Latest / Wellness in Today's World / Ep. 18: Mastering Pressure: How Athletes Thrive Under Stress
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- 0:05Hello and welcome to "Wellness in Today's World," a space where we talk about the latest insights in wellness, psychology, and mental health.
- 0:14Thank you for being here today.
- 0:16Today's episode is focused on performance, identity, and mental health.
- 0:22We are going to unpack the benefits of sports psychology in high-performance situations and learn about what kind of skills
- 0:34that a sports psychologist would use with athletes.
- 0:39Today, we have Dr.
- 0:40Sara Hickmann.
- 0:41Dr.
- 0:42Hickmann is a sports psychologist who has over 20 years of experience with high school, college, and professional athletes.
- 0:53She has worked as an embedded psychologist with the Los Angeles Kings hockey team and the Los Angeles Clippers
- 1:02professional basketball team.
- 1:04She also has worked with the New York Jets football team as well as the Brooklyn Nets basketball team.
- 1:12I'd like to welcome you here today, Dr.
- 1:16Thank you Debra.
- 1:16It's great to be here and thanks for having me.
- 1:19You're welcome.
- 1:19I'm gonna call you Sara from here on out.
- 1:23Perfect.
- 1:23Okay, let's start off with what led you to becoming a sports psychologist?
- 1:30Yeah, so I mean, I think like a lot of people who go into psychology, they have a life experience that shapes them.
- 1:36And for me, it was gymnastics.
- 1:38I know we share that in common.
- 1:39You also competed in gymnastics.
- 1:41I found that as much as I loved it physically, mentally, it took a huge toll on me.
- 1:47As a young person, I didn't really know how to deal with the ups and downs and the big highs and lows that came with competition.
- 1:55And I really struggled with kind of the emotional, psychological space that was required, especially in a dangerous activity like gymnastics, where you flip upside down, you can
- 2:07really hurt yourself and injure yourself.
- 2:09So you have to find ways of being confident and focused and prepared so that when you go on under pressure, you're able to do well and stay safe and...
- 2:21and feel good about yourself.
- 2:23And many times I would make mistakes or fall off the beam and the coaches didn't really know how to deal with me.
- 2:31They didn't know how to guide me mentally.
- 2:34They just said, "Shut up and move on.
- 2:36Like, let's let this go and get over it." And I couldn't easily get over it.
- 2:41I was a perfectionist.
- 2:43It was something I wanted to do perfectly.
- 2:46And that in and of itself created a lot of pressure.
- 2:49So...
- 2:49From a very young age, I knew I wanted to be a sports psychologist to help young people deal with that environment that can be so challenging.
- 3:01Yeah, you know, I know as we were talking about this podcast, you really wanted to focus on that pressure that young athletes face.
- 3:12So tell me a little bit about your experience in working with athletes and the pressure that they find themselves under, especially when it's a high-stakes event.
- 3:22Yeah, I mean, I think it's amazing to see how early it starts with young people, the demands on them, whether it be evening practices.
- 3:33I had one high school student who told me she started her hockey practice at 9:00 at night and had to be at school, you know, in the morning at 7:30 a.m.
- 3:43So she wasn't getting home until midnight and then was hungry and had to eat.
- 3:47So even from 16 years old, it was the pressure of time, the pressure of no sleep, the pressure of energy management, expectations from coaches, from parents.
- 3:59Parents tend to put a lot of time and energy and money into their young kids, their sports, and it costs a lot of money to have ice time or court time or...
- 4:11you know, go drive them around, fly to different tournaments.
- 4:15So the young person kind of feels all of that and feels now they have to perform at high levels.
- 4:22They have to advance.
- 4:23There's a lot of social pressures.
- 4:25They feel like they're missing out with their friends and being able to be normal.
- 4:29I could never really go to things on the weekends because I had practice or meets.
- 4:35And my young athletes now express similar things, that they feel
- 4:39kind of out of the loop with their friends, that they have to focus so much on getting better and doing well and preparing that they miss out just kind of being a kid, just
- 4:49having fun and being free.
- 4:50There's often such demand that there's no downtime.
- 4:54They don't have an offseason anymore.
- 4:57It's kind of year-round training, even as early as elementary school.
- 5:01You know, I hear parents talk about, you know, travel ball, fall ball, winter ball, summer ball.
- 5:06There's every kind of season of ball and it's hard for them to feel like they can just take a break, without missing out or falling too far behind.
- 5:16And it leads to injuries.
- 5:17It leads to burnout.
- 5:18It leads to a lot of anxiety and stress.
- 5:21And so, if they're lucky, they find themselves in my office or someone equivalent to me to be able to kind of unpack
- 5:27and sort all those things out, to put things in perspective.
- 5:31Because there are higher-pressure things coming, including trying out,
- 5:36right? They have to try out to make the
- 5:37team. They have to see if they can get on the best high school
- 5:41team. And then of course they want college scouts to see them and perform under the pressure of a scout evaluating
- 5:49them. And then the college athletes, if
- 5:54are talented enough, they have their sights on the pros and being able to get signed with the best colleges, with the best amount of money, the most amount of money with NIL money.
- 6:05There's a lot of pressure to keep their brand up, the social media presence.
- 6:10And so there's a lot, and there's only 24 hours in a day and we're hoping they're sleeping for eight of them.
- 6:17And a lot of them are trying to juggle school or other
- 6:22things. Even
- 6:23professional sports, you know, they have families, they have loved ones, they have kids who want them to be there at their school play or their sports.
- 6:32And so I think you see a lot of pull to be in different places.
- 6:38Yeah, you talked a lot about expectations and now the cultural context of NIL, social media, expectations, and betting, which has really changed on these young athletes.
- 6:58I mean, student athletes, but also
- 7:01you were even talking younger.
- 7:03I know kids that are playing soccer now and the pressure they're getting, you know, "I have to try out for the club team," you know?
- 7:11And so talk about that pressure that these young athletes are having to face and deal with.
- 7:17Yeah, I think there are so many places they're looking for approval.
- 7:22So when you say "expectations," there's expectations from parents that might be inherent, that aren't like spoken.
- 7:29A lot of parents will say, "Well, I tell my, you know, my son or daughter that I just want them to have fun." But those same parents are...
- 7:37the child is looking at, or the young person is looking at them, spend money or spend their time.
- 7:43And so they do feel a sense of obligation
- 7:46to do well and make this work out.
- 7:49But there's expectations from coaches, from teammates, from friends.
- 7:52Once you are good at something, once you become exceptional, now people kind of pay attention to you.
- 8:00They start noticing you, they start watching you, they follow you.
- 8:05And there's this belief of, "I have to sustain that.
- 8:08I have to keep that level of performance.
- 8:10And how do I outdo myself time after time after time?"
- 8:15So a lot of times, the pressure comes from needing to be a high level night after night after night, right?
- 8:24These athletes are all talented, otherwise they wouldn't be on the court or on the field or on the ice.
- 8:30But can they do it night after night, day after day, game after game?
- 8:35That is the true stress that can come with that.
- 8:39And as we see now with the playoffs in some of the sports
- 8:43there's more at stake.
- 8:44There's more money at stake.
- 8:46There's jobs at stake.
- 8:47There's, you know, expectations from fans, now that fans can bet on individual athletes.
- 8:53And you see athletes kind of cracking, moreso.
- 8:57The same athlete who can catch a ball easily in practice will drop that ball in a playoff game because their focus is in too many different places.
- 9:09Their mind and the,
- 9:11pressure on their mind is creating self-doubt.
- 9:14So it can create an environment that's not ideal for performance, for high performance.
- 9:22You know, you're talking about those moments that you're being called on and it's like having to do it time and time again.
- 9:32So I wanted to ask you about the clutch performance and the choking.
- 9:38I mean, I think about a clutch performance and I think about Freddie Freeman, because I'm an LA Dodger fan, and he hit that home run,
- 9:47and it was at the end of the game, they won, you know, he came through.
- 9:53And so what is the difference between someone that's able to do a clutch performance versus someone that underperforms in those situations?
- 10:04Yeah, so I mean, think Freddie has the opportunity to choke.
- 10:08We just want to be clear that every high performer has the ability to lose it and to fall apart.
- 10:15But what helped Freddie in that moment is likely where he was mentally, right?
- 10:22Because he hopefully saw that as an opportunity, as something he wanted to do, that he knew
- 10:29and believed in himself to be able to do.
- 10:31He wasn't thinking about, "Oh, man, if I miss this, blah, blah, blah." He was thinking, "All right, here we go." Probably.
- 10:38I mean, I can't speak for Freddie.
- 10:39Of course.
- 10:40I would love to know what was going on in Freddie's mind.
- 10:43And hopefully when he was interviewed by the media, some of what I love to do is read the media comments of athletes' quotes because it kind of gives us an insight into what was
- 10:53going on in their mind at the time.
- 10:54A lot of them will say, "I wasn't thinking at all.
- 10:57I was just focused on hitting the ball as hard as I could, as far as I could." And really simplifying it to, he's done this before, he's prepared, he's probably visualized this
- 11:08ball going out into the stands or high, you know, into the stands and not giving the other team a chance to even play defense, right?
- 11:18So he probably saw that moment as opportunity and not pressure and not a place he could fail.
- 11:26Because when you feel good, when you're like at your best and you're ready, you're excited, you're happy, you are likely to play free and you play smooth and easy and in a
- 11:38flow state.
- 11:39If you're worried and doubting and thinking, "Oh, man, what if I blow this?" That is going to create tension in your body.
- 11:47It's going to create stress hormones in your body.
- 11:50It's going to create the mind racing and overthinking it.
- 11:54So,
- 11:55those are things that contribute to underperforming or choking.
- 11:59When we think of "choking," it's basically an athlete who can do a skill, right?
- 12:04They are able to do the skill and they're able to do it usually 10 out of 10 times without much thought.
- 12:11But when we add the expectations, the what could be lost, "when I don't do this" into the mix, we now create something that
- 12:23is a fight or flight response.
- 12:24It's a fear response.
- 12:26It's a, "Oh, no, what if I don't?" And we don't tend to be at our best in a fear response, in a fight or flight.
- 12:35If this is a threat, something that could hurt me.
- 12:37We want to see it as like, cool, let's see how this goes, right?
- 12:41Like, let's do this thing.
- 12:43And so an athlete's self-talk is huge in that moment.
- 12:46Yeah.
- 12:47One of the things that I think about is Simone Biles had the "twisties" or other athletes may call it the "yips." Tell us about that particular maybe mindset or situation that
- 13:01athletes find themselves.
- 13:02Phenomenon, right?
- 13:03It's a phenomenon of where an athlete who is so super skilled, who is elite, who is the highest performer in their sport, can no longer do the basics of their sport in that
- 13:15moment.
- 13:16And when we think about the Olympics, the buildup of the Olympics is off the charts.
- 13:20I mean, you're preparing for four years to compete and you have one shot.
- 13:25And that is probably the highest amount of pressure an athlete could experience.
- 13:30You know, an NBA season has 82 games, an NHL season's 82 games.
- 13:35Playoffs, you have multiple games.
- 13:37But this, in gymnastics, you have one shot to go do your routine.
- 13:42And so what can happen is this logjam of your mind, where you stop sending signals freely to the body.
- 13:50That is muscle memory, right?
- 13:54There goes my muscle memory of being able to talk.
- 13:57It is being able to
- 13:59really have that smooth connection of, "Easy.
- 14:01I got this!" Suddenly when you do have a complex, very difficult skill like Simone was trying to execute, that is a higher level of processing.
- 14:13But she's done this before, right?
- 14:15So for her even, that was still something her brain/body needed to be in sync with and usually was.
- 14:22And she talked about that in post-competition interviews, which was that her mind and body were not connected.
- 14:28They were disconnected and she became afraid because what she was doing was very dangerous.
- 14:34And when the mind/body are no longer syncing up, that presents a danger again.
- 14:40It's danger.
- 14:41So at our core, we are designed to protect ourselves and that is going to trump anything else, including performing at the Olympics.
- 14:51If she believed she could die or severely hurt herself, then her fight or flight and her
- 14:58reaction to freeze and not move forward.
- 15:01So there's fight, fight, flight or freeze again.
- 15:06And sometimes we
- 15:07freeze. We just say, "I can't do
- 15:09this. I can't move forward." Some research studies have shown that when we have too much pressure,
- 15:15right? So there's kind of this ideal amount of pressure where when it's too little, we don't care that
- 15:20much. When it's too high, the brain stops sending signals of
- 15:26of being in motion because it's trying to conserve and protect us.
- 15:31So if we now get into that high level of pressure where we feel that exceeds our resources, like "I can't handle this," then our brain actually functions differently in
- 15:44terms of how it messages our body for movement.
- 15:48So we want to respect that in terms of being mindful of...
- 15:54Our own resources matter, our own internal world matters, what we think of ourselves, our ability to see this is something I do, it doesn't define me.
- 16:05It's not my whole life, my whole world.
- 16:07Sometimes that helps reduce the pressure of being able to relieve some of that pressure.
- 16:15Because when you apply too much pressure in any one situation, it can turn into where it's too much for that person,
- 16:23despite how talented they are, despite how well they've done under pressure before.
- 16:28So yeah, I think sports psychologists are uniquely designed to handle that kind of situation and be able to understand what's going on for the athlete and help walk them
- 16:39through in a safe manner.
- 16:43So how would a sports psychologist kind of deal with, you know, they're walking into this high-performance situation or event like the Olympics where you get one shot and only one
- 16:56shot.
- 16:57Yeah.
- 16:57So I love the media, how they always, they hype it up, right?
- 17:01Like you hear this a lot, or coaches hype it up, or even fans hype it up: This is one shot.
- 17:07You've got to do this.
- 17:09And for some athletes that hypes them, that makes them excited.
- 17:13That's like, yes!
- 17:15For other athletes, it's like, "Oh no, that's a lot." So some of the work with the individual or team athletes, it's, "Is that working for you?
- 17:25What works for you?"
- 17:26That hype out there, you don't have to buy it.
- 17:29It could fuel you, but it also might dampen you to where now you feel worse.
- 17:36So ignore it.
- 17:37If that's not helpful, like block out that noise.
- 17:42This is just another day at work.
- 17:43It's just another day at work.
- 17:46What you do out on the court or on the mat or on the beam or on the ice is no different.
- 17:53That 80,000 people are watching, a million people are watching, you can't focus on that.
- 18:00Your focus has to be on feeling good, feeling loose.
- 18:04And I know in your previous podcast in December, there were some really good suggestions given around sports psychology and pre-competition routines is one of them.
- 18:14I think how you prepare yourself and...
- 18:19really reducing how many decisions you have to make.
- 18:22So if you have to think, "Do I want eggs for breakfast or do I want yogurt?" Like that's reducing your battery.
- 18:28Having athletes have a morning routine, a pre-competition routine, helps them feel good.
- 18:34Being able to have them do activities that lightens their load, that makes things lighter.
- 18:39Because when you walk into the Olympics, the pressure's there.
- 18:42You feel it, your body feels it.
- 18:44You don't have to hype yourself up.
- 18:47So now we need to dial you down a little bit to kind of take that edge off because again, that arousal curve, if it's too high, we tend to have lower performance, our performance
- 18:59suffers.
- 19:00So we want to kind of keep ourselves in that sweet spot of feeling good, feeling focused, comfortable, at ease.
- 19:07An "I got this" kind of mentality.
- 19:09So, self-talk, visualization, pre-competition routines.
- 19:14And I want to be clear, self-talk has to be believable.
- 19:17So we can't just say, "Go have fun" if it's actually not that fun to be in these circumstances.
- 19:24Sometimes it's not that fun to show up to work day after day after day and be our best.
- 19:30Athletes, they have a job to do just like an executive or a musician or any other high performer.
- 19:38And sometimes work is hard.
- 19:41It's a hard day at the office.
- 19:43It's not going to be the easiest, but I can find a way to still be at my best.
- 19:50Even in these circumstances, I can be comfortable being uncomfortable.
- 19:54And finding a way to prepare for that is important.
- 19:58I think using self-talk that's believable, and I will work with athletes a very long time on creating just the right thing to say in just the right moment.
- 20:09So there isn't one size fits all for every athlete of how they talk to themselves.
- 20:14But being able to know that you have support, being able to feel that you've survived adversity, that you're resilient and focusing on your effort and attitude.
- 20:25'Cause at the end of the day, Sean White has, he has a great video where he talks about, you know, he got injured and he had to fight to come back.
- 20:33And then he's standing at the top of his slalom run.
- 20:36And he, his head's going a million directions.
- 20:38And finally he's like, "Who cares?" And that's what he said to himself.
- 20:43"Who cares?" And it lightened his load.
- 20:46It loosened him up mentally.
- 20:47And he slid down that hill and nailed it.
- 20:51And for him, that was the phrase that unlocked him and made him feel so, you know, at ease.
- 20:59And that's, that's the beauty and magic of how athletes can
- 21:03solve these puzzles and figure out what works for them.
- 21:06So talk to me about how athletes recover from failure.
- 21:13Ooh, yeah.
- 21:15Look at your face.
- 21:15I mean, even your face is showing like how painful that can be.
- 21:20Very, very painful to have something they care about so much not go their way.
- 21:25You know, even in, again, the playoffs with the NFL, you saw players have a ball hit their face and...
- 21:31or drop a punt on a punt return.
- 21:34Something that, you know, you watch the athlete go to the sidelines and cover their face and cover their head with a towel.
- 21:41And I actually will give a shout out to Sean McVay, the coach of the Rams, after one of his players had a failure, he came over and just put his hand on his knee and said, you
- 21:51know, you couldn't tell what he was actually saying, but you could see that he was trying to give him encouragement and not let him swim in his, you know, his feelings and not be
- 22:00alone in the fact that we're a team and we make...
- 22:04people make mistakes.
- 22:05And so I thought that was great to see him really go out of his way in the middle of the game
- 22:10to attend and care for his one player who was hurting so much because he let his team down.
- 22:16And they ended up winning the game.
- 22:19So in some ways, that's something that an athlete can think, "This is the end of the world.
- 22:23This is the worst thing that I could have ever done." And ultimately, I try to help athletes determine between, is this a mini mistake?
- 22:33Is this a regular mistake?
- 22:34Is it a mega mistake?
- 22:35Because in their minds, they think everything's a mega mistake.
- 22:39And sometimes they're small mistakes that don't end up affecting the outcome of a game.
- 22:44But mentally they do have to learn how to let it go, how to do a hard right.
- 22:49Meaning, "I've got to just drop this and refocus and get my mind back on what I need to be doing," if it's during a game.
- 22:56I also love the idea of giving only a certain amount of time after a loss to let that be a thing that they think about and worry about.
- 23:04So oftentimes in the NFL, we would give the players
- 23:0824 hours.
- 23:09You get 24 hours to worry, feel bad, you know, but now fix it.
- 23:14How can you go back, evaluate what led to that mistake, whether it's mental or physical or both, and then work on addressing that so that you take your feelings and put it into
- 23:25motion and do something with it and about it instead of sitting and really, you know, letting that overwhelm you.
- 23:33So thanks for asking that question because it's so important.
- 23:37It almost seems like compartmentalizing it and resetting so that you can move forward.
- 23:43Yes, excellent.
- 23:44A reset is something I definitely teach as a skill of, what is your reset button?
- 23:48Is it something physical?
- 23:50Sometimes players will tie their shoe or they'll adjust their uniform or they'll look at the sky and point up or look at the scoreboard.
- 23:58And sometimes it's a phrase, you know, "next play." And they are able to do a reset where they let it go and refocus.
- 24:07So tell me, you know, we focus on mental health.
- 24:10And so I really want you to talk about, you know, both the young college and professional athletes and their mental health and keeping it in an optimal place.
- 24:24Yeah, I mean, I think fortunately we've seen more attention be paid to the mental health of athletes since the pandemic, especially, when a lot of athletes at all levels really
- 24:34were suffering from feeling isolated, from feeling lonely, from feeling disconnected.
- 24:40Our whole world was going through that.
- 24:42And I think what came to light, one of the benefits was how important it is to take care of your mental health
- 24:50in the face of all these demands that athletics typically puts on young people and professionals.
- 24:56I mean, all the way up, right?
- 24:57There's a lot of demands in terms of travel and practice.
- 25:00And as I alluded to before, all of the expectations.
- 25:05And so depression and anxiety are very real for athletes who have this grueling schedule and don't get to see their friends and family very often, might feel isolated, even though
- 25:16they're very...
- 25:17talented and get a lot of attention on social media, they might feel alone.
- 25:22And so one of the beauties and benefits of being a clinical and sports psychologist is that I do take the whole person into consideration when I work with them.
- 25:32And a lot of teams are beginning to hire people who have training in both clinical and sport performance.
- 25:39So we want to look at those things and make sure we're not missing out on
- 25:43things that may be hampering an athlete's ability to be their self, best self.
- 25:49One thing that we see a lot is
- 25:51trauma. So athletes will come in the door with a lot of trauma from their childhood or upbringing that tends to limit them and have maybe some internalized core beliefs about
- 26:02themselves in the
- 26:03world. And sometimes athletes develop OCD, Obsessive
- 26:09Compulsive Disorder, which requires a special type of treatment, as we know, to actually get better.
- 26:14They can hide within the world of sports very easily because their obsessiveness and compulsions are put to good use.
- 26:20So we want to be mindful of athletes and just what might be going on for them if they're not at their best and making sure to prioritize mental health as part of what will
- 26:32contribute to their high performance.
- 26:34And I would think that being very cognizant about their personal life impacting them, their professional life as an athlete.
- 26:43Absolutely, yes.
- 26:45Kind of making sure that we care about them in a holistic way and what's going on for them, you know, off the court and off the field.
- 26:53Oftentimes, you know, they bring that into the practice facility and sometimes they do need time to go deal with things.
- 27:01They need time away to go handle a personal matter.
- 27:05And, you know, how do we respect that and still, you
- 27:10know, allow room for them to be human.
- 27:12So as we kind of wrap up, what would you say, you know, because you've worked with all of these different athletes, but you know, in terms of what you've experienced, what would
- 27:25you say a key takeaway for the athlete and the non-athlete that you could use in your everyday life?
- 27:32Yeah, I mean, I think there's so many obviously that are tremendously helpful, but one of the things is find what works for you.
- 27:42Find what makes you feel focused and comfortable and at your best and be able to create a menu of things that you can turn to.
- 27:52I think too often we find something that works and then we just want to repeat that over and over.
- 27:59And that's why superstitions occur, right?
- 28:01Because we think, "Oh, it's the lucky t-shirt.
- 28:04It's the lucky sweatshirt.
- 28:05I have to keep wearing that because that's what made me perform so well." And then we get ourselves trapped, right?
- 28:13Part of wellness and why I think this podcast is amazing is because we're talking about flexibility, cognitive flexibility; being able to, to be water, to be able to adjust,
- 28:25adapt, and work with what we have.
- 28:28And that striving for excellence is an admirable goal.
- 28:33We can't be perfect in anything.
- 28:36And I don't tend to admire perfect people.
- 28:39So allow yourself to make mistakes and be real, be authentic, and still strive for excellence.
- 28:47All right, well thank you so much for joining us.
- 28:50I just, I thought the information and your experience helped me know more about high performance.
- 28:59And so I really appreciate you being here and thank you to the audience for being with us today.
- 29:06And just like Dr.
- 29:08Hickmann said, remember: Wellness is a journey, not a destination.
- 29:13So thank you, take care, and we'll see you the next time.