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STOP Waiting for a SIGN! ACT NOW! (S5) S42:E5 Wednesday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there hello everyone and welcome to the
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It is so great to be with you.
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It is a Wednesday and it is October
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14th and it is 2026.
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Yes, it's a Wednesday.
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It's so great to have you here.
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If this is the very first time you're
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Welcome.
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All right, guys, let's kick this show off.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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So stop waiting for a sign.
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Act now.
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Series five, show 42, episode five.
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Yes.
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Wednesday.
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Welcome, everyone, again, to the ever popular inspirations
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for your life show.
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I'm John Seymour, a laser entrepreneur, engineer, marketing
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specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, passionate, lifelong
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learner, graduate student at Montclair State University, and
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so grateful now to be a published author.
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Our weekly series is Stop Waiting for a
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Sign.
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Your freedom starts with action.
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Saturday, we learn to recognize what's holding us
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back.
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Sunday, we learn to choose.
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Monday, we began to break free.
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And Tuesday, we learn to stand firm.
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And today, we learn to trust.
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Inspired by some great notions that we can
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become better every day.
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We're asking a challenging question.
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Are you seeking wisdom or using the search
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for another sign to possibly delay a decision?
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Trust doesn't mean ignoring facts.
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It means knowing when you're prepared enough to
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take a responsible step.
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Let's explore 30 ways, shall we, together to
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move forward.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am ready.
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Are you ready?
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Because I think the whole thing, guys, is
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becoming intentional about what you're doing.
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And I think when we can become intentional,
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our life changes immensely, all right?
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In a positive direction, that is.
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So, number one, guys, stop expecting certainty before
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every meaningful step.
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If you wait until all doubt disappears, you
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may never begin.
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Seek reasonable clarity, then move.
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Number two, number two, recognize when reassurance, okay,
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when reassurance seeking becomes, well, what can I
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say, avoidance.
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And I think that's hard for a lot
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of people to understand.
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Asking for advice is healthy.
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Asking 10 people the same question because you're
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afraid to choose can keep you stuck.
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Yes, stuck.
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Nobody wants to be stuck.
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Number three, guys, not every decision requires another
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sign.
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Sometimes the next step is already clear, but
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you're hoping someone or something will remove the
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discomfort of choosing.
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Number four, trust can grow through responsible action.
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You don't have to feel fearless first.
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No, follow through on a manageable commitment and
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at least experience will follow through to teach
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you.
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to realize.
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Number four, guys, very important.
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Understand the difference between faith and wishful thinking.
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Faith can expire courage and perseverance.
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Wishful thinking ignores the work and evidence, a
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decision needs to be made.
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Number six, guys, use available evidence instead of
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demanding perfect proof, gather relevant facts, evaluate the
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risks and recognize the real life in front
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of you rarely provides a guarantee.
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Number seven, recognize when you're knowing you've already
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gathered enough information, more research isn't always more
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wisdom, sometimes it's simply delaying the moment you
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must go and decide something.
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Number eight, stop asking the same question to
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avoid making a decision.
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If nothing new has changed, another round of
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opinions may only restart the cycle of doubt.
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Number nine, learn folks to distinguish intuition from
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fear.
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Intuition may reflect experience, but fear may reflect
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imagined danger.
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Psychosomatic in other words, because we have to
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realize that we have to pause, examine the
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facts and avoid confusing situations, either feeling that
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we have or with a certainty we know,
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nice and cool, refreshing and fresh lemon.
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Number 10, guys, trust your ability to respond
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when circumstances change.
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You don't need to predict every surprise.
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You need the willingness to learn, adapt, and
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ask for help when needed.
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Number 11, guys, understand that uncertainty is part
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of growth.
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Now responsibilities are coming with relationships and opportunities
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that will come without complete instructions.
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That's not automatically a warning guys.
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Number 12, stop assuming discomfort means you're on
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the wrong path.
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Learning something new can feel awkward.
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Judge your direction by values and evidence, not
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discomfort alone.
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Yeah, not discomfort alone.
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Number 13, recognized that wisdom often comes through
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experience.
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Reading about a challenge helps, but thoughtful participation
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reveals lessons.
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You cannot learn from the sidelines.
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Many people think you can just learn from
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reading a book or learn from watching a
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sport.
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You got to get involved with the sport,
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guys.
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You've got to get involved with the sport.
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I think that's the most important thing that
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I want to tell you.
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You got to get involved.
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Life is a participatory, let's say, activity, right?
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Number 14, take thoughtful risks rather than reckless
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ones.
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Consider consequences, protect what matters, and start with
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a step whose downside you can reasonably manage.
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Number 15, stop comparing your timeline with someone
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else's.
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Their progress may look faster because you cannot
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see every obstacle, advantage, or even sacrifice behind
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it.
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Number 16, trust the skills you developed through
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previous challenges.
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You had these challenges before or one similar
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to them, and you can overcome these as
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well.
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Remember a difficult situation you handled before.
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Ponder back to it.
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That experience is evidence right now that you
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can face uncertainty again and again and again,
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and you just proved it.
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That's valid proof.
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Number 17, recognize when overthinking creates unnecessary doubt.
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Replaying the same possibilities without new information is
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not planning, guys.
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Give decisions a sensible deadline.
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Don't just keep going in circles.
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Number 18, allow your values, that's your core
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values, to guide decisions without guarantees.
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You may not know the outcome, but you
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can know whether the choice reflects honesty, responsibility,
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and purpose.
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Number 19, understand that confidence often follows action.
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Waiting to feel confident can trap you.
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A small completed step gives you something real
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to build upon.
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I think that's something that'll make you feel
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good because when you can reflect back on
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an action and say, wait a minute, I
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did this, this is an amazing thing that
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I did today, and I could do it
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again and again and again, I think that
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whole concept gets us to really move forward.
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But I'm not going to tell you it's
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easy because it does take some time to
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be aware of this kind of thing.
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It does take some thought.
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It does take some action.
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I think that's an important piece.
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Number 20, stop expecting every opportunity to arrive
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with perfect clarity.
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Sometimes you discover the next part of the
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path only after taking the first reasonable step.
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Number 21, learn to act.
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Responsibly with incomplete information.
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That might seem impossible or improbable, but you
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can do it.
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You might change your actions later.
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That's perfectly fine.
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Act with what you now know.
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Identify what you must know, what can wait,
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and when the cost of delay exceeds the
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benefit of researching.
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Do what you can do now and act
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upon that.
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If you have to change your decision or
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change how you're doing something, there's nothing wrong
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with doing that.
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You could do that next time, but don't
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let that preclude you from getting started.
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Does, does that make sense?
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I'm hoping it does.
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If that makes sense, you're going to say,
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wait a minute, John, this is pretty cool.
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This is pretty amazing.
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Right?
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Um, I think that's an important piece.
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An important piece for us to ponder, for
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us to reflect upon, right?
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And if we reflect upon that, then I
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know we can definitely go somewhere.
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Right.
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But I think a lot of people get
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trapped in the weeds.
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They get trapped in, let's call it the
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precursor, uh, webs of confusion.
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Right.
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We never get to the prize because we're
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still trying to figure out how do we
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unwrap this box?
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It's like, you need surgical tools just to
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be able to open it.
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And so you don't kill yourself trying to
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just go through the plastic, right?
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They've made plastic so hard and dangerous to
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open.
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Crazy.
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Number 22, except right now, ladies and gentlemen,
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accept it.
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Okay.
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That you cannot predict every outcome.
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Just accept that right now.
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Can you do that for me?
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Except that you cannot predict every outcome, prepare
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for realistic possibilities, but don't you dare let
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imaginary worst case scenarios make every decision for
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you.
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People do it.
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Oh my gosh.
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And then you let the brain go in
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the reverse direction, not the positive direction.
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It's like, well, this is going to happen.
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That's going to happen.
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And you start compounding all things that are
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never going to happen.
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A wise person once told me, John, you
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know, seven out of 10 things are probably
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going to fall into the ditch and never
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happen before they ever transpire and the other
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two or three that might happen will be
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so minuscule.
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Like, oh, that was it.
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Yeah, that's it.
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And that should make a big difference in
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your life.
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Prepare for opportunity.
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Don't let imaginary worst case scenarios make decisions
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for you.
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Or play in your head because they can
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seem so real guys.
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And you're like, oh my gosh, what am
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I going to do?
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This is going to happen.
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That's going to happen.
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Of course you're focusing on the negative.
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What would happen guys?
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If we actually focused on the positive for
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a moment, could we do that?
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Focus on the positive, positive.
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What we focus on is what we become,
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what we focus on.
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We become our thoughts, become things.
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Number 23 guys recognize when waiting is appropriate
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and when it is avoidance.
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Because many people go, oh, I'm just going
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to wait.
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I'm not ready.
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Or they keep purposely not finishing the simple
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task because they don't want to take the
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next step.
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So they're deliberately sabotaging themselves to procrastinate, waiting
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for a medical result or crucial contract detail,
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maybe wise waiting because you're scared of judgment.
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That's a different story.
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Or what I like to say a different
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side of the coin, but we can't think
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that every scenario is the same just because
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it is been like that in the past
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doesn't mean it will be like that in
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the future so again, I'm waiting because you're
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scared of judgment is different, but don't you
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dare take situation and say, you know what,
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it's not happening, like you're going this way
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and that way and you know what happens,
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don't get anywhere because you keep purposely sabotaging
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yourself, that's crazy guys, that's crazy, but
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people do it every day because they're afraid
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to take the step.
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I remember the first time I ever got
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on a water slide, I'm going to say
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one of these huge water slides at the
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water parks where you have to cross your
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arms, you have to cross your feet and
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then basically nobody gives you a push, you
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get there and then pretty much you scoot
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yourself over and as soon as you're ready,
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you go right down so you pretty much
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control it, nobody pushes you, it's like, wow,
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it's like this feeling, you lose your stomach
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for a moment, but then you're down and
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it's like, wow, what a relief, same feeling
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when you go on a zipline, so I
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think the feeling that we get, like a
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lot of times you're at the top of
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the slide, it's like, well, maybe I forgot
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my suntan lotion or maybe I need to
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get my T-shirt or maybe I need
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to take my T-shirt off or maybe
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I need to figure out where my towel
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is, these are all excuses or maybe the
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water's not so warm in this pool, maybe
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we should go to the other pool, we'll
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have the other slide because I think that
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pool's warmer, I remember I did these things
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and you know, the funny thing is, 90
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% of these pools, they're all the same
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ice cold water and one park I went
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to, all of the water was heated, even
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though it seemed a little cool, it was
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heated, but they were all very close in
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temperature, so I was using that as a
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tactic to procrastinate going down the slide, my
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friends were like, John, like enough, why don't
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you just go down the slide, I don't
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know if my mat's comfortable, is this mat
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right, is this mat like good, is this
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mat stable, I mean, it seems like it's
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falling apart, it's fine, it's perfect, and you
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make excuses for yourself, right, number 24, build
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trust through small commitments you actually keep, there's
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a mouthful, choose something manageable, complete it and
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prove to yourself that your intentions can become
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actions, now maybe that slide is too big
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for you, okay, fine, don't go on that
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big slide, you don't have to, go on
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something else, go on the smaller slide, I
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remember the first time I went on roller
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coasters, it was actually at Great Adventure, I
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remember going to the park with a friend
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of mine, we actually wound up going to
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the park, and we didn't go to school
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that day, it was in high school, and
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I think it was one of the very
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first times we ever did that, and we
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were there, and the whole day we were
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worried, you know, is somebody gonna see us,
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nobody was gonna see us way down in
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Jackson, like nobody was ever gonna see us,
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and after we got on a few rides,
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we realized the day was gonna be okay,
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and I said this is not something we
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want to repeat doing, no, we did it
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once, we're not doing it again, it was
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nice to do once, but it's not something
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you want to repeat, and I remember the
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first time we had a roller coaster then,
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and one of the roller coasters, the very
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first roller coaster I went on, was the
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Batman ride, you guys know the Batman ride,
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so the Batman ride, I wonder if it's
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still there at Great Adventure, I'm not sure
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if they took it down or not, I
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don't know if it's still there, I was
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just looking to see if it's still there,
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it looks like the Batman ride is, from
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what I could see, yeah, it is still
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there, so it opened on May 1st, 1993,
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so this was a while ago, I think
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we went around 19, well had it be,
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I'm trying to remember now, we went there,
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and actually the first ride that we went
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on, actually no, it wasn't that ride, it
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was actually the Great American Scream Machine, and
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that was a very interesting ride, okay, a
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very interesting ride, but you know, the Batman
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ride was a very, very interesting ride, I
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can tell you that, and you just kind
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of swooped, and it just, it felt like
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amazing how you just kind of went all
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around, and what happened, and you went 50
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miles per hour, there are four G's on
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the roller coaster, even the loading spot, the
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loading spot was pretty neat, how you basically
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would, you would be at the loading chamber,
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and the thing about it is, you would
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get in, they would lock you in, it
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was comfortable, and then after that happened, the
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ride took off, but when it took off,
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it was like, uh-oh, and it seemed
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fine, but then you know you're climbing, and
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everyone on a roller coaster, when you're climbing,
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it's like, you know there's going to be
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a down sometime, and I remember my one
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friend telling me, John, when you go on
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the roller coaster, just keep your eye on
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the screw, I said, why, he says, so
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you don't throw up on me, you know,
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just, just keep your eye on the screw,
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focus on it, because you could get, some
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people could get motion sickness, and he didn't
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know, he was sitting right next to me,
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and so you know, you were being turned,
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and twisted, and it wasn't that bad, I
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just remember letting myself go, and feeling, and
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it was pretty cool, I've got to tell
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you, but what got me to go on
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that ride, was talking to a couple of
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the ride engineers, and hearing how they did
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maintenance for that ride, so that was what
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got me to go on it, but it
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was a lot of fun, so, but I
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was procrastinating, but I did get a question
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answered, I felt confident after the engineers answered
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my question about how they do maintenance, and
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I decided to go on, so number 25,
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stop right now, interpreting every obstacle as a
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warning to quit, a delay may call for
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a better plan, not abandonment, investigate the problem
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before declaring the mission is over, too many
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people get out of the game, just because
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they couldn't hit the ball the first time,
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or they couldn't kick the soccer ball, heck,
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I remember playing for one of the top
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soccer teams, when I was probably just a
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few years old, and I remember not even
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be able to kick the ball very well,
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then after a few games, I was able
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to, so number 26, to stay open to
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guidance without becoming dependent on approval, listen to
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qualified people, especially on high stakes decisions, while
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retaining ownership of your choices, don't let somebody
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try to manipulate you, if you're not ready,
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then you're not ready, number 27, understand that
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trust does not eliminate preparation, practice, research, and
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contingency plans can make courage practical, preparation and
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faith can work together, 28, choose one reasonable
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action despite uncertainty, send the application, start the
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conversation, schedule the first lesson, throw the first
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ball, make the step specific and achievable, you
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know what guys, you will do more of
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these steps, right, call the person, make the
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date, so it doesn't go well, oh well,
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you had a good time, life's about experiences,
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not about things being perfect, number 29, let
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experience strengthen your judgment over time, not overnight,
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reflect on what worked, what surprised you, and
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what you change, that's how trust becomes informed
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confidence, that doesn't happen overnight guys, number 30,
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remember that meaningful progress rarely comes with guarantees,
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your future isn't built by waiting for perfect
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signs, it's built through thoughtful choices and consistent
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actions, that's a key guys, a lot of
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you that are trying to do something like,
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I want to go on the water slide,
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but the water is too cold, or the
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mats not comfortable enough, or well you sure
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this railing safe, or maybe I need more
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sun lotion, right, you know keep giving yourself
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excuses, you know you don't need any more
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suntan lotion, you put a half a bottle
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on before you spray yourself to death, before
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you went up this thing, and you know
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you don't need a shirt, because you left
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one off purposely, and you know your towel
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is down there, so what are you doing,
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so here's your Wednesday challenge, you're ready for
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it, identify one area where you're waiting for
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absolute certainty, ask what information you genuinely need
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right now, then take one reasonable well-considered
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step forward, don't confuse urgency with wisdom, just
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refuse to let unnecessary doubt decide for you,
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this week ladies and gentlemen, we recognized, we
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chose, we broke free, we learned to stand
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firm, and today ladies and gentlemen, we're starting
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to begin to learn how to trust, trust,
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somebody asked me this question one time John,
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trust, so let's go to Miriam Webster, and
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let's give you the definition of trust, right
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from the horse's mouth, okay, trust, it's a
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noun, a relationship founded on mutual trust, living
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trust, but we're just talking about, we're just
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talking about regular trust, the one we might
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be talking about more, is maybe trusting, like
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trusting somebody, but I think a lot of
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people, they get scared, because they don't want
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to trust, that trust is trusting, a supportive
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and trusting relationship, tending to believe that other
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people are good, honest, right, and of that
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nature, trust, trust is the key, tomorrow ladies
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and gentlemen, we're going to rise, again, and
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Friday, we're going to learn how to really
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live, and be free, you see ladies and
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gentlemen, each step builds upon the previous one,
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before it, a lot of people say, oh
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I want to trust you, but they haven't
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even got to know you, they haven't even
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gone to really start even being an acquaintance,
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so you go from a stranger, to an
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acquaintance, to a friend, to a best friend,
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right, maybe to a super friend, and then
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to your ultimate friend, depending on how many
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levels you have in there, I think that's
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an important one for all of us to
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recognize, and understand, we can never rush the
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process, I like to compare this to basically
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taking chocolate, right, and there's something you have
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to do with chocolate, you know what that
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is, so you have to do something called
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tempering chocolate, and tempering chocolate, you can't rush
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it, you could burn the chocolate, or you
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could do something so that it doesn't crack,
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it doesn't have the shine, you cannot rush
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tempering, you have to do it slowly, you
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have to do it a couple times, a
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lot of people say, oh I'm just going
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to do it quick, then they get burnt
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chocolate, or they get chocolate that doesn't shine,
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it looks like something you just want to
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throw out, barely eat, chocolate is supposed to
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look good, and taste good, a lot of
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people don't get that, ladies and gentlemen, I
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am John Seymour, I thank you so much
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for choosing to join me today on the
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ever-popular inspirations for your life show, remember
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ladies and gentlemen, you don't need a guarantee
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to make a thoughtful decision, no, stop waiting
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for a sign, and take your next responsible
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step, can you do that, then just like
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my book says, stay driven, make the choice
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to stay driven, make the choice to keep
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growing, all of these things are choices guys,
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but will you show up and do them
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all the time, or you're just going to
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do them when they're convenient, be sure to
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check out believemeachieve.com for more of my
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amazing inspiring creations, and I'll catch you guys
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on another show real soon, be well everyone,
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take care.