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Ep 51. 10 Days to Christmas Confidence: Reclaim Your Joy · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello, you gorgeous manifestors. Welcome back to another episode of The Manifestation Station.
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Today, it is almost, we are only weeks away from Christmas.
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How and when did that happen? Honestly, I hope you're all feeling okay.
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I hope you are, I hope you've maybe sorted your Christmas presents.
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I hope work's okay. I know a lot of people are burnt out.
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I think the end of the year is that time of year
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where everyone is kind of getting to the finish line
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of the year and like wow what a year and
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what a year it has been I have had a
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very unusual year actually it's kind of been chaotic it's had moments of amazing
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things but we've also had some heartache and some losses and some moments of
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transition as well which can sometimes leave you feeling a little bit unsure
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and unsteady but I always say that.
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You know, through chaos comes transformation. So that's not a bad thing.
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But we are at Christmas, everyone.
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And it is a amazing time of year. I love it.
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I love Christmas. I think it really helps me to deal with winter,
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particularly if you're listening in the UK, it's always very cold.
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But it's always just lovely to, okay, we're in winter, it's cold,
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let's embrace it. Let's bring magic in.
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And I did an episode a few months ago about romanticizing your life. This is the moment.
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This is the moment. If you want to romanticize your life and feel like you are
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the main character living in your Christmas movie, it's the time to do it.
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You can put up decorations, you can make yourself lovely warm,
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hot chocolates, whatever you're doing, romanticize your life.
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But that's not entirely what we're talking about today. We are doing something
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a little bit different, a little bit festive and very, very necessary.
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And let's be honest, Christmas, I find I've been chatting to so many friends,
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family and clients and Christmas is the season of comparison.
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So yes, it's cozy. It's magical. I am here for it. I am Christmas through and through.
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But it is also that time of year where suddenly you feel as though everyone
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has the perfect family, the perfect relationship, the perfect sparkly outfit for their Christmas do,
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the perfect tree, the perfect everything.
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Or at least that's what we kind of see on Instagram
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and just kind of on the surface looking in
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a nice pose and so it's easy
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it is so easy to slip into that
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space of thinking wait like do I have enough do I have enough myself and am
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I enough should my life look more like that that's when we start comparing comparing
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every parts of our life And I think it's such a reflective season.
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And, you know, we talk about, you know, all of the adverts on TV and on the
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radio, it's all magic and fun and loveliness.
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And I think it's really important to tap in today and to remember that we don't
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need to compare ourselves to people that look like they've got perfect lives.
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We also know that Christmas is
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can sometimes be a difficult time for people. There are people who have had
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breakups, who are in relationships where they're not happy.
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Maybe they're single and it's another Christmas where they feel like they're
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alone and loneliness kind of hits deep around Christmas.
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Maybe you're stretched financially and you can't get all the presents that you
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want, or maybe you have family fuse, or maybe you're grieving.
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So it's not always a difficult, it's not always an easy time of year, I should say.
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And if you felt even an ounce of that in any way, comparing yourself to other
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people at Christmas, this episode is for you.
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And that is why today we are doing the 10 Days of Christmas Confidence.
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These are 10 mindset shifts, 10 energy resets,
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and just 10 rituals, tiny little
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rituals to kind of bring you back to yourself during
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the most comparison heavy season of
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the year and I think this episode I'm
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hoping that you'll get to the end of this and you'll kind of figure out that
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actually it's okay my life is okay the way it is right now even if you are single
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financially stretched and there's things you want to manifest it's okay that
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you don't feel 100% and on top of the world when it comes to Christmas.
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It's okay if your Christmas day is not perfect.
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It's okay if your relationships aren't thriving. It is just another day.
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And this episode, it's meant to feel warm.
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It's meant to feel like taking in a deep breath and just reminding you that
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you're doing better than you think you are.
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So get cozy, whatever you're doing. I was going to say grab a hot chocolate,
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light a candle, but actually maybe you're walking, maybe you're driving, whatever you're doing.
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Let's dive into this for our 10 days of Christmas confidence.
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Now, day one, the comparison cleanse. Now, let's start with the big one,
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comparison. I'm going to keep saying it this episode.
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Christmas makes comparison louder because it's a season full of symbolism.
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And this is why I think we all put so much pressure on ourselves.
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The pressure to have the most best day, the best dinner, the best presents,
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the best relationships.
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But actually, you know, the matching pajamas, Pajamas, you know, I love that.
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I do love a matching pajama. But it's seeing these pictures and Instagram,
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everyone in their matching PJs, the big happy family dinners,
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the partner who's whisked someone away with the most amazing gift.
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It's all a giant highlight reel.
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And it is stitched together to make us forget that nobody, absolutely nobody.
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Nobody is living that perfect movie.
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And I think it's really important to remember, particularly with social media.
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Is that it is just a highlight reel.
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You never know what is going on in someone's life. So when we are constantly
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comparing ourselves, I always use the saying, comparison is the thief of joy.
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If we are always comparing our lives
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to other people's and and the gifts and everything that
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we see on Instagram the perfect images of Christmas then actually
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what we're doing is we're showing the universe these are
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the things I don't have and what does the law of attraction
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do it says okay this is what you don't have
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I'm going to bring you more of that because it works like a magnet
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so instead of that your mantra for
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today is their moment
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is not my measurement so
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let me say that again for the people at the back their
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moment is not your measurement because
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when you compare your life to somebody else's Christmas photo
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you are comparing your entire reality
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your full messy beautiful complicated
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life just to a single curated
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moment they chose to share on their social media and I know so many people and
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this isn't to discredit anybody I know so many people that have posted wonderful
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happy pictures with their partner under a Christmas tree and I know that they've
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had a raging row on that day and actually the story behind it but when we see that snapshot.
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That moment in time, we go, oh, why have they got the perfect life and I haven't?
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And therefore, it's not fair to compare.
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It is not fair on you to compare your entire life, the good bits,
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the bad bits, the messy bits, the complicated bits, to one single picture. You are comparing...
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Apples to something else that is not apples. There is no comparison.
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And just think about that for a moment. And this isn't that we should be looking
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at someone's picture and going, well, maybe they're really miserable.
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Maybe they're really unhappy.
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Look, let's hope that these people are really happy and that they are having
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the most amazing Christmas.
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But I bet you most people, most influencers on social media,
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they will tell you it is not real life.
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It is not real life yes there are moments of happiness and
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those some of those pictures reflect that but also there
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are moments of sorrow there are moments of sadness and anger so do not compare
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and remember what we said there for your mantra for today their moment is not
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my measurement so when you look at their picture wish them well and then move
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on with your day it's that simple and I'm just being honest.
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So day two is the social media detox hour.
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So we've talked about comparison, social media, where it makes us feel perhaps
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thoughts of unworthiness or feeling like we're lacking.
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So what can we do about that? Well, exactly that. If you are following accounts
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where you feel like you are triggered, where you feel like they make you feel
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like less than you should feel, less than you're worth.
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If you are feeling like they make you feel rubbish when you watch their stories,
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their reels, their pictures, then actually it's okay to have this detox.
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And actually I would say it's really healthy to have a digital detox.
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So if you're staring at someone's accounts and maybe they've got their beautiful
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sparkly dress on and their hair is beautifully blow dried and they have their makeup.
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Absolutely pristine maybe you start looking
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you're going like why do my arms not look like that why is
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her relationship so cute why doesn't my partner do
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that for me why does she have five holidays a year why is she at winter wonderland
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with someone having the most beautiful time then I would just ask yourself just
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to stop for a moment and it's okay to mute so firstly that first step that we mentioned before,
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just wish them well and then carry on scrolling.
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Or if they are triggering you, you feel triggered and it brings up something
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in you that doesn't make you feel good, it's okay to mute them. It's okay to unfollow.
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It's okay maybe perhaps to take a festive break from people who make you forget your own magic.
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So even if you go, you know what, I'm going to mute these people over the festive period.
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If you find the festive period hard, maybe you've lost someone or you're grieving,
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then maybe it's a good idea to take a little digital break anyway,
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even if that's not unfollowing people, but just spending less time on Instagram.
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And ultimately, it all leads back to less time comparing.
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Don't need to torture yourself just because it's Christmas.
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It is just another day. And I hope that you all have amazing Christmas days.
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But if you don't, if you argue with your partner, if you are single,
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if you can't afford to get presents, it's okay. It's just another day.
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And people forget this. Muting is literally like self-care.
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It's like silent self-care. They won't know you've muted them.
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Your nervous system will know.
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Your brain will know. And it will thank you.
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So just set yourself just a daily detox. Give yourself half an hour or an hour.
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No scrolling, no check-in, no comparing. And maybe swap that time.
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Swap your no-scrolling time for something else. Reading a book,
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watching a film, making some Christmas biscuits or something like that.
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Use that hour to be with your life instead of watching everyone else's.
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And I think that is the key, isn't it?
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Don't live your life watching through the lens of somebody else.
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Somebody else that you know nothing about someone else
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that you don't know if they had a big row before that picture let's
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hope they didn't but just focus on
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your life it's that simple day three
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is to use gratitude as a manifestation multiplier now we are I tell you what
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I could bang on about gratitude all the time I used to think it was really wishy-washy
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I had no idea until a few years ago how important,
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how powerful,
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how effective gratitude is.
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Gratitude dissolves negativity.
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So now let's talk about the law of attraction, kind of like in a Christmas edition.
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What you focus on expands, what you focus on multiplies and what you focus on magnifies.
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So if you spend your December, focusing on every single thing that you don't have, the partner,
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the family bonds, the money, the big Christmas dinner, the Christmas house,
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then the universe assumes that that is what you want more of.
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So if you are manifesting from a place of lack, you are simply attracting more lack.
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The universe isn't trying to punish
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you. It's just copying whatever you're putting out into the universe.
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So focusing on all the things you don't have expands and then the universe reflects
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it and brings it back to you.
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But let's interrupt that with gratitude.
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Gratitude invites more. Gratitude
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says, like, universe, I see what you've already given me. Thank you.
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God, isn't this amazing? And I'm open for more. And the universe goes, great.
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She really likes all these things that she's grateful for. Let's bring her more
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things to be grateful for.
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So just write down today three things that you've created this year,
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three things that you've survived this year, maybe three things that you've learned this year.
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Because I always say to people and I did a live event recently and when some
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people say, oh I can't wait to see the back of 2025, I always say,
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no I hear you, if it's been a difficult year I totally get you.
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However, look at the positives look at
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there will always be something to be grateful for even if
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you feel like you've had the most terrible year there'll be
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something there'll be a lesson in there what did you learn about this
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year what did you learn about how you will do things differently in in 2026
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so three things that you've learned this year three things that you have enjoyed
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this year and three things that you didn't have last year there's just a series
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of things there to write down or make a mental note in your head,
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three things you've created, three things you've survived,
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three things you've learned, three things you've enjoyed, and three things you didn't have last year.
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Let me tell you this, you will be shocked, absolutely shocked to your core by
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how much you have already manifested without even realizing.
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And it's really important to kind of have this moment of doing like a stock
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check, like a livestock check.
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To kind of figure out actually sometimes we forget
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what we've manifested without realizing and unless
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we take stock of those and almost like doing your end of year accounts by going
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oh actually do you remember when that thing happened or all of those things
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that I actually did get I had a job and I was earning money and this is what
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I this is what I earn so there we go So you will be shocked.
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Honestly, the more gratitude you give, the more you will receive.
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Day four.
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Perfect pictures aren't real. We've spoken about this with comparison.
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Let's talk about the matching PJs. I love them. They're adorable.
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I love doing it. But also, remember, you have no idea of what is going on behind those photos.
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That couple who look obsessed with each other, who look madly in love with each
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other, they might have argued in the car getting their PJs.
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The family that looks so close.
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Maybe someone's had a row over dinner. Maybe someone's
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cried before serving up the potatoes or maybe
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the girl posting the perfect Christmas morning
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outfit where you go why don't I wake up and look
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like that on Christmas I do that sometimes I look at people's outfits on Christmas
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and I go oh they look really lovely and beautiful and festive but maybe she's
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taken 79 photos maybe she hated 78 of them maybe she was criticizing her waist
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in one of them or what her skin looked like or what her hair was doing.
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She has only posted one. So we judge with no context.
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Everyone has battles. Everyone has wounds.
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Everyone has stories you will never see on Instagram.
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And like I say, I can't reiterate enough. This doesn't mean that we want to
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wish that on anyone. But just have the understanding.
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If you feel a moment of being triggered, just say, do you know what?
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Everyone else is fighting their own battles.
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Everyone has their own wounds, their own stories that we don't see.
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So do not let that, that sounded like I was going to swear there. I promise I wasn't.
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Do not let that picture shape how you feel about your life.
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Do not let that picture shape and dictate the rest of your day,
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your week, your mindset.
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It is not worth it so just carry on scrolling and just have the understanding
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and this is the big thing about comparison just have the understanding that
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that is just a screenshot a moment in time and everyone is fighting their own battles.
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Day five is romanticizing your Christmas.
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Oh, how I like to romanticize. When I got into what romanticizing was,
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now if you don't know what it is, I have done an episode on it about it before
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and I have spoken about it in previous episodes.
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But it's basically about kind of adding touches into your life that elevate
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your life and your space in simple moments.
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We are living every day in life, but there are ways to romanticize your life
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and make you feel like you're in a movie or kind of make your life feel like
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a Pinterest board or like very Instagrammable.
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And this isn't kind of superficial, I'll put it on Instagram.
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What I mean is that you are elevating your surroundings, that you look and you
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feel like, wow, what an amazing life that I live in. It's like you,
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Living in your own movie and everything, you know how when you watch like a
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lovely romantic comedy and,
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you know, even when the female lead is walking around the house,
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she's in the lovely, most comfy clothes with her gorgeous tussled hair and there
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are flowers out on the worktop and there are candles going and she's making hot chocolate.
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Those are the things, there are ways you can do now to start at this very moment
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to romanticise your life.
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Now, when I really did some more research on this a couple of years ago,
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I think maybe for when I was starting my podcast and writing my manifesting
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book, I was just kind of, I was kind of blown away.
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And I have fully adopted it and
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I romanticize wherever I
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can now even like laying out my dinner
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properly with candles and nice cutlery and
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using the fine china and you know pouring myself a soft drink and a wine glass
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and and you may go well they're really simple things yes exactly but we're not
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doing them so let's romanticize our lives we make ourselves nice lunches we
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make ourselves warm drinks.
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We light the fire and read a book and it looks like it's out of a movie.
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So Christmas doesn't need to look like a movie. You can romanticise the smallest, simplest things.
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So here are some ideas, just simple ways. It's Christmas, it's winter.
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Here are some ideas of ways that you can kind of romanticise the festive season
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without breaking the bank, without having to kind of set up a budget,
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but just maybe create a cozy Christmas Eve ritual with hot chocolate,
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marshmallows, and your favorite film in a blanket.
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It's that simple. Maybe, I don't know, create mood lighting.
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Maybe if you've got children or not, maybe you've got a partner and maybe you're
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single. Now, I used to do this on my own being single.
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I would almost like set up a little kind of festive camp and I would put blankets
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on the floor. And sometimes I do it now and
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blankets and cushions on the floor near to my fire put
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a Christmas film on so it feels there's something romantic
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about it and it is that simple even if you do.
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This by yourself you don't need someone to do it with maybe give
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yourself a little journal session do a candle lit
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journal session like with fairy lights put your fairy lights on
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light a candle grab out your journal and
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write about the year that you've had write about your gratitude for
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the year write about all the things that you want to manifest for.
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Next year maybe go and buy yourself I
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like this one a future self gift romanticize
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your life and maybe buy yourself a gift wrap
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it let's romanticize the hell out of it
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wrap it and put it under your Christmas tree and open
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it for yourself what a way to say to the universe I
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value myself I take myself I
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don't know my worth of myself like to give
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myself a present and that's how much I think of
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myself and care for myself and it's all about self-care I
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love that go and buy yourself a future gift so remember you
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have your list of everyone you need to buy for for
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Christmas put yourself on that list even if it's
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something small maybe it's a bauble for your tree maybe it's
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just a little face mask or something or if
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you're feeling a little more bougie go and buy yourself an outfit
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or something that you want for Christmas you
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don't have to receive it from someone else for you
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to have value in it maybe go
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on a Christmas morning walk in your favorite comfy outfit
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maybe put your Christmas hat on get rugged up put your Wellington boots on jump
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in the puddles jump in the snow let's let's hope for a white Christmas just
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get outside in the fresh air romanticize it if you're with people if you've
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got a pet you know take the dog out take your family out if you're on your own
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do it on your own Thank you.
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Maybe bake something small just for fun. This is a lovely romanticizing exercise.
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Maybe find yourself, maybe Google online, like a festive, maybe make some gingerbreads.
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Maybe make some, I like every year, I like to make these sweets. You might have had them.
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They are Christmas pudding sweets, but they look like Christmas puddings,
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but they're actually marzipan balls and you dip them. They're so easy. It's not even baking.
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So this is why I'm saying it. it is marzipan balls
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and you dip them in melted milk chocolate and you let
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them dry and then you drizzle some melted
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white chocolate over the top and then you get a little bit of like an icing
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pen in green and you put a little bit of holly on it and that's it that is your
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little Christmas puds I love doing them there's something very mindful about
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Christmas baking or Christmas cooking well cooking in general when you're actually
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like baking but something about at Christmas,
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how it really romanticises. I also...
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Used to make these biscuits they were quite tricky but they
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were really rewarding they were biscuit you would
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make the biscuits then you you would make
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them into like these archway like window shapes has
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anyone made these and then you cut out like four little sections in the window
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and then you melt in the oven boiled sweets into the windows they're like stained
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glass windows and I remember doing them with my mum when I was younger and then
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you we used to pierce a hole and You could actually hang them on the Christmas
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tree or obviously just hand them out to eat.
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But maybe I'll try and make those. Maybe watch on my Instagram,
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see if I make those. But the Christmas puds are a good one. But just bake.
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Just have like, bake something small just for fun.
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Maybe make your own Christmas playlist ready for the festive period.
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There's something that makes you kind of look forward to playing your playlist.
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It raises your vibrations. It's also a little bit of romanticizing.
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Have a solo dinner date. Yes, with yourself. take yourself to a local pub,
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to a bar or a restaurant or a cafe and take yourself for a solo date, a lunch or a dinner.
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There is something amazing in this.
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Now, if you haven't done it before, you are missing out on something wonderful.
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I love it. I feel really kind of.
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Calm, mindful, present, happy when I do this.
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And you're not being forced to. You're not going along going,
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I'm single. I'm going on a solo dinner date. You're saying, I'm taking myself out on a date.
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Again, you're showing the universe your worth, your value, that you value your
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time and that you value your connection with yourself.
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And that's it. And I guarantee you, honestly, these solo dates are amazing.
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The more you solo date, I guarantee you, you will enjoy them.
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Maybe make a December Pinterest board so you
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can kind of like make a mood board for what you want your December
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to look like or how you want to feel maybe to
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take cute photos take you when you are out and
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you see I don't know a frost and you see
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nature take a picture just for yourself that's it
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not for posting and you can just look at those and
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think it's kind of a way to generate gratitude as well
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and help you to look up and notice what's going on
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around you or maybe write a letter to your future
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self about everything you're proud of so you
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know like well done well done Holly like that
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we got through that and that you did that thing and you sent that email you
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worked so hard well done well done so romanticizing your life it's not it's
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not about pretending that you're perfect it's about noticing the sweetness in
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the moments and kind of elevating the moments that are already there.
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Day six is your Christmas can look however you need it to.
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Big reminder, I want this one flashing like turn me up on your speakers.
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Let me say something. Christmas can be difficult. It can be lonely. It can be different.
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It can be quiet. It can be sad.
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It can be all of those things and it doesn't mean that you are broken and it
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doesn't make you broken or Christmas broken. It doesn't make you behind.
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It doesn't make you any less worthy.
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So if your Christmas looks different, maybe it's grief, breakup.
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Money stress, family situations, maybe you're just not feeling festive. All of those are okay.
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And I'm here to tell you, you are allowed to feel how you feel.
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Do not put the emphasis on it has to be an amazing Christmas.
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It has to be an amazing day. it can be
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however you need it to be maybe you
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just need to get through it and that's okay I am
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just reminding you it is just another day and you get to decide the meaning
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that you give it you don't have to get sucked up into you know what the films
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and the adverts and social media is saying if you need to lock yourself away
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I actually know someone I've got a friend who,
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doesn't actually love Christmas and they have some family difficulties,
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and she started to spend Christmas on her own and the first year a few years
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back I was like oh my god this is terrible come to my house I'll feed you let's
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have cocktails I'll look after you she was like no no no I feel quite secure with my decision.
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Anyway, I was really worried about her. I spoke to the next day and she said, I had a lovely time.
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It's like she surrendered to, it doesn't need to be anything bigger than I'm
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making it out to be. She surrendered.
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She does it every year. And I always say like, happy best day of the year.
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Cause she goes, it's my favorite.
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She gets to do what she does. She doesn't have a Christmas dinner.
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Now I know this sounds potentially grinchy, but for her, it works for her.
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It means something. Now, if you are doing it because you're like, Oh, I don't have anyone.
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And then that's when I'm like right let's let's romanticize
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some bits let's do your solo date let's you know
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make yourself a lovely little cozy corner
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and put a blanket on and a candle I think
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it's important not to let yourself sink into a state of bitterness and despair
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but let it be what you need it to be if you just need to get through it that's
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okay if you want to be on your own and take time like it doesn't have to be
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the best Christmas ever on record.
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That's okay too. It's just another day.
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Day seven, self-value over social validation.
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So holiday confidence is not about having the biggest Christmas.
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It's just about staying in your lane.
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Your worth doesn't change because someone else got fancy gifts or posted the
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perfect holiday selfies and,
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So repeat this after me. My life doesn't have to look like yours to be beautiful.
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It is that simple.
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Confidence comes from knowing your path, staying in your own lane,
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trusting the timing of your story and trusting that your journey and your story
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is still unfolding. It's still being written.
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It's honoring your journey. It's listening to your energy and choosing yourself
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and feeling proud of your growth, celebrating your wins and your victories,
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not from looking like anyone else. And it's as simple as that.
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Day eight is redefining festive success.
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What if we stopped measuring Christmas by gifts, photos, outfits,
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relationships, social plans.
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But instead, we measured it
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by, we kind of reframe it and measure it by emotional growth, resilience.
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Healing, inner peace, clarity, gratitude, joy, and those little pockets of magic.
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You are allowed to redefine what a successful Christmas looks like.
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It's a bit like what we were saying before. It can be whatever you want it to be.
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But we're told that Christmas has to be a certain way but what if it's just
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it looks like maybe it's calm,
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and like this can be your success for Christmas maybe
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it's calm maybe it's simple maybe it's quiet
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maybe it's playful maybe it's just you that is it is that simple little pockets
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of joy little pockets of joy that relate to you what do you get joy in in the
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small moments not what you think you need to be for Christmas.
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Day nine is healing Christmas expectations. We're going to talk about expectations.
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We've talked about it today already.
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But really, if you think about it, society tells us what the perfect Christmas
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is. But real Christmas, it does look different for everyone.
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The moment you realize that, the moment you go, oh, okay, because what happens
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sometimes we try to force it.
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We try and force it in with our family and pretending that there's no family feuds going on.
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We try to force not feeling lonely. We try to force the perfect outfit.
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You know, we don't feel comfortable, whatever it is.
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And if you're someone who is healing or missing someone or rebuilding your life
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or going through a transition, I want you to know that you are not alone.
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Expectations are heavy. So release the pressure.
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You don't need to sparkle you don't need to
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perform you don't need to make your life look
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a certain way you can just breathe and be
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gentle with yourself it always comes back to being gentle
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with yourself and that is a way of offering yourself self-care day
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10 is returning to your lane so let us bring us home
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here comparison is the thief of joy but presence being present presence is the
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creator of confidence so staying in your lane not focusing on what everyone
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else is doing is how you stay connected to your magnet your magnetism your magic.
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Your life is not late, you're not behind, your path is not wrong,
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your timeline is not broken.
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You are doing way better than you think you are. You are growing into ways that
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no one else can see and you are building a life that will make sense later on, I promise you.
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You are becoming someone beautiful inside first. You don't need a perfect Christmas to feel worthy.
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You already are.
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And that is it, guys, your 10 days of Christmas confidence. That is all we need.
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Just a reminder that whatever your Christmas looks like, it is okay.
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And also that goes to say that I hope you do have the best Christmas.
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And maybe you have got the perfect life. And if you have, thank you.
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Thank you. And I'm sending you love for that and well done.
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And that is fabulous for you. but we know that
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people are all dealing with their own battles their
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own demons so we send everybody love even
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those that look like they've got the shiny perfect lives we're still
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sending them love as well so I want to
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thank you for spending this cozy episode with me how many
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episodes are we going to have before actually Christmas maybe one in
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fact I haven't thought about this guys I haven't I'm recording every week am
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I going to be able to do an episode over christmas i don't know i'm gonna hopefully
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not leave you in the lurch and maybe do send me a message if you don't want
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to get i will try not to but i'll have to see how the festive period goes.
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Do keep in touch with me via social media i'm at the holly edwards on instagram
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and at the dot manifestation station send me your christmas plans what you're
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doing i love to know how you're all celebrating but most importantly i just
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thanks for spending this really cozy episode with me I hope it brought you some comfort, grounding,
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warmth, and ultimately a whole lot of Christmas confidence.
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So remember, your life is allowed to look exactly the way it looks right now.
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You are exactly where you're meant to be. And if you loved this episode,
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please share it with someone who might need it. And if you want me to do a new
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year confidence version or a new year, no, what did I do last year?
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New year, new you, but then I crossed that out and I was like, same you, but better.
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Whatever you want to do, we can do a January calling in new things for the new year.
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That could be a good one. Just let me know, drop into my DMs and remember you
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are loved, you are worthy.
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You are proud of you. You are proud of future you and you are proud of present you.
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And I will see you in the next episode. Goodbye.