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Ask Yee · The Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: Morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, Angelaee. Charlemagne, the guy we
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Speaker 1: all to breakfast club is to him for asking ye hello,
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Speaker 1: who's this? Hey? How are you doing? I want to
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Speaker 1: remain amounamou squ'sh your question for you? Easy? Yeah? So
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Speaker 1: my question is I've been committed in committed relationships like
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Speaker 1: my whole life and now I just heard thirty. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I just I have a little money, so I want
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Speaker 1: to splurge, and I feel like I want option, Like
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Speaker 1: if I want to have two boys friends, Like, it's
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Speaker 1: okay for all these duds to have. I said, I'm
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Speaker 1: in a position to have two boyfriends. Okay, okay, but well,
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Speaker 1: first of all, you could do your thing, but they
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Speaker 1: don't have to be your boyfriend. You could just be
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Speaker 1: dating two guys at the same time. The only problem
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Speaker 1: is when words. The only problem is when we're not honest.
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Speaker 1: So you want to have two boyfriends but they don't
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Speaker 1: know about each other. No, I want them to know.
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Speaker 1: So like, I want to have one main boyfriend and
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Speaker 1: then I just want my fun guy. Okay, so you
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Speaker 1: want a side piece, Yeah, why I have a boyfriend,
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Speaker 1: you can have it. So you can have somebody that's
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Speaker 1: like your main but he don't have to be your man.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to give it a title. See that's
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Speaker 1: the thing. They all want titles as women. As they
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Speaker 1: start doing nice stuff for you, it's like, okay, now
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Speaker 1: I want you to be mine, but okay, but you
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Speaker 1: already know I'm dating Just say no, just be like look,
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Speaker 1: and they're not gonna stop dating you, right, just being like, look,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a relationship right now.
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Speaker 1: I've been in committed relationships for a long time, but
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Speaker 1: I really like you, right, And that's why I'm at
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Speaker 1: now just trying to figure out, like how to balance that,
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Speaker 1: because it's like I want to tell one, but it's
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Speaker 1: like only one knows about one. You don't have to
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Speaker 1: tell them about each other. You just have to say
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Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a committed relationship right now.
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Speaker 1: I had to do that before to my now boyfriend
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Speaker 1: when we first started dating. I didn't want to be
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Speaker 1: in a relationship. Yeah I did, but I was honest
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Speaker 1: about it. I think it's important to be honest because yeah,
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Speaker 1: because first of all, sometimes you also don't want to
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Speaker 1: jump into a relationship right away. What made you change
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Speaker 1: your mind? You have to get to know each other first.
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Speaker 1: It just takes time, right, Like, how did you know?
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Speaker 1: Because everybody's always nice in the beginning and they buy
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Speaker 1: me all this nice stuff and they give me nice stuff,
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Speaker 1: and then like after two or three months online did
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Speaker 1: not I need to see they gotta gambling problem, right,
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Speaker 1: And that's why to me, I think six months is
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Speaker 1: a good amount of time to know if you really
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Speaker 1: want to be in a committed relationship. But it all
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Speaker 1: depends on how much you see each other, how much
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Speaker 1: do you talk to each other. And it's also not
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Speaker 1: really a time limit. It's more of like how you
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Speaker 1: feel right and can people grow on you? Because I
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Speaker 1: think that's the issues. So I think I'm attracted to
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Speaker 1: one of the dude and the other dude that's being
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Speaker 1: nicely that I kind of feel like I can go somewhere.
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Speaker 1: I'm not as attracted to him as I am with
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Speaker 1: the other one is, So I think that's what the
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Speaker 1: I think that's the problem is trying to find somebody
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Speaker 1: that's able to take on all my needs, Like it's issues.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, Well, no one's going to take care
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Speaker 1: of all your needs. I'm gonna tell you that, But
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Speaker 1: you tend to. You know, when you really love somebody,
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Speaker 1: it's okay because you love their imperfections and the things
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Speaker 1: that they can't do as well as the things that
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Speaker 1: they can do. You still love them anyway. So I think,
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Speaker 1: just take your time and enjoy life, get those presents,
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Speaker 1: go out and date, but just don't be in a
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Speaker 1: committed relationship. And then you're not sneaking around doing anything
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Speaker 1: wrong because that gets stressful and that carew and something.
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Speaker 1: Say your boyfriend your main piece. You decide you want
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Speaker 1: to be with him, but you have a side piece,
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Speaker 1: and then he finds out about it, and now it
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Speaker 1: destroys everything. What you need to do is just say
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Speaker 1: I'm not ready to settle down yet. I want us
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Speaker 1: to get to know each other better. That's all. Oh,
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Speaker 1: thank you so much. Because I was like, my friend
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Speaker 1: was like, don't do it. I'm like, listen, I gotta
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Speaker 1: do it. He knows better. Yeah, no, please just go
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Speaker 1: have fun. There's nothing wrong with that. Just have a
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Speaker 1: good time date and if at one point you decide,
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Speaker 1: you know what, now I'm ready to settle down, then
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Speaker 1: you do. Okay, good, well, y'all, y'all gonna be in
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Speaker 1: for more. Weekend, and I'm gonna be in Vegas. I won't.
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Speaker 1: My cousin's getting married. I'm gonna be in Detroit. Okay,
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Speaker 1: all right, mamma, have a good time, girl, go out
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Speaker 1: and have some fun in Vegas. All right? While out
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Speaker 1: five five one oh five one. If you need relationship
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Speaker 1: advice or any type of advice, call ye. Now it's
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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Good morning morning. Everybody is DJ Envy
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Speaker 1: Angela Yee Charlomagne the guy we all the breakfast club
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Speaker 1: with in the middle of ask ye, who's this? Hi? Right?
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Speaker 1: What's it's your girl? Kay? Live? Okay, Okay. So I
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Speaker 1: currently have been going through it. I'm a senior in
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Speaker 1: high school. I'm graduating in a couple of weeks, and
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Speaker 1: I've been going through the whole college process. I tried
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Speaker 1: to twenty colleges. I got into eighty and the congratulation,
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Speaker 1: thank you. And basically my issue is money, Like they
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Speaker 1: haven't given me as much money as I needed, and
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Speaker 1: I just wanted to know how much debt is too much? Cut,
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Speaker 1: what's like, what's a smart way to think about this?
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Speaker 1: Because I don't want to have to pay forty five
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Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year for school. Well, I think a
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Speaker 1: couple of things that you could do here because I
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Speaker 1: went through that whole process and it took me definitely
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Speaker 1: a good twelve years to pay off all my student loans.
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Speaker 1: But going to school, it's definitely an investment into your future.
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Speaker 1: So there's definitely a lot of programs out there that
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Speaker 1: can help you make sure you pay those back. But
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Speaker 1: student loan debts can be crippling when you have to
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Speaker 1: think about it, right. So a couple of things you
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Speaker 1: can do is they have different apps and websites like
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Speaker 1: myskolei dot com that you can go on to where
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Speaker 1: you can find out about different types of scholarships and
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Speaker 1: there's all kinds of I'm applied to about twenty different
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Speaker 1: scholarships when I haven't gotten anything, Yeah, because they do
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Speaker 1: have all types of grants and scholarships that people don't
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Speaker 1: even know about it aren't aware of. But I will
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Speaker 1: say that student loans can be manageable. Like when I
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Speaker 1: went to college, I did work while I was at
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Speaker 1: school also, so at the same time that I was
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Speaker 1: at school, I was able to pay for certain things,
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Speaker 1: and you know, that's I think one of the best
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Speaker 1: things I was able to do was I didn't have
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Speaker 1: to get loans to buy my books and other things
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Speaker 1: like for when I was on campus and paying for
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Speaker 1: the school meals and all of that. I took all
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Speaker 1: of that into consideration. Also, also, I know what a
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Speaker 1: lot of people do is they might go to a
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Speaker 1: college that's a city college and then transfer. So that way,
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Speaker 1: maybe for the first year you go somewhere that's more affordable,
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Speaker 1: and then you can transfer to another school and transfer
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Speaker 1: those credits to you want to and not have that
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Speaker 1: debt either that you would have had if you went
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Speaker 1: to a school that's say forty five thousand dollars a year.
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Speaker 1: But the other thing, the other thing is, you know,
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Speaker 1: don't think that student loan debt has If you look
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Speaker 1: at this as it's an investment, you are going to
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Speaker 1: be able to pay it back and you are going
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Speaker 1: to have time to pay it back. So don't let
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Speaker 1: that prevent you from going to the school that you
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Speaker 1: want to go to. Yeah, thank you. Just make sure
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Speaker 1: you work out that payment plan. And do you know
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Speaker 1: where you want to go out of the schools you
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Speaker 1: got accepted to. Yes, I'm going to cop the state
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Speaker 1: all right, so you already know where you're going. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and so that school you said, it's forty five thousand
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Speaker 1: dollars a year, yes, all right, all right, well just
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Speaker 1: make sure you keep on applying for scholarships, keep on
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Speaker 1: applying for grants. Even when you're in school. There might
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Speaker 1: be all kinds of things that you can still apply for.
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Speaker 1: But just look at there's all these apps that you
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Speaker 1: can sign up for that puts you in contact with
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Speaker 1: things that might be in line with what it is
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Speaker 1: that you can apply for. Thank you, hey, congratulations, thank you.
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Speaker 1: All right. Well that's ask e eight drew five eighty
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Speaker 1: five one O five one. Now we got rumors on
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Speaker 1: the way, yes, and you know when you break up,
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Speaker 1: you gotta cut all ties. Right, we'll find out who
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Speaker 1: it is saying now that me and my man ain't
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Speaker 1: together no more. We're not doing anything together anymore, including
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Speaker 1: our foundation. All right. We'll get into that next. Keeping
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Speaker 1: locked this to breakfast club. Good morning,