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Season 3 - Episode 164 - Are you the pin to your own balloon? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Have you ever been a pin to your own balloon?
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  Meaning have you ever just come up with this exciting, wonderful
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  thing that you want to do or something place you want to go
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  or just something that really thrills you?
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  And then all of a sudden your brain just clicks on and says,
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  well, let me tell you all the reasons why this isn't going to
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  work. Or let me tell you the reasons
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  why we shouldn't do this. And all of a sudden that
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  doubting damn part of the bus starts driving and before you
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  know it, you have become the pin to your own balloon.
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  You've popped the idea, you've said screw it, I'm not going to
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  do it or this isn't going to work and you've talked yourself
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  out of it before you even had a chance to bring a moment of it
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  to life. Well, we all do this.
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  And in my opinion, right now, this happens more than ever.
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  I can't begin to express to you how much I see people just
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  killing their own dreams, killing their own ideas, killing
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  their own excitement, stabbing themselves to the point where
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  they just feel defeated. And then it's like right back to
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  the rat race. Now there are there's a theory
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  out here about this as to, you know, why do people do this to
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  themselves? Why shouldn't you be the biggest
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  advocate for yourself? Well, one, it's because again,
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  our emotions are here to help us.
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  So when you start doubting that emotion is supposed to help you,
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  it's supposed to give you the ability to make sure that you
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  continue with caution, you proceed with caution.
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  But that's not what happens. We don't use it that way.
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  What we end up doing is we use it in a way that says, I'm just
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  going to kill the idea. I'm going to squash the whole
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  thing as opposed to I'm going to be thoughtful and I'm going to
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  look at this from a perspective, get down all the things that
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  could happen might happen, but you know, I'm still going to be
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  enthusiastic about it. And I recently saw this in my
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  own family because my daughter and her husband are thinking
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  about doing something and taking doing a side business.
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  And it's a great idea. It's a great idea.
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  And she has really just gotten to the point where, you know,
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  she had was like, well, I'm not sure.
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  And you know, the truth is, is the idea right for them?
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  The idea is an excellent idea. It might not be right for them
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  where they are at their point in their life, but it's an
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  excellent idea. But it didn't have to be killed
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  for the reason which she was doing it, because her reason was
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  very different than the actual reason.
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  And sometimes it takes an outside voice.
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  Sometimes you have to sit down with a trusted person who's not
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  going to just be negative to you, but it's going to actually
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  give you thoughts on it and say, well, here are the pros and
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  cons. Like that old school way of
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  doing a pros and cons list is actually very strong and very
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  powerful, but you've got to do it from neutral.
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  You can't do it from a place of saying, hey, I'm going to just,
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  I'm, I'm going to just put this on this piece of paper and beat
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  myself up about it. I'm just going to the pros and
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  cons list are going to just be that just pros and cons, but I'm
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  going to do it from neutral. I'm not going to do it from a
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  place of trying to really hard beat myself up for this idea and
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  thinking it's stupid, because the moment you start thinking
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  the idea is stupid, you're in the wrong emotion.
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  The moment you start thinking that you're anything other than
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  neutral about it, you're in the wrong emotion.
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  You know, I can't stress that enough.
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  I have to do that with myself all the time.
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  I recently was asked to go out and do a job at A at a big event
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  and I, I gave them a quote, went through the whole process and
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  actually sat there and said I'm totally neutral either way.
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  Don't care if I go, don't care if I don't go.
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  And that's the place that you want to be in when you've made a
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  solid decision. Like yes, I'd go, sure I'd go,
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  I'd be happy to go, but I don't care.
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  I'm detached from it and I'm doing it from the right emotion
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  as opposed to being negative and killing the dream because of
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  that fear or the anxiety or the frustration of not knowing how
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  to do something that is critically important.
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  You've got to like get past that.
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  You've got to get past that piece of yourself.
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  So I thought today it would be worth it to ask you guys, you
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  know, how many times have you wiped out your own dream?
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  How many times have you just said, you know, no, I'm not even
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  going to try. I'm not even going to see how I
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  can put it together. Because sometimes we look at it
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  and we just say, oh, man, this is so overwhelmingly big.
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  I'm never going to get this done.
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  I'm never going to have this happen.
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  And from that point, no, you will not.
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  From that standpoint, you will not make it happen because it's
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  not the right emotion to be in. But once you start to get out of
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  that emotion and you start to move up the ladder a bit with
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  it, you start to, or in my metaphor, move to the front of
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  the bus, get to the better emotions that you want at the
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  front of the bus, the ones that serve you better.
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  All of a sudden, everything starts to change.
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  So I'm going to challenge you guys to think about it.
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  How many times have you killed your own dream?
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  And are those dreams still back there lingering?
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  Are there things back there that you just know you know, would
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  mean something to you? Whether it's, you know,
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  finishing your college degree, whether it's learning to paint,
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  I don't care what it is. It could be.
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  Whether it's create your own business, who knows what it
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  could be. But the truth is, if it's back
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  there and it's still with you and you still think about it,
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  then work towards that finds the way to do it.
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  Have someone help you do something that would move you in
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  the right direction. Because I promise you, the level
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  of happiness you'll feel when you get there is astounding.
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  So I hope you guys have an amazing, amazing day and I will
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  see you all tomorrow. Bye.