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Have you seen Marrying Millions? Meet Desiry Hall Actress & Reality Star · Rock My Finances

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not about the zeros, So what is it all about? Let's find out
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now here's your host and weekly friend, Jennifer Jos. Hey, y'all,
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look at I have somebody sitting next to me. I'm so excited. It's
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not just going to meet be me today in my little square and then somebody
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else and they're the little square. We're actually in person in Beverly Hills.
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I am so excited to share with you my new friend, Miss Desiree Hall.
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Is she not gorgeous? She's so gorgeous. Yes we are. We're
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a little badasses today, Yes, daddies, I love it. So we
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are going to get to the dirt. So y'all know me rock, my
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finances, Jennifer Jos and this amazing podcast. We talk about everything different every
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single week and it's really really fun. Well, I have become friends with
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an amazing reality actress star. She's awesome. And you know how when you
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meet someone and they're just really down to earth and honest, we just like
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click right off the bat. Like our first date lasted like six hours or
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something. It's like, oh, let's go here, Oh let's go here,
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Oh let's go there, Let's keep going like it was just so fun.
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If we didn't want to end the night such an amazing. That a
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perfect night. It really was. Yeah, we would have kept going if
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we had sleeping bags, we totally would have. It's so great. So
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what I'm just going to interview Desrie so you guys can get to know her
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because she does have exciting upcoming things. And if you're listening to this ten
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years down the road, that's all great. You can go back and find
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out what she was doing and what's going on. So tell me what it's
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like to be an actress. Oh my gosh, to be an actress is
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like a dream come true for me because growing up with five siblings, I
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always had to act to get myself out of the trouble. Day would put
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us in you know. So yeah, so I've been acting to get away
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from the ass weapons for a lot of time. This is the second nature.
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Do you actually do it for money now? Exactly? Yeah, that's
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such a great point. I feel like when we're in families, we literally
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we have the jokester, we have the quiet one, we have the hero
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child usually the first one. We have the acting out one, And like
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you said, you were gonna do whatever it takes to get out of that
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issue at that moment. Yes, yes, So did you blame your siblings
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ever? Well, I honestly, I was a good child. I was
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the middle toel but I was a good towld. So I used to look
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at them and say, like, why are they doing it? They know
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we're gonna get in trouble. Yeah, and so they were in the So
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I used to say, well, I'm gonna tell mom, and they say,
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whoa, I'm gonna kick your ass, you know, says I used
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to get a lot of beaten. Oh. I used to get beat up
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a lot by my siblings. And that's okay. I mean it made me
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stronger. I'm a good fighter, you know. So yeah, it is
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what doesn't kill you, mas to stronger. It is what it is.
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We can't take it. We can't do anything about the past. And it
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major who you are today. Yeah. Are you still friends with siblings?
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Awesome? Yeah, there you go. And that stands to reason, right
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exactly. Everybody's not going to be your cheerleaders, you know, And I
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learned from my mom. You have to be your own cheerleader. You have
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to advocate for you, and you have to push yourself to be whatever you're
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aspiring to be because people will let you down. People will tear you down.
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People will try to take your dreams away from you. So you don't
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let any you don't give anyone that much power over you. Like yeah,
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So that's why I love my mom because she was such a strong like the
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independing independent teaching woman, like she had a lot of children, but she
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let us know that your individuals and you each have your own walk. So
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don't try to be your other siblings because you can't never be that. You
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could only be you, you know, And that's why so many people in
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life have such a hard time finding out who they are because they're always trying
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to be somebody else. You can never be anybody. There's only one year.
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God only created one year, and you're supposed to be the best you
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you could possibly be. When whenever you're trying to be someone else, you're
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gonna always find yourself becoming like a statistics. You're gonna have depression, you're
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gonna have anxiety, you're gonna have all these other issues because you're not stepping
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into your purpose who you were born to be. And like I said,
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the world would be a better place if people just take a hold and say,
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you know what, what am I experiencing what am I going through.
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Let me analyze myself and see what I'm supposed to be, not what you
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think or not what you perceive you're supposed to be. Take time, go
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within yourself, find out who you're supposed to be, and hone on hone
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in on that, because you can only be you. So I just want
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to keep emphasizing that. And you're never gonna be happy if you try to
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be someone else or something else, You're never gonna be happy because you can
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never be that. So you're you're going to spend your whole entire life trying
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to be something that you can never be. So be happy with yourself.
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And if you're not happy with yourself, you have to find ways within yourself
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to become happy within yourself. I love that pranching girl, I love it.
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Yeah, I love it. So I feel like you're so young to
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be so wise on this, and I love everything that you just said.
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And even when we don't know what our path is, like I knew I
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was here for a reason. I didn't know what the reason was, but
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one step in front of the other being who I am. But you're right,
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I was in a masculine world of finance for years. I had to
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wear a suit, clothed toed shoes, you know, I had to have
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my hair up. I couldn't be like a woman and apparently have brains in
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this industry. And it did take a toll on me because the stress during
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that whole time when you're not being who you truly are is very stressful.
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So you're totally right, and then when you do do do do, when
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you do do one little step closer to who you really are, ah,
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it feels so good. Yes, And then each time we make one little
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step, we're never gonna go back. You can't go back now that you
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are more of who you are now and now you're more of who you are,
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so we can't ever really go back. So it's always climbing forward,
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exactly. And it feels so good, doesn't it. When you really when
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you're really true to yourself, there's nothing better than it. Yeah. When
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you're always like putting on a mask or hiding or trying to be someone else,
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you never go at the end of the day. You're not gonna be
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happy with yourself when everyone's gone, when you're in that room by yourself,
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you're really unhappy when you're trying to be something that you're you weren't born to
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be, or you're you know that you're not that you're not supposed to be.
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Yeah, and you're people strive for it because they think that that's what's
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going to bring them the fame, fortune, money, love, whatever.
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And we learned at such a young age be someone you're not because that's to
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the boys like or that's to the girl's like. Well, it depends on
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your upbringing, yeah, you know, and I know, and I can't
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even really say that because even though people are brought up a certain way,
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people are still gonna do what they want to do because they're here for their
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own things exactly. So even though my mother and she taught us all the
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same thing, we all went in different directions, you know. And we
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hear the stories now that we're older, like the past, certain people took
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and my within my siblings, and they're all different stories. So we're just
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I just think that parents are really there just as a guy like to guide
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you. But they don't get a handbook, you know, I don't know,
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we do not get a hand We don't get a handbook on how to
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raise the child. So you could put it out there and whether it's negative
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or whether it's positive, and every child is gonnaceive it, you know,
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in a different way. They're gonna see it in a different way. And
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even if you if you're a bad parent and you're raising your child to do
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like scrupulous things because they like to cheat, to see people or whatever,
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that child might say, I don't want to be like that. I don't
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want to see people. I don't want to be a cheater, and they
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might go the other way. Oh, very true. So you just never
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know what's going to be, what impression you're putting in that child's mind and
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where they gonna take it. Yeah, very true. I love that.
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I love that. So when did you know that you wanted to follow your
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path? Like young teenage high school? Okay, so whatever the path was,
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we might not know what the path was. But no, you would
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not believe what my path was. My god honest path was to be a
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nun. Yes, I always said I was going to be a nun.
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I don't it was just infactuated. I'm not laughing, y'all. I am
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because one of my very goot friend's mother is a nun. But just looking
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at you sitting here so beautifully now with your lashes and so gorgeous to give
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a little fuzzy shirt. You're no nun like my love. No, I'm
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not a nun. And the reason why A I'm going to tell you why.
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Once I discovered sex, that was it. You weren't supposed to discover
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sex. You're gonna be an exactly. See. But he must have been
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hot. Oh yeah, he was hot. He was hot. I was
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telling my mother was at the library when I was really having um sexual relations.
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Yes, sexual, let's keep it at let's keep it with that,
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let's keep it a PG. Okay, having an intimate moment with the hot
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boy exactly. Okay, So the um Yeah, so you know that switched
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you right there? Oh yes, oral sex just changed everything. That's it.
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He didn't penetrate me, but you know what I'm saying. Once he
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just went down on me. That was it. You got anywhere? But
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then that theory is off. I love it's the table. I love it.
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So then did you know you want to be an actress at that point
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or were you kind of searching? No? I mean when I was like,
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we're open to New York. So I was always tall, like an
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the By the time I was in the fourth grade, I was already like
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five. Eh, God, I was already you know, tall slim.
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So everywhere that my mother and my dad took us, everybody, oh my
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gosh, she should be a model on the train or the boss of My
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mother was like, Nope, you don't want to do that. Because she
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had a very bad experience. She pursued modeling. And she said that the
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officer she went to, she went upstairs, it was like on the fifteenth
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floor in Manhattan, and she said the um, the so called casting director
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or whoever he was, put a knife to her and made her take her
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She would end up running out the building um naked, and then the construction
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workers downstairs or whatever they covered her up or whatever and took her to the
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police station. So she never wanted and she's not she was. And so
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when she told us that story, I was like, oh, she was
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like, don't do it. She was like, it's just a whole different
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world. And from her experience, she was like, no, I want
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nothing but lawyers and doctors. Yes, So she made us study every day.
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We couldn't watch TV. My mother was very strict, So that's one
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of the reasons why I probably said I wanted to be a nun. Just
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thinking back now, you're just bringing this out. I just bought a turgear
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because the way that I was raised, we couldn't watch TV, we couldn't
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have friends over our siblings. That She was like, you played with your
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brother's and sisters. You're not going over at anybody's house. I don't want
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anybody even listing you guys. I don't want to anybody. Just lost all
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her trust as she did, and she said, I don't That's what she
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said. I don't trust people, right. She said, you're not gonna
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come home telling me those stories about this happened or that happened, or you
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went to her friend's house and you got raped or this. She said,
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that's not gonna be all my watch. So my job is to protect you,
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which I understand, you know. So um, yeah, so that's
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why I think I wanted to be a nun. So I was like,
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good bye. All I could do is just go to church and just study
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and just I guess I was submant to be in the right Yeah, just
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fall right into that path exactly. Oh my gosh, Okay, so did
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you get good grades. Oh, I was a student eight plus. I
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want science awards. I mean I um. I was in the New York
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spelling Bee. I want for New York State. I had an auticle in
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a newspaper. Oh ye, smart chick. Here, okay, okay,
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smart chick. I would say at that time, I was book smart,
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but not street smart. Well, of course not because you were at home
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playing with your siblings exactly, and my baby dolls, you know, and
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your baby dolls, dolls, sweet biggy dolls. Yeah, I love it.
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Yeah. So I used to plone your hair and they all had names,
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and yeah. I also had a fetish with poodles. So I had
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one, two three, Yeah, like little stuffed animal poodles or something.
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Oh my gosh, I'm cute. Yes, do you have dogs? Do
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you have animals? Now, I'm too busy. You are way too busy
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to have an animal. I would be That would be a childer ruth.
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It would be animal abuse. Yeah, you cannot do it unless you can
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take your animal everywhere. And then that's a whole other headache exactly. Then
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I would have to pay for hotels and yeah, rooming and you know,
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and then I would have to have a companion, playtime, work, it
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all in and just way too much. Okay, okay, kids, do
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you want them? Do you have them? Do you? I don't.
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Well, okay, I'm a mother too, miny. You all have nieces,
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I have nephews. I have so I'm a mother too many. And
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it's just it's a blessing, you know. Children are a blessing. So
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yeah. And they're a lot of work, yes, a lot of work.
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A lot of work. I mean I was at an event last night
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and we were there was a single a couple of single ladies, and we
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were talking to them. Another mother and I and she was saying, what
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are the girls. It's like, I just you know, I'm ready to
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get married. She's like thirty four or five. She really wants kids or
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whatever. And me and the other mom looked at each other and go,
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do you really want to have kids? And we both looked you that.
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I'm like, nobody ever tells the truth. But it is not easy.
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It is not easy. Wow. The movie What is It Eat Love Prey
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m when the gal says having kids it's like having attack on your face.
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You need to be a little committed. I didn't see that movie. So
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good so I'm gonna have to check that out. It's really good. One
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of our one of our movie nights. We'll have to do yes, awesome,
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Yes, Okay, So I'm hearing be true to yourself, be who
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you are. Tough parenting is not a bad situation. We don't need to
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have weapons and beatings and all that crazy. Now it's a new age,
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right, Yeah. UM, when you told your family, let's see,
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what did you get married first? Or did you leave the house first?
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Did you go to California? What was the next step of kind of pulling
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away from the family. M I had a couple of episodes my UM,
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one of my older siblings, and I. She she been away from home
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first, and then she came back home and she was trying to convince me
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to run away. Oh it's so great, this um, but she unfortunately
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got hooked up hooked the one drugs, so she had a long about with
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drugs. But my first experience was running away was with her. MM.
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So you both went together, Yeah, we went together, but then started
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to get cold, and then I was hungry, so I'm going back home.
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So didn't last well, maybe about i'd say three hours, because no,
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really, seriously, I was analyzing everything. I like, I'm we're
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running away from home. You know, we have you know, but in
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jelly sandwiches and oranges and um, you know, snacks and our our book
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bags. Like I don't know if this life is for me, you know.
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And it was like really getting cold, like the sun was going and
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I'm not We couldn't go outside, so I'm not used to be it outside
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after dark. Oh my gosh, I'm not. I'm not a runaway person.
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Was your mother angry or does she even know? No, my mother
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knew because you know, we came in after dark, so you know,
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and what are you doing out? You're supposed to be in a wrong studying
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you know. Like so yeah, so my mother found out, but she
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just laughed because I was like, mom, I'm sorry I ran away.
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Hold and she was like I knew you'll be back. Yeah, you don't
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even scare me. Child. It's like hey, she was like, anytime
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you what a runaway runaway? She was like yeah, but yeah, so
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that was my runaway story. Yeah. So after that, I was just
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like, okay, enough of that, and I was good, Yeah,
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you're a good girl. After that, yes, okay, then you met
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boys no, I actually I met the first gentleman that i've that took my
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virginity. Okay, So I met him actually in a park. I was
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sitting out studying whatever he was. He was a musician. So I met
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him and then it's just like from there, we just we just really hit
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it off and he was just amazing. He was gorgeous, he was handsome,
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he was part of American Indian and I'm African American eddiot. Well,
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No, his mother was Cherokee Indian. His mother was only like five feet
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and her hair was like passed her behind. I mean she was a real
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full Cherokee Indian and she was so beautiful, I mean really really beautiful.
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So he had like that, just like his fate. His features was just
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like perfect, yea. His body was just like perfect. He was like
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naturally chiseled, and you know we were so young, but his just his
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body and everything was just he was just gorgeous. Yeah. So I don't
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want get read giving my virginity up to him, because we still like all
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that thought, all those memories exactly, they were all good. And he
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was so gentle and so you know, he wasn't um. He didn't try
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to penetrate me. It's like he took months, you know, he took
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his time. Like I said, it was just his loving Yeah, very
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loving, very caring. So my first experience was a great experience. That's
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really good, that's awesome. Yeah. And then and then the life moved
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on. Did you leave New York kid? When? Okay, so that's
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a whole other story, okay, Um that it was time to really get
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into okay, and what my mother was trying to protect me from the molestation,
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his father ended up doing that to me, you know. Sorry,
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So yeah, so you know what I'm saying. But it's a part of
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life, you know. So I just believe in keeping it real because I
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believe my story could help someone else I appreciate. So it's not for me
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to harvest and keep because I don't know who I could be out there helping
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or saving. Sometow might be thinking about running away, sometow might be thinking
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about doing what I did. You know, um, like sneaking and saying
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you go into the library. These are the things that happened when you don't
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when you're disobedient. Put it that way. Yeah, because my mother was
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trying to protect protect me, but the doublehead of other plants, you know
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what I'm saying. So, and I was too young to realize that everything
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that she was doing and saying to me was really exactly because it really existed
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in the world. But I was in this bubble disclosed box and being protected
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and being fed three meals a day, and you know, my mother's taking
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us own trips and we're traveling and we're we're under her umbrella, but we're
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we had a good life, you know, we really had a good,
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good life. I've always from the time I was born. I was born
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into a home, you know, with three stories upstairs downstairs with my mother.
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They had her business right downstairs, you know. So it was just
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a beautiful light and but you didn't learn the streets stuff. No, I
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didn't learn this street stuff. And I didn't know what I know spiritually now
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that there's two forces, there's good and evil, you know, and that
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that that someone is after your soul, you know. So I didn't know
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that. Now now I'm older, I'm wiser, you know, and I
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could look back and I could say, devil, get out of my face.
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No, you might have treated me before, but they're not about to
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do that again. Okay, it's on. You know what I'm saying,
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we're going toe to toe. As a matter of fact, I have dominion
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over you. I'm above you. So you know you can't you know you
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can't play those games with me. How I control you? How did you
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recover from something like that? Did you tell your mom? Okay? No,
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I actually didn't tell my mom. I don't know if I would have
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either, No, until I was an adult. Yeah, I probably would
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have done the same. Yeah, I didn't tell her. Not that that's
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smart, but I'm just I would have been scared. And then I it's
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like it was one Mother's Day, right, because every mother said what I
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do with my mom always tall her my birthday. These these two days,
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I make sure that I taught her, thank you, mom for giving me
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life. Yeah, and she just every time i'd say that to her,
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she just cries. Yeah. And I don't mean for her to, but
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I want her to know I really appreciate you giving me life because life is
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so precious. I mean, she could have abhorded me. You know what
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I'm saying, I wouldn't be here, you know. And that's why when
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I hear some people and like some of my friends or my friends, but
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associates people that I know my mom didn't do this and she should have did
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that. I'm like, whoa you know, like, how could you even
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think like that, Oh she wasn't dad from you're alive, It's up to
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you to make your life. How are you going to spend your whole life
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blaming somebody for what they did or didn't do. You don't know what your
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mother or father had to do to get you here, you know what I'm
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saying. You just don't know. You don't know they have a story.
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Yes, you don't know why they did what they did to you. You
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just don't know their story. You know. So even if your parents,
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because I have people who told me their parents sexually their parents have sexual USM
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And I'd say, you don't know that. That's learned behavior, you know
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what I'm saying. Maybe they were realested, Maybe they were treated badly so
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hurt people like to hurt people, So that's maybe why they did it.
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But you're alive. You can change that. You you you really want,
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you're still here. You have the power to do anything you want. You
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have the power to not say you know what, I'm gonna change that I'm
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going to break that cycle. I'm gonna if I have kids or whatever,
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I'm not gonna let anybody's trust me. I know how it hurt me,
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So I don't want that for my children. And you could also protect other
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children. There's still you can volunteer. You can help other children to make
22:42
sure that they're protected, Spend time with them, take them to the library.
22:47
You know, there's so many kids that need to be, so many
22:51
kids that need help here. You shouldn't in this country, even just us,
22:55
it's this country, yeah, exactly, So you shouldn't be so self
22:56
absorbed with yourself and oh well is me? And why? I just know,
23:02
get out and make a change. You don't be that change. You
23:04
have the power to do that. So I hope more people will get out
23:07
and start doing that instead of wallowing in their sorrows. You know, it's
23:12
just it serves no purpose. But when you help someone else, oh my
23:17
gosh, the reward word, the feeling that you get inside, the endorphins
23:21
that you release me, it helps psychologically, it helps the mentally, it
23:25
helps physically. I mean, it just rejuvenates you. It's such an overwhelming
23:30
feeling of inner love and enter joy that I can't even explain. Yep,
23:34
absolutely one percent agree. The twelve step programs big on service. And that's
23:38
where I learned in an Ltein way back when. And you're right, and
23:42
nobody knows what you've gone through, and nobody knows if you have the same
23:48
that what that is like. So I I mean, I'm, you know,
23:52
parent who's lost children. No one understands that unless another parent has lost
23:56
children, and so they get that. I have a good friend of mine
24:02
was just attacked by her husband, and nobody. I don't know what that's
24:08
like. All my abuse was mental, so I don't know what it's like
24:11
to be beaten and choked and tried to be killed by another human being.
24:15
You do, Oh yeah, we have twenty minutes left. You get to
24:19
use it however you want. What do you want to talk about? Well,
24:22
I think I m expounded on a lot of like really touching sensitive stuff,
24:29
so maybe we need to lighten it up a little little merry a millions.
24:33
Oh yeah, we could step right into that as well. That's how
24:36
I ended up with Rodney because he was so nice and so sweet after my
24:40
um abusive stage, you know, because that that that happened after Howard's father
24:45
molested me. Then then I went like this little um mental thing, how
24:52
can he do that to me? You know all of that. So I
24:55
end up breaking up the relationship with um Howard, right, yeah, And
24:59
it was just like I was really destroyed because Howard and I had plans like
25:03
to get married. You will go to the same college, like in the
25:07
same area, not the same college, but in the same area, so
25:10
we could be closed. We talked about children and maybe one or two.
25:14
I mean we were really um set for like um our mindset was like all
25:21
about the future, like marriage and what we were gonna do to death,
25:25
do us part marriage or I mean, it was just it was we were
25:29
just a perfect like a perfect perfect match. It was like, um,
25:33
like a love story, like a young love story that was blossoming. Oh
25:37
I'm so sorry. So that crashed and burned. Yeah, So that crashed
25:41
and burned. And then after that I ran into this guy who was like
25:45
five years older than me, and he was like so abusive. Oh yeah,
25:48
because he got hold throwing with drugs too. And then it's like he
25:52
was supposed to go into the pros and open hyberd that company was his own
25:56
sponsor, and somebody just introduced him to cocaine and that was it. I'm
26:03
so sorry. So he was abusive. So you got out of that one.
26:06
I got out of that one. I made it out a live good
26:08
but I mean it was so brutal to where because you know, a man
26:14
is stronger than a woman. Yes, it's just like you. Those hits.
26:18
You can't take those hits, you know exactly. It does something to
26:21
your body itself, something to your soul. It does something to your physically,
26:25
mentally, emotionally. And because I was so strong and I knew who
26:29
I was from a very early age, thank god, with the the upbringing
26:33
of my mother, I knew exactly who I was. I knew I was
26:37
beautiful. I knew that I was smart. I knew that I you know
26:40
that that I was aspiring to be something great. You know that was all
26:45
still within me. You can you can't take it away, what you know
26:49
about yourself and for me and all the knowledge and all the learning and all
26:53
the um being skipped and sp classes, and you know I was. I
26:59
was. I had a scholarship to go to Downstate Medical School, and I
27:03
had I got that scholarship. Actually, when I was fifteen years old,
27:06
Wow, I would have been a doctor by the time I was twenty one.
27:08
No man could come in your life and tell you like or you're nothing,
27:12
or you're not smart. You know, you know who you are.
27:15
You know what I'm saying. I look in the mirror every day, and
27:18
when I was a child, I love myself. I love what I saw,
27:19
you know what I'm saying. So it's not like you could beat me
27:22
down and tell me that I'm not rightful. You did for a minute,
27:26
and you got right right out exactly. So it's just like I and if
27:30
I didn't like something about myself, I would change it. That was about
27:33
me. That's what I'm about. You know what I'm saying. If I
27:36
don't like something about Desri, Desri is gonna change. We're gonna work on
27:38
that disty. You know so because my mother taught me to be my own
27:41
cheerleaders. So that's what I'm saying. Girl, you know, get it
27:44
together. You know I love that. Yeah, you're like putting all the
27:48
in the stories and you're giving us fables and then you're giving us our values
27:52
really exactly yourself first. You have to because people don't realize if you don't
27:59
have your site and your physical technically, you can't even help anybody else.
28:02
You cannot even if you don't love yourself. It's impossible to love someone else
28:07
if you've done a hundred percent right and people don't get that. No,
28:10
you can't go out there and say I love you and then you don't.
28:12
How do you? How do you know love? If you don't love yourself.
28:15
Most people right now that are dying for relationships then that are single is
28:21
because they don't love themselves. And it's taken me this last ten years.
28:25
So I love you. I love you like I really like it. Really,
28:29
I mean I have kind of always liked myself and I've always been very
28:33
confident, and I think this last time without anybody in my life, and
28:37
it's just me, like I'm really getting to know myself because this is it
28:41
for like I don't even know so many years at this point, and um,
28:45
you're one percent right if we don't love ourselves, and then a lot
28:48
of us fairy tales you know, love you all, Disney, But seriously,
28:55
Senda Fanrellaum, we think that at what we're lacking, someone else is
29:03
going to fill that hole and they can't fill that hole. Another person can't
29:07
make you happy, Nope, you have to be able to find it within
29:11
herself first. And from a young age. That's when I left my household
29:17
and after I ran away again, okay, and that's how I ended up
29:22
getting, um, yeah, in a domestic violent situation by being disobedient,
29:26
you know. But but after I discover sex, then you know you're addicted
29:30
and you want more sex, so you gotta look for somebody else. Yep.
29:33
The devil has got you. He knows and exactly how to get you.
29:37
Yeah, Okay, I'll introduce her to sex and then she's gonna be
29:41
disframed. Okay. So, um, with that being said, is my
29:48
my drug choice? What's sex? Yep? You know? So yeah,
29:52
consulsion whatever you want to call it. Yep, absolutely, So that's what
29:55
I wanted another relationship, So I got into another relationship, so I get
29:57
have sex, you know. So it and is this one thing just led
30:00
to another And was it only sex or was it also the way they doted
30:03
on you and made you feel about yourself? Oh no, they were definitely
30:07
doating, right, So it's a whole thing. Right, It's like somebody
30:10
else caring for you, making me feel really good ooey gouey on the inside,
30:15
Like we can love ourselves and know who we are and be confident,
30:18
but it feels really good when somebody else is like, exactly, exactly,
30:22
You're so beautiful. No no, no, no human touch and yeah,
30:26
Beyonce a little thing whatever she's planning it out. I love it. Yeah.
30:33
Yeah, So that was my experience. Okay, that's why I'm not
30:37
a none. Guys, So you know why I'm not a none today.
30:40
Definitely not a none. Definitely not. Okay, So because I discovered fast
30:45
forward to see Marrying Millions on Lifetime, y'all check out her show. She's
30:52
on season two and at this point of this broadcast, she's starting season three,
30:59
so she's starting to film now for season three. I don't know anything
31:02
that's gonna happen in season three. I'm not even finished with season two yet
31:06
because we've been doing watch parties together and this child is very busy. So
31:10
now I'm like got the permission to just go bend myself. So I do
31:14
know Rodney. So I've seen a few episodes, and clearly Marrying Millions you're
31:21
supposed to get married to this person. Why did you go on marrying millions
31:25
with Rodney? Because Rodney was keeping me a secret but way too long.
31:30
Like every guy that I'm with or involved with in a relationship they love,
31:34
they want to show me off absolutely, So it's just like this was the
31:38
first and I was like, no, something's not right here. Something's definitely
31:41
not right here. So that's why I saw the casting for the um show.
31:47
They had like an ad if you if you if you were not rich
31:52
and the other person is rich and they're they're into if they basically if they
31:56
are if they talk to you or discuss marriage with you, Okay, So
32:00
I'm like, so time time because I'm just like thinking about what happened in
32:04
the show exactly me. I got you there. Yeah, I was just
32:07
like, really, we're rousing my nerves. So with that being said,
32:10
I saw the casting bay. I saw the casting an advertisement saying if one
32:20
person is rich and one person is not, and you're interested both of you
32:24
guys are interested in marriage, then contact us perfasically. And you were already
32:29
acting, right Yeah, I was already acting previously before that, but this
32:32
is different, this is my reality. So that was the app for me
32:36
because I'm like this, this guy's playing games. They're like something is wrong.
32:39
And then Ronnie's feminine. He does have feminine you know, ways right
32:44
exactly. But whatever happened in your past, I'm I'm a true Christian,
32:47
so I believe in what you tell me exactly right. So your past has
32:52
nothing to do with me, right, you know what I'm saying. We're
32:53
starting. We all have a past. But when you when you're showing me
32:59
some like, you're making me think about question myself, like why are you
33:07
listening to him? He's not introducing you to any of his friends. He
33:09
could be, you know, doing other things with other people, and we
33:15
have no idea exactly. You guys lived in a different state exactly. So
33:20
that's why I came on the show. And I said, he figured he'd
33:22
not even want to go. Oh, I didn't think he was gonna say
33:25
yes, I wouldn't. I didn't because he was keeping me in secret,
33:29
so sure, why would he go on national TV? So I said to
33:31
this to myself, I said, he already asked me to marry him.
33:36
He did, He said, does Rie? I can see you being my
33:37
wife? Right? And so he was like, we're gonna look at some
33:39
rings or whatever, and I was like okay, And then I said,
33:43
well, when when can I meet your mom? He was like, well,
33:45
I don't know. I'm so busy. He just kept giving me so
33:49
many things, so many excuses I couldn't meet anybody. So then I was
33:52
like, okay, if he does except to come on the show, then
33:54
I know he's serious. I wouldn't think so. I would absolutely think that.
33:59
But million years I didn't think he was gonna do it because of his
34:02
life. I have thought, right, he's flaming me in to where he
34:06
lives at. I'm singing in the hotel. I don't get to meet anybody,
34:08
no friends, no family, and no nothing. So I was like,
34:10
if he comes on this show, I gotta get him to come.
34:14
If he doesn't commit to come on this show, I know he's fully yeah.
34:19
So so he said yes right off the back. He didn't say yes
34:22
right A wedding, okay, right? So then he was like, well,
34:23
what is it about? And I said, you said we're getting married.
34:27
You know, you asked him to be your wife. So like,
34:29
what's the biggie, you know, it's this whole process. Then I said
34:31
this, I said, they'll pay for the whole wedding and everything. Oh
34:35
they will no, I just said that. I'm like, heck, I
34:38
might need to get no, but that was that was your thing, right.
34:42
So then he was like, don't pay for the wedding and I was
34:44
like, yeah, if we're really getting married, of course they're gonna pay
34:46
for the wedding like that something. He was like, yeah, I know
34:50
that wasn't is gonna be. I know you this, he said, you
34:52
your mind is your your imagination. It is so broad. He was like,
34:55
so yeah. He was like, okay, I'll go on show like
35:00
that and I was like, okay, I'm then I was like, that
35:02
was my little secret. Well because they they're not paying for your weddy.
35:06
No they're not. They're not paying it for your wedding. But it worked
35:09
and I got to see who Rotney was. I got to see I got
35:14
to see another side of Rotney. I got to meet his parents. So
35:17
I learned a little bit more about Rotney, you know what I'm saying,
35:22
A lot more about not a little bit, a lot more about Rotney.
35:23
So that experience, really, honestly, it really helped me immensely in so
35:30
many ways that I can't explain right now. But it really good because I'm
35:34
only an episode two. I'm getting it, okay, I'm learning it,
35:38
and I'm seeing what's happening. You didn't where I'm at. You just met
35:42
the assistant, and you're like please, she's your assistant, Like show me
35:45
your mama, And he was saying you gotta move states, you gotta come
35:50
here, and like, why would I do that without a ring exact like,
35:52
I don't. I would not move to a different state unless I knew
35:55
we were going to be together. So I'm so far, I'm on your
35:58
side of things. Rodney seems like a very nice guy. Um, so
36:01
we'll see. I'm looking forward to it. So how is it so you
36:07
film? So now? Like right now you're gonna start filming, but no
36:10
one sees what's happening until several months later exactly. So then I don't even
36:15
get Honestly, you don't even get to know. I don't even get to
36:17
know what people are going to see. I don't get or what I'm going
36:22
to see. That's the that's the kicker, that was I didn't expect all
36:24
of that from reality TV. I don't know where the Rodney is saying,
36:28
I don't know where Rodney is doing, like in an interview, I have
36:31
no idea what's going on. So when I'm seeing this, so I'm like,
36:36
I know he did not say that, and you're like starting the whole
36:37
thing all over again several months later. Yes, I'm starting the whole thing
36:42
over because I didn't get three yet. Yeah, I want to be married.
36:45
I do want to have sex. I don't have sex. I'm you
36:46
know, I'm a real Christian, you know. And I'm not saying that
36:51
I'm perfect. I'm not right. I make mistakes sometimes about do curse.
36:53
You know what I'm saying. I do have my moments. You know what
36:55
I'm saying, I love for me Christian, it doesn't matter. It's like
37:00
you've made a decision for yourself, and your decision for yourself is you want
37:07
to be married. Yes, okay, so that it doesn't matter for your
37:09
Buddhist Christian all of whatever doesn't matter. Like that's having sex, that's a
37:15
thing for you, exactly, that's me. This is this is my chastity
37:17
is not for everybody. You know. What I'm saying is for my husband.
37:21
I'm saving myself. This is for my husband. And you were together
37:25
for him for like a couple of years, dude. Yeah, and he
37:29
was like always trying to get at you. Yes, and so you know
37:32
what, I'm so surprised I didn't want to marry you. Yeah. And
37:36
the thing about it, that's why even when he cheated, right in my
37:40
mind, I have to step back and say, o, kid, des
37:44
are you I'm an evaluator, right, evaluate this situation. He cheated it
37:50
because you weren't giving him any sex. Right. But on the other hand,
37:54
there's always a butt if he was feeling like he wanted to cheat,
38:00
he should have discussed that with me, exactly. You know, I could
38:01
have give them in a handouts and that's everyone feeling like you're need you're wanting
38:07
to cheat. There needs to be a conversation. Thank you, yeah,
38:09
exactly. Okay, So now I know what to look forward to. Okay,
38:13
So I'm getting little tidbits okay, and he's still didn't get the handout
38:17
because so that to me, that that you're gonna now thank you you good?
38:22
Do we show do we get to see the breakup on season two?
38:24
Like? Do we can't tell you? Okay? See, I know I
38:29
know I can't have to come back over and we're gonna have to do our
38:30
Oh my god, we're gonna do this all the time. I'm here every
38:34
week. This is gonna be good. Okay, So now, um with
38:39
your life. Now you've had time, that's done, that's over. That
38:45
was also during the pandemics, so it was very weird, like it's all
38:47
right. So now we're opened up. You're here now and clearly you have
38:53
a man in your life now again, if you're going on marrying millions again
38:57
for season three, anything you want to share with any of that, well,
39:00
um, they're gonna have to watch the show a little going on this
39:05
season. Yeah. So it's like, I see, I can't say so
39:09
much because I know so yeah, so yeah, we just have to watch
39:14
it. Yeah, we have to watch it, y'all. Okay, Um,
39:17
let me see what else? So what do you want to you say
39:22
what I want to aspire to. So I believe you as a very strong,
39:28
beautiful, independent, loving, caring Like we just met and we like,
39:32
like you really do say do what you're gonna say you're gonna do.
39:36
You know, you meet people all the time they're like yeah whatever, But
39:37
we like talked together the next day and we've gotten together several times and we've
39:42
formed a really good friendship and I love that. So on the inside,
39:47
you are who you to me, who you want to aspire to be,
39:52
which I appreciate that as well. And I don't know any other reality stars,
39:55
so I appreciate you being my first experience. Oh, they are really
40:00
great and they do and they're real people, and they're real people, and
40:05
they're willing to put their life out there for everyone, haters and good and
40:08
bad. So anything you want to say to your audience or anyone out there
40:15
at all experiencing their lives in the public eye, okay, if you're experiencing
40:22
your life in the public side, I would just say, be true to
40:25
yourself. Don't try to be anybody else, anybody else that you see on
40:30
TV, or just be yourself because people are going to know you and love
40:35
you for who you are and they can see through the BS. That's all
40:37
I can say. You know, So you don't don't You don't want to
40:42
portray yourself one way on television and then you're out in public and you're you're
40:46
a whole different way. You're not that nice person that people see you on
40:51
TV or they perceived for you to be on TV, and then when you
40:54
meet them, you're like, just not be crazy person. Like they're like,
40:59
oh my god, that's who is that? You know what it says?
41:00
So you don't want to be a Doctor Jekyll and mister Hyde and your
41:04
own one body, be a one authentic self and you have to love yourself.
41:08
That's the that's I can't say that. I can't express that enough because
41:14
you get a lot of haters too. So if you're not loving yourself,
41:15
you're gonna be it up on yourself. Do you watch? Do you look
41:17
at all the harsh Let me tell you something, I don't think I would.
41:22
You know what? I enjoy it? Oh, because I sit down,
41:27
you know, honestly, I see I'm a different beast. I was
41:29
raised by a mother who was very strong, and she talked us about jealousy
41:35
even within the siblings. You know what I'm saying. She'll say, well,
41:37
your sister's jealous of you. You know what I'm saying. It is
41:38
what it is, you know. So it's just like my mom kept it
41:43
real. She kept it so real to where she explained, and she was
41:46
big into psychology, so she would explain like the Freud theory that what was
41:52
going on. I love that. Oh my gosh. It's like I would
41:53
advise every person on this earth to study psychology so you would know what's going
41:59
on with in yourself, within your body, and with you within your brain.
42:02
So psychology and biology there they go hand in hand. I love that's
42:07
my degree, y'all. I'm telling you, it's amazing. And when you
42:10
know, when you know what you know about your brain, why it's exactly,
42:15
Oh my gosh, you would be in a whole different like a whole
42:19
different plane. So I think that my mother did have those those teachings and
42:24
that I took them in and I took them very seriously because my mind was
42:29
I was. I love books, I love researching, and I owe that
42:31
old to my mom. That's awesome. Oh my gosh. You can't.
42:35
You can't present something in front of me. I don't care whether the science,
42:38
whether it's the vaccines or whatever. I'm going to research and see what's
42:44
going on. I'm going to look at the pharmaceutical company who's behind it.
42:46
I'm gonna follow the money trail all of that, and it has to make
42:50
sense to me. So I'm going to do a full investigation before I just
42:53
feed into it and saying, oh wow, this that's that's that. Oh
42:59
my god, that's happening. No Desiree is checking it out. We're checking
43:04
it out. Yeah, I love it. So thanks Mom for teaching you
43:07
all that. I love that. I have to be a well informed consumer,
43:10
that's what I'm Yeah, I like that, well informed consumer. Yes,
43:14
I love that. Well, we have about six minutes left, six
43:17
minutes right, and it's like a question. I love it. I love
43:22
it. I've had such a good time with you, and there's so much
43:25
I want to dive deep on, but I'll have to compare. You are
43:29
absolutely gonna have to come back. I love that. I love that so
43:31
being authentic, being in your true self. Why are you continuing to be
43:37
on the show again? Because I don't have the ring on my finger.
43:40
I'm really going after the ring and I want to see last season with such
43:46
a help to me. It brought out so many things that I would have
43:50
never discovered. So oh, I want this path because because it's cool now
43:55
you can see the television has a way of bringing out the best and the
44:00
worst of a person, and I didn't know that. I don't know where
44:04
in those cameras were rolling that he was going to be saying certain things about
44:07
me, and he felt a certain way about me, and I do want
44:12
to he felt that I beneath him. I would have never even known that.
44:17
I would have never known that. I wouldn't never known that that man
44:22
actually put a label on money and said that money is more important than love.
44:30
That's not what I was looking for, you know. I was looking
44:31
for a man who would say that love cockers all. Love comes um first
44:37
and foremost because God has loved you know what it's and you. If you
44:40
can't love you, you don't have really a purpose. You know what I'm
44:45
saying. It's like, who who are you? If you can't love?
44:49
I love strangers. I mean, I can see somebody out in the street,
44:52
um like struggling or whatever. I'm gonna go over and say, can
44:54
I help you. I don't have to know you to do that. You
44:58
know, that's just that's just a god be loved. That's just I don't
45:00
know, that's just my nature. I can't see somebody's struggling, even all
45:04
the homeless people breaking, I feel that's my job to just step in and
45:07
do something about it. Ye speaking about that. You are a part of
45:10
several nonprofits. Yes, yes, like you are definitely service oriented. Yes,
45:15
I was going to serve serve I love that, And so you're going
45:20
to your biggest one is the veterans, Yes, right, yes, because
45:23
oh my gosh, they serve us. Yes, they put their time,
45:27
they put out their lives online for us, so we can't have our freedoms
45:30
and all liberties and they just I don't know, they just treat it so
45:34
bad. They shouldn't have to worry about how that should automatically be when they
45:37
get everyone who serves in the military has a free home yep, that they
45:45
know that they could come home to and is paid for. Not that you
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have a mortgage. You know, you selflessly are giving us your lives and
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you don't have a place to live anything, you know, to rest that
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you know, to lay down, to vang your head and fix your mental
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capacity. That point when you get back like that means help. That's crazy.
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I appreciate. I appreciate that about you because I'm service oriented as well.
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So oh in the Cancer Foundation, yes, oh yeah, you just
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got that. I'm so happy for you. They invited me to be the
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ambassador for the Life Driven Foundation, and that's kids with cancer. So that's
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so dear to my heart because my mother, my mother doing during COVID.
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She died from orbarian cancer. So oh my gosh, it was just so
46:27
hard. And that's was during the filming of a Marian millions, so I
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had to deal with all of that plus you know, but that's my mother.
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So it was just, can you tell it's a cute thing. I
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don't want to could we both ball our heads off right now? We're not
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doing that for y'all believing that does mean then we're not caring. It's just
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we're not going to go there. But I do want the story of how
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did you get into the hospital. Okay, So when I found out my
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mom was diagnosed with m avarian cancer, I dropped everything and I went by
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her side because I'm like that healing child. I'm the child that whenever my
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mom is sick. They said, you gotta go see mom. And at
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that time she was catatonic. She wasn't even speaking or anything. And as
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soon as I walked in at hospital room, she she her eyes just lit
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up. I saw her saw her eyes and I saw, as a mom,
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we're gonna fight. You're gonna fight this. But there's a very interesting
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story because before I went to the hospital, I found out that she could
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only saved for four hours like COVID. So I said, you know what,
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I'm gonna do something like a nurse and I'm gonna go in there and
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I'm gonna say what when I'm out the twenty four hours? And that's what
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I did. I wouldn't there just so they asked me, was our nerus
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or whatever? And I was just you know, talking the language or whatever
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area and everything your little clipboard. Well, no, I didn't have to
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go any cli because I wouldn't as a nurse working in another hospital if I
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would have said I was in a hospital. So they let you there because
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you were Oh my gosh. So yeah, that was not obedient. That
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was definitely disobedient. That wasn't I don't think that was because that was my
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mother. I would do anything your work in the rules. You know,
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I was working God's rules. Oh. I love that I was given that.
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God sense that he gave me. I used it for mother. If
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I could use it for acting, surely I could use it for my mother.
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Oh I have to hug her y'all. Yes, And I don't know
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if I would have even thought of that or wanting to like even thought of
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that. I'm like so happy that I know you and that you shared that
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story. I'm a thinker. I'm a thinker. I'm a that's my mom.
48:30
So I'm like, how could I spend the last moments? And I
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wasn't even thinking at that time the last moment because I thought I really could
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heal her. I really because every time I come around, so okay,
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to move along, My mom got um, she got better. Oh,
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she came out of the catatonic state. I had her walking around. Oh
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my gosh. Yes. And then I had to come back to California because
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I had a big, big, big, big big um like film um
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which I didn't end up getting. But I had to leave her, and
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she was in such good condition to when I left the data I left.
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She signed herself at the hospital the next day. Yeah, and that's when
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everything went down here. Yeah, when she signed her But she didn't want
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to die there. She she wanted to be out. The thing about it.
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She was recuperating doing so well too, where she felt like, Okay,
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I can continue this at home, you know, so I had a
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talking I'm telling you walking on people and my doctor day was like, how
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did you do? This is a miracle, you know, Oh my gosh.
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So yeah, so oh, I hate to analyze. I want to
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keep going with the mom. So you're gonna have to come back, but
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we do have to wrap it up because we are a live show. Okay,
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okay, what's your mom's saying? Or Ora? We love you,
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thank you so much for raising such a beautiful daughter, and we will definitely
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come back and hear more of your story. And I know you're our angels
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now and you're listening to us, watching over us absolutely every day. Deser.
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Thank you so much much love. All right, y'all, come on
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