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Do you gossip and complain? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Do you think you gossip mean it's a legitimate question to
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  ask, right? Do you think you gossip?
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  Most people will say no I don't gossip or maybe a little lie
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  gossip but I don't do anything really severe in the gossiping
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  realm. Well, I'm going to challenge you
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  with it because I think a lot of us gossip and we don't even
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  realize we do it and it goes right up there with complaining.
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  I think a lot of us do it and we don't even realize that we are
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  complaining. We think we're just commenting.
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  I love that. I have a client who will say to
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  Oh, I'm only teasing. I'm just commenting on things.
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  But no, it's really complaining and I have to constantly
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  re-evaluate that with her and say, no, it's not that it's
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  this. No, it's not that.
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  It's this, and it takes a lot to be the person who can stop
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  yourself, pause and say there is something in me that's causing
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  me to do this. Now, why am I bringing this up?
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  Because when you put that out there it's creating this viral
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  energy that attracts things to you and when or in a certain
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  energy and you have certain things around that energy, you
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  know that are in out in the world, they bring it right back
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  to you. So whether we realize it or not
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  the complaining affects us and it creates more and more
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  challenges for us, because, of course, we're attracting
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  wherever our energy goes. So, if we're in this position,
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  and we just keep complaining, and we just keep complaining, we
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  just keep complaining and we keep gossiping.
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  Do you really think the good things are going to happen?
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  And in this world, where We are constantly barraged and I do
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  mean it's a barrage of negative energy non-stop negative energy
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  out there. We have to be great at
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  protecting ourselves. We have to do so much work to
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  protect ourselves from every little bit of this, the
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  negativity that's out there, because it's so easy to get lost
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  in. It is so easy to get lost in it
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  and we don't want to do that. We just don't want to do it.
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  We want to We want to keep ourselves in a framework.
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  That brings great things to us, we don't want to hurt other
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  people in the process. So we also think like, you know,
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  okay well nobody knows, I'm gossiping, but you know, you're
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  gossiping, you know, you're complaining, you know, it's a
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  part of what you're doing and you need to pay attention and
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  stop it, even if it's little complaints.
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  It's a fact that if something's bothering you you can have that
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  emotion. That says, hey, this is
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  annoying. You complaining about it.
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  Like I don't like the way this thing works.
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  Or why don't we have any pens in this house that right?
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  You know you have a moment you can make a comment but when you
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  just keep talking about it and doing nothing about it, that's
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  when it goes from having something that's like a moment
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  of like or two, a moment of. Okay, now I'm not just
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  legitimately complaining Non-Stop about something and I'm
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  not doing anything about it. So, Years ago, my husband and I
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  started this thing called The Annoying list.
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  We put it on the refrigerator and we would write down the
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  things that were annoying to us and it was just a list that was
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  you know, on the refrigerator all the time where we could drop
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  things on if it was annoying. And then we could figure out how
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  to fix it. Whether it was him fixing things
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  off the list or me fixing things off the list or me saying, hey,
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  this is something I can't fix its on the annoying list.
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  Can you fix it? It gave us a place where we
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  could dump it out of our head, so we didn't feel Feel the need
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  to keep it because nobody wants to keep that toxic stuff in and
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  some stuff is just stupid. And some stuff you can't fix on
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  your own, you need to have somebody help you fix it.
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  So for me, I learned early on having that annoying list was a
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  great place to get it out of my head, put it on a piece of paper
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  and have the safety of knowing it's not in me now, it's
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  externally somewhere else. And that my husband could help
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  me and he could, you know, figure out what he needed to do
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  in order to fix some of the Off on there and I loved it.
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  I thought it was just the easiest most complete thing to
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  do. And to this day, it still works
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  great. And then I'm not nagging at him
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  about doing things, he can just go to the list, see if there's
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  anything on there. And sometimes he will actually
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  say to me, Hey, listen, that's not going to happen.
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  I'm not doing that. And I can say, okay well what's
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  the reason do we need to get somebody else to do it?
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  Is it in sometimes? He'll just say to me because
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  it's legitimately silly and I don't want to deal with it and
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  that's okay. Then I have to figure out is it
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  important to me or not? So, It is complaining and
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  gossip, don't work. Point is that if you're doing it
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  recognized it be honest with yourself and get your butt in
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  gear to stop it. Try to go a whole week seven
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  days without saying one negative thing and gossiping at all and
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  see if you can make it a my guess is you won't even make it
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  the first two hours because all of us have been so conditioned
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  to just complain just Complain complain.
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  So you need to work on it is a work in progress, start over,
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  just give yourself the gift, I've given it a shot and seeing
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  if you can manage it because it's really hard and it's
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  absolutely necessary to A Healthy Mind.
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  Healthy body, healthy, soul to stop participating in it.
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  So I challenge you all to take it on see today.
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  See how long you can go? Even just today, no complaining,
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  no gossiping. See if you can do it.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow.
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  Take care. Bye.