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S3 E7: "Be More Obi-Wan" - A book to help all of us become more like our favorite Jedi (hopefully!) · Most Things Kenobi - A Star Wars Podcast

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  It's most things, Kenobi and don't try it, Anakin.
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  We always have the high ground. Hi everyone, welcome to another
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  episode of Most Things Kenobi, a podcast about Obi Wan Kenobi and
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  all things Star Wars. I'm your host, Leanne.
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  And I'm your host, Lauren. And before we get started, we
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  have a special shout out to our dear friend Hannah, who sent the
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  loveliest message to us and it literally stopped me in my
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  But we just wanted to say hello, Hannah.
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  something right. Yeah, that makes everything
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  worthwhile, honestly. I mean, yes.
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  We've, we've always said we would do this anyway just 'cause
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  you and I love chatting about Star Wars together.
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  But when we get messages like this that, you know, we have a
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  positive impact on someone else's life, that is just, Yep,
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  the best kind of message. So thank you, Hannah, and
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  sending you lots of good energy and hugs.
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  On to the main course. And this is special.
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  Yeah, it is special. It's different.
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  Yeah, and we have to thank our our friend and patron listener
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  Ben, who is just such a champion of our show.
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  He's a delight, yes. He was telling me how he put our
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  show on in in his workplace and everyone was listening to it
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  together. Just like Ben.
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  You're the best. When you sent me that, I was
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  like, you've got to be kidding me.
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  That's crazy. I don't know.
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  That's cool. Thanks, Ben.
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  It's really. Cool.
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  I thank you for the book he sent us.
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  It's part of a collection 'cause I have the Leia one that was
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  gifted to me by a different friend, not a well, not yeah,
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  they're not a patron, but that's OK.
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  Not to call them out, but like. We have friends who aren't
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  patriots. Yeah, that's correct.
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  Yeah. Yeah, that's correct.
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  This one is titled Be More Obi Wan, Navigate Your World with
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  Wit and Wisdom. And it's this little hardback
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  book. And perhaps you all have seen
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  them. And we thought it would be fun
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  to go through some of our favorite parts of this book and
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  talk about all the ways that we should be more like Obi Wan.
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  That will probably never be because it's Obi Wan.
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  And there's a reason why he's the best, because he's
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  everything that we are not. And he's just wittier.
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  He he's just when I'm in stress, I can't sass.
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  I freeze up, I clam up. And he is like always ready with
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  A1 liner, Yeah. And not only that, but the title
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  puts wit before wisdom. I know, I know because it's it's
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  a top tier character trait for him.
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  You know what else I like about this book?
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  They have Clone Wars pictures, like animated.
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  First of all, the Clone Wars one I'm I'm showing it to the class
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  but no one can see is from our one of our favorite episodes.
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  I know the minute I turned to that page I was like, ah, that's
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  excellent. Right.
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  And then there's pictures from the live action from the
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  original trilogy. There's pictures of Leia, of
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  Ray, of Vader, of freaking Ahsoka from the Ahsoka show.
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  So this is a recent book obviously, right?
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  What cracks? Me up huge about this though is
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  the Obi Wan icon that is on every single.
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  Page it's. Oh.
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  A mullet. The mullet, yes, Well, why not?
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  If you're going to be more like Obi Wan, you got to get the hair
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  down. And it's got the little flips
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  like the the roll brush flips at the end.
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  Of the giant roll brush, Yes, hair is.
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  Important. Maybe I could put like a picture
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  of it in the show notes or something like that.
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  So everyone. Gets that would be appropriate
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  this OK so as we get started, I just want to talk about this one
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  like the one that caught me the most because it's so shady.
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  It's shady as hell. It says be more Obi Wan by stop
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  avoiding your problems and it's a picture of Vader.
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  I can't. I love this so much because all
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  the jokes that we and most of the fandom make about like,
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  you're never going to outrun those Skywalkers.
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  Even after they die, you still got to deal with them and then
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  there's always another you have to deal with and it's like stop
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  avoiding your problems. Your Skywalker problems are
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  always right behind. Specifically, the Skywalkers.
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  Yeah, that one cracked me. Up perhaps for context, each
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  chapter is like one page and each chapter has a little phrase
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  it like face your fears. Stop avoiding your problems.
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  Jump in feet first. You know it's this is not like a
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  deep book, but it is a cute book.
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  And honestly, the things that are that are offered in here are
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  very Obi Wan. It could be, yeah.
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  It could be every Jedi really, if you want to, you know, from a
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  certain point of view, which is also in this book.
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  Yes, and they do have like lovely little inside Obi Wan
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  jokes like in the jump in feat first where it says toss off
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  anything that might get in your way like a bulky Jedi.
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  Pro, right? Right.
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  Because why are they wearing them?
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  And because he's his rope, rope drops are epic.
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  They're iconic, honestly. He times it all so, so well.
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  I know. I wonder how many times Ewan had
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  to practice getting that giant robe off his shoulders.
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  That's a great question to ask for anyone who gets to like meet
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  him in a meet and greet. You should ask that question.
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  I'd be. Curious.
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  Ask him how many times he got caught up in the giant bell
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  sleeves. Trying to wield a lightsaber
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  that could burn a hole through it in any turn.
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  Oh my goodness. This is a nice one.
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  Allow yourself to smile in tough times.
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  And the picture next to it is him chained up in Attack of the
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  Clones. He's not smiling in the picture
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  either. He has that deadpan look on his
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  face. Because fucking Anakin, right?
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  Like, yeah. That's when he says good job and
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  he's definitely not smiling enough.
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  But allow yourself to smile in tough times.
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  Sure, you're handcuffed in a dusty arena, surrounded by
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  ferocious peace, but that doesn't mean it's the wrong time
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  to crack and joke. I love this little book, I
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  really do. It's witty.
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  It's very witty. It doesn't take itself
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  seriously. No, it gives good sound advice
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  that and like you might assume this is for kids, but actually
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  it it's not just for kids. They even mention things like
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  following your CE OS instruction.
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  So it's definitely for adults as well.
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  But I like the way they presented in Little Bite Sized.
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  You can read this book in 15 minutes.
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  Yeah, I just, I think there's a little bit of humor in here that
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  I was unintentionally funny to me that Stop avoiding your
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  problems, Anakin. Darth.
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  Vader. There's some humor there.
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  They know what they were doing. Actually, who wrote this?
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  It's her name is. Is there an author listen?
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  Kristen something. Oh.
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  Kelly Knox. Kelly Knox.
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  Oh, OK, Kelly Knox. Maybe, perhaps I shouldn't say
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  she because Kelly can be a a male name too.
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  So written by Kelly Knox. Because I had looked at the
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  back, there's a bunch of like thank yous for people in the
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  Disney publishing office, but I didn't see an author listed.
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  But I guess that's on the the title page inside.
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  You know, something I really appreciate about this book are
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  the giant double layout pages of Ewan McGregor's face.
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  Oh. In all of its glory, with those
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  eyes of his. Yeah.
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  Honestly, this one of him, you know, at Qui God's funeral, he's
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  I know it's a funeral, but he's really pretty.
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  He's very it's the lighting. We've said for years that the
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  lighting favors Obi Wan Kenobi. It does.
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  In animation in live action. In all forms.
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  In art. Yes.
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  Here's another one I like. Stay focus on the present
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  moment. Now this one I could borrow.
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  This one I need to be reminded of.
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  It's hard to stay focused in the present moment.
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  But it's like the most useful way of blocking out what ifs,
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  which I think they even mentioned that on this page,
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  don't they? Because what if scenarios don't
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  really help anybody? You know, you, you need to deal
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  with what is in front of you and not extrapolate into
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  catastrophizing. Is that how you?
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  Say that Yeah, I. Always feel like I mispronounced
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  that word but. Mountains and molehills.
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  Yeah, yeah. But the thing I like about it is
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  staying present in the moment allows you to enjoy yourself
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  more. Yeah.
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  Especially when the moment is a good one.
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  You know you're not forcing yourself to smile through the
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  pain. But really, living in the
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  present means you're living, period.
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  You're not focused on the past, you're not focused on the
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  present. And here it says everyone can
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  practice mindfulness, whether they're a Jedi Master like Qui
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  Gon Jinn or someone without a trace of any Force abilities.
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  That's true. Except them all, Even even that
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  unmistakable whiff of bantha poodoo.
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  Now that was not necessary. We always have to have a poo
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  joke in the store. Or a fart.
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  It's either poo or fart. Always, usually in species.
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  Poodoo. Poodoo that's why I loved Andor.
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  They just said shit. That's right, they didn't
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  sugarcoat anything. It's just shit.
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  Yes, thank you. I could you picture Diego Luna
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  saying Pooju? I would.
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  Like to see him do it. He'd probably get tremendous joy
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  out of doing it, he would chuckle.
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  He would he. Would but you're right though,
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  the two don't mix. The the two don't mix, no.
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  Good God. What's another one?
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  What's another chapter you like? Honestly, I really got kind of
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  struck by the title page for one of the sections, The Keeping
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  Perspective. Oh yeah, yeah.
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  Which is this beautiful picture of you?
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  And. And it says, have you ever been
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  certain someone was the chosen one only to find out they were
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  not who you thought they were? And like, yeah, we know we're
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  talking about Anakin, but we're like, to me, it's more like,
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  well, lately I feel like a lot of the things I feel like I'm
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  certain about, I don't really think I'm right.
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  And that's frightening to have that experience.
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  But also there is like a little bit of a contradictory page
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  later that says to like hold true to your values and your
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  beliefs. So it's like finding that fine
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  line of whether or not you really do need to re evaluate
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  your perspective or is this a time where you really should be
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  holding on to what you believe in?
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  I think that's where as an adult, life gets hard.
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  Yeah, we, we briefly spoke about this before when we were setting
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  up for for this episode that a lot of this is is a little, I
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  don't want to say laughable in the face of reality.
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  It's not They're good. They're good reminders.
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  But often the reason why Obi Wan and most Jedi are so respectable
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  is because it comes easier to them than perhaps say, the ones
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  without use of the force or any sort of self-discipline.
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  But but that page in particular is really true.
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  Think of all the times that you've been, like, duped.
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  Yeah. And how long you went without
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  knowing who that real person was.
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  Yeah, it's scary when that kind of stuff happens.
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  It really disarms you. Yeah, and there was some line in
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  here at some point saying it might feel nice to go into the
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  desert and hit restart on your life.
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  And I was like, yeah, yeah, that does suck.
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  Wait a second, what kind of reset?
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  How severe are they talking? Not dehydration resetting but I
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  get I get to go live in a cave and and meditate for like 40
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  years and wait for Luke to grow up.
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  Just go and dry up like a prune in the desert.
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  But yeah. Then have a spa day and
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  rehydrate yourself. Yeah, some of this is very
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  ponderous. Like you could get, you could
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  get deep if you wanted to. Yeah.
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  And I, I think it's, yeah, I think like you were saying, it's
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  a little bit oversimplifying life, but also maybe sometimes
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  you need things oversimplified if you're an overthinker like I
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  am. Same.
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  Sometimes just getting down to a very simple route sentence.
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  Honestly, the the last page actually brought tears to my
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  eyes. What is?
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  I don't remember the last page. If you hear us flipping through
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  pages, I'll I'll try to edit it out.
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  But forgive us if you hear page flipping.
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  We have it. We have our textbooks here.
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  Oh, is this? Yeah, the last one.
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  Yeah. Don't stoop to their level,
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  which, you know, it's not really that.
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  It's what the line in this section where it says Obi Wan's
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  Obi Wan responds to hate with love and that I was just like,
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  yeah, 'cause that's Anakin says I hate you.
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  And he says, you know, I loved you.
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  That's yeah. And that's the picture that's
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  right next to the the the page itself with the writing that is
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  that's. That's the last, the last
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  spacious Obi one crying. That's usually.
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  Support turns out. But I I think that to end on the
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  sentiment that like meet hatred with love is actually one of the
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  most powerful messages you can get, especially right now, so.
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  Oh God, yeah. And so like think of.
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  This picture. Really puts it in perspective.
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  He's really suffering in this moment and instead of doing
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  what's easy and getting angry and hateful, he just says I
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  loved you. Yeah.
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  It's so beautiful. It is him on Mustafar, sweaty
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  and pretty. And the page before that is the
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  lawless, which is just. Oh God, yeah.
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  I mean between animation and and and live action, I mean there's
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  no difference. Both flawless.
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  So beautiful. Honestly, let's talk about that.
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  The the next, the one before it. Refuse to let anyone else define
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  you honestly. Yeah, that's.
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  Really important, yeah. And it's.
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  Only you have the power to define who you are.
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  Yeah, if you give up what you believe in, then they've already
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  won the fight before you even ignite your lightsaber.
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  Now I can. I can appreciate that.
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  Yeah, well then they say they may strike you down, but at
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  least then it will be on your terms.
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  Absolutely. And that's important.
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  Literally, literally. Oh man, I have so many examples.
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  I'm not gonna say 'cause they're all very personal, but like.
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  Yeah, but to use like the lawless in that example, it's
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  like it's literally the worst moment you can imagine besides
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  what happens on Mustafar. You know, someone you love that
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  you're now powerless to protect if you stick to your beliefs,
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  you have to like, let that person die.
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  It's so this is so classic Obi Wan and so fucking sad.
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  Star Wars is pain, honestly. This is his line.
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  You can kill me, but you can never destroy me.
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  Which is James's favorite line I think.
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  Yes, yes. And what an appropriate phrase
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  to have with the refuse to let anyone else define you.
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  Because in in real terms, not maybe not the word kill.
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  But like, you can. You can talk all the shit you
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  want, but you'll never bring me down.
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  I know who I am. Yeah, because the difference
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  between death and destruction are are so interesting cause
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  death isn't necessarily the worst thing.
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  And that's kind of like the the theme I was playing with in my
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  dark Obi Wan fix. It's like it's not about dying,
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  it's about losing what you believe in that's worse.
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  Yeah, I think losing yourself and losing perhaps maybe what
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  you stand for, trading it for something I could never live
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  with myself. Yeah, there's certain places
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  where you just have to choose to take a stand.
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  Like there, there is a line. Each person, I think most people
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  I'll say, have a line that they will not cross.
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  Right. And Obi Wan's had to face a lot
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  of lines that he never crossed. Never.
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  Yeah. He came close, you know, he got
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  angry. Anger's fine.
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  Anger is they. Even say that in this book a
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  Jedi feel anger and hatred. It's just what they choose to
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  act on that sets them apart. Which I thought was interesting
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  that they said Jedi feel hatred. Well, it's an important reminder
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  as well, because we think that they just go through life.
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  Well, maybe not we, but like there's a there's a part of us
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  that think it's easier for Jedi because they don't feel
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  anything. But that's not the truth.
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  Yeah. They feel everything that we do,
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  everything that you know, non force wielders do same shit that
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  Sith do. It's just there's two, there's
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  two ways here of reacting or acting, I guess depending on
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  which side you're on. But.
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  Yeah. It's a lifelong battle.
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  You know these these simple lines are lifelong struggles for
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  for myself. They are and like the there's
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  the one page that says regroup and reassess when you need to
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  and it's a picture of Qui Gon and he's saying I'm sure another
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  solution will present itself. That is so hard for me.
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  Like I want to believe that but that's so hard to practice for
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  real in real life. It makes me wish I had Qui
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  Gon's. Peace, I know, honestly, be more
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  Qui Gon too while we're at it. Seriously.
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  Yeah, 7 feet tall and totally calm.
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  Carrying an umbrella and a water bottle.
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  But seriously, it's like it goes back to living in the moment, in
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  the present moment. It's hard to do that when
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  you're, you're looking for answers or solutions and stuff.
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  And and that's that delicate balance you have to have of like
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  you have to solve a problem, you need to find a solution.
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  It may not be with you at this moment, but you have to trust in
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  something that it will come. Yeah, I know that's hard.
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  And that's the kind of faith that is difficult to just, you
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  know, trust that the universe has your best interests at
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  heart. It's hard to do that.
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  It's really hard. Yeah, I hope that's true.
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  You know I. Mean, I like to think that way
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  because so far I've gotten this far, right?
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  We all have. We've gotten to this very
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  moment. Yeah.
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  So, but the The thing is, is like over the past probably year
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  and a half, two years almost, I have had to ask myself this
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  question over and over. The question is, will it ever
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  get any better? When does this get easier?
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  And I don't know that I will ever have an answer to that
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  question, but you, you know what?
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  I know what my accountant just said to me yesterday.
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  I don't. I don't think I want to know
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  what anyone dealing with money wanted to say.
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  He was talking about life. He's 73 and he said life doesn't
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  get easier, it just gets different.
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  OK, I can accept that. I can accept that.
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  Listen, I have this page open. I was bookmarking it because I
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  actually really like this one. It kind of ties in.
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  It has a picture of Ahsoka. Oh nice.
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  And it says consider failure just as valuable as success.
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  Now the word valuable is the keyword here.
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  Nobody likes failure. Nobody wants to accept failure.
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  But is it really failure if it's valuable to you if you create
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  success from the failure? Failure sucks, really.
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  Does rejection, anything that can be considered like you lost,
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  you know what I mean? It's terrible.
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  It's horrible. Yeah.
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  But the quote that got me is the one of Ahsoka on the opposite
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  page. It says I like first.
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  Good or bad, they're always memorable.
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  I never thought of it like that. Yeah, yeah, that was
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  interesting. Is that from Oops?
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  The the Ahsoka TV show The TV show the series of Ahsoka.
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  I was going to say, is that from the series?
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  It get. I guess so because I don't
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  remember it from Clone Wars and it is picture it's her from the
• 23:29
  the series or maybe it's actually maybe it's from the
• 23:34
  Mandalorian. Yeah, I can't remember, but it
• 23:38
  was. It's a good quote.
• 23:39
  Honestly I'm like stopped in my tracks by this picture.
• 23:44
  What is it? Oh, he's, oh, he's so stunning.
• 23:47
  He's stunning. It's Ewan.
• 23:49
  He really is. It's on the Being true to
• 23:51
  yourself page, and my goodness, that is a gift.
• 23:56
  If that was myself, I would be true to him as well.
• 24:01
  I wouldn't you. Yeah, I'll be true to that for
• 24:04
  the rest of my life. A Jedi like that easy.
• 24:11
  I also love this line because it's shady as fuck too.
• 24:14
  I don't know. I, I, I gravitate towards the,
• 24:18
  the, the, the undercutting compliments.
• 24:20
  But as Ahsoka Tano learned from Obi Wan Kenobi and Anakin
• 24:24
  Skywalker time and time again, no one is perfect.
• 24:30
  Now did she learn that by observation or cuz they told her
• 24:33
  that she wasn't perfect? Could be a happy blend of both.
• 24:39
  Even a Jedi can make a mistake. Yeah, he can turn into Darth
• 24:43
  Vader. I really liked this.
• 24:52
  Of course, it's in this section about using your wits.
• 24:56
  Oh yes. Tell me more.
• 24:57
  I I liked that they made the point here about how you can,
• 25:01
  you know, make a jest to lighten the mood if if you're kind of in
• 25:05
  a dark situation, but it does say make jokes to gently, just
• 25:11
  never to anger as that leads to the dark side, blah, blah, blah.
• 25:15
  But you know. Right.
• 25:17
  Ellen DeGeneres used to say if I'm making a joke, we both
• 25:19
  should be laughing. And I always, I always felt that
• 25:23
  in my bones, like if only one person's laughing at the joke,
• 25:26
  it's at the expense of another person.
• 25:30
  That is very, very true. That's very true.
• 25:34
  I know some people. Some people handle grief with
• 25:38
  laughter, and everyone handles grief differently to some
• 25:42
  degree. It's on a spectrum, like most
• 25:43
  things, and a lot of people handle tense moments with with
• 25:48
  laughter, awkwardness with laughter.
• 25:51
  Yeah, you got to break the ice somehow, right?
• 25:55
  Shit, now last week I was on a a work training trip for for this
• 26:00
  whole this trip has been cancelled and rescheduled and
• 26:03
  cancelled and rescheduled and and you know the whole story,
• 26:06
  but I was not looking forward to it.
• 26:08
  I was so sick of it. I was so done with it and I
• 26:10
  hadn't even done it yet, but I told myself, I'm going to go to
• 26:16
  this thing. I'm going to make the most of
• 26:18
  it. And I ended up having a very,
• 26:20
  very good time to the point where I look back on that week
• 26:24
  rather fondly. I had a really nice time.
• 26:28
  And I think that's, you know, some of what is in this book,
• 26:33
  kind of, you know, it's just a nice thing to remember, like
• 26:38
  open your mind, have a little chuckle.
• 26:41
  If things are serious, just laugh your way through it.
• 26:44
  You know, just kind of don't take it.
• 26:47
  I I was building it up in my mind like it was going to be
• 26:49
  that some big thing and it ended up just being fine.
• 26:52
  You. Know when the whole perspective
• 26:54
  thing too, that like be open to the possibility that it might
• 26:57
  actually be nice. It might be.
• 26:59
  You know what is what is that famous phrase?
• 27:03
  I can't remember who said it that like, what if it all works
• 27:07
  out? You know that.
• 27:09
  Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We can think of 1000 ways we
• 27:13
  spend our whole fucking waking lives our our days spent
• 27:18
  catastrophizing, thinking of the worst case scenario.
• 27:21
  What if just for 4/4 or five seconds, we spent time thinking
• 27:25
  about how wonderful it might be? Yeah.
• 27:27
  Because chances are it will be that and not the, you know, the
• 27:32
  catastrophe. Of all, hopefully, hopefully,
• 27:34
  fingers crossed. I mean, hopefully, hopefully
• 27:37
  things can always go wrong, but they're almost never going to
• 27:40
  just blow up, you know, hopefully, hopefully.
• 27:46
  Well, unless you're on the. Death Star and then maybe it
• 27:49
  will blow up. I didn't think of the Death
• 27:52
  Star. Both of them.
• 27:53
  If you're on the Death Star and Luke Skywalker is nearby, it
• 27:57
  might blow up. Speaking of Death Star, you
• 28:02
  could also be Mr. Orson Krenik on Scariff and you'd just get
• 28:08
  Kaboom. Bye bitch.
• 28:11
  I love the thing. Sucks to suck.
• 28:14
  They took the time to add a little green dot in his eye
• 28:18
  right before he write. His kite so that you can.
• 28:21
  See the Death Star's reflection in his eyes?
• 28:25
  Oh, Krenik. Oh, Chronic, I do love that he
• 28:29
  stared at that thing so lovingly, and then his very last
• 28:32
  moments were spent staring at it, not lovingly.
• 28:35
  These are the beautiful ironies. What goes around comes around.
• 28:39
  That's the. Still sexy though.
• 28:42
  Yes, still sexy, but that makes me think of the Oscar Wilde
• 28:45
  quote. The good ended happily and the
• 28:49
  bad ended unhappily. That is what fiction means.
• 28:55
  That's a good quote too. Who said that?
• 28:58
  Oscar Wilde. Oh, of course.
• 29:00
  OK, Very nice. He's got some good ones.
• 29:02
  Yeah. I think my last favorite one to
• 29:06
  talk about in in this episode is trust in your own experience.
• 29:11
  That was a good one. Remember that you've trained
• 29:15
  hard to get where you are. Trust in yourself and what your
• 29:18
  teachers have taught you. As Yoda says, already know you
• 29:22
  that what you need and mind what you have learned save you it
• 29:26
  can. It's so hard to read him on
• 29:29
  paper. No, Yoda's difficult.
• 29:32
  My brain wants to rearrange it, but the point stands.
• 29:35
  How many times, including last week's work trip, did I say I
• 29:39
  can do this, I can do this, I've done this 1000 times.
• 29:42
  I can do this, I can do this, I've prepared for this.
• 29:45
  I've done worse. I've I've.
• 29:47
  Made my way through worse and I made it.
• 29:50
  Yeah, you've survived every day so far.
• 29:53
  That's it. And you, I think it we're all
• 29:56
  very quick to discredit our life experiences.
• 29:59
  Yes. And to assume that we're not
• 30:01
  prepared. Yeah, I think that's a great
• 30:04
  last point to make honestly, because it's and it's that
• 30:09
  mindfulness meditation idea that everything you need is already
• 30:13
  inside you. It's true, and you may not stick
• 30:16
  the landing perfectly. Yeah, and that's OK also.
• 30:20
  That's always OK. OK.
• 30:23
  It's not perfection. It's not.
• 30:25
  You're not. You're not aiming for
• 30:27
  perfection, you're just aiming to have the right intention in
• 30:31
  my opinion. And not only that, remember your
• 30:35
  own experience. You have experience doing all of
• 30:39
  this? Yeah.
• 30:41
  And you can still, you can do it.
• 30:43
  You can pull whatever you have inside of you out to do this.
• 30:46
  Whatever that thing is, you can do it.
• 30:49
  You got to believe in yourself. That seems so elementary, but
• 30:52
  how often do we need reminded of it?
• 30:54
  Me a lot. Yeah, and how often when you're
• 30:57
  an adult does someone say that to you?
• 30:59
  Like never. Never.
• 31:01
  You hear it all the time when you're in second grade.
• 31:03
  Exactly like people you know, you stop getting naps, you stop
• 31:07
  getting hugs and you stop getting encouragement when
• 31:09
  you're not in elementary school anymore.
• 31:11
  And adults need all of those things.
• 31:13
  We. Do.
• 31:15
  Naps. Especially naps.
• 31:17
  And like fruit juice boxes that you have to poke the thing in
• 31:21
  the hole and drink out of the straw.
• 31:23
  You know those things. We stopped getting all the good
• 31:26
  stuff. Why is it that the whole world
• 31:29
  expects children to be learning and make mistakes, but it's
• 31:34
  never appreciated when a an adult is trying to learn and
• 31:39
  make mistakes? Yeah, there's more perfection
• 31:42
  expected from adults. It's like we're supposed to
• 31:45
  know, but OK, but we don't know what we don't know, right?
• 31:49
  And that's not fair. That's not a fair expectation of
• 31:51
  anyone. Even Obi Wan's not perfect, he
• 31:55
  makes mistakes, but he. He's the closest thing he.
• 31:59
  Said this a million, Yeah. I mean, a perfection exists.
• 32:02
  It's him or Luke Skywalker, but yeah.
• 32:05
  Very true. But we've said it a million
• 32:08
  times. How many times has he been in a
• 32:10
  horrific situation and actually learned and changed and he's not
• 32:14
  the same? The next time he's in a similar
• 32:17
  situation? And that is something I wish I
• 32:20
  could be more Obi Wan. Yeah, I wish I had the patience,
• 32:25
  the wisdom, the fortitude and honestly the perseverance that
• 32:30
  Obi Wan has. Yeah, for sure.
• 32:35
  He's very. He's steady and, you know, has
• 32:40
  grace under fire. Yes, that's a great way of
• 32:43
  putting it. I want to be more like that.
• 32:49
  Same girl, same. All right.
• 32:57
  Next time we are going to talk about the mall series because
• 33:01
  that is coming out in just a few days.
• 33:04
  So we're probably going to try and do a week to week coverage
• 33:08
  of this. But we are thinking that we'll
• 33:10
  release our episodes later in the week since mall comes out on
• 33:14
  Monday and our episodes usually drop on Tuesday.
• 33:16
  That turn around time is too tight for us.
• 33:18
  But come back next time. We're going to probably do the
• 33:22
  first two batches that get released week 1 and Week 2 and
• 33:27
  then we'll pick up each week from there.
• 33:29
  But I'm excited. It looks pretty good.
• 33:32
  It does actually. I'm I'm intrigued.
• 33:36
  Sam and Sam looks. Sam what?
• 33:38
  We're listen, Chefs. Kiss.
• 33:41
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• 33:49
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• 34:23
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