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Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables was the bare minimum for the
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Speaker 1: modern man being there for cuddle time.
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Speaker 2: Oh I like that as much as we aren't.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I actually like so.
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Speaker 3: The bare minimum for the modern woman is it's okay
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Speaker 3: to be the big experience.
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Speaker 4: Sometimes you are listening to relatables.
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Speaker 1: Welcome back, everybody to another episode today. I am joined
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Speaker 1: on my right by my better looking, shorter mister Jake Craig.
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Speaker 3: That's started so good, And to my left is the
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Speaker 3: non car door opening for his girlfriend Oddie Clark.
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Speaker 1: Hey, don't expose me straight, I would like to point
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Speaker 1: out they don't.
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Speaker 5: We went out for dinner.
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Speaker 3: Oddie, my girlfriend. Sorry, yeah, Oddie, his girlfriend, me, my girlfriend,
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Speaker 3: and some other friends.
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Speaker 6: We were leaving, okay, I could see. I could see
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Speaker 6: them going to their car, and I could see that
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Speaker 6: he had forgotten, although he never does it, he had
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Speaker 6: forgotten to open her door for her. And then as
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Speaker 6: soon as I noticed she was going to have to
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Speaker 6: open it, it was too late.
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Speaker 2: I had to.
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Speaker 5: Called him out. That's how did to help you?
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Speaker 3: I did, Yeah, so you jump in and open it
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Speaker 3: through the other side, you fucking cheat?
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Speaker 1: Still did it?
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Speaker 5: Wow?
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Speaker 1: I do do it when I pick it up in
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Speaker 1: her house because it's like I remember, because as we're
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Speaker 1: walking out of her house.
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Speaker 5: You get out, Yeah, you see her card office her
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Speaker 5: card off.
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Speaker 3: First, I would like to point out that we went
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Speaker 3: and picked up a puppy, yes the other day, and.
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Speaker 2: We didn't take my car.
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Speaker 3: So my car, I drive a little tiny car do
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Speaker 3: I didn't want to drive a three hours on the
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Speaker 3: freeway and but my car doesn't doesn't have the clickie fob.
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Speaker 3: I have to go manually, and so it works in
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Speaker 3: my advantage because I always remember to open the door
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Speaker 3: for her.
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Speaker 2: Okay, But we used my girlfriend's.
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Speaker 3: Dad's car, and the first, like the morning we were leaving,
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Speaker 3: was the first time we were getting in it. I
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Speaker 3: went over and I realized. I was like, oh, I
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Speaker 3: can open it from here. And I opened it and
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Speaker 3: I had forgot. I was about to go open my
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Speaker 3: door and I forgot, and she also had like forgotten,
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Speaker 3: but I don't know how I did. I quickly locked
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Speaker 3: it again and she tried to open it and it
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Speaker 3: would so I went around.
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Speaker 5: I was like, just be patient, and.
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Speaker 1: So she didn't even know you forgot. I was about
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Speaker 1: to say, your key technique is kind of a cop out.
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Speaker 5: Is it though, because I don't forget no.
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Speaker 1: Because you have to do it anyway. You have to
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Speaker 1: unlock her car.
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Speaker 3: Now, if I unlock my door, it opens all the doors.
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Speaker 3: Oh okay, so I can open So I do still
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Speaker 3: go open her door first.
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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll give you that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, how fun.
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Speaker 1: I'll get better. But today I wanted to start things
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Speaker 1: with what's the bare minimum for the modern man?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: And I thought, because things are changing in society, the
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Speaker 1: standard for men is very different. Yeah, so I thought
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Speaker 1: we could compose a bit of a list to help
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Speaker 1: the dudes out there.
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Speaker 3: I think that I think there's there is some some
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Speaker 3: women out there that are saying like, no, no, no.
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Speaker 2: I need I need more than the bare minimum.
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Speaker 3: All right, So we would like to give you, guys,
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Speaker 3: guys and girls the bare minimum, so you know that
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Speaker 3: that's what you deserve.
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Speaker 1: And more exactly. Yeah, you want to start on me,
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Speaker 1: you go first. Okay, what's the bare minimum for the
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Speaker 1: modern man? Planning romantic dates? Often? Hey, I like that simple.
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Speaker 2: It's not hard.
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Speaker 1: It's not hard.
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Speaker 3: It's really okay if you really think about it. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: some guys are just like, oh, I don't like doing that.
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Speaker 3: I mean I think, who doesn't actually enjoy going out for.
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Speaker 2: A nice dinner?
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Speaker 1: And you're also not doing it for them?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not doing it for yourself for them, And
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Speaker 3: this is what you do TikTok nice nice restaurants wherever
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Speaker 3: you live in my area.
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Speaker 2: Someone's made a.
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Speaker 3: Video about it online book two weeks, five minutes maximum.
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Speaker 1: And who doesn't like nice food?
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Speaker 5: I love the.
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Speaker 2: Act of actually going out, getting dressed.
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Speaker 5: Up together, looking good together, Yeah, gassing each other.
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Speaker 1: Exactly.
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Speaker 3: I've got a couple. I've got a few simple ones
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Speaker 3: and a few like a little bit more intricate. But
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna go simple first, the bare minimum for the
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Speaker 3: modern man.
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Speaker 2: Buy her flowers?
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Speaker 1: Love it?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 5: Simple?
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Speaker 1: And again I've got the similar one I said, grocery shopping.
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Speaker 1: Flowers are little gifts here and there randomly, just pick
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Speaker 1: them up. It's not hard, it's not hard at all.
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Speaker 5: And it's always like, yeah, but what's she gonna get me?
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Speaker 2: What's the guy version of flowers?
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Speaker 5: You know what? Fucking nothing? We don't need that ship.
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Speaker 1: That's a great point.
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Speaker 5: Honestly, we've done it before. We've asked everyone what's the
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Speaker 5: guy with fucking nothing?
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Speaker 1: Just fair? I like that one. What's the bare minimum
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Speaker 1: for the modern man? Being an emotiontional outlet for your girl?
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Speaker 3: Oh, when she's venting, no logical solutions, all right, no
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Speaker 3: logical solutions, be there emotionally yes, be there emotionally bare
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Speaker 3: minimum for the modern man. Look at what face creams
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Speaker 3: and other ship she uses? All right, and buy her
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Speaker 3: a double to have in your bathroom.
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Speaker 5: Wow, pack atoletry's bag all the time.
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Speaker 1: That's so smart, that's all. Imagine you did that.
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Speaker 3: And then in your bathroom she's you're at her house,
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Speaker 3: maybe she's packing a bag to come to your house,
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Speaker 3: and you're and she's and she's packing up. You're like, well,
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Speaker 3: you don't need that. You don't need that, you don't
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Speaker 3: need that. She's like why, and she's like, I have
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Speaker 3: it at my house for you.
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Speaker 1: The only thing with that sometimes it's very very expensive
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Speaker 1: that stuff.
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Speaker 5: I'm talking just like face creams, like face wash.
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Speaker 1: I would even just say toothbrush and toothpaste.
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Speaker 2: Stuff like that. Yeah, just simple things. I wouldn't go. Look,
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Speaker 2: I'm thinking like if it's if it's over thirty bucks,
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Speaker 2: if you.
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Speaker 1: Really loves it, some of those creams get us like
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Speaker 1: two hundred dollars.
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Speaker 2: It's crazy.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you got that kills. Shit, I'm not paying I'm
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Speaker 5: not playing for kills.
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Speaker 1: What's the bare minimum for the modern man? Kind of
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Speaker 1: goes in hand with the last one. Being in touch
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Speaker 1: with your emotions. Yeah, being able to talk about how
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Speaker 1: you feel. Yeah, that's a big struggle for a lot
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Speaker 1: of guys.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, sometimes it's a little scary. I think the
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Speaker 3: biggest thing for me is the one thing that makes
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Speaker 3: me not want to talk about feelings, Like, one of
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Speaker 3: the biggest things is that I just.
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Speaker 2: I'm so I'm.
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Speaker 3: A little bit scared about how they will react because
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Speaker 3: I don't want to word it improperly.
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Speaker 2: Oh you know what I mean, not being able to
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Speaker 2: articulate it. I don't want to. I don't ever want
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Speaker 2: to be like, oh you do this.
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Speaker 1: I might even changed being in touch with your feelings
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Speaker 1: to trying to be in touch with your feelings.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I think it's the effort in trying to talk about
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Speaker 1: your feelings and they should appreciate that even if you
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Speaker 1: do spit it out wrong.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, agreed. Bare minimum for the modern man, when.
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Speaker 5: At a restaurant pull her chair out for her is
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Speaker 5: that it that's it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, just agree, gentlemen, be a gentleman and pulled the chair.
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Speaker 1: Agree. What is it when you're growing up as a dude.
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Speaker 1: I don't know what goes on in your mind. It's
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Speaker 1: not Is it not cool? Like when I was eighteen
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Speaker 1: nineteen twenty, There's no way in the world I'll be
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Speaker 1: doing something like that. Is it because I'm not confident?
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Speaker 1: I honestly think it's because I didn't know. But I
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Speaker 1: knew the thing of romantics, Like you pull the chair.
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Speaker 1: I knew the chair.
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Speaker 3: I don't think I've ever been afraid to do that.
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Speaker 3: I think I just always forget. I've never I've never
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Speaker 3: thought that. I think I was afraid. No, I was afraid.
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Speaker 3: I don't think I was never afraid. I was just
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Speaker 3: always I just forgot it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's funny.
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Speaker 3: It's also a little bit awkward as well, because it's like,
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Speaker 3: so when you pull it out and she sits down,
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Speaker 3: do you then.
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Speaker 5: Help her push it back in or do you just
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Speaker 5: let her screoch in on her own.
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Speaker 1: I've seen Russ from friends do it and he like
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Speaker 1: skeoches you back in and it looks so awkward. We
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Speaker 1: don't want to be like, what's the bare minimum for
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Speaker 1: the modern man? Being there for cuddle time?
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Speaker 2: Oh I like that as much as we aren't.
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Speaker 5: I mean, I actually like light cuddle so.
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Speaker 1: I'm hidden miss. Yeah, I'm sometimes there for it, sometimes not,
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Speaker 1: but being there for them because they like cut of time.
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Speaker 1: It's sort of the thing they grow funder when they're together. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's in those moments of cuddling, whereas where grow funder
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Speaker 1: when we're apart.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, agreed, I do agree with you.
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Speaker 3: I'm a big fan of though, Like I don't know,
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Speaker 3: just kind of you're a bit of a big teddy bear. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: just kind of liked, I don't know, just acting like
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Speaker 3: a baby almost like.
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Speaker 1: You should add on yours. The bare minimum for the
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Speaker 1: modern man, It's okay to be the little spoon.
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Speaker 2: It's okay to be.
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Speaker 5: The bare minimum for the modern woman. Is it's okay
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Speaker 5: to be the big spoon?
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Speaker 3: Sometimes bare minimum for the modern man. When you're done
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Speaker 3: your meal at the restaurant and she has a few
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Speaker 3: bites left because you're always going to finish before her, Yeah,
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Speaker 3: you say you need the bathroom, but you actually go
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Speaker 3: pay the bill.
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Speaker 1: Yours are like just cheeky, little things that are really smart.
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Speaker 1: That's really good because normally they're like, oh, no, i'll
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Speaker 1: pay this, you want to split it, let's avoid the awkwardness.
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Speaker 3: And then like basically, when you come back from the
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Speaker 3: toilet she's done, you just like, hew, you're ready to go.
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Speaker 2: And then you get up to go and she goes,
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Speaker 2: what about the billing?
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Speaker 1: Sort of you know, that's one thing wrong with that me.
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Speaker 1: If she goes, what about the bill, I'll be like,
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Speaker 1: let's run. I just paid it, so she like, but
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Speaker 1: then I seem like a bad boy. True.
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Speaker 2: True, he also looks cheap.
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Speaker 1: Oh no, bad boy overrules. The cheapness was the bare
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Speaker 1: minimum for the modern man. Knowing what you want in your.
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Speaker 3: Future, oh boy, that's such a good point. Every guy's
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Speaker 3: kind of like, I don't know what I want. I'm
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Speaker 3: going with the flow.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, the word.
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Speaker 2: The girls don't They don't like that.
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Speaker 3: No, they just want to know that They at least
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Speaker 3: want to know if you plan to get married one day,
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Speaker 3: you want kids, and you want to buy a house
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Speaker 3: or something like, just the simple things.
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Speaker 1: And even if you don't tell them like say I
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Speaker 1: don't want to have kids, yeah, yeah, be honest. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: from the start, I don't be like, oh, I don't know,
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Speaker 1: you know, like you'll see what happens.
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Speaker 2: I actually really like that.
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Speaker 3: That's a really good one because I'm definitely guilty of
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Speaker 3: doing it in the past, Like I don't know, I don't.
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Speaker 5: Know I'm going to be in two months, I don't
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Speaker 5: know where I'm going to be in year.
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Speaker 2: You're just giving them all this like you're gonna be
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Speaker 2: with me, even.
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Speaker 1: I've never realized used to do that as well. It's like,
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Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm doing this week. Yeah, I
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Speaker 1: don't even know what to have for breakfast? Was like,
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Speaker 1: all right, bare minimum for the modern man? Tell us
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Speaker 1: she looks beautiful, Yes, you are beautiful. Tell her she
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Speaker 1: looks beautiful man, pretty beautiful, stunning, gorgeous, smart, anything like that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: let's go intellectual as well.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's go smart, impressive. I'm proud of you. I'm
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Speaker 3: proud to be your boyfriend.
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Speaker 1: I'm lucky to be both. I'm lucky to be your boyfriend.
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Speaker 2: I admire you all that different stuff.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love you. Rolls off the tongue. Dude, what's
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Speaker 1: the bare minimum for the modern man being able to
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Speaker 1: take candid photos of them without the masking.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sorry.
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Speaker 5: I would like to say, yes, that is something that
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Speaker 5: you should be able to do.
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Speaker 3: Try again with the try at least it's the effort
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Speaker 3: being put in.
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Speaker 2: That they will like.
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Speaker 3: They will like the effort. And if they say, oh,
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Speaker 3: what are you taking photos for? Maybe and like just
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Speaker 3: be like, just say that you want.
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Speaker 2: Them for you.
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Speaker 3: Because I have a theory and I'm really sticking to
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Speaker 3: it that girls tell you that the photos you take
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Speaker 3: are bad and you have to take a million of
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Speaker 3: them purely because you're a boy and social media has
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Speaker 3: told them the boys can't take photos. I tend to agree,
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Speaker 3: because I swear to God, what I really want to
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Speaker 3: do is get me to take a photo her best
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Speaker 3: friend to take a photo, all right, the exact same one,
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Speaker 3: all right, and I want and she's gonna like the
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Speaker 3: best friends one for some reason, and she's gonna hate mine,
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Speaker 3: exact same photo.
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Speaker 2: Bare minimum for the modern man. Send her funny memes.
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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, it's like another level to the relationship, and
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Speaker 1: and reply to her.
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Speaker 3: You should have put that one. Reply to her memes
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Speaker 3: another one bare minim for the modern man. When she
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Speaker 3: sends you a text message of two questions in a row.
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Speaker 3: Answer both of them. Don't just answer the most recent one.
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Speaker 1: Have you been caught out doing that?
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Speaker 2: Yes?
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Speaker 5: I fucking suck at that.
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Speaker 1: I need to answer both because on text on my message,
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Speaker 1: you can like click up the thing reply to this one.
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty look, I'm pretty good at it.
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Speaker 5: I'm good at it.
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Speaker 2: The person I'm not good at it with is my sister.
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Speaker 2: So at least it doesn't matter.
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Speaker 1: What's the bare minimum for the modern man making an
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Speaker 1: effort with their friends, Oh, to know them ship.
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Speaker 2: That's a good one, I would say, I'm I lack
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Speaker 2: in that area.
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Speaker 1: I think so too a little bit. It's just like,
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Speaker 1: as a guy, I can definitely do better. It's just
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Speaker 1: like I don't know, just I don't know why we
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Speaker 1: don't do it. Yeah, I don't have an answer.
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Speaker 3: I kind of want just making an effort of you
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Speaker 3: want to be part of their life.
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Speaker 1: I guess it's not just being there, being present.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, if they have no friends and come lucky, I'm
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Speaker 3: the only friend.
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Speaker 2: My last one is bare minimum for the modern man.
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Speaker 2: Just use your brain.
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Speaker 3: Use just in the situation you're in, just just use
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Speaker 3: your brain.
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Speaker 2: Please.
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Speaker 1: It's there for a reason.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have it for a reason. You know right
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Speaker 2: from wrong.
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Speaker 3: You know what's disrespectful, you know what's going to make
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Speaker 3: her happy, you know what's going to make her sad.
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Speaker 2: Just use it.
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Speaker 1: That's funny. Jake's last one was kind of very responsible. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: my one, on the other hand, what's the bare minimum
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Speaker 1: for the modern man being able to make each other finish?
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Speaker 5: Oh?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, hopefully, hopefully, try try That's all you can do. Okay?
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Speaker 1: Up next is girl next door or man eater? Jake,
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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you to clarify what is a
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Speaker 1: man eater? What is a man eater? Okay?
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Speaker 3: A man eater is someone that looks like they're gonna
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Speaker 3: eat you up, spit you out, and break your heart.
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Speaker 2: All right, That's what a man eater is.
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Speaker 1: And the girl next door is a.
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Speaker 3: Girl next door is like I would say, you know
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Speaker 3: that there's a song, a Taylor Swift song where it's
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Speaker 3: like she wears shorts.
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Speaker 2: Skirts, I wear t shirts, She's.
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Speaker 3: Cheer captain and I'm on the bleachers. In that song,
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Speaker 3: Taylor Swift is the girl next door and.
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Speaker 2: She is the man eater. The girl that she says
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Speaker 2: is she she's.
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Speaker 1: Describing and what we do on YouTube is get sending
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Speaker 1: a couple of pictures and we've got to figure out
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Speaker 1: whether or not they are a girl next door a
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Speaker 1: man eater. So if you want some visuals, on over
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Speaker 1: to YouTube. Otherwise the episode is going to be the same.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 1: Up next is the lemmas sent in by you guys,
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Speaker 1: and this one's title is Juicy Tea Alert. Last year
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Speaker 1: my brother's twenty first I got tipsy and ended up
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Speaker 1: hooking up with a mutual friend. Before things got heated,
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Speaker 1: I asked if he still had a girlfriend and he
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Speaker 1: said no, but the next morning he confessed he had lied.
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Speaker 1: Now he occasionally messages me begging for a repeat performance
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Speaker 1: because it was in quotes so good. I've told him
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Speaker 1: to back off unless he's single, but he's been persistent
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Speaker 1: until recently. Fast forward till today. He and his girlfriend
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Speaker 1: are no longer together, but still expecting a baby in November.
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Speaker 1: So do I spill the tea and tell his girlfriend
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Speaker 1: about his antics, potentially wrecking his future family plans? Or
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Speaker 1: do I just sit on the door, she said? Or
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Speaker 1: do I just sip on the tee and stay out
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Speaker 1: of it. I have zero interest in him sexually, anymore,
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Speaker 1: But I can't help, but wonder if I'm the only
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Speaker 1: one he's been getting cozy up to. What's your take? Whoa?
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Speaker 1: We wait?
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Speaker 3: Okay, they're not together anymore, the guy and the girl.
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Speaker 1: No, but they got a baby, so like potentially there's
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Speaker 1: a family going on there.
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Speaker 3: Look, because they're not together. Depending on how it ended,
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Speaker 3: she may have caught him cheating with someone else anyway,
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Speaker 3: and it's ended, I would say, does this girl say
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Speaker 3: she knows the girl?
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Speaker 1: No?
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Speaker 2: I ah, okay?
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Speaker 1: Should she just stay out of it?
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Speaker 3: You slept with him one night out, you didn't know
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Speaker 3: we had a girlfriend, and then it come out that
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Speaker 3: he had a girlfriend. Really you kind of if you
16:46
Speaker 3: were going to tell her, you really could have should
16:48
Speaker 3: have told her it's yeah, exact instead.
16:50
Speaker 2: Of waiting till now. But that she have a right
16:52
Speaker 2: to know is.
16:52
Speaker 1: The girlfriend who's having her baby his baby?
16:55
Speaker 2: But I mean, because they're not together.
16:57
Speaker 1: No, she just sit on it.
17:01
Speaker 5: Should she sit on it again? I'm kidding, I'm kidding,
17:05
Speaker 5: Im kidding on getting on kidding.
17:07
Speaker 1: Should she sip on the tea as she would say.
17:12
Speaker 2: If I was her?
17:13
Speaker 1: Okay, so I've just had sex with this guy and
17:15
Speaker 1: as he would say, round of applause was great, he's
17:22
Speaker 1: asking to do it again. I'm like, no, you're taking
17:24
Speaker 1: like this is the wrong thing to do. I found
17:25
Speaker 1: out fast forward. I find out they've broken up and
17:28
Speaker 1: they're having a kid together. But I feel like there's
17:30
Speaker 1: something in me that just wants to tell this girl
17:32
Speaker 1: what a dad of the child's going to has been doing.
17:37
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe if you should tell her in case they
17:39
Speaker 1: do get back together in the future, I say leave it,
17:43
Speaker 1: you reckon, leave it.
17:43
Speaker 3: I say leave it, because if there's a chance for
17:45
Speaker 3: me to get back together in the future, that means
17:47
Speaker 3: that kid's going to have a non broken family.
17:50
Speaker 1: Good point, I would say, leave it. I am agreeing.
17:53
Speaker 3: It's unfortunately he's a shit dude, yes, but now there's
17:55
Speaker 3: a kid involved.
17:56
Speaker 1: I agree the benefit of the kid. Yeah, leave it.
17:58
Speaker 2: Definitely leave it.
17:59
Speaker 1: Leave it. Simple as that. Okay, up next, guys. We
18:09
Speaker 1: often preach for a man to be in touch with
18:12
Speaker 1: their feelings and be an emotional outlet for their girl.
18:16
Speaker 3: Yeah, and Addie and I I wouldn't say we're the
18:19
Speaker 3: most in touch of our feelings, but we do.
18:20
Speaker 1: We do well. We preach trying and that's what we're
18:23
Speaker 1: going to do right now, So we're both going to
18:25
Speaker 1: say a time when we've both been hurt in.
18:29
Speaker 3: Life, and I would like to point out so we
18:32
Speaker 3: get a lot of dilemmas about it. So I think
18:36
Speaker 3: it's kind of like a cool It would be someone
18:39
Speaker 3: that has a dilemma sitting that we may not have
18:40
Speaker 3: read yet that's about them being hurt and maybe hearing
18:43
Speaker 3: about us being hurt and then how we dealt with
18:46
Speaker 3: it or how we didn't deal with it good or
18:49
Speaker 3: or something.
18:49
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, that's just opening up
18:52
Speaker 1: a little bit. And hopefully I've never said mine, really
18:55
Speaker 1: what he's going to go first? Yeah? Thanks, Okay, A
19:00
Speaker 1: time when I've been hurt. It's quite recent really, So
19:04
Speaker 1: I've mentioned on the podcast before that my dad has
19:09
Speaker 1: prostate cancer and there was a period of time there
19:14
Speaker 1: where he wasn't looking that good. And however, right now
19:18
Speaker 1: he's actually in remission and there's not many symptoms, almost
19:21
Speaker 1: point zero, which is really really good. But there was
19:23
Speaker 1: a period of time there where it wasn't looking good
19:26
Speaker 1: and on the cards were a timeframe of how long
19:29
Speaker 1: you'd have left to live, and in my head I
19:32
Speaker 1: was thinking there's no I was dwelling in my head
19:37
Speaker 1: that I might lose my dad, and I don't think
19:39
Speaker 1: there's any way, like any person can ever prepare for that.
19:43
Speaker 1: And when I was really hurt, it was just like
19:46
Speaker 1: thinking of what life would be like without him. So
19:49
Speaker 1: my dilemma hasn't really happened yet, but it's something that
19:52
Speaker 1: every person will eventually have to go through, and I
19:54
Speaker 1: don't think they can prepare for it. And I don't
19:56
Speaker 1: think as a son, there's probably not another man the
20:00
Speaker 1: world I look up to rely on and he's a
20:03
Speaker 1: shoulder to lean on other than there's no other person
20:06
Speaker 1: I like admire one dad, Yeah, as much as my dad,
20:10
Speaker 1: And I'd never have the I've never had the thought
20:12
Speaker 1: before of like, what's my life going to be like
20:15
Speaker 1: when my dad's not here?
20:16
Speaker 2: Do you think about that? Do you know?
20:18
Speaker 1: And I'm really really sad, And every time I think
20:20
Speaker 1: about it even brings my eyes to a little bit
20:22
Speaker 1: of a water because I'm.
20:24
Speaker 2: Like, it's nearly a reality.
20:26
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was nearly a reality, and I'm not prepared
20:29
Speaker 1: for it, and I don't think anyone ever can be
20:30
Speaker 1: prepared for it. And I was just like, fuck, like
20:32
Speaker 1: this is just like life, like everyone goes through it
20:35
Speaker 1: and everyone gets through it, but like I don't want
20:37
Speaker 1: to face that anytime.
20:38
Speaker 2: Soon, honestly.
20:40
Speaker 5: No.
20:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is inside. I feel like, can you even.
20:44
Speaker 5: Even let's say, when you're older, do you reckon you're
20:46
Speaker 5: ever ready for it?
20:48
Speaker 1: That's what I thought. I was like, surely everyone's parents
20:50
Speaker 1: die and like when they're like thirty and then it happens.
20:54
Speaker 1: But I don't think you can prepare for it. Like
20:56
Speaker 1: I'm twenty four almost and I'm just like twenty fourth
20:59
Speaker 1: too early. Yeah, I think so, But it happens to
21:01
Speaker 1: a lot of people. We've had friends who's lost their parents.
21:03
Speaker 3: We've got yeah, we've got quite a few actually, think
21:07
Speaker 3: like five friends, I think, so some of them have
21:10
Speaker 3: lost their parents and then some of them have parents
21:12
Speaker 3: with it.
21:13
Speaker 1: And I was just I was just thinking to myself.
21:15
Speaker 1: I was like, there's no possible way I can ever
21:17
Speaker 1: be ready for this. No, And it made me really
21:20
Speaker 1: sad to like what life would be like without this
21:22
Speaker 1: man in my life?
21:23
Speaker 2: Yeah? Fuck man.
21:25
Speaker 1: So he's my message would takeaway. Just tell the people
21:28
Speaker 1: around you love them and make the most of them
21:30
Speaker 1: while they're here, because they're not here forether you prostrate checked. Yeah, yeah,
21:33
Speaker 1: that's a good thing for men, even though we don't
21:34
Speaker 1: have a lot of men listening get checked early. I'm
21:36
Speaker 1: going to have to because it's genetic.
21:37
Speaker 2: It's a genetic thing. Yeah, so when when will you
21:39
Speaker 2: get checked?
21:40
Speaker 1: When you get checked at thirty? But I even might
21:41
Speaker 1: get it earlier.
21:42
Speaker 2: I could.
21:42
Speaker 3: I could have sworn that it was up to like fifty.
21:46
Speaker 2: Now really I could be wrong, but all the a.
21:51
Speaker 1: Lot of things with cancer, if you get it early,
21:53
Speaker 1: you can treat it. You can Yeah yeah, yeah, so yeah.
21:57
Speaker 3: Right, Well that's that's that's something you know about Audi
22:01
Speaker 3: now this is Yeah, that's the thing. We kind of
22:03
Speaker 3: I feel like we wanted to be some some sort
22:05
Speaker 3: of personal on the podcast. Yeah, mine would be this is.
22:11
Speaker 3: It's also very personal.
22:13
Speaker 2: It's like but it's like I don't know, it's kind
22:15
Speaker 2: of like part of I guess.
22:17
Speaker 1: My life, and.
22:21
Speaker 3: Like, because it also happened to me, I think it's
22:24
Speaker 3: like I should be allowed to talk about it. I'm
22:28
Speaker 3: going to go in like a series of events almost
22:31
Speaker 3: so Audi and I went traveling up. I think I
22:35
Speaker 3: think I've told you you're gonna know what I'm saying
22:38
Speaker 3: for the first bit, and I think I have told
22:39
Speaker 3: you the second bit. So Audi and I went traveling
22:44
Speaker 3: up the East Coast, Australia, and.
22:46
Speaker 2: When we left, I had a girlfriend, and.
22:51
Speaker 3: I was just like probably pretty young, pretty dumb, pretty immature,
22:56
Speaker 3: and I just.
22:57
Speaker 2: Wanted to go traveling with body and then and also
23:01
Speaker 2: didn't like want to have a timeframe and when I'd
23:03
Speaker 2: be home.
23:04
Speaker 3: And so this is what I was telling her as well,
23:06
Speaker 3: Like I was, I was being pretty fucking bad boyfriend
23:09
Speaker 3: of the sense of like I'm leaving and I don't
23:11
Speaker 3: know when I'm coming back. And COVID was happening pretty
23:17
Speaker 3: heavily down here where we are, and we were running
23:20
Speaker 3: away from it almost we were getting pretty lucky. And
23:23
Speaker 3: so we were traveling and then I stayed together for
23:26
Speaker 3: the first couple of weeks, and then we got to
23:28
Speaker 3: a place up near Early Beach or no, up pretty
23:31
Speaker 3: fun north somewhere, and she ended up giving me an
23:35
Speaker 3: ultimatum like either either come home or we're fucking breaking up,
23:38
Speaker 3: and so I was like, well, I don't want to come.
23:40
Speaker 2: Home, and and so then for the first so.
23:43
Speaker 3: We broke up, and like I think I was like,
23:46
Speaker 3: I was like sad, but also like our relationship had slowly.
23:48
Speaker 2: Been coming to an end. Like I look back at
23:50
Speaker 2: it now and I.
23:51
Speaker 3: Don't like I mean, I wouldn't say a cringe, but
23:53
Speaker 3: I just look back at it now and I'm just
23:54
Speaker 3: like we knew, one hundred percent. We knew, and it's
23:58
Speaker 3: just funny to think how young and we were to
24:00
Speaker 3: hold onto it and not realize.
24:02
Speaker 2: But this is what you're doing.
24:03
Speaker 1: You always do that, when you hold onto it for
24:05
Speaker 1: as long as possible.
24:06
Speaker 2: I suppose that's just what you do.
24:07
Speaker 1: Yeah, first love, first proper love.
24:08
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely thought so.
24:11
Speaker 3: Ah So then after a few weeks of us breaking up,
24:18
Speaker 3: I don't even know, like I was sweet for a
24:21
Speaker 3: while and then I can't say how it happened, but
24:27
Speaker 3: I just it's like a fucking literal switch in my
24:31
Speaker 3: brain flicked all of a sudden, missed her, and then
24:36
Speaker 3: I have a feeling what happened was I think she
24:39
Speaker 3: just messaged mey saying like hey, after a couple of weeks,
24:41
Speaker 3: like hey, how.
24:41
Speaker 2: Are you, and the like that's what I must I
24:45
Speaker 2: guess must have flicked the switch.
24:46
Speaker 1: I remember, like your demeanor is a complete shift, like
24:49
Speaker 1: it was weird, happy and bubbly like traveling and then
24:52
Speaker 1: you're like, oh fuck, And I could see it. I
24:55
Speaker 1: saw the change in you.
24:55
Speaker 2: Yeah.
24:56
Speaker 3: It was just I cannot even explain it, because so
25:00
Speaker 3: then all of a sudden, I had this feeling of
25:02
Speaker 3: missing her and thinking I fucked up. And then and
25:07
Speaker 3: like randomly was like I'd rather be traveling, like I
25:09
Speaker 3: don't know, I'd rather fucking her, like fly up, I
25:12
Speaker 3: don't know.
25:13
Speaker 2: It was dumb.
25:13
Speaker 3: And then and then so I called my step mom
25:18
Speaker 3: and I was talking to her about it because I've
25:20
Speaker 3: grown up with divorced parents, so I've had this skew
25:23
Speaker 3: if view on it for the longest time, and like
25:26
Speaker 3: if you're marriage and all that, and I thought that
25:28
Speaker 3: I didn't want to be with anyone forever. I had
25:29
Speaker 3: that whole thought process that we get dilemmas all the
25:31
Speaker 3: time of like, oh, do I need to break up
25:33
Speaker 3: with the person I'm with now because it doesn't really
25:35
Speaker 3: work out when you're young in twenty and then do
25:37
Speaker 3: I need to be alone for a while and grow
25:39
Speaker 3: and then get in a relationship when I'm later in
25:40
Speaker 3: my twenties and and then that's going to work out
25:43
Speaker 3: because I have more life experience, like that's what that's
25:45
Speaker 3: what my mindset was.
25:46
Speaker 2: And so then I think she like I was on
25:48
Speaker 2: the phone, my step mom was crying, and.
25:51
Speaker 3: She was just like, hey, you just got to do
25:52
Speaker 3: what you fucking want to do, Like if you want
25:54
Speaker 3: to get back together, whether it just say you want
25:55
Speaker 3: to get back together, what do whatever you want to do.
25:56
Speaker 2: She was like, she was good about it, and so.
25:58
Speaker 3: Then I I think, Okay, I told my girlfriend I
26:01
Speaker 3: want to get back together. She was like, oh, I
26:03
Speaker 3: don't know my ex girlfriend. So I told my ex
26:06
Speaker 3: girlfriend I will get back and she's like, oh, I don't know.
26:08
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, I'll come home and I
26:10
Speaker 3: don't want to see you. So I had just said
26:11
Speaker 3: to ODDI don't want to go home, which sucked. And
26:13
Speaker 3: then Addie was fucking so good about.
26:14
Speaker 2: It, and then went home, like drove back down, went home.
26:20
Speaker 2: And then when I.
26:21
Speaker 3: Got home, I told her I was home and she
26:25
Speaker 3: was like, oh, I'm going through COVID. She was staying
26:29
Speaker 3: at a family friend's place that she'd known since she
26:31
Speaker 3: was like born and never thought of him as a threat,
26:35
Speaker 3: by the way, and so she goes, okay, like cool, whatever,
26:44
Speaker 3: and she went and she was staying there for the week.
26:46
Speaker 3: So I got home for a full week I didn't
26:48
Speaker 3: see her, and then she finally came home and we
26:52
Speaker 3: saw each other blah blah blah blah, hung out and
26:55
Speaker 3: then in the end, like it was, she just was
26:57
Speaker 3: like she just didn't want to and so I ended
26:59
Speaker 3: up being like really heartbreaking from it from the breakup.
27:03
Speaker 3: And then I think we were home for a while
27:06
Speaker 3: just fucking. It was maybe a month had maybe a
27:10
Speaker 3: month after I was home or something like that, and
27:12
Speaker 3: I do remember this is what happened. Someone had messaged
27:17
Speaker 3: me on Instagram as in like a kind of like
27:20
Speaker 3: it wasn't her, it was just like a girl he
27:21
Speaker 3: had messed with Instagram, and I was messaging you about
27:24
Speaker 3: it and I said, I'm just not sure if I
27:27
Speaker 3: want to go through with anything yet out of respect
27:29
Speaker 3: for X person, my ex girlfriend. And then Audie goes
27:33
Speaker 3: I think, I don't know if you said this, but
27:35
Speaker 3: he was kind of like, nah, fucked that bitch.
27:36
Speaker 2: I got something to tell you.
27:38
Speaker 1: I remember that. He was like, oh no, I don't remember.
27:42
Speaker 5: He was like, she's been sleeping this guy from Sydney,
27:44
Speaker 5: and I was like.
27:45
Speaker 7: Oh no, I was so because I found out they
27:48
Speaker 7: found out, and I didn't tell you because I knew
27:51
Speaker 7: would break her. And then this girl, like this pretty girl,
27:54
Speaker 7: like I said, she wanted to hang out with you,
27:55
Speaker 7: and You're like, oh, I can't do it out of respect.
27:58
Speaker 3: And then I was like that, fuck yeah, I'm telling him.
28:03
Speaker 2: And so then all he told me, you know, I
28:04
Speaker 2: was made it worse. I was like heartbroken, heartbroken.
28:07
Speaker 5: I needed to hear it.
28:08
Speaker 1: Obviously.
28:08
Speaker 3: I was like I was like heartbroken, heartbroken, and so
28:12
Speaker 3: and then after it was like that was really I
28:17
Speaker 3: would say, that's like the most heartbroken I've bin.
28:20
Speaker 2: I remember telling.
28:21
Speaker 3: My parents and like cause I just knew that there
28:24
Speaker 3: was no way I was going to be able to
28:25
Speaker 3: like hide how fucking depressed I felt. And so I
28:28
Speaker 3: remember telling my parents what happened. That was so they knew,
28:30
Speaker 3: and then it was just kind of like they were
28:33
Speaker 3: just like, yeah, fuck, it is what it is, Like
28:35
Speaker 3: they're supportive, and I was just like, you're actually is
28:37
Speaker 3: what it is.
28:38
Speaker 2: And so I just ended up going about my days
28:40
Speaker 2: or whatever, and I.
28:41
Speaker 3: Just and it was just like fucking I just would
28:45
Speaker 3: like it's the most heart wrenching thing. And then so
28:51
Speaker 3: A few months went by and we got up to
28:52
Speaker 3: Christmas and I was still like getting over it. Ah,
28:59
Speaker 3: I definitely there's nowhere near over her. This is twenty
29:03
Speaker 3: twenty war and so twenty twenty one.
29:09
Speaker 1: And then.
29:11
Speaker 3: I found out that she started dating the guy and
29:13
Speaker 3: I was like, holy shit. I was like, how did
29:15
Speaker 3: you move on so quick? I was like, this is crazy.
29:17
Speaker 3: I was like in my head, I was like, you
29:18
Speaker 3: know what, fuck, I hope that does not.
29:19
Speaker 2: Work out for you.
29:20
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, it doesn't work out. I was like,
29:22
Speaker 5: you've moved on too quick. I doesn't work out for you.
29:24
Speaker 5: Blah blah blah.
29:25
Speaker 3: So basically I was like heartbroken neck. I couldn't sleep
29:28
Speaker 3: for the longest time because the heartbroken the first time.
29:31
Speaker 3: And then I was starting to get good and then
29:32
Speaker 3: I find out she starts dating this guy again. I
29:34
Speaker 3: went through a few weeks of just shitty sleep. I
29:36
Speaker 3: was sleeping shit, heartbroken.
29:38
Speaker 2: And then.
29:40
Speaker 3: My sister came to visit Australia for Christmas. And this
29:49
Speaker 3: is the part that I was unsure about telling on
29:52
Speaker 3: the podcast. My mom, for like a lot of my life,
29:57
Speaker 3: has struggled with addiction, and when my sister came for
30:06
Speaker 3: she came from Canada. When she came, she came out
30:10
Speaker 3: and then just I remember, like, so it was still
30:12
Speaker 3: kind of fresh heartbreak. It's for the second round of
30:15
Speaker 3: it finding out a daintly guy. And then my sister
30:19
Speaker 3: comes in. Like the day after my sister comes, she
30:21
Speaker 3: comes out to where I was stat we're vothing at
30:22
Speaker 3: my parents' house. She comes into my room, she was like,
30:24
Speaker 3: have you spoken to Mum?
30:26
Speaker 5: And I was like what.
30:28
Speaker 3: I was like no, She's like, oh, I was messaging
30:30
Speaker 3: her She's and she's like fucking going on about how
30:37
Speaker 3: she misses us, and then she's so sorry for everything
30:40
Speaker 3: she's done to us, and I was like what. And
30:44
Speaker 3: then she goes And then I tried to call her
30:45
Speaker 3: and tell everything's all good, but she won't answer. She
30:47
Speaker 3: won't reply, and Johanna said that in the message, she
30:52
Speaker 3: implied like she's going to miss us, and I was
30:55
Speaker 3: like what. And so Johanna thinks that she's going to
30:59
Speaker 3: fucking kill herself m and so I started freaking out.
31:03
Speaker 3: And for the longest time, I've had like a bit
31:04
Speaker 3: of a broken relationship with her because I just have
31:06
Speaker 3: like struggled to forgive, struggled to forget and like I
31:09
Speaker 3: do sometimes like I'm sure anyone that has the same thing.
31:11
Speaker 2: He's like knows what I mean by like you'd love him.
31:12
Speaker 3: Because you love him, but sometimes you're just like why
31:14
Speaker 3: the fuck can you not get it under control? But
31:17
Speaker 3: I remember trying to get a hold of my mom
31:18
Speaker 3: and I was like fucking tried to call on her
31:21
Speaker 3: and call on her and call on her Facebook and shit,
31:22
Speaker 3: and she finally answered. She's like crying on the phone,
31:26
Speaker 3: and I just remember being like I genuinely, genuinely was like,
31:30
Speaker 3: oh fuck, like my Mom's gonna kill herself because she's
31:32
Speaker 3: just like relapsed and just can't handle it. And so
31:36
Speaker 3: then eventually like we got a hold of my aunt
31:38
Speaker 3: he that lives in the same town. She went over
31:39
Speaker 3: there and she found her and like my Mom's still alive,
31:41
Speaker 3: like she's all good. Yeah, But like I just fucking
31:44
Speaker 3: remembered that mixed with the heartbreak. I remember it breaking
31:49
Speaker 3: me and Joanna, my older sister. She was kind of
31:52
Speaker 3: all good after that, but I remember like I like
31:56
Speaker 3: was walking around, I was like having like heart palpitations,
31:58
Speaker 3: and I went and I sat down like in this
32:00
Speaker 3: weird like part of my parents' yard like hidden, and
32:03
Speaker 3: I just like fucking cried for like ten minutes, and
32:05
Speaker 3: I was like, what is going on? And then my
32:08
Speaker 3: dad eventually came around. He was like, fuck, are you okay?
32:10
Speaker 3: And I just was like I do. I don't know
32:11
Speaker 3: how to take this a it was like the weird
32:13
Speaker 3: I just couldn't ah. And then I don't even know.
32:17
Speaker 2: It's just like I don't know. I went to therapy
32:20
Speaker 2: once and just like haven't felt the need to go back.
32:23
Speaker 2: But that was yearsiger now, But I don't know.
32:26
Speaker 3: I just think like probably a good thing to air
32:29
Speaker 3: out and people understand that, you know.
32:33
Speaker 2: I guess we have problems too, Yeah, we do.
32:36
Speaker 1: We're not perfect by any means.
32:37
Speaker 2: No, Yeah, just fucking yeah.
32:41
Speaker 3: I think the hard I think giving advice on the
32:43
Speaker 3: hard times is like we've been through them too.
32:46
Speaker 2: I guess.
32:47
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone has their own stories. What we could open
32:50
Speaker 1: up about ours yours? Yeah, that's that's a lot, and
32:53
Speaker 1: it's just a role on snowball effect kind of thing.
32:55
Speaker 2: Can't Yeah, so what Yeah, it just made it was
32:58
Speaker 2: the heartbreak and then that and I was it's like holy, it's.
33:01
Speaker 1: Like that thing. It's always one thing after another when
33:02
Speaker 1: it rains a pause.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, out of the fucking Yeah, you're right, so sorry
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Speaker 3: if that was like a boring story, I.
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Speaker 1: Wasn't boring at all, boring, But I just I think
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Speaker 1: it's struggle.
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Speaker 2: I think it's.
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Speaker 1: Admirable how you opened up, because I know that's a
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Speaker 1: hard thing for a dude, don't you. Yeah, especially the
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Speaker 1: second part.
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Speaker 2: For the longest time.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, the breakup thing, I don't care if that's out there,
33:20
Speaker 3: like the other thing is just it's just like I
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Speaker 3: was a bit if you about.
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Speaker 2: Airing out family drama, but I don't know. I think
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Speaker 2: it's just I guess.
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Speaker 1: Everyone has it.
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Speaker 2: That's the it's part of my life.
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Speaker 1: Everyone has it. And I think the more you talk
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Speaker 1: about it and say that you're okay now and your
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Speaker 1: mom's okay.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely, And like I guess if I don't want
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Speaker 3: anyone to think, like fuck I hate Jake's mum without
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Speaker 3: knowing her, like like I love my mom.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, like I do.
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Speaker 2: I love my mom. And I'm going to Canada and
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Speaker 2: all that, and in I've been. I've been to Canada
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Speaker 2: after that, and I'm going again obviously in June this year.
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Speaker 1: And I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I think it's just like I guess, I guess anyone
33:57
Speaker 3: else that does deal with something like that, it'd be
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Speaker 3: interesting to know how they deal with it. Actually, to
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Speaker 3: be honest with you, I assume there's some people out
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Speaker 3: there that have had parents with struggle. And I always
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Speaker 3: am really with the work that my sister does. I
34:07
Speaker 3: always so with the work that my sister does. You
34:10
Speaker 3: hear about a lot of bat you with families, and
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Speaker 3: now I am like, I'm very like, I understand that
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Speaker 3: stuff that I've been through is hurtful, but I also
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Speaker 3: have like this mad like gratefulness after hearing some stuff,
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Speaker 3: like I've always had a roof of a mad always
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Speaker 3: had clothes, never been hungry, I've always felt love for
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Speaker 3: my family. Like the only hurt that I feel is
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Speaker 3: that my mum struggles with these addictions. And just like
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Speaker 3: the love for us kids doesn't fix the addiction. But
34:36
Speaker 3: then you come to feel like an addiction is a disease.
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Speaker 3: And but like I've never like, I've never been hit.
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Speaker 3: I've always been yeah, like I've had a great upbringing.
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Speaker 1: Were aged problems has the same magnitude to each person. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I think it's Also, it's good to normalize. Like, like
34:51
Speaker 1: you said, we're not perfect. Everyone has. It's okay to
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Speaker 1: be hurt and it's good to talk about it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's like it's just good to get it out of
34:58
Speaker 1: your system. It's something so beautiful and when humans talk
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Speaker 1: and you feel better, it's like a weight lifted off
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Speaker 1: your heart, your chest, everything going on. But yeah, you
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Speaker 1: wanna leave it on that yeah as well.
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