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Painful Pieces: Rebuild, Restore, Rise · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Fearless Friday episode, Painful Pieces.
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  Let's have a real talk. Can I be honest with you? Pain is part of the process.
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  Us. I wish I could promise you a life without it. I can't.
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  Pain is inevitable. Sometimes it's the consequence of our choices.
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  Sometimes it's the consequence of someone else's.
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  And sometimes pain just finds us. It shows up uninvited.
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  It interrupts our plans. It steals our appetite.
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  It robs our sleep, it changes the way we see people, and for a moment,
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  it can paralyze us because we never saw it coming.
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  Think about children. They fall, they scrape a knee, they bump their head, they cry.
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  We scoop them up, kiss the boo-boo, tell them they're okay, and before long, they're running again.
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  Somewhere along the way, adulthood changes the injuries. Now the pain doesn't
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  always leave a bruise you can see.
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  It's betrayal. It's divorce. It's disappointment. It's rejection.
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  It's losing someone you love. It's being lied to. It's being overlooked. It's being mistreated.
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  It's watching someone you prayed for fall apart anyway.
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  And now, instead of holding a scraped knee, you're standing there holding pieces.
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  Pieces of your confidence. Pieces of your heart.
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  Pieces of your dreams. Pieces of relationships. Pieces of the life you thought you were going to have.
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  Peter's what I've learned.
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  Pain may break something, but it doesn't get to define everything. thing.
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  You can't always choose what broke, but you can choose what gets built next.
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  Some people spend years staring at the broken pieces asking, why me?
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  Others pick up those same pieces and ask, Lord, what can you build from this?
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  That's the difference. Because how you manage the pain and how you manage the
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  pieces will either pause you or propel you.
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  Don't rush your healing. Don't pretend you're okay when you're not.
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  Don't confuse surviving with healing.
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  Feel it. Pray through it. Cry if you need to. Rest when you need to.
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  Get wise counsel, but don't build your identity around what broke.
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  Remember, broken glass can still reflect life, and broken people can still reflect God's goodness.
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  Sometimes the masterpiece isn't what never broke, sometimes is what God lovingly put back together.
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  Those painful pieces may become
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  the very testimony that gives someone else permission to keep going.
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  So don't throw the pieces away.
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  Place them in God's hands.
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  He has a way of making broken things beautiful.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to identify one painful
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  piece you've been carrying.
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  Maybe it's the conversation you never got. A betrayal you can't explain.
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  A dream that didn't happen. A relationship that ended.
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  A loss you're still grieving. Write it down. Then underneath it,
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  answer these three questions.
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  Number one, what did this pain take from me?
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  Number two, what has this pain taught me?
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  Number three, what kind of person do I want to become because of this instead of in spite of this?
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  Finally, pray one simple prayer.
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  God, I trust you with the pieces I don't know how to put back together.
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  Because here's what I know.
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  God has never needed perfect pieces to create a beautiful picture.
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  He just needs willing hands that are ready to let him do the rebuilding.
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  Your painful pieces are not proof that your story is over.
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  They may be the very chapters that reveal your greatest strength.
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  Keep healing. Keep trusting. Keep putting one piece down in front of the other.
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  Because sometimes the picture only becomes clear after the pieces are picked up.
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  Keep learning. Keep living. This is Real Talk, where we're realizing everyone
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  is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.