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- 0:00Carrie Lingenfelter: But we can teach our kids these pieces right.
- 0:03Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach our kids to find the tools for knowing energetically where we're at.
- 0:08Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach our kids the tools for understanding.
- 0:13Carrie Lingenfelter: When we have enough capacity to connect with people, when we have enough heart, when our energy is full and we are ready to connect with other people, we can teach our kids we model everything as energy we model.
- 0:30Carrie Lingenfelter: Learn to feel our own energy, learn to flow with our energy.
- 0:35Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, that's a huge piece of spiritual parenting and a huge piece of raising a spiritual family.
- 0:42Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi, conscious Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our spiritual family.
- 0:45Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi, conscious Parents, it's Keri here, and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
- 0:48Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
- 0:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us.
- 0:56Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi Spiritual Parents, welcome back.
- 0:58Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm so excited you're here today.
- 1:00Carrie Lingenfelter: We're going to have a little mini episode and we're going to be talking about kids feeling energy before they can even name it or understand it with words.
- 1:09Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to start right off with a story about what happened to us recently.
- 1:13Carrie Lingenfelter: Yesterday my kiddos and I we were going to go to a concert a little outdoor band with our whole family and as we were getting ready to go my son was like I can't go to this.
- 1:26Carrie Lingenfelter: My heart really hurts.
- 1:27Carrie Lingenfelter: I remember going to these in the past with my friends and I don't have those same group of friends since we changed schools and now everything feels different and I just don't feel good about this and it breaks my heart because I miss what we used to have.
- 1:42Carrie Lingenfelter: And it was interesting because I had a moment where I pulled my husband aside and I said I have these exact emotions Like he is.
- 1:49Carrie Lingenfelter: Is he reflecting exactly what I'm feeling in my heart right now?
- 1:53Carrie Lingenfelter: And I was pushing myself to go because I thought the kids were happy and doing good with it and it was so interesting.
- 2:00Carrie Lingenfelter: My husband was like no, this time he's actually feeling it himself because he's described specific scenarios.
- 2:06Carrie Lingenfelter: He's named specific pieces and friends and things in that scenario.
- 2:10Carrie Lingenfelter: But there have been other times where he has picked up and reflected my direct emotions.
- 2:16Carrie Lingenfelter: So it's really interesting in those moments to really tune in and say is this my emotion he's feeling?
- 2:22Carrie Lingenfelter: Is he reflecting me, carrie, or is he my son saying his own energy and his own emotions, because they can pick up that energy and they may not understand it.
- 2:33Carrie Lingenfelter: They may not know that it's not their emotions, it's somebody else's emotions.
- 2:37Carrie Lingenfelter: So, when we're looking at this, one thing that somebody recently taught me and I love this for my kids and I do it for myself now too, it's really powerful is I am teaching my kids is that your energy or someone else's?
- 2:52Carrie Lingenfelter: Are those your feelings or someone else's?
- 2:56Carrie Lingenfelter: So there'll be a moment like yesterday I could have said to my son is that your energy?
- 3:02Carrie Lingenfelter: Is that your feelings, or does it feel like this is coming from mom?
- 3:06Carrie Lingenfelter: Because I'm having those same feelings right now.
- 3:08Carrie Lingenfelter: Dude, who do you think?
- 3:10Carrie Lingenfelter: Where do you think that's coming from?
- 3:11Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's feel in our heart.
- 3:12Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's sit with our hand on our heart for a minute, close our eyes and think inside.
- 3:18Carrie Lingenfelter: Does this feel like me or is this somebody else's emotions?
- 3:22Carrie Lingenfelter: It sounds a little wonky, right, but I will tell you.
- 3:27Carrie Lingenfelter: I once was in a setting and I was doing a presentation and it was really interesting because I opened the door and I asked for reflection back from the group and somebody said something that did not feel positive.
- 3:40Carrie Lingenfelter: And it was really interesting because in that moment I felt in my heart, okay, the thing that person said.
- 3:46Carrie Lingenfelter: It really hit me at first right, because I'm a highly sensitive person.
- 3:49Carrie Lingenfelter: And then, later on, when it was quiet and everybody was gone and I was reflecting back on everything, I sat there and I said this isn't my energy.
- 3:58Carrie Lingenfelter: I feel it in my heart.
- 4:00Carrie Lingenfelter: This person that said this thing it's something that they're feeling in their life and they brought in here.
- 4:07Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe they felt a little bit about it with me and the scenario and everything but the energy that I felt that I got hit with this wave of energy as a really sensitive person.
- 4:16Carrie Lingenfelter: That wasn't.
- 4:17Carrie Lingenfelter: That wasn't how that feeling, how that person was feeling about me as I took it on oh my God, she hates me.
- 4:23Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh my God, she feels like my whole situation was enough.
- 4:27Carrie Lingenfelter: Really, it was that that person was feeling like they were not enough in that moment and I took that on as I'm not enough.
- 4:34Carrie Lingenfelter: I suddenly picked up their exact emotions I am not enough.
- 4:38Carrie Lingenfelter: And then I sent that person love, because anytime somebody is feeling like not enough, I want to send you all the love because you are enough, you were born enough and the universe isn't going to send you things that you can't handle.
- 4:53Carrie Lingenfelter: It's sending you what you can handle.
- 4:55Carrie Lingenfelter: So back to what we're talking about, with kids feeling energy and not being able to express it in words.
- 5:01Carrie Lingenfelter: One thing I would love for you guys to think about is I have always been told by people you're magical.
- 5:10Carrie Lingenfelter: People are drawn to you and you guys it's really nuts because I was telling my husband lately I go to different things and all of a sudden I feel like people are popping out from the corners like hey, carrie, carrie, you're here.
- 5:23Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, carrie, I wanted to talk to you about this one thing, and there was a point in my life where I had a large group of friends and it all just imploded and everything changed.
- 5:34Carrie Lingenfelter: And I changed to the spiritual person.
- 5:37Carrie Lingenfelter: I changed my conscious level, everything changed in my life and I changed my kids' schools, everything went nuts in our lives and I just kind of like took a break.
- 5:46Carrie Lingenfelter: I wasn't looking to gain friendships, I was just looking to heal myself, heal my kids, heal my partner and we.
- 5:54Carrie Lingenfelter: We turned within for us, we turned into our family, we turned into our spirituality, we turned into our self-growth.
- 6:01Carrie Lingenfelter: And then, all of a sudden, I started to go back into the world and I opened my heart again.
- 6:07Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm ready to start talking to people, I'm ready to start meeting people.
- 6:12Carrie Lingenfelter: And it was nuts because as soon as I put that energy into the world, like, okay, maybe I'll start to talk to people, maybe I'll start going for walks with other moms, maybe I'll start to go to the spiritual group, maybe I'll do these things.
- 6:24Carrie Lingenfelter: It just went bonkers and they were like coming out of the woodwork, you guys like peeking around the corners like hey, carrie, I'm like whoa, ok, so think about that energy.
- 6:38Carrie Lingenfelter: Huh, if I had this closed off energy during my transitions and during all these spiritual awakening pieces that I was going through in my heart, where everything that was cut and I was like, nope, I had this X across my heart.
- 6:48Carrie Lingenfelter: I don't have energy for anything else.
- 6:51Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm looking inward right now and then, all of a sudden, everything healed and I started to blossom into myself again.
- 6:58Carrie Lingenfelter: Think of that energy that I'm putting out, that people are now feeling like they're drawn to it and yet also, I'm putting out this healing energy of I want to connect with other parents, I want to help other parents going through this raising neurodiverse kids and having all these labels and all these things that everybody tells us we need to do.
- 7:17Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, sorry, that's another soapbox, right?
- 7:18Carrie Lingenfelter: But as I'm putting out this energy of I want to connect with other people, they're picking it up, they cannot name it, but they are feeling it and they're coming in like magnets.
- 7:28Carrie Lingenfelter: So then also, I'm gonna watch my energy.
- 7:31Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm gonna have to learn to draw boundaries here and there as people are flooding in the floodgates like okay, yes, yes, I do want to help you, I do want to connect, but I have to do it in my own time.
- 7:41Carrie Lingenfelter: I have to do it when I am energetically capable, when my bucket is not completely full of demands.
- 7:45Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to do it when I am energetically capable when my bucket is not completely full of demands.
- 7:48Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to do it in a healthy version, which I did not learn until I was 41 years old.
- 7:54Carrie Lingenfelter: Guys doing this in a healthy version.
- 7:57Carrie Lingenfelter: But we can teach our kids these pieces right.
- 8:00Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach our kids to find the tools for knowing energetically where we're at.
- 8:05Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach our kids the tools for understanding when we have enough capacity to connect with people, when we have enough heart, when our energy is full and we are ready to connect with other people.
- 8:21Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach our kids.
- 8:23Carrie Lingenfelter: We model everything as energy.
- 8:25Carrie Lingenfelter: We model, learn to feel our own energy, learn to flow with our energy.
- 8:32Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, that's a huge piece of spiritual parenting and a huge piece of raising a spiritual family.
- 8:39Carrie Lingenfelter: So also, it's interesting.
- 8:40Carrie Lingenfelter: I love to teach my kids.
- 8:42Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes you feel like there's a connection with somebody in your life and you don't know why you're just connected to them.
- 8:49Carrie Lingenfelter: That's how I was when I first met my husband.
- 8:50Carrie Lingenfelter: We were like this magnetic pull toward each other and I was like, whoa, that's too intense, and so my brain would shut it off and then my heart would pull it back in.
- 8:57Carrie Lingenfelter: It's really crazy.
- 8:58Carrie Lingenfelter: So I love to teach my kids about feeling these things in our hearts.
- 9:02Carrie Lingenfelter: I feel like I'm going to have a friendship with this person and here's why.
- 9:06Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, maybe I don't know why, maybe I just feel like I'm meant to have a friendship with that person.
- 9:12Carrie Lingenfelter: So teaching them about that connection and what they can look like is teaching our kids about mind-body-spirit connection, right, Teaching our kids how to tune in.
- 9:21Carrie Lingenfelter: And there's so much learning for us as adults.
- 9:23Carrie Lingenfelter: Even when we're 41 years old, we're still learning all these things.
- 9:27Carrie Lingenfelter: So an activity that you could do with your kids would be when you're painting.
- 9:31Carrie Lingenfelter: You could do like a watercolor.
- 9:32Carrie Lingenfelter: I love watercolor because I feel like all the colors flow and blend and it's not as structured as finger paints or such or other types of medias.
- 9:41Carrie Lingenfelter: So what I would do is, if I was painting with my kids, I would say let's close our eyes, let's you could even put your hand over the paints and say what color does my hand feel drawn toward, what color does my heart want me to use?
- 9:58Carrie Lingenfelter: And your hand is drawn toward the purple.
- 10:00Carrie Lingenfelter: So I would model it for my kids.
- 10:02Carrie Lingenfelter: Mom's gonna paint too.
- 10:03Carrie Lingenfelter: Get in there, paint with them.
- 10:05Carrie Lingenfelter: Guys, I'm gonna paint too.
- 10:06Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm drawn toward the purple, oh, but you know what?
- 10:09Carrie Lingenfelter: My heart doesn't want dark purple.
- 10:10Carrie Lingenfelter: My heart wants light purple.
- 10:12Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm gonna get some water'm going to get some water.
- 10:13Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to get some water in there.
- 10:15Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to make a light violet color.
- 10:16Carrie Lingenfelter: Ooh, I'm spreading it around.
- 10:18Carrie Lingenfelter: Light violet makes me feel light and airy and flowy.
- 10:23Carrie Lingenfelter: I feel bright and patient right now in my heart and really talking about what you're drawn to with your heart, connecting with your mind and your body and your spirit.
- 10:36Carrie Lingenfelter: That is so important.
- 10:37Carrie Lingenfelter: Can you imagine where these guys are going to be when they're 41 if we're teaching them this right now at 7 and 10?
- 10:42Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm doing it with my 7 and 10 year olds guys and you can do it in any activity.
- 10:47Carrie Lingenfelter: If you're outside doing chalk, you can do it.
- 10:49Carrie Lingenfelter: If you're outside playing water balloons, you could do it.
- 10:53Carrie Lingenfelter: Which balloon color am I drawn to?
- 10:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Ooh, I want the big one, because my heart is feeling full of water.
- 10:59Carrie Lingenfelter: You can model all of these pieces.
- 11:02Carrie Lingenfelter: So let's give our kids the tools to name it right, to name that energy, to name that mind, body, spirit connection.
- 11:11Carrie Lingenfelter: As always, I love an affirmation and a prayer to help us through any challenges that we're going through, because maybe you're like overwhelmed in all of this, carrie, this is a lot.
- 11:21Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm working on this, but geez, louise, you gave me 85 stories and a tool and I'm feeling overwhelmed.
- 11:27Carrie Lingenfelter: So let's end with a affirmation and prayer.
- 11:30Carrie Lingenfelter: So I'm gonna put my hand over my heart and I'm going to say thank you, universe, for helping me to connect to myself, to understand my energy levels, to understand my energy capacities.
- 11:45Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to connect with the universe so that I can understand my mind, body, spirit connection.
- 11:52Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to have the tools to feel energy, understand energy and to name it.
- 11:59Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to understand how to feel and flow with energy, because energy is everything and so it is, as always.
- 12:08Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in and don't forget to check out our new Woo quiz.
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