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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #155_ HOST TRIVEDA HARRIS · DA CREW Podcast

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Him I am nothing and with Him everything. So let's go to God in
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prayer. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for bringing us together as you do
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each and every time we have to be in front of you. Help me
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to say the words that will touch someone in the way that they need today.
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Let their listening ears touch their hearts in the special way that you see
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fit. Please allow us to bring forth You and everything that we do and
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everything that we say tonight, because without you we are nothing, and with
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you we are everything. And your precious and holy name, Jesus, I
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pray amen. My guest tonight is Miss Christina Nelson. She is She has
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worked as a CNA. She enrolled in college in twenty sixteen to become a
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medical building and Coding specialist. She is currently enrolled in the Army and is
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She's also a overcomer of life's situations, and we're going to talk to
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her about going through her trials to make sure that she came out triumphant in
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the end. Welcome, miss Christina. Thank you for having me. Of
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course, you know we've been talking before the show. But is there anything
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that you want them to know about you that I did not say in your
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small introduction. No, you pretty much all of Outside of that, you
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know, I give all the glory and honor praise to God's That is who
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I am sitting here representing tonight. That's pretty much it. Yes, Well,
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I'm going to start with asking the question about your childhood. How was
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it for are you growing up? And where did you grow up? Was
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it here in South Carolina? So? Yeah? It was originally so I
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originally grew up like until about the age of eleven. I grew up in
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Greenwood, South Carolina, and this really small town called were Shows. My
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grandmother was then and then my mother had taken me, and that's how I
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ended up here in Columbia, South Carolina, where I currently am. My
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childhood with my grandmother was very smooth, full of love, and very much
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what a child's childhood should be. When my mother had taken me at eleven,
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that's some things had gotten pretty rocky. I was introduced to a lot
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of new things. I was abandoned at fourteen, so she only had me
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for a little bit. Things got pretty crazy. It was almost like culture
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shop coming from my grandmother to that type of childhood that was kind of like
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a storybook childhood, almost living with my mother, which was almost like an
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urban fiction novel kind of transition. So it was, it was, It
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was, It was a lot. It's always different when you go from what
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you consider a stable household to one of chaos. And basically, I'm gonna
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call it what it is, foolishness because it doesn't seem right and it doesn't
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seem safe, because I can relate to that because I was raised by my
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aunt. But I did go and live with my mom. I remember around
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the age of I stayed with her when I was around five, and the
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very first time I witnessed domestic violence in the household, and it was a
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courture, very culture shock for me because I had never been in a space
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where I saw adults raising their hands. I saw adults, you know,
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using weapons against each other, blood everywhere, and I'm the older sibling and
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so I'm having to protect my younger brother and it was just complete chaos.
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And then like the next day, they're acting like nothing happened, and that
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was completely weird to me. And then anytime I would be in the space
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with my mom, this was the type of atmosphere that was there, and
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so for her it was normal. For me, it was like, Okay,
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this is crazy. I don't want to be here. Where can I
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go? But I do understand that that does lead to having self esteem issues
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and dealing with abandonment issues. How were you able to deal with that and
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overcome that? Well, I started saying, it took an extremely It took
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a really long time. The abandonment and the rejection was probably the worst because
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it put me in a mindset of like, you know, if my own
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mother doesn't want me, who could possibly want me? Right? And it
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was hard, and I want to be honest and say it wasn't something I
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got over. I went to therapy several times. Didn't really you know,
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it didn't really help me that much at first because I had such a hard
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time even articulating what exactly I felt because I didn't comprehend it myself. And
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I want to say I was twenty seven, right, I'm twenty nine now,
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So I was twenty seven when I actually was finally from that. And
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the reason I say that is because it had such a hold on me.
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I went through something very deep with God because I couldn't understand, you know,
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like I thought that when I came to him, he would reveal to
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me exactly why I was rejected and abandoning all of these things. And this
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is why I love the belief in the journey. Right. Yes, he
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did, in fact reveal to me a lot of these things, but he
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did it in such a loving and like just a wonderful, profound way.
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How I got over it. Honest to God, I was like, you
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know what, that's it. I'm I'm not giving it any more in my
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life because I'm every decision in relationships or off of me being abandoned at fourteen
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years old. Yeah, and so you know, I was very different.
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A lot of people thought that I was weird too clingy. Yeah, and
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I decided, you know, I went through a situation with a very dear
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friend of mine and I felt completely rejected, and I'm like, you know
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what, I'm done with this. I don't ever want to feel rejection again
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or abandonment or whatever, because you know, people would be doing normal human
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things and it would affect me very deeply those right, like maybe not returning
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my phone call in the same day. You know, it's like I'm not
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good enough for anybody, and they're like, I was busy, right,
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life is happening, but it's still an insult to injury because you're like,
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Okay, I thought enough of you for me to call you, and you
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can't think enough of me to answer the phone or call me back or say
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something. You know, Yeah, I definitely know how that feels. And
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I was really just putting like unwarranted, unnecessary, overbearing expectations on the people
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in my life. I cried out to God. So I was in my
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living room and I was praising God one day and I made up my mind
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that that was it. I was done being abandoned and rejected and you know,
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all of these things that I said, God if you're going to take
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it, I'll give it to you. If you really will take these kinds
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of feelings, then I'll give them. That's how I understand why I was
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rejected. I don't understand why I was abandoned, and I don't care anymore.
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And I said it just like that, And you spoke to me,
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and he said, you weren't abandoned and you weren't rejected. He said you
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were chosen. I chose you. And he said you weren't rejected. You
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were hidden. I hid you from those who didn't know what to do with
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your heart. I do. And from that day forward, God gave me
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a completely different perspective on my life and on what I had gone through.
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Not that it had damaged me, but it had me right that it stopped
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me from over pouring into those that I wasn't supposed to pour into that I
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wouldn't poured into, So the scar in a sense, had protected me.
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And then receiving this revelation completely changed the way that I you know, it
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opened up doors for me to forgive my mother. Yeah, and you know,
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we really it went on from there and after that, like I was
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completely open to new perspectives about everything. Yeah, And I think that's not
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relate to that, because people don't understand that when you talk about forgiveness and
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things of that nature, it's not about forgetting what you've gone through at all.
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It has absolutely nothing to do with that. But it's acknowledging the people
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in which for where they were, and you got to look at them.
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And that's what helped me to forgive my mom, forgive my dad, and
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the sense of they were children before and they were hurt, and the things
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that they were hurt by led to them not understanding the position and the role
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in which they had for the children that they brought into the world. So
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they didn't abandon me in the sense of they didn't want me. They abandoned
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me in a way that here, I can't have you with me because I
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can't protect you in the way that I need to. So I'm going to
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leave you where I feel you're the most safe and the most secure. And
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so when I realized, Okay, my mom didn't leave me. She put
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me in a place where it was safe for her to be, where she
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would always know where I was, and there was never a question about me
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being out on the street or not being to where she could come and see
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me or anything like that. My dad, it was the same thing,
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and so learning to let them go and let them off the hook for being
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who they were assigned to be and not who I wanted them to be.
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And that was the major thing. Once I realized, Okay, God,
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I gotta let them go and the image go of who I wanted them to
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be and understand for who you created them to be. Once I did that,
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the forgiveness was easy. There was never a hard word that I had
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to say to my mama, never a hard word that I had to say
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to my dad. And even though the relationship with my dad is still somewhat
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a little rocky here and there, but that's only because like my mom passed
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away in June. And getting my dad to understand is that at this point
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in life, I just simply want to be a child. I don't care
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about what you didn't do when I was little. I need you to be
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my dad. I don't care that you didn't teach me how to ride a
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bike. I don't care that you didn't teach me how to be how a
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guy is supposed to treat a girl. I don't care about any of that.
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I need you to be my father today because yesterday is gone and we
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can't move on from yesterday if you're gonna hold on to it, because we're
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in the presence of today, and today is what's gonna get us to tomorrow.
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So if we can meet there, then we'll be fine, because yesterday
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gone and God ain't gonna give us a repeat of yesterday. He's gonna give
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us a new day when we open our eyes in the morning. So let's
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move forward. But going through abandonment issues, being depressed, self esteem issues,
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looking at you know who you are, and it's a hard thing to
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do to look at yourself in the mirror and think, okay, well I'm
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not good enough for anybody. I'm not good enough for anything. And being
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hidden is one of the things that you know. I can honestly say not
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for for obvious reasons. For me, I always say I'm often overlooked and
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never really heard because number one, I'm four eight. Most people don't ever
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see me for that particular reason, so it oftentimes fits. But most people
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don't listen to a lot of things that I have to say. And I
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had to understand that the people who are supposed to hear what I have to
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say hear me the first time. I never worry about it anymore because I
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used to be like, Okay, nobody cares anything about what I say,
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Nobody cares anything about how I look or anything like that. But then what
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I realized that it was the people who are supposed to see me will see
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me. I'll never be hidden to them. The people are who are supposed
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to hear what I have to say will always hear it, whether it's today
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or tomorrow. They heard what I said, and I'm in a space to
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where people hear me without a question, you know. And I'm grateful for
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that because God connected me with the people that he has designed for my destiny.
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And that's a blessing because we met in the process of the sorority.
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Yes, and that was by God's design, And even me being in that
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space for the small amount of time that I was, I knew it was
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God's design and his purpose for me to be there. And I also knew
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it when it was time for me to let it go. And so when
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I realized it was time for me to go, I had already let them
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know I will never fight for a position that God has already told me.
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I've done my time here and I did what I was assigned to do,
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and I'm okay with leaving. And they were like, well, don't do
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that. No, I'm okay because God already told me my assignment there was
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up. So I don't have any hard feelings. I don't have any animosity
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towards anybody with that. It was just that I was there for the season
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in which He had placed me. There no other reason, no other exceptions
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at all except for that. And I think people sometimes want to hold on
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to things that God is trying to tell them to let go, and he
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will. He will hit you a couple of times, and he will break
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you to the point that when you're broken enough, he'll mend you back.
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You know, he'll mend you back together in the place that broke you.
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But you gotta you gotta let it go. And if you don't let it
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go, you're gonna be hurt and you're gonna be damaged in so many more
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ways than if you let it go when he told you to the first time.
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Because I know I'm one of those stubborn people, and I'll be like,
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Okay, God, I can do this, just just give me a
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little bit more time. Yeah, he gonna hit me a couple more times
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and be like, I don't told you let it go. Yeah, you
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know, I believe I agree with you on that, and I believe that's
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this is why I tell you, this is why I always give you your
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flowers. Like, I'm so grateful that guy's using you in this leg on
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this podcast, because I don't think people speak enough on believing in the journey.
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And since I was telling you earlier about elevation often does not when it
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comes to elevation in Christ, it often does not look the way that people
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imagine it looking right can elevate me. So I got a brand new mansion
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I'm pulling up in some twenty twenty four or something, you know that,
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Like I got a job making eighteen figures a year, you know. And
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elevation in God for me was not like that. It was him actually breaking
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me down and building you back up because the foundation was just it was it
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wasn't a silent it wasn't at all. It was broken. It was broken
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with you know, anger and bitterness and resentment and non understanding it. That's
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exactly what he does. He tears all of that from you, and then
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he rebuilds your foundation and builds you back up. But you know, it's
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like, if you're going to build a brand new mall, you got to
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knock down the mall that's there. You know, you held on top of
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a broken structure. And that's exactly what God does. Elevation in Christ it
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looks like it looks like you know, like it looks it does. And
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then after you go through the building process because he bulldoze, he cleans up
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and then he rebuilds and once you start going that, then you start going
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through the other elevation. Yeah. But I believe that's how a lot of
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people miss so many of their blessings for the wrong things instead of in the
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journey exactly, because one thing I will say is that God will give you
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a vision. He'll give you the vision before he even gives you anything else.
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If you're very vivid in dreams, like, God gives you that dream
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and then he'll start placing things in place, not even you may not even
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prayed anything about it. It may have been an afterthought. But God already
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heard that, and he starts giving you the vision. And once he gives
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you the vision. All you need to do is follow the steps and what
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He's given you, and then it slowly becomes a reality and you're like,
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Okay, God, I don't really know what you're trying to do, but
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I'm gonna be obedient to what it is, because now it just looks like
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a whole bunch of mess. And then the people that you've been trying to
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hold on to they slowly start acting funny or then they'll tell you that you
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acting funny or whatever. But without that elevation, you gotta go through some
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separation too, which means you gotta let a lot of things go. And
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we don't want to let people go because we feel like like, Okay,
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we have history with these people. Okay, that's great, you can have
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history with them, but they can't go to where God is about to take
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you next. And it's okay that they can't go with you. And we
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got to learn to be okay that that separation that God has for you and
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that catastrophe that downfall everything you like, God, why am I so uncomfortable
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right now? And what I've learned to do and when those times come for
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me is that when I'm uncomfortable, I say, God, listen, I'm
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very uncomfortable right now, and I don't know what you're about to do.
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But I know if I was still comfortable, I couldn't get where you're trying
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to take me next. So allow me some grace and allow me some patience
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to understand it at this moment, because I don't understand it completely, but
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I know in time it shall come, and what it does, I'll understand
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and I'll be able to put the pieces together because I know this piece is
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gonna be connected to another piece. It may not be tomorrow, it may
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not even be next month, but it will be a piece that connects to
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whatever it is. And I've learned that, and so I look at life
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now as a puzzle piece because there are so many things that God has brought
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me out of. And I was looking at my Facebook memories the other day,
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and I had a stroke in two thousand and nine, and one of
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those memories was me coming from physical therapy and going into my neurologist. And
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I remember the physical therapist that I had. Oh my God, she was
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really hard, really tough, and I did not like her for the reason
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of her being so hard and so tough on me because I couldn't use my
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left side. My right side was attend This left side was a three like
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on the strength scale, and so I was really stubborn, hard headed,
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frustrated, mad, angry with the whole situation because I went to bed one
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way and woke up a whole other way. And that was difficult in itself.
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And I had small kids. I'm trying to raise them, going through
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separation, going through a divorce, all of this at the same time,
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dealing with my mama, dealing with my sister. Everything was all on my
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shoulders. And I'm like, now I got somebody else over here that's telling
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me that if I don't want people to treat me like I'm handicapped, then
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I need to put weight on my foot and walk. And I'm like,
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I, lady, I can't feel this foot, and you want me to
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walk. I was like, look, Hire, if you go stand beside
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me and keep me balanced, then I'll do what you say to do.
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And she was like, and I told her. I told her, I
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said I don't like you. She said, it's not my job for you
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to like me. My job is to make that you walk. And so
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I'm grateful for how hard she was on me, because yes, I am
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very stubborn. I I really truly am. So I looked at that and
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it was like, God, I was praying to be where I am today,
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and you put a person in my space to help me realize what you
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needed to do within me and help me to see what I needed to see.
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And I'm like, Okay, all of that to get me here is
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because I needed to share that with someone else. Yes it's gonna be hard,
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Yes it's gonna be uncomfortable. Yes you're not gonna like what people say,
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what people do, but don't use it as an excuse. Don't use
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it as a crutch, because it is necessary to get you to where you
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need to go, because it's gonna be a tool that you're gonna need when
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you go to the next level. So I was like, okay, God,
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I see what you did there. That was a good memory. I
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appreciate it, you know. And so I use walk by faith and not
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by sight, because if I was walking by sight, then I'd be like,
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I ain't nowhere in the world at all. I'm gonna get through this
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because I did not see it at all. I just prayed for strength to
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get through to the next day because it was hard, and you know,
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there are some days like I still have the residual effects of you know,
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left side weakness and numbness and stuff like that. But most people would never
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know that. Yeah, not no, not not not dealing with you.
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They wouldn't like, Yeah, they wouldn't. I'm gonna say most people.
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They might like most people were probably overpoured to like, oh, you know,
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but not with you. However, I would say that's equivalent or faith,
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like your stubbornness and your faith, Like I don't know which one.
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You know what I know, and I feel like so many people miss that.
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You know, it takes my God, it's a blessing to go into
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something with the mindset of like, I don't know Jesus, but I know
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it's you somewhere. That's quite literally the key if you believe that God is
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who he says he is, and he's gonna do what he said he's gonna
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do, and that he is forever, that he's working everything out for your
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good. Technically, you know, it would make sense for you to be
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like, I'm not worried about it, but that is so much harder for
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people to do. You would be. You know how they say, so
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why me, right, and then you have to say, why not me?
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I'm built for this, I can do this. That's quite literally your
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mindset. Like I knew that I had to go through this because someone else
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was gonna need it. Someone else is here this testimony. Yeah, that
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is what I call astronomical faith. And I think that it. I think
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that it's a gift. And I think for those of us who don't have
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that gift so deeplyer who haven't gone through enough, right, because blessed to
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those who go through many trials and tribulations, So those who haven't gone through
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enough to be developed in that area to that extent. Yeah, I pray
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for it, pray for it. That it takes so much of that faith
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to get through those kinds of things, you know, And often we want
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to get to the finish line, but don't want to run the race.
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That was my problem. I wanted to get to the finish line. I
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didn't want to un listen. The devil always tries to in a way.
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It always goes in and out every single time. But God's message is gonna
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be delivered regardless at the end of the day. But I do equate faith
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and stubbornness for me together, because for one thing, it is always say,
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God, I don't understand what is necessary for me because I used to
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ask that question all the time. God, Why mean, why did you
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put me in this situation? Why did you put me in this space?
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And then once I realized, I said, okay, look here, God,
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let's have a conversation so that I can start to change the way I
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talk with you, because I'm constantly asking you, why, why me?
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Why am I dealing with this? Why is this so hard? What is
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it that I'm supposed to learn in this moment? And so I was like,
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teach me how to change my vocabulary so that I can understand what it
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is. And so I was like, Okay, I'm not going to ask
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you why me. I'm going to ask what is it that you're teaching me
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in this moment that I need? Because I know there's a lesson that you
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don't want me to repeat, So I need to pay attention now. So
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once I started doing that, things became a little easier. But me,
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being who I am in a relationship that I got with God, I will
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definitely God, look here, sir, this is something that I'm not even
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sure you sent to me because who you talk to, Like, like,
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I'm not that ain't for me. I think you delivered this to somebody else
29:29
the wrong address, sir, because this is not for me. Like when
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I wrote my first book, I was like, Sir, I was in
29:37
the middle of cleaning up, like cleaning my house, and I saw a
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vision of me getting on a plane and going speaking in different places, and
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I was like, Nah, that wasn't meant for me. Like when I
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tell you it was a clear vision of all of this, and it was
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like it was like a twenty second tray of all of these different things,
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like you know when it's going in fast motion and they're showing you all these
30:04
different things. That's what I saw. And I was like, uh uh,
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I think that meant to go to somebody else's addressing, like my neighbor
30:11
or somebody upstairs somewhere. That was not for me, And so I just
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went on about my business finish cleaning up. In about a week or so
30:21
later, the same thing happened again, and I was like, Okay,
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God, look here, I think you keep delivering this to the wrong house
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because that is not anything for me. I don't write books. I write
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poetry. That's what I do. I write when I'm emotional, when I'm
30:37
dealing with something or motions are all over the place, I write it down.
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I write it in a poem, and I do whatever. But I'm
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not a writer. That's not what I do. Lo and behold, that
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is what I do, now, you know. And so it's like,
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Okay, I see what you did. I see what you did. So
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it's like, okay, God, all right, I guess you had a
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point. I didn't know that you really had it for the right address.
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It was my stomach. You know. It's like, okay, and now
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I also help other people do the same thing. And it's like, okay,
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sir, can you slow down just a little bit so I can actually
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process this for a moment. And he's like, you already processed it,
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so keep going God. Yeah, I'm like, dude, come on,
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And I know, I don't know, God be getting tired of me,
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cause I wake up in the morning. I'm like, God, I thank
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you for the breath of my body, for this new day that we have.
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Thank you for allowing me to get up out of this bed and put
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one foot in front of the other. I gotta go to work today,
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and I gotta be able to deal with these people that you're gonna send my
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way. Allowed me to be whatever you need me to be, whoever you
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need me to speak to, Allow me to do so in the way that
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you will speak to them. And I'd be like, okay, God,
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look here, I'm still a work in progress, though, so don't don't
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don't. I ain't there all the way. And I know I don't called
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you three times before I got to work. Please don't put me on hold
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because I don't ask you seventeen times about these different things. And I know
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you want to put me on hold again, but I got another question,
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And I know he'd be like, okay, Tvida, can you please just
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go do what I told you to do right now? And I'll be like,
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okay, but let me ask you this though. If I go through
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this process right here, what's gonna be the outcome? And he'd be like,
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I didn't need you to ask me that right now. I just need
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you to go do what I said do, So can you go do that?
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Okay? Well, I'll be back in about thirty minutes. God,
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I'm gonna come back. And then we're gonna talk about this, and that's
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what I do, and that's how I talk to God. And I feel
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like I know he'd be tired of me. I know he do. He'd
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be like, Lord, she don't ask me seventeen questions before five o'clock.
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And I say, well, God, I woke up at fourth like,
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what's the problem, Like we you know I'm gonna do this, So I
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mean, you ain't got to put me on whole today. You know you
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ain't got to do that. You know. I think God loves that,
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and I think that it's extremely important that we stay open in that way because
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I'm gonna tell you something that I used to do. Okay, I you
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see, at to some point, if I didn't want to deal with something
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and God got me for this. If I didn't want to deal with something,
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I would literally like I wouldn't talk to God about it. I'm like
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Jesus, you know, And I'm gonna tell you how God got me with
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that. So God had had me start a Bible study and I started it.
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It was an end home Bible study. And God will let you know
33:57
that it was going that it was gonna go public and straight up in boor
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and I'm like, I don't do public. Jesus, you already know when
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I left it within the home. So God had me and some very beautiful
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young ladies connect. We connected and everything's going. They're like, oh,
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you know what, we shad a Bible study. I'm like, yeah,
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let's do it. So we all signed up. We're doing this Bible study.
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To me, why kid you not? I found out that I was
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the host the night of we're setting up for the Bible study and everybody's and
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I'm just like, what, Petreon, what are you looking at me like
34:32
that? Oh, I'm hosted? And so I was just I looked up
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at God and I'm just like, that's not funny. But you know,
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in that moment, he gave me exactly what I needed, like all the
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nervousness. It ceased everything, you know, and I started and he he
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took over right and Holy Spirit led that. And when it was done,
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I was like like it was like so I'm like, oh all right,
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thank God, we ain't got ever do that again. We're like hitting me
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up, planning for the next one and the next one, and then here
35:10
we are over a year later, yo, and the Bible Study is still
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going and there's you know, more and more people coming, and then it
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when it you know, ended up going on to like YouTube and it just
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got like, you know, more and more people coming, and it was
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just like when I think back to the mindset, I've never done it again.
35:28
Now, I'm like, would you say, when can you confirm that
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confirmation? Jesus? You know, And I think it's it's extremely important that
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we're that way. I don't think we ask God enough questions. I do
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want to say. I think there's a difference in between questioning God and asking
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God questions. Like how you said, I didn't ask God why me?
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I asked him? What can I learn from this? Yeah? That's asking
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God questions? Why questioning God? Yeah, if you know, if you
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like, if they you know, if that's hard for anybody, grab I
35:59
understand. But I think I think it's beautiful that you do that. And
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I'm sure I'm sure God laughs a lot, and I'm sure he, you
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know, ignores a lot of those questions because I believe that if God told
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us, because if God would have told me next Thursday, I'm gonna have
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you go live in front of thirty three people. Oh yeah, I would
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have got sick or something. I would have sneeze a snack. I can't
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make it. Yes, if God actually gave you what you are gonna be
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doing a itinerary of what He has planned for you every day, there would
36:34
be an excuse that you would have every single time. You ain't gonna give
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him a reason. You gonna give him an excuse. And God ain't gonna
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take no excuse from you. He ain't finna do none of that. And
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my thing is like I'd be like, God, I know, look,
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I know you won't me do such and such, but do I have to
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do it today? Like like right now? Like right now. You'd be
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like, yeah, that's what I said. Do I'm like, okay,
37:04
all right, God, I got it. I'm a gone and dude.
37:07
And then I'd be like, but Jesus, I'm trying to take a bath.
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I'm trying to take a bath right now. Well, I said,
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you need your phone in here. You can post what I just said.
37:16
And that's usually what happens, like especially if I post like the thing that
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I did yesterday about the post that I seen about somebody said that it was
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a post that somebody had posted that their assignment was to break you. But
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in God's presence, he is the person to mend you and put you back
37:39
together in front of the very person that broke you. And it was like,
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I'm trying to take a bath, sir, and this is what you
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want me to do, so I had to stop taking my bath putting this
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out. I'm like, okay, Lord, I understand, I'm being obedient
38:00
and I did what you said do but you know, I was just trying
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to clean up. I was just that's what I was doing. And he
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don't care about what you doing in that moment. If he if he tells
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you to do something, gon' do it. Just gon do it. I
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don't know me God, I'll get to it in a minute. Now,
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you're gonna go ahead and do it now, just like your mama and your
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dad to tell you to do something, and they don't want to wait five
38:23
ten minutes for you to figure out what it is they telling you. Now,
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you know what they telling you to do, gone in the clean up
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their room. And like I said, and that's basically what he'd be telling
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me. And I'm like, okay, I sir, I did it.
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I did it. I'm right and there's always a reason. And this is,
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you know, something I teach my. You know, my listen,
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you don't have to you to be obedient. That's something that God taught me.
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It's like, I don't like this. You don't have to like it
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to be obedient. You know. I make that very clear to me,
38:52
you know, because I had to think where I was like, well,
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God would never make me do something I don't want to do what I did.
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I had that believe, you know, and I will never forget the
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day God made it abundantly clear to me. I heard it three times in
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one day. You don't have to like it to be obedient. You don't
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have to like it to be obedient. If I tell you to do it,
39:15
doesn't matter how you feel. Obedience is necessary and it's better than sacrifice.
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You know. I used to try to bargain with God in that way.
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Oh Lord, how lack of obedience affected our blessings and our lives and
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our relationship with God. They wouldn't be as inclined to do it. I
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actually had to learn that the hard way. You know. I think people,
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I think people tend to think that God is going to barter with them
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and negotiate and do this. And like I had a coworker one time a
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few years ago and she was, Oh my God, she was, I'm
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going to church every Sunday. And I prayed to God for a new car.
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And you know, I prayed and asked him, if you get me
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this new car, that I'll attend church every Sunday and I would do this.
40:08
And so God blessed her with the car, and so then she stopped
40:15
going to church. I said, oh, you got the blessing that God
40:20
gave you, but now you don't want to keep your end of the bargain.
40:23
I said, okay, just like God bless you, he will remove
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that blessing. God would never do that, I said, okay. I
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said, you made a promise to God and you are not fulfilling your promise
40:37
to him. I said, but you know who am I to judge?
40:40
I said, you know, I just know the promises that you made and
40:45
the conversation that we had about the promise that you made. God doesn't beg
40:50
and he doesn't barter. I said, but you bartered with him, and
40:52
you made a promise. God is good on his promises because he never breaks
40:58
a promise. So you're supposed to keep yours when you promise him what you're
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gonna do. So she started saying, oh, well, I gotta get
41:06
the kids ready. It's five of them and that. And I said,
41:10
okay, you have five of them. When you were praying and asking him
41:14
to bless you with the car, the car started tearing up. It started
41:17
eating a whole bunch of work done to it. It couldn't make the payment,
41:22
like it was so much stuff. And I said, Mmm, you
41:28
ain't been talking to God either. You ain't been heaping up with nothing you
41:31
said you were gonna do. She's talking about you really believe that that's what
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it is. I said, go talk to them, find out for yourself.
41:38
I said, because I'm just on the outside looking in, girl,
41:42
I don't know. But I'm just gonna tell you what I'm saying. You
41:45
made a promise, and now you don't want to hold up what you promised
41:50
God you would do. Go do what you do, baby, But you
41:54
don't have a car no more. Okay. It's so I see what I
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see prlel and our relationships with it really is his parallel. And this is
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actually what one of our most recent Bible study Bible studies were on God's forgiveness.
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Except in Christ into your life, it is all or nothing. It's
42:15
the same with our relationships. This is why it's so important to believe in
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the journey, because once you accept Christ into your life, then boom,
42:21
the process begins. It's like a handshakee like, okay, boom, we're
42:25
starting. You know, the thing gives a lot of people. And I
42:30
say this to a lot of people. They want God to be so big
42:34
that he's the creator of the universe, everything inside of it, everything outside
42:37
of it, that he can supernaturally bless them, give them supernatural jobs and
42:42
finances, and solve it in a bottle, right exactly. But they want
42:47
him to be small enough to comprehend, small enough so that they don't have
42:52
to grow to meet him. You understand what I'm saying. Work that way.
42:57
You know, they want God and the blessings, but they don't want
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to give what it takes for that, which is your whole, entire heart.
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You gotta be able to surrender, and most people aren't willing to surrender
43:10
because they want to hold so much control over what it is that He does
43:15
in their lives. And God doesn't work that way. And I don't know
43:20
why people don't seem to understand that God does not work on our terms.
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He doesn't do that. And when I think, when people truly understand that
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God does not work on our terms, he will meet us where we are
43:36
and he'll wait for us to invite him in. But he's always there.
43:40
He's never too far away from you to get to him, but he will
43:45
not come in until you invite him in. And once you do understand that,
43:51
it's not it's not a straight line to your destiny. There is so
43:57
much that you're gonna go through order for him to see if you are worthy
44:02
of what you've prayed for. Because some of the things we pray for is
44:07
not on our plan that God has for us. Because we be praying sometimes
44:13
for that new car, for that new house, for whatever that is,
44:16
and God like that ain't even in the season and what you own right now,
44:21
So you can't have that call today, You can't even have that car
44:24
next year because it's not in the plan. But since you want to go
44:29
on over there and try to do something that I ain't told you it was
44:31
part of your plan right now, it ain't your season. But God ahead
44:36
gonna do. I'm gonna be right here. I'm not outside the perimeters of
44:40
God, the protection of God. So and everything goes cuzy. You're like,
44:45
oh, God, like, what's up? Way? I told you
44:50
not to do it, but you want to go on over there and do
44:52
it your way in the way. I wait for you. Yeah, I
44:58
thought what you was doing. I ain't seeing the no boat, no life
45:02
saved, I ain't sending none. You gonna work this out on your own
45:06
until you feel like I said what I told you not to do in the
45:10
first place. You won't go over there and touch that hot stove. I
45:14
told you don't touch it, but look at it. You don't got burnt.
45:15
Now you want me to heal it. I ain't all of that until
45:21
it's time to heal. Like, stop playing with me. I was one
45:25
of those. This is why I share it so deeply with people like I
45:29
was one of those because I kept I kept coming to God, and I'm
45:31
again I was expecting my elevations to look big different. I'm like, oh,
45:35
I just accepted my life into Jesus Christ and really not worried about anything
45:37
else. Everything's about the supernaturally happened in my life and everything started going the
45:43
opposite way, and I'm like, I don't think I'm doing it right.
45:45
I don't think I'm doing it right. But what do I need to do?
45:51
And I took the wrong time somewhere And now that I am where I
45:55
am, I am so open and so serious. This is so real about
46:00
what I went through. There is no shame. Just like I told you,
46:04
I'm real big on that I cannot carry shame in my father's name.
46:07
I will open it. I'm for it, all of it. I feel
46:13
like people need to understand that there is nothing that you've been through that God
46:19
doesn't already know about, and so you have nothing to be ashamed of.
46:23
And once you understand that, your level of transparency. That's why when I
46:29
met you, I told you guys, I was an open book. I
46:31
have nothing that I have been through that I am ashamed to tell you,
46:36
and I stand on that I don't have an issue with telling you what I've
46:40
been through, what I'm going through currently in this moment, because if I
46:45
can, if I'm ashamed of what I'm going through, then I'm ashamed to
46:47
tell you what God brought me through, yep. And if I'm gonna be
46:52
ashamed to tell you what God brought me through. Then I'm ashamed of the
46:54
life that He gave me. And I'm not ashamed of the life that he
46:59
gave me, because in life that He gave me is the one that I
47:01
consistently show up for every single day. Every day ain't a great day for
47:07
me, but every day I'm showing up and I'm thanking God for this day
47:10
and this day that I'll never see again, and I'm thankful for each and
47:14
every moment that He gives me because I don't know who we touch tonight,
47:19
but somebody's been touched by something we've said. And that's the biggest picture,
47:23
biggest point of it all, that somebody somewhere heard what needed to be said
47:31
tonight so that they can overcome what they're currently going through. Because going through
47:37
dealing with abandonment issues, being in domestic violence situations, going through addictions and
47:42
things of that nature, all of that made you who you are and appreciate
47:46
what God has done for you. Because if you look back over your yesterday's,
47:52
they didn't always seem bright and sunny, but yo tomorrow's and well,
47:57
yo today and YO tomorrow is always brighter because you got God leading the way.
48:01
And even if there's a dark day and a stormy cloud over that,
48:06
if you keep walking through it, God will get you through to the other
48:08
side in that rainbow and that sun is gonna shine again. You just gotta
48:13
trust it and believe it. And if you trust Him like you say you
48:16
do, he'll never put any more on you than He has not instilled inside
48:22
of you. I don't believe he don't give you nothing, no more than
48:25
you can bear. No, it's already there and He already knows what He's
48:30
equipped you with it. He just needs you to dig deep and bring it
48:32
out. Once you do that, you're fine. Yep. I want to
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thank you so much for being here tonight because you know, of course me
48:40
and you will talk all night about the goodness of God, Chad, because
48:45
we started before we got on here, and when we had the conversation a
48:49
couple of weeks ago, it was the same thing. But I never end
48:53
my show without saying this, and that is stay obedient to what God has
48:58
called you to do, because the only thing God needs you to do is
49:01
be obedient to what He's called you to do. But of course, please
49:06
let them know where they can get your hair care products and how they can
49:10
reach out to you if they want to be part of your Bible study.
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I thank you for having me, and I really do. I'm so grateful
49:46
that I'm grateful that you're doing this. I'm grateful that you're being obedient in
49:50
the way that God is using you. I really am, and I'm proud
49:52
and you are major. You've been in inspiration and a motivation since the day
49:55
I have met you. So thank you. But I love you, and
50:02
as always, you gotta come back, so we'll talk about that too.
50:07
But I love you, guys, and thank you guys for being here and
50:09
tuning in. And next well the twenty third, I will be talking with
50:16
my daughter on believe in the journey about motherhood and postpartum. So it's a
50:22
conversation that you guys don't want to miss, so make sure you tune in
50:25
on Thursday. It's actually Thanksgiving Day that we're gonna be talking about this,
50:30
so don't miss it. As always, love you, good night, bye
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a friend. Que the Sweet