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Unlocking Midlife Transformation: How Embracing Change Can Fuel Personal Growth, Career Advancement, and Relationship · Create The Best Me

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  Carmen Hecox: Welcome to Create the Best Me.
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  Carmen Hecox: I am Carmen Hecox, a personal development coach, and I am so excited to be connecting with you today.
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  Carmen Hecox: Whether you're listening to the podcast or joining us on YouTube, my goal is to help women navigate through midlife challenges with compassion, inspiration, and empowering conversations.
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  Carmen Hecox: Each week we'll dive into thought-provoking topics, designed to build self-confidence, overcome invisible women's syndrome, and find the courage to create the best version of yourself.
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  Carmen Hecox: I'll also be joined by expert guest who will share their wisdom and insights, so make yourself comfortable and let's embark on this journey together.
• 0:44
  Carmen Hecox: Have you ever wondered, is this all there is, or am I still on the right path?
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  Carmen Hecox: If you've been asking yourself these questions, it's not a crisis.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's an invitation.
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  Carmen Hecox: An invitation to change.
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  Carmen Hecox: Today I'm going to talk about why midlife is the perfect time for women to embrace change and how it can be a catalyst for personal growth, professional achievement, and relationship enhancement.
• 1:12
  Carmen Hecox: Hello and welcome to Create The Best Me! If you are new here, I'm Carmen Hecox, your host and personal development coach, and I'm glad you found us.
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  Carmen Hecox: This is a safe place where we encourage and empower women to pursue their dreams and live life to the fullest.
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's dive into today's topic- embrace change in midlife.
• 1:35
  Carmen Hecox: Let's kick things off with change itself.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's like a kaleidoscope-ever-shifting, creating new patterns and perspectives sounds a bit poetic, doesn't it?
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  Carmen Hecox: But it's true.
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  Carmen Hecox: Change is transformative.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's exciting.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's the spice that keeps life interesting.
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  Carmen Hecox: Yes, I hear you, change can also be daunting.
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  Carmen Hecox: It can feel like you are losing control, but here's a fresh perspective let's think of change as a dance.
• 2:08
  Carmen Hecox: Sometimes it leads, sometimes we lead.
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  Carmen Hecox: And the dance becomes fascinating when we understand its rhythm and the moves in sync.
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  Carmen Hecox: When we're younger, we thrust into new situations- school, college, our first job.
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  Carmen Hecox: We accept these challenges as part of life's script.
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  Carmen Hecox: But as we reach midlife, we start wondering,'Shouldn't I be settled by now?'' Shouldn't I have figured this out?' I'm here to tell you that's okay not to have all the answers.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's okay to feel like you're still figuring things out.
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  Carmen Hecox: Because guess what?
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  Carmen Hecox: We all are.
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  Carmen Hecox: And that's the beauty of it.
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  Carmen Hecox: You see, in midlife, we have a wealth of experience under our belts.
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  Carmen Hecox: We have perspective.
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  Carmen Hecox: And this allows us to look at change, not as a force of disruption, but as a powerful ally to help us write the next chapter of our life.
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  Carmen Hecox: You might be asking,"But how"?
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, embrace change means opening the doors to new experiences.
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  Carmen Hecox: It means stepping out of your comfort zone into uncharted territory.
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  Carmen Hecox: It could be as simple as trying a new cuisine or as big as moving to a new city.
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  Carmen Hecox: Ever change, big or small, contributes to our personal evolution, shaping us into the person we are meant to be.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, ladies, the next time, change knocks on your door, don't be shy.
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  Carmen Hecox: Welcome it with open arms and get ready for an exciting new chapter in your life! And speaking of evolution, let's dive deeper into embracing change can fuel our personal growth.
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  Carmen Hecox: When we're younger, most of us follow the path laid out for us school, college job, maybe marriage and kids.
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  Carmen Hecox: But as we reach midlife, we often start asking deep conversations,'Who am I, really?''What truly makes me happy?''What do I want to achieve in the next chapter of my life?' And guess what?
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  Carmen Hecox: It's completely normal.
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  Carmen Hecox: In fact, it's healthy.
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  Carmen Hecox: These questions are indications that you're ready to seize control of your personal growth.
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  Carmen Hecox: Like you're stepping onto a launching pad, ready for a journey of self-discovery and transformation.
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  Carmen Hecox: And the fuel for the journey?
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  Carmen Hecox: You guessed it- change.
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  Carmen Hecox: Change gives us a chance to shake things up, to break free from the routines that no longer serve us, and to chart new courses that align with our passion, our values and our dreams.
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  Carmen Hecox: Maybe you've always wanted to learn to play the guitar, or speak French or run a marathon.
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, now's the time! Embrace change by taking the first step.
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  Carmen Hecox: Sign up for lessons, lace up your running shoes, download the language-learning app.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, it's not about being the best or the fastest.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about personal growth, about experiencing new things, about challenging yourself, and expanding your horizons.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about becoming a better version of yourself, not for anyone else, but for you.
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  Carmen Hecox: And the best part?
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  Carmen Hecox: Each new skill, each new experience adds to your toolbox of life, equipping you to navigate future change with grace and resilience.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, let's welcome change into our lives as a potential tool for personal growth it truly is.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, we chatted about change can fuel our personal growth.
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  Carmen Hecox: But what about our professional lives?
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, ladies, I'm here to tell you that change is just as powerful, if not more, when it comes to our careers.
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  Carmen Hecox: You might have heard the saying'change is only constant in the business world.' That might sound a bit cliche, but it's truer than ever.
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  Carmen Hecox: Technology advancements, market shifts, new business models, the professional landscape is evolving at an unprecedented pace.
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  Carmen Hecox: And to thrive into this dynamic environment, we too need to embrace change.
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  Carmen Hecox: But here's where it gets exciting.
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  Carmen Hecox: Just as we reassess our personal paths in midlife, we also reassess our professional journeys.
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  Carmen Hecox: Are you truly satisfied with your current job?
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  Carmen Hecox: Is there a dream project you've been itching to start?
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  Carmen Hecox: Have you considered a switch in your career path, or maybe even going back to school?
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  Carmen Hecox: This is the perfect time to ask these questions.
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  Carmen Hecox: And if you are hearing a little voice in your head saying,'yes, I want something different,' then it's time to welcome change into your career.
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  Carmen Hecox: Start exploring your passion and skills.
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  Carmen Hecox: What do you love to do?
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  Carmen Hecox: What are you good at?
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  Carmen Hecox: Is there a way to align these with your career?
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  Carmen Hecox: It could be as simple as taking a new responsibilities at your current role or as profound as starting your own business.
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  Carmen Hecox: Yes, it might be challenging, and yes, it will require some stepping out of your comfort zone.
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  Carmen Hecox: But remember the toolbox we talked about?
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  Carmen Hecox: You're equipped with life experiences and skills can help you navigate these professional challenges.
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  Carmen Hecox: And the rewards- fulfillment, excitement, the joy of doing something you love is absolutely worth it.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, if you're yearning for professional growth or seeking a new career direction, don't be afraid to embrace change.
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  Carmen Hecox: It just might lead you to the career of your dreams! So, we've discussed how change can catalyze personal and professional growth.
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  Carmen Hecox: But how about relationships?
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  Carmen Hecox: Can change really make a difference there?
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, the answer is a resounding'yes'! Let's dive into that.
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  Carmen Hecox: First, I want to share a story of a friend of mine.
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's call her Lisa.
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  Carmen Hecox: She was married for over two decades.
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  Carmen Hecox: She and her husband had a routine coffee in the morning, work dinner, tv, bed, rinse, and repeat.
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  Carmen Hecox: Over time, the routine became monotonous.
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  Carmen Hecox: They started drifting apart, not out of any animosity, but simply because they had fallen into a rut.
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  Carmen Hecox: One day, Lisa took a step back and realized this.
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  Carmen Hecox: She knew something needed to change.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, she decided to shake things up a bit.
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  Carmen Hecox: They started a weekly date night where they try out new restaurants, watch a play, or simply take a walk to the park.
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  Carmen Hecox: They started a book club, for just the two of them, and had animated discussions about the books they read.
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  Carmen Hecox: And you know what?
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  Carmen Hecox: It worked by embracing change, they breathed new life into their relationship.
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  Carmen Hecox: They connected at a deeper level, and learned new things about each other.
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  Carmen Hecox: They rediscovered the joy of their companionship.
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  Carmen Hecox: And that's the magic of change.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, if you're feeling like your relationship with your partner, your friends, or even your kids is getting a bit stagnant, why not introduce a little change?
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  Carmen Hecox: It could be as simple as setting a new tradition, exploring new hobbies together, or even changing the way you communicate.
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  Carmen Hecox: Change can also be about personal boundaries, but an understanding of your needs and communicating them effectively.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, every relationship has a two-way street.
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  Carmen Hecox: And change can help ensure that everyone's needs are met.
• 10:02
  Carmen Hecox: Don't be afraid to try something new or shake things up.
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  Carmen Hecox: And, hey, if you're new to the channel and you are enjoying the content, remember to hit the subscribe button so you don't miss out on any of the conversations about midlife growth and change.
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  Carmen Hecox: Now that we've covered how change can positively impact different areas of our lives, you might be asking, Okay, I'm convinced.
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  Carmen Hecox: But how do I start embracing change?
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  Carmen Hecox: Well, my friend, you're in luck because that's exactly what we're going to discuss next.
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  Carmen Hecox: Here are some actionable steps to kickstart your journey of embracing change.
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  Carmen Hecox: First, acknowledge your fears.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's completely natural to be a little apprehensive about change.
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  Carmen Hecox: But don't let your fears hold you back.
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  Carmen Hecox: Try this: write down what you're afraid of.
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  Carmen Hecox: Get it all out.
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  Carmen Hecox: You might be surprised to find that once your fears are out in the open, they start losing their power.
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  Carmen Hecox: Next, identify areas of change.
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  Carmen Hecox: What parts of your life are calling for change?
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  Carmen Hecox: Is it your personal life?
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  Carmen Hecox: Your career?
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  Carmen Hecox: Your relationships?
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  Carmen Hecox: Recognize these areas is the first step toward meaningful change.
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  Carmen Hecox: Now, here's where it gets real set clear and realistic goals.
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  Carmen Hecox: What does embracing change look like for you?
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  Carmen Hecox: Is it enrolling in a cooking class?
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  Carmen Hecox: Applying for a new job?
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  Carmen Hecox: Starting therapy?
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  Carmen Hecox: Break it down into small, achievable steps.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day, neither is change.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's a gradual process, and every step counts.
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  Carmen Hecox: Don't forget to seek support.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, you don't have to do this alone.
• 11:52
  Carmen Hecox: Talk to your friends or family members who have been through similar changes.
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  Carmen Hecox: Reach out to mentors or professionals who can guide you.
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  Carmen Hecox: And hey, why not share your journey right here with our community?
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  Carmen Hecox: We're all here to support each other.
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  Carmen Hecox: Finally, celebrate small victories.
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  Carmen Hecox: Every step you take toward embracing change, no matter how small is a victory.
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  Carmen Hecox: And it's important to acknowledge and celebrate these victories.
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  Carmen Hecox: Give yourself a pat on the back, share your progress with your friends, or treat yourself to something you love.
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  Carmen Hecox: Remember, the journey of change is just as important as the destination.
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  Carmen Hecox: And if you need more helpful tips, make sure you listen to episode 0 1 1.
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  Carmen Hecox: You can find that at createthebestme.com/ep011.
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  Carmen Hecox: There you have it, folks- some practical steps to start embracing change in your life.
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  Carmen Hecox: Just remember, it's not about making drastic changes overnight.
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  Carmen Hecox: It's about small, consistent steps that lead to big transformations.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, why wait?
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's take the first step toward embracing change today! So, to wrap up, we've taken a deep dive into the world of change today.
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  Carmen Hecox: We've talked about how change, with its transformative power, can be a catalyst for personal growth.
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  Carmen Hecox: We've discussed how embracing change in our professional lives can lead to new opportunities and fulfillments.
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  Carmen Hecox: And we've seen how change can breathe fresh life into our relationships, making them more dynamic and meaningful.
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  Carmen Hecox: But most importantly, we recognize that change isn't something to fear.
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  Carmen Hecox: Instead, it's something to embrace, a powerful ally that can help us write the next exciting chapter of our lives.
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  Carmen Hecox: So, let's welcome change with open arms, ladies.
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's embrace it.
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  Carmen Hecox: Let's dance with it, and let it guide us toward growth, fulfillment, and happiness.
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  Carmen Hecox: And remember, it isn't a journey you have to undertake alone.
• 14:04
  Carmen Hecox: You've got a supportive community right here cheering you on every step of the way.
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  Carmen Hecox: As we embark on our next journey of change, let's share, learn, and grow together.
• 14:16
  Carmen Hecox: Don't forget to tune in next week for an informative conversation with the owner and founder of La Plantureuse, yes, that's French for busty.
• 14:27
  Carmen Hecox: Amanda Henson was struggling with her body image as a larger busted woman who through her discomfort created her own bra company for women just like her.
• 14:38
  Carmen Hecox: You won't want to miss that episode.
• 14:41
  Carmen Hecox: And with that, we're wrapping up today's episode.
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  Carmen Hecox: If you found this conversation helpful, make sure you hit the like button and share it with others who might benefit from it.
• 14:49
  Carmen Hecox: And if you haven't subscribed yet, make sure you hit the subscribe button so that you don't miss out on any of the other enriching conversations.
• 14:58
  Carmen Hecox: Until next time, dream big, take care of yourself, and remember, you are beautiful, strong, and capable of creating the best version of yourself.
• 15:07
  Carmen Hecox: Thanks for watching, catch you next week.
• 15:10
  Carmen Hecox: Bye for now.