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How Self Love Is Keeping You Stuck: The TRUTH About The Energy Of Self Love · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, 7D energy healer, and cock reader.
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  SPEAKER_00: I help women heal on a physical and emotional level so that they can feel delicious and magnetic.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: After all, isn't that the whole point?
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you've done the basic bitch boneless stuff, but you're still bloated, tired, and in pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I come in.
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  SPEAKER_00: In these episodes, we will have an honest conversation without all the fluffy bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna walk away with insight, tools, and tips to finally kill your body, mind, and soul.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: If you are looking to live well, you are in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_00: For ways to work with me, visit keepupwithlive.com and follow me on Instagram at keep up with live for more.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the podcast.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so excited.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: This is probably gonna be a little bit shorter of an episode than some of my longer ones, but it's juicy.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's short, it's juicy, it's getting into the nitty gritty, as you know I love to do.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, it's cutting out the bullshit.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm just keeping it real with you guys because to me, it does you no favors to sugarcoat things for you.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: It does you no favors to pretend or to bypass.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just is not gonna help you and it's not gonna heal you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I, you know me, I'm blunt, fiery, sag energy coming through, and it's no exception in this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today we are going to be diving into how self-love is keeping you stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I sound self-love is keeping you stuck, and kind of like the truth about the energy of self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when we think self-love, I think you know, with social media, Instagram, and all that, we think, you know, self-love is a glass of wine and self-love is a bubble bath and all those things.
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  SPEAKER_00: When in fact, like those can be acts of service or gifts, depending on like if it's buying yourself a coffee, but self-love is doing the thing that is actually going to serve you, not looking for that instant gratification or relief.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Let me say that again because you really need to understand this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is doing the thing that is actually going to serve you, not looking for the instant gratification or relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, what does this mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's take example, you are avoiding shit by doing a face mask, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of like dealing with the fact that you don't love yourself or how you're feeling, you know, oh, I'm gonna do a face mask for my acne, even though I do don't love myself because of my acne, and I'm avoiding dealing with the fact that I don't love myself and I'm slapping a face mask on, like that's going to solve the problem and solve everything when it's not.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's like that instant gratification and relief of like, oh, I do a face mask, I feel good for like an hour or that night, but then the same shit surfaces the next morning when you wake up, look in the mirror, and your face is covered in acne because you and you don't love yourself, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, do you see how like that's an instant gratification or relief?
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-love, I see this so many times as a mask for unhealthy behaviors.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I see things like self-love is having like brownies or whatever, which that if you're using it as a coping mechanism, if you're using that as a spiritual like a bypassing or an unhealthy behavior, like oh, I don't actually want to eat healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like me eating all this gluten is self-love because it gives me pleasure, and life is about pleasure and like doing things for yourself because it feels good when like deep down you know that that gluten's destroying your gut, giving you anxiety, depression, acne, inflammation, and shortening your lifespan, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's using the excuse of like, oh yeah, I need this, like the need quote unquote, like in quotations, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's self-love.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: Well, like, yeah, you don't want to have guilt, of course, like let's say you ate some brownies, but actually self-love is looking at the root and the healing that's not giving yourself a brownie band aid, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not true self-love, or you know, the glass of wine is like showing yourself love at the end of the week because you like you made it through.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, but why don't we actually look at like why you're so stressed out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why you don't feel worthy, why, you know, are you doing this to numb out or distract?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because then that's not true self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: If the brownies are to distract you from actually feeling your feelings, that's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it's like, oh, I'm feeling really sad, so I'm gonna bake cupcakes and eat them to love myself because I'm gonna do whatever I need to make myself feel better.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: No, because that's just a self-numbing self-distraction.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: Do you guys see how like these little things can be self-numbing and self-distraction and doesn't actually get to the root of the issue of why you don't love yourself, right?
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: And it can be helpful to do some things, but you need to help at the root because there isn't a brownie or face mask in the world that's actually going to heal, you know, your self-worth, make you magnetic, and release your trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, believe me, if there was a brownie that could release your trauma, I would bake it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd have the recipe, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I say this because for years I like would do self-love things that was like self-love, but let me tell you, I didn't love myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like the face mask was because I felt like I needed to fix something, or it was a distraction from numbing out from the feelings that were coming up of me not feeling worthy and deserving, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I say this so that you don't get stuck.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're stuck thinking that, like, oh, I'm gonna have some brownies, I'm gonna like, don't get me wrong, the mental health walk is all great.
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  SPEAKER_00: But again, is that also a band-aid, a distraction from you actually feeling, okay, why are you anxious?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you depressed?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you hate your job?
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, why do you hate your job?
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  SPEAKER_00: So then we need to switch your job or we need to switch your relationship or whatever it is, right, that you're trying to self-numb or self-distract from.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's, like I said, whether it's a walk, brownie, glass of wine, nothing is going to fix it if you don't get down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And also, if it were, well, then you'd be magnetic, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You'd have amazing relationships, an amazing job.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'd be able to manifest with ease, you'd be magnetic.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're doing all these things and you're like, well, live, like I show myself love, I work out, I cook a nice meal, I take baths, because I'm can't tell you how many times I'm in either an initial consult with someone or I'm in their first intake when they're like a one-on-one with me, or even actually when I'm checking in with people and well nourished, and I'm like, oh, what's your self-love like?
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, Well, I go to the gym, I take baths, and I'm just like, and I just stare at them and they're they look at me like, oh, okay, and then they're like they break, and I'm like, do you love yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that's when the like the flood gets open, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because they are using that as self-numbing and self-distraction.
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  SPEAKER_00: So stop using self-love to bypass the shit you don't want to deal with.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: Stop using self-love to bypass the shit you do not want to deal with.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: I just wanted to hop on and let you guys know that goddess activation is officially open.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: I know a lot of you have been waiting and the time is now here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you deserve to feel delicious in the skin you are in and to love not only the life that you are living, but yourself.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: So that you become a natural magnet to everything you desire and live more in alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are gonna be doing all the emotional releasing, and plus you get the tools, techniques, and reprogramming to live life with so much pleasure that your heart radiates.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you'll be able to connect with other goddesses who are igniting their self-love in a high vibe community.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you engage in negative self-talk, people pleasing, don't set boundaries or hate your body, this is your sign.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: Because I've been there and it sucks.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: But what you have to understand is that when you love yourself on a truly deep level, everything in your life improves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your relationships, your friendships, your magnetism, your happiness, even how much money you make.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything in life is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself and what you believe you are worthy and deserving of.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's start living a life where you feel magnetic and delicious in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's four weeks to awaken your inner goddess and ignite your self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are healing and falling in love with life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check out the link in the description and DM me any questions.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: See you guys inside.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is sometimes the hardest thing you can possibly do.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is normally hard.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: Anytime I've shown myself true self-love, it is the hardest thing to do.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I I feel like I'm gonna make a podcast episode on like the current tower that I'm experiencing in my life.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: It is the hardest thing to do.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_00: Choosing self-love, being that embodiment, is often very, very hard because it's stepping away from comfort zones.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: It's doing things for you and looking at things you may not want to look like look at or deal with, or letting people go, or jobs go, or whether it's a house go or like so many things you have to let go because of self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's being the embodiment, it's having those boundaries, right?
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is you standing up for yourself of saying no to Sally if she wants to get coffee and you don't have the energy capacity.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's standing up to yourself to a sister that you know bullies you.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm taking like client examples, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's often the hardest thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like, oh, I'm feeling down, so let me have like a Netflix night, which it can be, but like self-care is not self-love until you truly love yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the harder things, it's being the very embodiment of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it can be very soothing and validating, I think, right now, especially on Instagram, to hear, oh yeah, self-love is a glass of wine because it gives you an excuse not to do the work or to not look at yourself deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you see other people being like, oh yeah, it's okay to not eat healthy because that's self-love.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's not.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's like saying smoking cigarettes is self-love because oh, cigarettes make you feel good.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: We all know that cigarettes, like, I don't care.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: Cigarettes are not self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Same with not clean eating, like, oh, like I'm not forcing myself to move my body because like that's self-love.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, A, we can find a movement you like, but B, that's not self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's an excuse.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: You're looking for that validation to actually not look at why you don't love yourself enough to take care of your body, right?
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: So all of these things, because guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not going to heal, you are going to become exhausted trying to use the brownies or wine or whatever it is to make yourself better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you actually end up attracting the things that are making you have a lack of self-love, whether it's health, relationships, career, wealth, et cetera, because you are not in that vibration, right?
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: So you are like, let's say you're using brownies or wine or whatever that to mask the fact that you hate your job, and you're like, well, I'm trying to sell like show myself love.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't understand why I'm not attracting like a better job or career or more money or relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, well, are you actually being the embodiment of self-love?
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because that person wouldn't put up with like a shitty boss or shitty friendships or you know, shitty health.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: Are you taking radical responsibility and actually loving yourself and having the boundaries and not people pleasing and healing all this?
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: Really think about this.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: Because all those things are gonna leave you exhausted because it's never gonna actually get to the root.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: And then I understand people come to me and they're like so frustrated and annoyed because they think they're doing all the things, but they're not actually doing the thing that they need, which is getting to the root.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is an action to move yourself forward, it is choosing the highest path even when it's not easy.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I let me tell you, it's not easy.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: And if this anything I've said is triggering for you, then this is a sign that you need to heal.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a sign you need to do the deeper work.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
• 12:14
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to like remain open to this because I know you might be like, oh my god, Liv, like triggering she's dumb, what if she doesn't know what she's saying?
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: But it's because I've said something that deep down you know is true, you know you're avoiding something, you know you're not dealing with something.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I get it, it's hard.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: Self-love is sometimes the hardest thing to do.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: But by bypassing, it is a dangerous solution.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because when we do something not good for ourselves in the name of quote unquote self-love, that's actually harmful instead of doing the things that would actually help.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I say this with love because me again, sugar coating for you is not gonna help you heal.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: Me being like, yeah, it's okay, just have a bubble bath, you're still gonna be miserable in three months' time.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like the reason, like whether it's goddess activation or my one-on-one or one-lush is so powerful, even my readings, I'm I'm fairly blind to my Kashi readings, are so powerful, is because I I tell you the truth.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: I don't sugarcoat it for you, I actually tell you what's gonna help you heal and what to do to help you heal.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's not the easiest thing to do, even for myself.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: I've had to do some things recently that were the hardest things I've ever had to do.
• 13:33
  SPEAKER_00: But that's what self-love looks like sometimes.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's that embodiment.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: And do not get me wrong, yes, you can still like I buy myself flowers, get myself a coffee.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: I just got back from getting my nails done.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: They're looking so much better.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't use that to bypass, like those can be acts of services, gifts, etc.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't use that to bypass how I'm feeling.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like, for example, like right now I'm currently in a tower in tarot.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like, lots of areas of my life are shitting like lots of areas of my life are hit hitting the fan.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: There we go.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm not using my nails to bypass this because I still did the hard work of the self-love of the boundaries I needed to set and the things I needed to do and the releasing, the surrendering, blah blah blah.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: But like, I'm not using the nails to bypass, like, oh, let me get my nails until I feel better and avoid feeling the thing things and looking at the things I need to look.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not using it as a numbing or distraction.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: So ask yourself is this self-love or self-distraction?
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Is this self-love or self-numbing?
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then you will know.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay, guys.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to keep this short and sweet, to the point, juicy.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: This is very pivotal when it comes to being magnetic, when it comes to feeling delicious in your body and activated and confident and like whether it's walking around naked or confident at work when you're speaking up to your boss or attracting money or attracting relationships and feeling love and feeling bliss.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's only when I actually embodied deep self-love and did the hard shit instead of using self-numbing and self-distraction, have you been able to see, you know, all the things I've been able to bring into my life.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I think sometimes people think, Oh, it must be easy for Liv, you know, she you know flies first class and she does this, and you know, she has got all these things, she goes on these trips in this wonderful house, but it's because I do the self-love work, and it's because I do the hard shit and release the shit that I actually am able to bring in all of that, right?
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Because you need to create the space to bring that all in.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: So if this resonates with you, don't forget that goddess activation is open right now.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Depending on where you're listening to this, if it's not, I mean just send me a message and we can figure out something for you.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: So whether it's goddess activation, whether you feel like you want to work one-on-one.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I also have some intuitive alignment sessions opening, which is me and you one-on-one, it's a single session, which is kind of like a different thing than I'm going to be offering.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: So if you don't know where to start, honestly look at goddess activation.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: And then if you're unsure of what is right for you, just send me a DM because I would love to help you because it breaks my heart when I see so many women not loving themselves.
• 16:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I can't tell you how often, like this comes up.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_00: Every person I see, we have to work on this.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're like they come for well-nourished, akashic reading, energy healing, etc.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: They're not setting boundaries, they're people pleasing, they don't love themselves, they have low self-worth, and all of this is tied to your health, it's tied to how you show up in relationships, it's tied to like even things like IBS, fertility, you know, that's your feminine energy.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: Your feminine energy is tied to self-love.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's all tied to even how much money you make, your happiness, how easily you can manifest, like everything comes down to this.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why I created this, was because through one-on-one and well nourished, I noticed that there is like even through my readings, a lack of self-love, a lack of self-worth, people not standing up for themselves, not shining their light.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: And this is like the deep dive program that you need.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_00: So even if you've been in Wellnourished or want like you want some more deep support on self-love, you can still join Goddess Activation.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: We do um some new things in there.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I've had some of you from Wellnourished join so you can go deeper into self-love.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so that is beautiful, beautiful too.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: And if, and like I said, any of this resonates, this is your sign.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: If you've heard this and you're like, oh my god, yes, that would be so expansive for me, then click goddess activation below so you can read up on it and kind of get to know what it's for, what we're gonna do.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: You can have a look at the modules, and there's also some podcast episodes listed listed on the page for you there to listen to too.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: So, well, that being said, I hope this was helpful to you guys.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: I love you guys so, so much.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for always sharing the podcast.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: If you enjoyed it, please share it.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: I would love to help more people.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, my goal for this is to be able to cut through the bullshit, give you guys the real juicy stuff that like I even tell my clients, and the more I can get this out into the world, the more people I can help, and the more people I can help, obviously, the better that is.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because I just want to help.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: I want to help you.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you guys are all having a great day, and I'll see you in my next episode.