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"I Just Need More Hours", That Belief Is Exactly Why You Always Feel Behind · Your Utmost Life

• 0:00
  Misty Celli: Something cancels.
• 0:01
  Misty Celli: Maybe your mother's appointment gets moved, or the meeting you blocked off the whole afternoon for gets pushed to next week.
• 0:07
  Misty Celli: And there it is.
• 0:08
  Misty Celli: Sitting in the middle of your Thursday, three open hours that nobody has claimed.
• 0:14
  Misty Celli: For about a minute, you feel it, that little breath of space.
• 0:18
  Misty Celli: Finally, this is the time that you've been asking for.
• 0:22
  Misty Celli: And then you look up and it's 5:30.
• 0:25
  Misty Celli: The hours are gone.
• 0:26
  Misty Celli: You caught up on laundry, answered the text that you've been putting off, ran to the store for the thing your husband mentioned, and scrolled your phone longer than you'd admit to anyone.
• 0:35
  Misty Celli: If I asked you what you did in those three hours that was actually for you, you'd have to think about it.
• 0:42
  Misty Celli: And you probably couldn't come up with anything.
• 0:44
  Misty Celli: And the thought that follows is familiar.
• 0:46
  Misty Celli: If I had just more time, if there was just more hours in the day, I'd finally get to me.
• 0:54
  Misty Celli: Today, I want to talk about that thought because I believed it too.
• 0:59
  Misty Celli: I had the hours more than once in my life, and I can tell you exactly where they went.
• 1:05
  Misty Celli: More importantly, I can tell you why.
• 1:07
  Misty Celli: If you ever said to yourself, I don't need anybody telling me how to live my life, I just need more hours in the day, this one's for you.
• 1:16
  Misty Celli: Stay with me because by the end of this episode, you'll know what those hours have been missing all along.
• 1:22
  Misty Celli: Do you ever catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and barely recognize the woman staring back?
• 1:27
  Misty Celli: The one who once dreamed big and had passion and purpose that went beyond meeting everyone else's needs?
• 1:32
  Misty Celli: If you've caught yourself thinking, is this all there is, and then felt guilty for even thinking it, you're in the right place.
• 1:39
  Misty Celli: You were never meant to disappear into your roles.
• 1:42
  Misty Celli: But somewhere between everyone's needs and expectations, you became invisible and disconnected.
• 1:47
  Misty Celli: Running your days on autopilot started to feel like just the way things are.
• 1:51
  Misty Celli: It isn't.
• 1:52
  Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
• 1:55
  Misty Celli: You are someone.
• 1:56
  Misty Celli: And she's still in there.
• 1:58
  Misty Celli: The woman with dreams that matter, a voice that deserves to be heard, and the life that was always meant to include you.
• 2:04
  Misty Celli: This is where you reconnect to her and live your utmost life.
• 2:08
  Misty Celli: Not by accident, not by obligation, but by design.
• 2:11
  Misty Celli: Welcome to your utmost life podcast.
• 2:13
  Misty Celli: I'm Misty, identity and life design coach for Ambitious Mothers.
• 2:17
  Misty Celli: But before we get into it, if you haven't hit follow or subscribe yet, do it now.
• 2:22
  Misty Celli: So I just need more hours stops being where your story ends.
• 2:26
  Misty Celli: Let's get into today's episode.
• 2:28
  Misty Celli: You know what you would do with more time.
• 2:31
  Misty Celli: At least you think you do.
• 2:32
  Misty Celli: You've said it a hundred times.
• 2:34
  Misty Celli: If I had a free afternoon, I'd read that book.
• 2:37
  Misty Celli: I'd take a real walk.
• 2:39
  Misty Celli: I'd call my sister back.
• 2:41
  Misty Celli: I'd sit on the porch with a cup of coffee that's still hot.
• 2:45
  Misty Celli: So you go looking for the hours.
• 2:47
  Misty Celli: A new calendar app, color-coded blocks, the alarm set for five, so you can get an hour in before the house wakes up.
• 2:54
  Misty Celli: The Sunday night planning session where the whole week gets mapped out down to the half hour.
• 3:00
  Misty Celli: You've batched the errands, prepped the meals, and tried just about every trick anyone ever posted for squeezing more out of a day.
• 3:08
  Misty Celli: Some of it even works for a while.
• 3:10
  Misty Celli: You do free up a little space.
• 3:12
  Misty Celli: But somehow that space never lands with you.
• 3:16
  Misty Celli: The 5 a.m.
• 3:18
  Misty Celli: hour turns into checking your emails and throwing in a load of laundry.
• 3:22
  Misty Celli: The 45 minutes you save by batching errands goes straight to a quick grocery store run.
• 3:27
  Misty Celli: And the week you mapped out so carefully on Sunday has been handed back to everyone else by Wednesday.
• 3:34
  Misty Celli: Meanwhile, the needs keep coming because you're the only one keeping track of them.
• 3:40
  Misty Celli: Researchers at the University of Bath surveyed about 3,000 parents and found that mothers carry roughly around 71% of the household's mental load.
• 3:51
  Misty Celli: That's all the planning, remembering, scheduling, and organizing that keeps a family running.
• 3:57
  Misty Celli: And it's carried before anyone asks you for a single thing out loud.
• 4:01
  Misty Celli: Of course, it feels like a time problem.
• 4:04
  Misty Celli: Every day seems to prove it.
• 4:06
  Misty Celli: The list is longer than the day.
• 4:08
  Misty Celli: And yet, if you're honest, there's a harder moment you don't talk about much.
• 4:13
  Misty Celli: It's the moment when the time actually shows up.
• 4:16
  Misty Celli: A quiet Saturday, the week your husband is traveling, the house after your kids have their own schedules and their own cars.
• 4:23
  Misty Celli: Those hours arrive.
• 4:25
  Misty Celli: And instead of relief, you feel restless and a little lost.
• 4:29
  Misty Celli: You find something to clean, someone to help, a show to put on in the background, anything to make the time pass.
• 4:36
  Misty Celli: It's as if you've been quietly erased from your own life.
• 4:39
  Misty Celli: So gradually you can't remember when it started.
• 4:42
  Misty Celli: Later, the guilt comes because you finally had what you kept asking for, and you don't have anything that feels like yours to show for it.
• 4:49
  Misty Celli: That's the part that doesn't fit the story that you've been telling yourself.
• 4:53
  Misty Celli: If time were the problem, time would have fixed it.
• 4:57
  Misty Celli: There is a belief that undercuts that wish for more hours, and it sounds so reasonable that almost nobody questions it.
• 5:04
  Misty Celli: It goes something like this my problem is time, not me.
• 5:08
  Misty Celli: If I had more hours, I'd finally get to myself.
• 5:12
  Misty Celli: It feels true because the evidence is everywhere.
• 5:15
  Misty Celli: You are busy, your days are full, the mental load is real and it's heavy.
• 5:21
  Misty Celli: None of that is in your head.
• 5:23
  Misty Celli: But notice what the belief protects you from.
• 5:25
  Misty Celli: If the problem is time, then nothing about you needs to be looked at.
• 5:31
  Misty Celli: You don't have to ask what you'd actually want with those hours.
• 5:34
  Misty Celli: You don't have to admit that you're not sure anymore.
• 5:38
  Misty Celli: You just need a better schedule, as schedules are easy to shop for.
• 5:42
  Misty Celli: There's a whole industry happy to sell you one too.
• 5:45
  Misty Celli: There's planners and apps and productivity systems, morning routines.
• 5:49
  Misty Celli: Nearly all of it is built on the same assumption that you're short on minutes.
• 5:54
  Misty Celli: Very little of it ever asks the question underneath, what would you protect those minutes for?
• 6:00
  Misty Celli: Who are you when nobody needs anything from you?
• 6:04
  Misty Celli: Let me describe what this looks like from the outside because sometimes it's easier to see in someone else.
• 6:10
  Misty Celli: She is the one that everyone calls.
• 6:12
  Misty Celli: Her husband checks with her before he makes plans.
• 6:15
  Misty Celli: Her mother calls her before anyone else.
• 6:17
  Misty Celli: At work, she's the one who knows where everything is and how it gets done.
• 6:23
  Misty Celli: She's proud of that and she should be.
• 6:26
  Misty Celli: She genuinely is good at this.
• 6:28
  Misty Celli: When someone suggests she needs to make time for herself, she bristles a little.
• 6:33
  Misty Celli: She doesn't need anybody telling her how to live.
• 6:35
  Misty Celli: She knows how to run a life.
• 6:37
  Misty Celli: She's running several of them.
• 6:39
  Misty Celli: What she needs is more hours.
• 6:42
  Misty Celli: So every time a gap opens, it gets filled before she can decide anything about it.
• 6:47
  Misty Celli: Sometimes she fills it with helping because being helpful and useful feels better than sitting still.
• 6:54
  Misty Celli: Sometimes she feels it with nothing much at all.
• 6:57
  Misty Celli: Her phone or a show or a few rounds of something mindless because she's too tired to choose and wouldn't know what to choose anyway.
• 7:05
  Misty Celli: Either way, the hours pass and she's no closer to herself than she was before they came.
• 7:10
  Misty Celli: The longer this goes on, the harder the question gets to answer.
• 7:14
  Misty Celli: Ask her what she'd do with a free Sunday, and she'd hand you a list of chores or a list of things she used to love 20 years ago.
• 7:22
  Misty Celli: Ask her what's true of her right now outside of every role she carries, and she goes blank.
• 7:28
  Misty Celli: This is the erased woman.
• 7:29
  Misty Celli: Remember that feeling of being quietly erased from your own life?
• 7:33
  Misty Celli: It has a name.
• 7:35
  Misty Celli: She wasn't erased because she did something wrong.
• 7:38
  Misty Celli: She loved everyone so completely that she stopped keeping track of herself.
• 7:42
  Misty Celli: And now, when the hours come, they don't know where to go.
• 7:46
  Misty Celli: If that felt familiar, if something in you quietly said, That's me, I want you to hear this clearly.
• 7:53
  Misty Celli: You are not lazy and you aren't ungrateful for the time that you do get.
• 7:59
  Misty Celli: You have been handed a time explanation for something that was never actually about time.
• 8:05
  Misty Celli: Nobody is to blame for that.
• 8:06
  Misty Celli: Now that you can see it though, you get to choose something different.
• 8:10
  Misty Celli: Believing that more hours will fix it is one of the most exhausting beliefs a capable woman can carry because it keeps you chasing something that can't give you what you're actually looking for.
• 8:23
  Misty Celli: I say that gently because I understand why it's the first explanation we reach for.
• 8:27
  Misty Celli: Time is measurable.
• 8:29
  Misty Celli: You can watch it disappear on the calendar.
• 8:31
  Misty Celli: And it's a lot easier to say I'm short on hours than it's to say I'm not sure who I'd be if I had them.
• 8:37
  Misty Celli: Let me ask you a few questions and I want you to be honest with yourself as you answer.
• 8:42
  Misty Celli: Think back to the last time you were handed unexpected time, something canceled, or the house stayed quieter longer than usual.
• 8:50
  Misty Celli: Where did those hours go?
• 8:52
  Misty Celli: If the time were the missing piece, they would have gone to you.
• 8:56
  Misty Celli: But most of the time they didn't.
• 8:58
  Misty Celli: The hours showed up and you weren't waiting there to meet them.
• 9:02
  Misty Celli: Now, take it a step further.
• 9:03
  Misty Celli: Many of you are in a season where the time is already coming back.
• 9:07
  Misty Celli: Your kids are older.
• 9:09
  Misty Celli: Some of them are driving and some are already grown and gone.
• 9:12
  Misty Celli: They need you differently now, and the hours that used to belong to them are opening up.
• 9:17
  Misty Celli: If more hours were the answer, this season would feel like freedom.
• 9:21
  Misty Celli: But for a lot of women, it doesn't.
• 9:23
  Misty Celli: It feels like drifting.
• 9:25
  Misty Celli: Those hours get refilled by husband's schedule, a parent's need, the house, the job, or they simply evaporate.
• 9:33
  Misty Celli: More time came and it didn't bring her back with it.
• 9:36
  Misty Celli: Then there's the evidence you already have.
• 9:38
  Misty Celli: Every planner and system and app that you've tried organizing your time around, and some of them organized it beautifully, none of them told you what to guard it for.
• 9:48
  Misty Celli: That's why the new system works for two weeks and then quietly fades.
• 9:53
  Misty Celli: It was built to manage hours and it had nothing to protect.
• 9:57
  Misty Celli: Here's what I believe is actually true.
• 9:59
  Misty Celli: Time follows identity.
• 10:01
  Misty Celli: Hours go to whatever has a name on it.
• 10:04
  Misty Celli: Your husband's meeting has a name.
• 10:07
  Misty Celli: Your mother's appointment has a name.
• 10:09
  Misty Celli: The laundry and dinner and the deadline at work all have names.
• 10:13
  Misty Celli: And the time that you mint for yourself is labeled free time, which is really another way of saying it belongs to no one.
• 10:21
  Misty Celli: Anything that belongs to no one gets claimed by whoever asks first.
• 10:25
  Misty Celli: Think about money for a second.
• 10:27
  Misty Celli: When a little unexpected money comes in, like a refund or a small bonus, you don't decide what it's for.
• 10:34
  Misty Celli: It disappears, it goes to groceries or repair, whatever is loudest that week, and a month later you can't remember where it went.
• 10:41
  Misty Celli: The money you've already given a purpose, the savings account with the trip's name on it, tends to stay put.
• 10:48
  Misty Celli: Hours work the same way.
• 10:50
  Misty Celli: And you were right about one thing.
• 10:52
  Misty Celli: You don't need anyone telling you how to live your life.
• 10:54
  Misty Celli: I'm not going to do that, and nobody else should either.
• 10:58
  Misty Celli: What you need is something only you can give yourself, a clear, honest answer to who you are underneath the rules.
• 11:05
  Misty Celli: Once you have that, the hours finally have a name to go to, and a name can be protected in a way that free time never can.
• 11:13
  Misty Celli: This is where your identity blueprint comes in.
• 11:16
  Misty Celli: It's three words in your own language that tell the truth about who you are when nobody needs anything from you.
• 11:23
  Misty Celli: It isn't advice, it's you finally written down where you can see her.
• 11:29
  Misty Celli: You are one of the most capable women I could ever talk to.
• 11:32
  Misty Celli: You protect your husband's time, you protect your mother's appointment, you protect deadlines at work that aren't even yours.
• 11:39
  Misty Celli: When something matters, you find the hours every single time, which means I don't have time has never been the whole truth.
• 11:49
  Misty Celli: The truer version is harder to say out loud.
• 11:53
  Misty Celli: I haven't decided I'm worth protecting yet.
• 11:56
  Misty Celli: You've known that for a while, haven't you?
• 11:58
  Misty Celli: Maybe not in those words, but in the restless Saturday, in the open afternoon that slipped away, and the quiet guilt at the end of the day that had room in it.
• 12:08
  Misty Celli: You already see the pattern.
• 12:10
  Misty Celli: What's left is whether you're going to do something different about it this time.
• 12:14
  Misty Celli: Here's what this belief quietly costs you every single week.
• 12:17
  Misty Celli: Not in dramatic ways, but in the small ones.
• 12:20
  Misty Celli: The hour that opened up on Tuesday and was gone before you decided what to do with it.
• 12:25
  Misty Celli: The yes you said on Thursday that you regretted by Friday morning.
• 12:29
  Misty Celli: The moment at the end of the day when you lay there and couldn't remember a single thing from the last 12 hours that was actually yours.
• 12:37
  Misty Celli: Those aren't accidents.
• 12:38
  Misty Celli: They're what happens when your time has no name on it that belongs to you.
• 12:43
  Misty Celli: And here's what makes it harder to see.
• 12:45
  Misty Celli: You're good at this.
• 12:46
  Misty Celli: You are good at managing and organizing and showing up, keeping it all moving.
• 12:52
  Misty Celli: So when the hours slip through, the instinct isn't to question the belief, it's to question yourself.
• 12:57
  Misty Celli: Maybe I'm just not disciplined enough.
• 12:59
  Misty Celli: Maybe I need a better system.
• 13:01
  Misty Celli: Maybe I need to wake up earlier.
• 13:03
  Misty Celli: So you try that, and it works for a week and then life happens.
• 13:07
  Misty Celli: Someone gets sick, the schedule shifts, a season hits, and the system quietly dissolves.
• 13:12
  Misty Celli: Not because you're undisciplined, but because the system had nothing to protect.
• 13:16
  Misty Celli: A calendar full of color-coded blocks still can't tell you what to guard the time for.
• 13:21
  Misty Celli: This is the part that nobody's honest about.
• 13:24
  Misty Celli: More structure without more identity just creates more sophisticated ways to disappear.
• 13:30
  Misty Celli: The woman who builds a rigid morning routine, she hasn't truly chosen.
• 13:35
  Misty Celli: She resents it by month two.
• 13:37
  Misty Celli: The woman who knows exactly who she is before the alarm goes off, she protects that hour like it belongs to her because it does.
• 13:45
  Misty Celli: Think about what another year of this looks like.
• 13:47
  Misty Celli: Another year of borrowed hours.
• 13:50
  Misty Celli: Another year of someday.
• 13:52
  Misty Celli: Another year of lying awake wondering when it's going to be your turn, not realizing that your turn has been arriving every single week and going to everyone else before you could claim it.
• 14:04
  Misty Celli: And the worst part?
• 14:05
  Misty Celli: The hours will keep coming.
• 14:07
  Misty Celli: Your kids will need you differently.
• 14:09
  Misty Celli: The calendar will open up.
• 14:10
  Misty Celli: Time is already on its way to you.
• 14:14
  Misty Celli: The only question is whether you'll know who it's for when it gets there.
• 14:18
  Misty Celli: But here's what I know changes it.
• 14:20
  Misty Celli: And isn't morning routine or a new planner.
• 14:22
  Misty Celli: It's three words.
• 14:24
  Misty Celli: Words that are already true of you that you just haven't written down yet.
• 14:28
  Misty Celli: When you have them, the next open hour doesn't go to the laundry by default.
• 14:33
  Misty Celli: It goes to her.
• 14:34
  Misty Celli: And that's where we're going next.
• 14:36
  Misty Celli: When we moved from Montana to Houston, I became a full-time stay-at-home mom and wife.
• 14:40
  Misty Celli: And for the first time in a long time, I had hours.
• 14:44
  Misty Celli: And it felt exciting in theory, but it only takes so long to get groceries, clean the house, and put three meals on the table.
• 14:52
  Misty Celli: And after I did that, the day just sat there wide open.
• 14:56
  Misty Celli: If you'd asked me before the move what I'd do with that kind of time, I would have had a list ready.
• 15:00
  Misty Celli: I'd finally read, take up a hobby, take care of myself.
• 15:04
  Misty Celli: I figure out what I actually wanted.
• 15:06
  Misty Celli: What really happened is that I felt lost and I didn't know what to do with myself.
• 15:10
  Misty Celli: So I did what I knew how to do.
• 15:12
  Misty Celli: I looked for someone to help or something to fix because at least that felt useful.
• 15:17
  Misty Celli: But when there wasn't anything, I'd numb out with something quick and easy just to pass the time until something needed me again.
• 15:24
  Misty Celli: By the end of the day, I felt tired and empty and guilty on top of it because I had all the time and couldn't point to anything that was mine or felt useful for me personally.
• 15:34
  Misty Celli: I had all the time in the world, but what I didn't have was an answer to the question underneath it.
• 15:40
  Misty Celli: Who am I when nobody needs anything from me?
• 15:43
  Misty Celli: Without that answer, the hours had nowhere to go except back to everyone else or into nothing at all.
• 15:49
  Misty Celli: And I'll be honest with you, that poll didn't vanish for good.
• 15:52
  Misty Celli: When I left my full-time job to build this work, the hours opened up and I felt that old reach.
• 15:58
  Misty Celli: Fill the time with something for someone.
• 16:01
  Misty Celli: These days, the moments that test me usually come when my routine gets thrown off.
• 16:06
  Misty Celli: A trip, a family visit, the holidays, a few sick days in bed.
• 16:09
  Misty Celli: When I come out on the other side of one of those, the old voice is right there waiting.
• 16:14
  Misty Celli: You've taken so much time off.
• 16:16
  Misty Celli: You've gotten lazy.
• 16:17
  Misty Celli: You better fix it.
• 16:18
  Misty Celli: And the old pattern wants me to either throw myself into helping everyone to prove I'm still useful or drift and lose my focus altogether.
• 16:25
  Misty Celli: What's different now is what I do next.
• 16:28
  Misty Celli: I go back to what's true.
• 16:30
  Misty Celli: I say my words, I read my sentence, and I look at the vision I have for my life.
• 16:35
  Misty Celli: When I do that, I remember who I am beyond the roles and the focus comes back.
• 16:40
  Misty Celli: I start moving again in a way that still carries for the people I love but includes me too.
• 16:45
  Misty Celli: I'm back on track toward my own goals instead of waiting for life to calm down before I let myself have any.
• 16:52
  Misty Celli: More hours never gave me back to myself.
• 16:55
  Misty Celli: Knowing who I am is what finally gave the hours somewhere to go.
• 16:59
  Misty Celli: That's why the first step I hand you is the same one that still pulls me back.
• 17:03
  Misty Celli: Your three words.
• 17:04
  Misty Celli: You've read the books, maybe you've journaled, maybe you've been to therapy.
• 17:08
  Misty Celli: You understand yourself, you're self-aware.
• 17:10
  Misty Celli: So why does the pattern keep repeating?
• 17:13
  Misty Celli: Because awareness without an anchor doesn't stick.
• 17:15
  Misty Celli: You can have the most profound insight of your life on Wednesday morning, and by Thursday afternoon, when the schedule falls apart and someone needs something from you, that insight is nowhere to be found.
• 17:26
  Misty Celli: Insight lives in your mind, and the moment that your mind gets pulled into managing everyone else's needs, there's no room left to reach for it.
• 17:33
  Misty Celli: This is why three words work when a journal full of reflection didn't.
• 17:37
  Misty Celli: Not because the reflection wasn't true, it was.
• 17:40
  Misty Celli: But three words fit in the space between the reflex and the response.
• 17:45
  Misty Celli: They're small enough to actually use in the moment that counts, the moment when the hour opens and the old pattern starts to pull, or when someone asks something of you and you feel yourself about to say yes before you've even decided.
• 17:57
  Misty Celli: And here's what I want you to know about the women who start here.
• 18:00
  Misty Celli: They aren't starting from scratch.
• 18:02
  Misty Celli: They're women who've already done the thinking.
• 18:04
  Misty Celli: What they're doing now is giving that thinking somewhere to live, somewhere short enough, clear enough, and true enough to reach for when life gets loud.
• 18:13
  Misty Celli: You're not adding something new to an already full life.
• 18:16
  Misty Celli: You're finally putting a name on what's been true of you all along.
• 18:20
  Misty Celli: The people you love don't lose anything when you do this.
• 18:23
  Misty Celli: The woman who knows who she is shows up differently, not less, but more fully.
• 18:28
  Misty Celli: She's present because she chose to be, not because she had no other choice.
• 18:32
  Misty Celli: There's a different kind of showing up.
• 18:35
  Misty Celli: Your family feels the difference even if they never name it.
• 18:38
  Misty Celli: And it doesn't require a clear Saturday or a quiet week or a season when things have slowed down.
• 18:44
  Misty Celli: It requires 15 minutes and honesty.
• 18:47
  Misty Celli: You have both of those right now.
• 18:49
  Misty Celli: Picture a Tuesday, something cancels around two o'clock, and just like that, you've got an hour and a half that nobody expected.
• 18:56
  Misty Celli: You feel the old reflex start up right away.
• 18:58
  Misty Celli: There's the laundry, the emails.
• 19:00
  Misty Celli: You could get ahead on tomorrow.
• 19:02
  Misty Celli: But this time you pause.
• 19:04
  Misty Celli: You say your three words quietly to yourself and something in you settles.
• 19:08
  Misty Celli: You know what this time is for because you know who it's for.
• 19:12
  Misty Celli: Maybe you take the walk that you keep meaning to take.
• 19:14
  Misty Celli: Maybe you open the book that's been sitting on the nightstand for months, or you finally start the project that's been living only in your head.
• 19:21
  Misty Celli: Whatever it is, it fits the woman you named.
• 19:24
  Misty Celli: You aren't feeling time or passing time.
• 19:27
  Misty Celli: You're living in it.
• 19:28
  Misty Celli: When the hour is over, you step back into your day and you notice that you're lighter.
• 19:33
  Misty Celli: The laundry still gets done, the emails still get answered.
• 19:37
  Misty Celli: You just got there as yourself.
• 19:39
  Misty Celli: That evening at dinner, your husband asks about your day, and you actually have something of your own to tell him.
• 19:44
  Misty Celli: It isn't a report on what everybody else needs.
• 19:47
  Misty Celli: It's something you did, something you thought about, something that was yours.
• 19:52
  Misty Celli: And when your head hits the pillow that night, the old question doesn't come.
• 19:55
  Misty Celli: You don't lie there wondering where the day went.
• 19:58
  Misty Celli: You know where part of it went, and it went to you.
• 20:01
  Misty Celli: That's what it feels like when your hours finally have a name on them.
• 20:05
  Misty Celli: And it starts with three words.
• 20:07
  Misty Celli: Here's what I want to leave you with.
• 20:08
  Misty Celli: You've spent years being the woman everyone else could count on, and you're good at it.
• 20:13
  Misty Celli: That isn't the problem.
• 20:14
  Misty Celli: The problem is that somewhere along the way, you stopped being able to count on yourself to show up for yourself.
• 20:20
  Misty Celli: You know that.
• 20:21
  Misty Celli: Maybe you've known that for a long time, but today you know why.
• 20:24
  Misty Celli: So the question isn't whether you see it because you do see it.
• 20:28
  Misty Celli: The question is what you do with the next open hour, because there will be one.
• 20:32
  Misty Celli: Maybe tomorrow, maybe in 10 minutes when this episode ends, and in that moment, the old reflex will be right there, faster than a thought, ready to fill the space before you can decide anything about it.
• 20:43
  Misty Celli: The erased woman waits for a better season.
• 20:45
  Misty Celli: She tells herself that when things settle down, she'll finally figure it out.
• 20:50
  Misty Celli: But things don't settle down.
• 20:51
  Misty Celli: The season just changes as excuse.
• 20:54
  Misty Celli: The utmost woman doesn't wait.
• 20:56
  Misty Celli: She doesn't need the perfect block of time or the right circumstances.
• 21:00
  Misty Celli: She needs three words and the decision to use them.
• 21:03
  Misty Celli: You already have one of those.
• 21:05
  Misty Celli: Your first step is the identity starter kit at yourutmost.com forward slash starter.
• 21:11
  Misty Celli: It's free, 15 minutes, and I will walk you through every word.
• 21:15
  Misty Celli: This is phase one of three.
• 21:17
  Misty Celli: Discover, design, do.
• 21:20
  Misty Celli: The next open hour is coming.
• 21:22
  Misty Celli: You can let it belong to whoever asked for it first, or you can already know who it's for.
• 21:27
  Misty Celli: Say this one with me.
• 21:29
  Misty Celli: I don't need more hours.
• 21:31
  Misty Celli: I need to decide that I'm worth the ones I have.
• 21:34
  Misty Celli: If this one landed, if you heard yourself somewhere in it, would you leave a review?
• 21:38
  Misty Celli: It helps the next woman who's searching for time find the thing that she's actually looking for.
• 21:43
  Misty Celli: And if you know a woman who's already saying she just needs more hours in her day, send this to her.
• 21:48
  Misty Celli: She isn't behind.
• 21:49
  Misty Celli: Her hours just haven't been given her name yet.
• 21:52
  Misty Celli: Until next time, remember you are more than everyone's everything.
• 21:56
  Misty Celli: You are someone.