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Becoming Bobby Flay · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya Radd, an iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two-time People's Choice Award-winning podcast. Hello, everybody. We are
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  Speaker 1: scrubbing in and it is Thursday, September 10th, a.
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  Speaker 2: Very happy engagement anniversary.
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  Speaker 1: That is the voice of my wonderful, loving husband who
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  Speaker 1: is scrubbing in this week.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I'll never forget this day. Yeah, it's a very
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  Speaker 2: big day. No, I will never forget this day. It
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  Speaker 2: was an amazing day. Actually, one of my favorite days.
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  Speaker 3: Ever.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the feeling, I agree. It really is an amazing day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you just wanted to like brush over it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to brush over it, but like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I'm down, 100% down with acknowledging it. It was one
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  Speaker 2: of the most amazing days. I'll never forget the feeling
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  Speaker 2: of just like the day leading up to it, the prep,
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  Speaker 2: but then also like, There was a really special feeling
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  Speaker 2: that like cloud nine feeling like right after and like
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  Speaker 2: for a while after that. It was different than when
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  Speaker 2: we got married. It was like kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: The first time we had that feeling.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah. So I'll never forget it.
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  Speaker 1: In the spirit of our engagement anniversary, in case you
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  Speaker 1: were listening and you do not know, we got engaged on.
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  Speaker 1: September 10th, 2023. So it's been three years.
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  Speaker 2: You know what didn't even occur to us? What? That
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  Speaker 2: our wedding engagement photographer was the photographer at the movie
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  Speaker 2: that we went to the other night.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But what are the chances of that? Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying, like, we hadn't seen him in however many years.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and he was a photographer at this movie screening
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  Speaker 1: that we went to, which.
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  Speaker 2: Is so random. So that's something.
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  Speaker 1: So I have a poem that I wrote for you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, me too.
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  Speaker 3: You do?
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  Speaker 2: Let's hear yours first.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, don't touch your phone. It's called Best Decision Ever,
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  Speaker 1: Rom-Com Edition.
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  Speaker 2: Before we start, how much of this was chat GPT?
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  Speaker 1: Get out of here. No trailer could have done it justice.
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  Speaker 1: I've dreamed of this day and overly discussed this. September 10th,
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  Speaker 1: you kneeling, me saying yes, and you remembering exactly which
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  Speaker 1: one I wanted as my engagement dress. But it's not
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  Speaker 1: all about the pretty days in our love story. It's
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  Speaker 1: about the good, the bad, and every category. It's the
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  Speaker 1: nights that weren't cute at all and you didn't flinch,
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  Speaker 1: didn't stall. When everything felt heavy, dark, and unclear, you
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  Speaker 1: just held my hand and stayed right here. No dramatic
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  Speaker 1: music needed then, just you steady again and again. No
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  Speaker 1: swelling strings, no perfect light, turning my worst days into
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  Speaker 1: all right. So here's the plot twist. The romance isn't
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  Speaker 1: the proposal scene. It's every day with you still choosing
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  Speaker 1: to be my person in between. Best decision I ever made,
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  Speaker 1: hands down. Rom-com writers, eat your hearts out. Would cast
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  Speaker 1: you again in every scene. Real love's better than anything
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  Speaker 1: you've ever dreamed.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that was so nice. 90% chat GPT, I would
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  Speaker 2: say probably, but that was pretty good. It was really good.
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  Speaker 2: You did a good, you like did good. It was,
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  Speaker 2: that's really nice.
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  Speaker 1: That is dark.
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  Speaker 2: Mark, that was 90% chat GPT.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Mark has no idea. Why would Mark know? This is
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  Speaker 1: my anniversary gift to you. Why would Mark have any idea?
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  Speaker 2: I'm giving you your gift tonight.
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  Speaker 1: Which is what?
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  Speaker 2: You're going to have to wait and see.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't get me a gift. You're going to go
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  Speaker 1: and get me something.
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  Speaker 2: No, no. I have a gift. I have a gift.
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  Speaker 1: Anywho, September 10th it is. And it is a Dear
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  Speaker 1: Banya episode today. I got a couple questions. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to save those because I asked you a couple of
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  Speaker 1: the questions that came in on the other on Monday's episode.
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  Speaker 1: We've got a lot of TTC questions. Um, and so
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to kind of start with these just cause
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  Speaker 1: they felt they're a little bit more like Banya. Um,
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  Speaker 1: this one is from Natalie and she said, how is
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  Speaker 1: Robbie handling your TTC journey and Tanya's health scare earlier
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  Speaker 1: this year? His perspective, please.
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  Speaker 2: Is that, that's a question for me.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: From Natalie.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for the question, Natalie. Um, Well, I think there's,
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  Speaker 2: you know, there's like two sides of this. One is,
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  Speaker 2: you know, my emotional state of dealing with kind of
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  Speaker 2: everything that's gone on and kind of everything that's going on.
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  Speaker 2: And then also like my supporting you and dealing with
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  Speaker 2: you because our journeys, while one journey are like really,
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  Speaker 2: we're going through, it's so different. Like you're really like,
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  Speaker 2: going through a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot
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  Speaker 2: more than I am physically, emotionally. So I guess I'll
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  Speaker 2: start with kind of like my perspective on everything. I
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  Speaker 2: am a very positive person. I'm a very, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I read this book, The Sunshine Mind, go check it out.
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  Speaker 2: But the concept, I mean, that's how I live my
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  Speaker 2: life too. Like I'm very, very, very positive. I feel very, I...
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  Speaker 2: anytime I'm going through a difficult time or even a
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  Speaker 2: really like great time, I have, I think a very, like,
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  Speaker 2: I have an ability to like put things in perspective. Right. And,
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  Speaker 2: and so when we were at our lowest lows during
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  Speaker 2: this process, I was able to put things in perspective,
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  Speaker 2: you know, just primarily like, yes, we've gone through a lot, um,
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  Speaker 2: some scary things. Um, but, At the same time, we're
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  Speaker 2: so fortunate that it went as well as it did, right?
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  Speaker 2: Like the silver lining of it all, that we are
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  Speaker 2: in such an incredible position to eventually succeed in what
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  Speaker 2: we're doing. And so for me, it's been, don't get
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  Speaker 2: me wrong, it's been difficult, especially, and I know when
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  Speaker 2: you're ready, you'll talk about it in more detail, but
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  Speaker 2: especially kind of your health scare and the surgery that
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  Speaker 2: you went through. uh, end of the year, that was
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  Speaker 2: incredibly difficult, but I always felt that it was my
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  Speaker 2: job to be strong for both of us and to
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  Speaker 2: me and to like be your rock because you were
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  Speaker 2: really the one kind of like going through it. Like
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  Speaker 2: it was you, it was your body, it was your everything.
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  Speaker 2: And so I really kind of, I did like address
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  Speaker 2: my emotions, but really I was there for you and
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  Speaker 2: my whole, uh, kind of, uh, purpose in over this
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  Speaker 2: past like year plus has been to be there for
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  Speaker 2: you as much as I can. I hope that I've
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  Speaker 2: succeeded in that. Um, I do my best. So you
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  Speaker 2: have had it rough. You, this is, you know, at
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  Speaker 2: the end of the day, we're very, very, very, very lucky.
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  Speaker 2: We're lucky in every single way. We're gonna, you know,
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  Speaker 2: do this. It's, we're going to look back on all
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  Speaker 2: of this and we're, and we're going to, it's just
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  Speaker 2: going to be distant memories. So in that way, we're
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  Speaker 2: very fortunate. There's people who are a lot worse off
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  Speaker 2: than us. Um, and so I can't be like sad
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  Speaker 2: about it, to be honest, but I, I, it's, it's
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  Speaker 2: been so much for you that, um, I just want
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  Speaker 2: to keep the positivity, keep the optimism because again, like
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  Speaker 2: I said, I know that we're going to get through
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  Speaker 2: this and look back on this and it'll just be
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  Speaker 2: like a small blip in our story. No, what, what
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  Speaker 2: are your thoughts?
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  Speaker 1: No, I mean, it's like, it's just been the craziest
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  Speaker 1: thing because I feel like we got married and we
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  Speaker 1: had this like amazing, you know, you have this amazing
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  Speaker 1: wedding and all the festivities leading up to it that
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  Speaker 1: are so much fun. And then like you have your honeymoon,
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  Speaker 1: you're on this like crazy high of life where it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think our wedding was like my favorite
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  Speaker 1: weekend of my life. Like it was so much fun.
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  Speaker 1: And you just, you're on this like crazy high. And
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  Speaker 1: then we went straight into like, trying to conceive. And
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  Speaker 1: it's just been like the craziest, like emotional rollercoaster I've
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  Speaker 1: ever been on in my life. And like the, the,
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  Speaker 1: like I've never been lower than I've been. And it's
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  Speaker 1: like such a crazy juxtaposition going from like being like
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  Speaker 1: the happiest you've ever been to the saddest you've ever been.
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  Speaker 1: And like, I just don't even think I'm like equipped
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  Speaker 1: to handle like all these emotions and, too much for me.
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  Speaker 2: I think you got to give yourself a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of grace and a little bit of credit. You've been
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  Speaker 2: through a lot and you've handled it really, really well,
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  Speaker 2: all things considered. And I think you have to like,
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  Speaker 2: give yourself that grace because you've been handling it. So
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  Speaker 2: for you to sit here and say that, like, you
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  Speaker 2: don't think you're capable of it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not like, that's the thing. I'm like living my
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  Speaker 1: life and I'm like going through my life. But like
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, like everything revolves around
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  Speaker 1: my cycle and my fertility and like blood work and like,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, just everything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're doing it. No question. It's hard, but
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  Speaker 2: you're doing it. I know, but I'm doing it.
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  Speaker 1: It's all I'm focusing on. Like, it's like, I can't even,
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  Speaker 1: I can't even do anything else.
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  Speaker 3: I'm obvious.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going through my life and I'm like doing what
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  Speaker 1: needs to be done. But like mentally, I'm just like
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  Speaker 1: thinking about. other things, visualizing your sperm meeting my, I
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  Speaker 1: mean like literally it's like, it's constantly on my mind,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like I bring socks to the movie theaters
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  Speaker 1: to keep my feet warm. And like, it's just constantly
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  Speaker 1: on my mind and it's just, it's like exhausting, but
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  Speaker 1: you're right. Like I look at other people who have
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  Speaker 1: gone through, you know, five years of this, six years
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  Speaker 1: of this, you know, AMH 0.03 and my AMH is
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  Speaker 1: so high. And yes, my age plays a fact, but, um,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it plays a role, but it's just been
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  Speaker 1: like so crazy. And sometimes I would, I would get
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  Speaker 1: frustrated because I felt like you, um, you do, you
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  Speaker 1: try to keep me positive. You try to like keep
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  Speaker 1: the train going. And I just want to be like,
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  Speaker 1: can't you just like cry with me? You know, like
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  Speaker 1: I would just want you to cry.
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  Speaker 2: I've cried.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's not, I'm not saying you've never cried,
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  Speaker 1: but like sometimes.
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  Speaker 2: I just, no, I know. And that's, I mean, that's like,
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  Speaker 2: that's like the classic, like men, women, like thing where
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  Speaker 2: it's like women, if they're expressing or going through something,
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  Speaker 2: they want the guy to just like understand it and
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  Speaker 2: acknowledge it, not try to like problem solve. And, all
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  Speaker 2: I want to do is like problem solve. Right. So
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  Speaker 2: for sure that's, but I also, I am conscious of that.
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  Speaker 2: And I, and I try to truly understand and like
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  Speaker 2: acknowledge what you're going through. And we've listened, like I said,
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  Speaker 2: there will come a time when this period of your life,
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  Speaker 2: of our lives that you're saying was like impossible. You
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  Speaker 2: couldn't even handle it. We'll be a blip in the story. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I just, you know, I, whatever, whatever emotions you're
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  Speaker 2: going through right now, you're going to go through, we're
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  Speaker 2: going to go through. Um, and that's totally normal and natural.
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  Speaker 2: And if we weren't sad, that would be weird. Um,
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  Speaker 2: but I have no, no doubts that we're going to
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  Speaker 2: get through this and, and look back on this as
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  Speaker 2: kind of just like a short blip in our story.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I do feel like also like it is obviously
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  Speaker 1: it's like my body. And so it's like all, you know,
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  Speaker 1: all these things that I'm doing, but I also feel
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  Speaker 1: like you have, you know, you stepped up your game
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  Speaker 1: and you've also like taken and like, that's where like
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  Speaker 1: your whole chef personality came out with this because you
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  Speaker 1: were like, I, there was like a point where my
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  Speaker 1: doctor was like very adamant about me focusing on my
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  Speaker 1: my diet and my nutrition and you like took it
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  Speaker 1: head on and you were like, okay, you know, I can't,
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  Speaker 1: I can't physically do this, but what I can do
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  Speaker 1: is I can provide you the food, the nutritional food
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  Speaker 1: that you need to like get through this. So that's
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  Speaker 1: when you started like becoming fricking Bobby Flay over here
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  Speaker 1: and like making me every single meal, like from scratch
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  Speaker 1: with like the best ingredients. And, um, that's been so helpful.
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  Speaker 1: And it just kind of like, you know, I just
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  Speaker 1: know that you're so in it with me.
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  Speaker 2: And I also feel like I know that you're carrying 90%
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  Speaker 2: of this like load.
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  Speaker 1: No, I know. But like you come to like all
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  Speaker 1: the appointments with me, like you're, you're in it with
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  Speaker 1: me so much. And I've talked to so many women
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  Speaker 1: who don't have that and are like going through it,
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  Speaker 1: not alone because they have husbands, but they're just not involved.
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  Speaker 2: And definitely not as some women are going through it alone. Right.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, right.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm, I do feel very lucky and like
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  Speaker 1: grateful to have you.
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  Speaker 2: I got your back, baby. I love you.
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  Speaker 1: I love you too.
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  Speaker 2: Take a deep breath.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's fine. We're fine. Everything's fine.
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  Speaker 2: No, we're great.
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  Speaker 1: We are great. And I just, I try not to,
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  Speaker 1: I don't like to talk about it because I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm, Because people keep asking me to open up
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  Speaker 1: and share about what I'm doing and stuff, but I
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  Speaker 1: just feel like there's so much information out there, and
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I digest so much of it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my God. Your entire algorithm at this point is...
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  Speaker 2: This stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I know. And it's like overwhelming, you know, and then
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  Speaker 1: you hear.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it's healthy to watch all that stuff,
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  Speaker 2: to be honest, because first of all.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think so either, but I can't stop.
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  Speaker 2: I think 99% of the stuff on Instagram is total BS.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but I also think that. it's like if
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  Speaker 1: it worked for somebody else, why wouldn't it work for me?
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  Speaker 1: But then I also know in my brain, like what
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  Speaker 1: works for somebody else might not work for me. So
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  Speaker 1: it's like this weird thing of like, I want to
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  Speaker 1: try everything that I can. Why wouldn't I try everything
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  Speaker 1: that I possibly can? Um, and so I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to be that person for somebody else. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, I don't want to, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I think that I'm no expert. I, you know, I
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  Speaker 2: think there's a difference between like the people out there
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  Speaker 2: posting stuff for clicks and views versus like what you
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  Speaker 2: might put out there, which is I think kind of
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  Speaker 2: just telling your story and in the way that you
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  Speaker 2: do and have throughout your entire like public life and
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  Speaker 2: be vulnerable and then Hopefully that story, you're not telling
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  Speaker 2: people to do this or do that. You're just telling
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  Speaker 2: people your story and then that story that people have
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  Speaker 2: gone through something similar or exactly that or a piece
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  Speaker 2: of it or something that you went through relates to
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  Speaker 2: something that they're going through. Even if it's entirely different, right?
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  Speaker 2: Like a different challenge in their life that they're going
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  Speaker 2: through and the way you handled this challenge. I think
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  Speaker 2: just telling your story is very different than like giving
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  Speaker 2: tips and tricks to get pregnant on, you know, your
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  Speaker 2: Instagram channel. And I think when you do tell your story,
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  Speaker 2: whenever you're ready for that, um, I think it's, it, it'll,
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  Speaker 2: it will be helpful for people because it's, again, you're not,
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  Speaker 2: you're not telling them what to do. You're just publicizing
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  Speaker 2: something that a lot of people go through, but that
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  Speaker 2: not a lot of people are talking about. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I think why people don't talk about it is
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  Speaker 1: because like you do, there's so much shame. Like you
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  Speaker 1: feel like as a woman, like you're broken and like
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  Speaker 1: you don't work right. And so it's like really hard.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Especially when it's like so easy for other people.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. you don't hear all the hard stories. I think
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  Speaker 2: that there's a lot more hard stories out there than
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  Speaker 2: you could, than you'd imagine. Right. You hear the easy
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  Speaker 2: stories or you see the successes cause that's more visible.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: A baby comes out, but, um, but you don't hear
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  Speaker 2: all those stories. So I don't know, you know, I think,
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  Speaker 2: I think when you're ready, I think, I think that
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  Speaker 2: you'll figure out the way to tell your story the
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  Speaker 2: right way. um, in a way that means something to you.
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  Speaker 2: And because it means something to you, I think it'll
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  Speaker 2: help a lot of people, but you should not be
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  Speaker 2: in a rush to do that. I think your mental
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  Speaker 2: health and your, all of that is kind of the,
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  Speaker 2: should be the priority. I think.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's weird though, too, because like I have moments like this, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: but then like I do, I'm so grateful for my life.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not like I'm sitting at home crying all day,
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  Speaker 1: every day. Like I'm not like perpetually sad. Like I
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  Speaker 1: do love my life and there's so much light and
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  Speaker 1: love in my life. Um, it's just like this weird,
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  Speaker 1: I've never had like such a duality.
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  Speaker 2: It's so bad. And it's not just that you can't
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  Speaker 2: get it. It's that you kind of maybe had it.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: And then like, it was like ups and downs and like,
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: you know, emergency surgery is crazy. And, All the hormones
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: that are being pumped into you is crazy.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: And it's like, you have to wait. There's like every
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: month you would just, it's like, it's just so crazy.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Good news turns into bad news like that. And you're like,
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: what the hell? I thought this was good news and
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden it's bad news.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's just so crazy.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: It's like all consuming.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: But I, you know, my advice, me trying to problem solve.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: I don't think, I think that you need, I do
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: think perspective, this is for anything in life. I think
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: perspective is so important. You're the Michael Jordan of AMH
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: or whatever the hormone thing is. You have like the
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: highest AMH of anyone in your age range. You, you know,
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: thankfully I'm healthy. You know what I'm saying? Like we're,
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: we're good. We are good. You know what I mean?
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: We've been through a lot, but we're good.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: Michael Jordan of AMH is iconic really. Um, I'm going
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: to pull myself together and we will come back with
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: a couple Dear Banya questions.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: We're back.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I'm good. We're good. Everything's great over here. This is
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: from Anonymous. This is very layered, so I don't even
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: know if you're equipped to answer this.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm equipped.
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: My husband and I have a very vanilla sex life
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: and we're intimate maybe once every one to three months.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: I've brought this up in couples counseling and countless times privately,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: and he eventually admitted that he struggled with a porn
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: addiction since he was very young. He's also told me
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: that he doesn't even know how to be affectionate or romantic.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Where to go from here. Some days I feel like
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: giving up because I feel so rejected, disconnected, and unloved.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Other days I desperately want to support him and help
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: him learn what intimacy, affection, romance can actually look like
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: in a relationship, but honestly, I'm exhausted. How do you
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: know when to keep fighting for the relationship and where
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: you've reached the point where you're asking someone to become
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: a person that they may not be ready to become?
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot in there, but hold on. So
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: the porn addiction... is like a thing unto itself. Like,
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: like deal with that, whatever the steps are to like,
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: stop being addicted to porn. I think he has to do.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I think that's like any other addiction. I think you
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: is alcohol. No, that's AA is just alcoholics anonymous. You
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: can't go to porn. You can't go to out.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's out there for porn addiction. Maybe
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: there is porn.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: I'm sure there's an AA for porn addiction.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: There might be.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But my point is like, Yeah. That is definitely
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: like a, probably a very serious physical and mental factor
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: leading to their inability to have sex or his lack
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: of desire to have sex with her. So they got
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: to deal with that. Okay. So however you deal with that,
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: you deal with that. But then, and maybe this is
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: a bad idea, but I was thinking, and maybe this
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: is part of getting over it is that like, maybe
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: they watch porn together and that like excites, you know,
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: gets their, gets their relationship going. Or if that doesn't work,
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: cause it's like, you know, if you're like an alcoholic,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: you don't want to like drink together. Right. So like
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: maybe you don't do that.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I feel like that's horrible advice.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: I'm not a doctor. Forget the porn stuff, but I'm
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: saying the porn addiction has got to be dealt with.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: But again, maybe, maybe they could figure out how to
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: like incorporate that into their sex life. Cause I think
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: what they also, she also has to do is figure
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: out a way to excite him in bed physically. And
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: I think that that's going to require more than just like,
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: you know, your ordinary run of the mill stuff. I
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: think they have to like create some spice in their
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: sexual life. Yeah.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: What she's saying is like, how do I, she's trying
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: to help him. But at what point am I asking
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: someone to become a person that they may not be
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: ready to become? Like, what if he's refusing to go
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: to like deal with his porn addiction?
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: Well, that's different.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: So that's just like happy with his porn addiction. And
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: he's happy to have sex once every one to three months.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: And that's what he wants.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: I think he doesn't even want to have sex every
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: one to three months. I think he's probably just doing
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: it because he feels like, he should, or like he
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: thinks like he's, if he never had sex with her,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: that would be really bad. You know, if you have
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: sex once every three months, you probably don't need to,
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know. But yeah, if he doesn't, you know
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? Like, I think he's just doing it
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: to do it. But if he's not willing to get,
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: if he's not willing to like, deal with his porn addiction, yeah,
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: then there's... Then it's like you're married to an alcoholic,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: let's say. What do you do if the alcoholic doesn't
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: want to stop drinking? You could stay with them and then,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: you know, like, there's many people who do. There's nothing
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: wrong with that either, I suppose. You just have to
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: make that decision for yourself and your family. Yeah.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: This one's tough for me. I don't... Because I'm like,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: she's married. It's her husband. It's not her. If this
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: was her boyfriend, I'd say.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Bounce.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: B-O-U-N-C-E-E-E.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: Bounce.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: But it's her husband. And so I'm like, I want
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: her to like tough it out, but maybe give it
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: like some sort of deadline. Be like, maybe try everything
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: that you can to help him over the next year.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Give it 12 months. And if it's not going in
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: a positive direction, you don't see it going in a
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: positive direction. He's not getting any help. Then I think
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: you do have to leave him.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah. If he's willing to work on this. Everything in
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: a relationship is work, whether it's lack of intimacy or
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: whatever it is. There's any numerous number of issues in
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: a relationship. It's all work. So you got to work
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: at it. If he's not willing to work at it,
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: then you have to make a decision eventually, I suppose.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, this next one is from anonymous. What did you
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: and Robbie do to meet single people when you were
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: dating and trying to find your person? And how did
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: you not lose hope? I listen to literally every episode,
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: so I know you've talked about this before, but as
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: a 28-year-old single girl who just wants to find her
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: husband and not hook up slash casually date anymore, it's
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: hard to stay positive in the dating scene. For context,
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: I live in the Seattle area and have been on
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Hinge for two and a half years. after leaving a
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: six-year relationship because I knew he wasn't my person.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: I feel like this is mostly a you question.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Well, no.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: Like the staying hopeful thing.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: So what I found very interesting was the staying hopeful
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: because I feel like, and I wish that like women
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: could date like men in a sense because.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: I love dating. I had the most, I like dating
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: for me was so fun. I mean, listen, it was
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: annoying at times.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: But it was like you go on a date and
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: you're like, OK, if we don't click like your loss,
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: I'm still good. I'm the bro. I am like I'm
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: the shit. you know, whereas like girls when they're dating,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: it's just so different, you know, like we, we go
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: into every date thinking, oh my gosh, like this could
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: be the, my first date with my husband. And then
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: you get, or at least when I was dating, um,
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: and you get so let down time and time and
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: time again that it gets like exhausting. And then you
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: start to think something's wrong with you, which is like
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: so bad, but you start to pick yourself apart. And
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: then after you do all that, then you're like, it's
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: just so different for men and for women. Like, I
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: feel like guys go out on dates and they're just like, yeah,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: if we click, it's cool. If not, like you're bad.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's true. I think that if a
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: guy is really looking for an emotional connection is like
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: really looking for a relationship and he goes out on
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: a date with a girl that he actually does like,
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: and they don't want to date him anymore. That would suck.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: That sucks. I don't think that's, that's a guy girl thing.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: I also feel like when she said that she doesn't
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: want to have like hookups or the casual thing anymore,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I feel like I was always very upfront when I
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: was dating that I was not going to have sex
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: outside of a committed relationship.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, very upfront. You're very upfront about it.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I was because it was such a easy way to
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: tell for me to tell if a guy would, would
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: like when he heard that some guys just like checked out,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: like I could just see them check out and you
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: can see it and you can feel it. Um, and
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: so it was just a very easy way for me.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: I would say it on the first day, every first
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: date I went on, I was very vocal about that.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: And I, by the time we went on our first date,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: why are you laughing?
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: I'm dying because when we were broken up, you like,
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: I remember you texted this guy that I happened to know.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: And you told him, what did you say? You said, no,
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: we're talking.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: We like exchanged phone numbers.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: You're on the phone. We were on the phone.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: No, we were on the phone. And I told him,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: I said, I don't have sex outside of a committed relationship.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: And he was like, quickly.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: Me neither. Meanwhile, this guy is the biggest like player.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Like he was like, totally just saying what you wanted
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: to hear.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: But when I told you that, when I told you
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: that on our first date, I said, I don't have sex.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: I said, I've committed a relationship. And at that point,
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: when I was started dating you, it had been four
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: years since I had had sex.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: And I remember you didn't even like.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: Oh, the floodgates.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: What? No, you didn't even flinch. Like you were like,
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: I don't remember exactly your response, but I remember your
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: response wasn't like checked out. Goodbye.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Like when I, when I went out with you, I
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: was not looking for like, just like a hookup. If
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: I was looking for just a hookup, I would have
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: been like, oh, okay, let's finish it. You know, dinner
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: can be, you know, let's finish dinner up quickly and
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: see you later. But if I, if I like, when
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I went out with you, I wanted something like real.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: And so like, if you're looking, So the first step,
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: the first answer to her question is, if you're dating,
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: I don't know, if you're dating via the dating apps,
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: your messaging has to be clear on the dating apps,
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: like not like, so clear that it's like annoying. Right.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: You don't want to be like a, like.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: A, like I'm looking for my husband.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Like be subtle and cool and chill about it,
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: but be clear. And whether it's the messaging on the
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: day and it's not just what you write, it's like
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: the pictures you put up, like don't put up like
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: the super slutty pictures or like the, whatever, you know,
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: like your bikini shots or like whatever, like you, your
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: messaging should be like, I'm trying to settle down. Same
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: for a guy, by the way. Like when I was
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: dating more like frivolously, like, my dating apps were very
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: different in tone and vibe, the pictures, what I wrote
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: than they were when I was like, you know what,
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: I'm over that. I really want to like find like
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: a partner. So first of all, like make sure that
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: like your messaging is right and that you're like, you're
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: meeting up with people who have the same intent. And
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: then from there, then it is what it is. Then
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: it's like, if you like them and they don't like you,
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: you just have to pick yourself up and move on
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: and vice versa. If they like you, but you don't
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: like them, make sure you're giving them a fair chance.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: Then you got to move on. You got to know
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: this is your famous saying, there's plenty of fish in
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: the sea or whatever it is.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: There's a sock for every foot.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: That's how the sausage gets made.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. I also feel like sometimes when people
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: are on dating apps, they're so focused on the dating
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: app that they forget to like talk to people in
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: real life. And I feel like there's so much opportunity
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: in your real life to just like meet people at
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: your coffee shop, at your workouts, at the grocery store,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: like while you're pumping gas, like there's just people out there.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: And I feel like you get so focused in and
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: locked in on your dating.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: Well, no, because then you also like cut out the
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: whole like catfish layer of it. Not that you're not
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: like the full on catfish, but like everyone looks 20% different.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is when you're on a dating app,
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: you just focus solely like, oh, that's how I'm going
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: to find my dates is through the dating app. And
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: then they forget to like try and meet people in
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: real life. So I would say just like open your
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: eyes to just like the people that you come into
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: contact with on a day-to-day basis. And don't be afraid, girls.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Just like Tanya made the first move on me. You
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: can make the first move on a guy, whether on
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: the dating app or in real life. Do not be shy.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: It does work out.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: You made the first move.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: I did not make the first move. We're not arguing
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: about this. You made the first move. We opened it
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: up for votes and it was heavily in my favor.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I hate when I open things up for votes and
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: I get totally pummeled in the results. It happens every
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: single time.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: I hate it. And there's a crazy Tanya bias too.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: So anytime I win, it's like....
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: We are going to play the game. Who am I?
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Mark has worked very hard to pick name, a name
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: or two names that Robbie knows because he doesn't know
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: many celebrities. God bless. So should we take a break
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: or just, Oh, we're going to take a quick break
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: and we'll be back with the, who am I game?
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: We are back. We are playing the Who Am I game.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Mark has written down the names and he's gonna, I'll
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: take the right hand because right always wins.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: I think people really want us to play this game
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: because they want to see if you're actually that bad
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: or Becca is that good.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: I think Becca's that good.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: I think Becca's that good because she's gotten some right
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: that are just so impossible.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: Insane, right? Okay. There's mine. Do you know who my
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: person is?
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: Uh, I know who your person is. Yeah. Is it sticking?
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: I could take my hat off.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: That's fine. No, just stick it on the, Oh my gosh.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: The hair is crazy.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: Is it?
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: I didn't see. How's that? Hold on. Hold on. Hold on.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Hold on. Take it off. Take it off. Take it off.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: You can take it off. Put it on the plastic part.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah. There we go. Yeah.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: Covering my face.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Mark, babe, will you hand me that pen?
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: You got to stick yours on better.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: It's fine. I like to take notes.
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: I want to take notes. Okay.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: Here.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: You can take notes on that.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: I'm going to go first because ladies first.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Am I a woman?
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: No. Am I a woman? No.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Am I a singer?
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: Yes. Am I a human?
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: A human.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Am I a current pop star?
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: No. Okay. Am I older than 40?
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: Yes. Yes.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Am I older than 50?
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: I think so.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: Older than 50, okay.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you're definitely older than 50.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Am I in movies? Yes.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Am I a hip hop artist?
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: Yes. Am I on TV?
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I'm a hip hop artist older than 50. Am I
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: from the LBC?
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: Am I really?
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: It sucks.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: This is bullshit. You didn't cheat? I swear.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: LBC?
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Who says am I from the LBC? That's insane.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: I swear I didn't cheat.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: That's insane. I swear.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: You might want to guess because I think I know
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: who I am.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: I know. Okay, so hold on.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: I'm a man.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: And he's on top of mine because of this movie
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: that we saw on Monday night.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: I'm a man. I'm older than 40. I'm in movies
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: and TV. Am I Glenn Powell?
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: You are not Glenn Powell.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: Damn. I thought that.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Am I Snoop Dogg?
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: Oh my God. That's crazy. I'm going to give credit
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: to my answers. I think my answers were incredible.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: Okay, hold on.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Should we keep going?
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let me keep going.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: First of all, I've never won before, so I just
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: want to say congratulations. I'd like to thank Snoop Dogg.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: I'd like to actually thank the documentary that I watched
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: on Monday because Snoop Dogg was on top of mine.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: He's in the documentary. He's in the documentary.
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's in the documentary.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: And he actually sent his ice cream truck to the screening.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like this is rigged.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: I swear.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: No, I feel like it's rigged.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: I swear it wasn't rigged.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: Okay, wait.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: Am I primarily an actor? Yes. Okay. Am I older
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: than 50?
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: Am I older than 60? No. Am I a comedic actor?
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Was I on SNL?
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: No.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Am I mostly in movies? Yeah. How could you look
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: at it for every single answer?
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: Because this person's like a little bit of a mystery. Like,
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: I know he's very famous. I know his name, but like,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: I don't really, I couldn't name one thing he's in, weirdly.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: Hmm, weird.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like, I know him. Like, I know the name.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: Mostly a movie's comedic actor.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Do you want a hint?
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: He's in the 50s. No, no, no. No, he's in
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: his 50s. The two names that came to my mind,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: it's not them. Uh.
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: It's hard. Yeah, it's really, really hard. Is he black?
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: Was he ever in music? Yes.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: That's what I know him from. It's not that.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: It's not that? No. Really? No. Am I the worst
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: at this game?
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: He might be worse than I, which is hard to do.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: He's primarily an actor.
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: But he's been in music. Yes. In his 50s. Also
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: on TV. This is crazy. Should we give him a hint?
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Has he been in more than five movies?
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: Yes. Oh, wow.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: But I couldn't name one.
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: Could you name one, Mark?
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God. He wrote down an actor who doesn't
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: even know the name of one movie?
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: He's very famous. Like, I'm telling you, he's very famous.
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: Everybody knows his name. But, like, I could tell you
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: one name of one song of his, but I can't
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: tell you what show he's on or a movie he's
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: been in.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Okay, hold on. Hold on.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: You know the show?
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, he won an Oscar. Holy shit. It doesn't help
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: me at all.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm like, how many Oscars have you watched?
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: Hold on. Okay. Did he win an Oscar in the
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: last five years? No.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: No.
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, I got it.
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: Who is it?
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Is it Will Smith? No. Oh, my God. It's not
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Will Smith. No. When did Will Smith win his Oscar?
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I think he lost the Oscar.
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: No, he won it the year of the slap. Probably
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: within five years. Probably five years. 2022. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: Five years ago.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: Well, you're wrong.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was wrong. Cross that off. Does everybody know this?
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: Do you think everybody out there knows this right now?
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: It's hard, right?
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: It's impossible.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: This is how I usually feel.
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: I hate this game. I know. Can't name one movie
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: this guy's in. It is insane. Hold on.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: Hold on.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: Hold on. Hold on.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: I really can't.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: It's not Ice Cube is what you're trying to tell me.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: It's not Ice Cube. And I know him from a
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: very public relationship he had like maybe nine years ago.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: I think I have to give up. Can I quit?
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: His last name's an animal in case you can't hear Mark.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: Oh, Jesus. I hate when the clues don't help. Oh,
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: my God. Okay, hold on. Is his first name an animal?
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: No, last name is an animal.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: His last name is an animal? I think we have to,
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: can we cut this? I'm way worse than you at this.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I think he's worse than me.
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Mark?
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: Hold on. Really? No, I think I'm worse. Okay, hold on,
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: hold on, hold on.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: Do you want me to tell you who he was
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: in a relationship with?
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: His last name was... No, because if you tell me that,
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm going to feel really bad. Hold on.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: His last name was an animal. Not even a clue.
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: A sly animal.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, this is good. Jamie Foxx. And I can name
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: a million. And I can name a bunch of movies
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: he was in.
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: What movies?
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: Any Given Sunday. No. But I would say, yeah, I
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: guess he's mostly a movie actor.
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Name more movies. You gotta name all the movies. Name more.
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: Uh.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: Any given Sunday he was in.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: You know what? I'm not adding no more questions. This
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: is very humbling.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: Well, luckily for you, that is the end of the podcast.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: Oh my God. That was stressful.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: I hate that game.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: That's how I feel.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: Every single week. No, the last time we played this,
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: you gave me Kevin Hart and I said, is he
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: an actor? And you said no.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: Because he's a comedian.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Which is crazy. Because he's a comedian. He's the most
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: prolific actor in Hollywood right now. He makes a movie
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: a week.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: No, he's a comedian at first. Like I would describe
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: him as comedian. He's an actor that is, he's a
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: comedian that does acting.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: By the way, who was Jamie Foxx in a relationship with?
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: I would not.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Katie Holmes.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: If you told me that, I would not have known.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: And I would have felt really bad.
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: That is all for today's episode. I would like to
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: thank you for taking the time. I love you so much.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I love you more than I think you will ever know.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. I love you too. And I
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: love you more than you will ever know.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: And thank you so much. I do believe Becca will
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: be back next week. I think I'll check in with
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: her today. I miss her and we will see you
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: on Monday. Love you.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: Love you.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Bye.