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Mindset Shift: Breaking Habits · Sandra Elizabeth - The Leadership Collective

• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: You may not be stuck because you lack potential.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: You may be stuck because your daily habits keep taking you back to the place that your dreams are trying to move you beyond.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: Growth requires more than inspiration.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: You can listen to the most powerful messages, write down new goals, and feel motivated for a few days.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: But if you return to the same routines, same excuses, same poor behavior, same bad character and comforts, your inspiration will eventually lose the battle against repetition.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Sandra Elizabeth and this is the Leadership Collective, where we challenge old thinking, strengthen our leadership, and become more intentional about who we are becoming.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Today's podcast is about breaking the habits that keep us stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not only about obvious habits.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some habits hide inside our thinking, some hide inside our language.
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  SPEAKER_00: Others appear as procrastination, people pleasing, overthinking, staying too comfortable, or repeatedly returning to what we already know is not working.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: What we already know is not working.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not need to change a direction simply by wanting a different destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: You change direction by changing what you repeatedly do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inspiration can begin change, but habits sustain it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inspiration is valuable, it awakens possibility, and it reminds you that life can be different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inspiration is a feeling and feelings change.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Monday you may feel ready to transform your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: By Wednesday, the work becomes uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: By Friday, the old routine begins calling you back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it is familiar.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where many people become discouraged.
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  SPEAKER_00: They assume that because motivation has faded, the goal must no longer be right.
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  SPEAKER_00: But growth is not proven by how excited you feel at the beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is proven by what you continue doing after the excitement disappears.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need constant motivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need a structure, a structure that carries you on the days when motivation is absent.
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  SPEAKER_00: The question is not only what do I want to achieve, the deeper question is what must I repeatedly do to become the person who can achieve it?
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to make time to identify what repeatedly pulls you backwards.
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  SPEAKER_00: We often focus on the one dramatic event that interrupted our progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes this is not one large obstacle keeping us stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a collection of small habits repeated every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Going to bed too late and beginning every morning exhausted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spending the first hour of the day scrolling through other people's lives instead of preparing your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Delaying important work until you feel ready, saying yes to everybody and then having no time for what matters to you, starting many projects but finishing none.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoiding difficult conversations and allowing the same problems to come to continue.
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  SPEAKER_00: These actions may appear small, but repetition gives them power.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, a habit does not have to destroy your life dramatically to keep you from building the life that you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: It only has to consume your time, weaken your focus, and even delay your progress one day at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So ask yourself, what do I repeatedly do that makes tomorrow more difficult?
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  SPEAKER_00: That question may reveal more than another list of goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Excuses can sound reasonable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not every excuse sounds like an excuse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some actually sound responsible.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need more time to think, this is not the right season.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want everything to be perfect before I begin.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm waiting for other people to support me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, there are truths inside these statements.
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  SPEAKER_00: Timing matters, preparation matters, support can help.
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  SPEAKER_00: An explanation becomes an excuse when it is repeatedly used to avoid the next possible step.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, you may not be able to do everything today, but what can you do?
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  SPEAKER_00: You may not have resources, but what do you already have?
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  SPEAKER_00: You may not feel completely confident, but what can you begin learning?
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  SPEAKER_00: An excuse keeps your attention on what is missing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Responsibility asks what is possible now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the mindset shift is moving away from I cannot do everything to I can do something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comfort can become a quiet prison.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comfort is not always bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need rest, we need peace, and we mean we need places where we feel safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comfort becomes dangerous when avoiding discomfort becomes the main principle guiding our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Growth will always ask you to do things that you feel unfamiliar with.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may need to enter a room where you are not the most knowledgeable person.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may need to learn new technology, you may need to speak in public, you may need to even ask for help.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may need to establish a boundary or begin again after disappointment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the old routine will tell you stay here, at least you know what to expect.
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  SPEAKER_00: But familiar does not always mean healthy or comfortable does not always mean safe for your future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the comfort zone is not comfortable at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is simply predictable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many people remain in situations that frustrate them because uncertainty feels more frightening than dissatisfaction.
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  SPEAKER_00: They complain about the same problem while protecting their habits that keep it alive.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you want something you have never experienced, you may need to practice something you have never done.
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  SPEAKER_00: The habits hidden inside your thinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of the strongest habits are mental.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may have developed a habit of expecting rejection before anyone has rejected you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may automatically imagine the worst possible outcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may compare your beginning with someone else's middle and immediately feel behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may rehearse old mistakes until they become your identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thought patterns become familiar pathways.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more often you travel with them, the more natural they feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is why changing your mindset requires interrupting automatic thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your mind tells you I will always fail, stop and ask it, is that completely true?
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  SPEAKER_00: When it says I am too old, you need to say, What wisdom and experience do I now have that I did not have before?
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  SPEAKER_00: When it tells you nobody will support me, ask, have I clearly communicated what I need and have I taken responsibility for my own first step?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you cannot prevent every negative thought from appearing, but you can certainly stop giving every thought authority.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, there's a pressure to fit in, to remain agreeable and to move with the crowd.
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  SPEAKER_00: Conformity can become a habit.
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  SPEAKER_00: At first you remain quiet in a meeting, then you do it again, then you allow someone else to decide because disagreement feels uncomfortable for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You say yes when you want to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eventually the pattern becomes so familiar that you call it your personality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Silence is not always personality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it is conditioning.
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  SPEAKER_00: People pleasing is not always kind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it is a habit built around the fear of rejection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoiding every disagreement is not always peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it is a routine that protects comfort while allowing problems to grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: So breaking the habit begins with one different response.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to say, I need time to think before I agree.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, you express one honest opinion, you establish one boundary, you stop explaining your no until it becomes a yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every courageous choice will weaken the old pattern and it will strengthen the person that you are becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: One reason people remain stuck is that they attempt to rebuild their whole life in one day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop trying to change everything at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: They create an impossible routine, follow it for three days, and then abandon it completely.
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  SPEAKER_00: That failure becomes further evidence that they are undisciplined.
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  SPEAKER_00: Real change is usually smaller and less dramatic.
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  SPEAKER_00: So choose one habit that creates a meaningful difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: Read for 15 minutes, walk for 20 minutes, prepare tomorrow's priorities before going to bed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spend thirty focused minutes on the project that you have been avoiding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Practicing one clear boundary without an apology.
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  SPEAKER_00: Small does not mean insignificant.
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  SPEAKER_00: A small action repeated consistently can become a new identity.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: You stop saying I am trying to write, and you become the person who writes every day.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: You stop saying I need to become more organized and you become someone who prepares before the day begins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not despise a small beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make it repeatable.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: The life that you want will not be built only by the goals that you write down.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will be built by the choices you repeat when nobody is watching.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to change everything today.
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  SPEAKER_00: You only need to stop protecting the pattern that keeps returning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Identify it, understand it, interrupt it, replace it.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: Your old habits may explain why you feel stuck, but they do not have to decide where you remain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every time you choose a healthier response, you are casting a vote for the person that you are becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Growth is not a dramatic decision, it is a new direction, practiced until it becomes a new way of living.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Sandra Elizabeth, and this is the Leadership Collective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, keep learning, keep growing, and keep becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, one shift in your thinking will change the direction of your life.