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The Problem With Convincing People To Go Childless · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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Speaker 1: We got married fairly young and we both just decided
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Speaker 1: for many reasons we didn't want kids. And then at
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Speaker 1: some point we heard the acronym D.I.N.K. and I think
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Speaker 1: just really fell in love with it.
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Speaker 2: Children are the death of net worth. Pretty crude, but
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Speaker 2: honestly very true.
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Speaker 3: Right, because during a population crisis where every first world
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Speaker 3: country is below replacement, the smartest thing to do is
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Speaker 3: promote childlessness and to give people reasons why they shouldn't
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Speaker 3: have children. I mean, watching this mini documentary, you would
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Speaker 3: think that kids are the worst thing in the world
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Speaker 3: and every couple should be a dink or a dual
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Speaker 3: income no kids couple.
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Speaker 2: If anybody is considering becoming a dink, as a financial planner,
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Speaker 2: I highly recommend that strategy. I recommend it to my clients.
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Speaker 2: When my clients tell me that's an intentional choice they're
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Speaker 2: going to make, I am a big fan of it.
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Speaker 3: As opposed to like the hundred other things you can
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Speaker 3: do to outweigh the cost of having kids. If we're
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Speaker 3: talking about this purely from a transactional standpoint, because this
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Speaker 3: video doesn't address anything emotional, Having kids makes it much
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Speaker 3: easier to network, which can easily lead to better job
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Speaker 3: opportunities that you would not have had if you didn't
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Speaker 3: have kids. That could mean you get a better office
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Speaker 3: job because one of the parents on your kid's baseball
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Speaker 3: team is the hiring manager at a major company, or
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Speaker 3: if you're a blue-collar worker, you become the guy who
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Speaker 3: installs and fixes all the air conditioners of all the
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Speaker 3: parents on the local sports teams. I knew many parents
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Speaker 3: who did that when I was a kid. That being said,
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Speaker 3: there seems to be a large sentiment from the legacy
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Speaker 3: media against having children. We call it the legacy media
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Speaker 3: now because not enough people watch it anymore to call
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Speaker 3: it the mainstream media. But there is a strong sentiment
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Speaker 3: against having children in the media, whether it's this piece
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Speaker 3: here from Vox that I covered a couple years ago,
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Speaker 3: or this one here from The Economist, or the one
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Speaker 3: that I just showed from CNBC called Why More Americans
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Speaker 3: Are Going Child Free, which is actually not the only
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Speaker 3: hit piece that CNBC has made to push the idea
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Speaker 3: of not having children. They did this one a few
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Speaker 3: years ago called Does Having Kids Make You Happier?, Oh,
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Speaker 3: and look, it's that lady from the Vox video that
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Speaker 3: I covered who basically said that having kids will make
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Speaker 3: you depressed.
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Speaker 4: Let's see what she had to say.
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Speaker 5: Parenthood is like a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs,
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Speaker 5: of highs and lows. And life without children is simply
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Speaker 5: much more stable. It has much less variation. My financial
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Speaker 5: well-being would be better off if I had not had children.
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Speaker 5: And that's true of all child-free people in the United States.
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Speaker 5: They are financially better off.
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Speaker 4: All of them are better off financially?
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Speaker 3: That seems like an incredibly easy-to-attack generalization that a university
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Speaker 3: professor should not be saying. So we have our narrative,
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Speaker 3: we have our dink couple that serves as an anecdote
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Speaker 3: that the audience can connect to, and we have our
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Speaker 3: consultants who are purely here to advertise the university or
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Speaker 3: business they represent, like Wells Fargo. Hey, remember what they
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Speaker 3: got caught doing a couple years ago? Anyway, let's see
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Speaker 3: why you shouldn't have children.
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Speaker 6: Some couples are contemplating having children at the same time
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Speaker 6: that they're still paying off student loans that they incurred
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Speaker 6: when they were 18 to 22 years old.
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Speaker 3: All the more reason to try to convince more people
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Speaker 3: to not waste their money by going to college. Not
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Speaker 3: every degree is worth $ 50, 000 to $ 100, 000 of debt. If
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Speaker 3: your time in college doesn't lead you to a career
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Speaker 3: that makes it easy to pay off what you spent
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Speaker 3: on your degree, then you screwed up. You can easily
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Speaker 3: research the job market for how much your degree is worth,
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Speaker 3: and if you don't know how to do that, then
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Speaker 3: just look it up on YouTube. Certainly you should not
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Speaker 3: be going to an Ivy League school unless your rich
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Speaker 3: parents are paying for it or your degree is super valuable.
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Speaker 3: But these days, for the most part, colleges are just
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Speaker 3: basically scamming people out of tons of money and wasting
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Speaker 3: their time.
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Speaker 4: Colleges need to.
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Speaker 3: Be restructured to get rid of useless programs like these.
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Speaker 7: Okay, now you're just making shit up.
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Speaker 8: How much does NYU cost?
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Speaker 9: But these programs should not exist, and college needs to
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Speaker 9: get rid of general education.
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Speaker 3: Nobody remembers any of their GE anyway, and this would
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Speaker 3: cut the cost of college in half. If I'm wasting
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Speaker 3: money on a communications major, I should not have to
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Speaker 3: take chemistry. We already have enough general education in elementary school,
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Speaker 3: middle school, and high school. Now this won't solve the
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Speaker 3: student debt crisis, but I will say that because of
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Speaker 3: how interest rates work, $ 20, 000 is a lot easier to
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Speaker 3: pay off.
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Speaker 4: Than $ 40, 000. Alright, next reason why kids are bad.
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Speaker 3: So if you look at inflation within the child care market,
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Speaker 3: it surpasses general overall inflation within the economy. And we
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Speaker 3: have more proof that moving the culture towards households with
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Speaker 3: two working parents was a mistake. Not only does this
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Speaker 3: flood the labor market with more competition, which gives employers
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Speaker 3: a lot of power and lowers wages, but it also
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Speaker 3: removes the benefit of children having the people who care
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Speaker 3: about them the most taking care of them, which are
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Speaker 3: their own parents. Now the market has corrected itself to
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Speaker 3: the extent that child care is too expensive to afford.
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Speaker 9: One of my very closest friends, she's been struggling with
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Speaker 9: the reality that the take-home pay she makes is about
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Speaker 9: equal to what child.
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Speaker 10: Care would be.
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Speaker 9: That's a really hard position.
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Speaker 6: To be in.
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Speaker 4: Well, there you go. Don't work. Problem solved.
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Speaker 3: If you can't provide enough economic value to offset the
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Speaker 3: cost of child care for your family, then you shouldn't
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Speaker 3: be working. Now, I understand that we live in the
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Speaker 3: real world, and obviously for a lot of families, having
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Speaker 3: one parent stay home is not realistic. However, that doesn't
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Speaker 3: mean that we shouldn't be pushing to try to make
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Speaker 3: it so as many families as possible can afford to
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Speaker 3: have one parent who stays at home. Not only would
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Speaker 3: this be better for children, but it would also lower
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Speaker 3: demand for childcare, which would decrease its price and make
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Speaker 3: having kids more affordable, which would encourage more people to
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Speaker 3: have them. There are plenty of ways to make it
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Speaker 3: so more people can afford a one working parent home.
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Speaker 3: One would be telling young people... Hey, instead of getting
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Speaker 3: a stupid degree in gender studies, how about you become
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Speaker 3: an x-ray tech or a nurse? You can also push
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Speaker 3: guys more towards trades. Trades make a ton of money,
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Speaker 3: and for a lot of them, the education is just
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Speaker 3: a few months. Maybe a year or two, which is
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Speaker 3: still way less time than college. Some of them are apprenticeships,
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Speaker 3: which means they'll pay you while you're in school. These
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Speaker 3: young people could also move to cheaper states. California and
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Speaker 3: New York aren't the only places to live. They could
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Speaker 3: create parenting co-ops where everyone takes turns watching each other's
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Speaker 3: kids and so they don't have to pay a babysitter
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Speaker 3: every time. They could learn how to cook instead of
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Speaker 3: door dashing everything, and they can learn basic repair and maintenance,
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Speaker 3: so affording to live doesn't cost an astronomical amount of money.
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Speaker 3: Back in the past, people would do everything themselves instead
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Speaker 3: of outsourcing all their chores. So with a little forward planning,
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Speaker 3: there are a lot of things you can do to
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Speaker 3: make it so you can afford to have kids. Moving on,
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Speaker 3: let's get to my favorite part of this CNBC documentary.
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Speaker 9: We started investing in our early 20s. I've feel really
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Speaker 9: safe because we have this strong nest egg of ETFs
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Speaker 9: that are accessible and fairly liquid. And then we also
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Speaker 9: have our long-term savings, which are tied up in IRAs.
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Speaker 9: We can choose what our aging years look like because
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Speaker 9: we've saved to plan for that eventuality.
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Speaker 3: So this is the crux of the video's argument against
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Speaker 3: having kids. They say it's better for your finances. This,
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Speaker 3: by the way, is not talking about any of the
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Speaker 3: psychological benefits of having a family. I bring this up
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Speaker 3: because relationships and kids are a profound factor in keeping
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Speaker 3: people stable and away from behaviors like drug addiction. Something
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Speaker 3: to look out for if you plan to stay permanently single.
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Speaker 3: It's a lot harder to keep yourself away from degeneracy.
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Speaker 3: But okay, let's hear what CNBC has to say. How
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Speaker 3: much better is it for your finances to not have kids?
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Speaker 8: According to census data, dinks can save 9% more for
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Speaker 8: retirement each year compared to dual-income couples with children.
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Speaker 4: That's it?
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Speaker 3: I'm going to sacrifice having a family so I can
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Speaker 3: save $ 400 more a year? How much are these dinks
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Speaker 3: wasting money and not improving their career prospects if they
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Speaker 3: can only come up with an extra $ 400 a year?
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Speaker 3: This documentary starts out by saying that it's like $ 300, 000
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Speaker 3: to raise each kid. You figure with those numbers that
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Speaker 3: dinks would be maxing out their 401k every year, but
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Speaker 3: based on these numbers, you could reasonably assume that people
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Speaker 3: who have kids are way more responsible with their money.
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Speaker 3: No way, you've got to be kidding me. CNBC cites
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Speaker 3: Rocket Mortgage for this data, which is not the primary
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Speaker 3: source of it, by the way. This means that a
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Speaker 3: major organization is too stupid or too lazy to cite
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Speaker 3: the primary source, or they're citing Rocket Mortgage as the
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Speaker 3: source to advertise yet another bank in this video.
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Speaker 4: Anyway, the Rocket Mortgage article that is citing the U.S.
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Speaker 3: Census Bureau Current Population Survey says that a key takeaway
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Speaker 3: is that families with kids are 22% more likely to
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Speaker 3: own their own home. Why wasn't this in the CNBC video?
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Speaker 3: Isn't homeownership important to most people?
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Speaker 8: Another 2021 study found that childless adults aged 55 and
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Speaker 8: older had a personal median net worth of $ 153, 900, compared
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Speaker 8: to $ 130, 400 for biological parents. Again, that's it?
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Speaker 3: You're telling people to sacrifice all the benefit that a
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Speaker 3: family can bring to get an extra $ 23, 000 in net worth? Sure,
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Speaker 3: it's a noticeable difference, but at the start of this video,
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Speaker 3: they were saying that kids were the death of finances.
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Speaker 2: Children are the death of net worth.
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Speaker 5: Pretty crude, but honestly very true.
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Speaker 3: Isn't this kind of an overstatement based on the data
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Speaker 3: that they showed? The person who did the editing decided
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Speaker 3: to put that clip in there despite their info showing
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Speaker 3: that it's not really a life-ending difference. If kids are
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Speaker 3: so expensive for middle-class families and having kids is financial suicide,
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Speaker 3: then I would expect dinks to have like double the
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Speaker 3: net worth of people who decided to have kids.
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Speaker 6: If you have a dollar and you have to choose
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Speaker 6: how to use it, a dink can prioritize savings, retirements, investments,
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Speaker 6: both in the equities market as well as things like
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Speaker 6: real estate or second properties.
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Speaker 3: Yep, let's have the Wells Fargo lady tell everyone to
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Speaker 3: make sure to put their money in the bank or
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Speaker 3: put their money towards investments that banks own. This whole
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Speaker 3: segment wasn't actually just CNBC telling people to not have
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Speaker 3: children so they can remind people to use a bank
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Speaker 3: that's famous for screwing their customers over, was it?
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Speaker 4: Outside of that, to me it just sounds like.
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Speaker 3: A lot of the notion of not wanting to have
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Speaker 3: kids stems from selfishness and hedonism, and the people they
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Speaker 3: chose for this documentary don't really debunk that.
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Speaker 9: Not having children has given us the freedom to pursue
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Speaker 9: other things. Remodeling our home. I'm a beekeeper.
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Speaker 4: Uh, cool?
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Speaker 3: Remodeling a house and beekeeping doesn't really describe purpose, and
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Speaker 3: most people's purpose is their children. Having purpose and meaning
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Speaker 3: keeps people away from degeneracy, and certainly removing social conventions
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Speaker 3: like going to church have produced a net negative on
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Speaker 3: people's social well-being and sense of community, so I don't
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Speaker 3: think that most of the people who are moving towards
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Speaker 3: not having kids because of a modern economic crisis are
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Speaker 3: going to have the mental bandwidth to figure out an
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Speaker 3: adequate replacement for not having kids when it comes to
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Speaker 3: their life purpose. Plus, when it comes to replacing what
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Speaker 3: religion used to provide, it seems like a sizable number
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Speaker 3: of people have had a nasty habit of replacing Christianity
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Speaker 3: with idolizing an authoritarian government, and my hypothesis on the
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Speaker 3: childlessness thing is that the less vigilant people are going
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Speaker 3: to replace that with hedonism and depression as opposed to
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Speaker 3: a fulfilling life. So, not a great idea to trash
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Speaker 3: age-old social norms so that you can solder custom keyboards.
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Speaker 1: The free time is actually one of the biggest things
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Speaker 1: for me. So, we built me a little... office slash
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Speaker 1: bedroom out here we definitely have some more expensive hobbies
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Speaker 1: i uh build mechanical keyboards like uh computer keyboards in
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Speaker 1: my spare time and just parts and stuff for that
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Speaker 1: can be very expensive.
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Speaker 3: Cool so if you don't have kids you can have
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Speaker 3: extra money for a plastic master sword replica a pip
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Speaker 3: boy and some star wars merch By the way, lots
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Speaker 3: of free time isn't as great as it sounds. Obviously,
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Speaker 3: you don't work yourself to death, but having endless amounts
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Speaker 3: of free time will actually make you more depressed and
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Speaker 3: less mentally stable. Also, we aren't even talking about some
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Speaker 3: of the more insane stuff that's coming from the movement
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Speaker 3: towards childlessness. If you go on the Reddit forum r
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Speaker 3: slash childfree, it's basically like an angry incel forum, but
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Speaker 3: for mostly women who don't want kids. This forum largely
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Speaker 3: seems to be about complaining about having to exist around kids.
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Speaker 3: Mother of three on the bus yesterday. where the poster
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Speaker 3: talks about typical child behavior that is not offensive and
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Speaker 3: can mostly just be ignored. Look at this part that
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Speaker 3: says kid 2 and talks about how this monster tortured
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Speaker 3: a man by looking at him. Is it the mom's
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Speaker 3: fault for allowing her child to stare at the guy,
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Speaker 3: or is it the guy's fault for not just simply
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Speaker 3: saying hello to the kid? This is not that big
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Speaker 3: of a deal. Interacting with a child who happens to
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Speaker 3: be in your proximity is not the worst burden to bear.
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Speaker 3: Here's a similar one about babies crying on a plane.
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Speaker 3: I fly a lot, and four crying babies on one
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Speaker 3: flight is not that common, and if you don't like it,
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Speaker 3: noise-canceling headphones are not that expensive.
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Speaker 4: It's only a three-hour flight.
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Speaker 3: Unless you're talking about the two-hour delay, which is not
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Speaker 3: the fault of the kids, this is a mountain out
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Speaker 3: of a molehill. Here's another poster complaining that their friends
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Speaker 3: like to talk about their kids, and how they are
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Speaker 3: forced to interact with the kids too. You would think
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Speaker 3: that these people believe that children are a disease. This
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Speaker 3: one here calls a kid a gremlin and the mom
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Speaker 3: a breeder. You see, they even have their own angry
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Speaker 3: incel terms. They aren't foids, they're breeders. And last, we
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Speaker 3: have a person who thinks that having to share a
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Speaker 3: mango with a child is the worst thing in the world.
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Speaker 3: Why would you not want to share things with your kids?
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Speaker 3: Like that guy in the Olympics who won the silver
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Speaker 3: medal in the air gun competition who immediately gives a
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Speaker 3: medal to his daughter. That's how an adult should behave.
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Speaker 3: Not only should you share the good mango, but you
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Speaker 3: should eat the crappy mango so that your kid can
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Speaker 3: have the good ones. I will say one thing, though.
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Speaker 3: I don't like the CNBC documentary on dinks because I
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Speaker 3: think the goal of it is to take people who
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Speaker 3: are on the fence about it and push them into
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Speaker 3: not having children. However, there are certainly people who do
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Speaker 3: not want kids that should not have them.
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Speaker 4: Outside of maybe the.
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Speaker 3: 16-year-olds who are posting on this subreddit, if anyone from
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Speaker 3: r slash childfree comes at me saying that they don't
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Speaker 3: want kids, I'm not trying to convince them otherwise. Now,
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Speaker 3: that's not to say that every person who's choosing to
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Speaker 3: not have kids is some angry spinster who hates children.
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Speaker 3: I know people personally who don't want kids and.
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Speaker 4: Are great around them.
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Speaker 3: To get back to what I said in the beginning, though,
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Speaker 3: I don't like this whole agenda being pushed by the
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Speaker 3: legacy media that's in favor of depopulation. I don't like
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Speaker 3: this stuff whether it's them parading around Chelsea Handler with
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Speaker 3: how much she enjoys acting like a teenager at 49,
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Speaker 3: because she chose to not have kids, or when it's
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Speaker 3: big figureheads like Bill Gates saying that we need to
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Speaker 3: lower the population to save the environment.
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Speaker 11: So you've got a thing on the left, CO2, that
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Speaker 11: you want to get to zero, and that's going to
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Speaker 11: be based on the number of people and the CO2
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Speaker 11: being put out per unit of energy. So let's look
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Speaker 11: at each one of these and see how we can
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Speaker 11: get this down to zero.
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Speaker 4: First, we've got population.
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Speaker 11: The world today has 6.8 billion people That's headed up
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Speaker 11: to about $ 9 billion. Now, if we do a really
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Speaker 11: great job on new vaccines, health care, reproductive health services,
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Speaker 11: we could lower that by perhaps 10 or 15 percent.
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Speaker 4: And then he follows that up with this.
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Speaker 11: In fact, if you could pick just one thing to
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Speaker 11: lower the price of to reduce poverty, by far you
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Speaker 11: would pick energy.
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Speaker 3: I know I've already showed these clips in a different video,
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Speaker 3: but wow, it's just so convenient that you environmentalists keep
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Speaker 3: attacking the one thing that would make everything cheaper, which
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Speaker 3: hurts poor people, by the way, instead of trying to
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Speaker 3: figure out an alternate solution. So I'm not really a
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Speaker 3: fan of all these celebrities and political figures telling everyone
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Speaker 3: to do their part to save the environment by not
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Speaker 3: having kids. Seth Rogen being one of the latest ones
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Speaker 3: with that ideology.
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Speaker 8: You referenced that you don't have any kids. I do not.
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Speaker 10: That has helped me succeed as well. well you know
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Speaker 10: i'm 40 again you know like it's not now it's
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Speaker 10: more than anything the conversation is like honestly thank god
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Speaker 10: we don't have children we get to do whatever we
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Speaker 10: want and we can just do that and we don't
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Speaker 10: have to raise a child which the the world does
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Speaker 10: not need right.
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Speaker 3: Now wow i was not ready to hear that seth
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Speaker 3: rogan was only 40 years old when this was filmed
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Speaker 3: he looks much older than that i guess that's what
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Speaker 3: years of drug abuse will do to you But this
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Speaker 3: whole don't have a family to save the environment narrative
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Speaker 3: has affected people's opinions on whether or not to have kids.
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Speaker 3: And I've heard a number of people who are choosing
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Speaker 3: to not have kids say this stuff.
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Speaker 7: So there's also a movement of people who choose not
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Speaker 7: to have children for environmental reasons. As we know, our
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Speaker 7: planet is going through a pretty catastrophic environmental crisis. So
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Speaker 7: there's a growing movement of people who choose not to
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Speaker 7: have children because they don't want to compound that problem
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Speaker 7: they don't want to bring more people into an already
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Speaker 7: you know dying world and I can 100% see this
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Speaker 7: and I think for many years that was probably the
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Speaker 7: reason why I didn't want to have a child was
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Speaker 7: because I felt like I already live a life of
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Speaker 7: relative luxury in the sense that I have a big
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Speaker 7: car I drive a big car I have things right
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Speaker 7: I consume things and I felt that my single biggest
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Speaker 7: contribution to the environment could be simply not procreating.
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Speaker 3: Personally, I think this is a very stupid reason to
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Speaker 3: not have kids. You're sacrificing human connection, community, and moments
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Speaker 3: that will forever change your life in a good way
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Speaker 3: because of something that might happen in the future that
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Speaker 3: we probably will just end up solving with better technology
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Speaker 3: like always. And I also have a really hard time
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Speaker 3: believing that any of these major companies like, say, Apple...
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Speaker 3: actually care about the environment when they go out of
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Speaker 3: their way to fight right to repair bills and make
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Speaker 3: it so instead of spending $ 50 fixing a little faulty
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Speaker 3: wire in your laptop, you have to buy an entirely
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Speaker 3: new computer. This whole we care about the environment page
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Speaker 3: from Apple is a complete joke. And Apple is not
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Speaker 3: the only company doing this. Tons of companies do it.
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Speaker 3: From cell phones to washing machines to tractors to refrigerators
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Speaker 3: to vacuums.
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Speaker 4: Welcome to today's episode of How You're Getting F'd. I'm
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Speaker 4: your host, Lewis Rossman.
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Speaker 12: Today I'd like to talk about a company that is
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Speaker 12: near and dear to my heart when it comes to
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Speaker 12: companies that I will never give money to again, and
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Speaker 12: that is a company called Shark Vacuums. Now, this consumer
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Speaker 12: had an experience with his vacuum that was very similar
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Speaker 12: to mine. We're going to go over this in great detail.
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Speaker 12: They bought two Shark Vacuums. And one of these vacuums
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Speaker 12: was only six months old. Both of these vacuums have
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Speaker 12: a supposedly five-year warranty, which is going to trick people
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Speaker 12: into believing that because they spend $ 300 to $ 400 in
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Speaker 12: a vacuum cleaner that they're actually going to get good service. However,
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Speaker 12: it says what is not covered in this warranty. Normal
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Speaker 12: wear and tear of wearable parts such as foam filters,
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Speaker 12: HEPA filters, or pads. The customer had.
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Speaker 4: worn-out plastic.
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Speaker 12: Wheels on the front of the vacuum. How this type
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Speaker 12: of thing wears out after six months is beyond me. Now,
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Speaker 12: he calls them to ask where I can buy this
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Speaker 12: because he cannot find it on his website. They say
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Speaker 12: that he has to buy the entire bottom piece. He's like,
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Speaker 12: why do I need the whole bottom piece when all
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Speaker 12: I need is wheels? But fine, fuck it, you win. However,
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Speaker 12: she says we don't even have the entire bottom assembly
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Speaker 12: in stock. You can't get it from us. But maybe
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Speaker 12: one of the retail outlets you bought it from has
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Speaker 12: those parts. When is the last time that you went
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Speaker 12: to a Walmart or a Best Buy and you were
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Speaker 12: able to purchase replacement parts for your vacuum? Now, the
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Speaker 12: idea of a HEPA filter being a wear part, a
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Speaker 12: brush being a wear part, fine.
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Speaker 4: The wheels are a wear part?
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Speaker 12: Is Shark saying the quiet part out loud that the
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Speaker 12: wheels on their vacuum are so horrible you should expect
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Speaker 12: to have to replace these every three to six months?
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Speaker 12: Not only replace them, but they won't even have that
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Speaker 12: part in stock for a product that you purchased new
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Speaker 12: six months ago?
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Speaker 3: So quit all the BS about how you guys care
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Speaker 3: about the environment until you stop fighting people's right to
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Speaker 3: have ownership over the things that they buy and stop
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Speaker 3: fighting people's ability to make small repairs so that their
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Speaker 3: one-year-old MacBook stays on a computer desk instead of going
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Speaker 3: into a landfill only to be replaced again a year
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Speaker 3: later over an easy repair or a known design flaw
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Speaker 3: that was not fixed for like 10 years. Getting back
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Speaker 3: to the CNBC video, they continue with what I call
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Speaker 3: a plausible deniability clause where they basically say, See, we
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Speaker 3: didn't say everything about kids was bad.
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Speaker 8: But the rise of dinks isn't such great news for
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Speaker 8: the economy as a whole. Historically, lower birth.
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Speaker 3: Rates They did this in the other documentary too, but
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Speaker 3: the whole point.
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Speaker 8: Of this singular statement in this 11-minute video is to
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Speaker 8: give them a cop-out so they can.
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Speaker 3: Say, See, we didn't only say negative things about kids.
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Speaker 3: Remember that 20 seconds that we spent saying that lower
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Speaker 3: birth rates are bad for the economy? When this moment
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Speaker 3: isn't until we are already most of the way through
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Speaker 3: the video, and they have already laid the groundwork that
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Speaker 3: would make people think that they shouldn't have kids. Oh,
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Speaker 3: and then they followed up with how unfair it is
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Speaker 3: for people who are child-free.
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Speaker 8: For Dinks, the biggest challenges are often not financial.
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Speaker 6: There could be additional pressure as Dinks get older. for
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Speaker 6: people within their family to assume that they can take
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Speaker 6: care of certain obligations. For example, if you have an
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Speaker 6: aging parent, dinks might be the ones that are relied
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Speaker 6: upon because it's presumed you have disposable income or you
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Speaker 6: have disposable time to take on these responsibilities.
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Speaker 3: Things are so hard. People expect us to do stuff
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Speaker 3: because we have more free time. Well, yeah, if you
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Speaker 3: want a well-running society, then how about you don't make
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Speaker 3: it all about you? Why would you not want to
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Speaker 3: help your family when they need it? This sounds very sociopathic,
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Speaker 3: and it certainly doesn't help get rid of the stereotype
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Speaker 3: that people who don't want kids are selfish and immature. Guys,
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Speaker 3: you don't know how bad it is. They don't make
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Speaker 3: Facebook groups for people without kids.
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Speaker 6: I think that there is a self-care aspect that is
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Speaker 6: minimized when you're a dink. So there are many mom
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Speaker 6: groups or, you know, daddy-daughter dances. There aren't groups for, hey,
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Speaker 6: I'm a professional woman and I just want to go
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Speaker 6: home and read a book and take care of myself tonight.
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Speaker 3: Well, depending on what she means by take care of
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Speaker 3: myself tonight, there are plenty of forums for that. To
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Speaker 3: finish off, the Dink couple probably gives some of the
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Speaker 3: worst advice.
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Speaker 1: Don't go into the Dink lifestyle just like, oh, I
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Speaker 1: don't have kids, so I just have more money and
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Speaker 1: can do whatever. It still takes the work of, like,
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Speaker 1: planning for your future, putting money away. If you're not
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Speaker 1: going to have kids, make sure you still save money
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Speaker 1: for your future.
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Speaker 4: If you don't have kids, make sure you save.
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Speaker 3: This advice is super transactional and, again, probably cut just
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Speaker 3: to promote Wells Fargo and Rocket Mortgage. In reality, saving
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Speaker 3: money is the least of your worries if you aren't
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Speaker 3: going to have kids, because you should be spending a
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Speaker 3: ton of time figuring out substitutes for the things that
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Speaker 3: having a family provides, like a sense of purpose and community.
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Speaker 3: The people who promote this stuff aren't really thinking about
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Speaker 3: things like, hey, in a dink couple, what happens when
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Speaker 3: one of you dies? My grandmother died a bunch of
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Speaker 3: years ago, and if my grandfather did not have kids,
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Speaker 3: he would have been done, like absolutely done. It took
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Speaker 3: like two years of everyone coming together to help out
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Speaker 3: before he was okay again. What are you going to
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Speaker 3: do when that happens? And don't say friends because a
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Speaker 3: lot of your friends are going to be dead, if
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Speaker 3: not all of them.
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Speaker 13: Almost all my friends are dead. You know, it's just
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Speaker 13: so awful when all your main social events are going
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Speaker 13: to the hospital, going to funerals, you know, and going
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Speaker 13: to visit widows.
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Speaker 3: Welcome to the reality of getting old. So honestly, I
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Speaker 3: think for most people, choosing to be childless is not
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Speaker 3: a good path especially if they are being convinced to
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Speaker 3: do it for self-defense purposes, like not being able to
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Speaker 3: afford it. There are many things that you can do
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Speaker 3: to change your situation, but if you have it in
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Speaker 3: your head that you can't change things, then you aren't
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Speaker 3: going to figure out stuff like, hey, maybe I should
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Speaker 3: learn a trade instead of racking up a bunch of
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Speaker 3: student debt in college, and maybe that's not the easiest
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Speaker 3: mindset to get into, but one of the things that
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Speaker 3: I have found to help make a pattern shift is
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Speaker 3: to change your environment. I spent a lot of time
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Speaker 3: in my office making content, and I was feeling like
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Speaker 3: a change needed to happen, so I moved all the
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Speaker 3: furniture around, primarily to help me start live streaming again,
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Speaker 3: and ever since I did that, I feel way better,
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Speaker 3: I'm way more productive, and I'm way quicker to put
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Speaker 3: effort into learning new things and changing my behaviors. It's
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Speaker 3: surprising how different I feel just from changing the direction
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Speaker 3: that I face when I sit down in my office.
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Speaker 3: This is why Jordan Peterson tells messy people to clean
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Speaker 3: their rooms. It changes their environment, which will cause them
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Speaker 3: to start thinking differently, and help break their negative patterns.
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Speaker 4: Try it.
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Speaker 3: And if you want a strong step-by-step process of how
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Speaker 3: to develop good behaviors, then I recommend that you read
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Speaker 3: or listen to a book called Atomic Habits. I've never
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Speaker 3: seen a better guide on how to reliably build good
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Speaker 3: habits and get rid of bad ones. You may not
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Speaker 3: be able to solve all the world's problems in one day,
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Speaker 3: but if you stay consistent, things that seemed impossible when
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Speaker 3: you started will seem easy over time. Anyway, thanks for watching,
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