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(45) 8 HABITS TO BECOME OBSESSED WITH YOUR LIFE BY SUMMER✨Reinvent Yourself · Alignment With Jenn

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Hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with
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Jen podcast. I'm your host, Jen Dizzy, and
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I'm super, super excited for this episode today because we're
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going to be talking all about the hot girl summer and the
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habits and the mindset shifts in order to embody the hottest,
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most magnetic version of you this summer.
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And I'm going to give you kind of a little challenge that me
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and some of my really good friends have been doing that.
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I think you are going to absolutely love and that is
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going to take your level of love and obsession for your life to a
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whole new level. My goal is that by the end of
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this episode, you will feel so in love with yourself, with your
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life that you are going into this summer feeling absolutely
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amazing. So I want to start off with a
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story about Marilyn Monroe. I love, I love her and I love
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starting off with stories about her.
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I think she's such a model for so many different things that we
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can learn from. And one of them is this idea
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that she actually grew up with a very, very difficult upbringing.
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Marilyn grew up and she was born named Norma Jean.
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You've probably heard that Marilyn actually went through
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over 12 different foster homes. She was in an orphanage.
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Her mom was institutionalized at one point.
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And when you think about who she became, right, this effortlessly
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magnetic woman who many, many decades later is remembered as
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this icon of beauty, of magnetism, of this power, this
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femininity that she held. And then you look at where she
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came from, and it was completely different.
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There was a lot of instability. There was a lot of lack of
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security. There was a lot of change.
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There was a lot of challenges that she overcame, yet she
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ultimately rose to this high level of success.
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It's really, really interesting to think about that because
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there's many qualities that we can cultivate in order to tap
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into and cultivate that magnetic hot girl kind of energy.
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And when I say hot girl, I'm not talking about the way that you
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look. I'm sure that you are a hot girl
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and you are beautiful, but I don't think that's the most
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interesting or important thing about you.
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I think it's the mindsets and the energy and the magnetism
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that we cultivate below that. And so in this episode, I really
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want to get into those identity shifts because that's ultimately
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what led Marilyn from where she was, right?
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She could have chosen identity of struggle, of challenge, of
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reliving her past, but she chose this identity of I'm going to
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rise above that and I'm going to create the kind of life that I
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wanted. Doesn't mean that she didn't
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struggle, but it means that she chose a new identity, a new
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version of herself. And that's really what this
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whole idea of the Hot Girls Summer is about.
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It's that I want you to go into this summer feeling so powerful,
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so magnetic, that you are able to draw in the things that you
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desire and it can be done in a single moment.
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It's all about choosing a new identity, choosing a new version
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of your, yourself. Ultimately, my goal with this is
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that you become so embodied, so in love with yourself, so in
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love with your life, that you no longer need bread crumbs.
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You no longer accept bread crumbs.
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You no longer accept things that are less than what you want.
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You no longer stay in circumstances or tolerate people
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that are not right for you, right?
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You recognize this power and the strength that you have within
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yourself. And so this is not necessarily
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about feeling sexy on the outside, but that can totally be
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part of that, right? I think women, naturally, we
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love beauty and we want to feel beautiful and that can be part
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of it. But it's so much more about how
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you are feeling on the inside and allowing that to radiate
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out. So what I want to give you in
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this episode is basically a framework and a challenge that
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you can go into this summer with in order to cultivate this hot
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girl energy. This woman who is effortlessly
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magnetic, right? Like Marilyn, who could just
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turn it on, turn it off, and she could attract in the things that
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she wanted. And that's what I want you to
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experience this summer. I think a really important point
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also to mention as we go into this episode is that a lot of
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people think that really, really attractive magnetic hot girl
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energy is about the physical appearance, right?
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It's about what you're wearing. It's about what designer clothes
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you have on. It's about how you did your hair
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that day. And all of those things can
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contribute to it. But if those things are covering
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up feeling insecure, not feeling good about yourself, then
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they're not going to be nearly as powerful, right?
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The true magnetism of a woman can happen when she's wearing
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sweatpants with her hair pulled in a messy bun, no makeup on.
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Because she feels powerful. She feels magnetic within
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herself. And that's really what I want
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you to experience, OK? And this comes from a few
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different pieces. And that's really what I want to
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get into. I want to get to into the habits
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that you can cultivate to really build this hot girl magnetic,
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powerful energy within yourself, where you can walk into a room
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and not say anything and attract in the things that you want.
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Attract in the experiences, the opportunities, the connections.
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So the first habit that I want you to get into, and I'm gonna
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kind of weave in the idea of also like the soft girl energy,
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not soft as in weak, but like soft as in attraction rather
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than chasing, allowing things to come to you, rather than forcing
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things to happen. Because force and doing is a
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very masculine energy. And not that that's a bad thing,
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right? We're all a balance of both
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energies. But there's also this beautiful
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power of the feminine in order to be able to draw in things is
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that she desires. When I think of a really
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powerful feminine woman, I think of like a queen on her throne
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where everything is kind of drawn to her and brought to her.
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And it doesn't mean that she doesn't go out, get on a horse
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and ride fiercely, but it means that we have access to both of
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these powerful forms of creation.
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And I want this episode to help you kind of lean in to that more
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feminine aspect. So the first habit is setting
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the energetic architecture for your day.
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I just got chills. As I said that I love this.
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This is something that really changed my life.
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And it's similar to the idea of a morning routine, but it's
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different in that it's about the energetic architecture.
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Sometimes I think morning routines can be about like, do
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this, do this, do this, do this. And it can be like checking off
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a list of things, right? I used to have this morning
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routine that was like 10 different things in it.
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And truthfully, like looking at it, I felt exhausted because I
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was like, I don't that doesn't feel fun to me to just check
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things off a list. But when you view it from this
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idea of I'm using the time in the morning to set my energy for
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the day so that way I can go into the day with my vessel full
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of what I need. It's about pouring into yourself
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before you go out into the day and you give.
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This is setting the foundation for this entire hot girl summer,
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OK? So it's deciding what's the
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frequency that I want to go into this day with and how can I
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Createspace for myself, whether it's 15 minutes, an hour, 2
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hours in the morning, where you pour into yourself.
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And that will look a little bit different for each of us.
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And to be completely honest, it's going to look a little bit
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different for you from day-to-day in your cycle, OK.
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And it's allowing yourself to tune into that frequency.
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I think something that can happen is a lot of the personal
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development advice is created for men, and we know that men's
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hormonal cycle is very different, right?
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It literally looks like a little tiny squiggly line that barely
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changes throughout the month versus a woman's has like
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mountains and valleys and changes a lot.
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And so sometimes I think what can happen with morning routines
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is we can get down on ourselves If when I'm in my luteal phase,
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I don't want to do the same things as when I'm in my
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follicular phase. And what I like about the idea
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of an energetic architecture is you are committing to setting
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your energy for the day. But what that actually looks
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like can be different. So sometimes it might be a
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beautiful meditation, sometimes it might be waking up and going
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on a walk. Sometimes it might be working
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out right and it might look similar for you across the
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month. It's about how it makes you
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feel. It's about you feeling your
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best. So that way when you go into
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your day, you can pour out. Not from a depleted place.
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And it's also about creating a pause before you go into your
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day. Because when you pause and you
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take that time to sit back and say, what do I want to pour into
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myself? How do I want to feel?
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What do I want my intention to be for this day?
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What kind of energy do I want to bring to my work, to my family
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life, to my dinner with my friends tonight, right?
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What kind of energy do I want to be?
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It's about creating intentionality.
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And what happens is if we wake up and we immediately just
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start, go, go, go, go, go going, we don't have intentionality
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throughout our day. And energy follows intention.
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Your intention. What I mean by intention is your
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decision for how something is going to be.
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It's an energetic decision essentially.
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And it might be as simple as my intention for today is to be
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happy, or my intention for today is to be loving.
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It can be that simple, or it can be my intention is to call in
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two new clients today, right? To be whatever feels good and
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exciting for you. But I highly recommend it.
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Feel good and exciting, not depleting and exhausting.
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It's taking that pause. It's deciding, you know what?
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Each morning, I'm gonna give myself 30 minutes, an hour,
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whatever you have available to set your energy for the day and
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really pour into yourself. So to make this a little more
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tangible, I'll kind of explain what I do.
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And again, this does vary throughout the month.
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There's certain times in the month where for me, the most,
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the best thing that I can do in the morning is literally lay in
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bed for a little bit longer because that is what feels the
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most nourishing for me. OK.
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But then there's sometimes, and I would say 95% of days, I do
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wake up and I meditate because that's a habit I've been doing
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for years. And it makes me feel like me.
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It makes me feel really good. It's also how I strengthen my
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spiritual connection. I don't know if I've mentioned
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this in other episodes, but we have a spiritual chord that
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essentially connects us to our higher self, and meditation
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actually expands that spiritual chord.
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As that spiritual chord expands, so does our intuition, our
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ability to receive insights, our ability to receive connection.
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And when we feel like we are blocked and we're not receiving
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insights and downloads, it can be that our spiritual chord has
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kind of shrunk a little bit. So we may need more meditation,
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more spiritual practice, but that's something that I get way
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deeper into in my courses, not really on the podcast.
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Additionally, in this energetic architecture piece, an important
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part is also not allowing outside influences to come in
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too early. So getting on your phone and
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checking your text messages, your e-mail, your social media,
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because you don't have any control over what's going to be
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in there. So it can be bad news, it can be
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something that you don't really want to see.
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And so it's important that you pour into yourself first before
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you allow in those outside influences.
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It's almost like when you pour into yourself, you kind of
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strengthen yourself. You give yourself this power.
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So that way those things affect you less as you go about your
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day. So back to what I was saying
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before meditation, I'll do a little bit of journaling and
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then typically I will either listen to an audio or I will
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read a book of some spiritual nature because I find that
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making that window in the morning connected to my
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spiritual path is how I set myself up most powerfully for
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the day. Spirituality and connection in
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that way is the biggest bang for your buck.
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When I was in my early 20s, me and my best friend, we hired the
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same coach and it was through this, like, coaching program.
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My friend wanted to grow, you know, her income.
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She wanted to like buy investment properties, all sorts
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of stuff, right? Very much in the physical.
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And her coach like kind of leaned back and she was like,
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you know what, the biggest bang for your buck is actually your
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spiritual practice. That's the lowest hanging fruit.
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If you start focusing on that, everything else is going to get
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easier. And that's what I find.
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The more that I have this time in the morning and really devote
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to my energetic architecture, the easier everything else in my
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life begins to flow. And when I don't do that, it
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doesn't flow as well. So it can be journaling, it can
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be playing music, it can be really intentionally doing your
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skin care, right? It's pouring into yourself as
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best you can, right? This is going to look different
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at different phases of life when you have young children, right?
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Maybe when you first get married, it might look a little
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bit different. It's going to look different at
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different phases #2 of this hot girl summer energy is live in
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the just because energy. This is so insanely liberating.
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It's this idea that so often we do things because they lead to
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an end result, right? I'm going to read this book
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because it's going to help me learn about something that will
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help with my business or my relationship.
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Or I'm going to take this class because it's going to lead to XY
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and Z, right? So much of what we do is for the
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outcome rather than simply just the pleasure of doing it and the
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joy of doing it. I have found throughout my own
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journey that the more that I do things just because they sound
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freaking fun to me, the more that it leads to something I
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never would have imagined literally signing up to do this
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podcast in this studio. I didn't have a great reason to
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do that. I could have continued to do it.
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I had done some episodes at home.
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I could have done that, right? I didn't really have a great
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reason. It didn't make financial sense.
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I knew it would help my business, but I thought it would
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be like over the long term, right?
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Typically it takes many years for a podcast to do well and I
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didn't have a reason for it, but I wanted to do it because it was
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really exciting to me and it felt really good.
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And then it's resulted in great growth for my business, right?
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Great growth, this amazing community.
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So many of you message me like it's been such a beautiful
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blessing in my life. And it really started with just
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because I wanted to energy. It just felt right.
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Same with anything in your life. Like if you're like, I don't
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know why, but I really just want to take a paint class to learn
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how to paint. I don't know why, but there's no
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reason. There's no logical explanation
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for it. Do it because they will lead you
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to something. I've been having this desire to
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go to Italy. I don't know why I have no
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reason to go to Italy but I decided I'm going to go in
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August because I just feel that same.
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Just because energy like some part of my soul feels excited
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about it. And the reason I recommend this
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to you is because our intuition is not based in logic.
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So often times our intuition will make sense looking back,
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but looking forward, it can look very hazy.
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There can be, it can be really hard to connect the dots of the
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Y. And just because energy gets you
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past your logical mind and it lets you get into that energy of
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I just want to do this because it sounds really fun to me and
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it sounds really exciting to me. And so that's what I want you to
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do. So I want you to think right
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now, I want you to think about what is something I can do just
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because it sounds fun to me. For me, I really want to start
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surfing, haven't surfed in a number of years and it just
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sounds so fun. It just sounds fun.
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So I just want to do it. So what are you?
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What can you do just because it's fun?
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Because I guarantee the beauty and the light you will reveal
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from doing that is going to be way more than you ever expected.
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And you can do this in small ways as well.
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Like something I was thinking about this morning is I really
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like really, really, really high end water.
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I don't know why. I just really like it.
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And so I'm just going to buy it just because, right, It doesn't
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really make logical sense, but I just feel like buying it.
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Go to the grocery store and buy the beautiful flowers just
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because you don't have to rationalize everything.
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You don't have to make everything make sense.
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The feminine is not designed to make sense.
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She's she's designed to live and flow and allow her desire and
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her pleasure to guide her. And that's what just because
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energy can allow you to do. OK, So habit #3 is choosing a
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hot girl summer identity. And this is it can be a version
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of you from the past. It can be a version of you that
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you want to embody. I recommend giving it a name,
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but it's like your avatar. It's this version of you that
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you can kind of click on, right? A few episodes ago, I gave this
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story of Marilyn Monroe and how she was walking down the street
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and nobody was noticing her. And her friend said to her, or
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she said to her friend, do you want to see me become Marilyn
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Monroe? And then she shifts her energy
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and she steps into this version, and everyone starts noticing
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her. That's what I want you to create
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for yourself is this identity where you can turn it on when
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you want to. Maybe you go out dancing with
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your friends and you turn on this almost like an alter ego.
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OK. It's like Sasha Fierce versus
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Beyoncé. That's her alter ego.
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We all do it in subtle ways where we have a certain version
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of us that we take to family dinner and we have a certain
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version of us that we take on vacation with our friends.
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And we have a certain version of us that goes on dates and a
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certain version of us that exists in relationship, right?
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And so I want you to think about the version of you that you've
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always felt the best being. And I want you to encapsulate
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that into a little identity. And you can take a little bit of
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time in journal about this. But like for me, I always think
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back to like my 21 year old self.
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I was very reckless and I had so much fun.
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I wasn't concerned about anything, right?
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There's aspects of her I will leave behind, but there's
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aspects of her that I want to cultivate now in my 30s and I
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want to bring back that energy of freedom and joy and just
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because energy, OK. And so for me, that's my
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identity, is that 21 year old Jen.
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And maybe for you, it's of old version of you, maybe it's a
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future version of you, but I want you to kind of think about
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it. Who do you want to bring into
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that summer, right? It can just simply be like the
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hot girl version of you, like the hottest version of you who
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dresses how she wants to dress. She orders what she wants to
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order off the menu. She speaks to whoever she wants
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to speak to just because she wants to talk to them #4 and
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this is really the challenge aspect of this is it's saying
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yes to life. It's this version of you.
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This is what the Hot Girl is all about.
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It's about being open to opportunities and experiences.
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Because sometimes what happens is the reason that we struggle
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to manifest things is not because we're not getting the
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opportunities, it's because we are saying no to them.
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We are cutting them out. We are not allowing them to come
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to us. We are cutting them off too soon
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because they don't make logical sense or they don't fit in with
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what we think our life path is. But the more that you allow your
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life to unfold in a beautiful way by just saying yes to
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things. Don't say yes when you really
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don't want to, right? If it sounds horrible, OK, don't
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say yes to that. But if it's something that
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you're like, Oh my gosh, I'm kind of nervous about this, but
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I think saying yes would really, really expand me.
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And so much good can come from it, right?
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If that upside is really big, then say yes to it, right?
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It's like that Jim Carrey movie from like a couple decades ago.
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I think it was the yes man I think is what it's called, where
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he just says yes to everything and his whole life changes.
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Because every single time you have a decision where you can
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say yes or no, you literally have a point where your timeline
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can completely diverge and you never know what this yes could
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lead to. So opening yourself up, saying
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yes to more invitations, saying yes to more of your interest and
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your impulses, saying yes to trying new things to your
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desires, saying yes to life, what life is presenting you
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with, because life is always resenting you with new
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opportunities an experiences. And so the more that you allow
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yourself to say yes, you don't even know where that's going to
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lead. You don't even know and it's
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going to be amazing. It's going to be so amazing.
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Habit 5 is making fun a manifestation practice and this
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kind of goes back to the just because energy, but it's
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actually a little different because it's a prioritization of
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fun. So we are so great, especially
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the women that listen to this podcast.
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So many of you are such high achieving women.
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You're so intelligent, right? I think everyone that listens to
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this is probably in this category because it's a pretty
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niche podcast, but you are dedicated to the things that you
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want in life and that's so beautiful and some.
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Times, and I only know this from personal experience, sometimes
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you can lose sight of something that really matters, and that's
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fun. Fun is such a high vibrational
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frequency and it's such a magnetic energy.
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People want to be around people who are having a good time,
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right? Life wants to be around people
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who are having a good time. It's this devotional act.
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It's this creative act of just enjoying your life, this gift
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that you have been given in every single moment.
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And so it's actively prioritizing fun.
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And it doesn't mean that the things that matter to you aren't
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prioritized, but how can you make them more fun and how can
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you weave in more fun into your life, right?
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More of that just because I want to do it because it feels good
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for me. This is going to look like, I
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mean, I feel like after this episode, I have to go, you know,
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make sure I make some plans to go surfing because it makes me
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so happy. I feel like a little kid, like a
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little puppy splashing in the water.
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Am I good at it? No.
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Does that matter? No, because it's about the fun.
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What for you is just something fun that you want to do.
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Maybe it's a dance class. Maybe you've been wanting to
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take salsa. Go get some cute shoes on and go
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salsa, right? Go enjoy yourself.
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Life is meant to be enjoyed. The creator does not want you to
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suffer. The creator wants you to have
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fun. And the more that you allow
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yourself to weave in fun into your life, the more that you
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attract in the things that you want.
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And this one's a little bit subtle, but it's becoming hotter
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through devotion instead of discipline.
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So the word discipline, it's very military, it's very
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punitive. It's, it doesn't feel great.
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The word devotion is this devotion, this act, and it's
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about love. We devote ourselves to things
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that we really, really love. And so it's moving from trying
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to achieve your goals through discipline and making yourself
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do things to devoting yourself to these things.
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And it can be the exact same action, right?
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We will take creating content, for example.
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You can create content from discipline and you can create
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content from devotion. Which one do you think is going
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to have a better experience and also a better result?
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Devotion, right? Discipline is this energy of I'm
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going to do it, I'm going to push through, right?
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It's a very masculine energy and I don't think it always feels
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good for the feminine. I think we are much more
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powerful when we move through devotion.
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And devotion is I do it because I love it.
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I show up for what I love because I am simply in love with
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loving it. It doesn't have to be about the
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end result. It is about the process.
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Because the feminine is very journey oriented.
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We care about how it feels to get somewhere, right?
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We don't just care as much about the outcome.
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Caring just about the outcome and just pushing through is a
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very masculine quality. And honestly, that's a beautiful
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quality. But as the feminine, we care
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about how it feels along the way, right?
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We're not going to want to do something that feels terrible
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for months and months and months.
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And so when you look at your life and you say, how can I
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cultivate more devotion? And it's really creating more
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why behind why you do something right?
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Every action you take in your business or your work, how can
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you look at it and say, you know what?
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Why am I doing this? What made me want to do this in
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the 1st place? And how can I devote myself?
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How can I do this through more of the lens of love versus the
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lens of trying to discipline and make myself grit through it,
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right? You're gonna feel better.
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You're gonna have way more energy throughout your day, and
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your result is gonna be significantly better when you
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change how you are showing up for that thing.
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Let's even talk about working out, right?
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There's an energy of working out because you wanna like make your
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body be better and you wanna make your body be hotter.
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And then there's an energy of working out of I'm doing this
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because I love my body and it feels so Dang good to be in my
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body and have a healthy body and be able to walk and exercise and
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run and swim whenever I want. And so I'm showing up for this
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workout because I'm devoted to the health of my body, because I
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love my body. They're very different energies.
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So notice how you are showing up.
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Are you showing up to your life through discipline or are you
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showing up through devotion? And how can you tip the scales
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more towards devotion? Because the you can do the exact
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same things but create a very, very different result and a very
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different frequency #7 is stop waiting to be chosen and begin
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to choose yourself. The hot girl is not looking for
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external validation to tell her if she's pretty, smart, worthy,
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good enough for the things that she wants.
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She has cultivated that inner strength to just say, you know
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what? I know that all of the things
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that I desire are because the universe, the Creator, wants me
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to have them, and I know that I'm worthy of them.
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You're not spending the time waiting for the text, right?
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Waiting for someone to ask you out, waiting for something fun
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to come and be invited to. It's not this energy of waiting.
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It's this energy of deciding and moving.
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So instead of waiting for the text, you're out there making
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new connections. You're meeting someone who you
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know you don't have to wait for their text.
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You are planning your own trips or getting your girlfriends to
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plan trips for you or with you. You are moving from this inner
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choosing of yourself of saying you know what, I matter so much
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to me that I don't need to wait for anything outside of me to
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show me that I am enough for the things that I want.
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So this can look like starting that business that you've been
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wanting to start or that side project that you've wanting been
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wanting to start. Choosing to say that your
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desires are important enough for you to act on that even though
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you don't know exactly the how. You're choosing to believe that
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it's all going to be figured out because it will.
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And it's also this energy of not waiting for something outside of
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you to be happy. Now.
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It's not saying I'll be happy when I have that new job or I'll
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be happy when I have that new relationship.
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It's deciding that I am going to be happy right now because
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simply because I deserve to be happy because I love myself and
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I love who I am. And I allow that to be enough.
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And I allow myself to appreciate all of the gifts that I have in
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life right now while still expanding into my next level.
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And final habit #8 is romanticizing the season that
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you are in. So this kind of goes with 7, but
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it's really being grateful for the moments that you already
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have the gifts that you already have.
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Something I've noticed with my most successful friends, like I
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have this friend who sold his software company and now he
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basically, you know, does what ever he wants and he decided to
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start a new software company. And we were at dinner this past
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weekend and he was like, you know, he's like, I feel like I
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must have been a monk in a past life because I'm so grateful for
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this life I have. He's like, I feel so blessed.
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And that is something I see in every single successful person.
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It is not that he waited to be grateful until he had all the
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stuff he has. It's that he's been grateful all
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along the way. And even now, when he has all of
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this stuff and he's still wanting to grow, he's still so
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grateful for where he is, right? And I believe the reason he has
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so much is because he is so grateful.
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And so how can you fall in love with your life exactly where it
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is now, right? What can you romanticize?
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Maybe it's going to a cafe, right?
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And just getting a beautiful latte and enjoying yourself,
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romanticizing that moment, right?
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Maybe it's watching Netflix on your couch.
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How can you romanticize that with a fuzzy blanket and maybe a
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little, you know, a little beverage that you make for
27:53
yourself. But romanticizing and loving
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your life as it is now is the most magnetic frequency for your
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next level to land within that life, for where you won't even
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notice that it has changed because you're already so
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grateful. Gratitude.
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This is something Doctor Joe always says.
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Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership.
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When we are grateful, it's like we create this vessel for all
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this yummy stuff to fall into it.
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So I hope that you have loved this episode, and I hope that
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you will take the challenge of becoming your hottest version of
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yourself this summer and cultivating these habits.
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Please follow the show if you have found this helpful and
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share this episode with any other women who you think will
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love it. It has been great to be here
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with you and I'll see you in the next episode.
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Bye.