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Episode #300: From Reaction to Reflection · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to tea time with Amy and Bed.
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Speaker 1: We're back.
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Speaker 2: We're back. Good day.
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Speaker 1: I have some fun stuff to talk about.
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Speaker 2: Let's do that.
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Speaker 1: Ah. So, as I mentioned in the last video, and
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Speaker 1: then you'll know the last video talking to the audience
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Speaker 1: because we're wearing the same clothes. So anyway that my
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Speaker 1: mom's in the hospital, you know, a lot of stuff
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Speaker 1: happening over these past two weeks. I have to stay
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Speaker 1: here another week. I talked about being in the now
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Speaker 1: in maintaining my energy and my mental, emotional, physical, spiritual
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Speaker 1: states like all the things. So if you want to
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Speaker 1: know more about that, go watch the other video. What
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Speaker 1: I want to talk about at this time because a
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Speaker 1: lot of fun is You ended the last video with
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Speaker 1: remember to be in the now, and that was something
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Speaker 1: I was saying, is learned in the last videos. I've
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Speaker 1: been in the now thinking about what is like, where
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Speaker 1: are we, what's the facts, what's the next step, and
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Speaker 1: just taking it moment by moment. But really being in
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Speaker 1: the now and where my mom's at a hospital, it's
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Speaker 1: like its own little it's like its own city. This
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Speaker 1: hospital is ginormous, it's incredible, and you know, going in
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Speaker 1: and out of the parking garage that is ten nine stories.
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Speaker 1: In and out of the hospital that's three stories. And
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Speaker 1: the first this is about being in the now and
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Speaker 1: tuning into energy. I had seven or eight I'm not
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Speaker 1: sure which it was to say lean into seven, but
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Speaker 1: seven or eight times in a row, not missed one
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Speaker 1: in a row. I knew which elevator door was going
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Speaker 1: to open for us to get on. And in the
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Speaker 1: parking garage there are four and in the hospital there
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Speaker 1: are four. So you push the button and you stand
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Speaker 1: there and I knew, like I just did it, and
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Speaker 1: I just tuned in. And this is in the midst
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Speaker 1: of my mom recovering from a surgery where she had
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Speaker 1: a minor stroke, and just really being present in the
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Speaker 1: moment and just tuning into that was super cool. Who
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Speaker 1: does that?
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Speaker 3: Everybody should be doing it because they'll be so surprised
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Speaker 3: and delighted about all the things that they are they
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Speaker 3: already know, and that's that helps build confidence. Yeah, and
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Speaker 3: it's always start off with you it right when we
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Speaker 3: would when we would first start doing something like that,
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Speaker 3: perhaps you would not get them all right, I'm not
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Speaker 3: saying today but five years ago, but just to playing
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Speaker 3: with it, just to do it, and then you start
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Speaker 3: noticing something switches because you start noticing that you're there's
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Speaker 3: there is no separation between you and anything else.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I would be standing there with other people
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Speaker 1: where whether it was the people I was with or
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Speaker 1: other people just waiting for the elevator, and they're all
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Speaker 1: standing there looking around like which elevator is going to be?
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Speaker 1: No turning because in the garage there's there's you know,
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Speaker 1: if you're facing the wall, there's two on the right,
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Speaker 1: two on the left. In the hospital there's four in alignment,
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Speaker 1: and so you know, there's looking back and forth like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: which one is it going to be? And I would
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Speaker 1: just stand there and I just knew and the door
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Speaker 1: would open, and I'm like, that's freaking cool. Now here's
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Speaker 1: what I noticed. I had a moment where my stress
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Speaker 1: lid popped. So this was that elevator thing was happening
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Speaker 1: over the course of about a week, last maybe four
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Speaker 1: four days or so, and I had a moment where
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Speaker 1: my stress lid popped, which meant I got out of
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Speaker 1: alignment with myself, and then I couldn't tell which elevator.
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Speaker 1: Then I could feel myself guessing, and you know the
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Speaker 1: difference when you know you know which one it is
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Speaker 1: or you're guessing. Like I could tell that difference. I said, oh,
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Speaker 1: I'm guessing now I'm not tuned in. And it took me.
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Speaker 1: It took me a few days after that experience of
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Speaker 1: the stress, it took me a few days where I
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Speaker 1: was in tune again and I was picking the elevator.
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Speaker 1: So it was a great lesson in actually recognizing when
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Speaker 1: you're tuned in and when you're not, and then you are. Like,
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Speaker 1: going through that experience was pretty cool, even in the
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Speaker 1: midst of you know, all this stuff happening with my mom,
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Speaker 1: which could be way stressful. It could be stressful for anybody.
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Speaker 1: And my practice has been now, right now, what are
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Speaker 1: we doing now?
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Speaker 2: So you've gained discernment.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I've been working on that for years girl.
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Speaker 3: Also so for my processes lately that it has been
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Speaker 3: discerning as well. But it's one am I thinking and
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Speaker 3: when am I receiving information? And it's like a constant thing. Oh,
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Speaker 3: that's a thought, and so I'll sit with that for
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Speaker 3: a minute. However, I need to process whatever I'm going through,
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Speaker 3: and then I start recognizing, oh, now I'm getting this information.
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Speaker 3: I've been getting so much information it's it's amazing. But
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Speaker 3: we can only get there from that space. And the
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Speaker 3: same thing when the stress lid pops, or when you
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Speaker 3: when I have an emotional response to something, or I
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Speaker 3: get too tuned into somebody else's energy, and I but
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Speaker 3: learning discernment along all of this, along all of this
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Speaker 3: to the point where I'm releasing attachment to everybody, which
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Speaker 3: is would initially have been scary to me even months ago,
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Speaker 3: because even letting go of my kids and my grandkids,
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Speaker 3: my relationship here I've let go of. I have zero
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Speaker 3: attachment and it's a very freeing space. It's a very
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Speaker 3: neutral space that it was something that I realized this morning,
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Speaker 3: and it's really something that has just happened recently. But
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Speaker 3: that also paves way for you to be able to
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Speaker 3: have that connection to self, to your higher self, because that,
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Speaker 3: like I said in the last Feodo, that is my
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Speaker 3: most important relationship. And so I'm sitting I have conversations,
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Speaker 3: sometimes out loud, sometimes internally to my higher self, and
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Speaker 3: I ask questions and I get answers and I go
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Speaker 3: from there. Sometimes I hear it in verbally, sometimes I
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Speaker 3: see it in images. You know might as we'll be
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Speaker 3: playing charades, sometimes I'll get a feeling and it's it
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Speaker 3: comes through in so many different ways. There is not
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Speaker 3: just one way, and so it's just being open to
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Speaker 3: all those facets of ourselves and the more otherwise you
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Speaker 3: think about it. In the world, there's such a disconnect.
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Speaker 3: There is like division between people, but it's not the
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Speaker 3: disconnecting division between people. It's the disconnect and division withinself.
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Speaker 3: And when we start looking at all that stuff, when
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Speaker 3: we start addressing that, the division and the disconnect outside
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Speaker 3: of self isn't going to be there anymore because it
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Speaker 3: has nothing more to teach us. And so it's so
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Speaker 3: important that I've been I have had the opportunities to
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Speaker 3: go within and to be more at peace and to
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Speaker 3: I'm working out again and I do things you know
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Speaker 3: that are making me happy. I'm selling all kinds of
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Speaker 3: stuff that was my husband's stuff. It's like this Lakers
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Speaker 3: and Steeler stuff. It's like I have no use for it.
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Speaker 3: And so it's just getting into other people, but also
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Speaker 3: letting letting go of things, and that's a been a
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Speaker 3: big thing. And it's like I keep getting told big
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Speaker 3: happy changes, big happy changes, big happy changes. And it's like, Okay, well,
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Speaker 3: I have no idea what that looks like from here,
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Speaker 3: but I'm open. I'm open, and I'm not even I'm
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Speaker 3: not even trying to control it. I'm just ready to
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Speaker 3: see what does it look like? How does that feel?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and when you talk about the division, because you know,
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Speaker 1: division has been huge for several years now, It's been
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Speaker 1: a thing for probably decades, right in a worldview, it
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Speaker 1: has become even stronger because I feel because of social
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Speaker 1: media that we are we are in such an instant
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Speaker 1: report mode that you know, anybody anywhere can share their
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Speaker 1: opinion about anything. And then of course you have the
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Speaker 1: trolls out there that or just keeps turning the knife,
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Speaker 1: just contributing to the negativity and gets people amped up
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Speaker 1: because they contribute their energy to whatever is being posted.
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Speaker 1: But when there are things that are being reported in
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Speaker 1: the news social media that seem detrimental, everybody wants to
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Speaker 1: pick a side. Oh, they're the victim because blah blah blah.
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Speaker 1: And it's like, well, no, the other person's the victim
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Speaker 1: because blah blah blah. And there's these these two fighting forces.
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Speaker 1: Well there's a responsibility on both sides and then there's
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Speaker 1: responsibility of all the choices and decisions they've made in
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Speaker 1: their lifetime to be in that experience together where something
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Speaker 1: happens that is perceived as detrimental, and then people are
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Speaker 1: choosing sides, Well, what about all the things that those
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Speaker 1: two people, just those two people that had the experience together,
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Speaker 1: those two people, all their choices and decisions that they
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Speaker 1: made to bring them in alignment for that experience, that's
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Speaker 1: their responsibility. So it is taking responsibility for what they
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Speaker 1: chose to do to bring them in that moment. Now, there,
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Speaker 1: I say, and I've heard many people say this, there
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Speaker 1: are three sides to a story. There's person a's side,
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Speaker 1: there's person B side, Then there's the truth and person
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Speaker 1: A in person B. Their stories, provided they're still living,
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Speaker 1: their stories, are going to be in such a way
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Speaker 1: that one it proves them right and the other person wrong,
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Speaker 1: and it based on their programming, their life experiences, their
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Speaker 1: belief systems. So you have these two people completely different
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Speaker 1: trying to prove each other wrong, prove themselves right, and
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Speaker 1: so they're neither one of them are actually knowing the
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Speaker 1: truth because they can't see it, they can't acknowledge it
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Speaker 1: based on what they have going on mentally and emotionally internally,
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Speaker 1: And so then you have these two people that don't
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Speaker 1: even know the truth, and then you have all these
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Speaker 1: people out here in the news and social media just
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Speaker 1: drumming up words that really make no sense.
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Speaker 3: And fluffing it from their own perspectives, so like from
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Speaker 3: their own yeah, their own templates, they're all their own experiences,
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Speaker 3: their own perceptions, which is never going to be the
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Speaker 3: same as anybody else's. And then it's like people take
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Speaker 3: that from their own perceptions and rum with it too.
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Speaker 1: So it's like this right, and it's their time and
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Speaker 1: energy that they're putting into a situation, giving their focus
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Speaker 1: on a situation that they don't even know the truth about.
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Speaker 1: So you got hundreds of thousands or millions of people
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Speaker 1: focused on something with their time and energy they don't
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Speaker 1: even know the truth about, and they can't get that
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Speaker 1: time back. So you're sitting and trying to you're reading
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Speaker 1: something you're not in agreement with, You're putting your energy
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Speaker 1: into the words that you're posting in a comment about that,
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Speaker 1: or you saw something on news, so you're over here
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Speaker 1: talking to your friends and you're getting all riled up
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Speaker 1: about it or or you know, it's like you can't
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Speaker 1: get that time back. You just focused on something with
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Speaker 1: your time of your day that you can't get back
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Speaker 1: to share an opinion or argue a point that is
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Speaker 1: probably absolutely irrelevant. On the flip side of that, it's
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Speaker 1: relevant because you're going to trigger somebody else who's going
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Speaker 1: to have an opinion or comment about what you said.
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Speaker 1: So now you have an interaction with some people that
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Speaker 1: you're giving time and energy to. The thing is is
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Speaker 1: that I would say probably at least ninety eight percent
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Speaker 1: or more people, probably one hundred and twenty percent. I mean,
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Speaker 1: that's crazy, right. Are all in a victim state. They're
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Speaker 1: not in a learning state? Learning meaning, Oh this person
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Speaker 1: said this or made this comment or shared this post
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Speaker 1: and I got triggered by it. Why did I get triggered?
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Speaker 1: They're not doing that. They're on survival and attack, not
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Speaker 1: a oh wow, that didn't resonate with me. Why am
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Speaker 1: I getting so upset about this? This really, this whole
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Speaker 1: entire situation has nothing to do with me and my life.
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Speaker 1: So why am I getting so triggered about this? Why
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Speaker 1: am I getting so upset or angry? Or And it's
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Speaker 1: into time to take some internal reflection and spend the
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Speaker 1: time on you, which we you know, equate to self love.
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Speaker 1: What am I getting all balled up about? Instead the
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Speaker 1: population goes on the attack. It's a very interesting process
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Speaker 1: when you think about it.
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Speaker 2: It's an opportunity for discernments.
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Speaker 3: So everything we've spoke about so far, it's an opportunity
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Speaker 3: to be in that place of feeling inside the self
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Speaker 3: and seeing how does this feel, what feels like truth
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Speaker 3: to me and what doesn't. And it's also opportunity for
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Speaker 3: others because I know of someone that does this is
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Speaker 3: they will go in and postings to these victim mentalities
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Speaker 3: in a way that it doesn't trigger them so that
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Speaker 3: they can try to hopefully see more than one perspective,
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Speaker 3: because that's the thing when we get.
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Speaker 2: Into this I'm right, you're wrong.
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Speaker 3: It's usually a single perspective. It's not we're not open
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Speaker 3: for any other information. And this person does present information,
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Speaker 3: so it's it's an opportunity for that too. It's and
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Speaker 3: it's an opportunity for growth because again there's going to
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Speaker 3: be someone out there that's going to be triggered now
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Speaker 3: that they even are learning what what does it even mean?
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Speaker 2: To be triggered, and it's so.
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Speaker 3: That it gives them the opportunity to start exploring and
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Speaker 3: learning more about themselves. So everything is like such an
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Speaker 3: opportunity out there. And then and it's an opportunity for
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Speaker 3: us that we're learning to love ourselves or do love ourselves,
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Speaker 3: to love the others where they're at, no matter where
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Speaker 3: they're at. Yeah, and then we're not feeding it either,
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Speaker 3: We're not feeding any of it. We're just giving them
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Speaker 3: love because loves where it's at.
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Speaker 1: Yep. And you love people where they're at and maintain
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Speaker 1: your sense of peace. And really, how many times I
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Speaker 1: know I've done several times when I got into it
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Speaker 1: and I was learning, I was gonna learn super hyper
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Speaker 1: learning mode that how many times has somebody said something
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Speaker 1: a text and you interpret it in a certain way
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Speaker 1: and you get all angry, upset, frustrated, irritated or whatever,
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Speaker 1: and you start sending that nasty text and then you
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Speaker 1: take a breath and you pause and then you delete it. Yes,
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Speaker 1: me contributing that energy in those words amplifies the situation.
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Speaker 1: And again it's a self reflection. Why is this making
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Speaker 1: me angry? Why am I getting frustrated? Why am I
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Speaker 1: upset depressed? Why am I having the emotional reaction based
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Speaker 1: on what they are saying or doing, even if it's
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Speaker 1: towards me, Because I'm assuming right, I'm interpreting this as
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Speaker 1: an attack on me through a text where I can't
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Speaker 1: see their face, I don't know their tone, I don't
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Speaker 1: know their body language. I don't have anything else but
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Speaker 1: some words in the text. But my interpretation of it
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Speaker 1: is they're attacking me. Where if all the other components
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Speaker 1: were included, then you may have a different perspective. And
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Speaker 1: if you are in that space of learning mode, you
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Speaker 1: have a different perspective. If you're in a space of
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Speaker 1: victim mode, you have a different perspective. So it's like,
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Speaker 1: how much information do you have to help you take
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Speaker 1: a step back, take a breath, and go wow, what
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Speaker 1: is my responsibility in this interaction? How can I deflate
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Speaker 1: this within myself? Not necessarily with the person, but in myself.
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Speaker 1: How can I just take it down a few notches?
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Speaker 1: What is it that's really going on? Well, rejection, abandonment, abuse,
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Speaker 1: all stored in me that's causing me to perceive this
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Speaker 1: experience as an attack.
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Speaker 3: Nice And also, as you were speaking, there was something
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Speaker 3: that was coming to my mind to almost like have
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Speaker 3: a response to I have eliminated it because I noticed
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Speaker 3: I was sitting here and I was holding my hand
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Speaker 3: and I start I was almost starting to squeeze my hand,
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Speaker 3: and it's like, that's not a response that I need
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Speaker 3: to have. And that goes along with what you were
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Speaker 3: talking about in the last video. It's really paying attention to.
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Speaker 2: Your to all of this.
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Speaker 3: We've got this vehicle that we travel around and it's
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Speaker 3: constantly as gauges that are going off all the time,
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Speaker 3: and it's like, do you have to wait till it
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Speaker 3: gets so extreme that it says you have no oil
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Speaker 3: left in your vehicle or you or is it this
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Speaker 3: light where I noticed I was kind of holding my
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Speaker 3: hand almost like pinching. I just recognized that. I was like, oh, okay,
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Speaker 3: well that doesn't feel good. If that doesn't feel good,
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Speaker 3: then release the thought. So as soon as that popped in,
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Speaker 3: I released it. But it was something to go along
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Speaker 3: with everything else with awareness being in the now. I'm
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Speaker 3: listening to the conversation. Then all of a sudden, I
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Speaker 3: keyed into myself for a second and noticed that and
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Speaker 3: it doesn't have to I mean, it's something so simple,
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Speaker 3: and I deflated it right there. I mean I deflected it.
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Speaker 3: I switched gears, I turned that switch off. My machine
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Speaker 3: automatically started running after that, and I noticed that I
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Speaker 3: was very calm inside. And it's something so subtle, like
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Speaker 3: you was talking about. I think it was in the
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Speaker 3: last video. I want to mention in this video, with
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Speaker 3: a breath, just taking the time for that breath, that breath,
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Speaker 3: it does everything. And then it's like checking in with
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Speaker 3: your vessel real quick time ago you had taught about
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Speaker 3: and you still teach about it. But it's like, we
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Speaker 3: don't have to react, we can stop, We don't have
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Speaker 3: to have a response right this moment. Take a breath,
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Speaker 3: take a few, you know, take a few breaths. Tell
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Speaker 3: someone you'll get back to them. You know, it's all
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Speaker 3: these things, but it's giving yourself space to recognize what
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Speaker 3: do you really want?
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Speaker 2: And not from the mind space.
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Speaker 3: Because that's such an easy space to get into to
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Speaker 3: rationalize everything, but from the body space.
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Speaker 2: What is your body telling you mm hmm.
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Speaker 1: Yep. And when you're feeling those aches and pains in
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Speaker 1: your body, your stress, you're hanging onto your stress in
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Speaker 1: those areas, and what does it mean you have to
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Speaker 1: Each person has to discern that for themselves. My discomfort
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Speaker 1: in my body related to stress and stress is just
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Speaker 1: for the most part, me perceiving a situation in a
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Speaker 1: way that's creating the stress in me like I'm creating
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Speaker 1: it because I'm seeing this through my eyes, my program,
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Speaker 1: in my belief system, just like I talked about earlier,
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Speaker 1: and when I can take a breath and go okay,
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Speaker 1: well what is this really, I can release those discomforts
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Speaker 1: in my body. It's not about somebody else changing. It's
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Speaker 1: not you know, BEV needs to change so I can
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Speaker 1: feel better, or or or the president needs to change
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Speaker 1: his attitude. Yeah, No, it's me. It's me and how
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Speaker 1: I'm perceiving the situations. It's not on anybody else. And
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Speaker 1: how many times in our life we said, well if
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Speaker 1: they would do this and then and then, and then
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Speaker 1: I would be better. No, I hate to tell you this, No,
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Speaker 1: you can be better now because if you don't do
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Speaker 1: it now, that person may change and you may think, Okay,
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Speaker 1: well they're doing things the way I want them to now,
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Speaker 1: and now I'm feel better. Somebody else is going to
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Speaker 1: fill their spot because there's something for you to learn
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Speaker 1: that you haven't learned yet, and somebody is going to
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Speaker 1: keep filling that spot to help you realize it is
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Speaker 1: not about them. It is about you every single time,
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Speaker 1: no questions.
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Speaker 2: Asked, every single every time.
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Speaker 1: And I speak from the experience of thinking I was
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Speaker 1: a control freak that you need to change for me
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Speaker 1: to feel better. You need to do what I want
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Speaker 1: you to do so I can be happy. It was
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Speaker 1: never about that. It was me being.
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Speaker 3: Happy just because yeah, and then they would change. So
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Speaker 3: in my experience, they would change, and then I would
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Speaker 3: find something else that need to change, It needed to
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Speaker 3: be fixed. There was like you said before, it's it
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Speaker 3: could be with the same person, and it's like it's
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Speaker 3: very taxing on the other person, especially if they feel
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Speaker 3: the obligation or responsibility to take care of that other person,
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Speaker 3: which again is all learning because I've gone the whole
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Speaker 3: full cambit on that I feel like I.
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Speaker 1: Have, and you're putting them, you're putting that other person
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Speaker 1: in a position of nothing they do is ever going
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Speaker 1: to be right for you, because you're always going to
23:14
Speaker 1: be nitpicking what they're doing. So because it's not your
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Speaker 1: way or you're not they're not meeting your expectations, and
23:23
Speaker 1: even if they did again, even if they did whatever
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Speaker 1: it was you needed to learn about yourself, you didn't learn.
23:30
Speaker 1: So somebody else is going to fill that position. They're
23:34
Speaker 1: gonna be like, hey, I'm the new employee, now here
23:36
Speaker 1: to rock and roll your world. So here we go.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, because no matter what, you take yourself with you,
23:43
Speaker 3: no matter what, every single time and and everything you
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Speaker 3: just said was something that I've experienced actually recently, and
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Speaker 3: now I have an awareness of it, and so I'm
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Speaker 3: no longer in that space of even it's so freeing
23:58
Speaker 3: when you walk through these paths, but it just feel
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Speaker 3: like it when you're walking through it, right, it does.
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Speaker 3: But once you get to the other side, you recognize
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Speaker 3: the freedom that you now have well, and the freedom
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Speaker 3: that you've given everybody else too, because you're not it's
24:12
Speaker 3: they can do whatever they want.
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Speaker 2: It's their life.
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Speaker 1: Yes. And even me having my recent uh stressful experience,
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Speaker 1: was still all about me. It was still all about
24:24
Speaker 1: how I was perceiving it and I know it, but
24:27
Speaker 1: I got so riled up by somebody else that I
24:31
Speaker 1: allowed them to affect me in such a way that
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Speaker 1: I got upset, and then I you know, got angry,
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Speaker 1: where really I could have deflected that whole thing if
24:46
Speaker 1: I would have sat with myself and said, Okay, what's
24:48
Speaker 1: really going on here? And what really was going on
24:51
Speaker 1: is I was feeling out of control, and so they
24:57
Speaker 1: just showed up to have the experience with me so
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Speaker 1: I could have that self realization because it really, to
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Speaker 1: be honest, it really pisses me off that when somebody
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Speaker 1: does something and I get stressed out about it, I
25:15
Speaker 1: am allowing them to control me, even though they don't
25:17
Speaker 1: know that I'm allowing them to control me because I'm
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Speaker 1: the one that got stressed out about it, angry, upset.
25:25
Speaker 1: So then I'm I'm mad at myself because I allowed
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Speaker 1: that to happen. Now I'm like, all right, damn it,
25:31
Speaker 1: this ain't gonna happen again. What's going on to me? Right?
25:34
Speaker 1: And then that self reflection pops in. So yeah, it's
25:36
Speaker 1: a whole It's a whole thing always, it's a constant thing.
25:43
Speaker 1: And if and and really, if you're not on that
25:45
Speaker 1: wheel of being willing to have an experience, recognize how
25:50
Speaker 1: you are affected, take the time to learn and grow
25:53
Speaker 1: from it, and then the next and keep going with
25:56
Speaker 1: that cycle, you are always, always, always, for the rest
25:59
Speaker 1: of your life. As long as you are in this
26:03
Speaker 1: what do I call a human the human spirit vehicle.
26:08
Speaker 1: As long as you are in your human spirit vehicle,
26:10
Speaker 1: you're not going to learn the lessons that you came
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Speaker 1: to learn because you're going to stay in that victim
26:14
Speaker 1: mode of poor me, woe is me? Everything happens to me,
26:18
Speaker 1: life sucks, and all the things. You have to get
26:20
Speaker 1: on that cycle of experience, emotions, mental, What did I
26:27
Speaker 1: learn next? Like, you just keep going through those motions.
26:35
Speaker 1: Is it easy? Not at all? Is not easy. I'm
26:38
Speaker 1: not going to say it's easy by no means, but
26:42
Speaker 1: you do have to keep moving forward and processing these emotions,
26:48
Speaker 1: your mental thoughts, your physical state, your spiritual connection. Like
26:52
Speaker 1: it's just and how are people? How are people contributing
26:56
Speaker 1: to those experience for you so that you can continue
26:59
Speaker 1: to learn and grow. If you were sitting in a
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Speaker 1: room by yourself, there is no growth. There is in
27:05
Speaker 1: different ways, and that's a whole other conversation. But people
27:08
Speaker 1: showing up to create situations that get your attention to
27:13
Speaker 1: make you do things that are on a personal development,
27:16
Speaker 1: uh trajectory. That's why you know, that's why we need
27:21
Speaker 1: each other. So tomorrow, Beth, piss me off, so I
27:25
Speaker 1: can go do some self re left reflection, figure out
27:27
Speaker 1: why you did this, why I reacted the way I did,
27:30
Speaker 1: or why I thought this way, so I can learn
27:32
Speaker 1: and grow so I can keep moving on. Right, It's
27:34
Speaker 1: like we need these people in our lives to help
27:36
Speaker 1: us keep moving in a in a I'm going to
27:40
Speaker 1: say better direction, but within yourself. Better within yourself.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, beneficial because it's beneficial to yourself and to the others.
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Speaker 1: Yep. And it's up to me to learn about the situation.
27:55
Speaker 1: Whether Bev gets anything out of the situation or not,
27:57
Speaker 1: that's on her. There's nothing to do with me. I
27:59
Speaker 1: learned what I need learn. I'm going to keep going.
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Speaker 1: If she stays stuck in her shit, and then somebody
28:04
Speaker 1: else is going to come and stir her world up.
28:07
Speaker 1: They're going to keep They just keep coming and stirring
28:09
Speaker 1: her up until she finally besides, what she's doing isn't
28:13
Speaker 1: working and then needs to make a change. And then
28:14
Speaker 1: that making and the change is what did I learn?
28:17
Speaker 1: What did I learn? How can I change it? So
28:19
Speaker 1: if it happens again, I do better. At that point,
28:22
Speaker 1: you got to get off the cycle.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's really awesome if you have someone like
28:28
Speaker 3: you or might have other relationships too with you know,
28:33
Speaker 3: like the relationship that we have that can come to
28:36
Speaker 3: you and tell you things.
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Speaker 2: For you to reflect upon without triggering you.
28:41
Speaker 3: And so you have an opportunity to look at things
28:43
Speaker 3: for your own growth. And so I've I've had a
28:45
Speaker 3: lot of experience with that too, and that's been very
28:47
Speaker 3: beneficial for me. Why because I'm willing to look at
28:50
Speaker 3: it and not from any space but from a hmm.
28:53
Speaker 3: If I've been doing that, what does that look like
28:55
Speaker 3: in all aspects of my whole experience? And I've been
28:59
Speaker 3: processing a lot of that too. That's been there's been
29:01
Speaker 3: a lot of stuff lately processing. But it's so beneficial.
29:06
Speaker 3: It's so beneficial. Otherwise you're still carrying around that bag
29:08
Speaker 3: of crap and I no, thank.
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Speaker 1: You, yeap, my bag is I think my bags about
29:13
Speaker 1: that big? Now there's stillsa never once.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, it's the size of a simple.
29:21
Speaker 1: It's like, damn it.
29:25
Speaker 2: A lot of easier on your shoulders too.
29:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't have this big old roly you know,
29:30
Speaker 1: luggage bag. You know, the biggest ones you can get.
29:32
Speaker 1: I don't have that anymore. I have like a fanny pack.
29:35
Speaker 1: Like that's a comparison, right, Like luggage has gotten so
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Speaker 1: small now, and I'm so proud of myself for how
29:42
Speaker 1: far I've come. And there's still there are still things
29:45
Speaker 1: that are gonna get me, get my attention where I
29:48
Speaker 1: still have to learn and grow to me, it's a
29:51
Speaker 1: continuous thing as long as I allow it to be there. Yeah,
29:59
Speaker 1: great conversation, I get it anytime. Right, A fanny pack
30:03
Speaker 1: has a little clip, right, at any time, I could
30:06
Speaker 1: just say, like release it and let all of it
30:11
Speaker 1: go and not hang on to any of it. But
30:15
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, I've decided I need to carry something
30:18
Speaker 1: with me that I still need to learn and grow from.
30:21
Speaker 1: And here we're are, here, we are. Next thing is
30:25
Speaker 1: gonna be a little tiny clutch purse. So you know,
30:27
Speaker 1: I keep shrinking. So that's good, all right, friends. You
30:34
Speaker 1: know other people are having these conversations or seeking the guidance.
30:37
Speaker 1: So whether you share us our content or any other
30:40
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30:47
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30:50
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30:59
Speaker 1: uh TikTok. I know there's more I'm not saying, but anyway,
31:07
Speaker 1: we're here. If you have questions, comments, leave them in
31:10
Speaker 1: the comments. We'll come back to him as soon as
31:11
Speaker 1: we can, and you just keep learning and growing. That's
31:16
Speaker 1: what I think our spirits are here for, and we
31:19
Speaker 1: want to support our spirits in doing so. So any
31:23
Speaker 1: final comments.
31:24
Speaker 3: Let go, Just let go, Let go and go within
31:28
Speaker 3: go trying to hold on to everything, but trying to
31:30
Speaker 3: control everything.
31:31
Speaker 2: Just let go and watch how your.
31:33
Speaker 1: Life changes, like let go of the handle of the suitcase.
31:36
Speaker 2: That's right, exactly, exactly all.
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Speaker 1: Right, friends, thanks for hanging out with us, teach time
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Speaker 1: with Amien Bab. We'll see you next time.
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Speaker 2: Bye,