Latest / Burning Brightly / 94. Busy is a Choice - Creating Space for What Matters Most

Transcript

94. Busy is a Choice - Creating Space for What Matters Most · Burning Brightly

• 0:00
  Remember
• 0:00
  that
• 0:00
  you
• 0:00
  don't
• 0:01
  need
• 0:01
  a
• 0:01
  really
• 0:01
  dramatic
• 0:02
  reason
• 0:02
  to
• 0:02
  stop
• 0:02
  doing
• 0:03
  something.
• 0:03
  You
• 0:03
  can
• 0:04
  just
• 0:04
  say,
• 0:04
  this
• 0:04
  doesn't
• 0:05
  fit
• 0:05
  anymore.
• 0:05
  You
• 0:06
  don't
• 0:06
  have
• 0:06
  to
• 0:06
  have
• 0:06
  a
• 0:06
  reason
• 0:07
  at
• 0:07
  all.
• 0:07
  No
• 0:07
  is
• 0:08
  a
• 0:08
  complete
• 0:08
  sentence.
• 0:09
  It's
• 0:09
  just
• 0:09
  hard
• 0:09
  for
• 0:09
  us
• 0:10
  to
• 0:10
  say
• 0:10
  sometimes
• 0:10
  as
• 0:10
  moms
• 0:11
  that
• 0:11
  want
• 0:11
  to
• 0:11
  be
• 0:11
  everything
• 0:12
  to
• 0:12
  everyone
• 0:12
  we
• 0:12
  do
• 0:13
  not
• 0:13
  want
• 0:13
  to
• 0:13
  make.
• 0:14
  The
• 0:14
  people
• 0:15
  and
• 0:15
  things
• 0:15
  that
• 0:15
  matter
• 0:16
  most
• 0:16
  to
• 0:16
  us
• 0:16
  suffer
• 0:17
  because
• 0:17
  we're
• 0:17
  trying
• 0:17
  to
• 0:17
  be
• 0:18
  too
• 0:18
  much
• 0:18
  to
• 0:18
  everyone.
• 0:21
  This
• 0:21
  is
• 0:21
  Burning
• 0:21
  Brightly,
• 0:22
  a
• 0:22
  podcast
• 0:22
  for
• 0:22
  Christian
• 0:23
  moms
• 0:23
  who
• 0:23
  are
• 0:23
  feeling
• 0:24
  called
• 0:24
  to
• 0:24
  build
• 0:24
  a
• 0:24
  business
• 0:25
  and
• 0:25
  share
• 0:25
  their
• 0:25
  light
• 0:26
  with
• 0:26
  the
• 0:26
  world.
• 0:27
  I'm
• 0:27
  Bonnie
• 0:27
  Wescomb,
• 0:28
  a
• 0:28
  life
• 0:28
  coach,
• 0:29
  mom
• 0:29
  and
• 0:29
  entrepreneur,
• 0:30
  and
• 0:30
  I'm
• 0:31
  honored
• 0:31
  to
• 0:31
  be
• 0:31
  your
• 0:31
  guide
• 0:31
  as
• 0:32
  you
• 0:32
  face
• 0:32
  this
• 0:32
  business
• 0:32
  building
• 0:33
  adventure
• 0:33
  full
• 0:34
  of
• 0:34
  highs,
• 0:34
  lows.
• 0:35
  And
• 0:35
  everything
• 0:35
  in
• 0:35
  between.
• 0:37
  This
• 0:37
  is
• 0:37
  where
• 0:37
  we
• 0:37
  help
• 0:37
  each
• 0:37
  other
• 0:38
  find
• 0:38
  the
• 0:38
  courage
• 0:39
  to
• 0:39
  shine.
• 0:44
  Welcome
• 0:44
  back,
• 0:45
  my
• 0:45
  friends.
• 0:45
  In
• 0:45
  this
• 0:46
  episode
• 0:46
  of
• 0:46
  Burning
• 0:46
  Brightly,
• 0:47
  we're
• 0:47
  gonna
• 0:47
  talk
• 0:47
  about
• 0:47
  being
• 0:48
  busy
• 0:49
  and
• 0:49
  not
• 0:49
  just
• 0:49
  any
• 0:49
  kind
• 0:50
  of
• 0:50
  busyness,
• 0:50
  but
• 0:50
  specifically
• 0:51
  choosing
• 0:52
  to
• 0:52
  be
• 0:52
  busy,
• 0:52
  whether
• 0:53
  we
• 0:53
  realize
• 0:53
  it
• 0:53
  or
• 0:53
  not.
• 0:54
  I
• 0:54
  figured
• 0:54
  the
• 0:54
  week
• 0:55
  before
• 0:55
  Christmas
• 0:56
  when
• 0:56
  life
• 0:56
  feels
• 0:57
  like
• 0:57
  it's
• 0:57
  smashing
• 0:58
  down
• 0:58
  on
• 0:58
  you
• 0:59
  with
• 0:59
  all
• 0:59
  the
• 0:59
  recitals
• 1:00
  and
• 1:00
  the
• 1:00
  concerts
• 1:01
  and
• 1:01
  the
• 1:01
  finals
• 1:01
  your
• 1:01
  kids
• 1:02
  are
• 1:02
  going
• 1:02
  through
• 1:02
  in
• 1:02
  the
• 1:03
  parties,
• 1:04
  and
• 1:04
  the,
• 1:04
  oh
• 1:04
  my
• 1:04
  gosh,
• 1:05
  so
• 1:05
  many
• 1:05
  things
• 1:07
  would
• 1:07
  be
• 1:07
  a
• 1:07
  good
• 1:07
  time
• 1:07
  to
• 1:08
  talk
• 1:08
  about
• 1:08
  busyness
• 1:09
  and
• 1:09
  how
• 1:09
  much
• 1:10
  of
• 1:10
  it
• 1:10
  we
• 1:10
  want
• 1:10
  to
• 1:10
  keep
• 1:10
  in
• 1:11
  our
• 1:11
  life.
• 1:12
  I
• 1:12
  think
• 1:13
  unfortunately
• 1:13
  some
• 1:14
  of
• 1:14
  us
• 1:14
  might
• 1:15
  subconsciously
• 1:15
  believe
• 1:16
  that
• 1:16
  being
• 1:16
  busy
• 1:17
  is
• 1:17
  like
• 1:17
  a
• 1:17
  moral
• 1:17
  virtue.
• 1:18
  It
• 1:19
  makes
• 1:19
  us
• 1:19
  important.
• 1:20
  Okay.
• 1:21
  But
• 1:21
  it's
• 1:21
  not,
• 1:22
  and
• 1:22
  it's
• 1:22
  also
• 1:23
  not
• 1:23
  something
• 1:23
  that
• 1:24
  just
• 1:24
  happens
• 1:24
  to
• 1:25
  us.
• 1:25
  We
• 1:25
  purposely
• 1:26
  step
• 1:26
  into
• 1:27
  it
• 1:27
  whether
• 1:27
  we
• 1:27
  realize
• 1:28
  it
• 1:28
  or
• 1:28
  not.
• 1:29
  Feeling
• 1:29
  busy
• 1:30
  comes
• 1:30
  from
• 1:31
  a
• 1:31
  series
• 1:31
  of
• 1:31
  choices
• 1:32
  we
• 1:32
  make,
• 1:32
  like
• 1:32
  I
• 1:32
  said,
• 1:33
  consciously
• 1:34
  or
• 1:34
  not,
• 1:35
  and
• 1:35
  then
• 1:35
  all
• 1:35
  of
• 1:35
  a
• 1:35
  sudden
• 1:35
  we
• 1:35
  look
• 1:36
  around
• 1:36
  and
• 1:36
  we
• 1:36
  go,
• 1:36
  oh,
• 1:37
  this
• 1:37
  is
• 1:37
  too
• 1:37
  much
• 1:38
  for
• 1:38
  my
• 1:38
  life.
• 1:39
  When
• 1:39
  we
• 1:40
  can
• 1:40
  shift
• 1:40
  into
• 1:41
  those
• 1:41
  choices
• 1:42
  becoming
• 1:42
  all
• 1:42
  conscious
• 1:43
  choices,
• 1:44
  then
• 1:44
  we
• 1:44
  can
• 1:44
  stop
• 1:45
  feeling
• 1:45
  like
• 1:45
  victims
• 1:46
  of
• 1:46
  our
• 1:46
  schedules
• 1:47
  and
• 1:47
  of
• 1:47
  our
• 1:47
  extracurriculars
• 1:48
  and
• 1:48
  our
• 1:49
  kids
• 1:49
  extracurriculars,
• 1:50
  and
• 1:50
  we
• 1:50
  can
• 1:50
  start
• 1:51
  acting
• 1:51
  more
• 1:52
  intentional,
• 1:52
  more
• 1:52
  purposeful.
• 1:53
  We
• 1:54
  can
• 1:54
  become
• 1:54
  those
• 1:54
  women
• 1:54
  that
• 1:55
  God
• 1:55
  wants
• 1:55
  us
• 1:55
  to
• 1:55
  be.
• 1:56
  Both
• 1:56
  mothers,
• 1:57
  business
• 1:57
  owners,
• 1:58
  community
• 1:58
  members,
• 1:59
  much
• 1:59
  more
• 2:00
  intentional
• 2:01
  and
• 2:01
  much
• 2:01
  less
• 2:01
  victims
• 2:02
  of
• 2:02
  the
• 2:02
  circumstances
• 2:03
  around
• 2:03
  us.
• 2:04
  The
• 2:04
  reality
• 2:05
  is
• 2:05
  this,
• 2:06
  every
• 2:06
  mom's
• 2:06
  busy,
• 2:07
  right?
• 2:07
  When
• 2:08
  I
• 2:08
  had
• 2:08
  one
• 2:08
  kid,
• 2:09
  now
• 2:09
  I
• 2:09
  look
• 2:09
  back
• 2:09
  and
• 2:10
  think,
• 2:10
  what
• 2:10
  in
• 2:10
  the
• 2:10
  world
• 2:11
  did
• 2:11
  I
• 2:11
  do
• 2:11
  with
• 2:11
  my
• 2:11
  time
• 2:12
  all
• 2:12
  day?
• 2:12
  I
• 2:12
  do
• 2:13
  remember
• 2:13
  being
• 2:13
  bored
• 2:14
  quite
• 2:14
  often,
• 2:15
  just
• 2:15
  trying
• 2:15
  to
• 2:15
  entertain
• 2:15
  a
• 2:16
  one-year-old
• 2:16
  for
• 2:17
  eight
• 2:17
  hours
• 2:17
  while
• 2:17
  my
• 2:17
  husband
• 2:18
  was
• 2:18
  at
• 2:18
  work.
• 2:19
  But
• 2:19
  for
• 2:19
  most
• 2:20
  of
• 2:20
  us,
• 2:20
  we
• 2:20
  have
• 2:20
  filled
• 2:21
  our
• 2:21
  days
• 2:21
  with
• 2:21
  a
• 2:21
  lot
• 2:22
  of
• 2:22
  things
• 2:22
  that
• 2:22
  either
• 2:22
  need
• 2:23
  doing
• 2:23
  or
• 2:23
  we've
• 2:23
  convinced
• 2:24
  ourselves
• 2:24
  need
• 2:24
  doing,
• 2:25
  and
• 2:25
  we
• 2:25
  feel
• 2:25
  very,
• 2:26
  very
• 2:26
  busy
• 2:28
  and.
• 2:28
  At
• 2:29
  least
• 2:29
  one
• 2:29
  of
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  reasons
• 2:30
  why
• 2:30
  we
• 2:30
  get
• 2:30
  to
• 2:30
  this
• 2:31
  place
• 2:31
  is
• 2:31
  because
• 2:32
  we
• 2:32
  have
• 2:32
  been
• 2:32
  socially
• 2:33
  conditioned
• 2:34
  to
• 2:34
  make
• 2:34
  busy
• 2:35
  mean
• 2:35
  good
• 2:36
  things.
• 2:37
  We
• 2:37
  think
• 2:37
  being
• 2:38
  busy
• 2:38
  means
• 2:38
  we
• 2:39
  are
• 2:39
  needed,
• 2:40
  right?
• 2:40
  People
• 2:40
  need
• 2:40
  us
• 2:41
  if
• 2:41
  we're
• 2:41
  busy
• 2:41
  or
• 2:41
  we're
• 2:42
  valuable.
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  couldn't
• 2:44
  possibly
• 2:44
  add
• 2:44
  one
• 2:44
  more
• 2:45
  thing
• 2:45
  in.
• 2:45
  Too
• 2:45
  many
• 2:46
  people
• 2:46
  need
• 2:46
  me.
• 2:46
  I'm
• 2:46
  too
• 2:46
  valuable.
• 2:47
  They're
• 2:47
  right.
• 2:47
  We
• 2:47
  might
• 2:48
  not
• 2:48
  be
• 2:48
  saying
• 2:48
  this
• 2:48
  out
• 2:48
  loud,
• 2:48
  but
• 2:49
  subconsciously
• 2:49
  that's
• 2:49
  what
• 2:49
  we're
• 2:49
  thinking.
• 2:51
  We
• 2:51
  also
• 2:51
  equate
• 2:51
  busyness
• 2:52
  with
• 2:52
  being
• 2:53
  a
• 2:53
  good
• 2:53
  mom
• 2:54
  or
• 2:54
  a
• 2:54
  good
• 2:54
  woman,
• 2:55
  someone
• 2:55
  who
• 2:56
  has
• 2:56
  filled
• 2:56
  her
• 2:56
  life
• 2:57
  with
• 2:57
  all
• 2:57
  these
• 2:57
  good
• 2:58
  things,
• 2:59
  and
• 2:59
  there's
• 2:59
  some
• 3:00
  truth
• 3:00
  to
• 3:00
  that,
• 3:00
  right?
• 3:01
  When
• 3:01
  you're
• 3:01
  needed
• 3:01
  by
• 3:01
  a
• 3:01
  lot
• 3:01
  of
• 3:02
  kids,
• 3:02
  you're
• 3:02
  gonna
• 3:02
  have
• 3:02
  a
• 3:03
  lot
• 3:03
  more
• 3:03
  things
• 3:03
  on
• 3:03
  your
• 3:03
  plate
• 3:04
  than
• 3:04
  if
• 3:04
  you
• 3:04
  don't
• 3:04
  have
• 3:04
  children.
• 3:05
  Or
• 3:05
  if
• 3:05
  you
• 3:05
  are
• 3:06
  a
• 3:06
  woman
• 3:06
  who
• 3:06
  is
• 3:07
  participating
• 3:07
  in
• 3:07
  her
• 3:08
  church
• 3:08
  and
• 3:08
  community,
• 3:09
  you're
• 3:09
  gonna
• 3:09
  have
• 3:09
  more
• 3:09
  things
• 3:10
  on
• 3:10
  your
• 3:10
  schedule
• 3:10
  than
• 3:10
  one
• 3:10
  who
• 3:11
  is
• 3:11
  not.
• 3:11
  I'll
• 3:11
  give
• 3:12
  you
• 3:12
  that,
• 3:12
  but
• 3:13
  I
• 3:13
  think
• 3:13
  sometimes
• 3:14
  we
• 3:14
  don't
• 3:14
  need
• 3:15
  to
• 3:15
  be
• 3:15
  making
• 3:15
  all
• 3:15
  these
• 3:16
  connections
• 3:16
  with
• 3:16
  busyness.
• 3:17
  Here's
• 3:17
  another
• 3:17
  thing.
• 3:18
  Sometimes
• 3:18
  busyness
• 3:19
  feels
• 3:19
  safer
• 3:20
  than
• 3:20
  stillness.
• 3:21
  This
• 3:21
  is
• 3:21
  absolutely
• 3:22
  true
• 3:22
  for
• 3:22
  me,
• 3:23
  as
• 3:23
  a
• 3:23
  Type
• 3:24
  A
• 3:24
  overachiever,
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  want
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  be
• 3:26
  busy
• 3:27
  because
• 3:27
  feeling
• 3:28
  productive
• 3:28
  makes
• 3:28
  me
• 3:29
  feel
• 3:29
  good
• 3:29
  about
• 3:29
  myself,
• 3:30
  or
• 3:30
  rather,
• 3:30
  my
• 3:30
  brain
• 3:31
  is
• 3:31
  equated
• 3:31
  productivity
• 3:32
  with
• 3:33
  usefulness.
• 3:35
  Stillness,
• 3:36
  resting,
• 3:37
  thinking,
• 3:38
  meditating.
• 3:39
  That
• 3:39
  forces
• 3:39
  us
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  confront
• 3:40
  maybe
• 3:41
  some
• 3:41
  emotions
• 3:41
  we
• 3:42
  are
• 3:42
  not
• 3:42
  wanting
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  feel
• 3:42
  we're
• 3:43
  trying
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  avoid,
• 3:44
  or
• 3:44
  maybe
• 3:44
  what
• 3:45
  we
• 3:45
  actually
• 3:45
  want
• 3:46
  that
• 3:46
  we're
• 3:46
  not
• 3:46
  chasing
• 3:46
  after
• 3:47
  or
• 3:47
  maybe
• 3:48
  something
• 3:48
  that
• 3:48
  we
• 3:48
  are
• 3:49
  unhappy
• 3:49
  with.
• 3:50
  Have
• 3:50
  you
• 3:50
  ever
• 3:50
  had
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  really
• 3:51
  kind
• 3:51
  of
• 3:51
  unhappy,
• 3:52
  tricky
• 3:53
  time
• 3:53
  of
• 3:53
  life
• 3:53
  and
• 3:54
  you
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  shoved
• 3:55
  your
• 3:55
  schedule
• 3:55
  full
• 3:55
  so
• 3:55
  you
• 3:55
  didn't
• 3:55
  have
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  think
• 3:56
  or
• 3:56
  feel
• 3:56
  anything
• 3:57
  about
• 3:57
  it?
• 3:57
  That
• 3:58
  happens
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  a
• 3:58
  lot
• 3:58
  of
• 3:58
  us.
• 3:59
  Being
• 3:59
  busy
• 4:00
  also
• 4:00
  allows
• 4:01
  us
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  avoid
• 4:02
  making
• 4:02
  hard
• 4:02
  decisions.
• 4:03
  We're
• 4:04
  moving
• 4:04
  so
• 4:04
  fast
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  life
• 4:05
  feels
• 4:05
  purposeful,
• 4:06
  but
• 4:06
  are
• 4:06
  those
• 4:06
  activities
• 4:07
  really
• 4:07
  making
• 4:08
  our
• 4:08
  life
• 4:09
  grow
• 4:09
  in
• 4:09
  a
• 4:10
  way
• 4:10
  or
• 4:10
  in
• 4:10
  a
• 4:10
  direction
• 4:11
  that
• 4:11
  we
• 4:11
  want
• 4:11
  it
• 4:11
  to?
• 4:12
  Maybe,
• 4:13
  maybe
• 4:13
  not.
• 4:14
  so
• 4:14
  right
• 4:14
  up
• 4:14
  front,
• 4:14
  I
• 4:15
  want
• 4:15
  all
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  us
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  be
• 4:15
  very
• 4:15
  clear.
• 4:16
  Our
• 4:16
  life
• 4:17
  isn't
• 4:17
  chaotic.
• 4:18
  Because
• 4:18
  we're
• 4:18
  better
• 4:19
  than
• 4:19
  someone
• 4:19
  who's
• 4:19
  not,
• 4:20
  or
• 4:20
  because
• 4:20
  there's
• 4:20
  even
• 4:21
  something
• 4:21
  wrong
• 4:21
  with
• 4:21
  us.
• 4:22
  It's
• 4:22
  full
• 4:23
  because
• 4:23
  we've
• 4:23
  made
• 4:23
  choices
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  get
• 4:24
  us
• 4:24
  there,
• 4:25
  and
• 4:25
  many
• 4:26
  of
• 4:26
  these
• 4:26
  choices
• 4:26
  are
• 4:26
  wonderful
• 4:27
  choices.
• 4:27
  Many
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  them
• 4:28
  come
• 4:28
  because
• 4:29
  we've
• 4:29
  chosen
• 4:29
  to
• 4:29
  love
• 4:30
  and
• 4:30
  care
• 4:30
  for
• 4:30
  people.
• 4:30
  We've
• 4:31
  chosen
• 4:31
  to
• 4:31
  be
• 4:31
  involved,
• 4:32
  we've
• 4:32
  chosen
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  serve,
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  that's
• 4:33
  all
• 4:33
  fantastic,
• 4:34
  but
• 4:34
  we
• 4:34
  just
• 4:35
  wanna
• 4:35
  be
• 4:35
  very
• 4:35
  intentional
• 4:36
  with
• 4:36
  these
• 4:36
  decisions.
• 4:38
  Okay,
• 4:38
  so
• 4:38
  we
• 4:38
  understand
• 4:39
  being
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  busy
• 4:39
  mom
• 4:39
  is
• 4:39
  normal.
• 4:40
  We
• 4:40
  get
• 4:40
  it.
• 4:41
  But
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  want
• 4:41
  to
• 4:42
  help
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  create
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  bit
• 4:43
  of
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  distinction
• 4:44
  in
• 4:44
  your
• 4:44
  mind
• 4:44
  right
• 4:44
  now.
• 4:45
  I
• 4:45
  want
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  to
• 4:46
  think
• 4:46
  about
• 4:46
  being
• 4:46
  busy
• 4:47
  for
• 4:47
  a
• 4:47
  second
• 4:47
  and
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  emotions
• 4:48
  and
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  feelings
• 4:49
  that
• 4:49
  come
• 4:49
  up
• 4:49
  with
• 4:49
  that.
• 4:50
  And
• 4:50
  then
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  want
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  think
• 4:51
  about
• 4:51
  what
• 4:52
  it
• 4:52
  would
• 4:52
  feel
• 4:52
  and
• 4:52
  look
• 4:53
  like
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  have
• 4:53
  a
• 4:53
  full
• 4:54
  life
• 4:54
  instead
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  a
• 4:55
  busy
• 4:55
  life.
• 4:56
  Does
• 4:57
  that
• 4:57
  feel
• 4:57
  like
• 4:57
  a
• 4:57
  distinction
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  you?
• 4:58
  Do
• 4:58
  those
• 4:58
  feel
• 4:58
  like
• 4:58
  two
• 4:59
  different
• 4:59
  things
• 5:00
  they
• 5:00
  do
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  me?
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  want
• 5:02
  to
• 5:02
  shift
• 5:02
  out
• 5:03
  of
• 5:03
  a
• 5:03
  victimhood
• 5:04
  mentality
• 5:04
  where
• 5:05
  I'm
• 5:05
  thinking
• 5:05
  that,
• 5:05
  oh,
• 5:05
  I'm
• 5:05
  just
• 5:06
  too
• 5:06
  busy
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  add
• 5:06
  anything
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  actually
• 5:08
  want
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  do
• 5:08
  in
• 5:08
  my
• 5:08
  life
• 5:09
  to
• 5:10
  actually,
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  have
• 5:11
  agency
• 5:11
  over
• 5:12
  every
• 5:12
  minute
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  my
• 5:13
  day.
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  can
• 5:14
  choose
• 5:14
  to
• 5:15
  put
• 5:15
  something
• 5:15
  in
• 5:15
  or
• 5:16
  take
• 5:16
  something
• 5:16
  out
• 5:17
  at
• 5:17
  any
• 5:18
  time.
• 5:19
  We
• 5:19
  might
• 5:19
  not
• 5:19
  be
• 5:20
  too
• 5:20
  busy
• 5:20
  per
• 5:21
  se.
• 5:21
  We
• 5:21
  might
• 5:21
  just
• 5:21
  be
• 5:21
  too
• 5:22
  over
• 5:22
  committed
• 5:23
  and
• 5:23
  it's
• 5:24
  time
• 5:24
  for
• 5:24
  us
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  step
• 5:25
  up
• 5:25
  and
• 5:25
  take
• 5:25
  control
• 5:26
  over
• 5:26
  our
• 5:26
  lives,
• 5:26
  take
• 5:26
  that
• 5:27
  agency
• 5:27
  back
• 5:27
  and
• 5:28
  make
• 5:28
  some
• 5:28
  different
• 5:28
  choices.
• 5:29
  when
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  think
• 5:29
  of
• 5:29
  a
• 5:29
  full
• 5:30
  life,
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  think
• 5:30
  of
• 5:30
  one
• 5:31
  that
• 5:31
  is
• 5:31
  aligned
• 5:32
  with
• 5:32
  my
• 5:32
  values.
• 5:33
  It
• 5:33
  is
• 5:33
  very
• 5:33
  intentional.
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  love
• 5:34
  that
• 5:34
  word.
• 5:35
  Just
• 5:35
  my
• 5:35
  choices
• 5:36
  are
• 5:37
  purposeful.
• 5:38
  They're
• 5:38
  intentional.
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  make
• 5:39
  them
• 5:39
  on
• 5:39
  purpose.
• 5:40
  I
• 5:40
  don't
• 5:40
  make
• 5:40
  them
• 5:40
  accidentally.
• 5:41
  Okay?
• 5:42
  A
• 5:42
  full
• 5:42
  life
• 5:42
  is
• 5:43
  a
• 5:43
  chosen
• 5:43
  life
• 5:44
  where
• 5:44
  everything
• 5:44
  inside
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  it
• 5:45
  is
• 5:46
  there
• 5:46
  for
• 5:47
  a
• 5:47
  reason.
• 5:48
  Whereas
• 5:48
  a
• 5:48
  busy
• 5:49
  life
• 5:49
  feels
• 5:50
  less
• 5:51
  intentional,
• 5:51
  it
• 5:51
  feels
• 5:52
  very
• 5:52
  overwhelming.
• 5:53
  There's
• 5:53
  probably
• 5:53
  some
• 5:54
  resentment
• 5:54
  there.
• 5:55
  It
• 5:55
  feels
• 5:55
  reactive,
• 5:56
  right?
• 5:56
  You're
• 5:56
  always
• 5:57
  kind
• 5:57
  of
• 5:57
  reacting
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  somebody
• 5:58
  else's
• 5:58
  need
• 5:59
  or
• 5:59
  something
• 5:59
  that
• 6:00
  gets
• 6:00
  thrown
• 6:00
  on
• 6:00
  your
• 6:00
  plate
• 6:00
  whether
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  wanted
• 6:01
  it
• 6:01
  to
• 6:01
  or
• 6:01
  not.
• 6:02
  I
• 6:03
  think
• 6:03
  if
• 6:03
  we
• 6:03
  had
• 6:03
  to
• 6:03
  choose
• 6:03
  between
• 6:04
  one
• 6:04
  of
• 6:04
  those
• 6:04
  two,
• 6:05
  we
• 6:05
  would
• 6:05
  probably
• 6:05
  all
• 6:06
  choose
• 6:06
  full,
• 6:06
  right?
• 6:06
  We
• 6:07
  want
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  intentional
• 6:08
  chosen
• 6:09
  life
• 6:09
  that
• 6:09
  we
• 6:09
  have
• 6:10
  created
• 6:10
  on
• 6:10
  purpose.
• 6:12
  Now,
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  get
• 6:12
  into
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  nitty
• 6:13
  gritty
• 6:13
  here.
• 6:13
  There
• 6:14
  are
• 6:14
  a
• 6:14
  few
• 6:14
  examples
• 6:14
  of
• 6:15
  activities
• 6:15
  and
• 6:15
  things
• 6:15
  that
• 6:16
  come
• 6:16
  into
• 6:16
  our
• 6:16
  life
• 6:17
  that
• 6:18
  make
• 6:18
  us
• 6:18
  feel
• 6:19
  busy
• 6:20
  and
• 6:20
  we're
• 6:20
  not
• 6:20
  sure
• 6:20
  how
• 6:20
  to
• 6:21
  get
• 6:21
  out
• 6:21
  of
• 6:21
  right.
• 6:22
  What
• 6:22
  about
• 6:22
  things
• 6:22
  like
• 6:23
  carpooling?
• 6:23
  Are
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  in
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  car
• 6:24
  like
• 6:24
  more
• 6:25
  than
• 6:25
  you're
• 6:25
  not?
• 6:26
  I
• 6:26
  feel
• 6:26
  like
• 6:26
  that's
• 6:26
  true
• 6:26
  for
• 6:26
  most
• 6:27
  of
• 6:27
  us.
• 6:27
  Right.
• 6:27
  Or
• 6:28
  taking
• 6:28
  your
• 6:28
  kids
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  doctor's
• 6:29
  appointments
• 6:29
  or
• 6:29
  all
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  piano
• 6:30
  in
• 6:30
  choir
• 6:31
  and
• 6:31
  dance
• 6:31
  recitals.
• 6:32
  That
• 6:32
  are
• 6:32
  happening
• 6:32
  right
• 6:33
  now,
• 6:34
  or
• 6:34
  school
• 6:35
  responsibilities,
• 6:35
  right?
• 6:35
  Maybe
• 6:36
  you're
• 6:36
  helping
• 6:36
  out
• 6:36
  in
• 6:36
  the
• 6:36
  school
• 6:37
  room
• 6:37
  or
• 6:37
  you
• 6:37
  need
• 6:37
  to
• 6:38
  donate
• 6:38
  something,
• 6:38
  or
• 6:38
  you're
• 6:39
  coordinating
• 6:39
  play
• 6:39
  dates
• 6:40
  with
• 6:40
  your
• 6:40
  kids,
• 6:40
  or
• 6:40
  you're
• 6:40
  helping
• 6:41
  in
• 6:41
  your
• 6:41
  church
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  your
• 6:41
  community,
• 6:42
  all
• 6:43
  things
• 6:43
  that
• 6:43
  feel
• 6:44
  critical
• 6:44
  and
• 6:45
  necessary,
• 6:46
  but
• 6:46
  make
• 6:46
  your
• 6:46
  life
• 6:47
  feel
• 6:47
  very
• 6:47
  busy.
• 6:48
  Now,
• 6:48
  I'm
• 6:49
  not
• 6:49
  gonna
• 6:49
  tell
• 6:49
  you
• 6:49
  what
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  do
• 6:49
  with
• 6:49
  these.
• 6:50
  There's
• 6:51
  no
• 6:51
  way
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  could
• 6:52
  know
• 6:52
  what
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  right
• 6:52
  decision
• 6:53
  is
• 6:53
  for
• 6:53
  you.
• 6:53
  But
• 6:54
  think
• 6:54
  about
• 6:54
  these
• 6:55
  things
• 6:55
  that
• 6:55
  fill
• 6:56
  your
• 6:56
  life
• 6:56
  very
• 6:56
  full.
• 6:57
  And
• 6:57
  then
• 6:57
  when
• 6:58
  we
• 6:58
  get
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  our
• 6:58
  decision
• 6:59
  making
• 6:59
  time
• 6:59
  a
• 6:59
  little
• 6:59
  bit
• 7:00
  later,
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  can
• 7:00
  bring
• 7:00
  them
• 7:01
  back
• 7:01
  up
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  see
• 7:01
  if
• 7:01
  there's
• 7:01
  anything
• 7:02
  different
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  want
• 7:02
  to
• 7:03
  do
• 7:03
  about
• 7:03
  them.
• 7:04
  Now
• 7:04
  these
• 7:04
  things
• 7:04
  may
• 7:04
  feel
• 7:05
  like,
• 7:05
  they
• 7:06
  are
• 7:06
  filling
• 7:06
  your
• 7:06
  day
• 7:07
  very,
• 7:07
  very
• 7:07
  full
• 7:08
  and
• 7:08
  you're
• 7:08
  very,
• 7:08
  very
• 7:09
  busy
• 7:09
  and
• 7:09
  you
• 7:09
  might
• 7:09
  slip
• 7:10
  into
• 7:10
  that
• 7:10
  victimhood
• 7:10
  mentality
• 7:11
  when
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  think
• 7:11
  of
• 7:11
  all
• 7:11
  those
• 7:12
  things.
• 7:13
  But
• 7:13
  if
• 7:13
  you
• 7:13
  can
• 7:13
  just
• 7:14
  shift
• 7:14
  into
• 7:15
  the
• 7:15
  knowledge
• 7:15
  that
• 7:16
  you've
• 7:16
  chosen
• 7:16
  these
• 7:16
  things
• 7:17
  because
• 7:18
  you
• 7:19
  value
• 7:19
  healthy,
• 7:20
  well-rounded
• 7:20
  children,
• 7:21
  or
• 7:21
  because
• 7:21
  you
• 7:22
  value
• 7:22
  maybe
• 7:23
  time
• 7:23
  with
• 7:23
  your
• 7:23
  kids
• 7:23
  in
• 7:23
  the
• 7:24
  car
• 7:24
  and
• 7:24
  that's
• 7:24
  why
• 7:24
  you
• 7:24
  carpool
• 7:25
  instead
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  sending
• 7:25
  them
• 7:25
  on
• 7:25
  the
• 7:25
  bus
• 7:26
  or
• 7:27
  maybe
• 7:27
  you.
• 7:28
  I
• 7:28
  really
• 7:28
  do
• 7:28
  love
• 7:28
  to
• 7:29
  watch
• 7:29
  your
• 7:29
  kids
• 7:29
  perform
• 7:29
  when
• 7:30
  they've
• 7:30
  worked
• 7:30
  so
• 7:30
  hard,
• 7:31
  all
• 7:31
  semester
• 7:31
  long
• 7:31
  on
• 7:32
  their
• 7:32
  instrument
• 7:33
  or
• 7:33
  their
• 7:33
  dance.
• 7:34
  sometimes
• 7:35
  all
• 7:36
  that
• 7:36
  it
• 7:36
  takes
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  shift
• 7:37
  out
• 7:37
  of
• 7:37
  busyness
• 7:37
  and
• 7:38
  into
• 7:38
  fullness
• 7:39
  is
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  mental
• 7:40
  reframe.
• 7:40
  Sometimes
• 7:41
  it's
• 7:41
  all
• 7:41
  just
• 7:41
  about,
• 7:42
  oh,
• 7:43
  I
• 7:43
  didn't
• 7:43
  get
• 7:43
  stuck
• 7:44
  with
• 7:44
  this.
• 7:44
  I
• 7:44
  chose
• 7:45
  this
• 7:45
  on
• 7:45
  purpose,
• 7:46
  so
• 7:46
  I
• 7:46
  have
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  real
• 7:46
  life
• 7:47
  example
• 7:47
  that
• 7:47
  happened
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  me
• 7:47
  once
• 7:48
  several
• 7:48
  years
• 7:48
  ago
• 7:48
  when
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  had
• 7:49
  first
• 7:49
  discovered
• 7:49
  coaching.
• 7:50
  And
• 7:50
  I
• 7:50
  was
• 7:50
  feeling
• 7:50
  kind
• 7:50
  of
• 7:51
  resentful
• 7:51
  about
• 7:52
  diaper
• 7:52
  changes.
• 7:52
  For
• 7:53
  some
• 7:53
  reason,
• 7:53
  I
• 7:53
  just
• 7:54
  was
• 7:54
  wishing
• 7:54
  my
• 7:54
  kid
• 7:55
  was
• 7:55
  potty
• 7:55
  trained
• 7:55
  and
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  was
• 7:56
  tired
• 7:56
  of
• 7:56
  it.
• 7:56
  And
• 7:57
  so
• 7:57
  we
• 7:57
  sat
• 7:57
  and
• 7:57
  we're
• 7:57
  talking
• 7:58
  about
• 7:58
  it
• 7:58
  and
• 7:58
  I
• 7:58
  said,
• 7:58
  oh,
• 7:58
  I'm
• 7:59
  just
• 7:59
  so
• 7:59
  tired
• 7:59
  of
• 7:59
  having
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  do
• 8:00
  these
• 8:00
  things.
• 8:01
  And
• 8:01
  she
• 8:01
  said,
• 8:01
  oh,
• 8:01
  having
• 8:01
  to
• 8:02
  do
• 8:02
  them,
• 8:02
  okay,
• 8:02
  tell
• 8:02
  me
• 8:02
  the
• 8:02
  things
• 8:03
  you
• 8:03
  have
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  do.
• 8:04
  So
• 8:04
  I
• 8:04
  made
• 8:04
  a
• 8:04
  list
• 8:05
  and
• 8:05
  one
• 8:05
  of
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  things
• 8:06
  was.
• 8:06
  Changing
• 8:07
  my
• 8:07
  toddler's
• 8:07
  diapers.
• 8:08
  And
• 8:08
  she
• 8:09
  said,
• 8:09
  okay,
• 8:09
  do
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  really
• 8:10
  have
• 8:10
  to
• 8:10
  change
• 8:11
  their
• 8:11
  diaper?
• 8:11
  And
• 8:12
  I
• 8:12
  said,
• 8:12
  yes.
• 8:13
  She's
• 8:13
  like,
• 8:13
  no,
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  don't.
• 8:15
  You
• 8:15
  can
• 8:15
  choose
• 8:15
  not
• 8:16
  to
• 8:16
  change
• 8:16
  your
• 8:16
  toddler's
• 8:16
  diaper.
• 8:16
  Is
• 8:17
  that
• 8:17
  true?
• 8:18
  And
• 8:18
  then
• 8:18
  I
• 8:18
  thought
• 8:19
  for
• 8:19
  a
• 8:19
  second
• 8:19
  and
• 8:19
  decided,
• 8:20
  yeah,
• 8:20
  it
• 8:20
  is
• 8:20
  true.
• 8:20
  I
• 8:20
  could
• 8:21
  just
• 8:21
  sit
• 8:21
  on
• 8:21
  the
• 8:21
  couch
• 8:21
  and
• 8:22
  not
• 8:22
  change
• 8:22
  her
• 8:22
  diaper.
• 8:23
  And
• 8:23
  then
• 8:23
  she
• 8:24
  said,
• 8:24
  what
• 8:24
  else
• 8:24
  would
• 8:24
  be
• 8:24
  true?
• 8:25
  Well,
• 8:25
  then
• 8:25
  she
• 8:25
  would
• 8:25
  get
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  diaper
• 8:26
  rash
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  then
• 8:27
  she
• 8:27
  would
• 8:27
  be
• 8:27
  miserable.
• 8:28
  And
• 8:28
  what
• 8:28
  would
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  mean?
• 8:29
  Well,
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  would
• 8:29
  mean
• 8:30
  that
• 8:30
  I
• 8:31
  am
• 8:31
  not
• 8:31
  showing
• 8:31
  up
• 8:31
  as
• 8:31
  the
• 8:32
  mom
• 8:32
  I
• 8:32
  wanna
• 8:32
  be.
• 8:32
  That
• 8:32
  would
• 8:32
  keep
• 8:33
  my
• 8:33
  baby
• 8:33
  dry
• 8:34
  and
• 8:34
  comfortable.
• 8:35
  And
• 8:35
  all
• 8:35
  of
• 8:35
  a
• 8:35
  sudden
• 8:36
  after
• 8:36
  that
• 8:37
  brief
• 8:37
  interaction
• 8:37
  with
• 8:37
  that
• 8:38
  coach,
• 8:38
  changing
• 8:39
  a
• 8:39
  diaper
• 8:40
  became
• 8:40
  a
• 8:40
  privilege
• 8:41
  for
• 8:41
  me.
• 8:41
  No,
• 8:42
  it's
• 8:42
  not
• 8:42
  always.
• 8:42
  My
• 8:43
  child
• 8:43
  is
• 8:43
  four
• 8:43
  and
• 8:44
  still
• 8:44
  refuses
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  go
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  potty.
• 8:45
  It's
• 8:45
  not
• 8:46
  feeling
• 8:46
  like
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  privilege
• 8:46
  lately.
• 8:48
  But
• 8:48
  that
• 8:48
  slight
• 8:49
  reframe
• 8:50
  made
• 8:50
  me
• 8:50
  go,
• 8:51
  oh,
• 8:51
  this
• 8:51
  is
• 8:51
  not
• 8:52
  an
• 8:52
  external
• 8:53
  requirement
• 8:53
  that
• 8:54
  was
• 8:54
  put
• 8:54
  upon
• 8:54
  my
• 8:54
  shoulders.
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  am
• 8:55
  actively
• 8:56
  choosing
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  keep
• 8:56
  my
• 8:57
  baby
• 8:57
  happy
• 8:58
  and
• 8:58
  healthy
• 8:59
  and
• 8:59
  comfortable
• 9:00
  every
• 9:00
  time
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  change
• 9:01
  her
• 9:01
  diaper.
• 9:02
  What
• 9:02
  a
• 9:02
  privilege.
• 9:03
  So
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  mental
• 9:04
  reframe
• 9:05
  can
• 9:05
  be
• 9:06
  critical
• 9:06
  in
• 9:07
  shifting
• 9:07
  out
• 9:07
  of
• 9:07
  busyness
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  into
• 9:08
  that
• 9:08
  fullness.
• 9:09
  When
• 9:10
  we
• 9:10
  do
• 9:10
  this,
• 9:10
  all
• 9:10
  of
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  sudden
• 9:11
  our
• 9:11
  resentment
• 9:11
  goes
• 9:11
  away,
• 9:11
  right?
• 9:12
  All
• 9:12
  of
• 9:12
  a
• 9:12
  sudden
• 9:12
  we
• 9:12
  have
• 9:12
  the
• 9:13
  agency
• 9:13
  again.
• 9:14
  When
• 9:14
  we
• 9:15
  feel
• 9:15
  resentment,
• 9:16
  it's
• 9:16
  just
• 9:16
  information
• 9:17
  for
• 9:17
  us,
• 9:17
  right?
• 9:18
  We
• 9:18
  have
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  watch
• 9:19
  our
• 9:19
  mindset.
• 9:20
  So
• 9:20
  I
• 9:21
  purposely
• 9:21
  try
• 9:21
  to
• 9:22
  never
• 9:22
  say
• 9:23
  that
• 9:23
  I'm
• 9:23
  busy.
• 9:24
  First
• 9:24
  of
• 9:24
  all,
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  hate
• 9:25
  that
• 9:25
  word.
• 9:25
  I
• 9:25
  feel
• 9:25
  like
• 9:26
  it
• 9:26
  naturally
• 9:26
  just
• 9:27
  kind
• 9:27
  of
• 9:27
  shifts
• 9:27
  us
• 9:27
  into
• 9:27
  that
• 9:27
  victim
• 9:28
  mentality.
• 9:28
  I
• 9:28
  don't
• 9:29
  say,
• 9:29
  oh,
• 9:29
  I'm
• 9:29
  just
• 9:29
  so
• 9:29
  busy
• 9:29
  this
• 9:30
  week.
• 9:30
  I
• 9:30
  can
• 9:30
  say
• 9:31
  there's
• 9:31
  a
• 9:31
  lot
• 9:31
  of
• 9:31
  things
• 9:31
  going
• 9:31
  on,
• 9:32
  or
• 9:32
  I've
• 9:32
  chosen
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  put
• 9:33
  a
• 9:33
  lot
• 9:34
  of
• 9:34
  things
• 9:34
  in
• 9:34
  my
• 9:34
  week.
• 9:34
  But
• 9:35
  instead,
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  like
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  think
• 9:36
  about,
• 9:36
  well,
• 9:36
  I
• 9:36
  actually
• 9:37
  just
• 9:37
  have
• 9:37
  a
• 9:37
  life
• 9:37
  that
• 9:37
  is
• 9:37
  full
• 9:38
  of
• 9:38
  things
• 9:39
  that
• 9:39
  the
• 9:39
  ideal
• 9:40
  version
• 9:40
  of
• 9:40
  me
• 9:40
  would
• 9:40
  do.
• 9:41
  Someone
• 9:41
  who
• 9:41
  serves
• 9:42
  and
• 9:42
  volunteers,
• 9:43
  someone
• 9:43
  who
• 9:43
  spends
• 9:43
  time
• 9:44
  with
• 9:44
  her
• 9:44
  family,
• 9:45
  someone
• 9:45
  who
• 9:45
  makes
• 9:45
  good
• 9:45
  food
• 9:46
  or
• 9:46
  decorates
• 9:47
  her
• 9:47
  home
• 9:47
  or
• 9:47
  checks
• 9:47
  in
• 9:48
  on
• 9:48
  our
• 9:48
  neighbors,
• 9:48
  or
• 9:48
  whatever
• 9:49
  I'm
• 9:49
  busy
• 9:49
  with
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  week.
• 9:51
  I
• 9:51
  remember
• 9:51
  these
• 9:52
  are
• 9:52
  things
• 9:52
  I
• 9:52
  have
• 9:52
  consciously
• 9:53
  chosen,
• 9:53
  hopefully,
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  they
• 9:54
  are
• 9:55
  making
• 9:55
  me
• 9:55
  into
• 9:55
  the
• 9:56
  type
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  person,
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  ideal
• 9:57
  type
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  person
• 9:57
  that
• 9:57
  I
• 9:57
  want
• 9:57
  to
• 9:58
  be.
• 9:58
  So
• 9:59
  that's
• 9:59
  how
• 9:59
  we
• 9:59
  shift
• 9:59
  out
• 9:59
  of
• 9:59
  busyness
• 10:00
  into
• 10:00
  fullness.
• 10:01
  now
• 10:01
  let's
• 10:02
  talk
• 10:02
  about
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  truth
• 10:03
  about
• 10:03
  building
• 10:04
  up
• 10:04
  a
• 10:04
  business
• 10:04
  and
• 10:05
  being
• 10:05
  a
• 10:05
  busy
• 10:06
  mom.
• 10:06
  If
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  are
• 10:07
  going
• 10:07
  to
• 10:07
  build
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  business,
• 10:08
  something
• 10:09
  else
• 10:09
  has
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  give.
• 10:10
  You
• 10:10
  cannot
• 10:11
  be
• 10:12
  a
• 10:12
  mom
• 10:12
  with
• 10:13
  a
• 10:13
  full
• 10:13
  life
• 10:14
  and
• 10:14
  add
• 10:14
  something
• 10:14
  else
• 10:15
  in
• 10:15
  without
• 10:15
  taking
• 10:16
  something
• 10:16
  else
• 10:16
  out.
• 10:17
  That's
• 10:18
  just
• 10:18
  truth.
• 10:20
  We
• 10:20
  only
• 10:20
  have
• 10:20
  so
• 10:20
  many
• 10:20
  hours
• 10:21
  in
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  day
• 10:21
  and
• 10:22
  it's
• 10:22
  not
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  disappointing
• 10:22
  truth.
• 10:23
  It's
• 10:23
  kind
• 10:23
  of
• 10:23
  an
• 10:24
  empowering
• 10:24
  truth.
• 10:24
  You
• 10:24
  get
• 10:24
  to
• 10:25
  decide
• 10:25
  what
• 10:25
  is
• 10:26
  less
• 10:26
  important
• 10:27
  than
• 10:27
  building
• 10:27
  your
• 10:27
  business
• 10:28
  that
• 10:28
  you
• 10:28
  felt
• 10:28
  inspired
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  build,
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  how
• 10:30
  can
• 10:30
  you
• 10:31
  move
• 10:31
  those
• 10:32
  things
• 10:32
  or
• 10:32
  shuffle
• 10:32
  'em
• 10:32
  around
• 10:33
  or
• 10:33
  get
• 10:33
  rid
• 10:33
  of
• 10:33
  them.
• 10:35
  What
• 10:35
  we're
• 10:35
  not
• 10:35
  gonna
• 10:36
  do
• 10:36
  as
• 10:36
  we
• 10:36
  need
• 10:37
  more
• 10:37
  time
• 10:37
  for
• 10:37
  our
• 10:37
  business
• 10:37
  is
• 10:38
  hustle
• 10:38
  more.
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  hate
• 10:39
  that
• 10:39
  word.
• 10:39
  We're
• 10:39
  not
• 10:40
  hustling.
• 10:40
  When
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  think
• 10:41
  of
• 10:41
  hustlers,
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  think
• 10:42
  of
• 10:42
  like
• 10:42
  newspaper
• 10:43
  boys
• 10:43
  back
• 10:44
  in
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  18
• 10:44
  hundreds.
• 10:44
  That's
• 10:45
  not
• 10:45
  us.
• 10:45
  We
• 10:45
  don't
• 10:45
  want
• 10:45
  more
• 10:46
  hustle.
• 10:46
  We
• 10:47
  don't
• 10:47
  wanna
• 10:47
  be
• 10:47
  staying
• 10:47
  up
• 10:47
  later
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  sacrificing
• 10:48
  our
• 10:48
  sleep
• 10:49
  and
• 10:49
  health.
• 10:50
  We
• 10:50
  don't
• 10:50
  want
• 10:50
  to
• 10:51
  be
• 10:51
  sacrificing
• 10:51
  more
• 10:52
  when
• 10:53
  we're
• 10:53
  already
• 10:53
  stretched
• 10:54
  thin.
• 10:55
  What
• 10:55
  we
• 10:55
  do
• 10:56
  want
• 10:56
  to
• 10:56
  do
• 10:57
  is
• 10:57
  eliminate
• 10:58
  unnecessary
• 10:59
  commitments,
• 11:00
  eliminate
• 11:00
  some
• 11:00
  of
• 11:00
  those
• 11:01
  default
• 11:01
  yeses
• 11:02
  where
• 11:02
  you
• 11:02
  just
• 11:02
  say,
• 11:02
  yeah,
• 11:02
  I
• 11:02
  can
• 11:03
  do
• 11:03
  that
• 11:03
  without
• 11:03
  thinking
• 11:04
  it
• 11:04
  through
• 11:04
  about
• 11:04
  how
• 11:04
  that's
• 11:05
  gonna
• 11:05
  affect
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  and
• 11:05
  your
• 11:05
  family.
• 11:07
  We
• 11:07
  want
• 11:07
  fewer
• 11:08
  tasks
• 11:09
  that
• 11:09
  are
• 11:09
  emotionally
• 11:10
  draining
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  don't
• 11:11
  give
• 11:11
  back
• 11:12
  what
• 11:12
  they
• 11:12
  should
• 11:12
  to
• 11:12
  our
• 11:12
  life.
• 11:13
  So
• 11:13
  What
• 11:13
  I'm
• 11:14
  not
• 11:14
  saying
• 11:14
  is
• 11:14
  stop
• 11:15
  being
• 11:15
  a
• 11:15
  mom.
• 11:15
  You
• 11:15
  can
• 11:16
  only
• 11:16
  build
• 11:16
  a
• 11:16
  business.
• 11:16
  You
• 11:16
  can't
• 11:16
  do
• 11:17
  both.
• 11:17
  No,
• 11:17
  I'm
• 11:17
  saying
• 11:18
  stop
• 11:18
  doing
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  things
• 11:19
  that
• 11:19
  don't
• 11:20
  support
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  life
• 11:21
  you
• 11:21
  want.
• 11:21
  Stop
• 11:22
  doing
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  things
• 11:23
  that
• 11:23
  are
• 11:23
  a
• 11:23
  distraction
• 11:24
  from
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  life
• 11:24
  you
• 11:25
  want.
• 11:26
  Alright,
• 11:26
  so
• 11:26
  here's
• 11:26
  a
• 11:26
  few
• 11:27
  real
• 11:27
  life
• 11:27
  examples.
• 11:27
  I've
• 11:28
  talked
• 11:28
  about
• 11:28
  these
• 11:28
  before,
• 11:29
  I
• 11:29
  think
• 11:29
  on
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  podcast,
• 11:30
  and
• 11:31
  some
• 11:31
  of
• 11:31
  them
• 11:32
  might
• 11:32
  shock
• 11:32
  you.
• 11:32
  Some
• 11:33
  of
• 11:33
  them
• 11:33
  might
• 11:34
  make
• 11:34
  you
• 11:34
  think
• 11:34
  that
• 11:34
  I'm
• 11:34
  gross,
• 11:35
  but
• 11:35
  there
• 11:35
  are
• 11:35
  some
• 11:35
  things
• 11:36
  in
• 11:36
  my
• 11:36
  life
• 11:36
  that
• 11:36
  I
• 11:36
  just
• 11:37
  don't
• 11:37
  do
• 11:37
  anymore
• 11:37
  because
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  don't
• 11:38
  want
• 11:38
  to
• 11:38
  take
• 11:39
  time
• 11:39
  for
• 11:39
  them
• 11:39
  away
• 11:40
  from
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  other
• 11:40
  things
• 11:41
  that
• 11:41
  matter
• 11:41
  most.
• 11:42
  One
• 11:42
  of
• 11:42
  them
• 11:42
  is
• 11:43
  washing
• 11:43
  my
• 11:43
  kids'
• 11:44
  sheets.
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  don't
• 11:45
  do
• 11:45
  it
• 11:45
  except
• 11:45
  for
• 11:46
  my
• 11:46
  own
• 11:46
  sheets
• 11:47
  and
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  toddlers.
• 11:48
  Everybody
• 11:48
  else
• 11:49
  is
• 11:49
  responsible
• 11:49
  for
• 11:49
  their
• 11:49
  own,
• 11:50
  and
• 11:50
  you
• 11:50
  don't
• 11:50
  wanna
• 11:51
  know
• 11:51
  how
• 11:51
  long
• 11:52
  it
• 11:52
  takes
• 11:52
  them
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  wash
• 11:53
  their
• 11:53
  sheets
• 11:53
  Sometimes
• 11:54
  it's
• 11:54
  pretty
• 11:55
  gross,
• 11:55
  but
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  know
• 11:56
  what?
• 11:56
  It's
• 11:56
  not
• 11:56
  something
• 11:57
  that
• 11:57
  I'm
• 11:57
  losing
• 11:57
  sleep
• 11:58
  over,
• 11:58
  and
• 11:58
  so
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  let
• 11:58
  it
• 11:58
  go.
• 11:59
  I
• 11:59
  also
• 12:00
  don't
• 12:00
  fold
• 12:00
  and
• 12:01
  put
• 12:01
  away
• 12:01
  my
• 12:01
  family's
• 12:01
  clothes.
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  do
• 12:02
  still
• 12:02
  pitch
• 12:03
  in
• 12:03
  with
• 12:03
  laundry
• 12:03
  a
• 12:03
  little
• 12:03
  bit
• 12:03
  'cause
• 12:04
  I'm
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  little
• 12:04
  OCD
• 12:04
  about
• 12:04
  my
• 12:04
  laundry
• 12:05
  room.
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  don't
• 12:05
  like
• 12:05
  big
• 12:06
  messes
• 12:06
  in
• 12:06
  there,
• 12:07
  but
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  do
• 12:07
  not
• 12:07
  fold
• 12:08
  or
• 12:08
  put
• 12:08
  them
• 12:08
  away.
• 12:09
  I
• 12:09
  do
• 12:09
  not,
• 12:10
  for
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  most
• 12:10
  part,
• 12:11
  organize,
• 12:11
  play
• 12:11
  dates
• 12:12
  or
• 12:12
  drive
• 12:12
  my
• 12:12
  kids
• 12:13
  there.
• 12:13
  That.
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  choose
• 12:14
  not
• 12:14
  to
• 12:14
  make
• 12:14
  time
• 12:14
  for.
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  don't
• 12:16
  make
• 12:16
  a
• 12:16
  lot
• 12:16
  of
• 12:16
  friend
• 12:17
  time
• 12:17
  for
• 12:17
  myself,
• 12:18
  mostly
• 12:19
  because
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  don't
• 12:19
  need
• 12:20
  it.
• 12:20
  I
• 12:20
  have
• 12:20
  social
• 12:21
  interaction
• 12:21
  through
• 12:21
  my
• 12:21
  business,
• 12:22
  but
• 12:22
  that's
• 12:22
  something
• 12:22
  that
• 12:22
  I've
• 12:23
  let
• 12:23
  go
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  a
• 12:23
  little
• 12:23
  bit.
• 12:24
  I
• 12:24
  don't
• 12:25
  make
• 12:25
  time
• 12:25
  for
• 12:25
  in-person
• 12:26
  shopping.
• 12:26
  Sometimes
• 12:27
  I
• 12:27
  go
• 12:27
  months
• 12:27
  without
• 12:28
  stepping
• 12:28
  foot
• 12:28
  into
• 12:29
  a
• 12:29
  store.
• 12:29
  It's
• 12:29
  fantastic
• 12:30
  thanks
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  Amazon
• 12:31
  and
• 12:31
  grocery
• 12:31
  delivery
• 12:32
  because
• 12:32
  those
• 12:32
  things
• 12:33
  aren't
• 12:33
  as
• 12:33
  important
• 12:33
  to
• 12:33
  me
• 12:34
  as
• 12:34
  the
• 12:34
  things
• 12:34
  that
• 12:34
  need
• 12:34
  to
• 12:35
  be
• 12:35
  done
• 12:35
  in
• 12:35
  my
• 12:35
  home.
• 12:36
  Okay,
• 12:36
  now
• 12:36
  I'm
• 12:36
  not
• 12:36
  telling
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  have
• 12:37
  to
• 12:37
  do
• 12:37
  all
• 12:37
  these
• 12:38
  things.
• 12:38
  You're
• 12:38
  gonna
• 12:38
  have
• 12:38
  different
• 12:39
  priorities.
• 12:39
  I
• 12:39
  have
• 12:39
  one
• 12:40
  friend
• 12:40
  who
• 12:40
  I
• 12:40
  love
• 12:40
  so
• 12:40
  much
• 12:41
  who
• 12:41
  is
• 12:41
  a
• 12:41
  true
• 12:41
  extrovert,
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  if
• 12:42
  she
• 12:43
  didn't
• 12:43
  see
• 12:43
  friends
• 12:43
  multiple
• 12:44
  times
• 12:44
  a
• 12:44
  week,
• 12:44
  she
• 12:45
  would
• 12:45
  be
• 12:45
  a
• 12:45
  miserable
• 12:46
  person.
• 12:46
  So
• 12:46
  she
• 12:47
  knows
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  prioritize
• 12:48
  that
• 12:48
  friend
• 12:48
  time,
• 12:49
  whereas
• 12:49
  that's
• 12:49
  not
• 12:49
  me.
• 12:49
  I'm
• 12:50
  more
• 12:50
  of
• 12:50
  an
• 12:50
  introvert,
• 12:50
  and
• 12:50
  so
• 12:51
  I
• 12:51
  deprioritize
• 12:52
  it
• 12:52
  in
• 12:52
  exchange
• 12:53
  for
• 12:53
  some
• 12:53
  other
• 12:53
  things
• 12:54
  that
• 12:54
  help
• 12:54
  me
• 12:54
  feel
• 12:54
  like
• 12:55
  I'm
• 12:55
  building
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  life
• 12:55
  that
• 12:55
  I
• 12:56
  truly,
• 12:56
  truly
• 12:56
  want.
• 12:57
  Okay.
• 12:58
  So
• 12:58
  if
• 12:58
  you're
• 12:58
  ready
• 12:59
  to
• 12:59
  be
• 12:59
  a
• 12:59
  little
• 12:59
  bit
• 12:59
  more
• 13:00
  intentional
• 13:00
  about
• 13:00
  some
• 13:00
  of
• 13:00
  your
• 13:00
  choices,
• 13:01
  I'm
• 13:01
  gonna
• 13:01
  give
• 13:01
  you
• 13:01
  some
• 13:01
  steps
• 13:02
  for
• 13:02
  doing
• 13:02
  it.
• 13:02
  Are
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  ready?
• 13:03
  Here's
• 13:03
  kind
• 13:03
  of
• 13:03
  a
• 13:03
  practical
• 13:04
  step
• 13:04
  by
• 13:04
  step.
• 13:05
  The
• 13:05
  first
• 13:05
  thing
• 13:05
  I
• 13:05
  want
• 13:06
  you
• 13:06
  to
• 13:06
  try
• 13:07
  is
• 13:07
  name
• 13:08
  everything
• 13:09
  that
• 13:09
  is
• 13:09
  in
• 13:09
  your
• 13:09
  schedule.
• 13:09
  Not
• 13:10
  right
• 13:10
  now.
• 13:10
  You're
• 13:10
  probably
• 13:10
  driving
• 13:10
  or
• 13:11
  doing
• 13:11
  something
• 13:11
  multitasking,
• 13:12
  making
• 13:12
  dinner,
• 13:13
  but
• 13:13
  next
• 13:13
  time
• 13:13
  you
• 13:14
  get
• 13:14
  a
• 13:14
  few
• 13:14
  minutes
• 13:15
  of
• 13:15
  quiet,
• 13:15
  sit
• 13:15
  down
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  list
• 13:16
  everything
• 13:17
  that
• 13:17
  is
• 13:17
  on
• 13:18
  your
• 13:18
  to-do
• 13:18
  list
• 13:18
  and
• 13:18
  your
• 13:19
  schedule
• 13:19
  this
• 13:19
  week.
• 13:21
  Even
• 13:21
  if
• 13:21
  you
• 13:21
  can
• 13:21
  just
• 13:21
  do
• 13:21
  it
• 13:21
  for
• 13:21
  a
• 13:21
  day,
• 13:22
  that's
• 13:22
  beneficial,
• 13:23
  but
• 13:23
  a
• 13:23
  whole
• 13:23
  week
• 13:23
  is
• 13:23
  even
• 13:24
  better.
• 13:24
  Write
• 13:25
  down
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  things
• 13:25
  you
• 13:25
  do
• 13:25
  weekly.
• 13:26
  The
• 13:26
  things
• 13:27
  that
• 13:27
  come
• 13:27
  up
• 13:27
  regularly,
• 13:28
  if
• 13:28
  it's
• 13:28
  not
• 13:29
  weekly,
• 13:29
  monthly,
• 13:29
  whatever
• 13:29
  else,
• 13:30
  write
• 13:31
  down
• 13:31
  emotional
• 13:32
  obligations.
• 13:33
  Okay.
• 13:33
  So
• 13:33
  like
• 13:34
  budgeting.
• 13:34
  I'm
• 13:34
  the
• 13:35
  one
• 13:35
  that's
• 13:35
  in
• 13:35
  charge
• 13:35
  of
• 13:35
  budgeting
• 13:35
  in
• 13:35
  my
• 13:36
  family.
• 13:36
  It
• 13:36
  doesn't
• 13:36
  take
• 13:36
  a
• 13:36
  lot
• 13:37
  of
• 13:37
  physical
• 13:38
  time
• 13:38
  out
• 13:38
  of
• 13:38
  my
• 13:38
  day,
• 13:39
  but
• 13:39
  it
• 13:39
  takes
• 13:39
  a
• 13:39
  lot
• 13:39
  of
• 13:39
  emotional
• 13:40
  bandwidth
• 13:41
  where
• 13:41
  I'm
• 13:41
  constantly
• 13:42
  trying
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  think,
• 13:43
  oh,
• 13:43
  have
• 13:43
  we
• 13:43
  paid
• 13:44
  this
• 13:44
  bill?
• 13:44
  Has
• 13:44
  this
• 13:44
  been
• 13:45
  taken
• 13:45
  care
• 13:45
  of,
• 13:45
  et
• 13:45
  cetera.
• 13:46
  And
• 13:46
  then
• 13:46
  also
• 13:47
  write
• 13:47
  down
• 13:47
  anything
• 13:47
  that
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  feel
• 13:48
  like
• 13:48
  you
• 13:48
  should
• 13:48
  be
• 13:48
  doing,
• 13:49
  like
• 13:49
  service
• 13:49
  opportunities,
• 13:50
  or
• 13:50
  you're
• 13:50
  calling
• 13:51
  at
• 13:51
  church
• 13:51
  or
• 13:51
  whatever.
• 13:52
  At
• 13:52
  this
• 13:52
  stage,
• 13:53
  just
• 13:53
  write
• 13:53
  it
• 13:53
  all
• 13:53
  down.
• 13:54
  Don't
• 13:54
  edit
• 13:54
  it,
• 13:54
  don't
• 13:55
  filter
• 13:55
  it.
• 13:55
  Don't
• 13:55
  guilt
• 13:56
  trip
• 13:56
  yourself.
• 13:56
  Just
• 13:56
  write
• 13:57
  down
• 13:57
  the
• 13:57
  entire
• 13:57
  week's
• 13:57
  obligations
• 13:59
  if
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  can
• 13:59
  do
• 13:59
  it
• 13:59
  while
• 14:00
  you're
• 14:00
  going
• 14:00
  through
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  week,
• 14:00
  that's
• 14:01
  even
• 14:01
  more
• 14:01
  beneficial
• 14:01
  because
• 14:02
  things
• 14:02
  pop
• 14:02
  up
• 14:02
  that
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  probably
• 14:03
  didn't
• 14:03
  think
• 14:03
  about
• 14:03
  on
• 14:03
  Monday,
• 14:04
  but
• 14:05
  just
• 14:05
  do
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  best
• 14:05
  you
• 14:05
  can.
• 14:06
  Once
• 14:06
  that's
• 14:07
  done,
• 14:07
  then
• 14:08
  you
• 14:08
  get
• 14:08
  to
• 14:08
  filter
• 14:08
  it.
• 14:09
  There's
• 14:10
  three
• 14:10
  questions
• 14:10
  I'm
• 14:10
  gonna
• 14:10
  have
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  ask.
• 14:11
  The
• 14:12
  first
• 14:12
  one
• 14:12
  is,
• 14:13
  did
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  choose
• 14:14
  this
• 14:14
  thing
• 14:15
  or
• 14:15
  did
• 14:15
  I
• 14:15
  inherit
• 14:16
  it?
• 14:16
  And
• 14:17
  when
• 14:17
  I
• 14:17
  say
• 14:17
  inherit,
• 14:18
  I
• 14:18
  mean
• 14:18
  did
• 14:18
  it
• 14:18
  just
• 14:19
  come
• 14:19
  to
• 14:19
  me
• 14:19
  from
• 14:20
  some
• 14:20
  sort
• 14:20
  of
• 14:20
  a
• 14:21
  culture,
• 14:22
  from
• 14:22
  maybe
• 14:22
  a
• 14:22
  school
• 14:23
  or
• 14:23
  school
• 14:23
  system?
• 14:24
  Is
• 14:24
  it
• 14:24
  a
• 14:24
  family
• 14:25
  expectation
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  I
• 14:26
  kind
• 14:26
  of
• 14:26
  inherited?
• 14:27
  Did
• 14:27
  it
• 14:28
  come
• 14:28
  from
• 14:28
  a
• 14:28
  past
• 14:28
  season
• 14:29
  of
• 14:29
  life?
• 14:30
  So
• 14:31
  is
• 14:31
  it
• 14:31
  something
• 14:31
  I'm
• 14:31
  actively
• 14:32
  choosing
• 14:32
  or
• 14:32
  did
• 14:32
  I
• 14:32
  inherit
• 14:33
  it?
• 14:33
  Let
• 14:33
  me
• 14:33
  give
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  a
• 14:33
  quick
• 14:33
  example.
• 14:35
  We
• 14:35
  recently
• 14:35
  had
• 14:35
  an
• 14:35
  activity
• 14:36
  for
• 14:36
  the
• 14:36
  youth
• 14:37
  in
• 14:37
  our
• 14:37
  ward,
• 14:38
  and
• 14:39
  after
• 14:39
  it
• 14:39
  was
• 14:39
  done,
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  realized
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  did
• 14:40
  not
• 14:40
  actively
• 14:41
  choose
• 14:41
  that.
• 14:41
  And
• 14:42
  I
• 14:42
  think
• 14:42
  in
• 14:42
  the
• 14:42
  future,
• 14:42
  I
• 14:43
  might
• 14:43
  not
• 14:43
  actively
• 14:43
  choose
• 14:44
  it
• 14:44
  again.
• 14:44
  It
• 14:44
  was
• 14:44
  just
• 14:44
  something
• 14:45
  that
• 14:45
  had
• 14:45
  been
• 14:45
  done
• 14:45
  in
• 14:45
  the
• 14:45
  past
• 14:46
  with
• 14:46
  the
• 14:46
  youth,
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  so
• 14:47
  we
• 14:47
  just
• 14:48
  kept
• 14:48
  doing
• 14:48
  it.
• 14:49
  So
• 14:49
  if
• 14:49
  it's
• 14:49
  your
• 14:50
  responsibility
• 14:51
  to
• 14:51
  continue
• 14:52
  something
• 14:52
  like
• 14:52
  that
• 14:52
  and
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  can't
• 14:53
  see
• 14:53
  compelling
• 14:54
  reasons
• 14:54
  for
• 14:54
  continuing
• 14:55
  it,
• 14:55
  please
• 14:56
  be
• 14:56
  willing
• 14:57
  to
• 14:57
  let
• 14:57
  it
• 14:57
  go.
• 14:57
  Okay.
• 14:58
  Ask
• 14:58
  yourself,
• 14:59
  is
• 14:59
  this
• 14:59
  worth
• 14:59
  inheriting.
• 15:00
  Should
• 15:00
  I
• 15:00
  keep
• 15:01
  it
• 15:01
  going
• 15:01
  or
• 15:02
  can
• 15:02
  I
• 15:02
  do
• 15:02
  all
• 15:02
  of
• 15:02
  us
• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
  favor
• 15:03
  and
• 15:03
  let
• 15:03
  it
• 15:03
  go?
• 15:04
  If
• 15:04
  it
• 15:04
  was
• 15:04
  something
• 15:04
  that
• 15:05
  you
• 15:05
  did
• 15:05
  choose,
• 15:05
  then
• 15:06
  own
• 15:06
  it.
• 15:07
  You
• 15:07
  might
• 15:07
  be
• 15:07
  feeling
• 15:07
  some
• 15:07
  resentment
• 15:08
  over
• 15:08
  something
• 15:08
  you
• 15:08
  actually
• 15:09
  actively
• 15:09
  chose.
• 15:10
  So
• 15:10
  release
• 15:11
  that
• 15:11
  resentment.
• 15:12
  Remind
• 15:12
  yourself
• 15:12
  why
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  chose
• 15:13
  it.
• 15:13
  'cause
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  probably
• 15:14
  have
• 15:14
  a
• 15:14
  good
• 15:14
  reason
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  then
• 15:15
  you
• 15:15
  can
• 15:16
  learn
• 15:16
  to
• 15:16
  love
• 15:16
  that
• 15:17
  thing
• 15:17
  again,
• 15:17
  or
• 15:18
  stop
• 15:18
  doing
• 15:19
  it.
• 15:19
  If
• 15:19
  you
• 15:19
  don't
• 15:19
  love
• 15:19
  it
• 15:19
  anymore
• 15:20
  and
• 15:20
  you
• 15:20
  wouldn't
• 15:20
  choose
• 15:20
  it
• 15:20
  again,
• 15:21
  then
• 15:21
  just
• 15:22
  let
• 15:22
  it
• 15:22
  go.
• 15:23
  So
• 15:23
  that's
• 15:23
  the
• 15:23
  first
• 15:23
  question.
• 15:24
  Did
• 15:24
  I
• 15:24
  choose
• 15:24
  this
• 15:24
  or
• 15:24
  did
• 15:24
  I
• 15:24
  inherit
• 15:25
  it?
• 15:25
  Step
• 15:26
  number
• 15:26
  two,
• 15:27
  does
• 15:27
  it
• 15:27
  support
• 15:27
  my
• 15:28
  current
• 15:28
  season
• 15:28
  of
• 15:28
  life
• 15:29
  or
• 15:30
  did
• 15:30
  it
• 15:30
  come
• 15:30
  from
• 15:30
  a
• 15:30
  past
• 15:30
  one?
• 15:31
  So
• 15:31
  these
• 15:31
  are
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  some
• 15:32
  of
• 15:32
  the
• 15:32
  things
• 15:32
  that
• 15:32
  you
• 15:32
  inherited,
• 15:32
  right?
• 15:34
  Maybe
• 15:34
  there's
• 15:34
  a
• 15:34
  volunteering
• 15:35
  job
• 15:36
  that
• 15:36
  you
• 15:36
  do
• 15:36
  right
• 15:36
  now
• 15:37
  at
• 15:37
  an
• 15:37
  elementary
• 15:37
  school
• 15:37
  that
• 15:38
  none
• 15:38
  of
• 15:38
  your
• 15:38
  kids
• 15:38
  go
• 15:38
  to
• 15:38
  anymore.
• 15:39
  That's
• 15:40
  clearly
• 15:40
  something
• 15:40
  that
• 15:41
  you
• 15:41
  brought
• 15:41
  over
• 15:41
  from
• 15:41
  a
• 15:41
  past
• 15:42
  season
• 15:42
  of
• 15:42
  life.
• 15:43
  Maybe
• 15:44
  there
• 15:44
  were
• 15:44
  some
• 15:44
  commitments
• 15:45
  that
• 15:45
  you
• 15:46
  had
• 15:46
  to
• 15:46
  yourself
• 15:46
  or
• 15:46
  your
• 15:46
  family.,
• 15:47
  That
• 15:47
  you
• 15:47
  started
• 15:48
  before
• 15:49
  you
• 15:49
  started
• 15:49
  a
• 15:49
  business
• 15:50
  and
• 15:50
  now
• 15:50
  you
• 15:50
  don't
• 15:50
  really
• 15:50
  have
• 15:50
  time
• 15:51
  for
• 15:51
  anymore.
• 15:52
  What
• 15:53
  about
• 15:53
  some
• 15:53
  routines
• 15:54
  that
• 15:54
  you
• 15:54
  may
• 15:54
  have
• 15:55
  had
• 15:55
  that
• 15:56
  really
• 15:56
  helped
• 15:56
  you
• 15:56
  survive
• 15:57
  in
• 15:57
  past
• 15:57
  seasons,
• 15:58
  but
• 15:58
  are
• 15:58
  unnecessary
• 15:59
  now?
• 16:00
  For
• 16:00
  example,
• 16:01
  for
• 16:01
  so
• 16:01
  many
• 16:01
  years
• 16:02
  I
• 16:02
  really
• 16:02
  prioritized
• 16:03
  girls'
• 16:03
  trips
• 16:04
  with
• 16:04
  some
• 16:04
  friends.
• 16:05
  They
• 16:05
  were
• 16:05
  so
• 16:06
  critical
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  me.
• 16:06
  'cause
• 16:06
  when
• 16:06
  my
• 16:06
  kids
• 16:07
  were
• 16:07
  all
• 16:07
  little,
• 16:07
  I
• 16:07
  just
• 16:07
  needed
• 16:08
  to
• 16:08
  escape
• 16:08
  that.
• 16:09
  But
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  don't
• 16:10
  find
• 16:10
  that
• 16:10
  to
• 16:10
  be
• 16:10
  an
• 16:10
  emotional
• 16:11
  need
• 16:11
  for
• 16:11
  me
• 16:11
  anymore,
• 16:11
  and
• 16:12
  so
• 16:12
  I
• 16:12
  don't
• 16:12
  prioritize
• 16:13
  them
• 16:13
  as
• 16:13
  much.
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  don't
• 16:14
  have
• 16:15
  any
• 16:15
  guilt
• 16:15
  over
• 16:15
  this.
• 16:16
  I'm
• 16:16
  just
• 16:16
  observing.
• 16:17
  Oh,
• 16:17
  so
• 16:17
  interesting.
• 16:18
  That
• 16:18
  was
• 16:18
  critical
• 16:18
  for
• 16:18
  me
• 16:19
  at
• 16:19
  a
• 16:19
  different
• 16:19
  stage
• 16:20
  of
• 16:20
  life,
• 16:20
  but
• 16:20
  it's
• 16:20
  not
• 16:20
  anymore.
• 16:21
  So
• 16:22
  remember
• 16:22
  that
• 16:22
  not
• 16:23
  everything
• 16:23
  that
• 16:23
  was
• 16:23
  right
• 16:24
  for
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  once
• 16:25
  needs
• 16:25
  to
• 16:25
  be
• 16:26
  in
• 16:26
  your
• 16:26
  life
• 16:26
  forever.
• 16:27
  You
• 16:27
  can
• 16:28
  release
• 16:28
  it
• 16:29
  with
• 16:29
  gratitude
• 16:29
  for
• 16:29
  how
• 16:30
  it
• 16:30
  served
• 16:30
  you
• 16:30
  in
• 16:30
  the
• 16:30
  past
• 16:31
  and
• 16:31
  then
• 16:32
  not
• 16:32
  keep
• 16:32
  it
• 16:32
  in
• 16:32
  your
• 16:32
  life
• 16:33
  forever.
• 16:34
  So
• 16:34
  that's
• 16:34
  question
• 16:35
  number
• 16:35
  two.
• 16:35
  Does
• 16:35
  this
• 16:35
  support
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  current
• 16:36
  season
• 16:37
  or
• 16:37
  a
• 16:37
  past
• 16:37
  season?
• 16:38
  And
• 16:38
  then
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  third
• 16:38
  question
• 16:39
  is,
• 16:39
  does
• 16:39
  this
• 16:40
  move
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  needle
• 16:40
  in
• 16:40
  my
• 16:40
  life?
• 16:41
  Does
• 16:41
  it
• 16:41
  enrich
• 16:42
  my
• 16:42
  life,
• 16:43
  or
• 16:43
  neither
• 16:44
  of
• 16:44
  those
• 16:44
  things?
• 16:45
  Okay,
• 16:45
  so
• 16:46
  something
• 16:46
  that
• 16:46
  would
• 16:46
  move
• 16:47
  the
• 16:47
  needle
• 16:47
  would
• 16:47
  be
• 16:48
  like
• 16:48
  a
• 16:48
  business
• 16:49
  obligation
• 16:49
  or
• 16:50
  something
• 16:50
  for
• 16:51
  a
• 16:51
  calling
• 16:51
  or
• 16:51
  something
• 16:51
  that
• 16:52
  brings
• 16:52
  in
• 16:52
  income.
• 16:53
  So
• 16:53
  that's
• 16:53
  improving
• 16:54
  your
• 16:55
  life
• 16:55
  in
• 16:55
  a
• 16:55
  very
• 16:56
  tactical
• 16:56
  way,
• 16:57
  I
• 16:57
  guess
• 16:57
  is
• 16:57
  the
• 16:57
  best
• 16:57
  way
• 16:58
  to
• 16:58
  say
• 16:58
  it.
• 16:59
  But
• 16:59
  things
• 17:00
  that
• 17:00
  enrich
• 17:00
  your
• 17:00
  life
• 17:00
  might
• 17:01
  be
• 17:01
  a
• 17:01
  little
• 17:01
  bit
• 17:01
  less
• 17:01
  obvious,
• 17:02
  but
• 17:02
  more
• 17:02
  emotionally
• 17:03
  driven.
• 17:03
  Like
• 17:04
  family
• 17:04
  connection.
• 17:04
  Maybe
• 17:05
  you
• 17:05
  wanna
• 17:05
  keep
• 17:06
  the
• 17:06
  family
• 17:06
  dinner
• 17:07
  you
• 17:07
  do
• 17:07
  at
• 17:07
  your
• 17:07
  mom's
• 17:08
  house
• 17:08
  every
• 17:08
  Sunday,
• 17:08
  because
• 17:09
  that's
• 17:09
  so
• 17:09
  critical
• 17:10
  for
• 17:10
  enriching
• 17:11
  your
• 17:11
  life
• 17:11
  in
• 17:11
  the
• 17:11
  way
• 17:11
  that
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  like.
• 17:13
  Maybe
• 17:13
  you
• 17:13
  have
• 17:13
  an
• 17:13
  afternoon
• 17:13
  nap
• 17:14
  that
• 17:14
  is
• 17:14
  critical
• 17:15
  for
• 17:15
  enriching
• 17:15
  your
• 17:15
  life
• 17:16
  so
• 17:16
  that
• 17:16
  you.
• 17:16
  Kind
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  your
• 17:17
  kids
• 17:17
  in
• 17:17
  the
• 17:17
  afternoon
• 17:18
  and
• 17:18
  not
• 17:18
  a
• 17:18
  jerk,
• 17:19
  Or
• 17:19
  something
• 17:19
  else
• 17:19
  that
• 17:20
  brings
• 17:20
  real
• 17:20
  joy.
• 17:21
  Okay?
• 17:21
  So
• 17:21
  not
• 17:21
  everything
• 17:22
  has
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  be
• 17:22
  a
• 17:22
  needle
• 17:23
  mover.
• 17:23
  Sometimes
• 17:24
  it
• 17:24
  can
• 17:24
  just
• 17:24
  enrich
• 17:25
  your
• 17:25
  life
• 17:25
  in
• 17:25
  a
• 17:25
  way
• 17:25
  that's
• 17:25
  really
• 17:26
  important
• 17:26
  to
• 17:26
  you.
• 17:27
  If
• 17:27
  it's
• 17:27
  neither
• 17:28
  of
• 17:28
  those
• 17:28
  things,
• 17:29
  then
• 17:29
  it
• 17:29
  might
• 17:29
  be
• 17:29
  something
• 17:29
  that
• 17:29
  drains
• 17:30
  you.
• 17:30
  Or
• 17:30
  it
• 17:30
  could
• 17:30
  just
• 17:30
  be
• 17:30
  something
• 17:31
  neutral.
• 17:32
  Maybe
• 17:32
  you
• 17:32
  have
• 17:32
  a
• 17:32
  standing
• 17:33
  lunch
• 17:33
  date
• 17:33
  with
• 17:33
  a
• 17:33
  friend
• 17:34
  who
• 17:35
  you
• 17:35
  don't
• 17:36
  really
• 17:36
  enjoy
• 17:36
  all
• 17:37
  that
• 17:37
  much
• 17:37
  anymore.
• 17:38
  There's
• 17:38
  no
• 17:38
  guilt
• 17:38
  over
• 17:38
  that.
• 17:39
  You
• 17:39
  can
• 17:39
  release
• 17:39
  that
• 17:40
  and
• 17:40
  let
• 17:40
  it
• 17:40
  go.
• 17:41
  Maybe
• 17:41
  you've
• 17:42
  been
• 17:42
  driving
• 17:42
  a
• 17:42
  kid
• 17:42
  to
• 17:43
  an
• 17:43
  activity
• 17:43
  that
• 17:43
  really
• 17:44
  doesn't
• 17:44
  enrich
• 17:44
  their
• 17:45
  life
• 17:45
  as
• 17:45
  much
• 17:46
  as
• 17:46
  it
• 17:46
  used
• 17:46
  to.
• 17:47
  Or
• 17:47
  maybe
• 17:48
  you're
• 17:48
  just
• 17:48
  overreaching
• 17:48
  in
• 17:49
  your
• 17:49
  obligations.
• 17:49
  You're
• 17:49
  thinking,
• 17:50
  I've
• 17:50
  got
• 17:50
  to
• 17:51
  get
• 17:51
  this
• 17:51
  thing
• 17:51
  done.
• 17:51
  'cause
• 17:51
  that's
• 17:52
  what
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  good
• 17:52
  mom
• 17:52
  would
• 17:52
  do,
• 17:53
  but
• 17:53
  it's
• 17:53
  just
• 17:54
  not
• 17:54
  serving
• 17:54
  you
• 17:55
  like
• 17:55
  it
• 17:55
  used
• 17:55
  to.
• 17:56
  So
• 17:57
  only
• 17:57
  prioritize
• 17:58
  those
• 17:58
  first
• 17:58
  two
• 17:58
  things
• 17:59
  that
• 17:59
  move
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  needle
• 17:59
  in
• 18:00
  your
• 18:00
  life
• 18:00
  and
• 18:01
  things
• 18:01
  that
• 18:01
  enrich
• 18:02
  it,
• 18:02
  that
• 18:02
  make
• 18:02
  you
• 18:03
  a
• 18:03
  better
• 18:03
  version
• 18:04
  of
• 18:04
  you.
• 18:05
  So
• 18:06
  those
• 18:06
  are
• 18:06
  the
• 18:06
  three
• 18:06
  questions.
• 18:07
  Again,
• 18:07
  did
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  choose
• 18:07
  this
• 18:08
  or
• 18:08
  inherit
• 18:08
  it?
• 18:09
  Does
• 18:09
  it
• 18:09
  support
• 18:09
  the
• 18:09
  current
• 18:10
  season
• 18:10
  of
• 18:10
  life
• 18:10
  or
• 18:10
  a
• 18:10
  past
• 18:11
  one?
• 18:11
  And
• 18:11
  then
• 18:12
  does
• 18:12
  it
• 18:12
  move
• 18:12
  the
• 18:12
  needle
• 18:12
  and
• 18:13
  enrich
• 18:13
  my
• 18:13
  life,
• 18:13
  or
• 18:14
  neither
• 18:14
  of
• 18:14
  those
• 18:14
  things?
• 18:15
  And
• 18:16
  then
• 18:17
  once
• 18:17
  we've
• 18:17
  curated
• 18:18
  those
• 18:18
  things
• 18:19
  that
• 18:19
  we
• 18:19
  want
• 18:19
  to
• 18:19
  release
• 18:20
  out
• 18:20
  of
• 18:20
  our
• 18:20
  life,
• 18:21
  we
• 18:21
  also
• 18:22
  have
• 18:22
  three
• 18:22
  options
• 18:22
  for
• 18:23
  them.
• 18:23
  The
• 18:24
  first
• 18:24
  step
• 18:24
  is
• 18:24
  we
• 18:24
  could
• 18:24
  just,
• 18:25
  the
• 18:25
  first
• 18:25
  choice
• 18:26
  is
• 18:26
  we
• 18:26
  could
• 18:26
  just
• 18:26
  delete
• 18:26
  them.
• 18:27
  Have
• 18:27
  you
• 18:27
  guys
• 18:27
  heard
• 18:27
  of
• 18:27
  the
• 18:28
  three
• 18:28
  choices
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  how
• 18:28
  to.
• 18:29
  Gain
• 18:29
  more
• 18:29
  space
• 18:30
  in
• 18:30
  your
• 18:30
  life?
• 18:31
  Defer.
• 18:31
  Delegate
• 18:32
  or
• 18:32
  delete.
• 18:32
  I
• 18:32
  love
• 18:33
  those.
• 18:33
  So
• 18:33
  deferring
• 18:34
  would
• 18:34
  be
• 18:34
  just
• 18:34
  pausing
• 18:35
  it
• 18:35
  for
• 18:35
  a
• 18:35
  while,
• 18:36
  an
• 18:36
  example
• 18:36
  of
• 18:37
  this
• 18:37
  is
• 18:37
  my
• 18:37
  6-year-old
• 18:38
  is
• 18:38
  taking
• 18:38
  piano
• 18:38
  lessons
• 18:38
  lately,
• 18:39
  but
• 18:39
  he
• 18:39
  does
• 18:39
  not
• 18:39
  practice
• 18:39
  on
• 18:40
  his
• 18:40
  own.
• 18:40
  So
• 18:40
  the
• 18:40
  teacher
• 18:41
  said
• 18:41
  someone
• 18:41
  really
• 18:41
  needed
• 18:42
  to
• 18:42
  sit
• 18:42
  with
• 18:42
  him
• 18:42
  and
• 18:42
  practice
• 18:43
  every
• 18:43
  day,
• 18:44
  and
• 18:44
  I
• 18:44
  thought,
• 18:44
  that
• 18:44
  has
• 18:45
  to
• 18:45
  be
• 18:45
  me
• 18:45
  and
• 18:45
  there's
• 18:45
  no
• 18:46
  way
• 18:46
  I
• 18:46
  can
• 18:46
  add
• 18:46
  that
• 18:46
  in.
• 18:47
  So
• 18:47
  we
• 18:47
  just
• 18:48
  deferred
• 18:48
  his
• 18:48
  piano
• 18:48
  lessons
• 18:49
  for
• 18:49
  a
• 18:49
  while.
• 18:49
  I
• 18:49
  decided
• 18:50
  we
• 18:50
  would
• 18:50
  start
• 18:50
  back
• 18:50
  up
• 18:51
  when
• 18:51
  he
• 18:51
  is
• 18:51
  old
• 18:51
  enough
• 18:52
  to
• 18:52
  reliably
• 18:53
  practice
• 18:53
  on
• 18:53
  his
• 18:53
  own.
• 18:53
  And
• 18:54
  I
• 18:54
  don't
• 18:54
  have
• 18:54
  any
• 18:54
  drama
• 18:55
  about
• 18:55
  that
• 18:55
  because
• 18:56
  I
• 18:56
  don't
• 18:56
  have
• 18:57
  the
• 18:57
  energy
• 18:57
  or
• 18:57
  time
• 18:58
  to
• 18:58
  devote
• 18:58
  to
• 18:58
  it,
• 18:58
  and
• 18:59
  I
• 18:59
  want
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  make
• 18:59
  sure
• 18:59
  that
• 19:00
  he
• 19:00
  succeeds.
• 19:01
  So
• 19:01
  we're
• 19:01
  deferring
• 19:01
  that
• 19:02
  for
• 19:02
  a
• 19:02
  little
• 19:02
  bit,
• 19:02
  and
• 19:03
  it's
• 19:03
  also
• 19:04
  okay
• 19:04
  to
• 19:04
  defer
• 19:04
  something
• 19:05
  and
• 19:05
  choose
• 19:05
  to
• 19:05
  never
• 19:05
  pick
• 19:06
  it
• 19:06
  up
• 19:06
  again.
• 19:06
  That's
• 19:06
  allowed,
• 19:07
  just
• 19:07
  so
• 19:07
  you
• 19:07
  know.
• 19:08
  So
• 19:08
  that's
• 19:08
  deferring,
• 19:09
  delegating.
• 19:10
  That's
• 19:10
  easy,
• 19:10
  right?
• 19:10
  You
• 19:11
  share
• 19:11
  it
• 19:11
  with
• 19:11
  somebody
• 19:11
  in
• 19:12
  your
• 19:12
  family,
• 19:12
  or
• 19:12
  you
• 19:12
  outsource
• 19:13
  it,
• 19:13
  you
• 19:13
  pay
• 19:13
  somebody
• 19:14
  to
• 19:14
  do
• 19:14
  it,
• 19:15
  and
• 19:15
  then
• 19:15
  deleting.
• 19:15
  That's
• 19:15
  just
• 19:16
  taking
• 19:16
  it
• 19:17
  completely
• 19:17
  outta
• 19:17
  your
• 19:17
  life,
• 19:18
  just
• 19:18
  getting
• 19:18
  rid
• 19:18
  of
• 19:18
  it.
• 19:19
  Now
• 19:19
  remember
• 19:20
  when
• 19:20
  we
• 19:20
  are
• 19:20
  going
• 19:21
  through
• 19:21
  these
• 19:21
  steps
• 19:21
  and
• 19:21
  trying
• 19:22
  to
• 19:22
  defer,
• 19:22
  delegate,
• 19:23
  delete
• 19:23
  something
• 19:24
  in
• 19:24
  our
• 19:24
  life.
• 19:24
  Remember
• 19:25
  that
• 19:25
  you
• 19:25
  don't
• 19:26
  need
• 19:26
  a
• 19:26
  really
• 19:26
  dramatic
• 19:27
  reason
• 19:27
  to
• 19:27
  stop
• 19:27
  doing
• 19:28
  something.
• 19:28
  There
• 19:28
  have
• 19:28
  been
• 19:29
  things
• 19:29
  I've
• 19:29
  stopped
• 19:29
  doing
• 19:30
  just
• 19:30
  because
• 19:31
  it
• 19:31
  doesn't
• 19:31
  feel
• 19:32
  right
• 19:32
  or
• 19:32
  I
• 19:33
  don't
• 19:33
  like
• 19:33
  it.
• 19:34
  That's
• 19:34
  a
• 19:34
  reason
• 19:34
  enough.
• 19:35
  You
• 19:35
  can
• 19:36
  just
• 19:36
  say,
• 19:36
  this
• 19:36
  doesn't
• 19:37
  fit
• 19:37
  anymore.
• 19:38
  It
• 19:38
  doesn't
• 19:38
  make
• 19:38
  sense
• 19:39
  anymore.
• 19:39
  You
• 19:39
  don't
• 19:40
  have
• 19:40
  to
• 19:40
  have
• 19:40
  a
• 19:40
  reason
• 19:40
  at
• 19:41
  all.
• 19:41
  No
• 19:41
  is
• 19:41
  a
• 19:41
  complete
• 19:42
  sentence.
• 19:43
  It's
• 19:43
  just
• 19:43
  hard
• 19:43
  for
• 19:44
  us
• 19:44
  to
• 19:44
  say
• 19:44
  sometimes
• 19:44
  as
• 19:45
  moms
• 19:45
  that
• 19:45
  want
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  be
• 19:45
  everything
• 19:46
  to
• 19:46
  everyone.
• 19:47
  We
• 19:47
  want
• 19:47
  to
• 19:47
  be
• 19:47
  helpers
• 19:48
  and
• 19:48
  servants
• 19:49
  and
• 19:49
  we
• 19:49
  want
• 19:49
  people
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  feel
• 19:50
  our
• 19:50
  love.
• 19:51
  We
• 19:51
  wanna
• 19:51
  be
• 19:51
  all
• 19:51
  the
• 19:51
  things,
• 19:52
  but
• 19:52
  we
• 19:52
  can't.
• 19:53
  We
• 19:53
  do
• 19:53
  not
• 19:54
  want
• 19:54
  to
• 19:54
  make.
• 19:54
  The
• 19:55
  people
• 19:55
  and
• 19:56
  things
• 19:56
  that
• 19:56
  matter
• 19:56
  most
• 19:57
  to
• 19:57
  us
• 19:57
  suffer
• 19:58
  because
• 19:58
  we're
• 19:58
  trying
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  be
• 19:58
  too
• 19:59
  much
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  everyone.
• 19:59
  Okay.
• 20:00
  Now
• 20:00
  let's
• 20:00
  go
• 20:00
  back
• 20:00
  to
• 20:01
  that
• 20:01
  mindset
• 20:01
  shift
• 20:01
  again,
• 20:02
  going
• 20:02
  from
• 20:02
  busy
• 20:03
  to
• 20:03
  full.
• 20:04
  We
• 20:04
  don't
• 20:04
  wanna
• 20:04
  be
• 20:04
  a
• 20:04
  victim
• 20:05
  of
• 20:05
  our
• 20:05
  circumstances
• 20:06
  and
• 20:06
  our
• 20:06
  full
• 20:06
  schedule.
• 20:07
  We
• 20:07
  want
• 20:07
  to
• 20:07
  be
• 20:07
  CEO
• 20:08
  of
• 20:08
  our
• 20:08
  life
• 20:08
  and
• 20:09
  business.
• 20:09
  We
• 20:09
  want
• 20:09
  to
• 20:09
  be
• 20:09
  the
• 20:10
  one
• 20:10
  calling
• 20:10
  the
• 20:10
  shots.
• 20:12
  God
• 20:12
  does
• 20:12
  not
• 20:13
  like
• 20:13
  overwhelm.
• 20:14
  There
• 20:14
  is
• 20:14
  nowhere
• 20:15
  in
• 20:15
  the
• 20:15
  scriptures
• 20:15
  that
• 20:15
  someone
• 20:16
  has
• 20:16
  been
• 20:16
  overwhelmed
• 20:16
  and
• 20:16
  the
• 20:17
  Lord
• 20:17
  has
• 20:17
  been
• 20:17
  like,
• 20:17
  good
• 20:18
  job.
• 20:18
  No,
• 20:19
  he
• 20:19
  specifically
• 20:20
  says.
• 20:21
  I
• 20:21
  don't
• 20:21
  want
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  to
• 20:21
  run
• 20:22
  faster
• 20:22
  than
• 20:22
  is
• 20:22
  necessary.
• 20:23
  I
• 20:24
  want
• 20:24
  you
• 20:24
  to
• 20:24
  rest.
• 20:25
  I
• 20:25
  want
• 20:25
  you
• 20:25
  to
• 20:25
  be
• 20:25
  intentional
• 20:26
  about
• 20:26
  your
• 20:26
  choices,
• 20:27
  He
• 20:27
  wants
• 20:27
  us
• 20:28
  to
• 20:28
  be
• 20:28
  good
• 20:28
  stewards.
• 20:29
  So
• 20:29
  what
• 20:29
  does
• 20:29
  it
• 20:29
  mean
• 20:29
  to
• 20:30
  be
• 20:30
  a
• 20:30
  good
• 20:30
  steward?
• 20:30
  We
• 20:30
  don't
• 20:31
  talk
• 20:31
  about
• 20:31
  stewardship
• 20:31
  very
• 20:32
  often
• 20:32
  in
• 20:32
  our.
• 20:33
  Faith
• 20:33
  culture,
• 20:34
  but
• 20:34
  stewardship
• 20:35
  looks
• 20:35
  like
• 20:35
  managing
• 20:36
  our
• 20:36
  time,
• 20:37
  our
• 20:37
  energy,
• 20:38
  our
• 20:38
  attention
• 20:39
  in
• 20:39
  an
• 20:39
  intentional
• 20:40
  way.
• 20:41
  If
• 20:41
  we
• 20:41
  feel
• 20:42
  busy,
• 20:42
  that's
• 20:42
  not
• 20:42
  proof
• 20:43
  that
• 20:43
  we're
• 20:43
  like
• 20:43
  super
• 20:44
  faithful.
• 20:44
  It
• 20:45
  just
• 20:45
  means
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  we've
• 20:45
  kind
• 20:46
  of
• 20:46
  let
• 20:46
  our
• 20:46
  schedule
• 20:46
  get
• 20:46
  outta
• 20:46
  hand
• 20:47
  a
• 20:47
  little
• 20:47
  bit.
• 20:48
  Tell
• 20:48
  yourself
• 20:48
  I'm
• 20:49
  not
• 20:49
  a
• 20:49
  victim
• 20:49
  of
• 20:49
  my
• 20:49
  schedule.
• 20:50
  I
• 20:50
  am
• 20:50
  the
• 20:50
  steward
• 20:51
  of
• 20:51
  it.
• 20:51
  God
• 20:51
  gave
• 20:52
  me
• 20:52
  this
• 20:52
  time,
• 20:53
  energy,
• 20:53
  resources,
• 20:54
  and
• 20:54
  has
• 20:54
  asked
• 20:54
  me
• 20:55
  to
• 20:55
  steward
• 20:55
  it
• 20:55
  well,
• 20:56
  to
• 20:56
  take
• 20:56
  care
• 20:56
  of
• 20:57
  it,
• 20:57
  well
• 20:57
  not
• 20:58
  fill
• 20:58
  it
• 20:58
  to
• 20:58
  the
• 20:58
  brim
• 20:58
  so
• 20:59
  that
• 20:59
  I'm
• 20:59
  barely
• 20:59
  present
• 21:00
  in
• 21:00
  my
• 21:00
  own
• 21:00
  life.
• 21:01
  Little
• 21:02
  by
• 21:02
  little.
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  am
• 21:02
  learning
• 21:03
  this
• 21:03
  lesson,
• 21:03
  you
• 21:03
  guys,
• 21:03
  it
• 21:03
  has
• 21:04
  taken
• 21:04
  me
• 21:04
  so
• 21:05
  many
• 21:05
  years
• 21:06
  in
• 21:06
  my
• 21:06
  life
• 21:06
  because
• 21:07
  I'm
• 21:07
  a
• 21:07
  perpetual
• 21:07
  over
• 21:08
  committer
• 21:08
  and
• 21:08
  there
• 21:08
  are
• 21:09
  so
• 21:09
  many
• 21:09
  fun
• 21:09
  things
• 21:10
  and
• 21:10
  amazing
• 21:10
  things
• 21:10
  I
• 21:11
  wanna
• 21:11
  try
• 21:11
  in
• 21:11
  life.
• 21:12
  So
• 21:12
  many
• 21:12
  things
• 21:12
  I
• 21:12
  wanna
• 21:12
  do,
• 21:13
  but
• 21:14
  I've
• 21:14
  had
• 21:14
  to
• 21:14
  be
• 21:14
  still
• 21:15
  and
• 21:15
  ask
• 21:15
  myself
• 21:16
  what
• 21:16
  matters
• 21:16
  the
• 21:16
  most
• 21:17
  now?
• 21:18
  And
• 21:18
  I'm
• 21:18
  learning
• 21:19
  to
• 21:19
  be
• 21:19
  content
• 21:20
  with
• 21:20
  a
• 21:20
  full
• 21:20
  life
• 21:21
  that
• 21:21
  still
• 21:21
  has
• 21:22
  room
• 21:22
  for
• 21:22
  growth.
• 21:23
  How
• 21:23
  are
• 21:23
  you
• 21:23
  supposed
• 21:23
  to
• 21:24
  grow
• 21:24
  if
• 21:24
  there's
• 21:24
  never
• 21:25
  any
• 21:25
  quiet
• 21:25
  time
• 21:26
  in
• 21:26
  your
• 21:26
  life
• 21:26
  or
• 21:26
  if
• 21:27
  there's
• 21:27
  never
• 21:27
  any.
• 21:28
  Room
• 21:28
  to
• 21:28
  be
• 21:28
  with
• 21:28
  your
• 21:29
  family,
• 21:29
  or
• 21:29
  if
• 21:30
  there's
• 21:30
  never
• 21:30
  any
• 21:30
  room
• 21:31
  to
• 21:31
  just
• 21:31
  sit
• 21:31
  down
• 21:31
  and
• 21:31
  breathe.
• 21:32
  Growth
• 21:33
  doesn't
• 21:33
  come
• 21:33
  in
• 21:34
  the
• 21:34
  hustling
• 21:34
  of
• 21:35
  taking
• 21:35
  one
• 21:35
  kid
• 21:35
  from
• 21:35
  soccer
• 21:36
  practice
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  cheerleading
• 21:37
  practice.
• 21:38
  It
• 21:38
  comes
• 21:38
  in
• 21:38
  the
• 21:38
  quiet
• 21:39
  moments
• 21:39
  and
• 21:39
  in
• 21:40
  the
• 21:40
  moments
• 21:40
  I
• 21:40
  at
• 21:41
  the
• 21:41
  dinner
• 21:41
  table
• 21:41
  or
• 21:42
  reading
• 21:42
  a
• 21:42
  book
• 21:42
  with
• 21:42
  a
• 21:42
  child
• 21:43
  or
• 21:43
  working
• 21:43
  on
• 21:44
  something
• 21:44
  that
• 21:44
  really
• 21:44
  matters
• 21:45
  to
• 21:45
  you.
• 21:46
  I
• 21:46
  hope
• 21:46
  this
• 21:46
  has
• 21:47
  come
• 21:47
  across
• 21:47
  loving
• 21:48
  and
• 21:48
  not
• 21:48
  like
• 21:48
  I'm
• 21:48
  trying
• 21:48
  to
• 21:48
  guilt
• 21:49
  trip
• 21:49
  anyone.
• 21:49
  No
• 21:49
  one
• 21:50
  should
• 21:50
  feel
• 21:50
  guilty
• 21:50
  about
• 21:51
  feeling
• 21:51
  their
• 21:51
  life
• 21:51
  full.
• 21:51
  We
• 21:52
  all
• 21:52
  have
• 21:52
  our
• 21:52
  good
• 21:52
  reasons,
• 21:54
  but
• 21:54
  just
• 21:54
  know
• 21:55
  that
• 21:55
  there
• 21:55
  is
• 21:55
  a
• 21:55
  better
• 21:56
  way.
• 21:56
  If
• 21:56
  you're
• 21:56
  feeling
• 21:57
  like
• 21:57
  your
• 21:57
  schedule
• 21:57
  is
• 21:58
  running,
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  ragged
• 22:00
  if
• 22:00
  the
• 22:00
  Lord
• 22:00
  has
• 22:00
  called
• 22:01
  you
• 22:01
  to
• 22:01
  build
• 22:01
  a
• 22:01
  business,
• 22:01
  then
• 22:01
  there's
• 22:02
  a
• 22:02
  way
• 22:02
  to
• 22:02
  do
• 22:02
  it.
• 22:02
  Even
• 22:03
  if
• 22:03
  you
• 22:03
  feel
• 22:03
  too
• 22:03
  busy
• 22:04
  and
• 22:04
  maybe
• 22:04
  going
• 22:05
  through
• 22:05
  these
• 22:05
  steps
• 22:05
  of
• 22:05
  intentionally
• 22:06
  planning
• 22:06
  your
• 22:06
  life
• 22:07
  could
• 22:07
  help
• 22:07
  a
• 22:07
  little
• 22:07
  bit
• 22:08
  more.
• 22:09
  You
• 22:09
  don't
• 22:09
  need
• 22:09
  all
• 22:09
  the
• 22:09
  hours
• 22:10
  in
• 22:10
  the
• 22:10
  world
• 22:10
  to
• 22:10
  build
• 22:11
  a
• 22:11
  business.
• 22:11
  You
• 22:12
  just
• 22:12
  need
• 22:12
  clarity.
• 22:13
  You
• 22:13
  need
• 22:13
  courage,
• 22:14
  and
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  need
• 22:14
  consistency.
• 22:15
  Okay?
• 22:15
  So
• 22:16
  the
• 22:16
  clarity
• 22:16
  is
• 22:16
  what's
• 22:16
  important?
• 22:17
  What
• 22:17
  do
• 22:18
  I
• 22:18
  wanna
• 22:18
  keep?
• 22:18
  That's
• 22:18
  what
• 22:18
  we've
• 22:18
  just
• 22:19
  went
• 22:19
  over,
• 22:19
  right?
• 22:19
  What
• 22:20
  makes
• 22:20
  me
• 22:20
  feel
• 22:20
  like
• 22:21
  I
• 22:21
  have
• 22:21
  a
• 22:21
  life
• 22:21
  worth
• 22:22
  living?
• 22:23
  So
• 22:24
  at
• 22:24
  the
• 22:24
  end
• 22:24
  of
• 22:25
  2024,
• 22:26
  I
• 22:26
  looked
• 22:26
  at
• 22:26
  everything
• 22:27
  I
• 22:27
  had
• 22:27
  done
• 22:27
  in
• 22:27
  the
• 22:27
  year
• 22:27
  and
• 22:27
  was
• 22:28
  kind
• 22:28
  of
• 22:28
  doing
• 22:28
  some
• 22:28
  reflection
• 22:29
  and
• 22:29
  I
• 22:29
  realized,
• 22:29
  wait
• 22:29
  a
• 22:29
  minute.
• 22:30
  The
• 22:30
  things
• 22:31
  that
• 22:31
  made
• 22:31
  me
• 22:31
  the
• 22:31
  happiest
• 22:32
  in
• 22:32
  this
• 22:32
  year
• 22:33
  that
• 22:33
  brought
• 22:33
  me
• 22:33
  the
• 22:33
  most
• 22:33
  joy,
• 22:34
  like
• 22:34
  deep
• 22:35
  abiding
• 22:35
  joy,
• 22:35
  not
• 22:36
  just
• 22:36
  like
• 22:36
  a
• 22:37
  little
• 22:37
  bit
• 22:37
  of
• 22:37
  happiness,
• 22:38
  was
• 22:38
  travel.
• 22:38
  Being
• 22:39
  with
• 22:39
  people
• 22:39
  I
• 22:39
  love
• 22:40
  and
• 22:40
  doing
• 22:40
  hard
• 22:40
  things.
• 22:41
  I
• 22:41
  thought,
• 22:42
  oh,
• 22:42
  so
• 22:43
  it's
• 22:43
  okay
• 22:43
  to
• 22:43
  have
• 22:43
  those
• 22:44
  things
• 22:44
  in
• 22:44
  my
• 22:44
  life
• 22:44
  because
• 22:45
  they
• 22:45
  matter
• 22:45
  most
• 22:45
  to
• 22:46
  me.
• 22:46
  You
• 22:46
  mean
• 22:46
  it's
• 22:47
  not
• 22:47
  having
• 22:47
  a
• 22:47
  clean
• 22:47
  house,
• 22:48
  it's
• 22:48
  not
• 22:48
  having
• 22:48
  all
• 22:48
  the
• 22:49
  laundry
• 22:49
  put
• 22:49
  away.
• 22:49
  I
• 22:49
  don't
• 22:50
  do
• 22:50
  that
• 22:50
  anyway.
• 22:50
  Remember,
• 22:51
  so
• 22:52
  be
• 22:52
  really
• 22:52
  clear
• 22:53
  about
• 22:53
  what
• 22:53
  makes
• 22:53
  you
• 22:54
  feel
• 22:54
  like
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  have
• 22:54
  a
• 22:54
  life
• 22:55
  worth
• 22:55
  living
• 22:55
  and
• 22:56
  keep
• 22:56
  those
• 22:56
  things
• 22:56
  in.
• 22:57
  And
• 22:58
  then
• 22:58
  the
• 22:58
  courage,
• 22:59
  you're
• 22:59
  gonna
• 22:59
  have
• 22:59
  to
• 23:00
  have
• 23:00
  courage
• 23:00
  to
• 23:00
  make
• 23:00
  choices
• 23:01
  that
• 23:01
  other
• 23:01
  people
• 23:01
  might
• 23:02
  not
• 23:02
  be
• 23:02
  happy
• 23:02
  with
• 23:03
  when
• 23:04
  I
• 23:04
  am
• 23:04
  curating
• 23:05
  my
• 23:05
  life.
• 23:05
  Some
• 23:06
  people
• 23:06
  don't
• 23:07
  like
• 23:07
  it.
• 23:08
  Some
• 23:09
  people
• 23:09
  think
• 23:09
  that
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  should
• 23:10
  go
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  their
• 23:10
  party
• 23:11
  or
• 23:11
  go
• 23:11
  to
• 23:11
  their
• 23:11
  event
• 23:12
  or
• 23:12
  be
• 23:12
  at
• 23:12
  every
• 23:12
  dinner,
• 23:13
  and
• 23:13
  I
• 23:13
  have
• 23:13
  to
• 23:13
  say
• 23:14
  no
• 23:14
  because
• 23:15
  it's
• 23:15
  my
• 23:15
  life
• 23:16
  so
• 23:16
  have
• 23:16
  the
• 23:16
  courage
• 23:17
  to
• 23:17
  make
• 23:17
  the
• 23:17
  choices
• 23:18
  that
• 23:18
  are
• 23:18
  best
• 23:18
  for
• 23:18
  you
• 23:18
  and
• 23:18
  your
• 23:18
  family.
• 23:19
  And
• 23:19
  then
• 23:20
  the
• 23:20
  consistency.
• 23:21
  Stick
• 23:21
  with
• 23:21
  those
• 23:21
  choices.
• 23:23
  Eventually
• 23:23
  you
• 23:23
  will
• 23:23
  learn
• 23:24
  how
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  create
• 23:24
  a
• 23:24
  sustainable
• 23:25
  rhythm
• 23:26
  in
• 23:26
  your
• 23:26
  life
• 23:27
  that
• 23:27
  feels
• 23:27
  good,
• 23:28
  where
• 23:28
  there's
• 23:28
  space
• 23:28
  to
• 23:28
  breathe,
• 23:29
  there's
• 23:29
  space
• 23:29
  to
• 23:30
  rest,
• 23:30
  and
• 23:31
  you're
• 23:31
  also
• 23:31
  working
• 23:32
  on
• 23:32
  things
• 23:32
  that
• 23:32
  really
• 23:32
  matter
• 23:33
  to
• 23:33
  you
• 23:33
  and
• 23:33
  are
• 23:33
  helping
• 23:34
  you
• 23:34
  and
• 23:34
  your
• 23:34
  family
• 23:34
  grow.
• 23:35
  So
• 23:35
  look
• 23:36
  at
• 23:36
  life
• 23:36
  this
• 23:36
  week.
• 23:36
  Ask
• 23:37
  yourself,
• 23:37
  what
• 23:37
  have
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  chosen?
• 23:38
  What
• 23:38
  has
• 23:39
  just
• 23:39
  accidentally
• 23:40
  fallen
• 23:40
  into
• 23:41
  my
• 23:41
  life?
• 23:41
  And
• 23:41
  what
• 23:41
  am
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  going
• 23:42
  to
• 23:42
  choose
• 23:42
  to
• 23:42
  keep
• 23:43
  going
• 23:43
  forward?
• 23:44
  This
• 23:44
  takes
• 23:45
  practice
• 23:45
  my
• 23:45
  friends,
• 23:46
  but
• 23:46
  don't
• 23:46
  give
• 23:46
  up
• 23:47
  The
• 23:47
  perfectly
• 23:48
  full,
• 23:48
  beautiful
• 23:49
  life
• 23:50
  that
• 23:50
  you
• 23:50
  dream
• 23:51
  of
• 23:51
  is
• 23:51
  waiting
• 23:51
  for
• 23:51
  you.
• 23:52
  I'll
• 23:52
  talk
• 23:52
  to
• 23:52
  you
• 23:52
  next
• 23:52
  week.