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The Moment You Start Seeing It (S5) S17:E6 · Inspirations for Your Life

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So let's dive right into the show, shall
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All right.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life, and
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ladies and gentlemen, the moment you start seeing
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it, season five, yes, I can't believe, ladies
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and gentlemen, that we are on show number
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17 and episode number six.
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The master topic for the week, in case
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you didn't know, is how people actually take
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control of their life.
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Hey, everyone.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a passionate lifelong learner.
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And yes, guys, very grateful to now be
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a published author.
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This episode is about a shift that does
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not begin with action, but with awareness, kind
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of like my book.
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The moment you start seeing clearly, your interpretation
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of your life changes, and what once felt
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normal begins to reveal patterns you can no
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longer ignore.
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It's like once you see it, you can't
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unsee it.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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a lot of people to realize, that once
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you see something, you cannot unsee it.
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Very, very important concept, guys.
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Very important concept.
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Number one, let's dive right in.
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Awareness changes everything.
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I know.
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I wrote a book about it.
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Perception updates once reality is seen clearly.
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Once you see it, you cannot unsee it.
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Number two, guys, patterns become visible, and repetition
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exposes structure in behavior.
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So there's a good thing about repetition, but
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it'll also tell you the truth about whether
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something is good or bad, because the truth
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will eventually come out.
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Number three, guys, normal starts to feel wrong.
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Acceptance turns into questioning, and then you're like,
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well, how do I move forward?
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Number four, guys, you notice repetition cycles that
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were ignored, how they become obvious, like they're
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this big flashing light in front of you.
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You can't ignore that, guys.
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You cannot ignore that.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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a lot of people to understand, is that
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you cannot ignore that.
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You might say to me, John, this makes
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no sense, but here's the truth, guys.
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It makes a lot of sense.
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It's just, how are you anticipating things right
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now?
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That's really the question that I have for
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you.
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Are you actually doing things, or are you
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just going through the motions, guys?
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Going through the motions is something that so
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many people do in life.
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They don't mean to do it, but they
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do it.
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And then they're not happy with themselves because
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they've been going through the motions.
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They haven't been an intentional person, intentional leader,
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and it's nothing to be ashamed about.
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It's just, you can change your life any
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time you want to change it.
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You don't have to wait until somebody says,
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hey, it's time to change your life.
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No, you don't need to do that, guys,
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but you do need to realize one thing.
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You need to realize that you have to
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change to become different, to become better.
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These are not things that are going to
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be obvious to a lot of people.
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I mean, that's probably the easiest thing I
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can tell you, is they're not going to
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be obvious to a lot of people, okay?
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And that's an important thing to definitely realize,
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that they're not going to be obvious.
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And when I say they're not going to
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be obvious, they're going to affect who you
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are as a person.
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They're going to affect who you are as
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a person.
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And I think that's a very important thing
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to note, you know, as a person, as
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a person.
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So number five, guys, habits reveal direction.
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Daily actions show future outcomes.
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Yes, guys, the daily actions are what shows
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the future outcomes.
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Not the small stuff, okay?
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But the little things that are even smaller
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than small, right?
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Those daily actions, I think, really can help
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empower people to become better versions of themselves.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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just some people don't, they don't get that
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sense.
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Number six, guys, systems become obvious.
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Hidden structures start to stand out.
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And you know, when a hidden structure stands
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out, it's like, wow, I didn't know I
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could do that.
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I didn't know I had that potential.
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I didn't know that I could see it
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that way.
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I'm just being honest with you guys, right?
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I didn't know that I could actually see
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it that way.
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So behavior makes sense and past choices connect
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us into clear results.
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But you know, our past is not something
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people always want to dive into.
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But sometimes our past can actually give us
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the answers that our future self's been waiting
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for.
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Number eight, guys, cause and effect becomes clear.
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Actions and outcomes link directly.
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Yes, I said directly, not indirectly.
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I think that's a key point, that they
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link directly.
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But they may not appear to link until
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that light bulb goes off in our head,
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until we've had that special, special moment.
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So I think that's an important thing.
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Number nine, guys, awareness creates tension.
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Realization challenges comfort every single day of our
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life.
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So we need to respect and honor that.
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Number 10, tension creates movement.
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Discomfort pushes change.
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Number 11, clarity replaces confusion.
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Yeah.
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You might say to me, John, how do
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we get clear about something when we're confused?
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One way is to ask questions.
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Another great way is to become aware of
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your surroundings, people, places, and things.
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Uncertainty begins to fade when we start to
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get clarity.
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That's important.
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Number 12, guys, routines come into question.
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Automatic actions are reconsidered.
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And that's another one that I think causes
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a lot of people's light bulbs to light
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up.
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Number 13, guys, old cycles weaken.
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Repeated patterns lose control.
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You might have heard of a phrase before,
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like the top that's spinning out of control.
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The ride has basically no ability to stay
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within its reins.
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So these things happen for a lot of
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different reasons, mechanical reasons, could be operator reasons.
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But when a pattern happens, it causes things
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to go awry.
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And if that pattern causes things to get
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too out of alignment, well, we get something
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called chaos, guys.
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We get something called chaos.
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Number 14, external influence becomes visible.
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You see what shaped you.
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You see what shaped you.
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Number 15, conditioning is revealed.
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Environments impact.
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Yes.
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And it becomes clear when you or the
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environment gets an impact.
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I think that's another important thing.
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We don't think that a tiny impact is
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going to make any difference in our life.
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The truth of the matter is, it will.
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It just might not be noticeable or obvious
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to you, you know, like that.
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But once you become aware of it, again,
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you can't become unaware of it.
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Number 16, guys, awareness introduces choice.
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Autopilot behavior stops.
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Now, you might say, John, is autopilot bad?
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Well, here's the thing.
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When you're running on so much autopilot that
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you can't even think about what your next
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step should be, yeah, autopilot's bad.
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If autopilot is helping you stay aligned and
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helping you achieve your goals and getting you
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to be intentional about yourself and others, then
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autopilot's good.
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So there's good parts to autopilot, and there's
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bad parts to autopilot.
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But it's something that there has to be,
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I want to say, this delicate balance around.
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And a lot of people say to me,
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oh, you know, I can't operate on autopilot.
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And there's nothing wrong, but it's something important.
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And it's important to be aware of this.
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I think awareness causes so many people to
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a lot of times second-guess themselves.
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It causes them to rethink their purpose, their
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core values.
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And there's nothing wrong with that, because if
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your core purpose and your core values were
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just kind of picked up, you know, like
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a grocery list, then they don't mean anything
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to you.
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They don't have anything that is part of
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your wiring.
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We don't say, I want to be something
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and then just grab it.
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We have to intentionally commit to that.
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Otherwise, it's just words.
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Nothing more than words, guys.
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Number 17, choice defines direction.
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Choice defines direction.
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Pretty powerful, guys.
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Begin shaping the outcomes now.
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Now, you might say to me, John, well,
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I don't make any choices.
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I had a hunch we were going to
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say that.
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So that's going to go back to a
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similar question that when somebody said to me,
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you know, we have to communicate, right?
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And I said to somebody, no communication is
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communication.
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Not acting is acting.
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So if you don't decide, if you don't
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make a choice, a choice is being.
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You're choosing not to choose, but you're still
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choosing something.
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You're using your freedom to decide, I don't
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want to do that.
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That's what choice is saying to you.
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You might say to you, well, I'm not
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ready to make that choice.
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You've already made the choice.
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You made the choice that says, hey, I
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had enough or I don't want to move
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forward.
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The how, the why, the when, that's not
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something I'm going to get into right now
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because every person is different.
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But choice is something that we are born
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with, but we don't necessarily execute it until
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we get older.
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We're afraid that if we make a choice,
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the outcome is something we may not like.
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So when we make a choice, we have
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to be responsible and we have to be
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accountable, ladies and gentlemen.
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Responsible and accountable.
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Not just responsible, right?
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I think that's a very important thing that
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many people, like they just don't get it
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for whatever reason.
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They don't get it.
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And these are things that I think will
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blow so many people out of the water.
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If you could think right now of one
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thing that you didn't get this entire, let's
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say, day, what would you say?
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Is it something that you just moved toward?
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Or is it something you said, you know
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what?
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I don't want to choose.
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And by you not choosing, guys, you've made
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a choice to choose.
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I know that sounds wacky, okay?
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Maybe you're sleeping in one day.
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Could be the weekend or what have you.
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Or maybe you're playing hooky from school and
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staying home.
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And when you're in bed, you made a
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choice not to get up.
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You made a choice not to go to
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school, not a good one.
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You made a choice not to go to
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work.
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You made a choice not to do something.
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And maybe that choice happened because your body
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was starting to feel burnout.
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Maybe it was getting tired.
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Maybe it said, hey, enough is enough.
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I got to stop.
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When your body gives you these signs, okay?
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They could be warning signs.
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They could be more severe, but they're just
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signs in the very beginning.
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They're things we got to be aware of.
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And when we're aware of them, guess what
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happens?
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We can change the course in our direction.
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I'm going to pair this to a global
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positioning satellite, GPS system in your car, right?
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If you make a wrong turn on a
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highway and now you're up a creek, well,
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not literally up a creek, but you get
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my point.
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You got to make another turn to either
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make a legal U-turn or you have
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to come around the block or you have
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to do something.
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So the car's job is programmed to keep
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you on the course.
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Maybe you're trying to get to a restaurant
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and you can't because, I don't know, you
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keep making wrong turns.
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Well, the car will keep patiently telling you
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to take this turn.
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And that could go on for minutes or
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hours.
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And you got to make the decision, all
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right, am I going to pay attention now
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and not miss this turn this time?
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Because I've done this three times.
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Am I going to like not miss this
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turn?
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A very interesting one where that's happened in
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the very beginning when I used to go
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to, well, the very first time for the
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new Newark Terminal A.
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In the beginning, it was like, okay, how
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do we get to the parking garage?
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It's not as simple as the other ones
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were.
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It's like on the other side and then
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you have to go to the right.
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And then when you go around, you have
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to realize that there's a garage entrance, but
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you don't go in the first garage entrance.
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You have to know to go to the
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second one.
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First one says Hertz or whatever.
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You have to go to the second one.
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Otherwise, you don't get into the parking garage.
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And guess what happens?
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You now have to go all the way
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around, back around the airport, back around the
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loop, back down around.
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So that's like another three or four minutes
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and you're back.
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So how many times are you gonna keep
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doing that?
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You're like, oh, I missed it again.
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I can't believe it.
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So you gotta be more conscious when you
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get to that term because it's a quick
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right and a quick left, let's just say.
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Number 18, guys, direction initiates action.
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It does.
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Clarity leads to movement.
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We've said that before.
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Direction leads to action and clarity leads to
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movement.
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When we know what to do, we do
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it.
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When we know what we need to do,
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we just do it.
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Number 19, guys, action produces outcomes.
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Now it might not be the outcome you
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want, but then you gotta take a different
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action.
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Execution, guys, creates the results.
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So action creates an outcome and execution will
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create the results.
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Hopefully it'll be the results you want.
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Hopefully.
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But if it's not, then you need to
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do like the GPS system does.
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You have to alter your course.
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You have to get back on track.
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Maybe it's a complete U-turn.
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Maybe it's a slight turn.
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But I think when we're aware that we're
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making the mistake or going in the wrong
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entrance for the garage or what have you,
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something goes off in my head that says,
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wait a minute.
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I gotta just be more attentive when I
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get to this spot after the traffic light.
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I need to know that I gotta go
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across the street.
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I gotta make the left and I gotta
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know that I gotta get over to the
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right lane.
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That I'm in that left lane, that far
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left lane.
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I can't get over right away and I
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might miss the entrance to the garage road.
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And now I'm gonna go past the airport,
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have to go around, come back and do
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the whole thing again.
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You're gonna get pretty annoyed with yourself if
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you keep doing that over and over again.
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So hopefully the second time you're like, okay,
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I did the second time, the third time.
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And now you're like, wait a minute, we're
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on the fourth time.
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All right, enough, enough, enough.
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I've gotta get this right.
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Like I gotta really pay attention now.
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Number 20 guys, outcomes reinforce understanding.
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Reality will always confirm awareness.
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You remember when I was at MSU the
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other day and I was looking at the
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people and I said, gee, how many people
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are intentionally doing something today?
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Intentionally aware.
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I think I counted like three or four
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people.
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Some people were playing on their phone.
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Some people were just walking like they didn't
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care, but they weren't being intentional about their
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life and about the things they were doing.
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There was a person on the skateboard.
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There was a group that was actually filming
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something for their final semester project.
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All right, there was somebody else there that
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was basically outside and they were painting.
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And these were all people doing intentional things.
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But out of let's say 700 people, there
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was only three or four people that were
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being intentional with their lives.
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That's pretty sad guys.
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Number 21, patterns become unforgettable.
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Recognition cannot be unseen.
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Once we see something, once we know something,
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we cannot forget about it.
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We know it.
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We know it.
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Number 22 guys, awareness compounds.
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Each insight that we derive strengthens the next
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thought, the next action, the next insight.
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And when these keep happening together, people call
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it epiphany, but really it means you're in
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alignment with the things that you want and
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they're easier to get.
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Number 23 guys, momentum forms.
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Realization accelerates the change.
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So momentum will form and the realization, the
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awareness that you have will accelerate the change
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that's gonna take place in your life.
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Number 24 guys, confidence emerges.
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Understanding builds trust in action.
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So your confidence will push up.
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The understanding builds trust in action.
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That's pretty cool, right?
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Have you ever thought about that before?
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What does that mean to you?
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What does that mean to you?
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I think it means that there's lots of
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choices.
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People have certain dreams, right?
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And dreams can have meaning.
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And I think these are important things to
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understand.
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And they may not be things that you're
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gonna necessarily grasp, again, one, two, three, they
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may not.
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When your confidence emerges, understanding of the situation
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will build the trust in the action that
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you're taking.
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Number 25 guys, change becomes intentional.
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Behavior starts to shift when that happens consciously.
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So when change is intentional, only when it's
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intentional, our behavior shifts.
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Let me say that again.
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When you make an intentional change, our behavior
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shifts.
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It's not just one thing you're doing because,
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oh, I'll just do this today.
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That's not usually what happens.
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Most people will build habits.
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They wanna build good habits.
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Now, doing the habit is automatic, right?
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But being intentional about why you're doing it
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is something that shouldn't be automatic.
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Number 26 guys, growth becomes visible.
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When this happens, progress becomes measurable.
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I've said this a million times before.
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When we can figure out something and we
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can measure it, we can analyze it and
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we can change it, but we have to
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be able to measure it.
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Whatever we can measure, we can change.
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Number 27 guys, your identity begins adjusting.
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Self-perception evolves when your identity begins adjusting.
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A lot of people have this big ego
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attached to their identity like, oh, I can't
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do that.
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Or, oh, this is the way, I'm the
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best at this.
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Your self-perception evolves.
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And even if you don't like what that
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perception is, you create it because of that
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awareness that you're having.
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That's really important to understand, guys.
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I think a lot of people today don't
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understand that, but your understanding of the identity,
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when it adjusts, your self-perception will evolve.
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Maybe not at the rate and speed that
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you want, but it will start to evolve.
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Number 28 guys, direction stabilizes clarity.
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Direction stabilizes clarity.
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How can I give you an example of
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this?
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So let's say you're baking a cake and
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you've never baked one before, but your friend's
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walking you through how to bake the cake.
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Either they're there with you or they're on
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FaceTime or just on an audio call.
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And they're trying to give you clarity on
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how to bake.
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And that will give you more direction.
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When they give you direction, you get, oh,
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I get that, now I know.
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That happens a lot.
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If you're a student, you'll have those moments
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and you're like, wait a minute, I didn't
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know that meant that.
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That's what that was all about?
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Yeah.
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So these little epiphanies, I'll call them, get
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our mind and body to say, wait a
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minute, maybe I shouldn't be going down that
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path or maybe I'm going down the right
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path.
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It helps you make a choice.
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But some people get stuck on a pathway
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and they don't want to change the pathway.
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They don't wanna change it because it might
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be what, guys, too uncomfortable.
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Maybe they see that they're not as good
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as they wanna be, but they don't really
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wanna put effort into change.
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And I just say, guys, that that is
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so very sad, like really, really sad.
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Number 29, guys, drift disappears when passive living
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ends.
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All right.
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So drift also happens during burnout.
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You get lack of apathy for things.
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You're not interested in stuff.
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And your mind drifting and your focus to
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things don't drift anymore.
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When you stop living a non-intentional life,
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like I was explaining to you about all
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those students the other day, walking around campus
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and just watching them walk around campus.
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Some were playing with their iPhones, some were
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just do all kinds of stuff, but they
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were not intentional.
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They were so buried in their music.
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Some were jogging, but they were so into
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it.
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Now, I can't say that the joggers who
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were like one or two joggers, they probably
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weren't intentional because they probably were focused on
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running.
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They were just running.
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But out of that, four or five people
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out of 100 at a university are not
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living an intentional life.
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So that means that when they go to
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class, are they intentional about their education?
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Were they just going through the motions so
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they can get a grade?
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And I think when people realize life's not
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about going through the motions, it's about celebrating
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the awareness.
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Number 30, guys, decisions take control.
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Life becomes intentionally directed only when the decisions
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take control.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to know
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this.
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Change does not begin when you act.
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It begins when you see.
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And once you see clearly, staying the same
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becomes, well, impossible.
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The reason you don't change is because, A,
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you just don't want to, could be too
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much effort.
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It's usually the fact that you're so comfortable
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on this side of the fence that I
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want to do more work.
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So I'll just stay here.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, early serial
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entrepreneur.
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Please do check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for my
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book and all kinds of other great content.
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I'll catch you guys tomorrow, Friday, for the
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last of show 17, that'll be episode seven,
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to wrap this amazing master topic up.
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Have yourself a great one, and I'll catch
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you real soon, everyone.
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Be well.