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Super Single with Demi Burnett · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: This is the almost Famous podcast. We have a very
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  Speaker 2: special guest on, somebody that we just enjoy and we
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  Speaker 2: got to see on this season of The Bachelor. She
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  Speaker 2: I've booked out four hours for this interview because I
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  Speaker 2: just feel like once we start talking, we could never stop.
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  Speaker 2: That's kind of fun, Demmy, don't worry about it. We
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  Speaker 2: actually have like thirty thirty minutes, so it's fine, Demmy.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: No, oh my gosh. So Debbie, tell us just about
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  Speaker 3: like your day to day life right now. How are
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  Speaker 3: you doing? Because you just told us before getting on
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  Speaker 3: the podcast and it was funny.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Well, first of all, Ben, is that a strawberry
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  Speaker 4: banana Prime?
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  Speaker 2: It is?
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  Speaker 3: I just got them sent to me en they send them.
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  Speaker 3: They send so much prime to our house. And Jared's
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  Speaker 3: sass and then he loves being at the gym and
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  Speaker 3: like taking pictures of it.
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  Speaker 4: I like the hydration drinks because they're like nice because
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  Speaker 4: it's like, oh, better than water, I guess. But the
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  Speaker 4: energy drinks I don't drink them, so I just have
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  Speaker 4: these heavy boxes of it.
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  Speaker 3: Those are the same situation. Over here.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I've got two on top of my fridge. I'm keeping.
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  Speaker 4: I've got the Alani Kimmid. I'm keeping that one.
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  Speaker 3: Just count Yeah, the kim Maid is super cute.
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: We have the same people sending us stuff and they
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  Speaker 3: and why do they? Because here we are in a
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  Speaker 3: podcast talking about that.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, everyone that comes over, I'm encouraging them to drink
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  Speaker 4: that Prime. I'm like, get it out of my house.
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  Speaker 4: You want to take a box home?
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  Speaker 2: But it is good.
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  Speaker 4: The energy drinks are Actually whenever I do drink them,
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  Speaker 4: I sound super cracked out, like I get I'm talking,
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  Speaker 4: but I have a lot of fun on it, on it,
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  Speaker 4: on it, on the Prime.
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  Speaker 2: Well this is a good segue though, because if you
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  Speaker 2: drink an energy drink, Here's a question I have for
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  Speaker 2: you that just came to my mind that now I'm
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  Speaker 2: super curious about it. If I don't ask it, I'll
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  Speaker 2: be really upset. Do you crochet faster on energy drinks
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  Speaker 2: or not? Ps.
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  Speaker 3: She told us before the podcast started that she likes
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  Speaker 3: to watch reality TV, scroll and read the gossip on
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  Speaker 3: her Instagram and then she does it all walle crocheting.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, And I do more than just on Instagram, I'm
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  Speaker 4: looking on Twitter, I'm looking at Reddit. I don't look
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  Speaker 4: at the Bachelor Reddit, but I'm in every other teeks
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  Speaker 4: the reality TV show reddit. Just taking it all in
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  Speaker 4: and also taking it all with a grain of salt,
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  Speaker 4: because like, I know how reality TV works, and I
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  Speaker 4: know that a lot of the time what we're seeing
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  Speaker 4: isn't exactly what went down, or like a lot of
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  Speaker 4: the time I was prompted by someone to like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: they ask a question and they tell you to answer
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  Speaker 4: the question by saying the question first. So like, I
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  Speaker 4: can see how a lot of people get set up
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  Speaker 4: all the time and whatever. But I also like, this
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  Speaker 4: is what I did before I went on The Bachelor,
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  Speaker 4: minus the crocheting, and it helped me really well at
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  Speaker 4: reality TV. So I like to think that, like, while
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  Speaker 4: I'm crocheting and watching reality TV and looking at the
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  Speaker 4: gossip and seeing what people like, don't like, et cetera,
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  Speaker 4: I'm working. I am working.
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  Speaker 3: Your preparing for a new show.
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  Speaker 4: That's right, I am. And with the crocheting, I get
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  Speaker 4: like a fun creative outlet and it's really fun to
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  Speaker 4: share online and it's challenging and it's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So do you crochet faster on energy drinks or not.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I don't drink enough energy drinks to really know,
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  Speaker 4: Like I don't take energy drinks to crochet, but I
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  Speaker 4: mean I would imagine I probably would. Maybe I'd probably
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  Speaker 4: get a little shaky.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, tried out some time. Let us know how it goes.
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious, Demy. We saw you on this season of
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  Speaker 2: the Bachelor, and that's why I want to start here,
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  Speaker 2: because we have a lot to get into with you
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  Speaker 2: personally and kind of what's going on in your life.
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  Speaker 2: We haven't gotten to talk to you in a while,
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  Speaker 2: but you were on this season of the Bachelor. You
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  Speaker 2: did host a date with one of my favorite people
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  Speaker 2: from season twenty of The Bachelor, Jubilee. Tell us about it.
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  Speaker 2: How was it to be back on camera? Was it exciting?
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  Speaker 2: And honestly, DEMI like, how did how did you and
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  Speaker 2: Jubilee get into this?
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  Speaker 4: Like?
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  Speaker 2: How did that happen?
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  Speaker 4: I totally forgot Jubilee was on your season. That is
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  Speaker 4: so funny. I love Jubilee. We met that day and
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  Speaker 4: we just we we both just got text asking us,
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  Speaker 4: you know, if we wanted to do an episode, and
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  Speaker 4: they were gonna pay us, so we both were like absolutely,
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  Speaker 4: and so when we met, I mean I immediately just
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  Speaker 4: kind of leaned on her, like, you know, like she
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  Speaker 4: was my buddy, Ashley. You know how I am.
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  Speaker 3: I need buddy, yeah, a.
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  Speaker 4: Safe person to cling to. So Jubilee became that for
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  Speaker 4: me very quickly, and I think I became that for
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  Speaker 4: her too, because you know, like on your season, you
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  Speaker 4: saw everyone was trying to like dim her light and
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  Speaker 4: for like for anyone to shine, like you gotta shine
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  Speaker 4: like with them, you know, So like I was encouraging
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  Speaker 4: her to like have fun with it. So I feel
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  Speaker 4: like I provided a safe place. She provided a safe place,
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  Speaker 4: and we got to both be ourselves and have the
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  Speaker 4: best day ever. Like I'm not kidding you guys. I
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  Speaker 4: wish I could work like that every day. I wish
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  Speaker 4: that was my job. I just had so much fun
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  Speaker 4: because I think I'm so comfortable with the crew, I
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  Speaker 4: know everyone. I feel like I'm not going to get
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  Speaker 4: in trouble for like anyone. No one's gonna yell at
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  Speaker 4: me there. So like I just am having so much fun.
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  Speaker 4: And I have an earpiece, so like in case I
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  Speaker 4: messay anything up, it's easy to fix. Like it's just
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  Speaker 4: everything about it was fun. Aana wasn't worried about, you know,
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  Speaker 4: not getting a rose or anything.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's always really nice to be on set and
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  Speaker 3: not have that fear. Were you on the Canadian VIP?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah I did. I went there and hosted something too.
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  Speaker 3: How'd that go?
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  Speaker 2: How was that?
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  Speaker 3: In like a whole different country? And like having a
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  Speaker 3: cast that you're not really familiar with.
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  Speaker 4: It was wonderful because the Canadian like crew and everything.
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  Speaker 4: They're just so nice. I mean, like ours are really
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  Speaker 4: nice too, but they somehow they are even nicer. Like
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  Speaker 4: I feel safe with our production with a Bachelor people
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  Speaker 4: like I just got done saying that. And these Canadian people,
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  Speaker 4: I never met them before, and they were just I
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  Speaker 4: could do no wrong, you know. They were so sweet
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  Speaker 4: to me, and they were like that to everyone. It
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  Speaker 4: was really chills, really nice and I had a great time.
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  Speaker 4: It was actually insane whenever I walked in to the
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  Speaker 4: or walked down to the lake beach whatever it was,
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  Speaker 4: And as I walked in, like a hurricane came with me.
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  Speaker 4: Like it was like a gust of wind that was
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  Speaker 4: so massive, so much power behind it, that it blew
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  Speaker 4: chairs into the lake. Chairs were on fire. I mean
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  Speaker 4: everything is blowing everywhere, were on fire, on fire, things
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  Speaker 4: were catching on fire. My top broke open, so my
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  Speaker 4: titties are flailing like I it was. It was magic.
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  Speaker 3: It was.
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  Speaker 4: It's like, holy crap.
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  Speaker 3: It was the introduction you love to have.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, it was so on brand, but I just couldn't
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  Speaker 4: believe it. Feel I couldn't believe it happened. Everyone was
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  Speaker 4: in shock, and I just didn't think it got enough
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  Speaker 4: credit for how eerie. It was like, just how cool
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  Speaker 4: it was that I really came in with a force
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  Speaker 4: of nature.
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  Speaker 2: Did it air?
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  Speaker 4: Yes? It air.
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  Speaker 2: That aired like you walking down everything popping out, stuff
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  Speaker 2: flying around, fires getting started. This is how it aired.
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  Speaker 4: This is how it aired.
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  Speaker 2: Oh goodness to me, you are made for TV.
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  Speaker 4: It was like the universe was affirming that to me.
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  Speaker 4: Like I was very validated in that moment, and I
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  Speaker 4: was like, surely after this, everyone's going to be wanting
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  Speaker 4: to pick me up for shows.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Well, that's what I want to get into
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  Speaker 2: next with you. You've made it very clear that you
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  Speaker 2: like being on television, that it's a place that you
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  Speaker 2: feel comfortable, that you feel confident, that you feel like
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  Speaker 2: in a lot of ways you were made for and
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  Speaker 2: that your personality doesn't really change, it might even heighten
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  Speaker 2: when the cameras get rolling. Now, let's say that the
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  Speaker 2: Bachelor franchise is off limits and you've done what you've done,
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  Speaker 2: it's gone now for you. What shows are out there
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  Speaker 2: that you know of that you're dreaming of being a
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  Speaker 2: part of, or maybe even a show that you have
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  Speaker 2: in your mind that's not created yet that you feel
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  Speaker 2: like you'd be perfect on.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, well, I think that maybe maybe, like if I
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  Speaker 4: want to stay another reality show like The Traders, being
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  Speaker 4: on The Traders would be cool. I just I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know if I can handle it, but I
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  Speaker 4: think that I would be cool.
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  Speaker 3: We did an entire interview with Peter Webber and it
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  Speaker 3: sounds like really intense, and I truly find myself confused
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  Speaker 3: watching it. I'm like, wait, what is going on?
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  Speaker 4: Love? I love it.
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  Speaker 2: You're smarter than me.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, this is a puzzle piece.
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  Speaker 4: I listened to all the Traders podcasts. I'm obsessed with
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  Speaker 4: the Trader. But I'm also you have to understand, I'm
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  Speaker 4: massive fans of every single person on there, Like this
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  Speaker 4: is a all star castic. I love Big Brother. The
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  Speaker 4: only thing is like, I don't know the Housewives. I
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  Speaker 4: don't get I have not gotten into the Housewives yet.
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  Speaker 3: You like competition, Yes, yes.
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  Speaker 4: I like seeing people's dreams getting crushed. But I also
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  Speaker 4: like seeing like an underdog win. I like, I just
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  Speaker 4: love every bit of the competition. So maybe I wouldn't
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  Speaker 4: want to do Maybe I probably I don't know if
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  Speaker 4: I would want to do something like Big Brother Survivor
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  Speaker 4: because again, the stress, the lying, the betrayal, I'm not
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  Speaker 4: I'm not big into that, but I think that what
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  Speaker 4: I deserve is you know that, you know how they
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  Speaker 4: had that show catching Kelsey. Yeah, we need it. We
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  Speaker 4: need a demi version of that. I don't know what
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  Speaker 4: it would be, but we need it because I am
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  Speaker 4: so single and it's so painful, and like, I can't
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  Speaker 4: figure out why people aren't jumping all over me, you know.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you look like our human Barbie.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know either exactly exactly, like what more do
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  Speaker 4: they want from me? And and people will be like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: there's probably people trying to hit you up. I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: people that like in the like, we we do not
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  Speaker 4: match up together at all, Like it's not not me
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  Speaker 4: just trying to be shallow, but like, it's not anyone
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  Speaker 4: who's in my dating pool, like and I'm and I'm
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  Speaker 4: being My dating pool is very big. I would say,
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  Speaker 4: I'm going all the way down to fives. I'm taking
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  Speaker 4: a glance at five's these days, but I'm getting all
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  Speaker 4: the d ms from below fives, Like that's come on,
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  Speaker 4: I mm hmm. That's just I'm not willing to settle
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  Speaker 4: on that one. I think it's because then I would
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  Speaker 4: become I just I would never be attracted to them,
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  Speaker 4: and so that wouldn't be fair to them.
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  Speaker 3: You are super open about your diagnosis with autism and ADHD.
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  Speaker 3: Have you ever watched the show Love on the Spectrum?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I did, and I thought that it's cute. It's
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  Speaker 4: like I have mixed feelings about it, just as the
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  Speaker 4: internet does. Like it's sweet and stuff, but there's also
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  Speaker 4: like a lot of infantilizing, you know, like in fanalizing,
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  Speaker 4: like treating them like they're like babies, okay, and a
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  Speaker 4: lot of the time, like you know, I love Abby.
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  Speaker 4: I love Abby so much.
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  Speaker 3: I've never seen it, but I know that I have
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  Speaker 3: people in my life that really love it.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly because it's sweet, but it's also like sweet because
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  Speaker 4: they're kind of treating among babies, which I know that
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  Speaker 4: like I sometimes want, but like I I don't, Uh,
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't want that force on me and not having
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  Speaker 4: to be the narrative, you know, it's like wait, wait, wait,
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  Speaker 4: still it's still an adult. But also like Abby, I
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  Speaker 4: love Abby, but I'm also like, is Abby consenting to
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  Speaker 4: all of this? Like Abby's mom needs to leave Abby alone?
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  Speaker 4: Like she's just always recording Abby doing everything or like Abby,
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  Speaker 4: you know, just little simple things that Abby doesn't because
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  Speaker 4: like she does them her way and not the way
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  Speaker 4: that she's supposed to buy society, and then she's like
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  Speaker 4: recording it, making a viral video out of it, and
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  Speaker 4: I mean maybe Abby's fine with it whatever, but for me,
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  Speaker 4: it's like I think that's encouraging people to like do
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  Speaker 4: more of that, recording children constantly like like that, like
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  Speaker 4: showing off, like look, how weird my kid is. She's
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  Speaker 4: doing this weird thing.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a little exploitive. It can be at times. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Abby is a character on Love on the Spectrum, which
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  Speaker 2: is become a very popular reality show and a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people I think watched it, and they are now
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  Speaker 2: starting to And I don't necessarily di me. I'd love
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  Speaker 2: for you to argue with me. I don't necessarily find
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  Speaker 2: it a bad thing that now people are starting to
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  Speaker 2: form an opinion on if they like it or not.
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  Speaker 2: Like I I think at first it was new and
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  Speaker 2: shocking and like something that they were curious about. And
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  Speaker 2: as seasons have continued, I think now people are educated, aware,
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  Speaker 2: and now they're forming their opinions, which I think is
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  Speaker 2: a helpful step to become more I guess aware of
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  Speaker 2: you know, what it is like to live on the
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  Speaker 2: spectrum and to find love on the spectrum.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I haven't watched the newest season, so I don't
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  Speaker 4: know what range of autistic characters they have, you know,
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  Speaker 4: So like I don't know, because the part of beating
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  Speaker 4: the stereotype isn't just like loving I mean, of course
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  Speaker 4: loving autistic people and like autistic people finding love, yes,
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  Speaker 4: but like the stereotype too, is like what it looks like.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like they're trying they try to sometimes
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  Speaker 4: just show how it looks in one way, and that's
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  Speaker 4: by like santalizing. I'm saying that word wrong. I think
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  Speaker 4: a person and you know what I mean, and and so.
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  Speaker 2: That are you saying Do you mean sensatializing?
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  Speaker 3: No, I think she means, and I think it makes sense.
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  Speaker 3: She's there trying to treat them younger than they are.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that okay, that yes, that does make sense.
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  Speaker 2: I honestly wasn't aware of the words. So you were
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  Speaker 2: throwing words out there. I was like, I'm guessing she's
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  Speaker 2: saying something that I makes sense.
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  Speaker 4: To mean.
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  Speaker 2: So in your dating life, you just mentioned that you
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  Speaker 2: want to be dating that you know that you're putting
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  Speaker 2: yourself out there when you're on a date, Like how
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  Speaker 2: quickly are you talking about like your diagnosis and kind
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  Speaker 2: of how you live your life and what people can
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  Speaker 2: expect out of you or are you holding it back
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  Speaker 2: or are you super upfront and confident. Now, it's just.
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  Speaker 4: Rich of you to assume that I've been on a date.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, there's no way you haven't been on a
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  Speaker 2: date since you came out publicly.
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  Speaker 4: No, I have not, no way, No, I spared. The
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  Speaker 4: only thing that's happened is like, in the past month,
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  Speaker 4: I hung out with one guy. I've had him by hangout,
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  Speaker 4: I mean he comes over for a few hours, and
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  Speaker 4: goes home and that's up and comes up. I know
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  Speaker 4: it's a great, great deal with me. I love that.
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  Speaker 4: And he is also autistic and he's also like in
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  Speaker 4: reality TV, so like a date like kind of but
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  Speaker 4: like we were just hanging out of my house and
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  Speaker 4: talking about like our special interests. But like I might,
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  Speaker 4: I've been sell a bit for two years, like I won't.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not having sex.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not by choice.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, since I stopped drinking, I really I went back
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  Speaker 4: to like my old high school ways of being a prude.
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  Speaker 4: Just just I don't know, I just I I don't
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  Speaker 4: know what it is. I think that I'm just kind
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  Speaker 4: of disgusted I ever, like not just because but just
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  Speaker 4: even like the act of it is disgusting, like our
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  Speaker 4: bodily fluids, like touching each other, Like have they washed
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  Speaker 4: their hands? Am I gonna have to ask them? Like
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  Speaker 4: brush your teeth? Like all of these things that I'm
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  Speaker 4: just like it's not worth it to me. Whereas when
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  Speaker 4: I was drunk, I don't really care about all that stuff.
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  Speaker 4: But now that I'm not, I am very weird about
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  Speaker 4: all of that. And I can get turned off like
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  Speaker 4: so easily because of a smell so I'm being so
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  Speaker 4: vulnerable right now.
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  Speaker 2: I'm I actually didn't know you would stop drinking. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if like you publicly had announced this, But
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  Speaker 2: so you've been sober now for two years.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so you're gonna have almost it'll be three years
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  Speaker 4: in July.
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  Speaker 2: That's a big deal. Like it has it been a
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  Speaker 2: I mean for anybody that's listening who's maybe considering that
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: journey or are going down it, has it been a
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: good thing? I mean I'm assuming there's no negatives to it,
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: but like what kind of good stuff is coming from it?
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's been great. I would say the best thing
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: is being able to well, not being sick, like not
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: feeling sick, not feeling like you're dying. That was the
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: worst part for sure, Like I always felt like I
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: was dying in the anxiety. Like, don't get me wrong,
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: I still have anxiety, but it's not about dying from drinking.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: I mean like being super hungover.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but like I mine went from like being super
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: hungover to where I was like I can't take this,
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: and then hair the dog drink more and then I
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: never stopped, so I just every day and then I
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: just got myself into this like terrible habit. And I
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: didn't want to be drinking anymore, but I had to
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: because if I didn't, I was gonna get sick. I
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: was gonna get violently ill and get the shakes. And
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: so actually, whenever I did stop drinking, I posted about
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: this on my Instagram. But Natasha was at my house
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: and she stayed the night with me, and I drank,
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: and I drank the night before. But then the next
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: morning I was like, Hey, Natasha, I have to tell
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: you something. I have a really bad drinking problem and
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: I want to stop drinking today. Can you please just
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: stay with me and make sure that I don't die
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: because I'm gonna get thick. And she was like, of course,
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: of course. And so then I immediately just started yacking
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: and like I couldn't stop. And so she was like,
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: all right, you're either going to go to rehab or
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: we're calling the ambulance. And I said, call the ambulance.
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: I can't go to rehab. I have a house full
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: of animals. Like that's not realistic for me. Just call
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: the ambulance. So call the ambulance. They come over here.
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: They undermine all my pain, and they undermine everything going
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: on about me, and he's just like, you're gonna be fine.
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: It's gonna suck for a couple of days, You'll be okay, buddy, whatever,
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: And so they leave and then a few hours later,
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: Natasha was about to leave, and right before she left,
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: I started having seizures so that we had to call
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: the ambulance again and like I don't remember any of that,
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: and the ambulance came back to me in the hospital
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: and I was in the hospital for a few days,
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: and that was honestly, like the best ever was being
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: in the hospital because I didn't have to go through
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: the withdrawals of it like alone, like I had medication
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: and help. Like the alcohol withdraws are the worst along
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: with I think like Heroin, Like they're like the worst
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: with withdrawals you can have. And it's literally like okay
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: in euphoria, you know, whenever like Real is having her withdrawals,
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: I think she's having withdraws or she's like really sick
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: or something, but she's just like ah, like can bear,
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: Like she looks like she's dying, and I'm like, this
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: is literally exactly how it is. Like it's just it's awful.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: So once I once I got out of the hospital.
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, I'm I'm not sick anymore, like
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: my I don't feel ill, I don't feel like I'm
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: gonna vomit, and I don't feel like super weak like
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: I did. But I was like, I feel better. And
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: then I was like, yeah, I'm not gonna drink anymore,
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: like I'm gonna die if I do. Probably, like I
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: I think that maybe one day, like if I have
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: a spouse, I'll be like, you know, you can make
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: give me a glass of wine in Italy or something
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: and just make sure that I I don't want to
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: be in charge of any of my own alcohol, but
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: like you know, maybe something like that. But it just
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: the thought of it still makes me sick, Like I
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: just feel like, oh, I just know I'm going to
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: feel bad the next day, like I don't even I'm
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: not tempted because of it.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: So first off, I want a shout out to Natasha Parker,
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: I'm assuming from the show right, Yes, yes, what a
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: good friend, I mean, what an.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: Angel, Like she not only did she get me to
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: the hospital, like she contacted everyone that I needed to,
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: like on my phone, because like I was like passed out,
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: you know, and so she was like calling my parents
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: making sure my animals were taken care of. Like she
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: just really went above and beyond and took care of me.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: And I just felt so safe in that whole situation,
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: like I knew that she had me, and yeah, I
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: don't know, It's just one of the most amazing things
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: anyone could ever do for someone, Like she saved my life.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: And I don't know what would have happened if she
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: wasn't here whenever if I started seizing, you know, like.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Big deal, and it's for her.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: She's an incredible person. As if we all didn't know,
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: like blown me away.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: Obviously, you've had some big changes in your life over
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: the last couple of years, and these changes have all
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: been really positive for you. But you did say that
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: you stay in your house often right that you're watching TV,
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: that you've taken up this great like hobby of crusheng,
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: which I think super cool. I saw the quill that
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: you made the other day, which I was beautiful, like
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: absolutely beautiful, and the time and the technique and yeah,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: like the difficulty and the complexity of that to turn
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: into something so great is so cool. But you are
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: in your house more often and I'm wondering why, Like,
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: is it because now you know there is a little
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: social anxiety? Is it because you just prefer it? It's
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: a safe space, Like why are you finding yourself? Kind
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: of like hunkering down more than ever.
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: Definitely social anxiety. And I had social anxiety like my
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: whole life. But the way that I thought I had
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: beat it was like once I started drinking in college,
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: Like the reason I love alcohol so much or loved
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: it is because it is a cure for my social anxiety.
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: It helped me be myself on the Bachelor, helped me
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: be able to be who I was without fear, which
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: now I still have those skills because I can still
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: channel that part of me, like I know how to
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: I know how to get into that mode now because
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: you know, I had this crutch that helped me in
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: the beginning. And it's harder though, because now I do
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: have the not in my stomach of anxiety that doesn't
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: go away. You know that I have to be like
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: what do I need to do to help me feel
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: safer in this moment so the social anxiety will go away?
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: And it's usually like I just need somebody who I'm
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: like joking around with are like keeping a like up.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: I'm just someone I feel safe with and who I'm
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: never gonna cross the line with, you know, like they
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: know who I am. They know that I don't mean
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: any harm. Like even if I say bad joke, they'll
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: be like they won't make me feel like a terrible
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: person for it, you know, like just a really safe person.
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: And yeah, so now it's like I can't have a
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: buddy on me at all times to go do things
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: Like I have my dog, so I do walk my dog,
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: so like I get my outside exercise whatever, my good
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: exposure to the outdoors. But the social anxiety is it
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: can just get to be too much if I don't
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: have a buddy, and even if I do have a buddy,
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. The other day, I was at Casavega
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: with my mom and my friend Piper, and we had
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: been eating for a while and then there was this
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: table of like ten like fifty sixty year old white nails,
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: and so you know, that's just kind of intimidating to
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: begin with, Like just went show you know, uh, happy
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: to you probably coming off of work laughing. They're running
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: the world. So I'm sitting there and out of nowhere.
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: I hear one of them being like, wasn't she I'm
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: the bachelor, And I just look up and every table
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: that's around us is now staring at me. And I
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: immediately am like stop subs sop soup zuh blah blah,
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: like I have a panic attack. And I'm just like
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: and I'm like, mom, pay the check, let's cool, let's go.
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: Like I'm so scared right all my way out. He's
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: yelling never watching that show again. And I'm like, one,
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: I don't care. Two me either. At three, I'm just
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: but three, like I am scared. I'm not trying to
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: be rude. I'm so freaking terrified my guy, like everyone
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: who's looking at me like I don't know, Like I
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: just wasn't prepared for it. I don't know what happened.
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: But situations like that or why I don't want to
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: leave the house because they, I mean, they just always
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: are having like.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: Anyways, the social anxiety is tied to the autism. What
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: when you got the autism diagnosis? Were you going to
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: a doctor psychiatrist? And then did you feel like how
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: was it discovered and how long did it take to diagnose?
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: And sorry for the multi part question, but like how
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: kind of relieving was it for you to get answers
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: about just your personality?
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I so it's a neuropsychologist and you have to
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: do an autism evaluation. It's very expensive and insurance I
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: don't even know if they cover it. Most of them
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: don't take insurance. It's just it's very hard to get
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: diagnosed as an adult. So I went to a neuropsychologist
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: who specializes in autism and women, and she's a woman,
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: and we did it was all over zoom. But it
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: was for like two weeks. I don't even know how
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: many sessions, like somewhere from like four to eight sessions,
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: and every time we talked it was for multiple hours.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: Then she also I had to get questionnaires filled out
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: from my parents, and I gave it to my granny
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: as well, because she was around me a lot whenever
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: I was a kid. And also she had a zoom
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: call with my friend without me, so she could like
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: talk to my friend without me and like you know,
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: ask her the questions. So it took it took a
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: while to get it. I would say though, like two weeks,
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: maybe maybe more like a month because it was probably
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: like we started and then we made the appointment for
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: two weeks you know, and then all of that. But
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: it's it takes a long time. It's a long process,
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: and it's expensive, and it's only worth it to me
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: because I needed it to be I will too, like, uh,
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: like nobody would have believed me without it, right, and
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: so how would I be able to help all the
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: women who feel the same way as me if I
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: didn't have that like proof, you know, if I didn't
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: have any credibility like that, Like uh, I I needed
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: like it to feel better for myself as well, because
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: of course in my mind, I'm like, it's probably just
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: not but maybe it's like not autism, like you know,
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: maybe it can't be. But yeah, So after I did
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: all of this evaluating and we were done, I was like,
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: we had another follow up meeting and I was like, so,
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: like what is it? She was like, dimmy, you're definitely autistic.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: And I was like, oh my gosh. And so yeah,
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: then that was like the the start of a very
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: new life for me and like a new way of
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: like believing in myself so much more and just yeah,
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: like self like compassion. So whenever you have compassion for yourself,
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: it consequently starts happening with other people. You start having
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: compassion for everyone around you. It was life changing for me,
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: and the best way. It does seem like sometimes people
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: could look at it on the outside and look at
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: it as negative because I'm in my house all the
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: time and I don't like to go and do things,
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: blah blah blah. But it's like I get to I
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: feel more myself, and I also now have like beautiful
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: hobbies like crocheting and video games, and I do have
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: like when I do get to when I do go
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: out and do things, I usually have a really amazing
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: time because it's something I really want to do or
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: there's people there that I really want to see, and
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: I've been saving it up, you know, like I've been resting.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: I've been in my rest. So now I'm coming out
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: of rest that look great and ready to see everyone.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: I'm happy and it's fun and I don't have the
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: anxiety of like where I used to have anxiety when
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: I drink all the time and I would be bop
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: around every where. I would be like, Yeah, what am
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: I supposed to be doing? I'm supposed to be doing
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: a lot of other things back at home. But yeah,
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna not go home and I can go to
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: brunch because I don't want to think about that. So yeah,
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: I guess I'm more like forced to deal with my life,
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: which I like, I'm happier with my life. Yeah.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Well, you're living in the truth now too, Like there's
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: some there you know your truth, and that's an exciting
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: next step. Well to close out here, don't. I don't
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: know your relationship anymore, but I knew at one point
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: in your life you had a really close relationship with Nick.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Nick Natalie just had a baby. Have you met the
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: new baby girl yet?
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: No? But I texted Natalie and I was like, Hey,
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: can I crochet something for baby River? She was like,
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: of course, And so I am trying to figure out
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: what I want to make for her. If you guys
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: think of anything cute, Ashley, you think of it, see
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: anything online, like if anywhere you know, I'm sure you
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: have like baby stuff popping up on all your fees.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: So if you see anything really cute crocheted and you're like,
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: I would want this for my maybe send it to me.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: And then by the time you have your baby, maybe.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: I'll have one made for you to you know, you
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: know what comes to my mind? Demmy right away. You know,
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: I just saw this the other day and I think
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: it's the cutest thing that kids wear. I don't know
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: why it could be the worst thing overalls, Like I
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: think crocheted overalls would be absolutely adorable.
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: That is adorable. What color? What color?
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: I think you can go all out like it's overalls,
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: like you're if you're gonna wear overalls, just like I'm
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: talking like crazy colors, mixed colors, rainbowed colors, like do whatever.
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: I just got this really cute yarn. I've been making
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: a sweater for myself, but like, look at how cute
• 30:40
  Speaker 4: this is.
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: Oh that's so cute and so why two k I
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: love that?
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Oh adorable?
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: I was thinking that. You know how Nick loves dim Sum.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: What if you made like a little dim Sum hat?
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: Perfect? Because he takes me there. You know, that's the
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: only restaurant we go to.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: That's his comfort safe sum.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: Literally, me and I have only been to Dent type
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: Fung and I've probably been like twenty times and every
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: time was with him.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: Yep, same hair and Jones on third that's his other
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: same third. Can't say that either there are bad meals,
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: they're both, they're both fantastic meals, but the dim summers.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: Fine you are.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: Okay, wait, Demi, before we let you go, you mentioned
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: your mom before, and your mom, of course was in
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: she was in prison. She was she's in jailer in prison, prison,
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: she was in prison when you were on the show.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: And so how's your relationship today.
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: My mom is my best now. Oh my gosh, that's
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: one of the biggest changes in my life too, is
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: like my relationship with my mom. My mom helps me
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: so much because there are a lot of the things
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: that I struggle with are like invisible things like Bill's
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: like not I have the money.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: I just don't.
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: I can't like make sure that everything's paid on time,
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: and like the auto draft sometimes that doesn't work out
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: because sometimes I'm I'm waiting on a payment, you know,
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: but then after it comes in, it never gets paid
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: because it wasn't in the auto draft. And like, I
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: am really just terrible with all of that, all of
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: that part of adulting, like the money and the making
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: sure you're doing these like adult things you're supposed to do.
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: I just really struggle with it, and I have ever
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: since I got into the adult world. Like this isn't
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: something new. This is I've always been this way and
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: I just never talk about it. But my mom has
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: been helping me so much with that and like just
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: making sure that things are paid, so like I'm not
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: getting lateies and things I'm falling through like I She's
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: making sure everything is good for me. And that's just
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: like such a relief for me, because it gives me
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: so much anxiety, Like I cannot I'm just like constantly
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: worrying about like if I've like paid these things and
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: blah blah, and it's like, well why would And I
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: just look, I don't know. I don't know why because
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: I'm too scared to look like it's like I'm just
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: terrified of the whole thing, and I'm just it eats
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: me alive too. So to have somebody who's just like, hey,
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: let me help you. I can do that. I can
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: like log into these things and make sure it's all
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: good for you, That's been just the biggest gift of anything.
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: Like I'm like, oh my god, thank you take care
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: of me, like please help me. And I think that's
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: why we have such a good relationship is because she's
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: not asking for anything in return. She's like, yeah, of
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: course I'm going to help you. I feel like part
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: of it is like she probably feels like she owes
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: it to me after you know, my childhood and everything
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: that happened with her. But also I just think that
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: she loves me so much and she just wants to
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: help me out because she she sees how like sick,
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: I get over it, like mentally and emotionally. So yeah,
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: that's why she's taking care of me. So we have
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: a good relationship. I think it's hard to have a
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: good relationship with me if you aren't if you're expecting
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: me to like be reaching out to you all the time.
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: Like my mom and I am such a great relationship
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: because she blows me up, which I need. Like I'm
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: my phone and I we have a very distant relationship.
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: I get on there for work to post on Instagram
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: and get off, like I don't text. I don't do
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: any of that phones work. So if you text me,
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: I might not really see it, or I might see
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: it while I'm working here, or whatever will happen. And
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: if you think that I'm not responding to that text
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: intentionally because I don't want to talk to you, and
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: if you take it that way, we're never going to
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: be friends because I do not mean it that way
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: whatsoever at all. And like, I have so many friends
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: where we understand this about each other. And so it's like, God,
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: thank god I found my people, because it sounds like
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: so rude that I'm like I didn't text them back,
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: But it's so sick. That's so typical, that's so society's
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: rules of like if you don't text back, then that
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: means you are mad, or that means you don't want
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: to talk, Like I need to text back because my
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: brain didn't even see it and I was busy, But
• 35:06
  Speaker 4: it doesn't mean it doesn't affect our relationship. I'm kind
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: of going a little too oft right now.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: No, No, I love it.
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: And we're really happy to hear that you're get in
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: a good spot with your mom.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: Yes, so my mom. My mom blows me up. My
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: mom is not afraid. She understands that I'm It doesn't
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: mean anything if I don't answer, it just means keep
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: trying or try again later. Nobody do. And my mom
• 35:28
  Speaker 4: is she's doing great, the happiest I have seen her
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: in years, Like her energy just being around her is
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: so happy and just ah, she's glowing.
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: Well, there's a lot of beautiful things coming into your life, Demy.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: It's really great to catch up with you. Thank you
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: for coming on here. Thank you for giving us a
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: rundown of not only your your stint on this season
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: of the Bachelor, but also where your life exists today.
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: Wish you the best. If you are a single man
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: above a five on day Me scale, please consider reaching out.
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: I'm women as well, actually want a woman?
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, Well, hey, Dimmy is open to anybody
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: above a five uh and interested in hearing more from you,
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: So reach out to her.
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: Uh.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Until next time, Dimmy, thanks for joining the Almost Famous podcast.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: We wish you the best. You're a joy to have on.
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: Thank you for having me.
• 36:25
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