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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the The Moral Compass: Balancing Pious Intent with Right Action 2.2.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  If you have to wish VAT again, the sources in to wish VAT are
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  not so strong. They are hard to find.
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  Some of them are peak of Allah and the main idea, the themes
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  that the rabbi is bringing their fingers high regarding it rogue
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  and we saw that if you like going around, they bring
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  different sources, the Pele or it's something on on children.
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  So someone was told me something another idea of Hiroshima and
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  Perot. You often use that terminology
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  when it comes to it comes to Torah.
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  So you have a confusion to that. It's considered your also your,
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  your fresh creation and stuff like that.
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  Someone told me and two weeks what a long time ago, he told me
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  I was giving him a ride. He said, by the way, these guys
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  are a little he said they say that you you can create great
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  Torah on this day. So I was a little skeptical
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  person by nature. So I never heard this before.
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  OK, he told me. I think he told me you told me
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  from this thought I met or somewhere I sat down that night
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  literally to sit down and learn late the night it was.
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  And really, I don't know. I would never say this normally,
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  but certain ideas just started to flow and I wrote them down
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  even at the time and I took a problem, whatever I will.
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  And then there's something about this day that's very unique.
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  Tell her to explain exactly what it is because it's simple
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  weekday. It's not even the, you know,
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  weekday holiday. It's a regular weekday, all that
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  it really carries and it's real. Is he Shem?
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  I wouldn't know. We did last night.
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  We were just customs. That's it not involved.
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  But there's something special in the air and you'll be regarding
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  our children, regarding our performance of the sports.
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  And we said whatever it is, there's something special in the
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  air and is really a feeling even more if in too much about there
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  in this time. You know one of them Yanim is
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  supposed to appreciate is the fact that we have Israel.
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  These are things that we appreciate that shouldn't give
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  us the land. All these things are part of the
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  appreciation and the beauty of this time, mija.
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  Now let's go to Mesa Ishayim. We're in this Spock.
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  That is maybe my favorite spot is the whole book.
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  These paragraphs, we're talking about Mishkala Hasidut.
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  Mishkala Hasidut. We define it.
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  We'll start from page 421 and they go on to 422.
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  I think we really have to 422 and that is that a person should
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  be dedicated to being a chassis. Every person should be highly
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  motivated to do more and to perform and to do much thoughts
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  and develop and build organizations and all these
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  great beautiful things at the same time.
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  I mean you have to be careful to have the proper balance.
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  I'll give you we have a million examples that come to mind.
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  The example they Messiah Shane brings is when the rabbi's and
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  the story of the second Bethan Makdash on one rabbi named, I
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  think it's a Yochana Menzakaya. What was it, Rab?
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  Yeah, I was name. He was a rabbi who said when the
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  Caesars sent an animal to be served in the Bethel Mcdush and
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  someone placed a womb in the eye of that animal and they were
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  debating, shouldn't he serve that animal anyway so we don't
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  upset the authorities? Or should we not?
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  And this rabbi was a pious man, let's call him probably a sweet
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  man, probably somebody very dedicated to the laws of the
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  better. McDonald said you can't accept
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  an animal with the moon. OK, so how about we actually
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  kill the person who placed that moon deliberately in that animal
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  to put us in this particular mint?
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  Should we kill him? You can't kill a person who
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  plays the moon. People are going to think that
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  you kill people for making moves.
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  What should we do? Don't serve the animal by the
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  way, it's going to trigger the Caesar.
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  It's going to get him very upset.
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  As a matter of the Rabbi made that comment and they said based
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  on the rabbi's these are the words they plant top line of 421
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  Huma Shamardo Harman Sakai and Venuto shall be Zecharia, the
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  Piri iffaisna of his rabbi Hegriva Beteno.
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  The Rabbi being a sweet rabbi who didn't want to kill someone
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  for making a moon, who didn't want to accept Rabbi a man, the
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  rabbi who wanted to keep Alihad. If we didn't want to accept the
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  animal with the moon from the Caesar and because that he
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  triggered the authorities that is killing no one would have
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  been known that we didn't accept the Qurban.
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  But the rabbi didn't want to kill that person and he didn't
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  want to turned down, he didn't want to accept the Corban with
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  the moon. He said, he said turn it down,
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  don't hurt anybody, do it's right according to Allah and
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  what he do, he triggered the seizure.
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  What does it tell you? This tells you sometimes you
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  have to act the level of balance discipline, even at some level
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  of aggression. Sometimes you have to know that
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  it's not as simple as let's be sweet, let's be nice, or it's
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  not as simple as let's just call the Holocaust.
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  Let me give you a classic example.
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  Tell the classic example. You're having a conversation
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  about something that's very significant and you're talking
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  to someone who can make a difference.
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  It's a real example. You're talking to someone who
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  can make a difference about a suddenly very significant person
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  takes his fingers 600 to his ears.
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  And no, no, no, I don't listen to Sharna.
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  You're right. You don't listen to Sharna.
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  You're right. But you're the only person who
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  can make a difference on this matter and you shouldn't accept
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  the Hashanah's truth, but you should hear it.
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  That's the right thing to do. And when someone says I'll never
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  listen and because it's not going to be able to accept your
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  words and therefore stop something bad that's happening
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  because no LH for them, that person is doing more wrong than
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  right. In this type of case.
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  They have to weigh and have the balance to understand.
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  There's something called Mishka Lakhasidut when do you act like
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  a Hasid? Simple and when you have the
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  strength and another level, you go up a notch and say to
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  yourself, what's the right thing to do?
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  Not what's the simple sweet thing to do, what's the right
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  thing to do? And this goes both ways and it's
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  a very significant, very important concept that a person
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  has to live by and that is have to figure out what's right.
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  Sometimes it takes asking another person, sometimes it
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  takes a smell, taste, you know, maybe it takes your experience.
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  Y'all bringing something we have to figure out.
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  It's fine. You have to figure out what is
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  the right thing to do and like and it cannot be simply sweet.
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  It can't be simply oh, it's a beautiful thing to do.
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  It can't be simply an examples of building organizations.
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  Oh, let's build more Torah. It can't be that obvious.
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  It's got to be a little bit more fine than that as you're weaving
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  through and saying is this right, is this wrong?
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  Is it destructive or is without the all right?
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  This is a major challenge that a person has to figure out.
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  And over time, hopefully people learn right from Rome because
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  I'll tell you the truth, this is one of the areas that is the
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  most blatantly disregarded out there.
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  This idea. Let's see more.
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  All right, We gave an example of we said last week, he brings it
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  over here on bottom giving rebuke.
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  Do you give rebuke to someone that's doing something wrong?
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  You know someone that's doing something wrong?
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  You want to call him up and tell him PCMI.
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  Second, the bottom line on this page tells us you should get
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  rebuked. Sometimes you're going to get
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  rebuked and it's not really warranted.
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  It's the right thing. The person's doing something
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  wrong. You should tell them off, but
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  it's not going to help. All right.
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  What happens when you give the rebuke?
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  They got him like him late Paretz.
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  You tell British Arm and all you're doing is making the
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  person to a worse person. You're making the situation
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  worse. You're saying to yourself, I'm
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  saying something wrong, see something, say something.
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  I should be saying something. I should be stopping that
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  person. But all you go, the only effect
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  you're going to have is when you call them up and give a piece of
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  your mind. All you're going to do is make
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  the situation worse. We know how that happens.
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  Either the person double s down or the person now it's a little
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  bit highly motivated to continue going, whatever it may be.
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  And you're seeing there, you're saying yourself the right thing
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  is to stop. I want to call, I want to call,
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  I want to call. But now according to this
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  concept, the balance tells you if it's not going to be
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  productive, don't make that phone call.
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  That's balance, all right. And if it goes there and I'm a
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  constitute and such a situation, the right thing to do is to be
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  quiet. Kishim Shamitzva, Lamar davar
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  Anishima, the same thing at times.
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  The right thing to do is to say something that's going to be
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  heard. God mitzvah Shalom.
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  Equally as a point is don't say something if it will not have an
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  effect. And this is again an example or
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  you need that balance, right? I'll give you another classic
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  example. This is wild.
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  It brings an example. Should you be highly motivated
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  to do mitzvah? Maybe she jumped to do mitzvah.
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  Of course, jumped on myself. What if you jump into Masva,
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  right? I give you a classy example.
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  Someone needs to get to me out on time.
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  So he's driving very fast, right?
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  And the petition in the process, he in the process, should he cut
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  people off? He's got to Get Me Out on time.
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  Should he cut people off? What do you think?
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  I'll give you a more clear example.
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  Some of the fundraise for a SAGIC organization.
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  Should he take a list that was a private list that's not his to
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  make those phone calls? Should he do that or not?
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  It's a private list. The other organization has that
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  list. A limitation doesn't really give
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  it out. She should take that list and
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  make phone calls to our list. What do you think, David?
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  He's not supposed to. No, But I wouldn't think he's
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  raising money for Tara. He's running to get me on.
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  Yeah, but he's taking someone's private list to do it, right.
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  So these are example and there's a million more.
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  Let's continue to shoot you. It's simple.
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  That's a 8. I don't.
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  Think. That's a one.
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  I don't know. We haven't seen that before
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  either. I don't think that's just kind
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  of one, just kind of or something else.
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  It could be, but I don't know for sure.
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  I would just say. This Jessiano is not personal.
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  No it. Doesn't go out where you you've
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  seen it goes out what's? Available.
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  What about this this one? Is that the one I key?
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  Yeah, he said. The purple one.
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  I'm not sure that's either. I wouldn't say just in case.
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  Not worth because it's only even hugging you, right?
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  If it's the star apple and the purple white fruit, which is
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  this one? What's the star apple?
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  You have a *. Apple Yeah, right there.
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  So making sure count on that one.
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  So he says introduction, you know.
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  It's very important I. Mean he says, you know, it's
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  very important to be highly motivated to do mitzvah.
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  You should raise the do mitzvah. You should dump the do mitzvah.
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  You should be the first do mitzvah, right.
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  So what happens if you know there's an organization opening
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  up we discussed last week and you say I got to be highly
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  motivated to do mitzvah and you jump ahead of them and you make
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  a better organization. What do you think about that
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  guy? Do a beautiful thing.
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  Some of them or something's about to open organization.
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  Be highly motivated through your own Torah and own mitzvot.
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  So you jump and you put more effort than you make a better
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  organization. Beautiful thing or wrong thing
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  seems beautiful. The reality is, I'll tell you 2
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  layers. 1. It's wrong because often times
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  because the guy's not doing something that's proper, as
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  we'll see over here. Secondly, a big percentage of
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  such people are not even doing it for the right reason.
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  When you do something that's complicated, oftentimes the
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  Leishma aspect is out the window and the person is just doing it
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  for the sake of his own growth. Let's see over here.
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  Every person should be highly motivated to mitzvot.
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  Sure, you should be motivated to be the first guy in show he
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  never pamim. The reality is sometimes you're
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  going to create a bigger fight. So you're Ted Bazer mitzvah.
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  It's going to create more disgrace to the mitzvah with
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  Kaloba sham shamayim. You're going to create more Hulu
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  shamayim me Masjid cabet. You say what I mean.
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  I'm Craig. You do sham more Tora moment.
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  What more organizations you're going to create certain
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  situations more? Is that like if your wife
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  doesn't want you to go so early because you help her, and I said
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  I have to, I'm going to be the first batch rule?
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  So didn't that wife thing we discussed on Shabbat and the
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  half damn to class that wife thing is very debatable.
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  Why? But on the one hand it's
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  correct. But you have to be consistent,
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  which means fair at times. You should definitely many times
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  listen to the wife. I don't run to be the first
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  person, but be consistent. What about this coming Sunday?
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  If you're a guy who says I'm not going to go watch the game of my
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  friends because I have to hell about my wife, so you're a
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  consistent guy, really takes care of the wife, then you know
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  what, be that guy when he comes to me out as well.
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  But if that you're a guy who says it's coming Sunday, I'm not
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  around because the game is very important.
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  There's no school on Sundays. All right, That's true anyway,
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  but that's said to be consistent at that point because of the
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  word he tells you. The person who does leave them,
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  it's all alone and do the right thing.
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  It gives you a classic example. The Levim found out that the
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  best job is a Levi because the hold are on to carry the out on.
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  That's the one that gives you the most reward.
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  All right, so the old side to fight, who's going to be the one
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  to carry the out on Or I'll give you a modern day example.
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  Let's see, you have some sort of fight breakout about who gets
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  that Aaliyah, who gets that keyboard, who gets that
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  opportunity to speak right? A fight over the bar mitzvah
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  because it's more beautiful. What does he say?
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  She called me. Any person who gets to carry the
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  Arana Kodish, so saying it to themselves, each guy is saying I
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  get that, yeah and yeah, and I get that reward by you Manihin
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  ETA Suhan. No one was interested in
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  carrying the Suhan and the Minerala and then misbeyah in
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  the time of the bed, the mikashua, actually time of the
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  Mishkan. And they all wanted to carry
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  that on because it's a greater reward.
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  The Coulomb without seeing lot only toss the heart and they
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  would all fight over it. Now is that the right thing to
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  do? When we talk?
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  Ayazen believed or made our need to end kind.
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  Each guy would say I got it first, I got it first.
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  I'm carrying the Aron now. Play it out.
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  They're doing it to our mitzvah. They do sleep beautiful.
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  By the way, The holiest thing in the world was Aronia Koresh, The
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  number one holiest thing in the world.
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  Aronia Koresh. How holy was Aron?
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  If you picked it up, says the camera, you didn't pick it up.
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  When you lifted it up, it lifted you.
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  You held the bars held by the IT lifted you.
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  You flew without on the holy, holy essence.
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  It's the holiest existence in the world.
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  And they would have a fight. Who gets the fight you gets to
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  carry it out on? I got it first.
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  I got it first. Beautiful thing.
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  It carried out on, says Messiah Shanim.
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  Terrible thing. The guy who was racing to get to
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  the auto 1st and the fight that develops from that race, it's a
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  terrible, terrible thing. And someone got that thing
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  either paralyzed or very severely hurt the guy Brinks
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  because of this fight. It's a beautiful thing.
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  Don't carry that on. Don't we pay the Hazzan?
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  Yeah, so. So they shouldn't fight.
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  I don't even pay for that reason.
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  Yeah, we put Yeah. Oh, I've heard that.
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  OK, we talk a a Zen believe or Maddie used to fight.
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  I got it first. I got this side, I got the right
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  side. I get the left side.
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  You know a game Kalu cross vital Shahina to Ray by Shahinaw was
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  not around the Shahnaw wasn't happy.
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  So even though a person has to follow all the miss what you
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  have to figure out what's right or wrong.
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  You have to have a moral compass, and this is something
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  that to me is one of the most, I would say, lost arts out there.
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  It's something that every person rationalize what they're doing
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  and the thing that's been doing something beautiful.
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  And the reality, there are many people who think that they are
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  Sadiq came and their actions are as destructive as a shame.
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  That's a reality that exists in the world.
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  The guy walks around, he thinks he's a Sadiq.
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  He's building the world. And yet there are people out
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  there who have gotten severely hurt by this person and his
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  action and his building. And he's probably performing
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  more destruction and it is building.
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  That's because he doesn't have a moral compass.
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  What does a person need in order to figure out right from wrong
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  in this area, the truth in this one area?
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  You know what you really need? You need good.
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  You need good parents and good upbringing.
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  Because without good upbringing, a person can think he's doing.
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  I know many people to too many. I know some people that are in
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  certain fields, there are builders and they are
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  destroyers. In my humble opinion, they've
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  destroyed more than they built. That's just the way it is.
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  And you say to yourself, so how do you know right from wrong?
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  So many giant people, They have books writing about them that
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  they built. Well, one of the main factors
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  are how much destruction is being caused, how many people
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  are losing their job. I believe the quote the.
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  Road to Hell is paved with good intentions.
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  Yeah, yeah, it is. Where's that from, by the way?
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  Oh, doesn't say a way. It is the the the person can
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  they burn from Torah. They can learn from Torah and
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  they can learn from people around that.
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  They can learn from following the really righteous people.
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  The really righteous people would not be willing to harm
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  many people. Now, sometimes you have to build
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  and inadvertently it does hurt some people.
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  I can't tell you to just, you know, put your hands and say I'm
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  not going to do anything, but you have to, especially if
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  there's impact other people, Captain as he's up the question
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  a million time. You need to ask from great
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  people. You need to get guided by them.
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  And even if you ask great people, you need to have your
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  own moral compass to say to yourself, does this smell right
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  or does this smell wrong? There's a lot of people getting
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  getting affected by this good thing or bad thing.
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  Maybe I'm only involved because my motives.
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  How about this, Let's say you took myself out of the picture
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  or I tell the next guy who's doing this.
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  I probably tell them why get your hands dirty, right?
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  Oh, if it's building Torah, you need to know that's a debate.
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  If you find me. Yeah, but the whole system seems
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  broken because I find, you know, we live in a society where you
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  give caboting to the wrong people.
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  So. So usually, let's say, how do
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  you usually learn things? Let's say when I went to an
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  associate oshini, my wife sat for four years next to the guy
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  in shul and knows how to say Oshim.
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  You learn from that, correct. And those are all those guys
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  that are the guys that should get the honor, not that they
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  want it, but if you're talking about who should get honor in
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  the world, and it's never those guys, you know what I mean?
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  So it's very tricky as the as the adolescents are growing up
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  and they say, oh, that's that arrogance is what it takes to to
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  get honor or that type of behavior or whatever it is.
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  So it's like, well, I'm shaking for the kids, people.
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  Believe you're right. People believe that when they're
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  building these different things and carry themselves in a
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  certain way, they seem like builders.
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  They carry that title. The greatest title you can have
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  is either a visionary or a builder.
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  These are words that mean you're a guy, right?
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  And you're building, you're doing, you're doing.
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  And people get enamored by such people.
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  People get them, honor people, make them a big deal.
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  Well, that's correct. That does not play into the
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  reality of who's a good guy or a bad guy.
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  A good guy is someone who does build.
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  Sure, building isn't a significant thing.
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  And you know the community shaped by builders.
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  It's true. At the same time, knowing right
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  and just because it feels like a building does not really mean
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  it's the right thing. And even if the person is
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  getting honor, big deal, big deal about him, his name is
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  becoming famous, it still does not mean it's the right thing.
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  And nothing will really prove to anyone involved that it's the
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  wrong thing. Besides for my humble opinion,
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  two things. One, really great people can
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  smell the difference in right and wrong in these areas.
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  No one has their opinion when it comes to these matters, but
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  really great people know right from home.
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  And secondly, Hashem has away. That's what I've seen over the
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  years. Hashem has away a resetting the
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  score over and over again. So you have these people, the
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  builders, they're doing things there, maybe harming other
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  people. And then what does Hashem do?
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  Maybe I'll take five years, every 10 years, every 20 years.
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  Usually the score gets resettled, the situation gets
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  resettled, and they don't go all the way the whole life remaining
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  builder mentality, or they don't go all the way loomaning with
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  that sort of a sense of success. Why?
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  Because if you're now the schma, the person is not coming at
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  least partially with the right motivation.
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  It doesn't remain genuine and doesn't last.
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  It's a scary thing, but a person has to be very careful.
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  If you want to do something, you have to have the proper, as you
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  calls it, balance, which means you're weighing not what's
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  called the mitzvah, what's called Torah.
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  The more Hebrew words, the more dangerous it is, because the
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  person, he's doing good thing, right?
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  The more times the president said we're building in the
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  Torah, we're going to change the world also, the more risky it is
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  because once again, he's not being weary of the factors.
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  You have to include the whole picture.
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  Great people, really great people are sure they built, but
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  many of them also walked away from many situations.
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  Many of them stopped and said, oh, so and so.
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  He's trying to do something. I'm hurting him.
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  It's not for me. I'll do something else, right?
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  And this is a very delicate area and I'm not trying to judge
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  anyone who goes forward. You should go forward.
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  And by the way, anyone could say about any person, any rabbi, any
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  lady that you could say about him so and so, there was always
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  another guy trying, right? You look at any shul, any
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  school, any organization, there probably was somebody else who
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  might have had that idea 1st and then you came along and swooped
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  in and now there can't continue. That's true.
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  It's hard to know, but you have to factor in this balance,
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  what's right and what's wrong, what's considered really le
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  schma and what's not. If you figure it out, you can go
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  forward and you can do great things.
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  If not, then it might take a little while, but it will not
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  last because things that are made of fake existence and the
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  falling of heart, that's just the reality of life based on
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  knowing what's really right or it's really wrong.
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  You got a line that you quoted is very true.
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  How about the people? We gave this example last week
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  for people getting involved in fights or they say not they get
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  involved in fights. People take a side because they
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  want to support somebody and what do they create?
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  They create divorces. Sometimes they take a side and
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  they get in the person's ear and they're giving them a Zook and
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  that leads to or you know, so and so said I'm right.
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  So therefore I'm going to go forward and create fights.
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  That's the scariest. Thing and it's a dangerous area.
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  Where is it coming from? It's coming from someone who
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  thinks silly. Schma coming from someone who
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  thinks they're doing the right thing, be careful or you do
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  aggressive things and ask yourself the question, Am I
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  doing it for myself? Am I doing it for my hero
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  mentality? Am I doing it to be a builder?
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  In my mind, I'm doing it because I feel insecure Is all the
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  possibilities that are out there or am I doing it because it's
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  the right thing? Now if you figure out that it's
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  the right thing, if you ask, I don't know someone else.
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  Often times it's your wife, sometimes it's a sibling,
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  sometimes it's your mother, Someone out there who can see
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  the thing from a different picture and they tell you, I'm
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  not so sure it's right thing to get involved over here.
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  Stop debate it and if you don't go forward, you'll have the same
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  baraka. If you do go forward, you might
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  have more challenge. This is the balance that a
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  person has. It's called mischala hasidut.
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  The person's being a hasit. He's being a pious, righteous
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  person, but he needs to weigh it first is the idea.
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  That's very significant like that example where these people
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  raced to to the I believe it was and one person chipped another
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  person. He broke his leg and he even got
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  paralyzed. I believe why you're raising the
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  dual matzah be hurting another person in the practice.
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  That's the. Yeah, it's a combination of
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  both. You have to know what's right
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  and really tells you what the truth Torah is.
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  David. Not even separate.
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  Truth Torah is Surah, of course that's true.
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  You see that weddings, right? Guys born to go miss, but they
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  tramp on you to get food. Is that a lot of other areas of
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  weddings you see is to be 100%, you got to be very careful to be
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  a real, is he really a pious person or things things true,
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  That's it.