:49
like,
10:49
you
10:49
know,
10:49
higher
10:49
level
10:50
language,
10:50
like,
10:51
my
10:51
brain
10:51
just,
10:51
like,
10:52
shuts
10:52
down
10:52
and
10:53
it's
10:53
like,
10:53
I
10:53
don't.
10:54
I
10:54
don't.
10:54
I
10:55
like,
10:55
it
10:55
can't.
10:55
It
10:56
can't
10:56
take.
10:58
It
10:58
can't
10:58
figure
10:59
it
10:59
out.
11:00
And
11:01
it's
11:01
it's
11:01
really
11:02
interesting.
11:02
I'm.
11:03
I'm.
11:03
I'm
11:04
trying
11:04
to
11:04
be
11:04
curious
11:05
of
11:05
my
11:05
brain.
11:05
I
11:06
was
11:06
just
11:06
about.
11:06
I
11:06
was,
11:06
like,
11:07
just,
11:07
you
11:07
know,
11:07
beating
11:08
myself
11:08
up
11:08
a
11:09
minute
11:09
ago.
11:09
And
11:09
I'm
11:10
like,
11:10
okay,
11:10
I'm
11:10
trying
11:10
to
11:10
be
11:10
curious
11:11
instead
11:12
because,
11:12
like,
11:13
it's
11:13
really
11:13
challenging
11:14
for
11:14
me
11:14
to,
11:14
like,
11:15
listen.
11:15
It's
11:15
really,
11:16
really
11:16
hard.
11:17
Yeah.
11:18
And
11:18
I'm,
11:19
like,
11:19
trying
11:19
to
11:19
remember,
11:20
like,
11:20
what
11:20
it
11:20
was
11:20
we
11:21
just
11:21
talked
11:21
about.
11:22
Like,
11:22
you
11:22
were
11:22
just
11:22
talking
11:23
and
11:23
you
11:23
had
11:24
beautiful
11:24
things
11:24
that
11:24
you
11:24
were
11:24
saying,
11:25
and
11:25
I
11:25
was
11:25
like,
11:25
yeah,
11:25
yeah,
11:26
yeah.
11:26
But,
11:26
like,
11:28
what
11:28
were
11:28
we
11:28
just
11:29
talking
11:29
about?
11:31
Yeah,
11:31
I
11:31
mean,
11:31
so
11:33
this
11:33
is
11:33
the
11:33
problem.
11:34
Yeah,
11:34
it's
11:35
the
11:35
problem
11:35
for
11:35
sure.
11:36
And
11:36
it's
11:36
interesting
11:36
because,
11:38
again,
11:39
your
11:39
prefrontal
11:40
cortex,
11:40
like,
11:41
the.
11:41
The
11:41
front
11:41
of
11:42
your
11:42
head,
11:42
right.
11:43
Like,
11:44
doesn't
11:44
have
11:45
enough
11:46
of
11:46
the
11:46
chemicals
11:47
to,
11:48
like,
11:48
get
11:49
you
11:49
to
11:49
attend
11:50
unless
11:50
you're
11:50
very
11:50
interested.
11:52
Yeah.
11:52
And
11:53
even
11:53
if
11:53
you're
11:53
very
11:53
interested,
11:54
sometimes
11:54
not
11:55
so,
11:55
like,
11:55
oh,
11:55
yeah.
11:56
She
11:56
goes
11:56
lighter
11:56
on
11:56
the
11:57
thing
11:57
to
11:57
say.
11:57
There's
11:57
these
11:57
sort
11:58
of
11:58
six
11:58
areas
11:58
where
11:59
executive
12:00
functioning
12:00
can
12:00
be
12:00
an
12:01
issue,
12:02
and
12:02
one
12:03
of
12:03
them
12:03
is
12:03
attention
12:04
management,
12:09
Which
12:09
is
12:10
focusing,
12:10
sustaining,
12:11
or
12:12
shifting
12:12
attention.
12:13
Check.
12:14
So
12:15
you,
12:15
like,
12:15
get
12:15
bored
12:16
easily.
12:16
You
12:16
require,
12:17
you
12:18
know,
12:18
genuine.
12:19
You
12:19
know
12:19
what
12:19
it
12:19
is?
12:19
Sustained
12:20
focus.
12:21
The
12:21
novelty.
12:21
Like,
12:22
we
12:22
started
12:23
pre
12:23
gaming,
12:23
and
12:23
so,
12:24
like,
12:24
the
12:24
novelty
12:24
wore
12:25
off
12:25
because
12:25
I'm
12:25
like,
12:25
okay,
12:26
now
12:26
I
12:26
know
12:26
what
12:26
you're
12:26
saying.
12:27
And
12:27
I'm
12:27
like,
12:27
ah,
12:28
it's
12:28
fine.
12:28
I'll
12:28
just
12:28
come
12:28
back
12:29
to
12:29
it
12:29
in
12:29
a.
12:31
Oh,
12:31
no.
12:33
Okay,
12:34
well,
12:34
I
12:34
can
12:34
tell
12:34
you
12:35
what
12:35
my
12:35
brain
12:35
just
12:35
did.
12:36
How
12:36
about
12:36
I
12:36
do
12:37
that?
12:37
How
12:37
about
12:37
I
12:37
just
12:37
verbalize
12:38
what
12:38
happened
12:38
while
12:39
you
12:39
were
12:39
chatting?
12:39
Yeah.
12:41
I
12:41
mean,
12:41
I
12:41
don't
12:41
know
12:42
if
12:42
I
12:42
want
12:42
to
12:42
know
12:42
because
12:42
I
12:43
might
12:43
just
12:43
be
12:43
sad,
12:44
but.
12:44
Yes,
12:44
go
12:44
ahead.
12:44
I'm
12:45
sorry.
12:45
No,
12:45
this
12:45
is
12:45
nothing
12:46
against
12:46
you,
12:46
Michelle.
12:47
This
12:47
is,
12:47
like,
12:47
what
12:48
happens
12:48
to
12:48
my
12:48
brain.
12:49
Because,
12:49
like,
12:49
I
12:49
don't
12:49
have
12:50
the
12:50
butler
12:50
reminding
12:51
me
12:51
like,
12:51
hey,
12:51
this
12:51
is
12:51
what.
12:52
This
12:52
is
12:52
actually.
12:52
This
12:52
is
12:52
what
12:52
happens,
12:53
like,
12:53
in
12:54
school,
12:54
in
12:55
work,
12:55
like,
12:56
everywhere
12:56
I
12:57
have
12:57
to
12:57
listen
12:57
to
12:58
people.
12:59
This
12:59
is
12:59
what
12:59
happens.
13:00
Like,
13:01
I'm
13:01
really
13:02
intent
13:02
on
13:03
listening,
13:04
and
13:04
I'm
13:04
like,
13:04
I'm
13:04
here.
13:05
And
13:05
then
13:05
I'm
13:06
aware
13:06
of
13:07
what
13:07
my
13:07
body
13:07
feels
13:08
like.
13:08
And
13:09
so
13:09
for,
13:09
like,
13:09
a
13:09
good
13:10
portion
13:10
of
13:10
it,
13:10
I
13:10
was
13:10
like,
13:11
oh,
13:11
my
13:11
hair
13:11
is
13:12
rubbing
13:12
up
13:12
against
13:12
my
13:13
neck.
13:14
And
13:14
then
13:14
I'm,
13:14
like,
13:14
trying
13:15
to
13:15
fix
13:15
that.
13:15
Okay.
13:16
So
13:16
I
13:16
finally
13:17
fixed
13:17
that,
13:17
but
13:17
then
13:17
it's
13:18
like,
13:18
oh,
13:18
shoot,
13:20
I
13:20
need
13:20
to,
13:20
like,
13:21
I
13:21
hear
13:21
a
13:21
dog
13:21
outside.
13:22
Okay,
13:22
well,
13:22
let
13:22
me
13:23
text
13:23
Brian
13:24
and
13:24
tell
13:24
him
13:24
that
13:24
there's
13:25
a
13:25
puppy
13:25
crying
13:25
outside
13:25
the
13:26
door.
13:26
Okay.
13:27
Oh,
13:27
shoot.
13:27
But
13:27
you
13:27
know
13:27
what?
13:28
He's
13:28
gonna
13:28
message
13:28
me
13:28
back.
13:28
And
13:29
I
13:29
haven't
13:29
turned
13:29
off
13:29
my.
13:29
Do
13:30
not
13:30
disturb.
13:30
Okay,
13:30
Turn
13:31
off
13:31
do
13:31
not
13:31
disturb.
13:31
No,
13:32
put
13:32
it
13:32
on.
13:32
And
13:33
then
13:33
I
13:34
started
13:34
panicking
13:34
about
13:35
something
13:35
else
13:35
that
13:35
was
13:35
going
13:35
on.
13:36
I
13:36
can't
13:36
even
13:36
remember.
13:37
I've
13:37
forgotten
13:37
all
13:38
the
13:38
things
13:38
that
13:38
have
13:38
happened
13:38
in
13:38
my
13:38
br.
13:39
And
13:39
then
13:39
I
13:40
was
13:40
like,
13:40
oh,
13:40
shoot.
13:40
Megan,
13:40
go
13:41
back
13:41
and
13:41
listen
13:42
to
13:42
what
13:42
Michelle
13:42
is
13:43
saying.
13:43
Focus.
13:44
Focus.
13:44
I'm
13:44
like,
13:44
okay,
13:45
well,
13:45
go
13:45
back
13:45
and
13:45
look
13:45
at
13:45
the
13:45
picture
13:46
that
13:46
Michelle
13:46
gave
13:46
you.
13:47
Where
13:47
is
13:47
it?
13:47
I
13:48
can't
13:48
find
13:48
it.
13:48
I
13:48
don't
13:48
know.
13:49
And
13:49
then
13:49
I
13:49
start
13:49
panicking,
13:50
and
13:50
then
13:50
I'm
13:50
like,
13:50
ah.
13:51
And
13:51
then
13:51
she's,
13:52
like,
13:52
asking
13:52
me.
13:52
I'm
13:52
like,
13:52
she's
13:53
about
13:53
to
13:53
ask
13:53
me
13:53
a
13:53
question.
13:54
I
13:54
can
13:54
feel
13:54
she's
13:54
about
13:54
to
13:54
ask
13:55
me
13:55
a
13:55
question.
13:55
Oh,
13:55
what
13:56
am
13:56
I
13:56
gonna
13:56
say?
13:56
I
13:56
don't
13:57
know.
13:57
I
13:57
just
13:57
kept
13:58
going
13:58
because
13:58
I
13:59
could
13:59
tell
13:59
you
13:59
were
13:59
somewhere
14:00
else.
14:00
I
14:01
was
14:01
waiting
14:01
for
14:01
you
14:01
to
14:02
come
14:02
back.
14:02
I.
14:03
I
14:03
know.
14:04
Well,
14:04
the
14:04
thing
14:04
is,
14:05
like,
14:05
I
14:05
also
14:05
just,
14:05
like,
14:05
want
14:06
to
14:06
interrupt
14:06
all
14:06
the
14:07
time,
14:07
and.
14:08
And
14:08
then
14:08
I'm,
14:08
like,
14:08
trying
14:09
not
14:09
to
14:09
interrupt,
14:10
but
14:10
I
14:10
can't
14:11
is,
14:11
like,
14:11
if
14:11
I
14:11
don't.
14:11
What
14:12
I
14:12
realize,
14:12
like,
14:12
if
14:12
I
14:12
don't
14:13
interrupt
14:13
in
14:13
the
14:13
moment
14:14
that
14:14
I
14:14
have
14:14
the.
14:14
The
14:14
thought,
14:15
then,
14:15
like,
14:15
it
14:15
is
14:16
gone
14:17
forever.
14:17
So
14:18
why
14:18
are
14:18
you.
14:18
And
14:18
everyone's
14:19
always,
14:19
like,
14:19
ev.
14:20
Well,
14:20
because,
14:20
like,
14:20
you
14:21
know,
14:21
you
14:21
don't
14:21
like
14:21
it
14:21
when
14:21
I
14:22
interrupt,
14:22
and
14:22
so
14:22
I,
14:22
like,
14:23
try
14:23
to
14:23
not
14:23
interrupt.
14:24
People
14:24
interrupt.
14:25
But
14:25
you
14:25
do
14:25
it
14:25
all
14:26
the
14:26
time.
14:26
I'm
14:26
used
14:26
to
14:27
it.
14:27
That's
14:28
true.
14:29
That's
14:30
true.
14:30
I
14:30
don't
14:30
know
14:30
why
14:30
today
14:31
all
14:31
of
14:31
a
14:31
sudden
14:31
is
14:32
different.
14:32
No,
14:33
I've
14:33
been
14:33
trying
14:33
recently.
14:34
I've
14:34
been
14:34
trying
14:35
to
14:35
not
14:35
interrupt
14:35
because
14:36
I've
14:36
been,
14:36
like,
14:36
trying
14:36
to
14:37
get
14:37
better
14:37
at,
14:38
like,
14:38
being
14:38
an
14:39
adult
14:39
with
14:39
adhd,
14:40
and
14:40
it's
14:40
really
14:41
hard.
14:43
I'm
14:44
sorry,
14:44
Little
14:45
Rosy.
14:45
I
14:46
didn't
14:46
know
14:46
you
14:46
were.
14:46
I
14:47
didn't
14:47
know
14:47
you
14:47
were
14:47
trying
14:47
to
14:47
do
14:48
that.
14:48
Like,
14:48
that's
14:48
why
14:48
I
14:48
was,
14:48
like,
14:49
raising
14:49
my
14:49
hand
14:50
earlier.
14:50
I
14:50
was
14:50
like,
14:50
I
14:51
have
14:51
a
14:51
thought.
14:51
Can
14:52
I.
14:52
Can
14:53
I
14:53
just
14:53
raise
14:53
my
14:53
hand?
14:57
Because,
14:57
like,
14:57
I
14:58
hate.
14:58
I
14:58
hate,
14:59
like,
14:59
that
14:59
I
14:59
do
15:00
interrupt
15:00
you.
15:00
Like,
15:01
it's
15:01
not
15:01
fair,
15:02
but
15:03
then
15:03
it's
15:03
also
15:03
kind
15:03
of
15:03
fun.
15:04
But
15:04
it's
15:04
also
15:04
not
15:05
fair.
15:05
You
15:05
know,
15:05
it's
15:06
fun
15:06
for
15:06
the
15:06
podcast,
15:07
I
15:07
think,
15:07
but
15:08
it's
15:08
stressful.
15:08
I
15:09
know.
15:10
I
15:10
don't
15:10
really
15:11
know.
15:11
It's
15:12
just
15:12
my
15:12
entire
15:12
existence
15:13
with
15:13
you,
15:13
it's
15:14
not
15:14
new.
15:15
So
15:15
maybe
15:16
it's
15:16
new
15:16
to
15:16
you
15:16
that
15:17
you're,
15:17
like,
15:17
recognizing
15:18
you're
15:18
interrupting
15:19
now.
15:19
Maybe
15:19
that's
15:20
like
15:20
the
15:20
growth
15:21
is
15:21
you
15:21
realize
15:21
you
15:22
are.
15:22
Yeah,
15:23
okay.
15:23
I'm
15:24
trying
15:24
to
15:24
not
15:24
interrupt,
15:25
but
15:25
then
15:25
it's
15:25
like.
15:26
But
15:26
then
15:26
what
15:26
I
15:26
will
15:27
notice
15:27
is
15:27
that
15:27
like,
15:27
I'm
15:28
in
15:28
me
15:28
not
15:28
trying
15:29
to
15:29
interrupt.
15:29
Then
15:29
I
15:30
become
15:30
like,
15:31
boring
15:33
because
15:34
I
15:34
can't
15:35
remember
15:35
the
15:35
next
15:35
thing
15:36
I'm
15:36
trying
15:36
to
15:36
say
15:36
or
15:36
like,
15:37
I
15:37
have
15:37
a
15:37
thought
15:38
and
15:38
then
15:39
I
15:39
don't
15:39
want
15:40
to,
15:40
like,
15:40
interrupt
15:40
in
15:41
the
15:41
middle
15:41
of
15:41
it
15:41
all.
15:42
Like,
15:42
It's
15:43
a
15:43
catch
15:43
22.
15:45
It
15:45
is.
15:46
Yeah,
15:46
it's.
15:47
It.
15:47
Well,
15:47
I
15:48
think
15:48
part
15:48
of
15:48
it
15:48
is,
15:49
you
15:49
know,
15:51
sometimes
15:52
it's
15:52
like
15:52
trying
15:53
to
15:53
get
15:53
the
15:53
information
15:54
to
15:55
everyone
15:55
else.
15:56
Like,
15:57
you
15:57
know,
15:57
so
15:58
I'm
15:58
trying
15:58
to
15:58
just
15:58
sort
15:59
of
15:59
give
15:59
a
15:59
quick
15:59
little
16:00
synopsis
16:01
so
16:01
that
16:01
I
16:01
can
16:01
make
16:02
sure
16:02
that
16:03
maybe
16:03
somebody
16:04
who's
16:04
listening
16:04
might
16:05
actually
16:06
get
16:06
something
16:06
out
16:06
of
16:07
this
16:07
other
16:07
than
16:07
us
16:07
just
16:08
being
16:08
hilariously
16:09
fun.
16:10
But,
16:11
you
16:11
know,
16:11
that's
16:11
the
16:11
educator
16:12
in
16:12
me.
16:12
But
16:13
of
16:13
course,
16:13
that's
16:14
probably
16:14
boring
16:14
them
16:15
too.
16:15
So.
16:15
You
16:16
know
16:16
what
16:16
I
16:16
mean?
16:16
Like,
16:17
honestly,
16:18
I
16:18
don't
16:18
know
16:18
why
16:18
I
16:19
keep
16:19
trying
16:19
to
16:19
do
16:19
that.
16:20
No,
16:20
I
16:21
think
16:21
it's
16:21
important.
16:21
No,
16:22
see,
16:22
this
16:22
is
16:22
why
16:22
I.
16:23
This
16:23
is
16:23
why,
16:24
Michelle.
16:25
This
16:25
is.
16:25
Cause
16:26
like,
16:26
I
16:26
know
16:27
you're
16:27
gonna
16:27
beat
16:27
yourself
16:28
up
16:28
because,
16:28
like,
16:28
you're
16:28
not
16:28
actually
16:29
boring.
16:30
You're
16:30
very
16:30
interesting.
16:31
And
16:31
I
16:31
do
16:32
enjoy
16:32
the
16:33
knowledge.
16:34
It's
16:34
just
16:35
like,
16:35
normally
16:35
I'm
16:35
listening
16:36
to
16:36
knowledge
16:36
and
16:36
I
16:37
don't
16:37
have
16:37
to.
16:37
I
16:37
don't
16:37
have
16:37
to
16:38
respond
16:38
to
16:38
it.
16:39
I
16:39
just
16:39
listen
16:40
and
16:40
I
16:40
take
16:40
it
16:40
in.
16:41
And
16:41
that's
16:41
why,
16:41
like,
16:41
I
16:41
have
16:41
to.
16:42
But
16:42
it's
16:43
like
16:43
here
16:43
I
16:43
have
16:43
to
16:43
like,
16:43
respond
16:44
and
16:44
I'm
16:44
like.
16:45
Wait.
16:45
Yeah,
16:45
I
16:46
was
16:46
gonna
16:46
say,
16:46
you
16:46
know,
16:47
because,
16:47
like,
16:47
it's.
16:47
You're
16:47
just
16:48
so
16:48
brilliant.
16:50
Okay,
16:50
well.
16:50
And
16:50
I
16:51
don't.
16:51
I'm
16:51
just,
16:51
I'm
16:52
just.
16:52
Let's
16:52
be
16:53
clear
16:53
though.
16:53
I'm
16:53
just
16:53
repeating
16:54
what
16:54
I
16:54
read.
16:55
So
16:55
I'm
16:55
not,
16:56
you
16:56
know,
16:56
this
16:56
isn't
16:57
like
16:57
my
16:57
knowledge,
16:58
but
16:58
I'm
16:58
happy
16:58
to
16:59
like
16:59
share
16:59
it
16:59
for
17:00
sure.
17:00
And
17:00
I
17:00
do
17:00
want
17:00
to
17:01
say
17:01
this
17:01
though,
17:01
because
17:02
I
17:02
think
17:02
this
17:02
is
17:02
important,
17:03
which
17:04
is
17:05
that
17:05
there's.
17:05
I
17:06
did
17:06
not
17:06
realize
17:06
this,
17:06
and
17:07
this
17:07
was
17:07
interesting
17:07
to
17:07
me
17:08
anyway,
17:08
that
17:08
there
17:09
was
17:09
a
17:09
woman,
17:09
Cheryl
17:10
Pruitt,
17:10
she
17:10
quotes
17:11
that
17:11
was
17:11
did
17:12
Taming
17:12
the
17:12
Tiger
17:13
was
17:13
the
17:13
book.
17:14
But
17:14
that
17:14
there's
17:14
over
17:15
100
17:16
childhood
17:16
conditions
17:18
that.
17:18
Where
17:19
the
17:19
executive
17:20
functioning
17:20
situation
17:21
manifests
17:21
itself.
17:22
So
17:22
it's
17:22
not
17:22
just
17:22
adhd,
17:23
it's
17:23
anxiety,
17:23
autism,
17:24
Tourette's,
17:26
celiacs,
17:27
Addison's,
17:28
allergies.
17:29
She
17:29
talks
17:29
about
17:30
learning
17:30
disabilities,
17:31
all
17:31
of
17:31
these
17:31
things.
17:32
Executive
17:32
functioning,
17:33
including
17:34
stress
17:35
related
17:35
disorders
17:35
like
17:36
attachment
17:36
disorder,
17:37
trauma,
17:37
ptsd.
17:39
So
17:39
when
17:39
she
17:39
talks
17:40
about
17:40
complex
17:40
kids.
17:41
She's
17:41
talking
17:42
about
17:42
people
17:42
who
17:42
have
17:43
executive
17:43
functioning
17:44
stuff
17:44
going
17:44
on.
17:45
And
17:46
it
17:46
could
17:46
be
17:46
in
17:47
all
17:47
of
17:47
these
17:47
different
17:48
conditions.
17:48
Right.
17:48
And
17:49
you
17:49
might
17:49
have
17:49
more
17:49
than
17:49
one.
17:49
You
17:50
could
17:50
have
17:50
multiple.
17:52
So
17:52
when
17:52
you're.
17:53
When
17:53
someone.
17:54
When
17:54
she's
17:54
talking
17:55
about
17:55
this
17:55
executive
17:55
functioning
17:57
issues,
17:58
is
17:58
she
17:58
saying
17:59
that,
17:59
like,
17:59
if
18:00
you
18:00
have.
18:00
You
18:00
can
18:01
have
18:01
anxiety
18:01
but
18:02
not
18:02
have
18:02
ADHD
18:03
and
18:03
there's
18:03
still
18:03
executive
18:04
functioning
18:04
problems?
18:05
Yes.
18:07
Ah.
18:07
And
18:07
this
18:08
is
18:08
why.
18:08
So,
18:08
like,
18:08
this
18:09
is
18:09
why.
18:09
Like
18:09
my
18:09
therapist.
18:10
So
18:11
I
18:11
had
18:11
a
18:11
psychiatrist
18:12
when
18:12
I
18:13
was
18:13
doing
18:13
the
18:13
prolonged
18:13
exposure
18:14
therapy,
18:14
and
18:14
he
18:14
said
18:15
I
18:15
had
18:15
to
18:15
get
18:15
off
18:15
Adderall
18:17
while
18:17
I
18:17
was
18:17
doing
18:17
the
18:18
therapy
18:18
because
18:18
he's
18:19
like,
18:19
I'm
18:19
not
18:19
sure
18:19
if
18:19
you're
18:20
ADHD
18:20
or
18:21
if
18:21
you're
18:21
just
18:21
traumatized.
18:23
Right.
18:24
That's
18:24
probably
18:24
what
18:24
he
18:24
meant.
18:24
Right.
18:25
Is
18:25
that
18:25
like
18:25
executive.
18:26
Like
18:26
your
18:26
executive
18:27
functioning
18:27
issues
18:27
could
18:28
be
18:28
due
18:28
to
18:28
trauma.
18:29
And
18:29
so
18:29
he
18:30
want.
18:30
He
18:30
didn't
18:30
want
18:30
me
18:31
to
18:31
have
18:31
to
18:31
take
18:31
stimulants
18:32
because
18:32
that
18:32
would
18:33
alter,
18:33
like,
18:34
potentially.
18:34
Like,
18:35
we
18:35
had
18:35
to
18:35
figure
18:35
out,
18:35
like,
18:35
we
18:35
had
18:36
to
18:36
get
18:36
through
18:36
the
18:36
problems
18:37
first.
18:38
And
18:38
then
18:38
it
18:39
was
18:39
like,
18:39
I
18:39
think
18:39
a
18:40
year
18:40
and
18:40
a
18:40
half
18:40
or
18:40
two
18:41
years
18:41
after
18:41
I
18:41
had
18:41
like
18:42
gone
18:42
through
18:42
all
18:42
of
18:42
this
18:43
and
18:43
like,
18:43
I
18:43
actually
18:43
got
18:44
a
18:44
certificate.
18:44
I
18:44
asked
18:45
him,
18:45
I'm
18:45
like,
18:45
can
18:45
I
18:45
have
18:45
a
18:45
certificate?
18:46
And
18:46
he's
18:46
like,
18:47
yeah,
18:48
he'd
18:48
never
18:48
given
18:49
one
18:49
before.
18:49
And
18:49
I'm
18:49
like,
18:50
please,
18:50
give
18:50
me
18:50
one.
18:50
I
18:51
have
18:51
one.
18:51
It's
18:51
really
18:51
funny.
18:52
But
18:53
like,
18:53
after
18:53
that,
18:55
we
18:55
went
18:55
to
18:55
my
18:55
doc
18:56
and
18:56
I
18:56
was
18:56
like,
18:56
okay,
18:56
it's
18:57
been
18:57
two
18:57
years.
18:57
I
18:58
think
18:58
I
18:58
do
18:58
actually
18:58
have
18:59
adhd.
19:00
I've
19:01
been
19:01
through
19:01
the
19:01
trauma
19:02
stuff.
19:02
I
19:02
think
19:02
it's
19:02
just
19:03
real.
19:03
Can
19:04
I
19:04
have
19:04
my
19:04
medicine
19:05
back,
19:05
please?
19:06
Yeah,
19:06
and
19:06
it's
19:07
still
19:07
like,
19:07
it's
19:08
still
19:08
real
19:08
even
19:09
if.
19:09
Right.
19:10
But
19:10
like,
19:10
I
19:10
guess
19:10
the
19:11
stimulants
19:11
wouldn't
19:11
work
19:12
for
19:12
somebody
19:12
who
19:12
wasn't
19:13
adhd,
19:13
maybe.
19:14
Right.
19:14
It's
19:15
like,
19:15
why
19:15
the
19:15
executive
19:16
functioning
19:16
happening
19:17
and
19:17
how
19:17
it
19:17
fixes
19:17
it?
19:18
I
19:18
don't
19:18
know
19:18
that
19:18
answer.
19:19
That
19:19
would
19:19
be
19:19
interesting
19:20
to
19:20
ask
19:20
somebody.
19:21
She
19:22
says,
19:22
though,
19:22
for
19:23
complex
19:23
kids,
19:23
whether
19:23
it's
19:24
trauma
19:24
related
19:25
or
19:25
it's
19:25
ADHD
19:26
or
19:26
whatever,
19:26
any
19:27
of
19:27
these.
19:27
That
19:28
it's
19:28
not
19:28
whether
19:28
you
19:29
need
19:29
to
19:30
activate
19:30
the
19:31
brain,
19:31
it's
19:31
how.
19:32
So
19:33
you
19:33
need
19:33
something
19:34
external
19:34
to
19:35
help
19:35
you
19:36
activate
19:37
your
19:37
brain
19:37
is
19:38
just
19:38
a
19:38
given.
19:39
Panic.
19:40
The
19:40
question
19:40
is
19:40
how,
19:41
huh?
19:42
Pure
19:42
panic.
19:42
Pure
19:43
panic,
19:44
Right.
19:44
That's
19:44
one
19:45
way.
19:45
That's
19:46
one
19:46
way.
19:47
Yeah.
19:47
It's
19:48
just
19:48
not
19:48
great
19:48
for
19:48
your
19:48
health.
19:50
It's
19:50
right.
19:51
Because
19:51
high
19:51
cortisol
19:52
levels
19:52
is
19:53
what
19:53
ends
19:53
up
19:53
happening.
19:54
And
19:54
like,
19:54
if
19:54
you
19:55
hear
19:55
everyone's
19:55
Talking
19:56
about
19:56
nowadays,
19:56
like,
19:56
high.
19:57
Oh,
19:57
I
19:57
have
19:57
high
19:57
cortisol.
19:58
High
19:58
cor.
19:58
I
19:59
don't
19:59
know
19:59
if
19:59
maybe
19:59
it's
19:59
just
20:00
women
20:00
my
20:00
age,
20:00
but
20:02
it's.
20:02
Yeah.
20:03
So
20:03
using
20:03
that
20:04
technique,
20:05
while
20:05
very
20:07
effective,
20:08
generally
20:09
speaking,
20:09
can
20:10
be
20:10
hard
20:11
on
20:11
you.
20:11
It's
20:12
never
20:12
been
20:12
effective
20:13
for
20:13
me.
20:14
But
20:14
it's
20:14
what
20:15
you
20:15
use.
20:16
I
20:16
mean,
20:16
it
20:16
is.
20:16
What.
20:17
I
20:17
don't
20:17
think
20:17
I'm
20:17
meaning
20:18
to
20:18
use
20:18
it
20:19
for
20:19
sure.
20:20
But,
20:20
like,
20:20
it's
20:21
panic
20:21
and,
20:21
like,
20:22
beating
20:22
myself
20:22
up.
20:23
I
20:23
think
20:23
beating
20:23
myself
20:24
up
20:24
more
20:24
than
20:24
anything
20:24
has
20:24
probably
20:25
helped
20:25
me.
20:27
That's,
20:28
like,
20:28
probably
20:28
helped
20:28
me
20:28
the
20:28
most.
20:29
Like,
20:29
the
20:29
panic
20:30
is
20:30
just,
20:30
like,
20:31
I
20:32
feel,
20:32
like,
20:32
so
20:32
bad.
20:33
So,
20:33
like,
20:33
the
20:33
panic
20:34
helps
20:34
me
20:34
lead
20:34
to
20:34
beating
20:35
myself
20:35
up.
20:37
Hmm.
20:38
Say
20:39
more.
20:41
Well,
20:41
I,
20:42
like,
20:42
you
20:42
know,
20:42
realize
20:43
that
20:43
I'm
20:43
messing
20:44
up.
20:44
I
20:44
realize
20:44
that
20:44
I'm
20:45
not,
20:45
you
20:46
know,
20:46
I'm
20:47
not
20:47
doing
20:47
what
20:47
I
20:47
should
20:47
be
20:48
doing.
20:48
And
20:48
so
20:48
then
20:49
I
20:49
get
20:49
panicked.
20:50
And
20:50
then
20:50
that
20:51
then
20:51
leads
20:51
me
20:51
to,
20:52
like,
20:52
negative
20:52
self
20:52
talk
20:53
and
20:53
like,
20:53
oh,
20:54
Megan,
20:54
you're
20:54
such.
20:54
You're
20:55
so
20:55
stupid.
20:55
You
20:56
know,
20:56
just
20:56
like,
20:56
all
20:56
the
20:57
nasty
20:57
things
20:57
I
20:57
say
20:57
to
20:57
myself.
20:59
And
20:59
that
20:59
helps
21:00
you
21:00
get
21:00
things
21:00
done?
21:00
Because,.
21:03
I
21:03
mean,
21:03
does
21:03
it
21:04
help
21:04
me
21:04
get
21:04
things
21:04
done?
21:05
I
21:05
think
21:06
in
21:06
the
21:06
past
21:06
it
21:06
did,
21:07
because
21:07
it
21:07
was
21:07
like,
21:07
you
21:08
better
21:08
get
21:08
this
21:08
done,
21:08
otherwise
21:09
you're
21:09
not
21:09
worthy
21:10
of
21:10
anything.
21:12
Like,
21:12
I
21:12
think
21:12
it
21:12
was.
21:13
I
21:13
think
21:13
it
21:13
was
21:13
like
21:14
the.
21:15
It
21:16
was
21:16
the
21:16
thing
21:16
that
21:17
got
21:17
me
21:17
through
21:18
the
21:18
war,
21:18
Right?
21:19
It
21:19
was
21:19
like
21:19
the
21:19
Kevlar
21:20
that
21:20
got
21:20
me
21:21
through
21:21
the
21:21
war
21:22
as
21:22
a
21:22
kid
21:23
and
21:23
as
21:24
a
21:24
young
21:24
adult.
21:25
And
21:25
then
21:26
it,
21:26
Like,
21:27
I
21:27
came
21:27
back
21:27
from
21:27
the
21:28
war
21:28
and
21:28
it
21:28
didn't.
21:29
It
21:29
stopped
21:29
serving
21:29
me.
21:30
So,
21:31
like,
21:31
now
21:31
it
21:31
doesn't
21:31
help
21:32
me.
21:32
Like,
21:32
now
21:32
it's,
21:32
like,
21:33
makes
21:33
it
21:33
that
21:33
much
21:33
harder.
21:36
So
21:36
it's
21:36
like
21:36
having
21:36
to
21:37
peel
21:37
off
21:37
the
21:37
Kevlar
21:38
and
21:38
figure
21:38
out,
21:38
like,
21:38
how
21:38
do
21:38
you
21:39
go
21:39
about
21:39
your
21:39
day,
21:40
not
21:40
doing
21:40
that?
21:41
And
21:41
that's.
21:41
That's
21:42
the
21:42
challenging
21:42
part.
21:45
Not
21:46
being
21:46
mean
21:46
to
21:46
yourself
21:47
now.
21:48
Yeah,
21:48
because
21:49
I
21:49
think
21:49
it's.
21:49
It's
21:49
just
21:50
ingrained,
21:50
you
21:50
know,
21:51
it's
21:51
like.
21:51
It's
21:51
just
21:51
ingrained
21:52
that,
21:52
like,
21:52
I'm
21:52
gonna
21:52
be
21:52
mean
21:53
to
21:53
myself
21:53
and
21:54
say
21:54
terrible
21:54
things
21:55
to
21:55
myself,
21:56
and
21:56
no
21:56
one's
21:56
gonna
21:57
know
21:57
I'm
21:57
doing
21:57
it.
21:57
Right.
21:58
Like,
21:58
that's
21:58
the
21:58
difference
21:58
is,
21:59
like,
21:59
some
21:59
people,
22:00
like,
22:00
I've
22:00
seen,
22:00
like,
22:00
they.
22:00
They're
22:01
mean
22:01
to
22:01
themselves.
22:01
Like,
22:02
you
22:02
can
22:02
see
22:02
it
22:02
all
22:02
over
22:02
them.
22:03
Like,
22:03
you
22:04
will
22:04
not
22:04
see
22:04
it
22:04
on
22:04
my
22:04
face.
22:05
I
22:06
will
22:06
hide
22:06
that.
22:06
It's
22:07
my
22:07
little
22:07
secret.
22:08
No
22:08
one
22:08
has
22:08
to
22:09
know.
22:09
It
22:09
is
22:09
fully
22:10
internalized,
22:12
which
22:12
is
22:12
probably
22:12
why
22:12
my
22:13
body
22:13
started
22:13
spasming,
22:14
because
22:14
it
22:14
was
22:14
like,
22:14
I'm
22:15
just
22:15
You
22:15
know,
22:15
have
22:15
all
22:16
this
22:16
stuff
22:16
that's
22:16
just
22:16
like
22:17
really
22:17
mean
22:17
inside
22:18
of
22:18
me
22:18
and
22:18
it
22:18
has
22:19
to
22:19
get
22:19
out
22:19
somehow
22:20
and
22:21
it
22:21
comes
22:22
out
22:22
through
22:22
my
22:22
muscles.
22:24
It's
22:25
so
22:25
interesting
22:25
because
22:26
for
22:27
you,
22:28
I
22:28
remember
22:28
going
22:29
to
22:29
all
22:29
these
22:29
doctors
22:29
all
22:30
the
22:30
time
22:30
and
22:31
they
22:31
were
22:32
like,
22:32
basically
22:32
kind
22:33
of
22:33
like
22:33
it's
22:33
just
22:33
in
22:34
your
22:34
head.
22:34
And
22:35
I
22:35
think
22:35
that's
22:35
the
22:36
meanest
22:36
thing
22:37
in
22:37
a
22:37
way.
22:38
Means
22:39
the
22:39
wrong
22:39
word,
22:39
but
22:40
just
22:40
maddening
22:41
because
22:42
so
22:42
what,
22:43
so
22:43
then
22:43
what?
22:44
Right?
22:44
Like
22:45
that's
22:45
always
22:45
my
22:45
question.
22:46
So,
22:46
okay,
22:46
so
22:46
it's
22:47
in
22:47
your
22:47
head.
22:47
So
22:47
then
22:47
how
22:48
do
22:48
you
22:48
work?
22:48
How
22:49
do
22:49
you
22:49
fix
22:49
it?
22:49
Because
22:49
it's
22:50
happening
22:50
physically,
22:51
it's
22:52
occurring.
22:53
The
22:53
physical
22:53
manifestation
22:54
of
22:54
it
22:54
is
22:55
occurring.
22:55
So
22:55
what
22:55
do
22:56
you
22:56
do?
22:56
And
22:57
in
22:57
her
22:58
book,
22:58
she
22:58
talks
22:58
about
22:59
using
22:59
this
22:59
combination
23:00
of
23:00
exercise,
23:01
nutrition,
23:02
sleep,
23:03
meditation,
23:04
maybe
23:05
different
23:05
motivational
23:05
techniques,
23:06
medication
23:07
and
23:08
coaching.
23:09
And
23:11
it
23:11
was
23:11
interesting
23:12
because
23:12
she
23:12
said
23:13
understanding
23:14
your
23:14
executive
23:15
functioning
23:15
and
23:15
consciously
23:16
engaging,
23:21
like
23:21
having
23:21
your
23:22
kids
23:22
engage
23:22
with
23:23
their
23:23
prefrontal
23:23
cortex,
23:24
understand
23:25
their
23:25
brain
23:26
basically.
23:26
Right.
23:28
Can
23:29
help
23:29
with
23:29
self
23:29
regulation.
23:32
Like
23:32
it
23:33
doesn't
23:33
fix
23:33
it.
23:33
And
23:34
there's
23:34
definitely
23:35
like
23:35
the
23:35
concept
23:36
of,
23:37
you
23:38
know,
23:39
understanding
23:40
that
23:40
they're
23:40
going
23:41
to
23:41
be
23:41
three
23:41
or
23:41
four
23:41
years
23:42
behind,
23:42
maybe
23:43
what
23:43
would
23:43
be
23:43
quote
23:44
unquote
23:44
expected,
23:45
but
23:46
that
23:47
they
23:47
will
23:47
continue
23:48
to
23:48
grow,
23:48
their
23:48
prefrontal
23:49
cortex
23:49
will
23:50
continue
23:50
to
23:50
develop.
23:51
This
23:51
isn't
23:51
like
23:52
you're
23:52
going
23:52
to
23:52
be
23:52
the
23:52
same
23:53
at
23:53
12
23:53
as
23:54
you
23:54
are
23:54
at
23:54
47.
23:55
Right.
23:56
Like
23:56
those
23:56
things,
23:57
you're
23:57
going
23:57
to
23:57
grow
23:58
and
23:58
you're
23:58
going
23:58
to
23:59
gain
23:59
more
23:59
capability.
24:01
But
24:01
I
24:01
think
24:01
her
24:02
point
24:02
is
24:02
that
24:03
you
24:03
need
24:03
to
24:04
understand
24:04
what
24:05
works
24:05
for
24:05
you
24:06
and
24:06
what
24:06
doesn't
24:06
work
24:07
for
24:07
you.
24:07
And
24:08
you
24:08
need
24:08
to
24:08
be
24:08
really
24:08
honest
24:09
about
24:09
it.
24:10
What's
24:10
happening
24:10
with
24:11
your
24:11
brain
24:11
in
24:11
order
24:11
to
24:12
be
24:12
able
24:12
to
24:13
self
24:13
regulate
24:13
better.
24:15
Yeah.
24:16
And
24:16
I.
24:16
It's
24:16
like
24:16
a,
24:17
it's
24:17
a,
24:17
it's
24:17
an
24:17
interesting
24:18
question
24:18
because
24:18
like,
24:18
you
24:19
know,
24:19
Brian
24:19
and
24:19
I
24:19
were
24:19
just
24:19
talking
24:20
this
24:20
morning,
24:22
for
24:22
those
24:22
of
24:22
you
24:22
who
24:23
are
24:23
new.
24:23
Brian's
24:23
my
24:23
spouse.
24:24
He's
24:24
also
24:24
got
24:25
adhd
24:25
and
24:25
he
24:26
said
24:26
I
24:26
can
24:26
talk
24:26
about
24:27
him.
24:27
He
24:27
gave
24:27
me
24:27
permission.
24:28
Yes,
24:29
you
24:29
had
24:30
messaged
24:30
me
24:30
this
24:30
morning,
24:30
Michelle,
24:31
because
24:31
I'm
24:31
gonna
24:32
come
24:32
and
24:32
visit
24:32
you
24:33
this
24:33
next
24:34
week
24:34
for
24:34
my
24:35
nephew's
24:35
graduation.
24:37
So
24:37
exciting.
24:38
We
24:38
can't
24:38
wait
24:38
to
24:39
have
24:39
you.
24:39
I
24:39
know
24:40
it's
24:40
gonna
24:40
be
24:40
great.
24:41
Although
24:41
it's
24:41
gonna
24:41
be
24:41
hot.
24:41
But
24:42
I've
24:42
already
24:42
had
24:42
a
24:42
plan.
24:43
I
24:43
worked
24:43
it
24:43
out.
24:44
I
24:44
have
24:44
a
24:44
plan
24:44
for
24:44
what
24:44
I'm
24:45
gonna
24:45
do.
24:45
And
24:45
I
24:45
got
24:45
you
24:46
a
24:46
hotel
24:46
where
24:46
you
24:46
can
24:46
keep
24:47
the
24:47
air
24:47
conditioning
24:48
exactly
24:48
whatever
24:48
level
24:49
you
24:49
want.
24:49
I'll
24:50
bring
24:50
a
24:50
sweater
24:50
for
24:51
Brian.
24:53
So
24:53
you
24:54
had
24:54
messaged
24:54
me
24:54
and
24:54
said,
24:55
okay,
24:55
what
24:55
kind
24:55
of
24:55
snacks
24:56
do
24:56
you
24:56
want
24:56
in
24:56
the
24:56
hotel?
24:57
And
24:57
I
24:58
was
24:58
like,
24:58
okay.
24:58
So
24:59
I
24:59
talked.
24:59
I
24:59
looked
24:59
at
24:59
Brian
25:00
like,
25:00
hey,
25:00
so
25:00
what
25:00
kind
25:00
of
25:00
snacks
25:01
do
25:01
we
25:01
want?
25:01
He's
25:02
like,
25:03
why
25:03
is
25:03
it
25:04
that
25:04
whenever
25:04
someone
25:05
asks
25:05
me
25:05
this
25:06
question,
25:06
like,
25:06
I
25:06
just
25:07
can't
25:08
answer
25:08
it?
25:09
And
25:09
I
25:10
was
25:10
like,
25:10
I
25:11
totally
25:11
know
25:11
what
25:12
you
25:12
mean.
25:12
I'm
25:12
like,
25:13
this
25:13
is
25:13
the
25:13
hardest
25:14
question
25:14
for
25:15
me
25:15
to
25:15
answer.
25:16
And
25:16
I
25:16
think
25:17
it
25:17
has
25:17
to
25:17
do
25:17
with
25:18
the
25:18
executive
25:18
functioning.
25:19
I
25:19
think
25:19
it's
25:19
like
25:19
the
25:20
butler
25:20
is
25:20
basically
25:21
saying,
25:21
hey,
25:22
Megan,
25:22
you
25:22
like
25:22
this
25:23
and
25:23
you
25:23
like
25:23
that.
25:23
And
25:24
don't
25:24
forget,
25:24
you
25:24
want.
25:25
You
25:25
know,
25:25
it's
25:25
like
25:25
I
25:26
have
25:26
this,
25:26
like,
25:26
sticky
25:27
somewhere
25:27
that's
25:27
just,
25:27
like,
25:28
has
25:28
bad
25:28
adhesive
25:29
in
25:29
my
25:29
brain.
25:30
And.
25:31
And
25:31
it's
25:31
hard
25:31
to,
25:32
like,
25:32
it's
25:33
hard
25:33
to
25:33
remember,
25:34
and
25:34
I
25:34
wonder
25:35
if
25:35
this
25:35
is
25:35
part
25:35
of
25:35
it.
25:36
And.
25:36
And
25:37
I
25:38
like,
25:38
if,
25:39
like,
25:39
we
25:39
kind
25:39
of
25:40
finally,
25:40
like,
25:40
talked
25:41
it
25:41
out.
25:41
I
25:41
was
25:41
like,
25:41
yeah,
25:41
okay.
25:42
So
25:42
we
25:42
just.
25:42
We
25:42
both
25:42
didn't
25:44
judge
25:45
each
25:45
other
25:45
on
25:45
it.
25:45
I
25:46
was
25:46
like,
25:46
well,
25:46
I
25:46
do
25:46
know
25:46
that
25:46
we
25:46
like
25:47
sodas,
25:47
so,
25:47
like,
25:47
let's.
25:47
Okay,
25:48
I
25:48
have
25:48
these
25:48
two
25:48
sodas
25:49
down.
25:49
And
25:49
I'm
25:49
like,
25:49
do
25:49
we
25:50
want
25:50
something
25:50
crunchy
25:51
or
25:51
do
25:51
we
25:51
want.
25:52
How
25:52
about
25:52
protein,
25:52
Megan?
25:53
I'm
25:53
like,
25:53
oh,
25:53
yeah,
25:53
the
25:54
protein
25:54
shakes.
25:54
Yeah,
25:55
get
25:55
the
25:55
protein
25:55
shake.
25:56
Okay.
25:56
And
25:56
then
25:57
we're,
25:57
like,
25:57
kind
25:57
of
25:57
walking
25:58
through.
25:58
And
25:58
then,
25:58
you
25:59
know,
25:59
he's
25:59
like,
25:59
well,
25:59
I
25:59
know
25:59
you
25:59
don't,
26:00
like,
26:00
check
26:00
mix,
26:00
Megan.
26:00
I'm
26:01
like,
26:01
but
26:01
you
26:01
do,
26:01
right?
26:02
He's
26:02
like,
26:02
I
26:03
do.
26:03
And
26:03
I'm
26:03
like,
26:03
perfect.
26:03
I'll
26:04
put
26:04
that
26:04
on
26:04
there,
26:04
you
26:04
know?
26:05
And
26:05
it's
26:05
like.
26:05
But,
26:06
like,
26:06
also,
26:06
I
26:06
think
26:06
there's.
26:06
It's
26:06
part
26:07
of.
26:07
As
26:07
a
26:08
person
26:08
with
26:08
adhd,
26:09
being
26:09
told
26:10
that
26:10
I'm
26:10
messing
26:11
up
26:11
all
26:11
the
26:11
time.
26:11
I,
26:12
like,
26:12
I
26:12
recognize
26:13
this
26:13
part
26:13
of
26:13
me
26:14
that
26:14
I
26:14
want
26:14
to
26:15
appease
26:16
others.
26:17
And
26:17
so
26:17
I
26:18
don't
26:18
always
26:18
know
26:18
what
26:19
I
26:19
like,
26:20
because
26:20
I'm
26:20
constantly
26:21
trying
26:21
to
26:21
appease
26:22
others
26:22
and
26:23
deny
26:23
myself
26:24
in
26:25
order
26:25
to
26:25
fit
26:25
in.
26:26
And
26:26
then
26:26
I
26:27
don't
26:27
even
26:27
know
26:27
basic.
26:27
I
26:28
told
26:28
you
26:28
this
26:28
back
26:28
in
26:28
the
26:28
day.
26:29
It's
26:29
like,
26:29
I
26:29
don't
26:29
even
26:29
know
26:29
how
26:29
I
26:30
like
26:30
my
26:30
eggs.
26:30
Like,
26:30
I
26:31
don't
26:31
like
26:31
eggs
26:31
scrambled.
26:32
I
26:32
just.
26:33
I
26:33
really
26:33
don't.
26:34
It's
26:34
like
26:34
a
26:35
very
26:35
specific
26:35
way.
26:36
Maybe
26:36
I
26:36
could
26:36
do
26:36
a
26:36
scramble.
26:37
But
26:37
the
26:37
majority
26:37
of
26:38
the
26:38
eggs,
26:38
I
26:38
like
26:38
them
26:39
over
26:39
easy.
26:39
I
26:39
like
26:39
them
26:39
gooey
26:40
all
26:40
over
26:40
my
26:41
potatoes.
26:41
That's
26:42
how
26:42
I
26:42
like
26:42
eggs.
26:43
But,
26:43
like,
26:43
I
26:44
couldn't
26:44
have
26:44
said
26:44
that
26:45
to
26:45
you
26:46
10
26:46
years
26:46
ago.
26:47
Yeah.
26:48
You
26:48
know,
26:48
when
26:49
I
26:49
was
26:49
starting,
26:50
like,.
26:50
When
26:50
you
26:50
have
26:51
the
26:51
concept,
26:52
too,
26:52
of
26:52
like
26:52
your
26:52
own
26:53
self,
26:54
like
26:54
who
26:54
your
26:54
own
26:54
self
26:55
is.
26:56
So
26:56
knowing
26:56
your
26:57
brain,
26:57
but
26:57
also
26:57
knowing
26:58
you
26:58
know,
26:58
how
26:59
your
26:59
brain
26:59
works
26:59
also
27:00
then
27:01
adds
27:01
to
27:01
this
27:01
concept
27:02
of
27:02
like,
27:02
who
27:02
are
27:03
you?
27:03
And
27:04
I
27:04
agree
27:05
completely.
27:05
I
27:06
think
27:07
it's
27:07
interesting
27:08
when
27:08
she
27:08
talks
27:08
about
27:09
like
27:09
executive
27:09
functioning.
27:11
It's
27:11
the
27:12
idea
27:12
that
27:12
your
27:13
brain
27:13
tells
27:13
you
27:14
how
27:14
to
27:14
feel
27:14
about
27:15
something
27:15
or
27:15
if
27:16
you
27:16
want
27:16
to
27:16
do
27:16
something,
27:17
or
27:17
if
27:17
you
27:18
like
27:18
something,
27:18
probably.
27:19
Right.
27:19
How
27:19
you
27:20
feel
27:20
about
27:20
it,
27:20
how
27:20
you
27:20
like
27:20
it.
27:21
So
27:21
your
27:22
brain
27:22
actually
27:24
may
27:24
struggle
27:24
with,
27:25
with
27:25
that
27:26
exact
27:26
thing.
27:27
Well,
27:27
because
27:28
like,
27:28
if
27:28
what
27:28
I
27:28
like
27:29
is
27:29
I,
27:30
it
27:30
actually
27:31
feels
27:31
good
27:31
when
27:31
I
27:32
interrupt
27:32
somebody.
27:33
I
27:33
know
27:33
this
27:33
is
27:34
crazy
27:34
to
27:34
think
27:34
about,
27:35
but
27:35
like
27:35
it,
27:35
my
27:36
brain
27:36
does
27:36
release
27:36
dopamine
27:37
when
27:37
I
27:37
interrupt.
27:38
And
27:39
so
27:40
if,
27:40
if
27:40
I
27:41
am,
27:42
well,
27:43
at
27:43
least
27:43
I
27:43
assume
27:43
it's
27:43
what
27:43
it's
27:44
doing.
27:44
It
27:44
just
27:44
feels
27:44
good.
27:44
I
27:45
don't
27:45
know.
27:45
I'm
27:45
not,
27:45
I'm
27:45
not
27:45
a
27:45
neuroscientist.
27:46
Okay,
27:47
sure,
27:47
but
27:47
we'll
27:48
say
27:48
that.
27:49
Yes.
27:49
But
27:49
I
27:50
mean,
27:50
I'm
27:51
curious
27:51
that
27:51
like,
27:52
if,
27:52
if
27:53
I
27:53
am
27:54
told
27:54
that
27:54
like,
27:54
hey,
27:55
interrupting
27:55
is
27:55
bad
27:56
and
27:56
I
27:57
like
27:57
this,
27:57
then
27:57
it's
27:58
like,
27:58
okay,
27:58
well
27:58
then
27:58
what
27:58
else
27:59
do
27:59
I
27:59
like
27:59
that
27:59
must
27:59
be
28:00
bad?
28:00
And
28:01
it's
28:01
like
28:01
a
28:01
very
28:01
young
28:02
place
28:02
to
28:02
come
28:02
at
28:03
it.
28:03
Like,
28:03
it's
28:03
obviously
28:03
a
28:03
very
28:04
immature
28:05
young,
28:06
little
28:06
rosy,
28:07
kind
28:07
of
28:09
five
28:09
year
28:09
old
28:09
sort
28:10
of
28:10
brain
28:10
coming
28:10
after
28:11
it.
28:11
But
28:11
I
28:11
think
28:11
that's
28:11
like
28:12
what
28:12
ends
28:12
up
28:12
happening.
28:12
You're
28:13
like,
28:13
oh,
28:15
I
28:15
shouldn't
28:15
like
28:15
it,
28:16
you
28:16
know.
28:17
Yeah.
28:18
And
28:18
it's
28:18
interesting
28:18
too
28:19
because
28:19
then
28:19
that
28:19
kind
28:20
of
28:20
to
28:21
me
28:22
would
28:22
connect
28:22
to
28:23
identity.
28:24
Like,
28:24
I
28:25
like
28:25
interrupting.
28:26
Interrupting's
28:27
bad.
28:27
Therefore
28:28
I'm
28:28
bad.
28:29
I
28:29
am
28:29
bad.
28:29
Yeah,
28:30
like
28:30
that
28:30
really
28:31
quick.
28:31
It
28:31
could
28:31
be
28:32
a
28:32
quick
28:32
little
28:33
journey
28:33
there,
28:34
right?
28:34
Oh
28:34
yeah,
28:35
yeah.
28:36
Well,
28:36
and
28:36
because
28:37
at
28:37
school
28:37
is
28:38
so
28:38
bad,
28:39
right?
28:39
I
28:39
mean,
28:39
you
28:40
just
28:40
get
28:40
in
28:40
trouble
28:40
all
28:40
the
28:41
time.
28:41
Oh,
28:42
and
28:42
I
28:42
did
28:42
all
28:42
the
28:43
time.
28:43
But
28:44
like
28:44
I
28:44
also
28:45
knew
28:45
like
28:45
I
28:45
couldn't
28:46
like
28:47
when
28:47
I
28:47
think
28:47
about
28:47
like,
28:47
you
28:48
know,
28:48
just
28:48
like
28:48
listening
28:49
to
28:50
anybody,
28:50
it's
28:50
like
28:51
if
28:51
I
28:51
can't
28:51
interrupt
28:51
and
28:52
ask
28:52
the
28:52
question,
28:52
the
28:53
follow
28:53
up
28:53
question,
28:53
then
28:54
like
28:54
my
28:54
brain
28:54
goes
28:55
down
28:55
this
28:55
rabbit
28:55
hole
28:56
and
28:56
sometimes
28:57
answering
28:57
the
28:57
question
28:58
or
28:58
having
28:58
the
28:58
question
28:59
like
28:59
out
28:59
of
28:59
my
29:00
mouth
29:01
lets
29:01
that,
29:02
lets
29:02
that
29:03
like
29:04
persistent
29:04
sticky.
29:05
Like,
29:06
it's
29:06
like
29:06
the
29:07
sticky
29:07
gets
29:07
like
29:08
strong,
29:08
strong
29:09
adhesive.
29:10
Like
29:10
it
29:10
is,
29:10
it
29:10
is
29:11
just
29:11
there
29:12
and
29:12
it
29:12
is
29:13
like
29:13
covering
29:13
up
29:14
all
29:14
of
29:14
my
29:14
eyes
29:15
and
29:16
I
29:16
can't,
29:17
it's
29:18
like,
29:18
it's
29:18
like,
29:18
it's
29:19
like
29:19
a
29:19
giant
29:19
sticky,
29:20
you
29:20
know,
29:20
that's
29:21
like
29:21
covering
29:21
every,
29:22
the
29:22
entire
29:22
board
29:23
and
29:23
you
29:24
hear
29:24
anything.
29:24
Else
29:25
or
29:25
see
29:25
anything
29:25
else
29:26
until
29:26
it.
29:26
Gets
29:26
Dealt
29:27
with
29:27
until
29:27
it
29:28
gets
29:28
dealt
29:28
with.
29:28
And
29:28
then.
29:29
And
29:29
then
29:29
if
29:29
I
29:29
get
29:29
it
29:30
dealt
29:30
with,
29:30
then
29:30
I
29:30
can
29:31
move
29:31
on.
29:32
And
29:32
we
29:32
just
29:33
make
29:33
a
29:33
rule
29:33
that
29:34
it's
29:34
like,
29:34
okay
29:35
for
29:35
you
29:35
to
29:35
interrupt
29:36
because
29:37
you
29:37
might
29:37
hear
29:38
me
29:38
being
29:38
slightly
29:39
awkward
29:39
or,
29:39
like,
29:39
trying
29:40
to
29:40
figure
29:40
out
29:40
how
29:40
to
29:40
navigate.
29:41
But,
29:41
like,
29:41
it
29:42
doesn't
29:42
actually
29:42
cause
29:43
me
29:43
any
29:44
anxiety
29:45
or
29:45
stress.
29:46
Okay.
29:47
It's
29:47
just
29:47
like,
29:48
sometimes
29:48
I'm
29:48
not
29:49
smooth
29:49
about
29:50
it.
29:50
Right.
29:51
Because
29:51
I'm
29:52
not
29:52
ready
29:52
for
29:52
it.
29:53
But
29:53
it's
29:53
like,
29:53
doesn't.
29:54
That
29:54
doesn't
29:54
bother
29:55
me.
29:55
Okay.
29:56
I
29:56
don't
29:56
know.
29:56
I
29:57
may.
29:57
I'm
29:58
not
29:58
saying
29:58
it
29:58
will
29:58
never
29:58
bother
29:59
me,
29:59
but
29:59
I'm
29:59
just
29:59
saying
29:59
it
30:00
just
30:00
in
30:00
general
30:00
doesn't.
30:01
And
30:01
then
30:02
you're
30:02
like,
30:02
I
30:03
can
30:03
see
30:03
your
30:03
whole
30:04
face
30:04
and
30:04
your
30:04
whole,
30:04
like,
30:05
emotional
30:05
state,
30:07
you
30:07
know,
30:07
because
30:07
one
30:07
of
30:08
the
30:08
things
30:08
they
30:08
talk
30:08
about
30:08
is,
30:09
like,
30:09
emotional
30:09
regulation
30:11
and
30:11
emotional
30:11
energy
30:12
and
30:12
effort
30:12
management.
30:13
And
30:13
then
30:13
there's,
30:13
like,
30:13
an
30:14
emotional
30:14
management
30:14
component,
30:15
but
30:16
that,
30:16
like,
30:16
your
30:17
emotions
30:17
actually
30:17
get
30:19
zap
30:20
or
30:20
your
30:20
energy
30:20
gets
30:21
zapped
30:21
or
30:21
something
30:21
when
30:22
that
30:22
happens.
30:22
Like,
30:23
I
30:23
can
30:23
see
30:23
it
30:23
when
30:24
your
30:24
face
30:24
and
30:25
you
30:25
stop,
30:25
like,
30:26
connecting.
30:27
Yeah,
30:28
it's
30:28
interesting.
30:29
Like,
30:29
from
30:29
my
30:29
point,
30:30
that's
30:30
much
30:30
worse
30:31
than
30:31
you
30:31
interrupting
30:32
me.
30:32
I
30:32
really
30:33
do
30:33
need
30:33
to,
30:33
like,
30:33
put
30:34
these
30:34
videos
30:34
on
30:35
YouTube
30:35
so
30:35
that
30:36
people
30:36
can
30:36
see,
30:36
like,
30:36
what
30:37
happens
30:37
to
30:37
my
30:38
face,
30:38
like,
30:38
when
30:38
I'm
30:39
in
30:39
that.
30:39
Cause
30:39
I'm
30:39
just
30:39
like,
30:40
you
30:40
know,
30:40
I'm
30:41
not
30:41
trying
30:41
to.
30:42
I'm
30:43
not
30:43
trying
30:43
to.
30:43
I'm
30:44
losing
30:44
you,
30:44
though.
30:45
Like,
30:45
I
30:45
mean,
30:45
that's
30:45
how
30:45
it
30:46
feels.
30:46
I'm
30:46
like,
30:46
there
30:46
she
30:47
goes.
30:48
Like,
30:48
I
30:48
don't
30:48
know.
30:49
Well,
30:49
you
30:49
know,
30:49
it
30:49
feels.
30:50
You
30:50
could
30:50
also
30:50
just
30:50
be
30:50
like,
30:51
here,
30:51
I've
30:51
lost
30:51
Mego.
30:52
You
30:53
know,
30:53
like,
30:53
you
30:53
could
30:54
totally
30:54
say
30:54
that.
30:54
I'm
30:54
fine
30:55
to
30:55
say
30:55
that.
30:55
Sometimes
30:56
if
30:56
anyone.
30:57
You're,
30:57
like,
30:57
listened.
30:58
Who's
30:58
this?
30:58
Megan
30:58
Listened
30:59
to
30:59
all
30:59
of
30:59
them.
30:59
I.
31:00
Friend.
31:00
One
31:00
of
31:00
our.
31:00
One
31:01
of
31:01
your
31:01
friends
31:01
is
31:01
like,
31:02
oh,
31:02
Matt.
31:03
Matt's
31:03
like,
31:05
nose.
31:05
I've
31:05
said.
31:05
And
31:06
we've
31:06
lost
31:06
me.
31:07
We've
31:07
lost
31:07
Megan.
31:08
I
31:08
know
31:09
we've
31:10
lost
31:10
Megan.
31:12
I
31:12
was
31:12
just
31:12
watching
31:12
Shrinking
31:13
Michelle
31:13
and
31:13
they
31:14
were.
31:14
They
31:14
were
31:14
talking
31:14
about,
31:15
like,
31:15
you
31:15
know
31:15
when
31:15
someone
31:16
is
31:16
having
31:16
an
31:16
issue
31:17
and,
31:17
like,
31:17
they
31:17
do.
31:17
He's
31:17
like,
31:18
I'm
31:18
just
31:18
gonna
31:18
do
31:18
a
31:18
bear
31:18
clap.
31:19
It's
31:20
like,
31:22
okay,
31:22
just
31:22
get
31:22
a
31:23
bear
31:23
clap
31:23
and
31:23
get
31:23
them
31:23
back
31:24
into.
31:24
I'm
31:24
like,
31:24
I
31:25
just
31:25
need
31:25
a
31:25
bear
31:25
clap.
31:25
Megan.
31:26
What?
31:26
Okay.
31:26
Okay,
31:27
I'm
31:27
back.
31:27
Okay.
31:28
Come
31:28
on.
31:29
That's
31:30
so
31:30
funny.
31:31
So,
31:31
okay,
31:32
so
31:32
I
31:32
want
31:32
to
31:32
know
31:33
from
31:33
the
31:33
first
31:34
area,
31:34
like,
31:34
she
31:35
talks
31:35
about
31:35
these
31:35
six
31:35
areas,
31:36
but,
31:36
like,
31:36
task
31:36
management.
31:37
You
31:37
said,
31:37
like,
31:38
oh,
31:38
nothing.
31:38
Works.
31:39
Right.
31:39
And
31:40
this
31:40
is
31:40
this
31:40
idea.
31:41
Okay.
31:42
I'm
31:42
going
31:42
to
31:42
give
31:42
you
31:42
a
31:42
list,
31:43
but
31:43
you
31:43
can
31:43
interrupt
31:43
anytime.
31:44
Okay.
31:44
Okay.
31:45
So
31:46
it
31:46
looks
31:46
like
31:46
when
31:47
you
31:47
have
31:47
trouble
31:47
with
31:47
task
31:48
management
31:49
activation,
31:51
says
31:51
it
31:51
looks
31:51
like
31:51
you
31:51
have
31:52
difficulty
31:52
getting
31:52
started.
31:54
Yes.
31:54
You
31:54
might.
31:55
Might
31:55
procrastinate.
31:56
Yes.
31:58
You
31:58
know
31:58
it
31:59
needs
31:59
to
31:59
be
31:59
done,
31:59
but
32:00
you're
32:00
unable
32:00
to
32:01
get
32:01
it
32:01
done.
32:02
Yes.
32:02
Yes.
32:03
Okay.
32:04
You
32:04
have
32:04
difficulty
32:04
prioritizing
32:05
sequencing
32:06
things.
32:07
Yes.
32:08
Okay.
32:09
Fails
32:09
in
32:10
time
32:10
management.
32:12
She
32:12
just
32:12
said
32:13
that,
32:13
like,
32:13
flat
32:13
out.
32:14
I
32:14
was
32:14
like,
32:14
wow.
32:14
It
32:14
wasn't
32:14
even.
32:15
Like,
32:15
she
32:15
usually
32:15
sugarcoats
32:16
stuff.
32:16
It
32:16
was
32:17
like,
32:17
fails
32:17
in
32:17
time
32:18
management
32:18
failure.
32:19
Big
32:19
giant
32:20
failure.
32:22
Does
32:23
things
32:23
last
32:23
minute.
32:25
Yes.
32:25
And
32:25
this.
32:26
This
32:26
part
32:26
was
32:26
really
32:27
kind
32:27
of
32:27
nice.
32:27
I
32:27
like.
32:28
She
32:28
goes
32:28
to
32:28
the
32:28
untrained
32:29
eye,
32:30
appears
32:30
lazy.
32:31
And
32:32
I
32:32
was
32:32
like,
32:32
that's
32:32
nice.
32:33
I
32:33
like
32:33
that
32:33
because
32:33
it's
32:34
not
32:34
laziness.
32:36
But
32:36
I
32:36
was
32:36
curious.
32:37
Like,
32:37
you
32:37
know,
32:38
you're
32:38
now
32:39
in
32:39
your
32:39
40s,
32:40
right?
32:41
Yeah.
32:42
And
32:43
you
32:43
still
32:44
struggle
32:44
with
32:44
these
32:44
things,
32:45
so
32:45
it
32:45
means
32:46
these.
32:47
The
32:47
brain
32:48
is
32:48
not.
32:49
It's
32:49
evolved,
32:52
but
32:52
it's
32:52
always
32:53
going
32:53
to
32:53
be
32:53
something
32:53
that
32:54
you're
32:54
going
32:54
to
32:54
have
32:54
to
32:55
manage,
32:55
Right?
32:56
Yeah.
32:57
And
32:57
this
32:57
is
32:58
something,
32:58
Michelle,
32:58
that,
32:58
like,
32:58
I
32:59
was.
32:59
You're
32:59
reminding
33:00
me.
33:00
Like,
33:00
I
33:00
was.
33:00
I
33:00
was
33:00
just
33:01
talking
33:01
to
33:01
the
33:01
people
33:01
on
33:02
Twitch,
33:03
which
33:03
I'll
33:03
link
33:04
in
33:04
the
33:04
show
33:05
notes,
33:05
our
33:05
Twitch
33:07
information,
33:08
if
33:08
you
33:08
ever
33:08
want
33:08
to
33:08
join
33:08
us.
33:09
Yeah.
33:09
That's
33:10
so
33:10
fun.
33:10
That's
33:10
like
33:10
a
33:10
fun
33:11
little
33:11
community
33:11
that
33:12
we
33:12
all
33:12
get
33:12
to
33:12
chitter
33:13
chat
33:13
about
33:13
things.
33:13
Yes.
33:14
I
33:14
met
33:14
a
33:14
few
33:14
people
33:14
the
33:15
other
33:15
night.
33:15
It
33:15
was
33:15
great.
33:15
You
33:16
did.
33:16
You
33:16
got
33:16
to
33:16
meet
33:17
Malik
33:17
and
33:17
Matt
33:18
and
33:18
I
33:18
think
33:19
chief,
33:20
chief,
33:20
awesome
33:21
people.
33:21
But,
33:22
like,
33:23
what
33:23
I
33:23
think
33:23
is
33:24
interesting.
33:24
Witty.
33:25
Yes.
33:25
That's
33:25
why
33:25
you
33:26
got
33:26
to
33:26
meet
33:26
Witty.
33:26
She's
33:27
a
33:27
doll
33:27
face.
33:27
Love
33:28
her.
33:29
I,
33:29
like,
33:30
want
33:30
to
33:30
be
33:30
friends
33:30
with
33:30
her
33:30
in
33:31
real
33:31
life.
33:31
Like,
33:31
can
33:31
we.
33:32
Can
33:32
we,
33:32
like,
33:32
swap
33:33
phone
33:33
numbers?
33:34
Like,
33:34
can
33:34
I.
33:34
Can
33:34
I
33:35
personally
33:35
ask
33:35
you
33:35
to
33:35
be
33:35
my.
33:36
Like,
33:36
are
33:36
you,
33:36
like,
33:37
dating
33:37
right
33:37
now?
33:38
I
33:38
know.
33:38
Podcast.
33:39
You're
33:39
like,
33:39
like,
33:39
hey,
33:40
Witty.
33:40
Hi.
33:41
I'm
33:41
going
33:41
to
33:41
put
33:41
this.
33:41
Hi,
33:42
Witty.
33:43
Would
33:43
you
33:43
like
33:43
to
33:43
be
33:44
my
33:44
friend
33:44
in
33:44
real
33:44
life?
33:45
Because
33:45
that
33:45
would
33:46
be
33:46
amazing.
33:48
You
33:48
want
33:48
to
33:48
be
33:49
friends?
33:51
It's
33:51
so
33:51
crazy.
33:52
Like,
33:52
you
33:52
have
33:52
to.
33:53
It
33:53
just.
33:53
It
33:54
feels
33:54
like
33:54
you're
33:54
dating
33:54
again.
33:55
When
33:55
you're,
33:55
like,
33:55
in
33:55
your
33:55
40s
33:56
and
33:56
trying
33:56
to
33:56
find
33:56
friends,
33:57
it
33:57
just
33:58
feels
33:58
like
33:58
that.
33:58
Oh,
33:58
yeah.
33:59
Yeah.
33:59
I
33:59
had
34:00
a
34:00
good
34:00
friend
34:00
who
34:00
I
34:01
was
34:01
like,
34:01
are
34:01
we,
34:02
like,
34:02
becoming,
34:03
like,
34:03
best
34:04
friends?
34:04
And
34:04
she
34:05
was
34:05
like,
34:05
I
34:05
think
34:05
we
34:05
are.
34:06
And
34:06
I'm
34:06
like,
34:06
this
34:07
is
34:07
happening.
34:07
I
34:07
know.
34:07
It's
34:08
so
34:08
funny.
34:08
And
34:08
I
34:08
was
34:08
just.
34:09
It's
34:09
Cute,
34:10
right?
34:10
Because
34:10
it's
34:10
like,
34:10
do
34:10
I
34:11
know
34:11
who
34:11
this
34:11
person
34:11
is?
34:12
I
34:12
mean,
34:12
obviously
34:12
I
34:12
do,
34:12
but
34:13
like,
34:14
yeah,
34:15
okay.
34:15
I
34:16
think
34:16
I
34:16
might
34:16
know.
34:17
Okay,
34:17
how
34:17
cute.
34:18
Okay,
34:18
we'll
34:18
talk
34:18
about
34:18
later.
34:18
Like,
34:19
just
34:19
sweet.
34:19
Just
34:20
sweet.
34:20
Yeah,
34:20
no,
34:21
it's
34:21
super
34:21
sweet.
34:21
It's
34:22
like,
34:22
do
34:22
you
34:22
want
34:22
to
34:22
be
34:22
my
34:23
best
34:23
friend?
34:23
Check.
34:24
Yes
34:25
or
34:25
no.
34:25
Check
34:26
this
34:26
box.
34:27
Check
34:27
this
34:27
box.
34:30
But
34:30
like,
34:30
we're
34:31
talking
34:31
on
34:31
Twitch
34:31
about
34:32
like,
34:32
how
34:33
I've
34:33
been
34:33
like
34:33
struggling
34:34
mentally
34:34
about
34:35
the
34:35
fact
34:35
that
34:35
like,
34:35
I
34:35
am
34:36
44
34:36
and
34:36
like
34:37
all
34:37
of
34:37
these
34:37
children
34:38
on
34:38
there,
34:38
like,
34:38
I
34:39
literally
34:39
could
34:39
be
34:39
their
34:39
mom.
34:40
Like,
34:40
they
34:40
have
34:40
parents
34:41
who
34:41
are
34:41
in,
34:41
who
34:42
are
34:42
44,
34:43
45.
34:44
And
34:44
I'm
34:44
like.
34:44
And
34:44
I'm
34:44
like
34:44
their
34:45
grandmom.
34:45
So
34:45
it's
34:46
great.
34:46
Yeah,
34:46
I
34:46
know,
34:47
it's
34:47
crazy.
34:47
And
34:47
I'm
34:48
just
34:48
like.
34:48
And
34:49
I'm
34:49
just
34:49
like.
34:49
So
34:49
I've
34:50
been
34:50
struggling
34:50
with
34:50
it
34:50
and
34:50
I
34:51
finally
34:51
just
34:51
realized,
34:51
like,
34:53
no,
34:53
I
34:53
am
34:54
going
34:54
to
34:54
be
34:54
unapologetically
34:56
44,
34:57
because
34:58
I
34:58
was
34:59
told
34:59
at
34:59
a
34:59
very
35:00
young
35:00
age
35:00
that
35:00
I
35:01
would
35:01
grow
35:01
out
35:01
of
35:02
being
35:02
adhd.
35:03
And
35:04
I
35:04
want
35:04
people
35:04
to
35:05
know
35:05
that,
35:05
like,
35:05
you
35:05
can
35:05
be
35:06
44,
35:06
you
35:07
can
35:07
still
35:07
be
35:07
ADHD,
35:09
you
35:09
can
35:09
still
35:09
struggle,
35:10
and
35:11
yet
35:11
it's
35:11
still
35:11
somehow
35:12
better
35:12
than
35:12
it
35:12
was
35:13
20
35:13
years
35:13
ago.
35:15
So
35:15
that's
35:15
my
35:15
new
35:15
thing.
35:16
I've
35:16
decided
35:16
to
35:16
full.
35:17
And
35:17
you
35:17
can
35:17
still
35:17
be
35:18
fabulous.
35:19
I
35:19
can
35:19
still
35:19
be
35:19
funky
35:20
fabulosity.
35:21
Funky
35:21
fresh
35:22
fabulosity.
35:22
That
35:23
was
35:23
my
35:23
phrase
35:23
in
35:24
php.
35:25
I'm
35:26
funky
35:26
fresh
35:27
fabulosity.
35:29
Love
35:29
that.
35:30
That's
35:30
what
35:30
I
35:31
am.
35:32
I
35:32
guess
35:33
one
35:33
of
35:33
the
35:33
things
35:33
that
35:34
is
35:34
interesting
35:34
to
35:35
me
35:35
with
35:35
you
35:35
is
35:35
that
35:35
you
35:35
figure
35:36
out
35:36
things
35:37
that
35:38
work
35:38
for
35:38
you
35:39
and
35:39
then
35:40
you
35:40
promptly
35:40
forget
35:41
them.
35:44
You
35:45
do.
35:45
I
35:45
mean,
35:46
this
35:46
is
35:47
the
35:47
actual
35:47
issue
35:48
with
35:48
executive
35:49
functioning,
35:49
because
35:50
you
35:51
can
35:51
figure
35:51
out
35:51
something
35:52
that
35:52
works
35:53
and
35:53
then
35:53
not
35:53
have
35:54
the
35:54
ability
35:54
to
35:55
encode
35:55
it
35:55
into
35:55
long
35:56
term
35:56
memory
35:58
or
35:58
pull
35:58
it
35:58
up.
35:59
And
35:59
so
36:00
I'm
36:00
curious
36:01
about
36:01
that
36:01
because
36:03
I
36:03
think
36:03
when
36:03
you
36:04
do
36:04
something
36:05
again
36:05
and
36:05
again,
36:06
like
36:06
you
36:06
do
36:06
things
36:06
for
36:06
your
36:07
dogs
36:07
again
36:07
and
36:07
again,
36:07
you
36:08
remember
36:08
it
36:09
right?
36:09
You
36:09
do
36:09
it
36:10
every
36:10
day.
36:10
But
36:10
they
36:10
kind
36:10
of
36:11
also
36:11
are
36:11
this
36:11
external
36:12
reminder
36:13
because
36:13
they're
36:13
at
36:14
the
36:14
door
36:14
whining
36:15
or,
36:16
you
36:16
know,
36:16
they're,
36:16
they're
36:17
reminding
36:17
you
36:17
to
36:17
do
36:18
it
36:18
right.
36:18
And
36:18
that's
36:19
why
36:19
I
36:19
do
36:19
it
36:19
every
36:19
day.
36:19
It's
36:20
because
36:20
they
36:20
remind
36:20
me.
36:21
They're
36:21
like,
36:21
right,
36:22
if
36:22
they
36:22
didn't
36:23
remind
36:23
me,
36:23
I,
36:24
I'd
36:24
be
36:24
nervous
36:25
to
36:25
have
36:25
animals
36:26
in
36:26
my
36:26
home.
36:26
And
36:27
so
36:27
this
36:27
is
36:27
why
36:27
I
36:27
always.
36:27
Think
36:28
wealthy
36:29
people
36:29
who
36:30
have
36:30
all
36:30
the,.
36:31
The,
36:31
the
36:32
resources
36:33
don't
36:34
seem
36:34
to
36:34
have
36:34
ADHD
36:35
because
36:35
somebody
36:35
they
36:35
can
36:36
just
36:36
have
36:36
a
36:36
personal
36:36
assistant.
36:37
Like
36:38
why
36:38
would
36:38
anyone
36:38
need
36:38
a
36:39
personal
36:39
assistant?
36:40
Because
36:40
they're
36:41
adhd.
36:41
So
36:42
like
36:42
every
36:42
actor
36:42
is
36:43
just
36:43
adhd.
36:44
Probably
36:45
on
36:45
some
36:45
level.
36:45
Probably
36:46
on
36:46
some
36:46
level,
36:46
yeah.
36:47
I
36:47
don't
36:47
know.
36:47
But
36:47
you
36:48
know
36:48
what
36:48
I
36:48
mean,
36:48
it's.
36:48
Like,
36:49
I
36:49
mean
36:49
if
36:49
you
36:49
had
36:50
a.
36:50
Personal
36:50
challenge,
36:51
you'd
36:51
be
36:51
great.
36:52
This
36:52
is
36:52
the
36:52
challenge
36:53
that
36:53
I
36:53
find
36:53
is
36:53
that
36:53
like,
36:54
even
36:54
if,
36:54
like,
36:54
I
36:55
don't
36:55
know
36:55
if
36:55
anything
36:55
is
36:56
ever
36:56
truly
36:56
encoded
36:58
into
36:58
my
36:59
long
36:59
term
36:59
memory
37:01
because
37:01
like
37:01
I
37:01
just
37:02
go,
37:02
I,
37:02
I
37:02
know
37:03
I
37:03
bring
37:03
this
37:03
up
37:03
a
37:03
lot,
37:03
but
37:03
I
37:04
go
37:04
back
37:04
to
37:05
the
37:06
brushing
37:06
my
37:07
teeth
37:07
that
37:08
is
37:08
something
37:08
that
37:08
I
37:08
was
37:09
taught
37:09
from
37:10
like,
37:10
like
37:11
as
37:11
soon
37:11
as
37:11
I
37:11
had
37:11
teeth
37:12
it
37:12
was
37:12
like,
37:13
we're
37:13
gonna
37:13
learn
37:13
how
37:13
to
37:13
brush
37:14
them.
37:14
Like
37:14
I
37:14
even
37:14
had.
37:15
Do
37:16
you
37:16
guys
37:16
remember
37:16
like
37:16
the
37:17
little
37:17
thing
37:17
you
37:17
put
37:17
in
37:17
your
37:17
mouth
37:18
that
37:18
like
37:18
would
37:18
turn
37:18
your,
37:19
turn
37:19
your
37:19
tartar
37:20
like
37:20
blue
37:21
or
37:21
something?
37:21
Like
37:21
you
37:21
would
37:21
you
37:22
crush
37:22
it
37:22
up
37:22
and
37:22
then
37:22
like,
37:23
and
37:23
then
37:23
you
37:23
could
37:23
see
37:23
like
37:23
what
37:24
you're
37:24
brushing?
37:24
Like
37:24
I
37:25
remember
37:25
that
37:25
distinctly.
37:26
Memory
37:27
right
37:27
there.
37:28
And
37:29
so
37:29
I,
37:29
I
37:29
have
37:29
been
37:30
doing
37:30
it
37:31
for
37:31
4,
37:31
like
37:32
42ish
37:33
years
37:33
probably.
37:34
I
37:34
don't
37:34
know.
37:34
By
37:35
yourself.
37:35
Teeth.
37:36
Yeah.
37:37
And,
37:37
and
37:37
I
37:38
still
37:39
struggle
37:40
to
37:41
this
37:41
day
37:41
some
37:41
days
37:42
to
37:42
brush
37:42
my
37:42
teeth.
37:43
And
37:43
it's
37:43
not,
37:43
it's
37:43
like
37:44
there's
37:44
a,
37:44
it's
37:44
like
37:44
it's
37:45
in
37:45
there
37:45
somewhere.
37:47
Yeah.
37:47
And,
37:48
but
37:48
like
37:48
I,
37:49
I
37:49
can't
37:49
distinguish
37:50
one
37:50
day
37:51
from
37:51
the
37:51
other.
37:51
Like,
37:52
I
37:52
think
37:52
that's
37:52
the
37:52
time,
37:53
the
37:53
time
37:53
management.
37:54
The,
37:54
the
37:54
like
37:54
the
37:55
time
37:55
blindness
37:55
part
37:56
is
37:56
the
37:56
part
37:56
that's
37:56
like
37:57
I
37:57
can't
37:57
remember
37:58
did
37:58
I
37:58
brush
37:58
my
37:58
teeth
37:59
this
37:59
morning
37:59
or
37:59
did
38:00
I
38:00
not?
38:00
And
38:01
there's
38:01
no,
38:01
here's
38:01
the
38:02
thing,
38:02
everyone
38:02
will
38:02
say,
38:03
oh
38:03
well,
38:03
you
38:03
can
38:03
try
38:03
this
38:04
or
38:04
you
38:04
can
38:04
try
38:04
that.
38:04
Like
38:04
you
38:05
can
38:05
get
38:05
like
38:05
a
38:05
little
38:05
checkbox.
38:06
Like
38:06
I'll
38:06
forget
38:07
to
38:07
do
38:07
the
38:07
checkbox.
38:07
Like
38:08
I'll
38:08
forget,
38:08
you
38:08
know,
38:09
there's
38:09
just
38:09
no
38:10
way
38:10
around
38:10
it.
38:10
And
38:10
like
38:10
what
38:11
I've
38:11
just
38:11
kind
38:11
of
38:11
realized
38:11
is
38:12
that
38:12
like
38:12
I,
38:13
I'm
38:13
going
38:13
to
38:13
probably
38:14
forget
38:14
sometimes
38:15
and
38:15
it's
38:15
okay
38:15
because
38:16
I
38:16
think
38:16
like
38:16
if
38:16
I'm
38:17
looking
38:17
at
38:17
trends,
38:18
right?
38:19
On
38:19
the
38:19
average,
38:20
I,
38:21
I
38:21
wash
38:21
my
38:22
teeth
38:22
most
38:23
days,
38:24
right?
38:24
Like,
38:24
you
38:25
know,
38:25
maybe
38:25
like,
38:25
like
38:26
once
38:26
a
38:26
month
38:26
I
38:26
might
38:27
forget
38:27
and
38:28
that's
38:28
okay.
38:28
Or,
38:28
but
38:29
like,
38:29
you
38:29
know,
38:29
or
38:29
I'll
38:30
forget
38:30
until
38:30
a
38:31
certain
38:31
time.
38:31
Like,
38:31
and
38:31
that's
38:31
the
38:32
thing
38:32
is
38:32
I
38:32
will
38:32
forget
38:32
until
38:33
like,
38:33
you
38:33
know,
38:34
two
38:34
o'
38:34
clock
38:35
in
38:35
the
38:35
afternoon
38:35
and
38:35
I'm
38:35
like,
38:35
oh
38:36
yeah,
38:37
I
38:37
should
38:37
probably
38:37
brush
38:37
my
38:37
teeth.
38:38
I
38:38
forgot
38:38
about
38:38
that.
38:38
You
38:39
know,
38:39
so
38:39
there's
38:39
like
38:39
certain
38:40
things
38:40
there's
38:40
certain
38:41
cues,
38:42
but
38:42
also,
38:42
like,
38:43
I
38:43
mean,
38:43
the
38:43
bite
38:44
plate
38:44
was
38:44
such
38:44
an
38:44
interesting
38:45
thing
38:45
because,
38:45
like,
38:45
once
38:45
I
38:46
got
38:46
the
38:46
bite
38:46
plate,
38:47
it
38:47
really
38:47
did.
38:48
It
38:48
does
38:49
sort
38:49
of
38:49
have
38:49
this,
38:50
like,
38:50
reminder
38:50
of
38:51
something
38:51
that's
38:51
in
38:51
my
38:51
mouth
38:52
that
38:52
I
38:52
don't
38:52
necessarily
38:53
want
38:53
in
38:53
my
38:53
mouth,
38:54
like,
38:54
when
38:54
I'm,
38:55
you
38:55
know,
38:55
out
38:55
and
38:55
about.
38:56
And
38:56
so
38:57
I
38:57
know
38:57
that
38:57
if
38:57
my
38:58
bite
38:58
plate
38:58
is
38:58
still
38:58
in
38:59
my
38:59
mouth,
38:59
I
38:59
most
38:59
likely
39:00
have
39:00
not
39:00
brushed
39:01
my
39:01
teeth.
39:02
Like,
39:02
that's
39:02
the
39:02
one
39:02
thing
39:02
I
39:03
can
39:03
guarantee.
39:04
And
39:04
so
39:05
what
39:05
I'm.
39:05
There's
39:06
a
39:06
reason
39:06
for
39:06
this.
39:06
There's
39:06
a
39:07
whole
39:07
reason
39:07
for
39:07
all
39:07
this.
39:08
The
39:08
reason
39:09
being
39:09
going
39:10
back
39:10
is
39:10
that
39:10
what
39:11
I've
39:11
noticed
39:11
is
39:11
that
39:13
if
39:13
I
39:14
marry
39:15
a
39:15
new
39:15
task
39:16
with
39:16
something
39:16
that
39:17
I
39:17
already
39:17
do
39:18
on
39:18
a
39:18
regular
39:18
basis,
39:20
I'm
39:20
more
39:20
than
39:21
likely
39:21
to
39:21
do
39:21
it
39:24
more
39:24
consistently.
39:26
So,
39:27
for
39:27
instance.
39:28
Yeah.
39:28
Physical
39:29
therapy.
39:30
Yeah.
39:31
First
39:31
of
39:31
all,
39:31
having
39:32
an
39:32
appointment
39:33
with
39:33
a
39:33
person
39:34
who
39:34
you
39:34
have
39:35
to
39:35
pay
39:36
is
39:36
good.
39:37
Is
39:37
like,
39:37
people
39:38
said,
39:38
oh,
39:38
have
39:38
an
39:38
appointment
39:39
with
39:39
yourself.
39:39
And
39:39
I'm
39:39
like,
39:40
no,
39:40
no.
39:40
That's
39:41
the
39:41
dumbest
39:41
thing
39:41
I've
39:41
ever
39:41
heard.
39:42
Like,
39:42
I'm
39:42
like,
39:43
I
39:43
want
39:43
to
39:43
have
39:44
an
39:44
appointment.
39:44
Even
39:44
having
39:45
an
39:45
appointment
39:45
with
39:45
Brian,
39:45
like,
39:46
we're
39:46
not
39:46
gonna
39:46
have
39:46
an
39:46
appointment
39:46
together.
39:47
There's
39:47
no.
39:47
There's
39:47
no
39:48
financial
39:48
stake
39:48
at
39:48
it
39:49
all.
39:49
There's
39:49
no
39:49
consequences.
39:50
There
39:50
could
39:50
be.
39:50
Oh,
39:51
maybe
39:51
there
39:51
could
39:51
be,
39:51
like,
39:52
a.
39:52
If
39:52
I'm
39:52
late
39:52
to
39:53
the.
39:53
To
39:53
the
39:53
appointment,
39:54
then
39:54
you
39:54
get
39:54
money
39:55
that
39:55
week.
39:55
And
39:55
if
39:56
you're
39:56
late,
39:56
I
39:56
get
39:56
the
39:57
money.
39:57
Ooh,
39:57
that
39:57
could
39:57
be
39:58
an
39:58
interesting
39:58
thing.
39:58
But
39:59
then
39:59
I'll
39:59
probably
39:59
forget.
40:00
Interesting.
40:00
Yeah.
40:01
So
40:02
the.
40:02
But
40:02
the
40:02
thing
40:03
is,
40:03
it's
40:03
like,
40:03
what
40:03
was
40:03
I
40:04
saying?
40:05
You
40:05
were
40:06
saying
40:06
that
40:06
the
40:07
consequence,
40:08
like,
40:08
if
40:09
there
40:09
is
40:09
one,
40:10
that's
40:10
good,
40:10
but
40:10
also
40:11
therapy.
40:11
Physical
40:12
therapy.
40:13
So
40:13
it's
40:13
been
40:13
really
40:14
helpful
40:14
for
40:14
me
40:14
to
40:14
move.
40:14
And,
40:15
like,
40:15
I'm
40:15
trying
40:15
to
40:15
figure
40:15
out
40:15
how
40:15
to,
40:16
like,
40:16
you
40:16
know,
40:16
strengthen
40:17
my
40:17
legs
40:17
and
40:17
do
40:18
all
40:18
this
40:18
stuff.
40:18
And
40:18
so
40:18
she
40:18
has
40:18
this
40:19
idea
40:19
of,
40:19
like,
40:19
some
40:19
things
40:19
I
40:20
can
40:20
do.
40:20
And
40:20
so
40:21
I
40:21
thought,
40:21
okay,
40:21
well,
40:21
what
40:21
if
40:22
I
40:22
just.
40:22
Like,
40:22
I've
40:22
been
40:23
doing
40:23
this,
40:23
like,
40:23
one.
40:23
I
40:24
think
40:24
I
40:24
was
40:24
talking
40:24
about
40:24
that
40:24
one,
40:24
like,
40:25
movement
40:25
that
40:25
I
40:25
do
40:25
with,
40:26
like,
40:26
the.
40:26
Like,
40:26
kind
40:26
of
40:27
like
40:27
the.
40:27
The.
40:27
The
40:27
clock.
40:28
I
40:28
make
40:28
a
40:28
little
40:29
clock
40:29
with
40:29
my
40:29
feet.
40:30
And
40:31
so
40:31
what
40:31
I
40:31
started
40:31
doing
40:32
is,
40:32
like,
40:32
I
40:32
started
40:32
doing
40:33
it
40:33
outside
40:33
with
40:33
the
40:34
dogs.
40:34
Cause
40:34
I
40:35
was
40:35
like,
40:35
okay,
40:36
I'm
40:36
trying
40:36
to
40:36
not
40:37
be
40:37
on
40:37
my
40:37
phone
40:37
as
40:37
much.
40:38
So
40:38
when
40:38
I'm
40:38
outside,
40:39
I'm
40:39
kind
40:39
of
40:39
bored.
40:40
And
40:40
so
40:40
then
40:40
I'm
40:40
like,
40:40
what
40:41
could
40:41
I
40:41
do
40:41
out
40:41
here?
40:41
And
40:41
I
40:41
was
40:41
like,
40:42
oh,
40:42
I
40:42
could
40:43
practice
40:43
those
40:44
things.
40:44
And
40:44
so,
40:44
like,
40:44
my
40:45
ankles
40:45
have
40:45
actually
40:45
gotten
40:46
a
40:46
lot
40:46
stronger
40:47
because
40:48
I'm
40:48
already
40:48
out
40:48
there,
40:48
and
40:49
I'm
40:49
like,
40:49
hey,
40:49
if
40:49
I
40:49
know
40:49
if
40:49
I
40:50
do
40:50
it,
40:50
at
40:50
least
40:50
I
40:50
take
40:51
them
40:51
out
40:51
three
40:51
times
40:51
a
40:51
day.
40:51
If
40:52
I
40:52
at
40:52
least
40:52
do
40:52
it
40:52
one
40:53
of
40:53
those
40:53
times,
40:53
I
40:54
have
40:54
done
40:54
it
40:54
one
40:54
more
40:54
time
40:55
than
40:55
you
40:56
would
40:56
have
40:56
in
40:56
that
40:56
day.
40:56
Than
40:56
I
40:57
would
40:57
have.
40:57
Yeah.
40:58
And
40:58
so
40:58
when
40:59
I
40:59
talked
40:59
to
41:00
my
41:00
therapist,
41:01
my
41:01
physical
41:01
therapist
41:01
about,
41:02
it's
41:02
like,
41:02
okay,
41:02
once
41:02
I
41:02
kind
41:03
of
41:03
figure
41:03
this
41:03
out,
41:03
like,
41:03
how
41:04
do
41:04
you
41:04
build
41:04
these,
41:04
like,
41:05
little
41:05
routines?
41:05
And
41:06
I
41:06
think
41:06
the
41:06
thing
41:06
is,
41:06
like,
41:07
she
41:07
was
41:07
saying
41:08
something
41:08
about,
41:08
is
41:08
it
41:08
Malcolm
41:09
Gladwell
41:09
or
41:10
there
41:10
was
41:10
somebody
41:11
about,
41:11
like,
41:11
the
41:11
Atomic
41:12
Habit
41:12
that.
41:13
I
41:13
remember
41:13
who
41:14
it
41:14
was.
41:14
The
41:14
author
41:14
for
41:15
the
41:15
Atomic
41:15
Habit
41:16
was
41:16
saying,
41:16
like,
41:17
hey,
41:17
you
41:17
know,
41:17
he
41:17
had
41:18
a
41:18
person
41:18
who
41:18
wanted
41:19
to
41:19
get
41:20
to
41:20
go
41:21
to
41:21
the
41:21
gym.
41:21
And
41:21
the
41:22
guy's
41:22
like,
41:22
okay,
41:22
well,
41:22
can
41:23
you
41:23
just
41:24
drive
41:24
to
41:25
the
41:25
gym
41:25
from
41:26
after
41:26
work?
41:27
Just
41:27
make
41:27
that
41:28
the
41:28
habit
41:28
first.
41:29
So
41:29
you
41:29
drive
41:30
and
41:30
you
41:30
drive
41:30
and
41:30
you
41:30
drive,
41:31
and
41:31
then
41:31
once
41:31
that
41:31
becomes
41:31
the
41:32
habit
41:32
and
41:32
you
41:32
don't
41:32
even
41:32
think
41:33
about
41:33
having
41:33
to
41:33
go,
41:34
then
41:35
after
41:35
that,
41:36
walk
41:37
in,
41:37
don't
41:38
do
41:38
any.
41:38
Just.
41:38
Just
41:38
get
41:38
out
41:39
of
41:39
your
41:39
car
41:39
and
41:39
walk
41:40
to
41:40
the
41:40
front
41:40
door.
41:41
You
41:41
don't
41:41
even
41:41
have
41:41
to
41:41
walk.
41:41
Yeah.
41:42
They
41:42
talk
41:42
about,
41:42
like,
41:42
making
41:43
really
41:43
tiny
41:44
little
41:44
things
41:44
that,
41:44
like,
41:45
it's
41:45
like,
41:45
lower
41:46
than,
41:47
you
41:47
know,
41:47
like,
41:47
if
41:47
you're
41:48
going
41:48
to
41:48
work
41:48
out,
41:48
like,
41:48
work
41:48
out,
41:49
like,
41:49
two
41:49
minutes
41:50
just
41:50
to,
41:51
you
41:51
know,
41:51
whatever
41:52
you
41:52
think
41:52
the
41:53
max
41:53
is
41:53
that
41:53
you
41:54
could
41:54
do,
41:54
do
41:54
a
41:54
lot
41:55
less.
41:55
Right?
41:56
And
41:57
like,
41:57
that's
41:57
the
41:58
thing
41:58
that,
41:58
like,
41:58
is
41:58
so
41:59
interesting
41:59
to
41:59
me
41:59
is
41:59
that,
41:59
like,
42:00
what
42:00
I
42:00
found
42:01
with
42:01
my.
42:02
With
42:03
my
42:03
ADHD
42:04
is
42:04
that,
42:05
like,
42:05
I
42:05
want
42:06
to.
42:07
Like,
42:07
once
42:08
I
42:08
have
42:08
an
42:08
idea
42:08
of
42:08
it,
42:08
it's
42:09
like,
42:09
let's
42:09
just
42:09
go
42:09
full
42:10
force,
42:10
all
42:10
hardcore,
42:11
and
42:11
it's
42:12
like,
42:12
can
42:12
we
42:13
just
42:14
go
42:15
for
42:15
the
42:15
walk?
42:15
You
42:16
know,
42:16
Like.
42:16
Like,
42:16
it's
42:17
just.
42:17
It's
42:18
so
42:18
hard
42:18
to.
42:18
To
42:19
figure
42:19
out
42:21
how.
42:21
Like,
42:21
how
42:21
to
42:22
just,
42:22
like,
42:22
do
42:22
it.
42:23
But
42:23
I
42:23
think
42:23
doing
42:24
it
42:24
consistently,
42:25
like,
42:25
I
42:25
have
42:25
to
42:25
do
42:25
it
42:26
every
42:26
day.
42:28
And
42:29
even
42:29
if
42:29
it's
42:29
just
42:29
like,
42:30
okay,
42:30
we're
42:30
just
42:31
gonna
42:31
put
42:31
the
42:31
harness
42:32
on
42:32
the
42:32
dogs,
42:33
which
42:33
would
42:33
be
42:33
really
42:33
mean,
42:34
actually.
42:34
But,
42:34
like,
42:35
just
42:35
put.
42:36
Take
42:36
them
42:36
out
42:36
to,
42:36
like,
42:36
the.
42:37
The
42:37
little.
42:37
The
42:37
little
42:38
bush
42:38
each
42:39
day,
42:39
you
42:39
know,
42:39
it's
42:40
like,
42:40
whatever
42:40
it
42:41
is,
42:41
like,
42:41
there's
42:41
just,
42:41
like,
42:41
it.
42:42
It's
42:42
like,
42:43
how
42:43
do
42:43
you
42:43
break
42:44
these
42:44
tasks
42:44
out
42:45
into,
42:45
like,
42:45
super
42:45
small
42:46
things
42:46
and,
42:46
like,
42:47
also
42:47
make
42:48
it
42:48
a
42:48
win,
42:49
because
42:49
it
42:49
doesn't
42:50
feel
42:50
like
42:50
a
42:50
win.
42:51
And
42:52
you're
42:52
like,
42:52
there's
42:53
no
42:53
dopamine
42:54
from
42:54
doing
42:54
it,
42:54
you
42:55
know,
42:55
and
42:55
so
42:55
you're
42:55
like,
42:55
so
42:56
that's
42:56
the
42:56
hard
42:56
part.
42:57
And.
42:57
But
42:58
that's
42:58
the
42:58
part
42:58
that
42:58
I'm
42:58
realizing,
42:59
like,
42:59
if
42:59
I
42:59
can
42:59
tie
43:00
it
43:00
to
43:00
something
43:00
else
43:00
that
43:01
I
43:01
already
43:01
have
43:01
to
43:01
do,
43:02
that
43:02
already
43:02
is
43:02
giving
43:02
me
43:03
an
43:03
external
43:04
reminder.
43:05
It's
43:05
a
43:05
lot
43:05
easier.
43:06
So,
43:06
like,
43:06
last
43:06
night,
43:07
we
43:07
were
43:08
gonna
43:08
go
43:08
out,
43:09
take
43:09
the
43:09
dogs
43:09
out,
43:10
and
43:10
I
43:11
decided
43:11
to
43:11
do
43:12
my
43:12
little.
43:12
I
43:12
have,
43:12
like,
43:13
these
43:13
little
43:13
half
43:14
lunges
43:14
I
43:14
have
43:14
to
43:15
do
43:15
to
43:15
help
43:15
build
43:15
up
43:15
my
43:16
knees.
43:17
And
43:17
I
43:18
did
43:18
it.
43:19
Good
43:19
job.
43:20
And
43:20
I
43:21
was,
43:21
like,
43:21
proud
43:21
of
43:21
myself.
43:22
Yeah.
43:22
Pat
43:23
yourself
43:23
on
43:23
the
43:23
back.
43:23
That's
43:24
good.
43:24
Yeah.
43:24
And
43:24
I
43:24
think
43:24
you
43:25
said
43:25
before,
43:26
like,
43:26
when
43:26
we
43:26
were.
43:26
We
43:27
were
43:27
talking
43:27
before
43:28
that
43:28
this,
43:28
like,
43:28
lack
43:29
of
43:29
perfectionism.
43:30
Letting
43:30
go
43:30
of
43:30
perfectionism
43:31
has
43:32
been
43:32
helpful
43:32
in
43:32
that
43:33
because
43:33
you're
43:33
not
43:34
trying
43:34
to
43:34
be
43:34
perfect
43:34
at
43:35
it.
43:35
You're
43:35
trying
43:35
to
43:35
just
43:35
get
43:35
started.
43:37
Yeah.
43:37
And
43:37
even
43:37
if
43:38
you
43:38
don't
43:38
get
43:38
started
43:38
every
43:39
single
43:39
day,
43:39
but
43:39
you
43:39
do
43:39
it
43:40
more
43:40
days
43:40
than
43:40
not,
43:41
that's
43:41
better.
43:42
And
43:42
that's
43:42
really
43:43
different
43:43
than
43:43
where
43:43
you
43:43
were,
43:45
you
43:45
know,
43:45
a
43:45
few
43:45
years
43:45
ago
43:46
with
43:46
things.
43:47
Yeah,
43:47
I'd
43:47
really
43:48
beat
43:48
myself
43:48
up.
43:48
And
43:48
I
43:49
think
43:49
that
43:49
that
43:49
was
43:49
the,
43:50
you
43:50
know,
43:50
like,
43:51
we
43:51
talked
43:51
about,
43:51
like,
43:51
the
43:52
back
43:52
of
43:52
my
43:53
head,
43:53
whatever
43:54
the
43:54
primal
43:55
thing
43:56
is.
43:56
The
43:56
primitive
43:57
brain.
43:57
Yeah,
43:58
the
43:58
primitive
43:58
brain.
43:59
Like,
43:59
that
43:59
was,
43:59
you
43:59
know,
44:00
beating
44:00
myself
44:00
up
44:00
was
44:01
the
44:01
way
44:01
that
44:01
my
44:01
primitive
44:01
brain
44:03
got
44:03
me
44:03
to
44:03
do
44:03
stuff.
44:04
And
44:04
so
44:05
that's
44:05
why
44:05
I
44:06
think
44:06
I
44:06
became
44:06
a
44:06
perfectionist.
44:08
That's
44:08
why
44:08
I
44:08
say
44:08
I
44:08
had
44:09
OCD
44:09
tendencies.
44:10
Because,
44:10
like,
44:10
I.
44:10
I
44:10
wasn't
44:11
ocd.
44:12
But,
44:12
like,
44:12
if.
44:13
If
44:13
you
44:13
asked
44:14
me
44:14
all
44:14
these,
44:14
like,
44:14
you
44:15
would
44:15
think
44:15
I
44:15
had
44:15
ocd.
44:16
And
44:17
because
44:17
it
44:17
was
44:17
like,
44:17
I
44:18
just
44:18
had
44:18
to
44:18
be
44:18
perfectionistic,
44:19
otherwise,
44:21
it.
44:21
Nothing.
44:22
It
44:22
didn't
44:22
feel
44:22
like
44:23
anything
44:23
would
44:23
get
44:23
done.
44:24
Whereas
44:25
now
44:25
it's
44:25
like,
44:25
okay,
44:26
I'm
44:27
at
44:27
least
44:27
a
44:27
little
44:27
bit
44:28
more.
44:28
Like,
44:28
I'm
44:30
a
44:30
little
44:30
bit
44:30
more
44:31
connected
44:31
with
44:31
myself
44:32
and
44:32
a
44:32
little
44:32
bit
44:32
more
44:33
present
44:33
than
44:33
I
44:33
used
44:33
to
44:34
be.
44:34
And
44:35
so
44:35
now
44:35
I
44:35
can,
44:36
like,
44:36
see
44:36
myself
44:37
and
44:37
say,
44:38
yeah,
44:38
I
44:38
did
44:39
that
44:39
thing.
44:40
And
44:41
I'm
44:41
gonna
44:41
remind
44:41
you
44:42
guys,
44:42
it
44:42
is
44:42
not
44:42
easy.
44:43
And
44:43
I
44:44
don't
44:44
do
44:44
this
44:44
every
44:44
day.
44:44
There's
44:45
many
44:45
a
44:45
days
44:45
I
44:45
have
44:46
to
44:46
call
44:46
Michelle
44:46
or
44:46
I
44:46
have
44:47
to
44:47
call
44:47
mom
44:47
or,
44:47
you
44:48
know,
44:48
I'm
44:48
just,
44:48
like,
44:49
really
44:49
down
44:50
on
44:50
myself.
44:52
But
44:52
I
44:53
think
44:53
when
44:53
I
44:53
look
44:54
at,
44:54
like,
44:54
the
44:54
trend,
44:55
the
44:55
worst
44:56
is
44:56
when.
44:56
You
44:56
don't
44:56
call
44:56
when
44:57
you're
44:57
down
44:57
on
44:57
yourself.
44:57
And
44:57
that
44:58
will
44:58
happen,
44:58
too.
44:59
Yeah.
44:59
But
44:59
I
45:00
think
45:00
also
45:00
if
45:00
I
45:00
look
45:00
at
45:00
the
45:01
trend,
45:01
If
45:02
I
45:02
look
45:02
at
45:02
the
45:02
trend,
45:03
like,
45:03
I
45:03
am
45:04
trending
45:04
upward,
45:05
whereas,
45:05
like,
45:05
I
45:05
have
45:06
more
45:06
good
45:06
days
45:07
now
45:07
than
45:07
I
45:07
do
45:07
have
45:08
bad
45:09
and
45:10
the
45:10
bad
45:10
days
45:10
just
45:11
feel
45:11
really.
45:11
Because
45:12
I'm
45:12
also
45:12
present
45:12
in
45:13
the
45:13
bad
45:13
days,
45:13
and
45:14
the
45:14
bad
45:14
days
45:14
just
45:14
suck.
45:15
And
45:16
so,
45:16
like,
45:16
I'm
45:17
starting
45:17
to,
45:17
like,
45:17
just,
45:18
like
45:18
this
45:19
whole
45:19
strategy
45:19
of
45:19
just
45:20
talking,
45:20
like,
45:20
just
45:20
talking
45:21
through
45:21
the
45:21
bad
45:21
days
45:23
and
45:23
having
45:24
it
45:24
be
45:24
okay.
45:24
Like,
45:25
I've
45:25
even.
45:25
I've
45:25
even
45:25
gone
45:25
on
45:26
Twitch
45:26
a
45:26
couple
45:26
times
45:26
and
45:27
been
45:27
like,
45:27
this
45:27
is
45:28
a
45:28
really
45:28
day.
45:29
And
45:29
I
45:29
don't
45:29
know
45:29
what
45:29
I'm
45:30
gonna
45:30
say
45:30
or
45:30
what
45:30
I'm
45:30
gonna
45:31
do,
45:31
but
45:31
I
45:31
just
45:31
wanted
45:31
to
45:31
be
45:31
here
45:32
with
45:32
you
45:32
guys
45:32
and
45:32
let
45:33
you
45:33
know
45:33
that,
45:33
like,
45:33
if
45:34
you're
45:34
feeling
45:34
like,
45:35
like,
45:36
same,
45:37
you
45:37
know,
45:37
like,
45:37
there's
45:37
some,
45:38
like.
45:39
Yeah.
45:39
And
45:40
then
45:40
weirdly
45:40
enough,
45:40
like,
45:41
if
45:41
I
45:41
start
45:41
talking
45:41
to
45:42
people,
45:42
like,
45:42
I
45:43
get.
45:43
I
45:43
get
45:43
out
45:43
of
45:43
it.
45:44
But,
45:44
like,
45:44
it
45:44
never
45:45
occurred
45:45
to
45:45
me
45:45
to
45:46
do
45:46
that
45:46
before
45:47
because,
45:47
like,
45:47
I
45:47
wasn't
45:48
allowed
45:48
to
45:48
just
45:48
have
45:49
a
45:49
shit
45:49
day.
45:51
Yeah.
45:52
And
45:52
when
45:52
we
45:53
talk
45:53
about
45:53
the
45:53
differently
45:54
abled
45:54
mind,
45:54
like,
45:54
taking
45:55
it
45:55
from
45:55
a
45:55
differently
45:56
abled
45:56
perspective,
45:58
helping
45:59
your
45:59
kid
45:59
know
45:59
that
46:00
you're
46:00
just
46:00
gonna
46:01
have
46:01
shit
46:01
days,
46:02
and
46:02
it's.
46:02
I
46:03
mean,
46:03
obviously
46:03
you
46:03
wouldn't
46:03
say
46:03
shit.
46:04
You
46:04
know,
46:04
you
46:04
would
46:05
use
46:05
whatever
46:06
page.
46:06
Appropriate
46:07
words
46:07
you
46:07
would
46:08
want
46:08
to
46:08
use.
46:09
Yeah.
46:09
But
46:10
it's
46:10
like,
46:10
you're
46:10
having
46:10
a
46:10
tough
46:11
day,
46:11
and,
46:11
like,
46:11
I
46:12
think
46:12
our
46:12
instinct
46:13
is
46:13
to
46:13
want
46:13
to
46:13
fix
46:14
it.
46:14
And
46:14
I
46:15
am.
46:15
I
46:15
am
46:15
just
46:15
as
46:16
awful.
46:16
Like,
46:16
Brian's
46:17
having
46:17
a
46:17
rough
46:17
day
46:17
today,
46:17
and
46:18
I
46:18
am
46:18
just
46:18
as.
46:18
I
46:19
need
46:19
to
46:19
go
46:19
and
46:19
apologize
46:20
to
46:20
him
46:20
because
46:20
I'm
46:20
always
46:20
trying
46:20
to
46:21
fix
46:21
it
46:21
for.
46:21
And
46:22
honestly,
46:22
it's
46:22
like,
46:23
I
46:23
don't
46:23
need
46:23
to
46:23
fix
46:24
it.
46:24
All
46:24
I
46:24
need
46:24
to
46:24
go
46:25
do
46:25
is,
46:25
like,
46:25
just
46:25
give
46:25
him
46:25
a
46:26
big
46:26
giant
46:26
hug
46:26
and
46:26
say,
46:27
like,
46:27
I
46:27
am
46:27
so
46:27
sorry
46:28
today
46:28
is
46:28
such
46:28
a
46:28
hard
46:28
day.
46:29
Like,
46:29
this
46:29
is
46:29
what.
46:29
This
46:29
is
46:30
what
46:30
ADHD
46:30
is.
46:30
You're
46:31
gonna
46:31
have
46:31
a
46:31
hard
46:31
day,
46:32
and
46:32
then
46:32
you're
46:33
gonna
46:33
pick
46:33
yourself
46:33
up
46:33
the
46:33
next
46:34
day
46:34
and
46:34
try
46:34
to
46:34
do.
46:34
Try
46:34
it
46:35
again.
46:35
That's.
46:36
That's
46:36
the
46:36
answer.
46:36
Like,
46:37
I
46:37
love
46:37
you.
46:37
And,
46:37
like,
46:37
it's
46:38
just
46:38
gonna
46:38
be
46:38
a
46:38
hard
46:38
day.
46:38
I
46:38
need
46:39
to
46:39
go
46:39
do
46:39
that,
46:39
like,
46:39
directly
46:40
after
46:40
this
46:41
podcast.
46:41
Can
46:42
you
46:42
help
46:42
me
46:42
remember,
46:42
Michelle?
46:43
Yes,
46:43
I
46:44
will
46:44
help
46:44
you
46:44
remember
46:45
that
46:45
for
46:45
sure.
46:45
Thank
46:45
you.
46:46
And
46:46
I
46:46
think
46:46
you
46:47
know
46:47
what
46:47
you're
46:47
talking
46:48
about,
46:48
though,
46:48
is,
46:49
is
46:49
that
46:51
connection
46:51
that
46:51
Grace
46:52
you're
46:52
giving
46:52
yourself
46:53
and
46:53
then
46:53
therefore
46:54
others.
46:54
Right.
46:54
Because
46:54
when
46:55
we're
46:55
hard
46:55
on
46:55
ourselves,
46:55
then
46:56
we're
46:56
hard
46:56
on
46:56
others,
46:57
I
46:57
think
46:58
is
46:58
part
46:58
of
46:58
it.
46:59
And
47:00
I
47:00
see
47:00
that
47:00
myself
47:01
with
47:01
parenting
47:01
is
47:02
the
47:02
more
47:03
difficult
47:03
my
47:04
day
47:04
is
47:04
or
47:04
the
47:04
more
47:05
I'm
47:05
beating
47:05
myself
47:06
up
47:06
about
47:06
something,
47:06
I'm
47:07
more
47:07
likely
47:07
to
47:08
do
47:08
that
47:08
to
47:08
my
47:08
Kid
47:09
too.
47:09
Right.
47:09
And
47:09
Josh
47:10
has
47:10
given
47:10
me
47:10
permission
47:11
to
47:11
talk
47:12
about
47:12
his
47:12
ADHD
47:13
and
47:14
his.
47:14
Our
47:15
relationship
47:16
together,
47:16
which,
47:17
you
47:17
know,
47:17
is.
47:18
Especially
47:18
when
47:19
things
47:19
are
47:19
changing
47:19
or
47:20
when
47:20
there's
47:20
a
47:20
lot
47:20
going
47:21
on
47:21
and
47:21
he's
47:21
about
47:21
to
47:21
go
47:22
to
47:22
college.
47:22
So
47:22
there's
47:23
a
47:23
lot
47:23
happening
47:24
right
47:24
now.
47:24
And
47:26
it's
47:26
important
47:27
to
47:27
remember
47:28
that
47:29
if
47:29
we're
47:30
not
47:30
getting
47:30
our
47:30
basic
47:31
needs
47:31
met,
47:32
like,
47:32
if
47:32
everyone
47:33
in
47:33
the
47:33
household
47:33
isn't
47:34
getting
47:34
their
47:35
nutrition
47:36
right,
47:37
the
47:37
right
47:37
proper
47:37
nutrition,
47:38
the
47:38
proper
47:38
sleep
47:41
and
47:41
physical
47:42
activity,
47:43
then
47:43
it's
47:44
really
47:44
gonna
47:45
make
47:45
everything
47:46
that
47:46
much
47:47
harder.
47:47
Right.
47:48
And
47:48
I
47:49
was
47:49
listening
47:49
to
47:50
a
47:50
different
47:50
podcast,
47:51
and
47:51
I
47:52
can't
47:52
remember
47:52
the
47:53
gentleman's
47:53
name.
47:53
He
47:54
was
47:54
something
47:54
about
47:54
the
47:54
four
47:54
hour
47:55
workweek
47:55
or
47:55
something.
47:56
I
47:56
can't
47:56
remember
47:56
his
47:56
name,
47:56
but
47:57
he
47:57
was
47:57
talking
47:58
about
47:58
this
47:58
idea
47:59
of,
47:59
you
48:00
know,
48:00
maybe
48:00
if
48:00
everything
48:01
is
48:01
so
48:02
hard,
48:02
that
48:03
maybe
48:03
you're
48:03
just
48:03
not
48:04
being
48:04
fueled.
48:04
Right.
48:05
Like,
48:05
have
48:06
you
48:06
gone
48:06
to
48:06
your
48:06
doctor
48:07
and
48:07
checked
48:07
to
48:07
make
48:08
sure
48:08
you
48:08
have
48:09
proper
48:09
vitamin
48:09
D?
48:10
Do
48:10
you
48:11
have
48:11
the
48:11
right
48:12
magnesium,
48:12
the
48:12
right
48:13
selenium,
48:14
do
48:14
you
48:14
need
48:14
Brazil
48:15
nuts,
48:15
whatever?
48:16
Do
48:16
you
48:17
have
48:17
these
48:17
basic
48:18
things,
48:18
your
48:18
basic
48:18
nutrition,
48:19
basic
48:20
sleep,
48:20
those
48:20
kinds
48:20
of
48:20
things.
48:21
And
48:21
they're
48:21
not
48:21
basic
48:21
in
48:22
the
48:22
sense
48:22
of
48:22
they're
48:22
easy,
48:23
but
48:23
those
48:24
are
48:24
sort
48:24
of
48:24
base
48:24
needs
48:25
that
48:25
you
48:25
want
48:26
to
48:26
make
48:26
sure
48:27
your
48:27
kid
48:27
is
48:27
getting
48:28
enough
48:28
protein,
48:28
for
48:29
example,
48:30
and
48:31
enough
48:31
sleep.
48:32
And
48:32
these
48:33
devices
48:33
that
48:34
you're
48:34
talking
48:34
about
48:35
really
48:37
cause
48:38
time
48:38
blindness
48:39
even
48:39
more.
48:40
And
48:41
then
48:41
you're
48:41
not
48:41
staying
48:42
present
48:42
with
48:42
yourself.
48:43
So
48:43
you
48:43
might
48:43
not
48:43
be
48:44
realizing
48:44
you
48:44
haven't
48:44
eaten,
48:45
you
48:45
might
48:45
not
48:45
realize
48:46
that
48:46
you
48:46
haven't
48:47
used
48:47
the
48:47
restroom
48:48
or
48:48
have.
48:48
So
48:49
the
48:49
combination
48:50
of
48:50
the
48:50
technology
48:52
being
48:52
an
48:52
issue,
48:53
so
48:53
all
48:53
of
48:53
these
48:53
things
48:54
can
48:54
factor
48:55
in.
48:56
And
48:56
so
48:56
the
48:57
strategies
48:58
I
48:58
think
48:58
first
48:59
have
48:59
to
48:59
come
48:59
from,
49:00
did
49:00
everybody
49:00
get
49:01
sleep?
49:01
Did
49:01
everybody
49:02
get
49:03
their
49:03
food?
49:03
And
49:04
like
49:04
reminding
49:04
ourselves.
49:05
Maslov's
49:05
hierarchy,
49:06
right?
49:06
Mm.
49:07
And
49:08
then
49:08
I
49:08
think
49:08
one
49:08
of
49:08
the
49:09
things
49:09
we
49:09
figured
49:09
out
49:10
over
49:10
time
49:11
when
49:11
we
49:11
are
49:12
definitely
49:12
not
49:12
always
49:13
consistent
49:13
just
49:14
due
49:14
to
49:14
schedules,
49:14
but
49:15
is
49:15
these
49:16
sort
49:16
of
49:16
15
49:16
minute
49:17
chunks
49:17
to
49:18
get
49:18
things
49:18
done
49:18
that
49:19
are
49:19
really
49:19
hard.
49:19
So,
49:20
like
49:20
we
49:20
body
49:20
mirror
49:21
with
49:21
each
49:21
other
49:22
and
49:22
we
49:22
really
49:22
do
49:23
try
49:23
to
49:23
limit
49:23
the
49:24
amount
49:24
of
49:24
time,
49:24
though.
49:25
And
49:25
so
49:25
we
49:25
found,
49:25
like
49:26
smaller,
49:27
even
49:27
smaller
49:27
than
49:28
a
49:28
25
49:28
minute,
49:29
you
49:29
know,
49:29
if
49:29
it's
49:29
something
49:30
physical
49:30
that
49:30
you
49:30
have
49:31
to
49:31
do,
49:31
especially,
49:33
you
49:33
know,
49:33
or
49:34
something
49:34
really
49:34
difficult,
49:35
like
49:36
emotionally
49:36
difficult
49:37
to
49:37
do,
49:39
you
49:39
know,
49:39
we
49:39
really
49:39
try
49:40
to
49:40
limit
49:40
how
49:40
much
49:41
exposure
49:41
you
49:42
have
49:42
to
49:42
it
49:42
too.
49:42
And
49:42
we
49:43
found
49:43
that,
49:44
I
49:44
think,
49:44
has
49:44
helped
49:45
you
49:45
a
49:45
little
49:45
bit.
49:46
You
49:46
know,
49:46
I'm
49:47
wondering,
49:47
as
49:47
you're
49:47
saying,
49:47
this,
49:48
like,
49:48
this
49:48
15
49:48
minute
49:50
task
49:50
thing
49:50
has
49:50
been
49:51
so
49:51
helpful.
49:53
And
49:53
the
49:54
other
49:54
day
49:54
I
49:54
did
49:54
Walk
49:55
into
49:56
the
49:56
final
49:57
frontier.
49:58
Not
49:58
the
49:59
forbidden
49:59
planet
49:59
is
49:59
the
50:00
final
50:00
frontier.
50:01
So
50:01
this
50:01
is
50:02
the
50:02
room
50:02
that
50:02
our
50:03
mother's
50:03
gonna
50:03
be
50:03
staying
50:04
in
50:04
in
50:04
about
50:04
a
50:05
month
50:05
or
50:05
a
50:05
little
50:05
less
50:06
than,
50:06
I
50:06
guess.
50:07
And
50:07
there's
50:07
a
50:07
bunch
50:07
of
50:08
stuff
50:08
in
50:08
it.
50:08
Right.
50:08
So
50:08
it's
50:09
not
50:09
quite
50:09
ready
50:09
for
50:09
her.
50:10
Yeah.
50:11
And
50:11
so
50:12
we've
50:12
been
50:12
trying
50:12
to
50:12
do,
50:13
little
50:13
by
50:13
little,
50:13
15
50:14
minutes
50:14
here
50:14
and
50:14
there.
50:15
I
50:15
did
50:15
actually
50:16
walk
50:16
in
50:16
there
50:16
on
50:16
my
50:17
own
50:17
and,
50:18
like,
50:18
just
50:18
said,
50:18
hey,
50:18
can
50:19
I
50:19
walk
50:19
in?
50:20
And
50:20
then
50:20
I
50:21
walked
50:21
in
50:21
and
50:21
I
50:22
looked
50:22
and
50:22
I
50:23
said,
50:23
nope,
50:24
and
50:24
then
50:24
I
50:24
walked
50:24
back
50:25
out.
50:25
But
50:25
I
50:26
walked
50:27
in.
50:27
Good.
50:28
That's
50:28
amazing.
50:29
Good
50:29
job.
50:29
But
50:30
what
50:30
I'm
50:30
also
50:30
thinking,
50:31
though,
50:31
is
50:31
that
50:32
as
50:32
I
50:32
shake
50:33
my
50:33
finger
50:33
at
50:33
you,
50:33
for
50:34
some
50:34
reason
50:35
I'm
50:35
wondering
50:36
is,
50:37
okay,
50:38
Alcina,
50:38
my
50:38
pt,
50:39
who
50:39
we
50:39
love,
50:40
she
50:41
was
50:41
telling
50:41
me
50:41
about
50:41
how
50:43
as
50:43
I
50:44
start,
50:44
like,
50:44
trying
50:44
to
50:44
go
50:45
for
50:45
a
50:45
walk
50:45
every
50:45
day,
50:46
that,
50:46
like,
50:48
I
50:48
will
50:48
get
50:48
endorphins
50:49
usually
50:49
after
50:50
about
50:50
the
50:50
seven
50:50
minute
50:50
mark.
50:51
And
50:51
that
50:52
no
50:52
matter
50:52
what
50:52
you
50:52
do,
50:53
it's
50:53
like
50:53
you
50:53
kind
50:53
of
50:53
like
50:54
around
50:54
seven
50:54
minutes,
50:54
that's
50:55
when
50:55
your
50:55
body
50:55
starts
50:56
producing
50:56
those.
50:56
And
50:56
I
50:57
was
50:57
like,
50:57
okay.
50:57
And
50:57
they
50:58
apparently
50:58
are
50:58
real.
50:58
I've
50:59
felt
50:59
them
50:59
now.
51:00
So
51:01
I'm.
51:01
I'm
51:02
agreeing
51:02
with
51:02
her
51:02
that
51:02
she's
51:03
probably
51:03
right
51:04
as
51:04
I
51:04
roll
51:04
my
51:04
eyes
51:05
very
51:05
heavily
51:05
at
51:06
her.
51:06
But
51:06
so
51:07
I
51:07
think,
51:07
like,
51:07
I
51:08
wonder
51:08
if
51:08
there's
51:08
something
51:09
with,
51:09
like,
51:09
tasks
51:10
where.
51:11
Oh,
51:11
oh,
51:11
sorry,
51:11
I
51:12
had
51:12
to
51:12
finish
51:12
the
51:12
story.
51:13
So
51:13
she
51:13
says
51:13
seven
51:14
minutes.
51:14
If
51:14
you
51:15
hit
51:15
seven
51:15
minutes
51:16
and
51:17
you're
51:17
still
51:17
exhausted,
51:18
you
51:18
should
51:19
turn
51:19
around
51:20
and
51:20
go
51:21
back
51:21
and
51:21
be
51:21
okay
51:22
with
51:22
the
51:22
fact
51:22
that
51:22
you
51:22
need
51:22
to
51:23
turn
51:23
around
51:23
and
51:23
just
51:24
stop
51:24
because
51:25
your
51:25
body
51:26
is
51:26
telling
51:26
you
51:26
that
51:27
you're
51:27
too
51:27
exhausted
51:28
to
51:29
have
51:30
endorphins.
51:30
Like,
51:31
you're
51:31
just
51:31
too
51:31
tired.
51:32
So
51:32
you're
51:33
going
51:33
to
51:33
hurt
51:33
yourself
51:34
if
51:34
you're
51:35
not
51:35
producing
51:35
endorphins
51:36
at
51:36
that
51:36
point.
51:38
So
51:38
I'm
51:38
wondering
51:39
if
51:39
there
51:39
is
51:40
some
51:40
similarity
51:41
to
51:42
this
51:42
with
51:42
tasks
51:43
where
51:43
it's
51:44
like,
51:44
you
51:45
know,
51:45
okay,
51:45
we're
51:46
going
51:46
to
51:46
do
51:46
it
51:46
for
51:46
seven
51:47
minutes,
51:47
and
51:47
if
51:48
it's
51:48
still
51:49
so
51:49
emotionally
51:50
taxing
51:50
after
51:51
seven
51:51
minutes,
51:52
or
51:52
maybe
51:52
it's
51:52
five
51:52
minutes,
51:53
I
51:53
don't.
51:53
I
51:53
don't
51:53
know
51:53
how
51:54
long
51:54
we're
51:54
going
51:54
to
51:54
say.
51:55
But,
51:55
like,
51:55
if
51:56
it's
51:56
so
51:56
still
51:56
emotionally
51:57
taxing,
51:58
we're
51:58
just
51:58
going
51:59
to
51:59
stop
52:00
and
52:00
we're
52:00
just
52:00
going
52:00
to
52:01
let
52:01
your
52:01
brain
52:02
feel
52:02
what
52:02
it's
52:03
like
52:03
to
52:04
be
52:04
okay
52:04
and
52:05
not.
52:05
Not
52:05
continue
52:06
on.
52:07
Interesting.
52:09
Yeah,
52:09
I'm
52:09
curious
52:10
about
52:10
that.
52:10
That
52:10
would
52:11
be
52:11
interesting
52:11
for
52:11
us
52:11
to.
52:11
Try
52:12
out
52:13
something
52:13
to
52:13
consider,
52:14
like,
52:14
while
52:14
we're
52:14
doing
52:14
this.
52:15
Yeah,
52:15
yeah.
52:16
Because
52:16
once
52:16
you
52:17
get
52:17
totally
52:18
emotionally
52:18
spent.
52:19
Then
52:19
you're
52:19
often
52:19
spent
52:20
for
52:20
the
52:20
whole
52:20
day,
52:21
which
52:21
is
52:21
sometimes
52:22
longer,
52:22
right?
52:23
Yeah,
52:23
yeah.
52:23
Like,
52:24
it
52:24
depends
52:24
because
52:24
we
52:24
talk
52:25
about
52:25
the
52:25
energy.
52:25
The
52:26
energy
52:26
sucking,
52:27
you
52:27
know,
52:27
like,
52:27
that's
52:28
a
52:28
real
52:28
thing.
52:29
Absolutely,
52:31
yeah.
52:31
I'm
52:31
so
52:32
curious.
52:33
We've
52:33
talked
52:33
about
52:33
executive
52:34
functioning
52:34
before,
52:35
but
52:36
it's
52:36
like
52:36
every
52:36
time
52:37
we
52:37
talk
52:37
about
52:37
it,
52:37
I
52:38
learn
52:38
a
52:38
little
52:38
something
52:39
else
52:39
about
52:40
how
52:40
you
52:41
experience
52:41
it.
52:43
And
52:44
it's
52:44
interesting
52:44
to
52:45
me
52:45
because
52:45
I
52:45
don't
52:46
have
52:46
answers
52:47
to
52:47
it.
52:47
That's
52:47
why
52:48
we
52:48
always
52:48
say
52:48
we're
52:48
not
52:48
experts,
52:49
we're
52:49
just
52:49
sisters.
52:50
Because
52:51
the
52:52
things
52:52
we
52:52
know,
52:52
though,
52:53
for
52:53
sure
52:55
are
52:55
that
52:55
you
52:55
having
52:57
your
52:57
housekeeper
52:58
come
52:58
in
52:59
is
52:59
really
52:59
important.
53:01
We
53:01
know
53:01
for
53:02
sure
53:02
that.
53:03
That
53:04
having
53:04
these
53:04
little
53:05
chunks
53:05
of
53:05
time,
53:05
however
53:06
much
53:06
they
53:06
might
53:06
be,
53:07
have
53:07
been
53:08
helpful.
53:10
And
53:10
I
53:10
think,
53:10
you
53:11
know,
53:11
that
53:12
getting
53:12
sleep
53:13
now
53:14
matters.
53:14
It's
53:15
just
53:15
doing
53:16
it
53:16
is
53:16
hard.
53:17
Like,
53:17
getting
53:17
consistent
53:18
on
53:18
it
53:18
is
53:18
hard.
53:19
You
53:19
do
53:19
think
53:20
about
53:20
protein
53:20
more
53:21
now
53:21
than
53:21
you've
53:21
ever
53:21
done
53:22
before,
53:22
which
53:23
does
53:23
help
53:23
your
53:23
brain
53:24
significantly.
53:25
So
53:25
I
53:26
think
53:26
there
53:26
are,
53:26
like.
53:26
I
53:27
feel
53:27
like,
53:27
you
53:28
know,
53:28
I
53:28
always
53:28
liken
53:29
it
53:29
to,
53:29
like,
53:29
your
53:29
puzzles,
53:30
right.
53:30
That
53:31
it's
53:31
like
53:31
these
53:31
little
53:32
pieces
53:32
of
53:32
the
53:32
puzzle
53:33
of
53:33
figuring
53:33
out
53:33
your
53:33
brain
53:34
and.
53:34
And
53:34
sometimes
53:35
you
53:35
have
53:35
to
53:35
be
53:35
reminded
53:35
of
53:36
it
53:36
by
53:36
external
53:37
things.
53:37
But
53:38
that
53:38
we
53:38
now
53:39
know.
53:39
Some
53:39
of
53:40
these
53:40
pieces,
53:41
I
53:41
think,
53:41
make
53:41
you
53:42
so
53:42
much
53:42
more
53:43
such
53:45
you're
53:46
able
53:46
to
53:46
function
53:46
at
53:46
a
53:46
higher
53:47
level
53:47
than
53:47
you've
53:47
ever
53:48
been
53:48
able
53:48
to
53:48
before.
53:49
I
53:49
think.
53:50
Yeah.
53:50
Would
53:50
you.
53:50
I
53:51
would
53:51
say,
53:51
for
53:51
sure,
53:52
yeah.
53:52
And,
53:53
like,
53:53
I
53:53
think
53:53
one
53:53
of
53:53
the
53:53
things
53:54
that,
53:54
like,
53:55
I'm.
53:55
I'm
53:55
remembering
53:56
that
53:56
anyway.
53:58
Yeah.
53:59
Like,
53:59
I
53:59
mean,
53:59
the
53:59
fact,
53:59
like,
53:59
I've
54:00
almost
54:00
got,
54:00
like,
54:01
probably
54:02
half
54:02
to
54:02
maybe
54:03
two
54:03
thirds
54:03
of
54:03
our
54:04
children's
54:04
books
54:05
finished,
54:05
like,
54:06
the
54:06
drawings,
54:07
I
54:07
love
54:07
it.
54:08
That's
54:08
because
54:08
I've
54:08
been
54:09
able
54:09
to
54:09
be
54:09
consistent
54:09
with
54:10
it.
54:10
And
54:11
what
54:11
I
54:11
realized
54:11
is
54:12
that
54:12
a
54:12
lot
54:12
of
54:12
that
54:12
is
54:13
because
54:13
I
54:13
don't
54:13
have
54:14
a
54:14
million
54:14
projects
54:15
that
54:15
are
54:15
undone,
54:16
that
54:16
are
54:16
half
54:17
done.
54:17
You
54:18
let
54:18
go.
54:18
And,
54:18
like,
54:19
one
54:19
of
54:19
that
54:20
was
54:20
the
54:20
hardest
54:21
thing
54:21
of
54:22
my
54:22
life
54:23
is
54:23
to
54:23
get
54:23
rid
54:24
of
54:24
all
54:24
the
54:24
projects.
54:25
Because,
54:25
like,
54:25
I've
54:25
just,
54:26
you
54:26
know,
54:26
it's
54:27
like,
54:27
there's
54:27
just.
54:28
Well,
54:28
I
54:28
could
54:28
do
54:28
this
54:29
and
54:29
I
54:29
could
54:29
do
54:29
that,
54:29
and,
54:29
like.
54:30
And,
54:30
like,
54:30
I
54:30
get
54:30
all
54:30
these
54:31
dopamine
54:31
hits.
54:31
I'm
54:32
like,
54:32
I
54:32
could
54:32
turn
54:32
this
54:33
silverware
54:33
into
54:34
a
54:34
chandelier
54:35
and
54:35
I
54:35
could
54:35
do,
54:35
you
54:35
know,
54:35
it's
54:36
like,
54:36
whatever
54:36
the
54:37
thing
54:37
is,
54:38
and
54:38
just
54:39
to,
54:39
like,
54:39
get
54:40
rid
54:40
of
54:40
it.
54:40
And
54:41
it's
54:41
so,
54:42
like.
54:42
Like,
54:42
right
54:42
now,
54:43
like,
54:43
I
54:43
have
54:43
all
54:43
that
54:44
stuff
54:44
in
54:44
my
54:44
carport
54:45
because,
54:45
like,
54:45
you
54:45
know,
54:46
Brian
54:46
was
54:46
saying,
54:46
well,
54:47
why
54:47
don't
54:47
we
54:47
sell
54:47
it?
54:48
And
54:48
I'm
54:48
like,
54:48
I
54:48
know
54:48
myself.
54:49
I
54:49
told
54:49
him,
54:49
like,
54:50
I
54:50
know
54:50
myself.
54:50
If
54:50
we
54:50
sell
54:51
it,
54:51
like,
54:51
if
54:51
we.
54:51
If
54:52
I
54:52
don't
54:52
just
54:52
put
54:52
it
54:52
on
54:52
the
54:52
road,
54:53
I
54:53
will
54:53
not
54:54
get
54:54
rid
54:54
of
54:54
it.
54:54
And
54:55
sure
54:55
enough,
54:55
like,
54:56
I
54:56
ain't
54:56
getting.
54:57
It's
54:57
not
54:57
gone.
54:57
It's
54:58
all
54:58
there.
54:59
And
54:59
like,
54:59
yes,
55:00
the
55:00
money
55:00
would
55:00
be
55:00
great
55:01
right
55:01
now,
55:01
but
55:01
honestly,
55:02
like,
55:02
the
55:02
money,
55:03
like,
55:03
I
55:03
would
55:04
much
55:04
rather,
55:04
like,
55:05
scrape
55:05
and
55:05
skimp
55:06
and
55:06
like,
55:07
that
55:07
money's
55:07
already
55:07
been
55:07
spent.
55:08
And,
55:08
like,
55:09
I'd
55:09
rather,
55:09
like,
55:09
just,
55:10
you
55:10
know,
55:10
go.
55:11
And
55:11
I
55:11
know
55:11
that
55:11
everyone
55:12
can
55:12
be
55:12
in
55:12
a
55:12
situation,
55:12
so
55:13
I'm
55:13
trying
55:13
to
55:13
be
55:13
mindful
55:13
of
55:13
that
55:14
as
55:14
well.
55:14
But,
55:14
like,
55:14
I
55:14
just.
55:14
It's
55:15
like,
55:15
at
55:15
this
55:15
point,
55:16
I
55:16
don't
55:16
have,
55:17
like,
55:17
I
55:17
just
55:18
need
55:18
to
55:18
get
55:18
it
55:18
out
55:18
of
55:18
my
55:19
life,
55:19
and
55:20
it's
55:20
not
55:20
going
55:21
to
55:21
help
55:21
me
55:21
move
55:22
forward
55:22
and
55:22
actually
55:23
physically
55:23
work
55:24
and,
55:24
like,
55:24
do
55:24
the
55:25
things
55:25
that
55:25
make
55:25
me
55:25
money.
55:26
So,
55:27
you
55:27
know,
55:27
it
55:28
is.
55:29
It's
55:29
like
55:29
just
55:30
honoring
55:30
myself
55:31
and
55:31
not
55:31
beating
55:32
myself
55:32
up
55:32
for
55:33
the
55:33
fact
55:33
that
55:33
I
55:34
should
55:34
be
55:35
turning
55:36
this
55:36
into
55:36
a
55:36
little
55:36
bit
55:37
of
55:37
cash.
55:37
And
55:37
it's
55:37
like,
55:37
yeah,
55:38
but
55:38
the
55:38
amount
55:38
of
55:39
time
55:39
and
55:39
effort
55:39
you'll
55:40
have
55:40
to
55:40
actually
55:40
do
55:40
that
55:41
for,
55:41
and
55:41
then
55:41
nobody
55:42
wants
55:42
to
55:42
buy
55:42
it
55:43
for
55:43
the
55:43
amount
55:43
that
55:44
you
55:44
think
55:44
it's
55:44
worth.
55:45
So
55:46
it's
55:46
a
55:46
lot
55:46
of
55:47
time
55:47
and
55:47
energy
55:47
and
55:48
a
55:48
lot
55:48
of
55:48
executive
55:49
functioning.
55:50
And
55:50
a
55:50
lot
55:50
of
55:51
task
55:51
management.
55:53
You
55:53
have
55:53
to
55:53
be
55:54
very
55:54
careful
55:54
about
55:54
what
55:55
tasks
55:55
you
55:55
decide
55:56
you're
55:56
going
55:56
to
55:57
pick
55:57
to
55:57
manage.
55:58
And
55:59
I
55:59
think,
55:59
like,
56:00
for.
56:00
For
56:00
that.
56:01
It's
56:01
like
56:01
that
56:01
boundary
56:02
also
56:03
of
56:03
saying,
56:04
that's
56:04
a
56:04
great
56:04
idea.
56:05
And
56:05
also,
56:06
I'm
56:06
not
56:06
going
56:06
to
56:07
do
56:07
it.
56:08
That's.
56:08
That's
56:09
a
56:09
theoretically
56:10
lovely
56:11
idea.
56:12
And
56:12
unless
56:13
you.
56:14
You
56:14
are
56:14
the
56:14
one
56:15
Brian
56:15
that
56:15
wants
56:15
to
56:16
do
56:16
that,
56:16
then
56:16
that's
56:17
not
56:17
going
56:17
to
56:17
happen.
56:18
Right.
56:18
So
56:19
it's.
56:19
And
56:19
I
56:20
did
56:20
say
56:20
that,
56:21
and
56:21
then.
56:22
I
56:22
was
56:22
like,
56:22
okay,
56:22
I'll
56:22
put
56:22
it
56:22
off
56:23
to
56:23
the
56:23
side.
56:23
I
56:23
think
56:23
it
56:24
was
56:24
like,
56:24
one
56:24
of
56:24
those
56:24
things
56:24
where
56:24
it's
56:24
like,
56:25
okay,
56:25
I'll
56:25
just
56:25
put
56:25
it
56:25
off
56:25
to
56:25
the
56:25
side.
56:26
And
56:26
then
56:26
it's
56:26
like,
56:27
yeah,
56:27
it's
56:27
not
56:27
gonna
56:27
happen.
56:28
I
56:28
should
56:28
just
56:28
put
56:28
it
56:28
on
56:29
the
56:29
road.
56:29
Let's
56:29
just
56:29
put
56:29
on
56:29
the
56:30
side
56:30
of
56:30
the
56:30
road.
56:30
There's
56:30
so
56:30
many.
56:31
There's
56:31
so
56:31
many
56:31
military
56:31
families
56:32
in
56:32
my.
56:32
In
56:32
my
56:33
neighborhood
56:33
that,
56:33
like,
56:33
would
56:33
probably
56:34
be
56:34
very
56:34
grateful
56:35
and
56:35
need
56:35
things.
56:35
Yeah.
56:36
And
56:36
just,
56:36
like,
56:36
put
56:36
it.
56:36
And
56:36
also,
56:37
I
56:37
do
56:37
think
56:37
Brian
56:38
has
56:38
the
56:38
best
56:39
line
56:39
ever.
56:40
Right?
56:40
Does
56:41
he?
56:41
For
56:41
that?
56:41
Yeah.
56:42
He
56:42
always
56:42
would
56:43
say,
56:43
to
56:44
the
56:44
street.
56:45
I
56:46
know.
56:46
To
56:46
the
56:46
streets.
56:47
To
56:47
the
56:48
actual
56:48
streets,
56:48
to
56:49
the
56:49
street
56:49
to
56:50
the
56:50
street.
56:50
So
56:50
I
56:50
think.
56:51
I
56:51
think
56:51
he
56:51
just
56:51
needs
56:52
a
56:52
little.
56:52
Sounds
56:53
like
56:53
a
56:53
little
56:53
bit
56:53
of
56:53
love
56:54
today.
56:55
And
56:55
also
56:55
maybe
56:56
a
56:56
reminder
56:57
that
56:58
you're
56:58
gonna
56:58
take
56:59
steps
56:59
to
56:59
the
56:59
streets.
57:00
To
57:00
the
57:00
streets.
57:01
You
57:01
know,
57:01
here's
57:01
what
57:02
I
57:02
will
57:02
say.
57:02
I
57:02
will
57:02
ask
57:03
anybody
57:04
who's
57:06
listening
57:07
right
57:07
now.
57:08
Is
57:08
there,
57:09
like,
57:09
find
57:10
one
57:10
easy
57:11
project
57:12
that
57:12
you
57:12
have
57:13
not
57:13
completed
57:15
and.
57:17
Give.
57:17
It
57:17
away
57:18
or
57:18
throw
57:18
it
57:18
away
57:20
or
57:21
donate?
57:21
Challenge.
57:22
You're
57:22
putting
57:22
out
57:22
a
57:22
challenge.
57:23
Putting
57:23
a
57:23
challenge
57:24
out.
57:24
And
57:24
I
57:24
want
57:25
you
57:25
guys.
57:25
A
57:25
radical
57:26
acceptance
57:27
challenge.
57:28
Yes.
57:29
I
57:29
want
57:29
you
57:29
guys
57:29
to
57:30
try
57:30
and,
57:30
like,
57:30
find
57:31
the
57:31
thing
57:31
that,
57:31
like,
57:31
you
57:32
know,
57:32
is
57:32
not
57:32
as,
57:33
like,
57:33
it's
57:33
like
57:33
you
57:33
haven't
57:34
touched
57:34
it
57:34
maybe
57:35
either
57:35
you
57:35
haven't
57:35
touched
57:36
it
57:36
in
57:36
over
57:36
a
57:36
year
57:37
or
57:38
longer.
57:39
If
57:39
it's
57:39
in
57:39
a
57:39
box
57:40
that
57:40
you
57:40
have
57:40
never
57:40
unpacked.
57:42
If
57:42
it's,
57:43
you
57:43
know,
57:43
something.
57:44
And
57:44
if.
57:44
And.
57:45
And
57:45
like,
57:45
however.
57:45
And
57:46
the
57:46
thing
57:46
is,
57:46
like,
57:46
the
57:46
question
57:46
I
57:47
ask
57:47
you
57:47
is
57:47
like,
57:47
okay,
57:48
if
57:48
you're
57:48
gonna
57:48
do
57:48
this,
57:48
something
57:49
that's
57:49
like,
57:49
low
57:49
stakes,
57:50
right?
57:50
What's
57:51
like
57:51
one
57:51
little
57:51
small
57:52
low
57:52
stakes
57:53
thing
57:53
that's
57:53
still
57:54
hard,
57:56
what
57:56
can
57:56
you
57:56
get
57:56
rid
57:57
of?
57:57
And
57:57
then
57:58
the
57:58
question
57:58
then
57:58
is,
57:59
like,
57:59
what
57:59
makes
58:00
your
58:00
brain
58:00
feel
58:00
easiest
58:01
to
58:01
get
58:01
rid
58:01
of
58:01
it?
58:02
Is
58:02
it
58:02
knowing
58:03
that,
58:03
like,
58:03
you're
58:03
donating
58:04
it?
58:04
Is
58:04
it
58:04
knowing
58:04
that
58:04
you're
58:05
just
58:05
dumping
58:05
it?
58:05
Is
58:06
it,
58:06
you
58:06
know,
58:07
finding
58:07
a
58:07
friend
58:07
that
58:07
you
58:08
like,
58:08
what
58:09
feels
58:09
good
58:09
for
58:09
your
58:10
brain
58:10
to
58:10
get
58:11
rid
58:11
of
58:11
it
58:12
and
58:13
just
58:13
start
58:13
there.
58:14
And
58:14
then,
58:14
like,
58:14
if
58:15
you're
58:15
on
58:15
our
58:15
Discord
58:16
page
58:16
and
58:16
I'll
58:17
link
58:17
our
58:17
Discord
58:18
in
58:18
this
58:19
show.
58:19
Notes.
58:19
Yeah,
58:19
Let
58:20
us
58:20
know.
58:20
Tell
58:20
me
58:20
what
58:21
it
58:21
is.
58:21
I'm
58:21
gonna
58:22
put
58:22
it
58:22
up
58:22
there.
58:22
Like,
58:22
tell
58:23
me
58:23
what
58:23
it
58:23
is
58:23
that
58:23
you
58:23
threw
58:24
away.
58:24
I
58:24
would
58:25
love
58:25
to
58:25
know
58:26
if
58:26
you
58:26
got
58:27
rid
58:27
of
58:27
something
58:27
or.
58:27
I'm
58:28
gonna
58:28
do
58:28
the
58:28
same
58:28
thing.
58:29
I'm
58:29
gonna
58:29
let
58:29
go
58:29
of
58:29
digital
58:30
too,
58:30
right?
58:30
It
58:31
could
58:31
be
58:31
digital.
58:32
It's
58:32
true.
58:32
Yeah.
58:33
It
58:33
could
58:33
be
58:33
digital.
58:33
I'm
58:34
gonna
58:34
find
58:34
something
58:34
that
58:35
I'm
58:35
gonna
58:35
let
58:35
go
58:35
of.
58:35
I
58:35
don't
58:35
know
58:36
what
58:36
it
58:36
is
58:36
yet,
58:36
but
58:37
I
58:37
know
58:37
there
58:37
are
58:37
t
58:37
there.
58:38
I'm
58:38
looking
58:38
at,
58:38
like,
58:38
an
58:39
entire
58:39
wall
58:39
of.
58:40
And
58:40
I.
58:40
I
58:40
will
58:40
find
58:41
a
58:41
project
58:41
that
58:41
I'm
58:41
gonna
58:42
let
58:42
go
58:42
of.
58:42
I
58:43
will
58:43
do
58:43
it
58:43
too.
58:43
Michelle,
58:44
will
58:44
you
58:44
do
58:44
it
58:44
too?
58:46
Yeah.
58:47
Find
58:47
something.
58:48
I
58:49
know
58:49
I
58:49
don't
58:49
have
58:49
a
58:50
whole
58:50
week
58:50
to
58:50
figure
58:50
it
58:50
out.
58:50
Michelle.
58:51
Yeah,
58:52
I
58:52
was
58:52
trying
58:52
to
58:52
think,
58:53
like,
58:53
if
58:53
I
58:53
have
58:53
any
58:53
projects,
58:54
I
58:54
think
58:54
my
58:55
project
58:55
has
58:55
been
58:55
my
58:56
kid.
58:56
I
58:56
guess
58:56
I
58:56
can
58:57
let
58:57
go
58:57
of
58:57
him.
58:57
He's
58:57
graduating.
58:58
No,
58:59
I'm
58:59
just
58:59
kidding.
59:00
Do
59:01
you
59:01
know
59:01
what
59:01
I
59:01
wanted
59:01
to
59:01
tell
59:02
You,
59:02
Michelle,
59:02
that
59:02
I
59:02
hadn't
59:03
thought
59:03
about.
59:06
I
59:06
feel
59:06
like
59:06
I
59:07
have
59:07
more
59:07
compassion
59:08
now
59:08
for
59:09
you
59:09
and
59:10
how
59:10
hard
59:10
it
59:10
is
59:11
for
59:11
you
59:11
to
59:11
let
59:11
go
59:12
of
59:12
Josh
59:13
and,
59:14
like,
59:14
want
59:14
to
59:14
fix
59:15
him.
59:15
Because.
59:16
Okay,
59:16
I.
59:16
I
59:17
know
59:17
I
59:17
am
59:17
not
59:18
Brian's
59:19
parent,
59:19
and
59:19
I'm
59:19
not
59:20
trying
59:20
to
59:20
mother
59:20
him,
59:21
but
59:21
there's
59:21
a
59:21
part
59:22
of
59:22
me
59:22
that's
59:22
like,
59:22
oh,
59:23
he's
59:23
just
59:23
start.
59:23
He's
59:24
like
59:24
a
59:24
little
59:24
baby
59:25
ADHD
59:26
boy.
59:26
And
59:26
he's
59:27
like.
59:27
He's
59:27
just
59:27
so
59:27
new
59:28
at
59:28
it
59:28
all.
59:28
And
59:28
he
59:28
just
59:29
got
59:29
a
59:29
diagnosis,
59:29
you
59:29
guys,
59:30
if
59:30
you
59:30
haven't
59:30
heard,
59:30
he
59:30
got
59:30
a
59:30
diagnosis
59:31
just
59:31
recently.
59:32
And
59:32
so
59:32
he's
59:32
learning
59:33
techniques.
59:33
And
59:33
so
59:33
there's
59:34
a
59:34
part
59:34
of
59:34
me
59:34
that
59:34
does
59:35
feel
59:35
like
59:35
I'm
59:35
an
59:36
ADHD
59:36
mother,
59:37
you
59:37
know,
59:37
of,
59:37
like,
59:38
here,
59:38
let
59:38
me
59:39
help
59:39
you
59:39
figure
59:39
it
59:39
out.
59:40
You're
59:40
definitely
59:40
a
59:41
mentor.
59:42
Yeah.
59:43
And,
59:43
like,
59:43
I
59:44
found
59:44
myself,
59:44
like.
59:45
Like
59:46
wanting
59:46
to
59:46
talk
59:47
to
59:47
him
59:47
because
59:48
I'm
59:48
worried
59:48
that
59:48
if
59:49
I
59:49
don't.
59:49
If,
59:49
like,
59:49
we
59:50
don't
59:50
figure
59:50
it
59:50
out,
59:50
it's
59:51
gonna
59:51
get
59:51
worse
59:51
and
59:51
worse,
59:52
and
59:52
he's
59:52
not
59:52
gonna
59:52
want
59:52
to
59:52
think
59:52
it
59:53
through.
59:53
He's
59:53
not
59:53
gonna
59:53
wanna
59:53
figure
59:54
it
59:54
out.
59:54
And
59:55
it's
59:55
like,
59:55
I
59:56
realized
59:56
that,
59:56
like,
59:56
that
59:57
is
59:57
just
59:58
not
59:59
helpful
59:59
for
1:00:00
him,
1:00:00
like.
1:00:00
Cause
1:00:01
he's
1:00:01
very
1:00:01
good
1:00:01
at,
1:00:01
like,
1:00:01
helping
1:00:02
me
1:00:02
to
1:00:02
understand.
1:00:02
Like,
1:00:03
Megan,
1:00:03
you're
1:00:03
being
1:00:03
too
1:00:04
much
1:00:04
right
1:00:04
now.
1:00:05
And
1:00:05
I.
1:00:06
I'm
1:00:06
really
1:00:06
not.
1:00:07
Like,
1:00:07
I
1:00:07
just.
1:00:07
But,
1:00:08
like,
1:00:08
it's
1:00:08
so
1:00:09
hard
1:00:09
for
1:00:09
me
1:00:09
to,
1:00:09
like,
1:00:09
not
1:00:10
want
1:00:10
to
1:00:10
fix
1:00:10
it.
1:00:10
Like,
1:00:11
he
1:00:11
had
1:00:11
terrible
1:00:11
sleep
1:00:12
last
1:00:12
night,
1:00:12
and
1:00:13
my
1:00:13
first
1:00:13
thing
1:00:13
is
1:00:13
like,
1:00:14
okay,
1:00:14
how
1:00:14
can
1:00:14
we
1:00:14
fix
1:00:14
it?
1:00:15
And
1:00:15
he's
1:00:15
like.
1:00:15
And
1:00:15
I
1:00:16
think
1:00:16
he
1:00:16
just
1:00:16
needs
1:00:16
me
1:00:16
to
1:00:16
be
1:00:17
like,
1:00:17
oh,
1:00:17
baby,
1:00:17
I
1:00:17
love
1:00:17
you.
1:00:18
I'm
1:00:18
so
1:00:18
sorry.
1:00:18
That's
1:00:18
so
1:00:18
hard.
1:00:20
Yeah.
1:00:21
And
1:00:21
I
1:00:21
can't.
1:00:22
Like,
1:00:22
my
1:00:22
brain
1:00:22
just,
1:00:23
like,
1:00:23
wants
1:00:23
to
1:00:23
fix
1:00:23
it
1:00:23
and
1:00:24
fix
1:00:24
it
1:00:24
and
1:00:24
fix
1:00:24
it.
1:00:24
And
1:00:24
I
1:00:25
was
1:00:25
just
1:00:25
like,
1:00:25
man,
1:00:27
because.
1:00:27
It
1:00:27
impacts
1:00:28
you,
1:00:28
too,
1:00:28
right?
1:00:29
I
1:00:29
mean,
1:00:29
it's.
1:00:29
It's.
1:00:30
You
1:00:30
know,
1:00:30
it's
1:00:31
not
1:00:31
just
1:00:31
about
1:00:31
them.
1:00:31
It's
1:00:32
also,
1:00:32
like,
1:00:32
about
1:00:32
you
1:00:33
a
1:00:33
bit,
1:00:33
too.
1:00:33
And
1:00:34
I.
1:00:34
And
1:00:34
I
1:00:34
think
1:00:35
it
1:00:35
was
1:00:35
interesting,
1:00:35
actually,
1:00:36
because
1:00:36
I,
1:00:36
for
1:00:37
the
1:00:37
very
1:00:37
first
1:00:37
time,
1:00:38
did
1:00:38
not
1:00:38
get
1:00:38
up
1:00:38
his
1:00:39
last
1:00:39
day
1:00:39
of
1:00:39
school.
1:00:40
And
1:00:40
I
1:00:40
know
1:00:40
there
1:00:41
were
1:00:41
a
1:00:41
lot
1:00:41
of
1:00:41
parents
1:00:43
out
1:00:43
there
1:00:43
who
1:00:43
can.
1:00:44
I
1:00:45
don't
1:00:45
know
1:00:45
if
1:00:45
they
1:00:45
can
1:00:45
relate
1:00:45
to
1:00:45
what
1:00:46
I'm
1:00:46
saying,
1:00:46
but
1:00:46
the
1:00:46
idea
1:00:46
of
1:00:47
last
1:00:47
day
1:00:47
of
1:00:47
school,
1:00:47
of,
1:00:48
like,
1:00:48
your
1:00:48
kid
1:00:49
in
1:00:49
high
1:00:49
school
1:00:49
is,
1:00:50
like,
1:00:50
this
1:00:50
big
1:00:51
deal,
1:00:51
right?
1:00:52
And
1:00:52
so,
1:00:52
like,
1:00:52
all
1:00:53
of
1:00:53
my
1:00:53
girlfriends
1:00:54
that
1:00:54
are
1:00:54
in
1:00:54
this
1:00:54
moment
1:00:55
are
1:00:56
just,
1:00:56
like.
1:00:56
I
1:00:56
was
1:00:56
crying
1:00:57
and
1:00:57
I
1:00:57
was
1:00:57
so
1:00:58
upset,
1:00:58
and
1:00:58
I
1:00:58
was
1:00:59
like,
1:00:59
I
1:00:59
overslept.
1:01:02
You
1:01:02
know,
1:01:02
I
1:01:02
slept
1:01:03
in
1:01:04
well,
1:01:04
yeah,
1:01:04
and
1:01:05
it's
1:01:05
interesting.
1:01:05
I
1:01:06
mean,
1:01:06
you
1:01:06
know,
1:01:06
there's,
1:01:07
like,
1:01:07
a
1:01:07
lot
1:01:07
of
1:01:07
things
1:01:07
going
1:01:08
on
1:01:08
in
1:01:08
my
1:01:08
life
1:01:09
right
1:01:09
now
1:01:09
beyond
1:01:10
just
1:01:10
him
1:01:10
graduating.
1:01:11
But,
1:01:11
like,
1:01:11
still,
1:01:11
I
1:01:11
was
1:01:12
like,
1:01:12
no,
1:01:12
it
1:01:13
was
1:01:13
relief.
1:01:14
It
1:01:14
was
1:01:15
like
1:01:16
I
1:01:16
laid
1:01:17
it
1:01:17
out
1:01:17
all
1:01:18
on
1:01:18
the
1:01:18
floor
1:01:19
like
1:01:19
I
1:01:19
gave
1:01:20
everything
1:01:21
I
1:01:21
could,
1:01:21
and
1:01:21
this
1:01:22
is
1:01:22
now
1:01:22
no
1:01:22
longer
1:01:23
mine
1:01:23
to
1:01:23
hold.
1:01:24
And
1:01:24
it
1:01:25
feels
1:01:26
really
1:01:26
hard
1:01:27
to
1:01:27
say
1:01:28
that,
1:01:28
but.
1:01:28
And
1:01:29
mean
1:01:29
it.
1:01:30
But
1:01:30
I'm
1:01:30
like,
1:01:31
I'm
1:01:31
not
1:01:31
here
1:01:32
to
1:01:32
pick
1:01:32
up
1:01:33
any
1:01:33
more
1:01:33
pieces.
1:01:34
Right.
1:01:35
Like,
1:01:35
this
1:01:35
is
1:01:35
not
1:01:36
my
1:01:36
job
1:01:36
anymore
1:01:37
in
1:01:37
the
1:01:37
same
1:01:38
way.
1:01:39
And
1:01:40
so
1:01:41
it's
1:01:41
interesting
1:01:42
because
1:01:43
it's
1:01:44
been
1:01:45
so
1:01:45
hard
1:01:46
and
1:01:47
so
1:01:48
taxing,
1:01:49
and
1:01:50
I
1:01:50
can't
1:01:50
express
1:01:51
enough
1:01:53
how
1:01:53
much
1:01:54
that
1:01:54
has
1:01:54
nothing
1:01:54
to
1:01:55
do
1:01:55
with
1:01:55
how
1:01:55
fun
1:01:55
he
1:01:56
is
1:01:56
or
1:01:56
how
1:01:56
much
1:01:56
I
1:01:56
love
1:01:57
him
1:01:57
or
1:01:57
how
1:01:58
incredible
1:01:59
he
1:01:59
is.
1:01:59
Like,
1:01:59
those
1:02:00
two
1:02:00
things
1:02:00
are
1:02:00
the
1:02:01
same
1:02:01
at
1:02:01
the
1:02:01
same
1:02:02
time.
1:02:02
But
1:02:02
he
1:02:02
has
1:02:02
been
1:02:03
difficult
1:02:04
to
1:02:05
raise,
1:02:06
and
1:02:06
he
1:02:06
has
1:02:06
been
1:02:07
difficult
1:02:07
to
1:02:08
understand,
1:02:08
and
1:02:09
I
1:02:09
have
1:02:10
constantly
1:02:11
had
1:02:11
to
1:02:11
try
1:02:12
to
1:02:12
figure
1:02:12
out
1:02:12
and
1:02:13
try
1:02:13
to
1:02:13
stay
1:02:13
curious
1:02:14
and
1:02:14
try
1:02:15
to
1:02:15
stay
1:02:15
ahead
1:02:15
of
1:02:16
whatever
1:02:16
and
1:02:16
help
1:02:17
him
1:02:17
navigate
1:02:18
this
1:02:18
thing
1:02:19
that's
1:02:19
coming.
1:02:20
And
1:02:20
it's
1:02:20
exhausting.
1:02:22
It
1:02:22
absolutely
1:02:23
can
1:02:23
be
1:02:24
exhausting
1:02:24
at
1:02:24
times.
1:02:25
And
1:02:26
so
1:02:26
it
1:02:27
doesn't
1:02:27
mean,
1:02:27
again,
1:02:28
that
1:02:29
it's
1:02:29
not
1:02:29
the
1:02:29
best
1:02:30
job
1:02:30
or
1:02:30
that
1:02:30
I
1:02:30
don't,
1:02:31
you
1:02:31
know,
1:02:31
all
1:02:31
that
1:02:31
stuff.
1:02:32
But
1:02:32
I
1:02:32
think,
1:02:32
like,
1:02:33
part
1:02:33
of
1:02:33
what's
1:02:33
hard
1:02:34
about
1:02:34
parenting
1:02:34
a
1:02:34
complex
1:02:35
kid
1:02:35
is
1:02:36
that
1:02:37
you're
1:02:37
tired.
1:02:39
Yeah.
1:02:40
And
1:02:40
you're
1:02:40
worn
1:02:41
out,
1:02:41
and
1:02:41
you
1:02:42
don't
1:02:42
always
1:02:43
have
1:02:43
a
1:02:43
support
1:02:44
group
1:02:44
because
1:02:44
not
1:02:45
every
1:02:45
other
1:02:45
parent
1:02:45
is
1:02:46
necessarily
1:02:46
going
1:02:46
through
1:02:47
that.
1:02:47
That,
1:02:47
you
1:02:47
know.
1:02:48
And
1:02:48
so
1:02:49
your
1:02:49
things
1:02:49
you're
1:02:50
saying
1:02:50
sound
1:02:50
like
1:02:51
either
1:02:52
you're
1:02:52
complaining
1:02:53
or
1:02:53
you're.
1:02:56
You're
1:02:56
not
1:02:56
giving
1:02:57
your
1:02:57
kid
1:02:57
enough
1:02:57
credit
1:02:58
or,
1:02:58
you
1:02:59
know,
1:02:59
like,
1:02:59
I
1:02:59
don't
1:03:00
just
1:03:00
tend
1:03:01
to
1:03:01
worry.
1:03:01
I'm
1:03:02
not
1:03:02
a
1:03:02
worrier.
1:03:03
I
1:03:03
don't
1:03:03
worry
1:03:03
about
1:03:04
things
1:03:04
very
1:03:04
often.
1:03:05
So
1:03:05
the
1:03:05
fact
1:03:05
that
1:03:05
I've
1:03:06
been
1:03:06
worried
1:03:06
about
1:03:06
him
1:03:07
since
1:03:07
he
1:03:08
was
1:03:08
born.
1:03:10
I
1:03:10
don't
1:03:10
know.
1:03:11
I
1:03:11
only
1:03:11
have
1:03:11
one.
1:03:12
Would
1:03:12
I
1:03:12
have
1:03:12
been
1:03:13
that
1:03:13
same
1:03:13
parent
1:03:14
for
1:03:14
every
1:03:14
kid?
1:03:15
Or
1:03:15
is
1:03:16
it
1:03:16
because
1:03:16
he's
1:03:17
had
1:03:17
specific
1:03:17
issues
1:03:18
that
1:03:18
I
1:03:18
see
1:03:19
as,
1:03:19
like,
1:03:19
concerning?
1:03:20
I
1:03:21
don't
1:03:21
know.
1:03:21
You
1:03:22
know,
1:03:22
so
1:03:22
it's
1:03:22
interesting
1:03:23
to
1:03:23
me
1:03:23
to
1:03:23
think,
1:03:24
because,
1:03:24
like,
1:03:24
I'm
1:03:24
not
1:03:24
like
1:03:24
that
1:03:25
as
1:03:25
a
1:03:25
manager.
1:03:26
I
1:03:26
don't
1:03:27
sit
1:03:27
and,
1:03:27
like,
1:03:28
I
1:03:28
don't
1:03:28
get,
1:03:28
like,
1:03:29
freaked
1:03:29
out
1:03:30
very
1:03:30
often.
1:03:30
Like,
1:03:30
there's
1:03:31
moments
1:03:31
I
1:03:31
do,
1:03:31
but
1:03:31
it's
1:03:32
usually
1:03:32
warranted
1:03:33
because
1:03:33
it's
1:03:33
like,
1:03:33
there's
1:03:33
something
1:03:34
I'm
1:03:34
seeing,
1:03:34
I'm
1:03:35
observing.
1:03:35
So
1:03:36
it's
1:03:36
like
1:03:36
my
1:03:36
identity
1:03:37
as
1:03:37
a
1:03:37
parent
1:03:37
is
1:03:38
only
1:03:39
that
1:03:39
I
1:03:39
am,
1:03:39
like,
1:03:40
this
1:03:40
overbearing,
1:03:42
you
1:03:42
know,
1:03:43
worry,
1:03:43
wart
1:03:44
of
1:03:44
a
1:03:44
Human
1:03:45
that
1:03:45
is
1:03:45
always,
1:03:46
like,
1:03:46
trying
1:03:46
to
1:03:47
make
1:03:47
sure
1:03:47
he's
1:03:47
okay.
1:03:48
And
1:03:48
I'm
1:03:49
like,
1:03:49
well,
1:03:49
is
1:03:49
that
1:03:50
actually
1:03:50
me
1:03:52
or
1:03:52
is
1:03:52
that
1:03:53
just
1:03:53
the
1:03:53
circumstances
1:03:54
with
1:03:54
which
1:03:54
I
1:03:54
was
1:03:55
presented
1:03:55
as
1:03:55
a
1:03:56
parent?
1:03:56
Because
1:03:57
you
1:03:57
were
1:03:57
seeing
1:03:58
an
1:03:58
issue,
1:03:59
and
1:03:59
so
1:03:59
there
1:04:00
was
1:04:00
something
1:04:00
legitimate
1:04:00
to
1:04:01
worry
1:04:01
about.
1:04:01
If
1:04:01
you
1:04:02
see
1:04:02
your
1:04:02
kid
1:04:02
running
1:04:02
into.
1:04:03
Into,
1:04:03
like,
1:04:03
the
1:04:04
road,
1:04:04
like,
1:04:04
that's
1:04:05
a
1:04:05
legitimate
1:04:05
worry.
1:04:06
Like,
1:04:06
yeah,
1:04:07
like,
1:04:07
it's.
1:04:07
It's
1:04:08
like
1:04:08
it's.
1:04:08
It's
1:04:09
not
1:04:09
just
1:04:09
that
1:04:09
it's
1:04:09
invisible
1:04:10
for
1:04:10
the
1:04:10
person
1:04:11
going
1:04:11
through
1:04:11
it.
1:04:12
It's
1:04:12
an
1:04:13
invisible
1:04:13
thing
1:04:14
for
1:04:14
the
1:04:14
parent
1:04:16
that
1:04:16
no
1:04:16
one
1:04:17
else
1:04:17
sees.
1:04:18
Right.
1:04:18
Like,
1:04:19
so
1:04:19
you're
1:04:19
the
1:04:20
crazy
1:04:20
one
1:04:20
because
1:04:21
you're
1:04:21
saying
1:04:21
there's
1:04:22
all
1:04:22
these
1:04:22
issues
1:04:22
with
1:04:22
your
1:04:23
kid
1:04:23
and
1:04:23
that
1:04:23
they're.
1:04:23
That
1:04:24
you're
1:04:24
concerned
1:04:24
about
1:04:25
stuff.
1:04:25
And,
1:04:26
you
1:04:26
know,
1:04:26
and
1:04:26
I
1:04:27
had
1:04:27
unfortunately,
1:04:28
you
1:04:28
know,
1:04:28
didn't
1:04:29
have
1:04:29
much
1:04:31
backup.
1:04:31
You
1:04:32
know,
1:04:32
Like,
1:04:32
I
1:04:32
was,
1:04:33
you
1:04:33
know,
1:04:34
I
1:04:34
was
1:04:34
in.
1:04:35
In
1:04:35
a
1:04:35
parenting
1:04:36
combination
1:04:37
that
1:04:38
I
1:04:38
was
1:04:38
the
1:04:38
only
1:04:38
parent
1:04:38
who
1:04:39
thought
1:04:39
there
1:04:39
was
1:04:39
an
1:04:39
issue.
1:04:40
So.
1:04:42
So
1:04:42
there's
1:04:42
a
1:04:42
lot
1:04:42
of
1:04:43
feeling
1:04:44
of
1:04:44
being
1:04:44
like,
1:04:46
I
1:04:46
don't
1:04:46
know,
1:04:47
I
1:04:47
didn't
1:04:47
really
1:04:48
think
1:04:48
about
1:04:48
it
1:04:48
until
1:04:48
just
1:04:48
like,
1:04:49
as
1:04:49
we
1:04:49
were
1:04:49
talking
1:04:49
about
1:04:50
it
1:04:50
and
1:04:50
as
1:04:50
I
1:04:50
was
1:04:51
talking
1:04:51
to
1:04:51
this
1:04:51
other
1:04:52
parent
1:04:53
earlier
1:04:55
this
1:04:55
week,
1:04:56
that
1:04:56
their
1:04:57
response
1:04:57
to
1:04:58
their
1:04:58
kids
1:04:58
last
1:04:59
day
1:04:59
of
1:04:59
school
1:04:59
was
1:04:59
one
1:05:00
of
1:05:00
heartwarming.
1:05:01
Like,
1:05:02
oh,
1:05:02
isn't
1:05:03
that
1:05:03
so
1:05:03
sweet?
1:05:03
And
1:05:04
it's
1:05:04
all
1:05:04
done
1:05:04
and
1:05:04
da,
1:05:04
da,
1:05:05
da,
1:05:05
da,
1:05:05
da.
1:05:05
Right?
1:05:05
Like,
1:05:05
all
1:05:06
of
1:05:06
those
1:05:06
things
1:05:06
that
1:05:07
I
1:05:07
know
1:05:07
I've
1:05:07
seen
1:05:08
in
1:05:08
movies.
1:05:08
And
1:05:08
that
1:05:08
seems
1:05:09
right.
1:05:10
That
1:05:10
seems
1:05:11
right.
1:05:11
And
1:05:12
mine
1:05:12
was
1:05:12
like,
1:05:12
oh,
1:05:12
my
1:05:13
God,
1:05:13
I
1:05:13
get
1:05:13
to
1:05:13
sleep
1:05:13
in.
1:05:14
Because
1:05:15
he
1:05:15
doesn't
1:05:15
have
1:05:16
anything
1:05:16
due
1:05:16
today.
1:05:16
He's
1:05:17
just
1:05:17
going
1:05:17
for
1:05:17
fun
1:05:18
because
1:05:18
he
1:05:18
wants
1:05:18
to
1:05:18
go
1:05:18
see
1:05:19
his
1:05:19
friends.
1:05:19
And
1:05:19
I'm
1:05:19
like,
1:05:20
great,
1:05:20
Enjoy
1:05:21
your
1:05:21
life.
1:05:21
Good.
1:05:22
I
1:05:22
don't
1:05:22
need
1:05:23
to
1:05:23
make
1:05:23
sure
1:05:23
you
1:05:23
had
1:05:23
an
1:05:23
egg
1:05:24
and
1:05:24
protein
1:05:24
today
1:05:24
because
1:05:25
you
1:05:25
don't
1:05:25
have
1:05:25
a
1:05:25
test.
1:05:26
I
1:05:26
don't
1:05:26
have
1:05:26
to
1:05:26
do
1:05:27
any
1:05:27
of
1:05:27
these
1:05:27
things
1:05:28
that
1:05:28
I
1:05:29
normally
1:05:29
would
1:05:30
have
1:05:30
done.
1:05:30
So
1:05:31
to
1:05:31
me,
1:05:32
I
1:05:33
literally
1:05:33
every
1:05:34
single
1:05:34
day
1:05:34
was
1:05:34
like,
1:05:34
how
1:05:35
to
1:05:35
get
1:05:35
protein
1:05:35
into
1:05:35
the
1:05:36
child,
1:05:37
like,
1:05:37
to
1:05:37
try
1:05:38
to
1:05:38
make
1:05:38
sure
1:05:38
he
1:05:38
could,
1:05:38
like,
1:05:39
continue
1:05:39
to
1:05:39
think
1:05:40
throughout
1:05:40
the
1:05:40
day,
1:05:40
you
1:05:41
know?
1:05:41
So
1:05:41
anyway,
1:05:42
it's
1:05:42
interesting.
1:05:43
It's
1:05:44
interesting
1:05:44
because
1:05:45
it's
1:05:45
a
1:05:45
complex
1:05:45
role
1:05:46
for
1:05:46
a
1:05:46
parent
1:05:46
too.
1:05:47
It
1:05:48
is.
1:05:48
And
1:05:49
I
1:05:49
think
1:05:49
it's
1:05:50
so
1:05:50
beautiful
1:05:50
that
1:05:50
you
1:05:51
are
1:05:51
able
1:05:51
to
1:05:53
recognize
1:05:53
it
1:05:54
and
1:05:54
be
1:05:54
so
1:05:54
vulnerable
1:05:54
talking
1:05:55
about
1:05:55
it,
1:05:56
because
1:05:56
I
1:05:57
can
1:05:57
only
1:05:57
imagine
1:05:57
that
1:05:58
that
1:05:58
would
1:05:58
be
1:05:58
hard
1:05:59
to
1:05:59
look
1:05:59
at
1:05:59
and
1:05:59
be
1:05:59
like,
1:06:00
oh,
1:06:00
I'm
1:06:00
a
1:06:00
worrywart
1:06:01
as
1:06:01
a
1:06:01
parent.
1:06:01
But,
1:06:02
like,
1:06:02
also
1:06:02
it
1:06:02
makes
1:06:03
sense
1:06:03
because
1:06:03
there
1:06:03
was
1:06:03
something
1:06:04
to
1:06:04
worry
1:06:05
about.
1:06:05
Like,
1:06:05
it
1:06:05
wasn't
1:06:06
just,
1:06:06
like,
1:06:06
unfounded.
1:06:08
And
1:06:08
you
1:06:09
know
1:06:09
what?
1:06:09
A
1:06:10
what
1:06:10
a
1:06:10
lovely
1:06:10
gesture
1:06:11
for
1:06:11
him
1:06:11
to
1:06:11
like,
1:06:12
know
1:06:12
that,
1:06:12
you
1:06:13
know,
1:06:13
he's
1:06:13
always
1:06:13
going
1:06:13
to
1:06:14
know
1:06:14
he
1:06:14
was
1:06:14
loved
1:06:14
and
1:06:15
he's
1:06:15
going
1:06:15
to
1:06:15
know
1:06:15
that
1:06:15
he's
1:06:15
got
1:06:16
somebody
1:06:16
on
1:06:16
his
1:06:17
side,
1:06:17
he's
1:06:17
backing
1:06:17
him
1:06:18
up.
1:06:18
And,
1:06:18
you
1:06:19
know,
1:06:19
I
1:06:19
think
1:06:19
it's
1:06:19
like,
1:06:20
it's
1:06:21
so
1:06:21
hard
1:06:21
for
1:06:21
parents
1:06:22
because,
1:06:22
like,
1:06:22
I.
1:06:23
The
1:06:23
things
1:06:24
that
1:06:24
I
1:06:24
see
1:06:24
in
1:06:25
media
1:06:26
and
1:06:26
especially
1:06:26
for
1:06:27
women,
1:06:28
you
1:06:28
know,
1:06:28
it's
1:06:28
supposed
1:06:28
to
1:06:29
be
1:06:29
this
1:06:29
beautiful,
1:06:30
natural
1:06:31
thing
1:06:31
and
1:06:31
it's.
1:06:32
You're
1:06:32
supposed
1:06:32
to
1:06:32
be
1:06:32
like
1:06:32
this,
1:06:33
you
1:06:33
know,
1:06:34
leave
1:06:34
it
1:06:34
to
1:06:34
beaver,
1:06:35
mom,
1:06:35
and
1:06:36
you're
1:06:36
just
1:06:37
like
1:06:37
this.
1:06:37
Everything
1:06:38
is
1:06:38
supposed
1:06:38
to
1:06:38
become
1:06:39
so
1:06:39
easy
1:06:39
and
1:06:39
it's
1:06:39
like,
1:06:40
it's
1:06:40
not.
1:06:40
And
1:06:41
it's
1:06:41
so
1:06:41
interesting
1:06:42
that,
1:06:42
like,
1:06:43
you
1:06:43
know,
1:06:44
we've
1:06:44
been
1:06:44
talking
1:06:44
recently
1:06:44
about
1:06:45
how,
1:06:45
like,
1:06:45
men
1:06:45
have
1:06:46
trouble
1:06:46
with
1:06:46
their
1:06:46
feelings,
1:06:47
but
1:06:47
the
1:06:47
one
1:06:47
thing
1:06:47
they
1:06:48
can
1:06:48
talk
1:06:48
about
1:06:48
is
1:06:49
how
1:06:49
their.
1:06:49
How
1:06:49
their
1:06:50
kids
1:06:50
are
1:06:50
hard
1:06:50
for
1:06:51
them.
1:06:51
Whereas,
1:06:52
like,
1:06:52
women
1:06:52
can
1:06:53
talk
1:06:53
about
1:06:53
their
1:06:53
feelings
1:06:54
to
1:06:54
their
1:06:54
blue
1:06:54
in
1:06:54
the
1:06:55
face,
1:06:55
but
1:06:55
they
1:06:55
can't
1:06:56
talk
1:06:56
about
1:06:56
how
1:06:56
hard
1:06:57
raising
1:06:57
children
1:06:58
is.
1:06:59
Raising
1:06:59
children.
1:07:01
Well,
1:07:01
they
1:07:01
can't
1:07:02
talk
1:07:02
about
1:07:02
the.
1:07:02
The.
1:07:02
How
1:07:03
difficult
1:07:03
it
1:07:03
is.
1:07:04
And
1:07:05
I
1:07:05
don't
1:07:05
know
1:07:05
that's
1:07:05
such
1:07:06
the.
1:07:06
Same
1:07:06
as
1:07:07
much
1:07:07
anymore,
1:07:07
but.
1:07:08
But
1:07:08
it
1:07:08
is.
1:07:09
Yeah,
1:07:09
it
1:07:09
definitely
1:07:10
can
1:07:10
be.
1:07:10
For
1:07:11
sure.
1:07:11
Yeah.
1:07:12
There
1:07:12
is
1:07:13
definitely
1:07:14
an
1:07:14
expectation
1:07:14
that
1:07:14
you're
1:07:15
just
1:07:15
gonna
1:07:15
handle
1:07:15
it
1:07:15
all
1:07:16
and
1:07:16
that
1:07:16
it
1:07:16
wasn't
1:07:17
the
1:07:17
messy
1:07:17
nightmare.
1:07:18
You
1:07:18
know,
1:07:19
I
1:07:19
always
1:07:19
say,
1:07:20
like
1:07:20
to
1:07:20
Josh,
1:07:21
and
1:07:21
that
1:07:21
it
1:07:21
wasn't
1:07:21
hard.
1:07:22
That
1:07:22
it
1:07:22
wasn't
1:07:22
hard.
1:07:23
Yeah,
1:07:23
like,
1:07:23
your
1:07:23
grades
1:07:24
look
1:07:24
so
1:07:24
good.
1:07:24
That
1:07:24
is
1:07:25
not
1:07:25
how
1:07:25
that
1:07:25
felt.
1:07:26
Like,
1:07:26
I
1:07:26
look
1:07:27
at
1:07:27
his
1:07:27
grades
1:07:27
and
1:07:27
it's
1:07:27
like
1:07:28
a,
1:07:28
B,
1:07:28
A.
1:07:28
I've
1:07:28
said
1:07:29
this
1:07:29
before.
1:07:29
Ab.
1:07:30
But
1:07:30
it
1:07:30
wasn't
1:07:31
that
1:07:31
like
1:07:31
the
1:07:32
week
1:07:32
it
1:07:32
was
1:07:32
like
1:07:33
I
1:07:33
would
1:07:33
get
1:07:33
look
1:07:34
at
1:07:34
the
1:07:34
report
1:07:34
and
1:07:34
it
1:07:34
was
1:07:35
like
1:07:35
F
1:07:36
and
1:07:36
D
1:07:37
and
1:07:37
then
1:07:37
it
1:07:37
was
1:07:38
A
1:07:38
and
1:07:38
B
1:07:38
and
1:07:39
then
1:07:39
D
1:07:39
and
1:07:39
F
1:07:39
and
1:07:40
like
1:07:40
it
1:07:40
would
1:07:40
go
1:07:40
up
1:07:40
and
1:07:40
down
1:07:41
in
1:07:41
this
1:07:41
like,
1:07:41
cyclical
1:07:42
thing
1:07:42
because
1:07:43
he
1:07:43
would.
1:07:43
Some
1:07:44
weeks
1:07:44
his
1:07:44
brain,
1:07:45
you
1:07:45
know,
1:07:45
didn't
1:07:45
have
1:07:46
the
1:07:46
chemicals
1:07:46
it
1:07:47
needed
1:07:47
to
1:07:47
get
1:07:47
things
1:07:48
done.
1:07:48
You
1:07:48
know,
1:07:49
I
1:07:49
mean,
1:07:49
really,
1:07:49
when
1:07:49
we
1:07:49
bring
1:07:50
it
1:07:50
back
1:07:50
to
1:07:50
it
1:07:50
now,
1:07:51
I
1:07:51
know
1:07:51
that
1:07:51
and
1:07:51
I
1:07:52
think
1:07:52
that's
1:07:52
the
1:07:52
part
1:07:53
that
1:07:53
the
1:07:54
worry
1:07:54
wart.
1:07:55
If
1:07:55
I
1:07:55
go
1:07:55
back
1:07:55
and
1:07:56
look
1:07:56
and
1:07:57
go
1:07:57
like,
1:07:57
oh,
1:07:58
I
1:07:58
was
1:07:58
observing
1:07:59
this
1:07:59
and
1:07:59
I
1:07:59
was
1:07:59
seeing
1:07:59
it,
1:07:59
but
1:08:00
I
1:08:00
didn't
1:08:00
necessarily
1:08:00
have
1:08:01
all
1:08:01
the
1:08:01
tools
1:08:02
of
1:08:02
how
1:08:02
to
1:08:02
talk
1:08:02
about
1:08:03
it
1:08:03
with
1:08:03
him,
1:08:04
nor
1:08:04
did
1:08:04
I
1:08:04
have
1:08:04
the
1:08:05
tools
1:08:05
to
1:08:05
understand
1:08:06
for
1:08:06
myself
1:08:07
what
1:08:07
was
1:08:07
the
1:08:08
part
1:08:08
that
1:08:09
was
1:08:09
okay
1:08:10
to
1:08:10
let
1:08:10
him
1:08:11
fail
1:08:11
at
1:08:12
like,
1:08:12
to
1:08:13
let
1:08:13
him
1:08:13
feel
1:08:13
that
1:08:14
consequence
1:08:14
of.
1:08:15
And
1:08:15
why.
1:08:16
What
1:08:16
was
1:08:16
the
1:08:17
part
1:08:17
that
1:08:17
was
1:08:17
good
1:08:18
that
1:08:18
I
1:08:18
kind
1:08:18
of
1:08:18
like
1:08:18
kept
1:08:19
on
1:08:19
him
1:08:19
about?
1:08:19
Right.
1:08:20
Because
1:08:20
he
1:08:20
needed
1:08:20
an
1:08:21
External
1:08:21
force
1:08:22
to
1:08:22
get
1:08:23
something
1:08:23
going.
1:08:24
But
1:08:24
when
1:08:25
you're
1:08:25
somebody's
1:08:26
external
1:08:26
force,
1:08:26
as
1:08:27
I
1:08:27
think
1:08:27
you're
1:08:27
finding
1:08:27
with
1:08:27
Brian,
1:08:29
or
1:08:30
kind
1:08:31
of
1:08:31
exploring
1:08:31
with
1:08:31
him,
1:08:32
maybe
1:08:32
is
1:08:32
a
1:08:32
better
1:08:33
way
1:08:33
to
1:08:33
say
1:08:33
it,
1:08:35
and
1:08:35
it's
1:08:35
a
1:08:35
different
1:08:35
relationship
1:08:37
as
1:08:37
a
1:08:37
spouse
1:08:38
than
1:08:38
it
1:08:38
is
1:08:38
as
1:08:38
a
1:08:39
mom.
1:08:40
But
1:08:40
that
1:08:41
external.
1:08:41
When
1:08:42
you're
1:08:42
the
1:08:42
external
1:08:43
force,
1:08:43
the
1:08:43
weight
1:08:44
of
1:08:44
that
1:08:44
is
1:08:44
quite
1:08:45
heavy.
1:08:46
And
1:08:46
I
1:08:46
was
1:08:46
talking
1:08:47
with
1:08:47
another
1:08:47
mom
1:08:47
who
1:08:48
does
1:08:48
have
1:08:48
a
1:08:48
kid
1:08:49
who's
1:08:49
adhd,
1:08:50
and
1:08:50
we've
1:08:51
become
1:08:51
very
1:08:51
good
1:08:51
friends.
1:08:52
And
1:08:52
I
1:08:52
said,
1:08:53
you
1:08:53
know,
1:08:53
she's
1:08:54
like,
1:08:54
it's
1:08:54
just
1:08:54
I'm
1:08:55
the
1:08:55
one.
1:08:55
I'm
1:08:55
always
1:08:56
the
1:08:56
one.
1:08:56
And
1:08:57
I'm
1:08:57
like,
1:08:57
yes.
1:08:58
And
1:08:58
you
1:08:58
got
1:08:59
to
1:08:59
figure
1:08:59
out
1:09:00
which
1:09:00
of
1:09:00
those
1:09:01
things
1:09:01
matter
1:09:01
and
1:09:02
which
1:09:02
don't,
1:09:03
because
1:09:03
this
1:09:03
is
1:09:03
a
1:09:03
marathon.
1:09:04
And
1:09:04
it's
1:09:04
not
1:09:05
that
1:09:05
he's
1:09:05
not
1:09:05
going
1:09:05
to
1:09:05
get
1:09:06
better
1:09:06
at
1:09:06
it.
1:09:07
Josh
1:09:08
has
1:09:08
gotten
1:09:08
better
1:09:09
over
1:09:09
the
1:09:09
years,
1:09:09
and
1:09:09
he's
1:09:10
taken
1:09:10
care
1:09:10
of
1:09:10
and
1:09:10
taken
1:09:10
responsibility
1:09:11
for
1:09:11
things.
1:09:12
And
1:09:12
sometimes
1:09:12
that's
1:09:13
hard
1:09:13
as
1:09:13
me,
1:09:13
as
1:09:13
the
1:09:13
parent
1:09:14
to
1:09:14
acknowledge.
1:09:15
Oh,
1:09:15
yeah,
1:09:15
you
1:09:16
are
1:09:16
really
1:09:16
good
1:09:16
at
1:09:16
this
1:09:16
now.
1:09:17
Like,
1:09:17
this
1:09:17
isn't
1:09:17
something
1:09:17
I
1:09:18
need
1:09:18
to
1:09:18
keep
1:09:18
worrying
1:09:18
about.
1:09:18
That
1:09:19
is
1:09:19
something
1:09:19
I
1:09:19
can
1:09:19
take
1:09:19
off,
1:09:20
you
1:09:20
know,
1:09:20
my
1:09:20
plate,
1:09:21
at
1:09:21
least
1:09:21
for
1:09:22
now.
1:09:22
Right.
1:09:24
But,
1:09:24
yeah,
1:09:25
I
1:09:25
think
1:09:25
it's.
1:09:25
It's
1:09:26
the
1:09:26
marathon
1:09:27
of
1:09:27
parenting.
1:09:28
A
1:09:28
complex
1:09:28
kid
1:09:29
is
1:09:29
something
1:09:29
you
1:09:30
have
1:09:30
to
1:09:30
figure
1:09:30
out.
1:09:31
What
1:09:31
things
1:09:31
are
1:09:31
you
1:09:31
falling
1:09:32
on
1:09:32
your
1:09:32
sword
1:09:32
about
1:09:32
and
1:09:33
what
1:09:33
are
1:09:33
you
1:09:33
not?
1:09:34
And
1:09:34
I
1:09:35
think
1:09:35
it's
1:09:35
different
1:09:35
for
1:09:35
every
1:09:36
single
1:09:36
person,
1:09:37
every
1:09:37
single
1:09:37
kid,
1:09:37
and
1:09:38
no
1:09:38
one
1:09:38
can
1:09:39
tell
1:09:39
you.
1:09:40
You
1:09:40
know,
1:09:41
your
1:09:41
intuition
1:09:42
is
1:09:42
right.
1:09:43
Whatever
1:09:43
it
1:09:43
is,
1:09:44
your
1:09:44
intuition
1:09:46
is
1:09:46
correct.
1:09:46
You
1:09:47
know
1:09:47
your
1:09:47
kid
1:09:47
the
1:09:47
best.
1:09:49
And
1:09:49
I'm
1:09:49
going
1:09:49
to
1:09:49
be
1:09:49
really
1:09:50
interested
1:09:50
to
1:09:50
see
1:09:50
how
1:09:51
parenting
1:09:52
evolves
1:09:54
with
1:09:55
him
1:09:55
as
1:09:55
he's
1:09:56
now
1:09:56
going
1:09:57
into
1:09:57
college.
1:09:58
I
1:09:58
know,
1:09:59
Me
1:09:59
too.
1:09:59
But
1:09:59
I
1:09:59
can.
1:10:00
Like,
1:10:00
I'm
1:10:00
instinctually
1:10:01
seeing
1:10:02
that
1:10:02
he's
1:10:02
going
1:10:03
to
1:10:03
have
1:10:03
these
1:10:04
things
1:10:04
where
1:10:04
he
1:10:04
messes
1:10:05
up
1:10:05
and
1:10:05
he's
1:10:05
going
1:10:05
to
1:10:05
come
1:10:06
and
1:10:06
probably
1:10:06
talk
1:10:06
to
1:10:06
you.
1:10:07
And
1:10:07
I
1:10:08
think
1:10:08
you
1:10:08
have,
1:10:08
like,
1:10:08
such
1:10:09
great
1:10:10
verbiage
1:10:11
now
1:10:11
that
1:10:11
you
1:10:11
didn't
1:10:12
have
1:10:12
before.
1:10:12
And
1:10:12
it's
1:10:12
like
1:10:13
being
1:10:13
able
1:10:13
to
1:10:13
be
1:10:13
like,
1:10:13
hey,
1:10:14
dude,
1:10:14
that
1:10:14
just
1:10:14
was
1:10:14
like
1:10:14
a.
1:10:15
Yeah,
1:10:15
it
1:10:15
sounds
1:10:15
like
1:10:15
you
1:10:15
had
1:10:15
a
1:10:15
bad
1:10:16
ADHD
1:10:16
day.
1:10:17
Okay,
1:10:18
what
1:10:18
did
1:10:18
you
1:10:18
learn?
1:10:19
Move
1:10:19
on.
1:10:19
You
1:10:19
know,
1:10:19
it's
1:10:20
like.
1:10:20
Or
1:10:21
it's.
1:10:21
If
1:10:21
it's
1:10:21
something
1:10:22
that's
1:10:22
really
1:10:22
big,
1:10:22
it's
1:10:23
like,
1:10:23
yeah,
1:10:23
okay,
1:10:23
we
1:10:23
gotta
1:10:23
deal
1:10:24
with
1:10:24
this,
1:10:24
you
1:10:24
know?
1:10:24
And
1:10:24
it's
1:10:25
like,
1:10:25
maybe.
1:10:26
Maybe
1:10:26
that's
1:10:27
how
1:10:27
it'll
1:10:27
be.
1:10:28
You
1:10:28
can
1:10:28
hope
1:10:28
for
1:10:28
me.
1:10:29
I
1:10:29
mean,
1:10:29
I'm
1:10:30
just
1:10:30
saying,
1:10:30
like,
1:10:30
you
1:10:31
got.
1:10:31
I
1:10:31
think
1:10:32
so
1:10:32
do
1:10:32
I.
1:10:33
You
1:10:33
know,
1:10:33
I
1:10:33
mean,
1:10:33
it's
1:10:34
like
1:10:34
you
1:10:34
have
1:10:34
stuff
1:10:34
ingrained
1:10:35
in
1:10:35
your
1:10:35
head.
1:10:35
It
1:10:36
is
1:10:36
very
1:10:36
difficult
1:10:37
to
1:10:37
make
1:10:37
those
1:10:37
changes
1:10:38
as
1:10:38
a
1:10:38
parent.
1:10:39
And
1:10:39
you
1:10:39
know,
1:10:39
I'm
1:10:40
finding
1:10:40
myself,
1:10:41
like,
1:10:41
even
1:10:41
just
1:10:42
now,
1:10:42
I
1:10:43
went
1:10:43
and,
1:10:43
you
1:10:43
know,
1:10:43
we're
1:10:44
trying
1:10:44
to
1:10:44
negotiate
1:10:45
something
1:10:45
that
1:10:45
he
1:10:46
wants
1:10:46
to
1:10:46
have
1:10:46
happen.
1:10:46
And
1:10:47
I
1:10:47
was
1:10:47
like,
1:10:48
okay.
1:10:48
And
1:10:48
I.
1:10:49
And
1:10:49
I
1:10:49
used
1:10:49
the
1:10:49
words
1:10:50
I
1:10:50
had
1:10:50
just
1:10:50
read
1:10:50
about,
1:10:51
which
1:10:51
were
1:10:51
like,
1:10:51
don't
1:10:51
catastrophize
1:10:52
this.
1:10:52
Like,
1:10:53
don't
1:10:53
catastrophize
1:10:54
this
1:10:54
thing
1:10:54
that
1:10:54
you
1:10:54
think
1:10:55
is
1:10:55
going
1:10:55
to
1:10:55
be
1:10:55
really
1:10:56
hard
1:10:56
for
1:10:56
them.
1:10:57
Because
1:10:57
that
1:10:58
doesn't
1:10:58
help.
1:10:59
Right,
1:10:59
right.
1:11:00
And
1:11:00
I
1:11:00
think
1:11:00
you're
1:11:00
saying
1:11:00
that
1:11:01
about
1:11:01
Brian.
1:11:01
Like,
1:11:01
don't
1:11:02
catastrophize
1:11:02
the
1:11:02
fact
1:11:02
that
1:11:02
he
1:11:03
had
1:11:03
one
1:11:03
night
1:11:03
of
1:11:03
bad
1:11:03
sleep.
1:11:04
Like,
1:11:05
just,
1:11:05
you
1:11:05
know,
1:11:06
like,
1:11:06
understand.
1:11:07
But
1:11:08
boy,
1:11:09
making
1:11:09
space
1:11:09
for
1:11:09
that
1:11:10
and
1:11:11
just
1:11:11
letting
1:11:11
it
1:11:11
go
1:11:12
and
1:11:12
just
1:11:12
opening
1:11:13
yourself
1:11:13
up
1:11:13
and
1:11:14
being
1:11:14
like,
1:11:14
okay,
1:11:14
like,
1:11:15
let's
1:11:15
reset.
1:11:15
I
1:11:16
know
1:11:16
I
1:11:16
got
1:11:16
all
1:11:17
wacky
1:11:17
about
1:11:17
this,
1:11:18
but
1:11:18
now
1:11:18
I
1:11:18
need
1:11:18
to
1:11:19
come
1:11:19
back
1:11:19
and
1:11:19
repair
1:11:19
with
1:11:20
you.
1:11:20
And
1:11:21
we
1:11:21
got.
1:11:21
And
1:11:21
it's
1:11:22
daily
1:11:22
and
1:11:23
it's
1:11:23
exhausting
1:11:25
and
1:11:25
it's
1:11:25
worth
1:11:26
it,
1:11:26
it's
1:11:26
worth
1:11:27
it,
1:11:27
but
1:11:27
it's
1:11:27
very
1:11:28
tiring
1:11:28
and
1:11:29
you
1:11:29
don't
1:11:29
do
1:11:29
it
1:11:29
right.
1:11:30
And
1:11:30
usually
1:11:30
I
1:11:31
start
1:11:31
off
1:11:31
wrong.
1:11:32
I
1:11:32
mean,
1:11:32
I
1:11:32
honestly
1:11:33
can
1:11:33
say
1:11:33
that
1:11:33
I
1:11:34
just
1:11:34
said
1:11:34
that
1:11:34
to
1:11:34
our
1:11:34
mom.
1:11:35
I
1:11:35
was
1:11:35
like,
1:11:36
I
1:11:36
was
1:11:36
like,
1:11:36
oh
1:11:37
man,
1:11:37
I
1:11:37
started
1:11:37
off
1:11:38
wrong
1:11:38
again,
1:11:38
you
1:11:38
know
1:11:38
what
1:11:39
I
1:11:39
mean?
1:11:39
And
1:11:39
like,
1:11:39
I
1:11:39
know
1:11:39
I
1:11:40
did.
1:11:41
Yeah.
1:11:41
And
1:11:41
yet
1:11:42
I
1:11:43
didn't
1:11:44
know
1:11:44
any
1:11:44
other
1:11:44
way
1:11:45
to
1:11:45
start
1:11:45
it
1:11:46
at
1:11:46
that
1:11:46
time.
1:11:47
But
1:11:47
like,
1:11:47
here's
1:11:48
the
1:11:48
thing.
1:11:48
It's
1:11:48
like
1:11:48
I
1:11:48
always
1:11:49
feel
1:11:49
like
1:11:49
I
1:11:49
start
1:11:50
off
1:11:50
wrong
1:11:50
and
1:11:51
like
1:11:52
to
1:11:52
have
1:11:52
had,
1:11:53
like,
1:11:53
if
1:11:53
mom
1:11:54
had
1:11:54
come
1:11:54
to
1:11:54
me
1:11:55
when
1:11:55
we
1:11:55
were
1:11:55
younger
1:11:56
or
1:11:56
at
1:11:56
any
1:11:56
point
1:11:57
and
1:11:57
be
1:11:57
like,
1:11:58
had
1:11:58
modeled,
1:11:59
like,
1:11:59
hey,
1:11:59
I
1:11:59
started
1:11:59
off
1:12:00
wrong
1:12:00
and
1:12:01
I
1:12:01
gotta
1:12:01
own
1:12:01
up
1:12:02
to
1:12:02
that.
1:12:03
I
1:12:03
think,
1:12:03
gosh,
1:12:03
that
1:12:04
would
1:12:04
have
1:12:04
been
1:12:04
a
1:12:05
massive
1:12:07
help
1:12:08
to
1:12:08
me.
1:12:09
Well,
1:12:09
the
1:12:09
greatest
1:12:10
thing
1:12:10
about
1:12:10
anybody
1:12:11
who's
1:12:11
ADHD
1:12:12
is
1:12:12
that
1:12:12
when
1:12:12
you
1:12:12
walk
1:12:12
up
1:12:13
and
1:12:13
say
1:12:13
that
1:12:13
they're
1:12:14
like,
1:12:14
that's
1:12:15
fine.
1:12:15
I
1:12:15
start
1:12:15
off
1:12:16
wrong
1:12:16
all
1:12:16
the
1:12:16
time.
1:12:17
Yes,
1:12:17
exactly.
1:12:19
But
1:12:20
no,
1:12:20
you
1:12:20
feel
1:12:20
very
1:12:21
forgiving.
1:12:21
He's
1:12:22
very.
1:12:22
Thing
1:12:22
is
1:12:22
you
1:12:22
feel
1:12:23
a
1:12:23
kinship
1:12:23
though.
1:12:23
And
1:12:24
I
1:12:24
think
1:12:24
that
1:12:24
that's
1:12:24
like,
1:12:25
I
1:12:25
mean,
1:12:25
but
1:12:25
as
1:12:26
like,
1:12:27
it's
1:12:27
yeah.
1:12:27
But
1:12:27
like,
1:12:28
I
1:12:28
just
1:12:28
think
1:12:28
like
1:12:29
being
1:12:29
able
1:12:29
to
1:12:29
see.
1:12:30
This
1:12:30
is
1:12:30
why
1:12:30
I
1:12:30
keep
1:12:30
saying,
1:12:31
like,
1:12:31
I'm,
1:12:31
I'm
1:12:31
gonna
1:12:31
be
1:12:32
a,
1:12:32
I'm
1:12:32
gonna
1:12:32
be
1:12:33
very
1:12:33
open
1:12:33
44
1:12:34
year
1:12:34
old
1:12:34
ADHD
1:12:35
because,
1:12:35
like,
1:12:36
I
1:12:36
wanted
1:12:36
the
1:12:36
model
1:12:37
that
1:12:37
I
1:12:37
didn't
1:12:37
have
1:12:38
of
1:12:38
someone
1:12:39
saying,
1:12:39
hey,
1:12:39
I
1:12:40
screwed
1:12:40
up
1:12:40
and
1:12:41
here's
1:12:41
how
1:12:41
I
1:12:41
screwed
1:12:42
up.
1:12:42
But
1:12:42
also
1:12:42
here's
1:12:43
where
1:12:43
we're
1:12:43
going
1:12:43
and
1:12:44
like,
1:12:44
and
1:12:44
like
1:12:45
showing
1:12:45
me
1:12:46
what
1:12:46
it
1:12:46
Looks
1:12:47
like
1:12:47
to
1:12:47
be
1:12:47
an
1:12:48
adult
1:12:48
who
1:12:48
didn't
1:12:49
do
1:12:49
everything
1:12:49
correctly
1:12:50
but
1:12:51
still
1:12:51
knows
1:12:51
how
1:12:51
to,
1:12:52
like,
1:12:52
have
1:12:52
relationships.
1:12:53
And,
1:12:53
like,
1:12:53
that's
1:12:53
the
1:12:54
part
1:12:54
that
1:12:54
I
1:12:54
don't
1:12:54
think,
1:12:56
you
1:12:56
know,
1:12:56
our
1:12:57
mother
1:12:57
is
1:12:57
great
1:12:57
at
1:12:58
so
1:12:58
many
1:12:58
things,
1:12:58
but,
1:12:58
like,
1:12:58
that's
1:12:59
the
1:12:59
part
1:12:59
that,
1:12:59
like,
1:12:59
was.
1:13:00
Was
1:13:00
a
1:13:00
challenge,
1:13:01
was,
1:13:01
like,
1:13:01
actually
1:13:01
having
1:13:02
communication,
1:13:02
because
1:13:03
that
1:13:03
was
1:13:03
not
1:13:03
something
1:13:03
that
1:13:03
they
1:13:04
did
1:13:04
in
1:13:04
that
1:13:04
generation.
1:13:04
You
1:13:05
know,
1:13:05
it's
1:13:05
like.
1:13:05
It's
1:13:06
totally.
1:13:06
It's
1:13:06
understandable,
1:13:07
but,
1:13:08
like,
1:13:08
it
1:13:08
also
1:13:08
was
1:13:09
challenging.
1:13:10
And
1:13:10
so
1:13:11
I
1:13:11
just
1:13:11
see.
1:13:12
I
1:13:13
just
1:13:13
see,
1:13:13
like,
1:13:13
I
1:13:14
just.
1:13:14
I'm.
1:13:14
I'm
1:13:14
interested
1:13:15
to
1:13:15
see,
1:13:15
like,
1:13:15
how
1:13:15
I.
1:13:16
You're
1:13:16
gonna
1:13:16
mess
1:13:16
up.
1:13:17
I'm
1:13:17
gonna
1:13:17
mess
1:13:17
up.
1:13:18
Like,
1:13:18
yeah,
1:13:18
I
1:13:19
messed
1:13:19
up,
1:13:19
you
1:13:19
know,
1:13:19
with
1:13:20
him,
1:13:20
too.
1:13:20
And
1:13:20
so
1:13:20
it's
1:13:20
like.
1:13:21
But
1:13:21
it's
1:13:21
kind
1:13:21
of
1:13:21
fun.
1:13:21
Like,
1:13:21
now
1:13:21
I
1:13:22
can
1:13:22
be,
1:13:22
like,
1:13:22
the
1:13:23
perfectionism,
1:13:23
though,
1:13:24
right?
1:13:24
And
1:13:24
the
1:13:24
shoulds
1:13:25
and
1:13:25
the
1:13:25
understanding.
1:13:26
And
1:13:26
I
1:13:26
think
1:13:27
that's
1:13:27
the
1:13:27
part
1:13:27
that
1:13:28
has
1:13:28
been
1:13:28
helpful
1:13:29
when
1:13:29
we
1:13:29
talk
1:13:29
about
1:13:30
this.
1:13:30
And
1:13:30
then
1:13:30
I
1:13:31
go
1:13:31
back
1:13:31
and
1:13:31
go,
1:13:31
okay,
1:13:32
well,
1:13:34
here's
1:13:34
why
1:13:35
this
1:13:35
was
1:13:36
the
1:13:36
way
1:13:36
it
1:13:36
was,
1:13:36
and
1:13:37
here's
1:13:37
what
1:13:37
I
1:13:37
was
1:13:38
feeling.
1:13:38
And
1:13:38
this
1:13:38
is,
1:13:39
you
1:13:39
know,
1:13:39
and
1:13:39
I'm
1:13:39
learning
1:13:40
to
1:13:40
be
1:13:40
more
1:13:40
vulnerable
1:13:41
in
1:13:41
general.
1:13:42
And
1:13:43
that's
1:13:43
helpful
1:13:44
because,
1:13:45
you
1:13:45
know,
1:13:45
obviously
1:13:48
bulldozing
1:13:49
your
1:13:49
way
1:13:50
through
1:13:50
it
1:13:51
isn't
1:13:51
really
1:13:52
the
1:13:52
answer
1:13:52
either,
1:13:53
you
1:13:54
know,
1:13:54
like,
1:13:54
because
1:13:54
you're
1:13:55
not
1:13:55
going
1:13:55
to
1:13:55
fix
1:13:55
it.
1:13:56
You're
1:13:56
not
1:13:56
going
1:13:56
to
1:13:57
change
1:13:57
them.
1:13:58
And
1:13:58
the
1:13:58
reality
1:13:59
is
1:13:59
this.
1:13:59
This
1:14:00
chapter
1:14:00
helped
1:14:00
me
1:14:01
to
1:14:01
kind
1:14:01
of
1:14:01
understand,
1:14:01
like,
1:14:02
because
1:14:02
it's
1:14:02
chemical.
1:14:03
Yeah,
1:14:04
there's
1:14:04
a
1:14:04
chemical
1:14:06
depletedness
1:14:07
or
1:14:08
deficiency
1:14:08
or
1:14:08
whatever.
1:14:09
Right.
1:14:09
Like,
1:14:09
we
1:14:10
want
1:14:10
to
1:14:10
say
1:14:11
that
1:14:11
doesn't
1:14:11
allow
1:14:12
for
1:14:12
these
1:14:13
things
1:14:13
to
1:14:13
happen.
1:14:14
And.
1:14:14
And
1:14:15
I
1:14:15
think
1:14:15
I
1:14:15
would
1:14:15
imagine
1:14:16
from
1:14:16
your
1:14:16
standpoint,
1:14:18
you're
1:14:18
seeing
1:14:20
a
1:14:20
mirror
1:14:20
of
1:14:21
what
1:14:21
you
1:14:21
have
1:14:22
experienced
1:14:22
all
1:14:22
these
1:14:23
years.
1:14:23
And
1:14:24
that
1:14:24
must
1:14:24
be
1:14:24
brutal,
1:14:25
because
1:14:27
you're
1:14:27
like,
1:14:27
I'm
1:14:28
looking
1:14:28
at
1:14:28
this
1:14:28
and
1:14:29
I'm
1:14:29
seeing.
1:14:30
And
1:14:30
this
1:14:30
is
1:14:30
hard
1:14:31
for
1:14:31
you,
1:14:31
and
1:14:31
it's
1:14:32
still
1:14:32
hard
1:14:32
for
1:14:33
me.
1:14:34
So
1:14:36
that's
1:14:36
a
1:14:36
whole
1:14:36
other
1:14:37
level.
1:14:37
So
1:14:37
I
1:14:37
think
1:14:37
people
1:14:38
who
1:14:38
partner
1:14:38
with
1:14:38
other
1:14:39
people
1:14:39
who
1:14:39
are
1:14:39
adhd,
1:14:40
it's
1:14:40
like,
1:14:41
seeing
1:14:42
it
1:14:43
so
1:14:44
vividly.
1:14:45
Yeah.
1:14:46
And
1:14:46
you've
1:14:46
always
1:14:46
said
1:14:47
to
1:14:47
me,
1:14:47
michelle,
1:14:48
it
1:14:48
is
1:14:48
tough.
1:14:48
Like,
1:14:49
I'm
1:14:49
gonna
1:14:49
have
1:14:50
to
1:14:50
go
1:14:50
give
1:14:50
him
1:14:50
a
1:14:50
hug
1:14:51
and
1:14:52
say
1:14:52
that,
1:14:52
because,
1:14:52
like,
1:14:53
it
1:14:53
is.
1:14:54
It
1:14:54
is
1:14:54
so
1:14:54
hard.
1:14:55
And,
1:14:55
like,
1:14:55
you've
1:14:56
always
1:14:56
told
1:14:56
me
1:14:57
that,
1:14:57
like,
1:14:58
when
1:14:58
I
1:14:58
finally
1:14:58
figure
1:14:59
something
1:14:59
out,
1:15:00
it's
1:15:00
like
1:15:00
a
1:15:00
light
1:15:00
switch
1:15:01
goes
1:15:01
off,
1:15:02
and
1:15:02
I'm
1:15:02
gonna
1:15:02
guess
1:15:03
that
1:15:03
it's
1:15:03
probably
1:15:04
whatever
1:15:04
chemical
1:15:05
reactions
1:15:05
finally
1:15:06
happening
1:15:06
in
1:15:06
my
1:15:06
brain,
1:15:07
and
1:15:07
it's
1:15:07
like,
1:15:07
boom,
1:15:08
I
1:15:08
go
1:15:08
do
1:15:08
it
1:15:10
and.
1:15:10
But
1:15:10
it.
1:15:11
It
1:15:11
takes
1:15:11
a
1:15:11
while
1:15:12
to
1:15:12
get
1:15:12
there.
1:15:12
And
1:15:12
like,
1:15:12
I
1:15:13
think
1:15:13
that's
1:15:13
the
1:15:13
part
1:15:13
that's
1:15:14
like,
1:15:14
really
1:15:14
hard
1:15:15
to
1:15:16
remember
1:15:16
is
1:15:16
like,
1:15:17
I
1:15:18
can
1:15:18
do
1:15:18
it,
1:15:19
it's
1:15:19
just
1:15:19
gonna
1:15:19
take
1:15:20
a
1:15:20
while.
1:15:20
It's
1:15:20
just
1:15:20
the
1:15:20
same
1:15:21
thing
1:15:21
with
1:15:21
like,
1:15:21
you
1:15:21
know,
1:15:22
I've
1:15:22
gotten
1:15:22
so
1:15:22
much
1:15:22
better
1:15:23
with
1:15:23
like
1:15:23
my
1:15:23
lower
1:15:24
body
1:15:24
in
1:15:24
physical
1:15:24
therapy
1:15:25
and
1:15:26
now
1:15:26
I'm
1:15:26
starting
1:15:26
my
1:15:27
upper
1:15:27
body
1:15:27
and
1:15:27
I
1:15:28
feel
1:15:28
like
1:15:28
I'm
1:15:28
back
1:15:29
to
1:15:29
being
1:15:29
a
1:15:30
baby
1:15:30
again.
1:15:30
And
1:15:31
it.
1:15:31
I
1:15:31
am
1:15:32
because
1:15:32
I
1:15:32
haven't
1:15:33
done
1:15:33
the
1:15:34
things
1:15:34
yet.
1:15:34
And
1:15:35
so
1:15:35
it's
1:15:35
like
1:15:35
I,
1:15:36
I
1:15:36
find
1:15:36
myself
1:15:36
like
1:15:37
having
1:15:37
to
1:15:37
remind
1:15:38
myself,
1:15:38
like,
1:15:38
hey,
1:15:38
I
1:15:39
have
1:15:39
done
1:15:39
really
1:15:40
well
1:15:40
with
1:15:40
my
1:15:40
lower
1:15:41
body
1:15:41
and
1:15:41
it's
1:15:41
just
1:15:42
going
1:15:42
to
1:15:42
take
1:15:42
time.
1:15:42
And
1:15:42
so
1:15:43
I
1:15:43
have
1:15:43
to
1:15:43
keep
1:15:43
telling
1:15:43
myself
1:15:44
that.
1:15:45
And
1:15:45
if
1:15:45
I
1:15:45
could
1:15:45
do
1:15:46
that
1:15:46
also,
1:15:46
I
1:15:46
think
1:15:47
for
1:15:47
my
1:15:47
ADHD
1:15:47
and
1:15:48
say,
1:15:48
okay,
1:15:48
I
1:15:48
like
1:15:49
these,
1:15:50
these
1:15:50
difficulties
1:15:51
I'm
1:15:51
having
1:15:51
or
1:15:51
like
1:15:52
this
1:15:52
laziness
1:15:52
I
1:15:52
feel
1:15:53
or
1:15:53
whatever.
1:15:53
If
1:15:53
like
1:15:53
I
1:15:54
can
1:15:54
remember,
1:15:55
hey,
1:15:55
I've
1:15:56
done
1:15:56
X,
1:15:57
Y
1:15:57
and
1:15:57
Z,
1:15:58
I
1:15:58
will
1:15:59
get
1:15:59
there.
1:15:59
It's
1:15:59
just
1:16:00
going
1:16:00
to
1:16:00
take
1:16:00
time.
1:16:02
Yeah.
1:16:03
And
1:16:03
I
1:16:04
don't
1:16:04
have
1:16:04
control
1:16:05
over
1:16:05
it
1:16:06
when
1:16:06
it,
1:16:07
Yeah.
1:16:07
I
1:16:07
can't
1:16:08
just
1:16:08
be
1:16:08
like,
1:16:08
ah.
1:16:09
And
1:16:09
now
1:16:09
I
1:16:09
have
1:16:10
this
1:16:10
figured
1:16:10
out.
1:16:11
Like,
1:16:11
I
1:16:11
can't
1:16:11
just,
1:16:11
you
1:16:12
know,
1:16:12
it's
1:16:12
like
1:16:12
I
1:16:12
might
1:16:12
have
1:16:12
the
1:16:13
idea
1:16:13
figured
1:16:13
out
1:16:13
in
1:16:14
my
1:16:14
head,
1:16:14
but
1:16:15
like
1:16:15
making
1:16:15
the
1:16:16
connection.
1:16:17
That
1:16:17
light
1:16:17
switch
1:16:18
finally
1:16:18
flips
1:16:18
on.
1:16:18
Like
1:16:19
when
1:16:19
Brian
1:16:19
finally,
1:16:19
like,
1:16:19
you
1:16:20
know,
1:16:20
whenever
1:16:20
he,
1:16:20
he's
1:16:20
got
1:16:21
all
1:16:21
the
1:16:21
information,
1:16:21
he
1:16:21
has
1:16:21
all
1:16:22
the
1:16:22
research,
1:16:22
he
1:16:22
knows
1:16:22
what
1:16:22
to
1:16:22
do.
1:16:23
But
1:16:23
it's
1:16:23
like
1:16:23
whenever
1:16:23
his
1:16:24
brain
1:16:24
is
1:16:24
finally
1:16:24
gonna
1:16:24
be
1:16:25
like,
1:16:25
ah,
1:16:25
I
1:16:25
know
1:16:25
what
1:16:25
I
1:16:26
gotta
1:16:26
do
1:16:26
now
1:16:26
to
1:16:26
like,
1:16:26
really
1:16:26
work
1:16:27
on
1:16:27
sleep,
1:16:28
that's
1:16:28
up
1:16:28
to
1:16:28
him.
1:16:28
That's
1:16:29
not,
1:16:29
I,
1:16:29
like,
1:16:29
it's
1:16:30
not
1:16:30
up
1:16:30
to
1:16:30
me.
1:16:30
I
1:16:30
can't,
1:16:31
I
1:16:31
can't
1:16:31
do
1:16:31
anything
1:16:31
about
1:16:32
that.
1:16:32
And
1:16:33
you're
1:16:33
right,
1:16:33
it
1:16:33
is
1:16:33
so
1:16:34
hard
1:16:34
to
1:16:34
look
1:16:34
at
1:16:34
it
1:16:34
and
1:16:34
be
1:16:35
like,
1:16:35
ah,
1:16:36
I'm
1:16:36
looking,
1:16:36
I'm
1:16:36
watching
1:16:37
myself.
1:16:37
I'm
1:16:37
watching
1:16:38
like,
1:16:38
you
1:16:38
know,
1:16:38
the
1:16:39
last
1:16:39
15
1:16:39
years,
1:16:40
struggling
1:16:40
to
1:16:40
sleep.
1:16:41
And
1:16:41
I
1:16:41
was
1:16:41
like,
1:16:41
oh,
1:16:41
it's
1:16:42
just
1:16:42
so
1:16:43
hard.
1:16:43
And
1:16:44
I
1:16:44
want
1:16:44
to
1:16:44
spare
1:16:45
him
1:16:45
from
1:16:45
all
1:16:45
of
1:16:45
that.
1:16:46
And
1:16:46
I
1:16:47
know
1:16:47
it's
1:16:47
like,
1:16:48
you
1:16:48
know,
1:16:48
there's
1:16:49
only
1:16:49
so
1:16:49
much
1:16:49
you
1:16:49
can
1:16:50
do.
1:16:50
I
1:16:50
can
1:16:50
tell
1:16:50
him
1:16:51
I
1:16:51
want
1:16:51
to
1:16:51
spare
1:16:51
him
1:16:51
for
1:16:51
that,
1:16:52
but
1:16:52
there's
1:16:53
only
1:16:53
so
1:16:53
much
1:16:53
you
1:16:53
can
1:16:53
do.
1:16:54
And
1:16:55
I
1:16:55
think
1:16:55
as
1:16:55
a
1:16:55
parent,
1:16:56
it
1:16:56
is.
1:16:58
That
1:16:59
times
1:16:59
like,
1:17:01
million.
1:17:01
Yeah.
1:17:02
I
1:17:03
don't
1:17:03
know,
1:17:04
it's
1:17:04
just
1:17:05
because
1:17:05
I
1:17:05
think
1:17:05
you
1:17:06
are
1:17:06
biologically
1:17:08
set
1:17:09
from
1:17:09
the
1:17:10
beginning
1:17:10
that
1:17:10
you're
1:17:10
supposed
1:17:11
to
1:17:11
keep
1:17:11
this
1:17:11
thing,
1:17:12
this
1:17:12
little
1:17:12
human
1:17:13
alive.
1:17:14
And
1:17:15
so
1:17:15
when
1:17:15
you
1:17:15
start
1:17:16
to
1:17:16
like,
1:17:16
link,
1:17:17
oh,
1:17:17
this
1:17:17
is
1:17:18
connected
1:17:18
to
1:17:18
their
1:17:18
safety
1:17:19
or
1:17:19
this
1:17:19
is
1:17:20
connected
1:17:20
to
1:17:20
them
1:17:21
Being
1:17:22
able
1:17:22
to
1:17:23
become
1:17:23
a
1:17:24
functioning
1:17:24
adult,
1:17:25
you
1:17:25
know,
1:17:26
the,
1:17:27
you
1:17:28
know,
1:17:28
comes
1:17:29
across,
1:17:29
I
1:17:29
think,
1:17:29
sort
1:17:30
of
1:17:30
as
1:17:30
hyperbolic
1:17:31
or
1:17:31
something.
1:17:31
Right.
1:17:31
That
1:17:32
you're
1:17:32
over
1:17:32
exaggerating
1:17:33
everything.
1:17:33
But
1:17:33
there's
1:17:34
that
1:17:34
real
1:17:34
feeling
1:17:35
that's
1:17:35
in
1:17:35
there.
1:17:35
And
1:17:35
it's.
1:17:36
It's
1:17:36
also
1:17:37
like,
1:17:37
okay,
1:17:37
how
1:17:37
do
1:17:38
you.
1:17:38
How
1:17:38
do
1:17:38
you
1:17:38
not
1:17:39
catastrophize
1:17:39
this?
1:17:40
Like,
1:17:40
is
1:17:40
this
1:17:40
really,
1:17:41
you
1:17:41
know,
1:17:41
what
1:17:42
level
1:17:42
is
1:17:42
this?
1:17:43
Is
1:17:43
everything
1:17:43
going
1:17:44
to
1:17:44
a
1:17:44
10?
1:17:46
And,
1:17:46
you
1:17:46
know,
1:17:46
that's
1:17:47
the
1:17:47
piece
1:17:47
that
1:17:48
for
1:17:48
me
1:17:48
also
1:17:48
I
1:17:49
have
1:17:49
to
1:17:49
always
1:17:49
remember
1:17:50
is
1:17:50
like,
1:17:50
okay,
1:17:50
this
1:17:51
is
1:17:51
just.
1:17:52
Okay,
1:17:52
slow
1:17:53
down.
1:17:53
You
1:17:54
know,
1:17:54
slow
1:17:54
down
1:17:54
and
1:17:55
feel
1:17:55
it.
1:17:55
But
1:17:56
also
1:17:56
understand
1:17:57
it's.
1:17:57
There's
1:17:57
also
1:17:57
a
1:17:58
part
1:17:58
of
1:17:58
me
1:17:58
that,
1:17:58
like,
1:17:58
I
1:17:59
just
1:17:59
wonder
1:17:59
too,
1:17:59
like,
1:18:01
in
1:18:01
my
1:18:01
mind,
1:18:01
like,
1:18:02
the
1:18:02
worst
1:18:02
case
1:18:02
scenario,
1:18:03
like,
1:18:03
if
1:18:03
you
1:18:03
take
1:18:03
it
1:18:03
to
1:18:04
the
1:18:04
catastrophic
1:18:05
event,
1:18:06
that's
1:18:06
usually
1:18:07
death
1:18:07
by
1:18:07
suicide.
1:18:08
And
1:18:09
the
1:18:09
one
1:18:10
thing
1:18:10
I
1:18:10
do
1:18:10
know
1:18:10
is
1:18:10
that,
1:18:11
like,
1:18:11
there
1:18:11
are
1:18:12
points
1:18:12
and
1:18:12
like,
1:18:13
there
1:18:13
are.
1:18:14
There
1:18:14
is
1:18:14
sometimes,
1:18:14
like,
1:18:15
where
1:18:15
there's
1:18:15
nothing
1:18:16
that
1:18:16
anyone
1:18:17
could
1:18:17
have
1:18:17
done,
1:18:18
which
1:18:18
is
1:18:18
like,
1:18:18
the
1:18:19
hard
1:18:19
part.
1:18:20
And
1:18:20
like,
1:18:20
I.
1:18:20
I
1:18:21
feel
1:18:21
like,
1:18:22
you
1:18:22
know,
1:18:22
when
1:18:22
Brian
1:18:22
started
1:18:23
getting
1:18:23
back
1:18:23
from.
1:18:24
He
1:18:24
used
1:18:24
to
1:18:24
be
1:18:24
a
1:18:24
veteran.
1:18:25
He
1:18:25
was
1:18:25
a
1:18:25
veteran.
1:18:25
He
1:18:26
went
1:18:26
on
1:18:26
deployments,
1:18:26
for
1:18:27
those
1:18:27
of
1:18:27
you
1:18:27
who
1:18:27
don't
1:18:27
know.
1:18:28
And
1:18:28
like,
1:18:28
when
1:18:28
he
1:18:29
started
1:18:29
coming
1:18:29
back
1:18:29
from
1:18:30
those
1:18:30
deployments
1:18:30
and,
1:18:30
like,
1:18:30
started
1:18:31
showing
1:18:31
signs
1:18:31
of
1:18:31
PTSD
1:18:32
and
1:18:33
like,
1:18:33
I
1:18:33
knew,
1:18:34
like,
1:18:34
what
1:18:34
the
1:18:34
next
1:18:34
level
1:18:35
was.
1:18:35
Like,
1:18:35
the
1:18:36
next
1:18:36
level
1:18:36
could
1:18:36
have
1:18:36
been
1:18:37
death
1:18:37
by
1:18:37
suicide.
1:18:39
And
1:18:40
I
1:18:40
think
1:18:40
that's
1:18:40
the
1:18:40
part
1:18:40
where,
1:18:41
like,
1:18:41
I,
1:18:42
like,
1:18:42
I
1:18:42
know
1:18:43
that
1:18:43
I'm
1:18:43
not.
1:18:43
I'm
1:18:44
not.
1:18:44
It's
1:18:45
not
1:18:45
my
1:18:45
job
1:18:45
to
1:18:46
make
1:18:46
sure
1:18:46
that
1:18:46
he's.
1:18:47
He
1:18:47
stays
1:18:47
alive,
1:18:48
like,
1:18:48
in
1:18:48
the
1:18:48
same
1:18:48
way
1:18:49
as
1:18:49
like
1:18:49
a
1:18:49
child.
1:18:49
Like,
1:18:50
you're
1:18:50
not,
1:18:50
you
1:18:50
know,
1:18:50
he's
1:18:50
a.
1:18:50
He's
1:18:51
a
1:18:51
kid.
1:18:51
Right.
1:18:52
But
1:18:53
I
1:18:53
also
1:18:53
know,
1:18:53
like,
1:18:54
I'm.
1:18:55
I
1:18:56
struggle
1:18:56
with
1:18:56
that
1:18:56
because,
1:18:57
like,
1:18:57
you
1:18:57
know,
1:18:57
now
1:18:58
it's
1:18:58
like,
1:18:58
okay,
1:18:58
I
1:18:59
needed
1:18:59
to
1:18:59
take
1:18:59
care
1:18:59
of
1:19:00
him
1:19:00
while
1:19:00
he
1:19:00
was
1:19:00
deployed
1:19:01
and
1:19:01
like,
1:19:01
while
1:19:01
he
1:19:01
was
1:19:01
in
1:19:01
the
1:19:02
military.
1:19:02
And
1:19:02
now
1:19:02
that
1:19:02
he's
1:19:03
out
1:19:03
of
1:19:03
the
1:19:03
military,
1:19:03
it's
1:19:03
like
1:19:04
he's
1:19:04
graduating
1:19:04
too.
1:19:05
It's
1:19:05
like,
1:19:05
okay,
1:19:05
I
1:19:05
don't
1:19:05
have
1:19:05
to.
1:19:06
To
1:19:06
like,
1:19:06
be
1:19:06
quite
1:19:06
as
1:19:06
vigilant
1:19:07
anymore.
1:19:07
And
1:19:08
it's
1:19:08
like,
1:19:09
how
1:19:09
do
1:19:09
I
1:19:09
let
1:19:10
go
1:19:10
of
1:19:10
that?
1:19:10
And
1:19:11
it's
1:19:11
so.
1:19:12
It's
1:19:12
so
1:19:13
hard
1:19:13
to
1:19:13
separate.
1:19:14
Right?
1:19:15
So
1:19:15
hard
1:19:15
to
1:19:15
separate.
1:19:16
Yeah.
1:19:16
Agreed.
1:19:17
Well,
1:19:18
I
1:19:18
don't
1:19:18
have
1:19:18
any
1:19:19
answers
1:19:19
yet,
1:19:19
but
1:19:20
I
1:19:20
do
1:19:20
think
1:19:20
allowing
1:19:21
yourself
1:19:21
to
1:19:21
feel
1:19:22
it
1:19:22
is
1:19:22
part
1:19:23
of
1:19:23
it.
1:19:23
Yeah.
1:19:24
And
1:19:24
being.
1:19:24
Having
1:19:24
it
1:19:25
be
1:19:25
a
1:19:25
little
1:19:25
messy
1:19:26
and
1:19:26
not
1:19:27
look
1:19:27
exactly
1:19:28
the
1:19:28
way
1:19:28
you
1:19:29
want
1:19:29
it
1:19:29
to,
1:19:29
and
1:19:29
sometimes
1:19:30
you
1:19:30
say
1:19:30
things
1:19:30
or
1:19:31
do
1:19:31
things
1:19:31
that
1:19:31
you
1:19:31
got
1:19:32
to
1:19:32
go
1:19:32
repair,
1:19:33
and
1:19:33
that's
1:19:33
the
1:19:33
best
1:19:33
we
1:19:34
can
1:19:34
do.
1:19:34
I
1:19:34
think
1:19:35
I
1:19:35
gotta
1:19:36
go
1:19:36
repair
1:19:36
after
1:19:36
this.
1:19:37
Okay.
1:19:38
You're
1:19:38
gonna
1:19:39
go
1:19:39
repair
1:19:39
me
1:19:39
too?
1:19:40
Yeah.
1:19:42
Okay.
1:19:42
I
1:19:43
love
1:19:43
you,
1:19:43
Michelle.
1:19:44
I
1:19:44
love
1:19:44
you
1:19:44
too.
1:19:44
Bye.
1:19:45
Okay,
1:19:45
bye.