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Episode 112: Changing of the Seasons · Community Routes

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  Samuel: Hey everyone. Welcome to
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  Samuel: Community Routes, a place where
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  Samuel: we gather in community to talk
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  Samuel: about mental health so we can
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  Samuel: travel the journey of life
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  Samuel: together.
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  Samuel: I'm Samuel Richards.
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  Julie: I'm Julie Richards.
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  Sarah: I'm Sarah Wakefield.
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  Samuel: And boom, we're back.
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  Samuel: It's been a year, but we wanted
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  Samuel: to kind of take this moment to
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  Samuel: reconnect with you, you know,
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  Samuel: maybe go over this past year and
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  Samuel: what's ahead.
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  Julie: We've been talking together about how sometimes any of us
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  Julie: need to sometimes step back a little bit, regroup, rest up.
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  Julie: We even have times of, um, withdrawal or being overly
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  Julie: involved in a lot of things.
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  Julie: But this past year in
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  Julie: particular, I think has been a
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  Julie: lot for those of us living in
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  Julie: the US and, um, lots of
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  Julie: political changes, lots of
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  Julie: things happening that are
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  Julie: impacting us day to day, and
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  Julie: continually things happening in
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  Julie: the news that are mentally
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  Julie: draining.
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  Julie: So, um, we're just acknowledging together and with you all
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  Julie: because we do we do miss being together, and we do miss
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  Julie: reaching out to you all.
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  Julie: And, um, we just wanted to kind
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  Julie: of name for just a moment how
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  Julie: time is so mysterious that, uh,
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  Julie: time can either go really,
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  Julie: really fast where we're
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  Julie: surprised it's been a whole
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  Julie: year, and other times that days
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  Julie: are long or seasons are hard,
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  Julie: and that we really just don't go
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  Julie: through time as it's happening
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  Julie: because there are so many layers
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  Julie: to it.
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  Julie: So we've been reflecting a
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  Julie: little bit about how emotionally
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  Julie: and psychologically,
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  Julie: relationally, sometimes even
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  Julie: unconsciously.
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  Julie: We have just too much to do and
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  Julie: too much to feel, too much to
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  Julie: notice, too much to process,
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  Julie: that we don't have time to do,
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  Julie: that we don't, um, pause to
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  Julie: reflect together and to really,
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  Julie: truly tend to what's coming up
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  Julie: for us.
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  Julie: So we're looking forward to being back with you all and with
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  Julie: each other, just to tend to it, to reflect together, to come
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  Julie: back to the basics of things that are very foundational to
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  Julie: our mental health, things that we practice really well for a
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  Julie: while and sometimes get tired of keeping up with.
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  Julie: I know for me, I've been someone who just really enjoys yoga as a
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  Julie: practice, and I take a break for a while, and sometimes I take
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  Julie: too long of a break.
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  Julie: And so, um, I've been coming
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  Julie: back lately to some Meditation
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  Julie: with the calm app and wanting to
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  Julie: get back into some stretching
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  Julie: and some yoga, and also just
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  Julie: this gathering with the three of
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  Julie: us here at Community Roots, as
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  Julie: well as our community of of
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  Julie: listeners who are here with us
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  Julie: to.
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  Sarah: I just want to thank our
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  Sarah: community of listeners for their
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  Sarah: continued listening.
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  Sarah: It's amazing, Julie Sam, that we have had a year.
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  Sarah: And Julie, with what you were saying about how we we can't
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  Sarah: really process time.
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  Sarah: You know, I was thinking about
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  Sarah: emotions and how when I'm happy,
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  Sarah: time seems to be completely
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  Sarah: filled.
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  Sarah: And when I'm stressed, time
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  Sarah: takes on a whole different
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  Sarah: meaning.
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  Sarah: If I'm if I'm stressed, it
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  Sarah: usually goes by too fast or not
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  Sarah: fast enough.
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  Sarah: And if I'm sad.
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  Samuel: Simultaneously.
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  Sarah: Yeah. Simultaneously. And then if.
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  Sarah: When I'm sad and grieving, time seems to stand still.
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  Sarah: Um, so.
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  Sarah: So getting back into the swing
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  Sarah: of things, I mean, it took us
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  Sarah: how many takes to get started
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  Sarah: today.
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  Sarah: Like, it's that getting back
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  Sarah: into movement, back into
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  Sarah: practice.
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  Julie: Mhm.
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  Sarah: But I think that also that also reflects how difficult of a year
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  Sarah: it has been in
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  Julie: Mhm.
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  Sarah: all different simultaneously experiences of time.
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  Sarah: And I feel like I'm finally ready after this whole year.
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  Sarah: I've, I feel like I'm finally
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  Sarah: ready to expend energy that I
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  Sarah: haven't had for so long and to
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  Sarah: have the mental capacity to give
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  Sarah: up.
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  Julie: And there's so much validation in that to be able to name the
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  Julie: hard and how things are.
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  Julie: Sometimes they throw you off track.
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  Julie: I mean, even the best of intentions, of things we want to
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  Julie: do or to practice, it can be hard to juggle all the things.
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  Sarah: My.
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  Julie: It can be hard to do them.
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  Julie: And I guess that's that is why we call it a practice.
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  Julie: You know, in meditation it's
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  Julie: something of you start noticing
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  Julie: and you start picking up on
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  Julie: little things.
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  Julie: You talked about that as being a practice for something that you
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  Julie: appreciate as noticing.
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  Julie: Um, noticing good things or
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  Julie: noticing small details of things
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  Julie: that.
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  Samuel: Yeah,
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  Julie: Um.
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  Samuel: even what we're about to do now,
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  Samuel: it kind of reminds me of the
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  Samuel: point.
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  Samuel: I liked your point of yoga
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  Samuel: because it reminds me of this
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  Samuel: point.
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  Samuel: I don't know if your yoga instructor does this, but you
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  Samuel: might take a moment in your meditation or just yoga practice
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  Samuel: to just close your eyes and just be laying on the mat.
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  Samuel: And then after a couple of minutes, then the yoga
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  Samuel: instructor is like, all right, now start to feel your toes and
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  Samuel: wiggle your toes.
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  Samuel: And that's kind of where we're
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  Samuel: at of just like, oh, a waking up
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  Samuel: of some ways because, yeah, I
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  Samuel: mean, all three of us have hit
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  Samuel: on this.
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  Samuel: It has been a hard year, and
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  Samuel: it's wild how it's both flown
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  Samuel: by.
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  Samuel: And, um, you know, felt
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  Samuel: enormously long at the same
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  Samuel: time.
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  Samuel: So, uh, in that practice of
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  Samuel: meditation, you know, and, uh,
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  Samuel: yoga, as we kind of take the
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  Samuel: time to reawaken ourselves and
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  Samuel: refocus ourselves, uh, we're
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  Samuel: also looking to name, you know,
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  Samuel: the next steps and what that
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  Samuel: looks like.
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  Samuel: um, something we were talking
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  Samuel: about, uh, for this next
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  Samuel: iteration.
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  Samuel: And what you might come to
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  Samuel: expect is episodes that you
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  Samuel: could listen on your daily
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  Samuel: commute.
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  Samuel: You know, if you're going or driving into work or finding
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  Samuel: that time just to take, you know, a little bit of extra time
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  Samuel: to think about the basics.
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  Samuel: You know, it's kind of applicable today that we're
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  Samuel: talking about time because that's one of the basics.
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  Samuel: You know, um, some other things we want to talk about is breath
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  Samuel: or feeding yourself.
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  Samuel: Um, and something even this year
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  Samuel: that we want to talk about is
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  Samuel: holiday help, how to Survive the
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  Samuel: holidays, one of a cr sort of
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  Samuel: classic, um, but, uh, so, you
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  Samuel: know, as we kind of look into
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  Samuel: the future, I also want to talk
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  Samuel: maybe a little bit about a call
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  Samuel: to action.
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  Samuel: You know, uh, in these episodes sometime we've taken a moment of
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  Samuel: pause to reflect on a of gratitude or a mantra.
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  Samuel: Something we are talking about
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  Samuel: is, you know, how do we make
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  Samuel: some of these lessons
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  Samuel: actionable?
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  Samuel: And, um, so I'm just kind of
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  Samuel: looking forward to some of the
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  Samuel: new changes we're looking at,
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  Samuel: you know, this next iteration of
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  Samuel: community roots.
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  Samuel: Just, um, you know, taking advantage of the time we've got
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  Samuel: and the lessons we've sort of learned this year and turning
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  Samuel: that into rubber hits the road.
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  Samuel: So do any other thoughts come to
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  Samuel: mind, or do we want to talk
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  Samuel: about this week's kind of call
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  Samuel: to action before the next
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  Samuel: episode?
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  Julie: I just appreciate the the growth
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  Julie: that happens when we let
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  Julie: something unfold or evolve,
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  Julie: because
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: this is authenticity at its
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  Julie: finest as just we're on the path
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  Julie: with you all and walking and
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  Julie: living in the same climates that
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  Julie: you are.
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  Julie: And.
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  Julie: taking lessons from the day to day.
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  Julie: And sometimes we see that in nature.
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  Julie: We see that in news, we see that in conversation.
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  Julie: We see that in gathering, in community and the connections
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  Julie: that we're making.
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  Julie: It's like we if we can be, if we can learn how to be more present
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  Julie: and show up to the extent that we are able, um, there's a
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  Julie: rhythm in that.
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  Julie: There's a flow in that that is
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  Julie: really meaningful and really
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  Julie: worth living.
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  Julie: So I'm
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  Samuel: Collective
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  Julie: looking forward
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  Samuel: heartbeat.
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  Julie: to that.
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  Julie: Yeah, it is a collective heartbeat that we are not alone
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  Julie: and we are connected to more than just ourselves.
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  Julie: And we're just here to notice that together and to lean in
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  Julie: and, um, hopefully be a voice of encouragement and hope and life
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  Julie: and connection and relationship.
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  Sarah: I love the the space that you
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  Sarah: guys are creating for us to be
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  Sarah: where we are and to be to
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  Sarah: unfold.
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  Sarah: I love that because it makes it seem it allows this period not
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  Sarah: to have been, um, I don't want to say wasted, but it allows.
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  Sarah: It gives.
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  Sarah: Purpose and meaning to the times
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  Sarah: when we can't, um, when we have
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  Sarah: to pull back and have to tend to
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  Sarah: ourselves.
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  Sarah: It's not time that is just thrown away.
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  Sarah: It is.
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  Sarah: There is a purpose.
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  Sarah: There is.
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  Sarah: Growth happening when we can't even when we can't see it.
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  Samuel: I also like the idea of
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  Samuel: unfolding that it might like,
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  Samuel: you know, there's a process to
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  Samuel: unfolding.
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  Samuel: It isn't just like, you know, a balloon that's just like, bam,
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  Samuel: there's a balloon.
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  Samuel: You know, it's something that kind of, you know, it's like an
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  Samuel: inhale and exhale.
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  Samuel: It takes a moment to accomplish.
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  Sarah: Well
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  Julie: I
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  Sarah: and
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  Samuel: Um.
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  Julie: was
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  Sarah: we
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  Julie: recently
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  Sarah: reference
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  Julie: given.
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  Julie: Go ahead.
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  Sarah: we
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  Julie: Sarah.
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  Sarah: reference plants so often in our community.
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  Julie: I was going
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  Sarah: Roots.
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  Julie: to give my plant story.
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  Julie: That's exactly what I was going to say.
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  Julie: I was just
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  Sarah: Perfect.
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  Julie: given this beautiful clipping from a good friend and person.
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  Julie: I really look up to a whole lot.
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  Julie: That's this beautiful leaf that is like purple on one side and
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  Julie: green and shimmery on the other side, and left it in like water
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  Julie: for a month,
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: six weeks or more to try to give it some time to make some roots.
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  Julie: And I recently just transplanted that to put it in soil.
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  Julie: And it's a bumpy start.
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  Julie: Like I'm hoping it's gonna make it.
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  Julie: It's been
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: tender.
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  Julie: And, you know, I think that's that's a visual too, of like new
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  Julie: beginnings that are
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  Sarah: Thank
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  Julie: evolving,
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  Sarah: you very much.
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  Julie: evolving are sometimes also like,
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  Sarah: Thank
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  Julie: okay,
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  Sarah: you.
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  Julie: it's hard to take a step.
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  Julie: It's hard to transition into
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  Julie: something new and to kind of
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  Julie: come out of our shell a little
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  Julie: bit and to lean into whatever
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  Julie: messiness or ambiguity life has
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  Julie: to offer.
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  Julie: We're showing up for that, too, and
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  Sarah: Mm.
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  Julie: I think that matters.
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  Julie: And maybe where you are today,
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  Julie: if you're listening to us,
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  Julie: you're wondering how to face the
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  Julie: holidays.
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  Julie: You're wondering how to, um, keep showing up.
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  Julie: And, um, we're here in that spot
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  Julie: with you, and we're walking it
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  Julie: together.
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  Samuel: We are definitely walking it together.
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  Samuel: Uh, we don't have some sort of futuristic insight or anything.
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  Samuel: It is definitely a journey.
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  Samuel: Um, well, uh, before we let you go, let's talk about the, uh,
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  Samuel: call to action for next week.
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  Samuel: So community roots has always been like a place where we
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  Samuel: imagined, you know, drinking cups of coffee, uh, together as
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  Samuel: a group and just having conversations about, you know,
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  Samuel: mental health and just coming together as a community.
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  Samuel: And so this one was mom's idea,
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  Samuel: you know, finding something warm
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  Samuel: for next week, you know, finding
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  Samuel: a way, maybe even during this
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  Samuel: episode.
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  Samuel: How can you find the warmth
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  Samuel: where you are, you know, is that
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  Samuel: a blanket that you throw on
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  Samuel: yourself?
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  Samuel: Is that the cup of coffee you've got in your hand or tea?
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  Samuel: Uh, is that snuggling up just next to your dog or your cat?
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  Samuel: Like, uh, Sarah has, uh, and just, you know, in this season,
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  Samuel: appreciating the warmth and just taking that time to appreciate
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  Samuel: the things around you.
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  Samuel: Um, if you do those things and
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  Samuel: you also find that you have a
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  Samuel: moment of pause, reach out to
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  Samuel: us.
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  Samuel: We would love to.
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  Samuel: As we're kind of planning this next journey.
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  Samuel: We want to hear from you.
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  Samuel: You know what do your breaths look like?
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  Samuel: What do your steps look like
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  Samuel: that you want to hear more about
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  Samuel: or discover?
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  Samuel: Um, those are all good stuff.
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  Samuel: So next week, let's all, you know, maybe take a moment to
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  Samuel: appreciate what's around us.
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  Samuel: Where's the warmth?
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  Samuel: Where's the comfort?
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  Samuel: You know, maybe if you're in a hot place, where's just the soft
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  Samuel: rather than the warmth?
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  Samuel: Even the sun is great.
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  Samuel: Um. And then we'd love to hear from you, too.
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  Samuel: Uh, so.
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  Samuel: Yeah.
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  Samuel: Folks, um, wanted to thank, uh.
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  Samuel: Yeah.
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  Samuel: Go for it.
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  Samuel: Mom didn't
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  Julie: I
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  Samuel: want
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  Julie: was
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  Samuel: to leave
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  Julie: just
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  Samuel: you hanging
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  Julie: gonna say
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  Samuel: there.
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  Julie: I really loved even that
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  Julie: reminder from the yoga
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  Julie: instructor of, like, Wiggle Your
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  Julie: Toes.
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  Julie: You know,
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  Samuel: Yeah.
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  Julie: whenever.
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  Julie: It's when it's so hard to find movement, how we can just have a
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  Julie: little bit of an organic stretch of wiggle your toes, wiggle your
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  Julie: fingers, notice that you have hands, touch your cheek, you
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  Julie: know, just to embody movement, to embody, um, touch and
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  Julie: noticing like we have a body I think is another good action
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: step of like, yes, look for
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  Julie: warmth, look for soft, look for
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  Julie: comfort.
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  Julie: And also, you know, take a moment to wiggle your toes.
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  Julie: It's a it's a good little reminder of sometimes whenever
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  Julie: we do, um, meditation and they say you can focus on your breath
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  Julie: and they'll say, or you can pick
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: a sensation or a sound.
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  Julie: Sometimes I think about my toes.
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  Julie: I'm like,
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  Samuel: Mm.
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  Julie: I'm gonna.
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  Julie: I'm gonna wiggle my toes.
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  Julie: That's gonna be my foundation.
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  Julie: So maybe I'm giving multiple action steps for for
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  Samuel: No, I
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  Julie: what
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  Samuel: dig
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  Julie: people
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  Samuel: it.
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  Julie: can do,
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  Samuel: Yeah.
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  Julie: but like kind of an assortment of things you can choose from of
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  Julie: noticing what those calls to action can be.
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  Julie: They're allowed to start small.
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  Sarah: Mhm.
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  Julie: It's
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  Samuel: Aha!
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  Julie: allowed to be
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  Sarah: Yes.
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  Julie: something of low hanging fruit of it's okay, I can start here.
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  Julie: This is something that everyone can find something in that to
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  Julie: take action on.
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  Julie: Something warm, something soft.
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  Julie: Wiggle your toes.
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  Julie: Wiggle your fingers.
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  Samuel: Wiggle your toes.
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  Julie: I
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  Samuel: That's
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  Julie: like
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  Samuel: going
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  Julie: the wiggle
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  Samuel: to be our next.
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  Julie: your toes I know
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  Sarah: I
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  Julie: I kinda
• 16:34
  Sarah: love it so much.
• 16:36
  Julie: I.
• 16:36
  Samuel: That should go up with feed your inner plants.
• 16:39
  Samuel: You
• 16:39
  Julie: Yeah.
• 16:39
  Samuel: know, wiggle your toes.
• 16:40
  Julie: Wiggle your toes.
• 16:42
  Julie: Start there and know that we're doing that with you.
• 16:47
  Samuel: Agreed. Well, uh, Sarah.
• 16:49
  Samuel: Mom, it's been fantastic seeing
• 16:51
  Samuel: you both again and having these
• 16:53
  Samuel: conversations.
• 16:54
  Samuel: To those listening over the air, you know, in the United States
• 16:57
  Samuel: and around the world, we're thinking about you.
• 17:00
  Samuel: Uh, and we'll be here with you, and I hope you have a good week.
• 17:05
  Samuel: Wiggle your toes.
• 17:07
  Samuel: See
• 17:07
  Julie: See
• 17:07
  Samuel: you.
• 17:07
  Julie: you next time.