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265 - 3 Signs You're Not Living Your Design · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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flow without sacrificing results.
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Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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according to your human design.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we're here today to talk about misalignment,
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being out of alignment with our design.
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This came up because we just wrapped my Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
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It was really wonderful.
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I got to talk with so many people in this community.
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I'm going to say 90 percent of the people are podcast listeners.
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They either found us through the podcast or they've been listening
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to the podcast for a while after they found us another way.
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And it was great getting to hear what everybody experiences.
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What are they gravitating toward?
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Where are they right now?
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So I did a lot of clarity calls.
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We were chatting in the group.
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I was in the DMs with a lot of people.
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And whenever I'm interacting with people, obviously I'm in response.
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So I know the things that I'm lit up by, right?
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I know what conversations I'm like, ooh, I want to talk about this more.
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And this is one of them.
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And this isn't calling anybody out.
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Honestly, I'm only ever calling you up.
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That is all I am ever doing.
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I am never calling out for the sake of calling out.
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I am always calling you up.
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Every person who's listening to this show, every person in my programs, every person
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in my masterclasses, if I say something that provokes you a bit, it is to
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provoke you to a higher level of spirit.
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So I want to say that here because I am going to Be calling out some
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things that people have said, but in the hopes that it calls you up.
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Which is very much in the spirit of human design.
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Ra, who is the founder of human design, the transmitter of human design.
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He was really only calling people out.
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He spoke very much to the shadows.
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He spoke very much to what you're doing wrong.
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And he was a 5/1 as well.
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I think we do tend to look and say, no, that's not the way, this is the way.
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It's always with the direction and the heart of saying, I'm pointing this
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out so that you can see the way to get out of whatever it is that you're
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saying you don't want to be in anymore.
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So, the thing that I'm calling you up with, if you fall into this
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category, I heard so many people over the last couple of weeks saying
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that they know their human design.
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Some people were even saying that they were building their
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businesses around human design.
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I want to teach human design.
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I want to teach people how to run their business by design, do
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something similar to what I do.
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And the truth is that there's a very clear reason why that
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wasn't working for those people.
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And even the people who didn't want to work with it.
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I know my human design.
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I know all of that.
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I know all of this information.
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There were some very clear signs to me that they didn't know their
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design or they didn't know it enough.
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That they weren't embodied in their design.
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And that is so much more important than knowing your design.
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I honestly don't care what you know, if it's not embodied,
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you're missing the point.
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So I'm going to share these three signs that you are not
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in alignment with your design.
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And it's not to just be like, here's what you're doing wrong
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and I'm going to run away.
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These are three signs that you can use to help give you pause and
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say, I should really look at this.
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This is not natural for me.
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What if you came about the way that you looked at your life, and the
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way you looked at design as saying everything should be easy, everything
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should be good, everything should flow.
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That's my natural state and anything that is not that, something is wrong
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and needs to be shifted or adjusted.
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And that's an internal shift that will make the external changes we want to make.
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We want to change our life, we want to change our business, we want to change
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our financial situation, there are some internal shifts that need to happen.
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Not necessarily that I change my internal shifts and money falls from the sky.
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I mean, it might happen.
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I absolutely attract abundance.
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There are times where I'm in attraction energy and when I'm not.
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And I know how to shift from that.
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But more importantly, if I make an internal shift that allows me to take
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action that help create external shifts as well, I get to co create with the
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universe because I get to show up.
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Where we get stuck is when we go to do something and we cannot.
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We know what we need to do and we can't do it.
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Or we take action and then we stop.
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So, I'm actually going to start going into this, but I promised you
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a three things list, so I'm going to break it down that way for you.
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I don't want this to feel like a bait and switch, but I'm going
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to give you the three signs that you're not living in design.
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These three signposts that when they come up, those are your triggers
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to say, I'm out of alignment.
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Let me adjust.
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Let me take a quick pulse of what I've been doing and how I've been living.
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The first one is that you're overthinking things.
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You're stopping and you're starting all the time.
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I'm doing this thing, and then I get an idea, and then you get shiny object
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syndrome, and you're moving away.
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So this can be overthinking, or this can be jumping from one thing to the next.
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Now, a lot of manifesting generators think that this is an alignment for them.
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I'm multi passionate, I should be moving in different directions, I
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should have all these things going on.
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Yeah, you're going to be multi passionate.
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You're probably going to have a lot of interests.
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There's probably going to be the intersection of a lot
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of the things that you do.
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But if you are scattered, or if you are overthinking where you're thinking
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through something, and you're trying to figure out what your next step is.
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You go and you take some action, and then you shift to the next thing because you
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think that will get you what you want.
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That is an assortment of conditioning.
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It could be an open head center that is overactive and trying to consume
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more information and thinks that the next answer is someplace else.
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I'm done with this.
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I move on to the next thing.
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What can I consume?
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What can I do?
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What can I take in?
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What other thing can I do?
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I'm bored.
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Open hand center gets bored.
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Open mind gets bored.
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It could be your ego.
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This'll get me what I want.
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If I do this, that'll prove that I'm good enough.
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If I do this, then these people will look at me like I am a
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real authority or influencer.
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There can be all of these ways that we get pulled in that direction.
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And the chart shows you what you're most likely to be pulled by.
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It shows you what to be on the lookout for.
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I have an open head.
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I have trained myself to watch for open head stuff.
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My open head is going to want to do X, Y, and Z.
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So I'm going to watch out for X, Y, and Z.
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And I'm going to make sure that my actions aren't coming from those places.
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I have an open root.
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My open root is going to want to strike things off of an
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imaginary list to feel better.
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I'll feel better once this is done.
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I'll feel better once this is done.
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But nothing's actually done.
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That list just keeps growing.
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I know these patterns.
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So, if you are stopping and starting all the time where you're getting,
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you're in your head most likely.
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You are in your head and your head is not here to make decisions.
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We don't make decisions from the mind.
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That is the fundamental difference between human design and most things.
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We're not meant to think.
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We're meant to feel.
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You're meant to put the power back into your body.
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Or in the rare cases where you are a mental projector, you are a reflector,
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you have an environmental type of authority where you're waiting and you're
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checking for feedback in your system.
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Where you're using sounding board techniques.
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You're still not thinking about it, you are still feeling into how you
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feel about the thing that you're doing.
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So if you're overthinking things, that is a clear sign
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that you are not in alignment.
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You can stop yourself very quickly and say, this isn't how I make decisions.
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This isn't how I drive action.
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It isn't by, I think I'll do this.
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I think I'll do that.
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If you find yourself saying that, I think it could be this, or I
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wish I could just figure this out.
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Or if I could only just know this, it's okay to be curious about things and be
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putting pieces together in your mind, but that's not what drives your actions.
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It doesn't tell you to start and it doesn't tell you to stop.
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Other parts of your body, depending on your design, tell
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you where to stop, where to start.
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How do you get invited into things?
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How do you open that door?
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Alignment is being able to be still in that, and wait.
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And not feel like the next thing has to be right around the corner, that
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you have to be in perpetual motion.
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That feeling of anxiousness is not alignment.
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The second sign that you are out of alignment is you're
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in your not self theme.
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Every type gets one.
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And honestly, you can even broaden this to just say, if life feels hard,
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if you feel like you've been cycling through patterns, that you have been in
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personal development work forever and you haven't really seen traction or change,
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then you're not following your design.
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You're not in alignment.
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Things would start to feel at least somewhat easier and start to make
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some sense, at least energetically.
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There might be things where it's I am not seeing the
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results, but I feel really good.
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I feel like I'm moving in the right direction.
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I've had that tons of times where I'm like, I'm not there yet, but I trust
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so deeply and I feel so guided that the moves don't need to make sense.
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In fact, if they do, that's probably more my mind.
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I follow what feels right.
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Life feels easy.
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It doesn't have to make sense for me, because I'm not following my mind.
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So if you're in your not self theme, which if you're a generator or
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manifesting generator, it's frustration.
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Mani gens you also get the added one of frustration or anger.
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Manifestors, anger.
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Projectors, bitterness, which can feel like I'm feeling invisible,
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I feel like nobody sees me, I feel like nobody appreciates me, I'm
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alone all the time, I'm not being recognized, that's your theme.
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And then reflectors, you have that theme of disappointment, if you always feel
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like you're being let down, things aren't good, you are pessimistic about the
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prospects of the world, the people, your community, your business, all of that.
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We all touch them, of course, but if you're constantly in that theme,
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usually that leads to more of that same feeling because you stay in
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it and that's why life feels hard.
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Projectors, you feel bitter, so you're complaining that nobody sees you.
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And then that's dragging your energy down.
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So you're not getting invitations.
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So now you're annoyed by everybody that you see that you're smarter than.
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And you're just like, they're not listening to me and I
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could do better than that.
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That's a toxic energy that you're sending out and you are not following
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your design if you're in that theme.
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Now, the third piece is if you know the information, and this is a doozy,
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but you aren't seeing the lessons.
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So if you know your design, and you know your channels, and your centers,
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and you know your cross, and you've been studying it like mad, and you
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say things like, I know my design.
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I know my design really well.
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I've been working with my design for a long time.
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But you aren't seeing the lessons in it.
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You aren't seeing how the low frequency of all of those things
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that you've been studying are clues showing you where you have work to do.
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They are lessons.
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I think it was also his style, but Ra, he didn't tell you what the potential was.
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He was just like, this is how you're going to be bad.
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This is how life's going to be hard.
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This is what's going to be really difficult for you.
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Personally, I found it to be a little bit self defeating.
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When I heard it, my chart sounded really hard, really difficult.
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And I was curious and I went deeper, thank goodness, but I might have
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quit if I hadn't found some more positive aspirational pieces of
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my design, just because he made it sound like there was no hope.
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And that's not the truth.
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The truth is that this is the greatest personal development tool that we have
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ever had and certainly have at this time.
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I don't know what might come in the future, but nothing will tune you into
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the very specific lessons that you have than if you combine human design and
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you become a real student of your life, And you start to really pay attention
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to the things that happen in your life because all the clues are there.
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Between your chart, which is going to tell you where to look, which is going to
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tell you what is the general lesson here?
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Where might this come up?
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If you start asking those questions, where has this come up for me in the past?
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What does this remind me of?
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How am I already seeing this?
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How am I seeing the high frequency?
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How am I seeing the low frequency?
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If you paid attention to that instead of just knowing the definitions of your
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design and you actually contemplated it, then you would see change.
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You would feel far more aligned, things would start to move in the
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right direction, and you would not feel stuck, you would not feel overwhelmed,
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life wouldn't feel so hard, and you wouldn't be overthinking things where
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you're stopping and starting, where you're in action and then you stop,
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and you're in action and then you stop.
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It would feel like it flows.
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So, knowledge without application is nothing.
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Throw out ideas that if you listen to enough podcasts and you read enough
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books that this will be enough.
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You have to go and apply the design.
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And if you're resistant to doing that, then you start
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with that as being your work.
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And not everybody was down in the dumps.
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I don't want to make it sound like that.
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I talked to a lot of people that were definitely further along in their
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journey, but there's more to do.
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And it is becoming a student of you.
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It is becoming a neutral observer of how you operate and then being able
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to make shifts and ask yourself hard questions about where things are
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coming from or how they make you feel.
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How is this keeping me safe?
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How has this always been my way of operating?
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Who does this remind me of?
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What do I need to work through here?
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It gives you a very specific map.
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And if you're willing to do that work, then tremendous change
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lies on the other side of that.
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I promise you that it does.
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So, I hope that you found this helpful.
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I hope that this inspires you, again, calls you up to diving into
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actioning your human design as opposed to just learning about it.
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Really going into it and seeing what's there for you?
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What are the lessons that you are here to learn?
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And if you started learning those, and operating according
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to your strategy and authority.
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If you took the power away from your mind and you really gave into your
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splenic authority as a projector.
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Or to your sacral authority as a generator.
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What if you really followed it?
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And ask yourself the question, am I just learning and interested,
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or am I actioning and applying?
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Actioning and applying is what gets results.
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Learning solely on its own does not, and this is coming from a
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one line, who loves to learn.
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It isn't until I go out and use it, it isn't until I embodied it, that it
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really all started to make sense for me.
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If you're confused about it, then there's still work to be done there.
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So keep going.
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Please don't think that you're done.
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And don't try to sell something that you have not embodied.
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Don't feel like the work is done because you know.
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Really do the work.
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And I promise you, that's where transformation lies.
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Is through the action.
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Through the living it.
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It's about living your design.
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It is not about learning your design.
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So I hope that distinction is clear.
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I hope that this called you up and not out because that is the intention.
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I hope it inspired you to look at your chart and say, what are the
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lessons that are here for me to learn?
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And if I learn them, what's possible for me?
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Because that's what the gifts show you.
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If I learn the lesson, then the gift is possible.
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We tend to look at the gifts because it sounds better, but the truth is
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that we cannot live the gift until we transcend and look at the shadow.
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Work through it and shift into the gifts.
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That's how we do it.
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That is what the process is.
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So I hope that this helped.
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I hope that this called you up and not out.
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I hope that you feel inspired to take greater action with your design,
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to live your design and shift from knowing, to doing, and to applying.
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And if you're interested, we have a deconditioning guide.
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That would go really well with this.
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