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The Great Wedding Ticket Debate and If We Let Love Back In · All About The Joy

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Carmen Lezeth: Hey girl, how you doing.
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Carmen Lezeth: Hey everyone, welcome to All About the Joy.
0:04
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia and I are early because, you know, we chatted and we thought we'd share it, and then I'll delete it all for the podcast, because that's usually what I do.
0:12
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you're going to have to tell me about your week, but I'll just tell you.
0:17
Carmen Lezeth: So I have a.
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Carmen Lezeth: This tooth is actually really gray and black.
0:21
Carmen Lezeth: I need a new veneer and you know, if Tony hears that she's so bougie with a veneer, no, so this is a dead tooth.
0:35
Carmen Lezeth: This is the tooth that got knocked out when I was in color guard, so it's not even like a tooth tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: And for some reason I woke up the other day and I noticed it was gray and I was freaking out.
0:45
Carmen Lezeth: So I went and I saw my dentist, who you know I love.
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Carmen Lezeth: He's in my second book, I love Dr Vaziri, but anyway, I've been seeing him for like 25 years, I know, but he went in, he cleaned it out and stuff.
0:56
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, tony, how you doing?
0:57
Carmen Lezeth: And he can't get the gray out.
1:01
Cynthia: So I need a new veneer, even if they like bleach it or something.
1:07
Carmen Lezeth: He bleached it on the inside.
1:07
Carmen Lezeth: You can't bleach my teeth any more than they're already.
1:09
Carmen Lezeth: They're way too.
1:09
Carmen Lezeth: My teeth are already like way too white, and that's not even bleached.
1:12
Carmen Lezeth: That's hydrogen peroxide, people.
1:14
Carmen Lezeth: That's the trick, because that's what's in the white strips that everybody uses.
1:20
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, did you know that?
1:22
Carmen Lezeth: You know that because you work in the hospital.
1:24
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so so I rinse with hydrogen peroxide, but anyways.
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Carmen Lezeth: So he bleached the inside, like when he was in there.
1:31
Carmen Lezeth: He bleached the inside, but it's still.
1:32
Carmen Lezeth: It's like translucent.
1:35
Cynthia: Huh, I know, are you going to have to put a whole new one, or?
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Carmen Lezeth: A new veneer?
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because this is a dead tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: This isn't a real tooth.
1:43
Carmen Lezeth: It's a real tooth, but it's a dead tooth.
1:44
Carmen Lezeth: This isn't a real tooth.
1:45
Carmen Lezeth: It's a real tooth, but it's a dead tooth.
1:46
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, melanie, how are you girls?
1:49
Carmen Lezeth: Night girls.
1:50
Carmen Lezeth: Oh sorry, I just I ruined it I was like girls night.
1:56
Carmen Lezeth: I was like, oh, damn it, how you doing rick, good, good how you.
2:01
Carmen Lezeth: We're talking about the tragedy of needing a new veneer for my tooth.
2:07
Rick Costa: Oh.
2:08
Carmen Lezeth: I know it's so sad, anyways, but I'm working with lighting so you can't really see how black.
2:13
Carmen Lezeth: It's so funny because I'm so dramatic.
2:14
Carmen Lezeth: I was at the dentist yesterday and I was like it's black.
2:20
Cynthia: It is to me my son.
2:22
Rick Costa: he was really little, he must have been like six or something.
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Rick Costa: He was playing video games and then he got, for some reason, got on top of this chair and then his feet slipped, fell forward and broke his tooth and I was like he goes, dad.
2:42
Rick Costa: Look.
2:42
Rick Costa: I was like what the what's going on happened?
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Carmen Lezeth: he goes, he just broke the tooth.
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Rick Costa: I think I broke it like it broke off and I go where is it?
2:50
Rick Costa: I don't know.
2:51
Rick Costa: I was like, did you swallow?
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Rick Costa: He goes maybe.
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Rick Costa: I was like, oh my god, your mother's gonna kill me, like it's my fault.
2:57
Rick Costa: But I said, does it hurt?
2:58
Rick Costa: He goes.
2:59
Rick Costa: No, I don't feel anything.
3:00
Rick Costa: I was like, oh, okay, well melanie just said hi rick whenever oh, hello, hello, hello, hello.
3:05
Carmen Lezeth: So what did you do?
3:07
Rick Costa: So he ended up having to go to the dentist.
3:09
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, my tooth got knocked out by a rifle.
3:11
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, what A spinning rifle.
3:13
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it got hit in the mouth and it got knocked out.
3:16
Carmen Lezeth: And when Laura comes by and visits Laura Wall, it was her mom who took the.
3:20
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: Now Jerry Glover said it was him.
3:22
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, everyone's fighting over who saved my tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: I shouldn't say that Mrs Wall isn't fighting at all, but I remember it being Mrs Wall.
3:29
Carmen Lezeth: But Jerry said it doesn't matter, they stuck the tooth back in there and that's why it's a little bit like off.
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Carmen Lezeth: But anyway, I had my dentist.
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Carmen Lezeth: It got taken out, they did a root canal, they fixed it with a fake tooth, with the veneer, but the bleeding that was going in, there was something going on inside of it.
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Carmen Lezeth: They cleaned it out, they bleached it.
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Carmen Lezeth: This is the second visit, and so now I need a new veneer to go back again and I know I'm vain as all hell.
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Carmen Lezeth: Was it a baby tooth?
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Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was my front tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was an adult tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, I wish it was a baby tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: Anyway, that's my tragedy this week.
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Carmen Lezeth: I need a new veneer.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm so bummed about it.
4:11
Cynthia: I know, tony was here.
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Cynthia: We called you bougie, I know.
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Carmen Lezeth: Tony's not here to say bougie, I know right.
4:16
Carmen Lezeth: Well, it's so funny because it's going to cost like $1,800, so I'm not doing it.
4:21
Carmen Lezeth: I know For one tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: One tooth, because it's a veneer.
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Carmen Lezeth: So it's going to have to take that off and it takes two weeks too.
4:29
Carmen Lezeth: Can you imagine getting all your teeth done?
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Carmen Lezeth: That's why people have the perfect smiles and everything.
4:36
Rick Costa: I used to watch a guy on YouTube and he actually did that and he wore a mask over his face for three weeks until it felt like it was normal, Because he had scars like scars, but you could tell he made your stuff.
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Rick Costa: But now his teeth are like pristine Perfect.
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Carmen Lezeth: I mean all the celebrity.
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Carmen Lezeth: I mean you can look at old movies with Tom Cruise.
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Carmen Lezeth: I mean he has veneer, you can see everybody all of a sudden has perfect teeth.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why he'd have scars.
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Carmen Lezeth: What scars.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm so confused.
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Rick Costa: It wasn't like scars, but it was like I saw these red marks you never had up here.
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Rick Costa: I don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if it's.
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Carmen Lezeth: Dentistry has probably changed since then.
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Carmen Lezeth: Maybe there are no scars If you have a good dentist, like my dentist, dr Vaziri, who you know I'm always promoting because I love him.
5:17
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, he's a Beverly Hills doctor, I'll just say it right now, but he wasn't there when I first met him.
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Carmen Lezeth: I met him when I was out here in West LA.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's when I first met him.
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Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said I should have clarified.
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Carmen Lezeth: I was referring to Rick's son's tooth.
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TikToker @imhassanrahim: Was it a baby tooth.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, your son's tooth.
5:33
Carmen Lezeth: I thought she was asking me, he was six.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, it was probably a baby tooth.
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Rick Costa: Maybe, and there was no blood, he said, and I was like all right.
5:41
Carmen Lezeth: But, melanie, how come you don't care if my tooth was a baby tooth?
5:45
Carmen Lezeth: I was in pain.
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Carmen Lezeth: I was a child, honey.
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Rick Costa: There was blood involved.
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Carmen Lezeth: There was blood, it was the whole front tooth.
5:54
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think teeth are really important and I was blessed with when I was younger Cynthia I don't know if you remember this because you're so much younger than I am but they used to have those people that came from colleges and they would do free dental care.
6:09
Carmen Lezeth: They still do that.
6:15
Carmen Lezeth: They still do Okay, so that's how I had.
6:16
Carmen Lezeth: So I used to have teeth all like people.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if people have seen it, but maybe I'll show it next time.
6:18
Carmen Lezeth: When you look at my pictures when I'm really young, like in the seventh and eighth grade, I have all teeth, I'm all bucked.
6:24
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like this and I have all like buck teeth and everything.
6:27
Carmen Lezeth: I had wait for it.
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Carmen Lezeth: Too many teeth for my mouth, because my mouth is actually pretty small.
6:34
Carmen Lezeth: Most people, most adults, have 33 teeth.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think 32 or 33.
6:39
Carmen Lezeth: I have 23.
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Carmen Lezeth: See, I'm so dainty, I'm so dainty and bougie, I have a friend that her teeth are like small.
6:57
Carmen Lezeth: I have very tiny, a tiny mouth.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, tony, that's 32.
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Carmen Lezeth: So those people, the people that came in, did a really great job, because when I became an adult and I met with this professional dentist, dr Rivers, they did such a great job with my teeth.
7:07
Carmen Lezeth: I also got braces through them.
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Carmen Lezeth: And shout out to all those college students and people who do work in inner city neighborhoods or poor neighborhoods and suburbs or whatever, and help people, because I think your smile really matters.
7:22
Carmen Lezeth: To me it does, Melanie said I thought you were talking recently.
7:26
Carmen Lezeth: That's all right, I forgive you, girl.
7:28
Carmen Lezeth: I forgive you.
7:29
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding, melanie, I'm just messing with you, I'm just jealous.
7:33
Rick Costa: We are so alike Melanie.
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Carmen Lezeth: I have a small mouth too, I get it.
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Rick Costa: I have a friend that her teeth are like small I don't know how to describe it so like when she smiles it almost looks like she don't have teeth because they're just short.
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Rick Costa: They're very short and she keeps begging the no, you don't see nothing.
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Rick Costa: It's like she opens her mouth and it's just do you have teeth Because they're so short and small?
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Rick Costa: And she keeps begging the dentist.
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Rick Costa: Can we please do something?
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Rick Costa: He goes, but your teeth are perfect.
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Rick Costa: Don't do anything.
8:01
Carmen Lezeth: They're perfect teeth.
8:01
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't think if you need to do anything, but I get it because your smile matters.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think that's the thing I walk in the room and I know it's my smile that people are attracted to.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm not trying to be rude, but it's the first thing in people.
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Rick Costa: It's funny because UK people say that we make fun of their teeth, but then they say Americans are so vain about their teeth.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm totally vain about their teeth.
8:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm totally vain about my teeth, totally.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm telling you my teeth is black and I know you guys can't see it.
8:25
Carmen Lezeth: I'm telling you.
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Carmen Lezeth: I text him today because my dentist texts me to see how I'm doing, because I was so upset when I left yesterday.
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Carmen Lezeth: I wasn't crying or anything, I was just like it's $1,800.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to do it.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, but there's nothing else he can do about it.
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Carmen Lezeth: So he texted me today and I'll tell you what I wrote, so I'm not lying.
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Carmen Lezeth: And I sent a picture of my teeth so he could see them.
8:51
Carmen Lezeth: From the next day I wrote okay, here it is In the big scheme of things.
8:58
Carmen Lezeth: Oh wait, let me tell you what he wrote, what they wrote.
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Carmen Lezeth: Carmen, this is the dental office of Charles Vazir, checking in with you to see how you are doing after yesterday's procedure.
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Carmen Lezeth: Please let us know, okay.
9:09
Carmen Lezeth: And then I wrote in the big scheme of things, I'm absolutely fine.
9:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sad about my tooth but it's cosmetic and I will live.
9:15
Carmen Lezeth: Can you see it if I put it up there?
9:19
Carmen Lezeth: Because I know you guys don't believe me Not you, tony.
9:21
Carmen Lezeth: Tony's the only one who doesn't believe me.
9:26
Carmen Lezeth: I made the mistake of whitening my teeth last night for 30 minutes hoping it would help.
9:29
Carmen Lezeth: It did not, but I'm laughing because I'm just a normal girl who's as vain as anyone else.
9:31
Carmen Lezeth: Here is the morning pick.
9:34
Carmen Lezeth: So I whitened them last night and I thought it would help because they were like having some.
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Carmen Lezeth: But it made it worse.
9:40
Carmen Lezeth: It was stupid.
9:41
Rick Costa: I should have just left it.
9:42
Rick Costa: Yeah, it does actually make it worse yeah, okay, that is my trauma cynthia.
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Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia came online and she was like it's been a week, I'm like girl, I know, and then I'm all like I need a veneer.
9:56
Carmen Lezeth: So go ahead, girl, let's talk about real stuff how you doing what happened this week.
10:01
Cynthia: Oh no, it's been crazy busy, and remember how I'm by myself in the office because the other girl's on vacation, so we've been getting so many cases that are coming in and I've been just like going crazy just doing all this stuff.
10:16
Cynthia: That even the doctor noticed and I said to him I said, oh my god, it's been a crazy week.
10:21
Cynthia: He goes, you've been doing great he's, you've been keeping up with everything he goes and you're by yourself.
10:27
Cynthia: He's like you're doing a really good job.
10:28
Cynthia: So I felt so great.
10:31
Carmen Lezeth: I wish I could quickly go back to where are we at Week six?
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Carmen Lezeth: Go back six weeks to when you first started and I'm sorry, rick, maybe you can refresh my memory and she was like I don't know, I just have nothing to do.
10:46
Carmen Lezeth: I hate when I have nothing to do and I just wish somebody would teach me that woman she won't teach me anything she doesn't want to teach me.
10:54
Tony D.: I hope I made the right decision, okay.
10:59
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but I'm glad he gave you props and congratulations so you feel good, you feel like you got this yeah, and then anything I don't know, like he's even told me.
11:14
Cynthia: You know, if there's something you don't know, if you question he's just asked me he goes, don't you worry about it.
11:18
Carmen Lezeth: So he's really cool so is it just one doctor now, because before you had a whole bunch yeah, there were two.
11:25
Cynthia: One was semi-retired, but he recently just passed away, two weeks ago.
11:28
Cynthia: Yeah, he was really sick while you were there.
11:31
Cynthia: Yeah, so now it's down to one doctor, but we're still like getting all the cases for both will they get another doctor probably till?
11:40
Cynthia: Yeah I think I think they have someone that's coming in to take over.
11:46
Carmen Lezeth: Oh well, that's kind of sad.
11:47
Carmen Lezeth: I know you don't let.
11:48
Carmen Lezeth: You knew him for a minute, but still.
11:49
Carmen Lezeth: Melanie just said I had a dentist that would check in after procedure.
11:56
Carmen Lezeth: He retired.
11:56
Carmen Lezeth: The people that took over his practice are not as good.
11:57
Carmen Lezeth: I need a new dentist, melanie.
11:58
Carmen Lezeth: If you're going to come out here to Beverly Hills, girl, you can stay with me.
12:01
Carmen Lezeth: Dr Charles in Missouri, look it.
12:04
Carmen Lezeth: Girl, you can stay with me.
12:07
Carmen Lezeth: Dr Charles in Missouri, look at it.
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Carmen Lezeth: I am really a proponent of people making sure they have a great dentist, a great medical internist or what do you call it.
12:11
Carmen Lezeth: Like my regular doctor I don't know what she's called Primary care, primary care physician and a good GYN doctor is good too.
12:18
Carmen Lezeth: I also have her.
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Carmen Lezeth: She's separate and I do.
12:20
Rick Costa: I'm just saying and a good therapist.
12:26
Rick Costa: Why are you making fun of me, Rick?
12:26
Rick Costa: No, because I'm a man and I said that to be funny.
12:28
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you guys should have a good doctor too, right?
12:31
Rick Costa: Not for GYN though.
12:35
Carmen Lezeth: Don't you guys have like proctology people or something?
12:39
Rick Costa: I don't want to talk about it.
12:42
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but GYN is no big deal Okay.
12:45
Rick Costa: Look at it.
12:46
Carmen Lezeth: No from me, you do the same thing with us, but with a big wench thing.
12:50
Carmen Lezeth: So we're all in the same boat here.
12:52
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, we adults, uh, speaking of adults, I just wrote a bad thing on snoop dogg's uh instagram.
13:00
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure I'm gonna get cut off.
13:01
Carmen Lezeth: I got mad.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know I love snoop dog, right, don't we the Olympics?
13:05
Carmen Lezeth: He was so brilliant, whatever.
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Carmen Lezeth: So why did he post today this nasty thing?
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Carmen Lezeth: Because he thinks it's funny and I think it was inappropriate and I said so.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure, with his, I think it's 13 million followers.
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Carmen Lezeth: He going to see mine, however, millions, I don't even know how many no, boss did you see what garbage.
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Carmen Lezeth: But I did it before I came on here and I'm always so hesitant, right when it's a celebrity, that we are like beloved or whatever.
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Carmen Lezeth: But other people were writing stuff too, but I said it mean to him.
13:42
Carmen Lezeth: They were talking about how terrible it was what he posted, but I was like he should know better.
13:46
Carmen Lezeth: I was like an old lady.
13:48
Cynthia: At least you weren't the only one, though, that thought it was bad.
13:52
Carmen Lezeth: You guys haven't seen it.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to tell what it is because I don't want to promote it.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's totally old school Snoop crap.
13:59
Carmen Lezeth: It's kind of like did you guys see the closing ceremonies?
14:03
Carmen Lezeth: Not the French one, but the American one.
14:05
Carmen Lezeth: Did you see the clip?
14:05
Carmen Lezeth: No, you didn't.
14:08
Carmen Lezeth: We should watch it, but I don't have it prepared.
14:10
Carmen Lezeth: It's actually really good.
14:12
Carmen Lezeth: They did this whole thing.
14:13
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, the French closed their ceremonies and it was exactly very French, very classy, very, to me, long and art-filled.
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Carmen Lezeth: I didn't understand much of what was going on, but they had the narrator telling us what some of the symbolic things are.
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Carmen Lezeth: That happens no matter what country you're watching, if it's not your own country, because we don't know what we don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I'm not that intelligent, I'm not even trying to like, I'm not that cultured, so I don't know everything.
14:41
Carmen Lezeth: But it was was beautiful.
14:43
Carmen Lezeth: And then what happened is, all of a sudden you saw the light look up at the top of the stadium and of course it was Tom Cruise, and he jumped.
14:52
Carmen Lezeth: He didn't, he jumped off of there and then landed on his feet perfectly onto the.
14:59
Carmen Lezeth: You guys should watch it, it's cute.
15:01
Carmen Lezeth: And then he got the flag, the olympic flag from simone biles, and then there was this whole thing.
15:07
Carmen Lezeth: He gets onto a jet and he parachutes out and he ends up on the hollywood sign holla, and it has the olympic rings where the o is hollywood.
15:16
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I didn't see that cool.
15:17
Carmen Lezeth: And then a guy on a bike takes it from tom cruise and then they go out to Venice beach I think it was Venice beach and when they end up there it's Snoop Dogg and Dr Dre and they're singing.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, and it's just looked really beautiful and that is such a contrast.
15:35
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
15:35
Carmen Lezeth: It was cool and I love Snoop.
15:38
Carmen Lezeth: I think he's now.
15:41
Carmen Lezeth: I really like him, right Like recently with the whole Martha Stewart thing and you know like.
15:48
Carmen Lezeth: But you know you can take.
15:49
Carmen Lezeth: You can take the girl out of the ghetto.
15:51
Carmen Lezeth: You can't sometimes take the ghetto out of the girl.
15:53
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just gonna say sometimes it comes out.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know sometimes it just comes out and I think that's what he did on Instagram.
16:03
Carmen Lezeth: But even when he came out and sang, first he had, which I thought was also inappropriate and then I realized I'm getting old.
16:09
Carmen Lezeth: There was a woman, a dancer, one dancer with the Hoochie Mama shorts and the whole Hoochie Mama dancing for 30 seconds next to him and I was like there was no need for that.
16:20
Carmen Lezeth: There's no need.
16:20
Carmen Lezeth: There's no need for that.
16:22
Carmen Lezeth: The reminder of this.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was fine, but it wasn't necessary.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
16:27
Carmen Lezeth: And she wasn't that bad, but I kept thinking she going to go that bad, you know what I mean.
16:32
Carmen Lezeth: Like she was going to start doing some inappropriate stuff, but she didn't.
16:35
Carmen Lezeth: So I brought that to the table because we all know back in the day, still, she wasn't necessary Just throwing that out there.
16:43
Carmen Lezeth: But then he walks over and he's with Dr Dre and it's so cool, and then everyone's on the beach.
16:48
Carmen Lezeth: You should watch it.
16:49
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't know you guys hadn't seen it you guys didn't watch the Olympics.
16:54
Cynthia: I watched some of it.
16:54
Cynthia: I did watch the breakdancing oh stop, with Ray gone, okay.
17:01
Cynthia: So I didn't watch the women's one.
17:03
Cynthia: I missed the women's one.
17:10
Cynthia: I missed the women's one.
17:11
Cynthia: So I only caught like little bits and pieces of like when they would recap and stuff like that.
17:14
Cynthia: Yeah, I saw the clip of Ray gun.
17:15
Cynthia: The men's one, I have to say, was absolutely amazing.
17:18
Carmen Lezeth: So let's back up because, remember, we're doing the audio and I know a lot of people have already seen the Olympics, but let's talk about what happened.
17:23
Carmen Lezeth: So, for the first time and I think the last time, uh, break dancing was brought into the Olympic world.
17:31
Carmen Lezeth: They had already decided, by the way, before competition started for break dancing, that it would not be in the Los Angeles 2028 Olympics, so there's no correlation there and this happens.
17:44
Carmen Lezeth: They bring in, they take out.
17:45
Carmen Lezeth: I think cricket had the same thing.
17:48
Carmen Lezeth: Cricket came in.
17:48
Carmen Lezeth: It's coming back.
17:49
Carmen Lezeth: When it comes to Los Angeles, you know what I mean.
17:51
Carmen Lezeth: They don't always have.
17:52
Carmen Lezeth: Personally, as a former dancer, and a former break dancer, I don't understand why break dancing was in an Olympic sport.
17:58
Carmen Lezeth: It is amazing and it is a sport and it takes a lot of athletic ability, but it's a it's dancing, so it's just a hard thing for me, even though there is competition for dancing.
18:10
Carmen Lezeth: It's different, it's different, but that's a whole other controversy.
18:14
Carmen Lezeth: But ray gun is that her name?
18:16
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know I'm.
18:18
Carmen Lezeth: She was from australia and she came out and represented her country and it was it really.
18:28
Carmen Lezeth: It's.
18:28
Carmen Lezeth: Anyone who's listening, who has never done breakdancing, would have done a better job breaking.
18:33
Carmen Lezeth: She was just horrible and the memes were hilarious.
18:37
Rick Costa: But I was like yeah, I keep seeing memes of somebody looking awful girl, that's her.
18:42
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my gosh, yeah with the green outfit yeah, here's the thing, listen, she was not definitely a break dancer at all.
18:51
Cynthia: I don't know how she made it to the olympics.
18:53
Cynthia: I gave her 100 credit for having the courage to actually go out there and do it.
18:57
Cynthia: That's not.
18:58
Cynthia: She had fun, whatever that I give her credit for that, no.
19:01
Carmen Lezeth: But but that dancing, I'm going to tell you I have a different take on it.
19:06
Carmen Lezeth: I was pissed, and I think a lot of dancers or not even break dancers, I think, people in the world of dancing it was so disrespectful.
19:15
Carmen Lezeth: The way she became a representative is because her and her husband created I don't know what all the ins and outs are, but they created their own competition in order to qualify and then didn't let the actual people who could break dance compete, because you have to qualify, like world champions, like Simone Biles has to qualify to get to the next level.
19:39
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
19:40
Carmen Lezeth: So they held their own and then got.
19:44
Carmen Lezeth: She's a professor, by the way, so she studies the art of break dancing, so number one and I don't know if that's her profession, but that was part of the thing that was going on was like you cannot be studying dance and then think you a dancer.
19:58
Carmen Lezeth: But what I think was and this came from a TikToker felt this, but I couldn't verbalize it he said the problem with this is that it disrespected an art form that was created in new york you know what I mean that has been always undermined as not like a legit form of dance, form of athleticism and it made it like people made fun of it, whereas it could have been a place where people could have seen it and been like oh my God, it couldn't.
20:28
Cynthia: And instead I felt about the men's competition.
20:31
Cynthia: It was, like I tell you, it was amazing.
20:33
Cynthia: I literally watched it from beginning to end and it was just amazing yeah.
20:38
Carmen Lezeth: I just think it's sad.
20:39
Carmen Lezeth: I think, and I felt that disrespect and I didn't watch the men's cause I was pissed.
20:42
Carmen Lezeth: I was like this is a bunch of crap.
20:44
Carmen Lezeth: That's the point.
20:45
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
20:46
Carmen Lezeth: I know people in my neighborhood I live in a very white neighborhood who could break dance better than she could.
20:51
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, and I was shook by it.
20:55
Carmen Lezeth: I was shook, that was anyway.
20:57
Carmen Lezeth: It was anyways.
20:58
Carmen Lezeth: Check out the memes.
20:59
Carmen Lezeth: They're funny, though there are people who have dogs who are like scratching and they put music.
21:04
Carmen Lezeth: There are people who have dogs who are like scratching and they put music.
21:06
Carmen Lezeth: So funny.
21:06
Carmen Lezeth: I mean it's funny, but it's not.
21:08
Carmen Lezeth: But it is, but it's funny.
21:10
Rick Costa: It makes me think of American Idol when they have the auditions and people go out there singing and then who told you you could sing Like?
21:16
Rick Costa: Why are you wasting everybody's time?
21:18
Carmen Lezeth: Oh wait, they show that I don't watch American Idol.
21:22
Rick Costa: Oh my gosh, I haven't watched it in years.
21:23
Rick Costa: But yeah, they'd show the auditions and some of them were absolutely horrible, like why are you here?
21:28
Rick Costa: What are you doing?
21:29
Rick Costa: You can't sing.
21:29
Cynthia: They do that.
21:30
Cynthia: For what do you call it?
21:31
Cynthia: Oh my God, what are the words?
21:32
Cynthia: Exposure or yeah, just to get ratings.
21:35
Rick Costa: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, to get ratings they could sing who some of them were ended up being famous.
21:49
Rick Costa: This asian guy, he was like trying to sing ricky barton she bangs.
21:51
Rick Costa: It was so bad, but he became famous because it was so bad, totally not that famous, because you can't remember his name.
21:56
Carmen Lezeth: So it's like something ho, I think, I don't know I remember the first time I did a short movie here in California and like Andrea went, richard went, like all my, and they were like you were so good.
22:10
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like okay, great, whatever you know what I mean and I was like sure, and I did a theater performance until, like, I've done all these little things.
22:18
Carmen Lezeth: Of course, all my friends always show up.
22:19
Carmen Lezeth: They're so amazing whatever they show up and being supportive and I'm like sure, whatever.
22:24
Carmen Lezeth: But it wasn't until I got a critique in the LA times.
22:29
Carmen Lezeth: They panned the entire play but they were like Carmen Lisette Suarez, like I have that shit in my house, man, I have that thing.
22:35
Carmen Lezeth: I haven't framed it Cause I'm not that, but I do have it.
22:38
Carmen Lezeth: I have it, I got it.
22:39
Carmen Lezeth: What do you call it?
22:40
Carmen Lezeth: Laminated?
22:41
Rick Costa: Laminated.
22:41
Rick Costa: What do you?
22:41
Carmen Lezeth: call it Laminated.
22:42
Carmen Lezeth: Laminated Because that's when I felt like you know, because your friends will tell you.
22:49
Carmen Lezeth: But then if you get a critique but here's the thing, just to back up for a moment, because that was me doing theater and doing acting, which is not my forte as far as I'm concerned, I'm really more of a performer dancer that's what I always claim to be, even though I don't do it anymore.
23:04
Carmen Lezeth: But the one thing I want to be clear about is that you should never take criticisms to heart, because if you take the criticisms that are, I was like I'm going to sing.
23:24
Carmen Lezeth: Y'all know I can't sing, but I can hear that I can't sing.
23:29
Carmen Lezeth: But if you were all just encouraging me, I might think I'm good enough.
23:34
Rick Costa: Yeah, some people don't know, they can't sing and that's sad.
23:38
Carmen Lezeth: I can hold a tune, but it's not the right.
23:41
Carmen Lezeth: It's the right octave, but it doesn't sound good.
23:44
Carmen Lezeth: But it's not the right.
23:45
Rick Costa: It's the right octave, but it doesn't sound good.
23:46
Cynthia: What amazes me?
23:46
Rick Costa: too, my friend that helped me record almost all the songs I have.
23:49
Rick Costa: He plays guitar, he plays piano, he plays all this stuff he can't sing.
23:53
Rick Costa: I'm like how do you play all this stuff that you can't sing?
23:56
Rick Costa: He goes oh, I know, Trust me, I know I can't, Don't ask me that.
23:59
Carmen Lezeth: Because singing it is a gift, it is part of a gift, it's anything else.
24:03
Carmen Lezeth: Like I write beautifully, I didn't even think about this till the other day.
24:06
Carmen Lezeth: I had to hand write an envelope and I happen to be in my office and so I hand wrote because somebody was looking for a label and I'm like, oh my god, just I'll write it it's.
24:16
Carmen Lezeth: And they were like, oh my, that's calligraphy.
24:19
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, these people.
24:21
Carmen Lezeth: I do have really nice handwriting, but it's also generational that we don't teach people how to write cursive.
24:28
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
24:28
Rick Costa: Yeah, they don't do that anymore.
24:30
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but I've always had really good cursive writing, so that's my gift.
24:34
Carmen Lezeth: Whitney has hers, I have mine.
24:38
Cynthia: Whatever?
24:42
Carmen Lezeth: I can write cursive.
24:43
Carmen Lezeth: Beyonce can sing Whatever.
24:47
Carmen Lezeth: What's your gift, cynthia?
24:49
Carmen Lezeth: What's a gift?
24:50
Carmen Lezeth: You know you have, that you never had to work at Rick.
24:56
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to ask you next, okay, brian parking actually parallel parking yep I hate parallel parking.
25:07
Cynthia: Oh my god, really I can do it.
25:08
Cynthia: So funny.
25:09
Cynthia: Everybody will look at a park is fine.
25:10
Cynthia: They're like you can't fit.
25:11
Cynthia: Yes, I can and I will fit right in there without hitting any car.
25:15
Cynthia: Well, we could all fit when we're hitting.
25:19
Cynthia: Oops.
25:21
Carmen Lezeth: That's so awesome.
25:24
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's a gift.
25:25
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, and you're a good driver, right, mm-hmm?
25:28
Carmen Lezeth: Everyone thinks they're a good driver.
25:31
Carmen Lezeth: I think I'm a horrible driver.
25:32
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to say that straight up.
25:33
Carmen Lezeth: I admit it I don't like driving.
25:36
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I don't have that much mileage on my 20-year-old car.
25:39
Carmen Lezeth: I hate driving.
25:40
Carmen Lezeth: Rick, what's your gift?
25:42
Rick Costa: I mean, I don't think it's like fabulous or amazing, but-.
25:46
Carmen Lezeth: Like parking.
25:48
Rick Costa: No.
25:48
Carmen Lezeth: And writing cursive.
25:52
Rick Costa: Actually some people said for a man, I have nice handwriting.
25:54
Rick Costa: I'm like okay, cool, Know your vehicle.
25:56
Rick Costa: Brian said parallel parking is easy, Know your vehicle.
25:59
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you don't live in LA, because parallel parking is not easy to those people.
26:09
Ted Hicks: You still need to know how to do it, people right, you don't know how to do it, though.
26:11
Carmen Lezeth: Pulling into a parking lot doesn't you know?
26:12
Rick Costa: count you got a parallel park to the curb and not be 10 feet away.
26:14
Rick Costa: Exactly that's my problem, yeah, but anyway.
26:16
Rick Costa: So the first time I tried to join our choir at my old church, they were like he goes, he goes, do you have a track?
26:24
Rick Costa: Sure, everybody has a track.
26:25
Rick Costa: And I'm like I just so happened to and everybody's like, oh, okay, excuse me.
26:29
Rick Costa: So I sang and then I finished and I was like okay, now I'm scared.
26:34
Rick Costa: What are they going to say?
26:34
Rick Costa: What am I going to say?
26:35
Rick Costa: And this one woman in the choir she was you can't join our choir.
26:38
Rick Costa: I was like no.
26:46
Rick Costa: She goes no, you're too good.
26:47
Rick Costa: I'm like stop stop.
26:47
Rick Costa: You're really into your voice.
26:48
Carmen Lezeth: Huh, I'm just doing what people say Pull that shit up, pull that shit up.
26:51
Carmen Lezeth: Rick sings every day on his show.
26:54
Carmen Lezeth: I sure do.
26:55
Carmen Lezeth: It's not Catholic stuff.
26:56
Carmen Lezeth: What is it?
26:57
Carmen Lezeth: Just say religious?
26:58
Carmen Lezeth: I thought of you today because I was singing my song that I don't think is religious.
27:05
Carmen Lezeth: And then I'm screaming because I went for my run today.
27:06
Carmen Lezeth: It was.
27:07
Carmen Lezeth: I Smile, I love that song, but I have my headset on, I don't care, and it's daytime, so I'm going to run outside and there's the beach.
27:13
Carmen Lezeth: Who cares?
27:13
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm running, whatever, and I'm singing.
27:15
Carmen Lezeth: And then the God part.
27:16
Carmen Lezeth: I'm always like I love God but I don't singing yeah, do you remember that song?
27:22
Rick Costa: I can only imagine, because it was actually on the radio.
27:26
Rick Costa: I was like, wait, okay, let me just say something that pisses me off, I'm just gonna tell everybody right now.
27:31
Carmen Lezeth: So rick always with.
27:32
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just gonna say it right now we can end our friendship.
27:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, I'm gonna say I'm not gonna hold back, like you always make me hold back.
27:39
Carmen Lezeth: I have to, like, worry about your damn feelings.
27:41
Carmen Lezeth: No, so here's rick.
27:43
Carmen Lezeth: Rick will always.
27:44
Carmen Lezeth: He will sing half of the verse of the chorus of whatever song you just getting into and he start talking.
27:52
Carmen Lezeth: And I don't understand what that is.
27:54
Carmen Lezeth: It's not like a tease.
27:56
Carmen Lezeth: He don't want to give you the full flavor, he just wants you to taste, but it's the name of the song.
28:02
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'm just saying you, just just, you could have gone a little bit more with the chorus, because it's like me going like this to the left, to the left anyway, do you remember?
28:12
Rick Costa: um do we know that song I have some.
28:17
Rick Costa: I have a few friends.
28:18
Rick Costa: They do the same thing and they're singers.
28:20
Rick Costa: They do the same thing.
28:21
Rick Costa: They just sing a little piece and then they just keep talking.
28:23
Rick Costa: I do that too, I guess.
28:24
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah and I'm I'm now expressing how much it bothers me, okay, so I want you to change.
28:30
Rick Costa: Tony, if this is you texting me, I'm gonna be upset let me just see who's texting I bring up that song because I can't tell you how many people have had me sing that at funerals.
28:38
Rick Costa: I'm like oh, I love that song, but why, if you okay?
28:42
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just to ignore it, because it's not Tony.
28:44
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, I'm over here being mad at you.
28:46
Carmen Lezeth: This is one of my clients.
28:47
Carmen Lezeth: Seriously, I can't even be bothered.
28:50
Cynthia: Okay, what were you saying about?
28:51
Carmen Lezeth: this song.
28:51
Ted Hicks: Tony's doing this right now.
28:55
Carmen Lezeth: What's the song you were talking about?
28:57
Rick Costa: It's called.
28:57
Rick Costa: I Can Only Imagine.
28:58
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know that song.
28:59
Rick Costa: It was actually on the regular radio.
29:01
Rick Costa: I was like like wait a minute did I just hear him say jesus?
29:09
Rick Costa: When I first heard I was like who sings it?
29:10
Rick Costa: And why don't you sing a little more of it?
29:11
Rick Costa: What's the chorus?
29:12
Rick Costa: The chorus is surrounded by your glory.
29:13
Rick Costa: What would, what would my heart feel?
29:14
Rick Costa: Would I dance for you, jesus?
29:16
Rick Costa: Oh, and all of you be still?
29:18
Rick Costa: It was on the radio.
29:19
Rick Costa: It was like a huge hit on the radio.
29:21
Carmen Lezeth: I was like shocked is it like the christian radio?
29:24
Rick Costa: no regular radio.
29:25
Rick Costa: That's what I'm saying.
29:25
Rick Costa: I was so shocked to hear it.
29:27
Carmen Lezeth: Well I mean there's songs that have religious tones and I'm not saying, I'm just saying for me, when I'm singing or whatever, I'm like enjoying myself, and I'm not thinking, look, it's also like I don't want to say the n word out loud when I'm singing a rap song.
29:39
Carmen Lezeth: I you know there are certain things I'm trying not to.
29:42
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
29:43
Rick Costa: Brian, thank you.
29:44
Carmen Lezeth: Here you go.
29:44
Carmen Lezeth: Brian's your friend right there.
29:46
Carmen Lezeth: Brian knows you.
29:46
Carmen Lezeth: I was going to do something for a minute.
29:49
Rick Costa: See what Tony said, see how you do me.
29:51
Rick Costa: I know because I thought it was Tony.
29:53
Carmen Lezeth: I thought it was Tony texting me or something, so I was going to be like no.
29:57
Carmen Lezeth: So, rick, you wanted to talk about a certain subject that I thought was I have my own feelings about.
30:04
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if Cynthia's seen it.
30:05
Carmen Lezeth: Do you have the link?
30:05
Carmen Lezeth: All right, wait, can you guys all see it?
30:09
Rick Costa: No, you don't see it, you and your cheap phone.
30:15
Cynthia: No, but I already do see the video you guys put up though.
30:20
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I didn't even say nothing.
30:22
Carmen Lezeth: That was not me.
30:23
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me.
30:23
Carmen Lezeth: Should I turn off the chat for a minute, or can everyone see it?
30:27
Carmen Lezeth: No, I think it's good.
30:28
Rick Costa: But Cynthia can't see it at all.
30:30
Carmen Lezeth: She can't see it because it is her phone.
30:32
Carmen Lezeth: I know she thinks it's not.
30:33
Cynthia: But I always see all the videos you guys put up, okay.
30:36
Carmen Lezeth: That's so weird.
30:37
Carmen Lezeth: Can everyone else in the chat see that we have the video video?
30:40
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, there it goes.
30:41
Carmen Lezeth: I can see it oh, it's up.
30:42
Rick Costa: Wow you're.
30:43
Rick Costa: Your phone is slow we see it.
30:45
Carmen Lezeth: So cynthia yeah, I'm just cynthia you don't ever see joy, so I don't know what to say.
30:50
Carmen Lezeth: Joy doesn't exist in your world tony all right, go ahead, just play.
30:56
TikToker @imhassanrahim: It's only like a minute yeah, it's not that long go ahead it's a minute and 13 seconds, here we go all right, tiktok, tell me if I'm tripping or not.
31:02
TikToker @imhassanrahim: So so me and my fiance, we are getting married right, and to be a part of our wedding you have to pay $450 for a ticket, and that's for each guest.
31:10
TikToker @imhassanrahim: So we invited friends and family to our wedding.
31:14
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Tell me why everybody that we invited has declined the invitation, because you're crazy.
31:18
TikToker @imhassanrahim: We already have spent 100, maybe almost close to $200,000 on the wedding.
31:24
TikToker @imhassanrahim: We have already pre-ordered the cake, we already put down a deposit for the venue, we've already got the wedding dress, everything.
31:31
TikToker @imhassanrahim: We paid everything for the wedding DJ, photographer, everything for the wedding.
31:36
TikToker @imhassanrahim: And what I don't understand is that y'all spend $400,000, more money on stupid stuff, but you can't come out to support your family and your friends at a wedding.
31:44
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Tell me if I'm wrong.
31:45
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Is we wrong?
31:46
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Let me know.
31:48
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Let me know Because y'all pay for tickets Beyonce tickets, $1,000 tickets.
31:52
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Y'all going to go meet Chris Brown for $1,000 something dollars, but when it comes to your friends and your family, you can't pay the ticket.
31:59
TikToker @imhassanrahim: These weddings ain't cheap.
32:03
TikToker @imhassanrahim: The weddings ain't cheap.
32:04
TikToker @imhassanrahim: What's going on?
32:04
TikToker @imhassanrahim: I don't get it, let us know.
32:06
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Are we wrong for charging for a wedding?
32:11
Carmen Lezeth: I really want to know, oh my gosh, what's LMBO Rick?
32:16
Rick Costa: Laughing my butt off what.
32:18
Rick Costa: Laughing my butt off.
32:19
Cynthia: Laughing my butt off Laughing my butt off.
32:22
Carmen Lezeth: He's right.
32:24
Rick Costa: You agree?
32:26
Carmen Lezeth: Tony agrees.
32:28
Rick Costa: But who told you to pay all that money for a wedding?
32:33
Cynthia: First of all, you're the one that wants to go and get married.
32:39
Cynthia: You pay for anything If you want people to go as your guests or whatever, why are you charging them to go to your wedding?
32:50
Cynthia: He's saying the weddings are expensive.
32:53
Cynthia: Yeah, they are expensive.
32:54
Cynthia: Then go elope, go to the city hall, have a little private wedding, do a destination wedding.
33:00
Cynthia: Whoever wants to go can go.
33:01
Cynthia: How are you going to charge people 450 dollars?
33:07
Rick Costa: and he's talking about.
33:07
Rick Costa: Y'all pay for a beyonce and chris brown.
33:10
Rick Costa: Do you sing as good as chris brown and beyonce?
33:12
Rick Costa: Because I don't think so.
33:14
Rick Costa: And what are they?
33:16
Carmen Lezeth: getting.
33:16
Carmen Lezeth: Either it's not going to concerts either.
33:19
Carmen Lezeth: I'll watch alma alma.
33:23
Carmen Lezeth: I thought you guys were at Prince.
33:24
Carmen Lezeth: They're over at the movie.
33:26
Carmen Lezeth: The movie's premiering Green, so Alma and Mario are at.
33:31
Rick Costa: Prince.
33:32
Carmen Lezeth: But thank you for saying that to me.
33:35
Rick Costa: You kidding me, Tony.
33:37
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, I'm confused.
33:38
Carmen Lezeth: Tony's okay with this.
33:40
Rick Costa: He said weddings aren't cheap.
33:41
Carmen Lezeth: Don't expect any gifts.
33:43
Rick Costa: No, you ain't gonna get my.
33:44
Rick Costa: $450 is your gift.
33:46
Rick Costa: What are you talking about?
33:46
Rick Costa: Give on top of it?
33:48
Cynthia: because where is the money going?
33:49
Cynthia: Obviously it's going to the couple, because what are they getting for 450?
33:54
Carmen Lezeth: I'm confused.
33:54
Carmen Lezeth: Now you guys are going, you're paying the 450 okay if I had a wedding me bougie, right.
34:02
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm gonna go to this.
34:03
Carmen Lezeth: We're having a wedding.
34:04
Carmen Lezeth: I want y'all to fly out here and I'm like you know what?
34:07
Carmen Lezeth: I need everyone to pay $150 ticket to come to my wedding.
34:11
Carmen Lezeth: So you're going to fly out here.
34:12
Carmen Lezeth: You wouldn't?
34:15
Rick Costa: pay $150.
34:20
Cynthia: I'm going to let your cousin answer first.
34:22
Cynthia: That's your gift, right?
34:25
Carmen Lezeth: $150 is your gift.
34:26
Carmen Lezeth: We have a registry as well that's your choice.
34:29
Carmen Lezeth: You don't have to.
34:30
Carmen Lezeth: Uh, that'll be your gift.
34:33
Carmen Lezeth: If somebody wants to come up, I've put the link in.
34:36
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not gonna let everyone up, but if people want to, I'm trying to hear what tony wants to say.
34:40
Carmen Lezeth: But tony doesn't want to come up today, so I didn't't send him a invite.
34:44
Rick Costa: She hasn't had her wedding in the.
34:45
Rick Costa: I think it was the Bahamas.
34:47
Rick Costa: She said oh, you're invited.
34:48
Rick Costa: I'm like I ain't got Bahamas money.
34:51
Rick Costa: I'm sorry, I ain't going to be there.
34:54
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I would have gone to the Bahamas.
34:55
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I, first of all I told Rick when he wanted to talk about this.
35:00
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like this to me seems like more of a clickbait thing because it sounds so stupid.
35:06
Carmen Lezeth: I would never in a million years pay someone to go see their boring ass, motherfucking wedding.
35:13
Carmen Lezeth: Because, let's just be honest, melanie said I'll give you that day.
35:16
Carmen Lezeth: I have surgery on that day I didn't even tell you what day it was.
35:22
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't even tell you what day it was.
35:24
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't even tell you what day it was.
35:27
Cynthia: Anthony.
35:28
Carmen Lezeth: There's Tony.
35:28
Carmen Lezeth: So, Tony, you would pay $450 to come to my wedding and fly out here and buy me a gift.
35:38
Tony D.: By mercy, how y'all doing.
35:40
Cynthia: How you doing.
35:43
Tony D.: The only thing I'm saying is when he said you spend money on other things but you can't pay for the wedding, he's correct.
35:47
Tony D.: People will spend money on this, people will spend money on that.
35:50
Tony D.: People will pay to go places and spend more money as they get to their destination For a wedding.
35:55
Tony D.: I agree with him.
35:56
Tony D.: People invite you to weddings.
35:58
Tony D.: You don't get invited to all of them.
36:00
Tony D.: It is a very special occasion, more than a recreation.
36:02
Tony D.: I would have no problem with it if I could afford it.
36:04
Tony D.: I wouldn't.
36:06
Tony D.: That is a lot of money, I agree, but most people.
36:09
Cynthia: Let me say this I'll say it for my wedding, Melanie still busy that day For my wedding.
36:23
Tony D.: I was grateful for everything everybody did and all the gifts they gave, but I did take the travel expenses into consideration, so I didn't really have much of a registry.
36:33
Tony D.: I told the wife she wanted to do one to go ahead, but I wasn't expecting much.
36:37
Tony D.: I know how much it costs to travel.
36:38
Tony D.: A lot of people came across country for mine so I understood what he was saying as far as how people spend for things here and there, but you won't do it for a wedding which is more of a special occasion.
36:46
Tony D.: I do agree with that.
36:47
Tony D.: If I had it, I would do it, If not, I get it.
36:53
Carmen Lezeth: Brian, go back to LA stay at Hilton Garden Inn and then look cool at the wedding.
36:57
Carmen Lezeth: So, Brian, you would pay $450 to just step at my wedding, just to be at my wedding, and then pay all that as well.
37:05
Cynthia: But he also commented doesn't mostly people donate at the wedding, or am?
37:11
Carmen Lezeth: I behind you do.
37:12
Carmen Lezeth: It depends on the wedding, it depends on the culture of the wedding.
37:14
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I usually give money.
37:15
Tony D.: It doesn't depend on the culture of the wedding.
37:17
Carmen Lezeth: Look, I think most weddings I'm sorry to say this are boring and suck.
37:20
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry.
37:21
TikToker @imhassanrahim: I am not.
37:22
Carmen Lezeth: They are.
37:22
Carmen Lezeth: I've never.
37:23
Carmen Lezeth: I have been to a lot of people's weddings.
37:25
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia's smiling because she knows I didn't go to hers.
37:28
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't go to Andrea's either.
37:30
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't go to Andrea's either.
37:33
Carmen Lezeth: Why is Tony laughing?
37:34
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't go to Andrea's either.
37:39
Carmen Lezeth: What kind of friend are you?
37:41
Carmen Lezeth: Stand at the back, cynthia?
37:44
Carmen Lezeth: Why didn't I go to your wedding?
37:45
Carmen Lezeth: I forgot.
37:46
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't go to Emily's either.
37:47
Cynthia: We know I went to Emily's, but why didn't I go to yours?
37:51
Carmen Lezeth: It was financially, you said.
37:52
Carmen Lezeth: Was I financially hard up that time?
37:55
Carmen Lezeth: That makes sense, that makes sense, and also I didn't like who she was marrying.
37:59
Carmen Lezeth: I'm really against their marriage to this day.
38:02
Carmen Lezeth: I hate Juan.
38:03
Carmen Lezeth: Look, I'm not a fan of weddings.
38:12
Carmen Lezeth: I eloped.
38:12
Carmen Lezeth: No one found out till after the fact.
38:13
Carmen Lezeth: We went to Hawaii.
38:13
Carmen Lezeth: We were there for two weeks.
38:16
Carmen Lezeth: The amount of money that people spend on weddings to me is ridiculous and I know people like want to scream at me or whatever, but it's always been way too much and it's just for one day.
38:31
Carmen Lezeth: I would rather spend that money on traveling or putting a down payment on a house or whatever it is, but the amount of money and we spent a lot of money, but it was like a, it was like a honeymoon and wedding all together and then we ended up getting divorced anyway.
38:45
Carmen Lezeth: But that's my point.
38:46
Carmen Lezeth: It just feels like it's out of hand.
38:48
Carmen Lezeth: So that's one thing, and then I'll say this part and then you guys can discuss.
38:52
Carmen Lezeth: But I think it's a little pompous to ask people to come to your wedding, which is time out of their day yes, to celebrate your beautiful time, whatever.
39:01
Carmen Lezeth: Then they're also probably going to buy you a gift.
39:04
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but maybe you decide not to have a registry.
39:06
Carmen Lezeth: But now you're forcing people to spend.
39:09
Carmen Lezeth: $450 is not a little bit of money.
39:13
Carmen Lezeth: No, you're right, that's a round-trip ticket from here to, I think economy, right?
39:18
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm only kidding because I don't do economy.
39:21
Tony D.: From here to Boston.
39:23
Rick Costa: I'm literally wondering did he calculate all the expenses and say how many people Okay divided by this many, okay 450.
39:29
Rick Costa: No, he didn't.
39:29
Tony D.: No, I think he was just that's why I said if I had it, I would do it.
39:32
Tony D.: He didn't calculate any of that.
39:33
Tony D.: He just wanted people to pay for the wedding specifically.
39:35
Tony D.: So that's why I understand why everybody was why would you go?
39:38
Tony D.: I can't imagine.
39:39
Tony D.: That's why I said if I had it.
39:40
Tony D.: That's why I said if I had it, I would.
39:42
Carmen Lezeth: But if you had it, wouldn't you just go to the wedding and give it to them as a gift?
39:49
Tony D.: Listen to what he said.
39:50
Tony D.: You spend money on this and this, but you can't do it for a wedding.
39:52
Tony D.: I agree with that, because we do spend money on other things.
39:57
Carmen Lezeth: We can at least do it once for a wedding.
39:57
Carmen Lezeth: But it's not apples to apples, tony.
39:58
Carmen Lezeth: That's not fair.
40:00
Carmen Lezeth: Beyonce is Beyonce, yeah fair, beyonce is Beyonce.
40:04
Cynthia: It's one thing to go.
40:05
Cynthia: But you don't even know her.
40:06
Carmen Lezeth: No, she's entertaining me.
40:07
Carmen Lezeth: She's dancing, she's singing.
40:09
Carmen Lezeth: It's music.
40:10
Carmen Lezeth: It's not apples to apples.
40:11
Carmen Lezeth: Now, if you wanted, you could say you spend money to go to a convention and you won't come to my wedding.
40:17
Carmen Lezeth: That's about as boring as a motherfucking wedding to me.
40:20
Carmen Lezeth: Melanie, I will go to weddings I can drive to unless I'm asked to pay.
40:26
Carmen Lezeth: Listen, I will fly to people.
40:28
Carmen Lezeth: I went to Gracie's wedding in Vermont recently.
40:31
Carmen Lezeth: I flew out there, paid for actually I didn't even have to pay for a condo, because Alden did, and it was a great time, but I didn't even give her a gift.
40:40
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
40:41
Carmen Lezeth: Because I'm like I just spent like almost two thousand dollars just to get there and I took time out of work, which for me is two days when I don't work I don't get paid.
40:50
Tony D.: I've been there?
40:51
Tony D.: I've been there.
40:51
Tony D.: I understand that, yes.
40:52
Carmen Lezeth: And also I know they're fine.
40:54
Carmen Lezeth: They don't.
40:54
Carmen Lezeth: They're not like scrounging for whatever that was.
40:57
Carmen Lezeth: My gift was me being there.
40:59
Carmen Lezeth: I just can't believe that you would'm just making note of this, tony, because when I get married I'm going to be like Tony $1,000.
41:09
Rick Costa: You need to remember Carmen's, the bougie one.
41:11
Tony D.: Yes, Remember what I said If I had it, I would do it.
41:16
Tony D.: If I had it, yes.
41:18
Carmen Lezeth: Where's the clapping sound?
41:20
Rick Costa: Thank, you Red and notice he said every person declined everyone I do hear that that's not even good friends, that's mean.
41:32
Carmen Lezeth: I think that was kind of mean, but I think it's a little pompous and I think, okay, here's the thing.
41:37
Carmen Lezeth: Let's say it's prince or any other concert, it doesn't matter what it is, that's not the same thing.
41:42
Carmen Lezeth: If you're going to compare a wedding, you have to compare it to something that's as boring and as wasteful of a day.
41:49
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying Everybody.
41:52
Tony D.: Take Carmen off of your wedding list.
41:53
Tony D.: She thinks they're boring.
41:54
Carmen Lezeth: I don't go to weddings, I don't go to weddings.
41:56
Carmen Lezeth: I went to Gracie's wedding because she was a baby when I met her and it was Vermont and I wanted to see Alden and it was different.
42:06
Cynthia: But I don't really go to weddings.
42:08
Cynthia: I did not spend a lot on my wedding.
42:09
Cynthia: Our total amount was, I think it was under 10,000.
42:14
Cynthia: And that was everything.
42:16
Carmen Lezeth: That was dress, that was suit, that was the rise, that was the bridesmaids, the food, everything you see how society is now, though, because you just hear what you just said For one day, you spent $10,000, and we think that's okay for a part.
42:29
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not.
42:30
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not.
42:30
Carmen Lezeth: I know what you're saying, cause weddings are like 40, 50, $80,000.
42:34
Carmen Lezeth: And that's just regular folk.
42:35
Carmen Lezeth: That's regular folk.
42:37
Carmen Lezeth: Now, oh, women, women have spent eight thousand dollars on a fucking dress, tony.
42:40
Carmen Lezeth: That's ridiculous.
42:42
Carmen Lezeth: That's ridiculous.
42:43
Carmen Lezeth: But this is my point right.
42:44
Carmen Lezeth: We have sucked into the societal thing.
42:47
Carmen Lezeth: It's like birthday parties, have you noticed?
42:49
Carmen Lezeth: Children have to have theme parties now, and they spend thousands of dollars because a child turning five years old and they need a donkey and a real sheep and a horse or something to pet.
43:00
Carmen Lezeth: Are you fucking kidding me?
43:02
Rick Costa: And a piñata no just like 2015.
43:06
Cynthia: Just like 2015.
43:08
Tony D.: To what Melanie said.
43:09
Tony D.: He assumes all people spend money on things.
43:11
Tony D.: He spoke on how people are spending their money and we do see what he's saying.
43:15
Tony D.: That's why I was like I understand where he's coming from, because people do that.
43:20
Tony D.: Like you said, I'm not spending $1,000 for no concert ticket.
43:22
Tony D.: I'm not going to do that.
43:23
Tony D.: I'd rather go to a wedding with just somebody that I know who will get more value out of the money than I'm spending.
43:27
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just writing this I'm going to get married just to have you spend money, to come out here and give me $450.
43:34
Tony D.: I'm only going to charge you.
43:36
Tony D.: I've got some 30-year-old.
43:37
Tony D.: That was one year.
43:38
Carmen Lezeth: Rick that was only one year he's known me.
43:43
Cynthia: Tony, would you charge people?
43:44
Cynthia: Would you charge people?
43:47
Tony D.: to go to your wedding.
43:47
Tony D.: I didn't.
43:48
Tony D.: When I got married, I didn't.
43:49
Carmen Lezeth: But would you now?
43:51
Tony D.: Would you now?
43:51
Tony D.: No, if I needed it, maybe, but no, so, mind you, if I need people to pay for my wedding, I probably won't have one.
44:02
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, exactly, so he shouldn't have done.
44:04
Carmen Lezeth: And, by the way, he didn't spend no $200,000 on that wedding.
44:09
Carmen Lezeth: Because if you have enough money to spend $200,000,.
44:11
Carmen Lezeth: You're not charging your guest $450.
44:15
Tony D.: He's trying to make some of that money back.
44:16
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
44:17
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry.
44:18
Carmen Lezeth: I know money, I know people and that's bullshittery, brian.
44:20
Cynthia: Brian Brian just said Zoom call for you.
44:29
Tony D.: People probably have been doing this shit while you're playing.
44:32
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I actually did two Zoom calls for a funeral.
44:37
TikToker @imhassanrahim: Oh, Cynthia, wasn't there a.
44:38
Carmen Lezeth: Zoom call.
44:39
Carmen Lezeth: Somebody who passed away that I had to do a zoom call because it was Valerie's daughter.
44:43
Carmen Lezeth: No, it wasn't.
44:45
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't do that, you didn't do that?
44:47
Cynthia: oh, I did because it was during COVID, not during COVID.
44:53
Tony D.: I don't think it was.
44:53
Carmen Lezeth: Valerie's?
44:54
Carmen Lezeth: No, somebody in Juan's family, or something, wasn't it?
44:57
Tony D.: oh, his dad.
45:00
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry, Tony.
45:01
Tony D.: No, you're fine, Rick.
45:02
Tony D.: You may not remember who was on Cantina.
45:04
Tony D.: You may not remember Ashtray.
45:05
Tony D.: I think you had left before she came.
45:07
Tony D.: She passed away but she was overseas in the UK and they did the funeral over Zoom so a bunch of us could be there.
45:15
Carmen Lezeth: Sometimes it's also just too fast.
45:17
Carmen Lezeth: I went to Mary Joanne's sister's funeral and it was like within a day I had to get the plane and it was like I had I stopped.
45:27
Carmen Lezeth: I'll never do this again, but I had to stop in four different places because I couldn't get a flight direct.
45:32
Carmen Lezeth: Because it was just so.
45:34
Tony D.: Yeah, I'm not.
45:34
Tony D.: This is my bougie level.
45:37
Tony D.: I don't want no layovers on my flight.
45:38
Tony D.: Write that down.
45:39
Tony D.: Write that down.
45:40
Tony D.: Write that down, carmen, not writing.
45:41
Tony D.: Get a pen or some paper.
45:43
Tony D.: I never tell you what to do.
45:44
Tony D.: Get to work.
45:48
Cynthia: I do not want no layovers on my flight, leave me your phone.
45:52
Carmen Lezeth: Do you get a discount for?
45:53
Rick Costa: funerals for flights or no.
45:55
Carmen Lezeth: Only if it's immediate family, and you have to be able to prove that it's immediate family.
45:59
TikToker @imhassanrahim: And this is family, it's immediate family, and you have to be able to prove that it's immediate family.
46:01
Carmen Lezeth: And this is family that isn't actually blood related to me, but they are family.
46:04
Carmen Lezeth: So I went, but it was so such.
46:07
Carmen Lezeth: It was a horrible flight.
46:09
Carmen Lezeth: They're horrible.
46:10
Carmen Lezeth: Coming back I'm like I will never do it again, but I would because it's family.
46:15
Carmen Lezeth: You would do what you gotta do, but when you only have five days to figure it out, yeah, I do.
46:19
Carmen Lezeth: But when you only have five days to figure it out, yeah, that would have been a good time for me to call in a favor from one of my clients, actually.
46:22
Carmen Lezeth: But can you hook me up with your plane?
46:24
Carmen Lezeth: You know, what I mean Is your private jet available that day.
46:27
Carmen Lezeth: Is it?
46:27
Carmen Lezeth: Is it what Tony Write it down, like I?
46:31
Tony D.: asked you to.
46:32
Carmen Lezeth: I already wrote it down.
46:33
Carmen Lezeth: It's right here.
46:34
Carmen Lezeth: I wrote it right here.
46:37
Cynthia: It's right here.
46:38
Rick Costa: She writes real small, really small.
46:40
Ted Hicks: I have terrible handwriting I don't see it.
46:42
Tony D.: She didn't write it.
46:42
Carmen Lezeth: Here's what I'm saying though, if you are somebody who is pompous enough, see, this is the thing I don't like, the arrogance of it.
46:50
Carmen Lezeth: So let's say, I'm going to get married, me and my man are getting married.
46:53
Carmen Lezeth: I would ask my friends hey, I want to have this big wedding, I want to have it in wherever.
47:03
Carmen Lezeth: Would you want to, or could you help me?
47:04
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
47:04
Carmen Lezeth: What is he looking at?
47:06
Carmen Lezeth: Mario?
47:09
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, mario, listen.
47:10
Carmen Lezeth: We had a cowgirl theme party for Marissa at three years old.
47:14
Carmen Lezeth: We had DJ, horse, cotton candy decorations, barbecue jumper and all the fixes for $500.
47:20
Carmen Lezeth: It's called Balloon on a Budget.
47:21
Tony D.: Balloon on a Budget.
47:22
Tony D.: It's like balloon, oh my God, balloon on a Budget.
47:27
Rick Costa: She thought birthday party balloon.
47:29
Rick Costa: Here's the thing, though, too.
47:32
Carmen Lezeth: Seriously, $500 for a three-year-old's birthday party.
47:35
Carmen Lezeth: I love you.
47:36
Carmen Lezeth: I think that's really cool, but in my head I'm thinking we didn't even get a cake, Cynthia.
47:46
Cynthia: It was like happy birthday Go to school.
47:49
Tony D.: I love you.
47:49
Tony D.: I don't remember any of this shit.
47:50
Tony D.: We spent about $300 on Jason's first birthday.
47:53
Tony D.: We did do that.
47:54
Tony D.: You did do what.
47:55
Tony D.: We spent about $300 on Jason's first birthday.
47:57
Tony D.: We had a little party for him.
47:59
Carmen Lezeth: So it was really for you, because he don't remember.
48:00
Tony D.: No, it was for him.
48:01
Tony D.: We bought him a cake.
48:02
Tony D.: We had some of his friends come by from daycare and everything.
48:05
Tony D.: Some of the parents brought the kids let the kids chill out.
48:08
Tony D.: But the funniest thing was when we gave him the birthday cake.
48:10
Tony D.: He was in his high chair.
48:11
Tony D.: We put the cake right in his chair.
48:12
Tony D.: He took one taste and he just would not stop.
48:15
Carmen Lezeth: That's right.
48:16
Carmen Lezeth: That's how you do it, Jason His eyes was open.
48:20
Rick Costa: I was dying.
48:21
Rick Costa: I couldn't help it.
48:22
Rick Costa: This is for me.
48:23
Rick Costa: Oh yes, alma just said why throw a party when you can take a trip.
48:28
Carmen Lezeth: Exactly, brian said agreed.
48:30
Carmen Lezeth: Aloos is Alma, just so you know, that's Mr Dawson's wife and her name is Alma.
48:35
Carmen Lezeth: Mr Dawson is Mario Bryant, since you're new to the playpen here.
48:40
Carmen Lezeth: Alma said our daughter said she'd rather do that than have a party where people could just come and criticize and eat the food.
48:46
Carmen Lezeth: Exactly, facts, exactly.
48:49
Carmen Lezeth: I just think it's interesting because we've been socialized now to believe that it's okay to spend $10,000, $30,000 or whatever for one day, and I've always thought it was weird.
48:59
Carmen Lezeth: I honestly don't know one wedding that I've always thought it was weird.
49:01
Carmen Lezeth: I I honestly don't know one wedding that I remember that I thought was amazing.
49:04
Carmen Lezeth: I don't really, like all my friends have gotten married.
49:07
Carmen Lezeth: I know, forgive me, I didn't go to yours.
49:10
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I know, I don't think that.
49:13
Carmen Lezeth: Was that really a money issue?
49:15
Carmen Lezeth: Because wouldn't you have just paid for it?
49:16
Carmen Lezeth: Because that's how bougie you are?
49:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think.
49:19
Carmen Lezeth: I think I was out of the country.
49:20
Carmen Lezeth: When did you get married?
49:22
Carmen Lezeth: What year?
49:22
Carmen Lezeth: 2011?
49:24
Carmen Lezeth: What 2011?
49:27
Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, it could have been financial, that's after the.
49:30
Carmen Lezeth: That's when I lost my condo in 2010, 2011, that's right.
49:34
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that was a bad time for me, okay, yeah, financial, because right after the economy burst or whatever member and everybody I lost, that's when I lost my condo.
49:43
Carmen Lezeth: I tried to hold on to it for so long.
49:45
Carmen Lezeth: If you would have known me then I was so bougie.
49:49
Carmen Lezeth: I just think that weddings are really about you and the couple and I think it's beautiful that you want to share that with other people.
49:58
Carmen Lezeth: But it's gotten out of hand that it's become such an event and make no mistake about it, it's been so commercialized that we actually think, oh, it's so cheap.
50:08
Carmen Lezeth: I only spent $10,000.
50:10
Carmen Lezeth: That's my point.
50:11
Carmen Lezeth: They got us, they totally got us believing that, like women buying dresses that they wear once literally, dying dresses that they wear once literally.
50:20
Carmen Lezeth: And then I went with a friend who was getting married and when she's first trying to figure out what dress to wear, whatever and I was like I would not pay, not no, three, four, five, eight, nine $10,000 for any one of these motherfucking dresses.
50:34
Carmen Lezeth: I don't care how pretty you think they look at all.
50:37
Carmen Lezeth: And some of these dresses.
50:37
Carmen Lezeth: They were like Vera Wang craft.
50:41
Rick Costa: Those things are ridiculous.
50:42
Rick Costa: I think there's a show where it's all about wedding dresses and women trying to pick it out and they're like this is the one.
50:46
Rick Costa: There's a show.
50:48
Cynthia: A show Say yes to the dress.
50:52
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that sounds right.
50:52
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you know what we're done with this topic.
50:56
Tony D.: Are you?
50:56
Carmen Lezeth: serious.
50:58
Tony D.: Yeah, crazy wedding shows.
50:59
Tony D.: Bradzilla's was like the worst.
51:02
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, my God.
51:03
Tony D.: There's a show?
51:05
Carmen Lezeth: Of course there's shows.
51:06
Carmen Lezeth: Why would I be so stupid?
51:07
Rick Costa: I've seen the commercials.
51:08
Rick Costa: I've never seen the shows.
51:09
Rick Costa: But isn't that the one with the girls?
51:10
Rick Costa: I will kill you.
51:11
Tony D.: They're the ones where the guy has to have everything her way and if it doesn't go her way, she loses her shit of shit, and that's what a lot of these women in society are doing right now.
51:18
Tony D.: It's been out for over a decade.
51:21
Tony D.: I can't lie.
51:23
Tony D.: I'm going to be honest.
51:25
Tony D.: I always had big plans for my first wedding, wasn't sure how much it was going to cost, but I know what the layout was, what I wanted it to be, how I wanted it to look.
51:32
Tony D.: I would have spent a lot had I had it.
51:35
Tony D.: If I got it, I'll do it.
51:36
Tony D.: That's my problem.
51:37
Tony D.: If I got the money, I'm going to damn do it.
51:39
Tony D.: So if I can afford 10, 20, 30,000, I'm talking about the horse and carriage you coming out looking like Cinderella.
51:44
Tony D.: We got the whole elevator, the lights, the chandeliers.
51:47
Tony D.: We got all that.
51:48
Tony D.: Yeah, if I have it, I'm going to do it.
51:50
Tony D.: That's been on my mind since I was a teenager.
51:53
Tony D.: As far as how I would do my wedding, I know what I want my groomsmen, my best man, to wear.
51:57
Tony D.: She can decide what the bridesmaids wear.
51:59
Tony D.: We can decide the whole arrangement.
52:01
Tony D.: Honestly, my stepdaughter's wedding was beautiful it really was but I would have went a little bit farther, was I able to afford what I would want to do for my.
52:10
Tony D.: It was beautiful, bigger to the ex-wife, her mom, what they did that family, because she had an excellent turnout.
52:17
Tony D.: We ate great.
52:17
Tony D.: Because she had an excellent turnout, we ate great.
52:19
Tony D.: I loved the accommodation.
52:20
Tony D.: I loved the area, cool.
52:21
Tony D.: But I know what I would have done.
52:22
Tony D.: That would have been different, it would have been bigger, it would have looked crazy.
52:25
Tony D.: You think I'm bad or I talk bad?
52:27
Tony D.: Now Let me have the money and show you how I would do it.
52:29
Tony D.: I can make a movie and I probably just Make a movie.
52:32
Tony D.: Well, go ahead, I could scare people.
52:35
Tony D.: Yes, Cynthia.
52:38
Cynthia: So you're saying if you had the money you would go way out, right?
52:42
Tony D.: Yes.
52:43
Tony D.: So, why are you always calling Carmen Bui?
52:47
Tony D.: Because I don't have her right now so I can't say who she is.
52:50
Carmen Lezeth: I can say that I need an applause machine thing.
52:54
Carmen Lezeth: No, it doesn't work.
52:55
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, why are we raising hands now?
52:58
Rick Costa: I just want to know what it feels like to raise my hand.
53:00
Rick Costa: I don't have none.
53:00
Carmen Lezeth: So, mr Dawson, mario just said just think back to our baby shower.
53:04
Carmen Lezeth: I know that was fly.
53:05
Carmen Lezeth: The baby shower was cool.
53:06
Carmen Lezeth: The thing I like about the baby shower, though, is that you're bringing a new life into the world.
53:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's your first, and you need stuff, and so we bring you stuff.
53:16
Carmen Lezeth: And here's the thing I don't remember, mario, but I don't remember you having a registry.
53:21
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember Like.
53:22
Carmen Lezeth: The registry thing drives me up a wall too, but I know it's better than wasting money and stuff, but there's something cold about it.
53:28
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
53:29
Tony D.: This is a great idea.
53:30
Tony D.: It actually is a great idea as far as spontaneous thinking.
53:35
Carmen Lezeth: I'd rather just give people money.
53:36
Tony D.: I don't like buying people pots.
53:37
Tony D.: Well, new parents need diapers, wipes and onesies period.
53:39
Tony D.: No, no, I know that's what I'm saying.
53:41
Carmen Lezeth: But there's something lost in the joy of buying a gift when I just like especially if you're not first on the registry to pick what you want to give them and then like all you're left with are like spoons or diaper bag or whatever.
53:55
Tony D.: It's like some crap stuff.
53:56
Tony D.: They will always need diapers.
53:57
Tony D.: I just give them the money.
53:59
Carmen Lezeth: I just say you know what?
54:00
Carmen Lezeth: I couldn't look at your registry.
54:01
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the money.
54:02
Tony D.: I don't even bother you, just don't know what the gender is, but other than that, they always need diapers and onesies, period Bibs, baby bags yeah Stroller.
54:10
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, what did Brian say?
54:11
Carmen Lezeth: Brian said my best friend's ex-wife made fun of Bridezilla, then became one one.
54:16
Carmen Lezeth: Thank goodness they divorced eight years later.
54:18
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, yeah, look I.
54:22
Carmen Lezeth: I think that's where I'm really again.
54:25
Carmen Lezeth: I know we kid around about the whole bougie thing, but I think I'm the opposite of bougie.
54:29
Carmen Lezeth: The last thing you would ever see me doing is having a big ass wedding.
54:33
Carmen Lezeth: It would never happen.
54:33
Carmen Lezeth: It's just not my thing.
54:35
Carmen Lezeth: I know, tony, you and I were just not.
54:37
Carmen Lezeth: We're not connected.
54:39
Tony D.: Yeah you don't know me, I don't know you, but I can see you if you have it going forward.
54:43
Tony D.: That's all of us.
54:44
Tony D.: Once we have it, we go forward.
54:46
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry say that again.
54:47
Tony D.: Once we have it, we go forward.
54:50
Carmen Lezeth: So I think Even if I had all the money in the world and this man that I love, Cynthia, I would never have a wedding.
54:57
Carmen Lezeth: I would never do it.
54:58
Carmen Lezeth: I.
55:01
Carmen Lezeth: I would never have a wedding.
55:02
Carmen Lezeth: I would never do it.
55:03
Carmen Lezeth: I have to wait to see that day it already happened.
55:04
Tony D.: I eloped, I know.
55:05
Cynthia: Well, what happens if you meet somebody who is like Tony, that wants the big, exactly?
55:11
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm not going to meet someone who's like Tony.
55:15
Tony D.: You know a bunch of people like me.
55:16
Tony D.: Stop playing.
55:18
Carmen Lezeth: You're saying, if I met a man and he really wanted to have a big wedding, yeah, like, well, then, I'm sorry, would you deny him that?
55:27
Carmen Lezeth: Oh god, would I deny him that?
55:30
Carmen Lezeth: no but I don't think I would want an over the top.
55:33
Carmen Lezeth: I would still want it to be small and I would still want it to be just like.
55:38
Carmen Lezeth: I don't't want 250, 400 people, I don't want all that crap.
55:42
Carmen Lezeth: I would like, I would want to go to a beautiful Island, invite 15 people and that's it.
55:49
Carmen Lezeth: Like we could do it like that.
55:50
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I could do whatever.
55:52
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, my 15, one five.
55:56
Rick Costa: My ex compiled the wedding list of people I think it was something like 600 people.
56:03
Rick Costa: I was like are you out your mind?
56:04
Rick Costa: No, no, no, no no no, I don't know how to choose.
56:08
Rick Costa: Like how to, I said, make it a little easier for you.
56:11
Rick Costa: This has to be people that are equally as valuable in your life and mind equally.
56:16
Rick Costa: That'll lower it down a lot.
56:17
Rick Costa: No excess, I'm like.
56:20
Rick Costa: Who is that?
56:20
Rick Costa: Who?
56:21
Cynthia: is that you had 600 people at your no no, no, no no no, no, I had 80 actually.
56:28
Rick Costa: No, I invited 80 and 70 came I had oh, I just got dissed without even uh, that's true.
56:37
Rick Costa: Damn, that was hard up.
56:39
Carmen Lezeth: I was in struggling pain.
56:40
Carmen Lezeth: I lost my condo.
56:42
Carmen Lezeth: It was terrible.
56:43
Rick Costa: You didn't offer to pay for it.
56:44
Rick Costa: That diss was so subtle.
56:46
Rick Costa: Props to Cynthia for that diss.
56:48
Carmen Lezeth: It was so subtle.
56:49
Carmen Lezeth: I invited 80 people, but only 79 showed up.
56:53
Carmen Lezeth: Just saying Just saying Cynthia is so like that Usually she would just offer to pay for stuff.
57:01
Carmen Lezeth: So you didn't really want me there.
57:03
Cynthia: Listen, I was already.
57:04
Cynthia: You know who's bougie.
57:05
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, you know who's bougie out of here.
57:09
Ted Hicks: Who.
57:12
Carmen Lezeth: Rick.
57:13
Ted Hicks: Oh.
57:14
Carmen Lezeth: No, you.
57:14
Rick Costa: Really.
57:15
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia's the bougie one.
57:17
Carmen Lezeth: How am I the bougie one?
57:18
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you're not bougie, but Cynthia is a really good person.
57:22
Carmen Lezeth: That's all I'm going to say.
57:24
Rick Costa: Good people, good with a bougie eye.
57:27
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't go to Amy's wedding either, and I totally regret that, because now I'm the godmother of her beautiful son and I love them.
57:34
Carmen Lezeth: And now that's when I was traveling, I was trying to figure out whose wedding.
57:40
Carmen Lezeth: And Amy and now that's when I was traveling, that's why I was trying to figure out who's wedding, so I didn't.
57:43
Carmen Lezeth: And Amy, I mean, I love you too, cynthia, I didn't mean to say it like that, I really love you.
57:44
Carmen Lezeth: We get pissed at each other back and forth.
57:47
Carmen Lezeth: No, but I feel bad, right, because she made me the godmother to her son and I'm like, oh my god.
57:53
Carmen Lezeth: I do regret not going to that wedding too.
57:56
Rick Costa: Brian just said clearly we are all invited a countryside, cool people allowed only.
58:02
Carmen Lezeth: Well, my best to you and your wife.
58:05
Carmen Lezeth: No, I don't you know what.
58:10
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just not a fan of weddings.
58:12
Carmen Lezeth: I don't even like the whole structure of it, I know.
58:17
Rick Costa: Did I ever tell you how my wedding started?
58:21
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember if you did.
58:21
Carmen Lezeth: I feel bad because I'm like I think my wedding started.
58:22
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember if you did.
58:22
Carmen Lezeth: I feel bad because I'm like I think you did, but I don't remember.
58:24
Rick Costa: So I wrote my own song and instead of her coming down with the father, they both waited in the back.
58:31
Rick Costa: I sang the song, walked back there singing the song and then walked back up to the front still singing the song, and it ended perfectly right when we got to the front.
58:48
Carmen Lezeth: And everybody was like's how romantical I could be okay.
58:50
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, what's the?
58:50
Carmen Lezeth: What's the most romantic wedding event you went to?
58:51
Carmen Lezeth: I don't have one, so go ahead.
58:53
Tony D.: I really don't that's a good question hmm, donations accepted for honeymoon.
59:02
Carmen Lezeth: See, I would just.
59:03
Carmen Lezeth: I see, okay, here's the man for me.
59:05
Carmen Lezeth: Let me just tell you the man for me.
59:06
Carmen Lezeth: The man for me would be like let's get married, whatever, get engagement, blah, blah.
59:11
Carmen Lezeth: And then I'd be like, baby, let's do city hall, meet you two friends, and let's go and travel for a month on the $50,000 we were about to spend on a stupid wedding.
59:26
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying but you're saying, if he had all that money and could travel, would I do it?
59:32
Carmen Lezeth: I would do any for a man that I love.
59:34
Carmen Lezeth: I would do anything for sure, but it wouldn't be what I want to do.
59:38
Tony D.: I wouldn't want to have a big ass wedding.
59:40
Carmen Lezeth: What.
59:41
Tony D.: I don't say that anymore either.
59:43
Carmen Lezeth: You don't say what.
59:44
Tony D.: I'll do anything for you.
59:45
Tony D.: I don't say that, no, damn more.
59:47
Carmen Lezeth: No, I said for someone I love.
59:48
Tony D.: Yeah, you said for the one you love, but I still won't say that, mess, no more, I'll do anything for you?
59:52
Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, there's some pain there.
59:54
Tony D.: A lot.
59:55
Rick Costa: I got a lot yeah, okay, all the women just made note of that.
59:59
Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm writing it down.
1:00:02
Carmen Lezeth: I just got my pen.
1:00:03
Carmen Lezeth: Let me just grab my ink.
1:00:05
Tony D.: What are the English and cursive?
1:00:07
Tony D.: Not anymore.
1:00:08
Carmen Lezeth: But you have to be open to the possibility that love can come again.
1:00:13
Tony D.: I have been on more than one occasion.
1:00:17
Carmen Lezeth: I feel like we need to really have this conversation now.
1:00:20
Tony D.: I have no problem with it.
1:00:23
Cynthia: I think y'all need a private lounge.
1:00:25
Tony D.: Oh, do you really want that?
1:00:27
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, what are you doing Exactly?
1:00:29
Carmen Lezeth: Oh Jesus, what am I?
1:00:33
Carmen Lezeth: A fucking therapist.
1:00:34
Carmen Lezeth: You should do a private lounge.
1:00:36
Carmen Lezeth: So you're saying you're not open to love because you were so hurt before.
1:00:44
Tony D.: Never said I wasn't open to love, but I'm not going to say I'll do anything for you.
1:00:49
Carmen Lezeth: But why?
1:00:50
Tony D.: Because of past pains, past trials and being told what I've done is not enough.
1:00:54
Tony D.: I've had enough of it.
1:00:56
Cynthia: Can you compare your next one from the past?
1:00:59
Tony D.: I'm sorry.
1:01:00
Cynthia: You can't compare your next one to your past relationship.
1:01:03
Tony D.: But you can compare it to the redundancies of time that's happened, well See.
1:01:11
Cynthia: Are you doing what I tell Brian?
1:01:13
Cynthia: Y'all got to find the right one.
1:01:16
Tony D.: That's a whole nother lounge.
1:01:19
Carmen Lezeth: Here's my question though you said you're not going to say I would do anything for you, You'll never say that again for someone you love, right?
1:01:26
Carmen Lezeth: If you love someone, you're never going to say I'll do anything for you?
1:01:29
Tony D.: No.
1:01:31
Carmen Lezeth: But if somebody you love and they love you, they would never ask you to do something that would be inappropriate or uncomfortable for you or challenging or pushing or stress and all that but so is it possible that the person that hurt you so badly, or the persons that hurt you so badly were people that you believed loved you, or but they actually didn't?
1:01:56
Carmen Lezeth: because that's how you, that that's how I would do anything for people I love?
1:02:00
Carmen Lezeth: And I mean I'm not just a man, but I mean like, and if Cynthia asked me to do anything, I would do it for her Because you know what?
1:02:06
Carmen Lezeth: I trust completely, 100%, that she wouldn't ask me something that was inappropriate.
1:02:13
Tony D.: But she's also family.
1:02:14
Tony D.: No disrespect.
1:02:15
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but Andrea Mia Billy.
1:02:18
Carmen Lezeth: Alden, I can go down the list of men that I love who are not biological family.
1:02:23
Carmen Lezeth: But that's what I'm saying.
1:02:24
Carmen Lezeth: Like people I love, I know would not, and that's what I'm trying to say.
1:02:27
Carmen Lezeth: Is it possible?
1:02:33
Tony D.: that people that you gave that trust to were not deserving of that trust.
1:02:35
Tony D.: No, I just think that some people wanted it for the moment, said it and then, when specific moments came and they couldn't, they looked at me like it was my fault for believing it in the first place.
1:02:41
Tony D.: I've had a lot of that in my life.
1:02:44
Cynthia: Then they weren't deserving of you that's a whole, nother variable.
1:02:53
Tony D.: I can honestly say that people have done things for me, I've done things for them.
1:02:56
Tony D.: I don't make the anything demand out of anybody.
1:02:59
Tony D.: We are all going to do as much as we possibly can within ourselves without compromising ourselves, and sometimes we even will compromise ourselves.
1:03:06
Tony D.: It's the cop.
1:03:08
Carmen Lezeth: No, but no no one who loves you.
1:03:09
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want you to go down this whole in living color tangent that you do.
1:03:12
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to stop you.
1:03:13
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to say it.
1:03:15
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to stop you Because you do.
1:03:17
Carmen Lezeth: You start going off on a tangent.
1:03:18
Tony D.: I'm stopping you right now, you asked me to elaborate.
1:03:20
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't ask you to elaborate.
1:03:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm saying, if you did something, okay, if you did something in the moment because you both loved each other, and then months later, years later, whatever you were hurt, can't you just leave that for what it was?
1:03:41
Tony D.: Depends on the pain.
1:03:43
Carmen Lezeth: So you haven't worked through the pain is what I'm hearing.
1:03:46
Carmen Lezeth: You haven't worked through the pain yet.
1:03:47
Tony D.: I've worked past a lot of pains, but after so many, I had to catch myself, which is what I'm doing.
1:03:52
Tony D.: What is it that I'm doing?
1:03:54
Tony D.: How far is it that I'm going?
1:03:55
Tony D.: Am I expecting too much?
1:03:57
Tony D.: Do I demand too much?
1:04:00
Carmen Lezeth: That's good.
1:04:00
Carmen Lezeth: It's a lot.
1:04:01
Tony D.: Yeah, that's what you got to do within yourself when you go through so much.
1:04:04
Tony D.: And for me, I'm at an age where I had to start regrouping, rethinking, recollecting.
1:04:08
Tony D.: I really did try to plan things out.
1:04:10
Tony D.: I'm pretty good where I'm at, but there are some errors and mistakes that I've made, some kind of reconciling myself, if you will.
1:04:16
Carmen Lezeth: Is it possible that you do the best you can until you know better than you do better, instead of harping on these mistakes that you think you made?
1:04:26
Carmen Lezeth: Is it possible that in this moment in time, I believed, thought this, so I did a, b, c and d, and that's okay, because I learned from that mistake and I'm gonna move forward?
1:04:37
Carmen Lezeth: But you can't keep going back.
1:04:39
Carmen Lezeth: Every experience is a moment that we have and then you learn from it, good or bad or indifferent.
1:04:46
Carmen Lezeth: By the way, that was my angelou.
1:04:48
Carmen Lezeth: It's not me.
1:04:49
Tony D.: I don't want people to be like, oh, karma's so eloquent how many of those do you go through before you start thinking about things?
1:04:53
Tony D.: Tony, I don't know you that well, I'm just asking, I'm just asking, but here's the thing.
1:05:00
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I'm going to say it straight up.
1:05:02
Carmen Lezeth: If you are repeatedly falling for people who hurt you, then the problem isn't you being a person who loves people and trusting people.
1:05:13
Carmen Lezeth: Your problem is in choosing people who do not deserve you.
1:05:16
Carmen Lezeth: It's what Cynthia said before.
1:05:18
Carmen Lezeth: No, no, every time I say that you don't value who you are as a person.
1:05:24
Carmen Lezeth: Every time, cynthia, didn't you see his face?
1:05:28
Carmen Lezeth: He did it three times, three different times.
1:05:30
Carmen Lezeth: You are so valuable.
1:05:34
Tony D.: You want to go all about it.
1:05:36
Carmen Lezeth: No, stop, I'm going to keep going.
1:05:39
Carmen Lezeth: You are such a valuable human being.
1:05:41
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, I'm not kidding, so stop it.
1:05:44
Carmen Lezeth: What happens is that when you allow yourself to be Tony and be the real you because you have this really good facade, a really good facade going on Baby, I got the same one.
1:05:57
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I know it takes one to know one.
1:05:59
Carmen Lezeth: It's a good facade we got going on here.
1:06:01
Carmen Lezeth: But when you let that open and you let someone in and they kick your heart, it's really hard to let people back in again.
1:06:11
Carmen Lezeth: What I'm trying to tell you is don't let everybody in, but don't conceal your heart either.
1:06:19
Carmen Lezeth: Be less open to everybody and getting that piece of you.
1:06:23
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I'm so good.
1:06:25
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I'm so good at cutting people off.
1:06:27
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia made fun of me the other day in a nice way.
1:06:29
Carmen Lezeth: I am the queen of.
1:06:30
Carmen Lezeth: You just showed me who you are.
1:06:32
Carmen Lezeth: I'm done.
1:06:32
Carmen Lezeth: I'm never talking to you again because I've been hurt that many times.
1:06:36
Carmen Lezeth: I know what you're talking about, but, tony, I think you don't realize you wince every time you get a compliment, every time somebody says you're deserving of something.
1:06:45
Carmen Lezeth: You don't see it, but it's a body language thing and I know Cynthia saw it the first time and that's an interesting thing.
1:06:52
Carmen Lezeth: I think you have to work on your self-esteem, not the facade self-esteem that you show the bravado, but the real self-esteem that know that you're worthy.
1:07:01
Carmen Lezeth: You can watch this on the replay.
1:07:05
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
1:07:06
Tony D.: You have no idea.
1:07:06
Tony D.: I was watching the first one the other week and I laughed my butt off.
1:07:10
Carmen Lezeth: Really, that's so funny, can I throw?
1:07:12
Rick Costa: this in there too.
1:07:13
Rick Costa: I know a lot of people that in their second marriage they were so much happier and they say first of all, I wasn't very mature in the first one.
1:07:22
Rick Costa: Second of all, I didn't really know what I wanted in life.
1:07:25
Rick Costa: Third of all, they just rattled off reasons.
1:07:27
Rick Costa: You learn and that's the biggest thing is like people.
1:07:31
Rick Costa: I've heard people say like you're divorced, you ain't got no qualifications.
1:07:34
Tony D.: To tell me about marriage, honey, I know exactly what I did wrong so, yeah, I can't tell you any of you got anybody want to tell him that we can sit back and talk about this.
1:07:42
Tony D.: You let me know when you're ready talk about what?
1:07:44
Tony D.: What do you say about marriage and people saying you're not qualified to talk about marriage?
1:07:50
Carmen Lezeth: People do that so that they don't have to hear the truth.
1:07:52
Carmen Lezeth: People say that to me about not having children and I'm going to tell you right now.
1:07:54
Carmen Lezeth: The fact that I don't have motherfucking children is exactly why I can tell you guys why you suck as parents.
1:07:59
Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm being serious, I get so upset about it I do.
1:08:02
Tony D.: I think we need a lounge.
1:08:07
Carmen Lezeth: It's exactly why it's exactly why?
1:08:08
Carmen Lezeth: Because I'm not in it, I'm not confused.
1:08:10
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
1:08:11
Carmen Lezeth: Like sometimes parents, because you have that protective gene, you don't remember what it's like to be a kid.
1:08:17
Carmen Lezeth: You're being so protective You're not realizing they're just being 13.
1:08:21
Cynthia: They're just being 11.
1:08:23
Cynthia: That's true.
1:08:23
Carmen Lezeth: Stop being so mean I saw someone the other day.
1:08:26
Carmen Lezeth: I looked at this woman.
1:08:27
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know her, but she was about to hit her kid in the grocery store.
1:08:32
Carmen Lezeth: I just looked at her like she didn't.
1:08:37
Carmen Lezeth: She acted like she was grabbing before I'm like.
1:08:39
Tony D.: I would have lost my shit if she hit that kid In reverse, if somebody would have done that to you, you would have been ready to go off on them.
1:08:45
Carmen Lezeth: What do you mean?
1:08:46
Carmen Lezeth: What are you talking about?
1:08:46
Tony D.: What?
1:08:46
Tony D.: Because nobody's going to tell you how to raise a child.
1:08:48
Tony D.: You don't care.
1:08:49
Carmen Lezeth: No, but you don't need.
1:08:50
Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no, no, no.
1:08:50
Carmen Lezeth: But she was about to hit her kid.
1:08:52
Carmen Lezeth: I could feel it.
1:08:53
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't say nothing, but the look and my concern was enough to get her to be like looking for potatoes or something in the thing.
1:09:00
Carmen Lezeth: It was stupid.
1:09:02
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm not telling people how to raise their kids.
1:09:04
Carmen Lezeth: Goddamn cart, I'm not going to do it.
1:09:05
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying she did it.
1:09:06
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, don't get me.
1:09:14
Carmen Lezeth: I'm so sick of bad parents.
1:09:17
Carmen Lezeth: There's so many of you motherfuckers out there, bad parents, I'm sorry, trigger, trigger, because you're raising the next generation of as a parent, I got to tell you this is what you should be talking about on late night parents.
1:09:34
Carmen Lezeth: Hello, yes, yes, this is what you guys should be talking about.
1:09:38
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, I do get upset, because you know what we keep blaming kids for.
1:09:43
Carmen Lezeth: We keep blaming Gen Z for all these bad things and whatever.
1:09:48
Carmen Lezeth: And then we not like who are the parents who taught them this shit?
1:09:51
Carmen Lezeth: You're all mad at them because they have their phones and they're attached to their phones, but you're the one who gave it to them because you didn't want to fucking deal with them.
1:09:59
Tony D.: You don't want to read you don't want to take time, save that for the next episode.
1:10:03
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying we went from love to parenting.
1:10:06
Tony D.: I've said that conversation so many times.
1:10:08
Tony D.: I would love to have that conversation.
1:10:10
Tony D.: I'm on everybody's ass, it's apparent.
1:10:13
Rick Costa: I'm on everybody's ass.
1:10:17
Tony D.: Whenever I'm so scared.
1:10:19
Carmen Lezeth: I get upset because I think that.
1:10:20
Carmen Lezeth: I love Gen Z.
1:10:22
Carmen Lezeth: I love Gen Z, but I also think they've been mistreated yeah.
1:10:25
Carmen Lezeth: So back to love and Tony.
1:10:29
Carmen Lezeth: Just to wrap that up, cynthia, do you have a little analysis of what you think Tony's issues are with love?
1:10:37
Cynthia: I think Tony's just been beat up for so many years by women in general that his self-esteem and self-worth has diminished and doesn't feel like he is.
1:10:49
Tony D.: That was a wince.
1:10:49
Tony D.: And doesn't know like he is.
1:10:50
Tony D.: That was a wince.
1:10:50
Tony D.: That was a wince.
1:10:51
Tony D.: That was a wince.
1:10:52
Cynthia: Mm-hmm and doesn't know how to take compliments.
1:10:55
Cynthia: No, I.
1:10:57
Ted Hicks: Yeah, I'm not going to.
1:10:58
Ted Hicks: You're not doing it right now.
1:10:59
Carmen Lezeth: You're not taking it in, you're talking.
1:11:01
Ted Hicks: You're not letting her finish.
1:11:02
Carmen Lezeth: Nope, you got to let her finish.
1:11:03
Carmen Lezeth: Let her do the compliment.
1:11:07
Carmen Lezeth: There's a.
1:11:08
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to turn you off right now.
1:11:09
Tony D.: You won't listen to me.
1:11:11
Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, cynthia, because Cynthia was speaking, but I get cut off.
1:11:14
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia was speaking, mr President, mr Vice President, I'm speaking, mr Vice President.
1:11:23
Tony D.: I'm going to give you a little too big though.
1:11:26
Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, Cynthia, Finish up what you were saying with your analysis of Tony Fischel.
1:11:29
Cynthia: I think he needs to work on his own self-esteem and know that he is worthy of finding someone who values him as he should.
1:11:43
Carmen Lezeth: I concur, Rick.
1:11:45
Carmen Lezeth: Do you want to do an analysis from a male's point of view?
1:11:49
Rick Costa: I rewatched the video we did with Steven Pena the other day.
1:11:52
Rick Costa: Anybody can go back and verify that I said this.
1:11:56
Rick Costa: I said Steven Pena, he definitely is ready for love, he definitely is a girlfriend, he's ready for.
1:12:02
Rick Costa: I said Tony, no, not yet.
1:12:05
Rick Costa: I'm not Ted.
1:12:06
Rick Costa: Oh, cool, carmen.
1:12:08
Carmen Lezeth: Ted.
1:12:08
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, cool, carmen.
1:12:11
Carmen Lezeth: Ted, I was just about to jump off Because we're 119, so if you're going to come up now, the one time I don't send him a link is when he Wants to come up.
1:12:23
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not sending nobody.
1:12:25
Tony D.: It was just us.
1:12:26
Tony D.: We don't know.
1:12:29
Rick Costa: Come up now.
1:12:30
Rick Costa: If ever, hold your peace.
1:12:32
Carmen Lezeth: Come up now.
1:12:33
Carmen Lezeth: I forever hold your peace.
1:12:33
Carmen Lezeth: Come up now, he can come up with me.
1:12:35
Carmen Lezeth: I got to see if he comes up.
1:12:36
Tony D.: If you're telling me I'll be honest.
1:12:37
Tony D.: I'm careful with compliments.
1:12:39
Tony D.: Some people make compliments, get them arrogant.
1:12:41
Tony D.: What I do is control my arrogance.
1:12:43
Carmen Lezeth: No, good try, but no, that's not it.
1:12:46
Tony D.: You just cut me off.
1:12:46
Tony D.: It's my show.
1:12:47
Tony D.: I can do whatever I want.
1:12:52
Tony D.: She got you there.
1:12:52
Tony D.: She got you there.
1:12:53
Tony D.: I'm going to get on mine, don't worry.
1:12:56
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think Ted's coming up.
1:12:57
Carmen Lezeth: I think he was lying.
1:12:58
Tony D.: He is coming up.
1:12:59
Tony D.: He's not going to tell you unless he's going to come.
1:13:00
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, here he is.
1:13:00
Carmen Lezeth: You want me to turn off Tony's mic.
1:13:05
Carmen Lezeth: How you doing, yes.
1:13:09
Ted Hicks: He usually turned off Tony's mic when Cynthia was speaking.
1:13:13
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, you're right, cynthia.
1:13:16
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry, that's okay Go ahead.
1:13:20
Cynthia: Tony, you can rebuttal.
1:13:26
Ted Hicks: He's got something special in that Pepsi.
1:13:30
Tony D.: I've cut down on my liquor intake.
1:13:31
Tony D.: Ted, are you still alone?
1:13:32
Tony D.: Special in that Pepsi His peach schnapps.
1:13:33
Tony D.: I've cut down on my liquor intake.
1:13:34
Carmen Lezeth: Ted, are you still alone?
1:13:35
Carmen Lezeth: Is your wife still having a great time traveling?
1:13:43
Ted Hicks: Everyone is back under my roof, my roof.
1:13:44
Ted Hicks: I didn't want to say that too loud.
1:13:47
Cynthia: You did.
1:13:51
Carmen Lezeth: How are you doing, Mr Hicks?
1:13:53
Ted Hicks: I'm doing great.
1:13:54
Ted Hicks: I'm doing great, enjoying the show, enjoying the content, and I don't know how we're going to follow this up.
1:14:02
Carmen Lezeth: You're going to follow up.
1:14:02
Carmen Lezeth: You guys should talk about parenting on the show late night.
1:14:05
Carmen Lezeth: Parents, that would be nice to hear men talk about parenting.
1:14:10
Ted Hicks: Just curious.
1:14:10
Ted Hicks: We are going to talk about some men topic tonight, some men's type topics.
1:14:14
Cynthia: Oh, we will, you're going to talk about selfishness.
1:14:17
Cynthia: We usually do.
1:14:18
Ted Hicks: We usually throw out a question or two and we embellish on it, and then we go on to the next topic.
1:14:24
Carmen Lezeth: That's so weird.
1:14:25
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, you're noticing what I just did, right?
1:14:26
Carmen Lezeth: You're noticing what I'm noticing Mm it, right?
1:14:34
Tony D.: you noticing what I'm noticing ted hicks comes on the show and tony shuts the fuck up.
1:14:38
Carmen Lezeth: Isn't that amazing?
1:14:38
Carmen Lezeth: That ain't even what happened?
1:14:39
Carmen Lezeth: It's exactly what happened.
1:14:40
Rick Costa: It's exactly what happened I think tony's being respectful because he's been talking a lot and ted just got here, so he's I think carmen just wants to know what's his name going to be on the show tonight.
1:14:54
Rick Costa: What's his name?
1:14:56
Carmen Lezeth: No, he's not going to be on the show.
1:14:57
Carmen Lezeth: Ted, still don't know who he is.
1:15:00
Ted Hicks: Oh yeah, I still don't know who he is, and I did follow your friend.
1:15:03
Ted Hicks: Oh really, I clicked on every social media account.
1:15:12
Carmen Lezeth: He's not going to tell you nothing.
1:15:12
Carmen Lezeth: She's not going to tell you nothing.
1:15:13
Carmen Lezeth: She's not going to tell you nothing.
1:15:15
Ted Hicks: And I was like hello.
1:15:17
Carmen Lezeth: She's not going to.
1:15:18
Carmen Lezeth: She ain't going to mess with you people, okay.
1:15:21
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, tony, I feel like, do you want to say any last words or chime in any way?
1:15:27
Carmen Lezeth: Or you want me to keep beating you up a bit?
1:15:29
Carmen Lezeth: I want you to find love.
1:15:32
Ted Hicks: I think you're a good person I'm taking my time before I accept it before you accept it because I have to be able to reciprocate the love that's given to me so basically, tony is saying I'm gonna help out, tony, he's taking a step forward, he he's listening to the advice Cynthia and you have provided.
1:15:54
Ted Hicks: He's going to think about it, that's not what he's saying.
1:16:01
Carmen Lezeth: Ted's over there stirring the pot.
1:16:03
Carmen Lezeth: It's all bullshit, but you see how Tony's not reacting to him, just laughing, giggling.
1:16:07
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, you know you treat women differently than you treat men, right?
1:16:13
Tony D.: Look at how I get treated by women, oh.
1:16:16
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry.
1:16:18
Carmen Lezeth: Who here has a nickname that she can't get rid of?
1:16:22
Carmen Lezeth: Who, oh who?
1:16:26
Carmen Lezeth: Who has a nickname here?
1:16:28
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, who is always dissing me for any little thing?
1:16:31
Carmen Lezeth: I do Not, rick.
1:16:33
Ted Hicks: Not Rick.
1:16:34
Carmen Lezeth: Not Rick.
1:16:34
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you like to diss shit out, but I give you credit because you can take it too.
1:16:40
Carmen Lezeth: That's why we get along.
1:16:41
Carmen Lezeth: But I still think all that pain and hurt is you doing way too much of past over analysis to try to fix something that you got to.
1:16:55
Carmen Lezeth: Just let it go.
1:16:56
Carmen Lezeth: It was just a moment in time.
1:16:58
Carmen Lezeth: It hurt but it's time to move forward.
1:17:00
Carmen Lezeth: You're missing out.
1:17:02
Cynthia: He's working on it.
1:17:03
Cynthia: He's working on it, right, tony.
1:17:06
Tony D.: Yes, within myself, I got to work on myself.
1:17:09
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, we all do, I don't know, I'm fucking beautiful and shit, my spirit is on point.
1:17:18
Carmen Lezeth: Self-confidence galore, right.
1:17:25
Carmen Lezeth: Isn't that fun that's what it is.
1:17:30
Rick Costa: I am beautiful, no matter what they say.
1:17:35
Ted Hicks: Look it.
1:17:36
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just kidding, but I think, tony, there's a lot of similarities between you and me.
1:17:40
Carmen Lezeth: That's the only reason why I'm saying that is because I know what you're going through, because I've been there.
1:17:47
Tony D.: I heard you say that and I know you're going to make.
1:17:49
Tony D.: I did hear you when you said that I heard you say that and I know you're going to leave.
1:17:52
Carmen Lezeth: I did hear you when you said that.
1:17:53
Carmen Lezeth: You know I mean I'm just messing with you, but that's why I am feeling comfortable to say what I'm saying to you is because I've already been down that road.
1:17:59
Carmen Lezeth: I know what it's like.
1:17:59
Carmen Lezeth: And the problem with that the overanalyzing of what might have been what I could have done I got to fix myself, I got to do this or whatever is it keeps you from all the love that's in front of you.
1:18:12
Carmen Lezeth: It's not just about romantic love, it's just all of everything that's in front of you.
1:18:16
Carmen Lezeth: And sometimes living in the past and doing all that overly analysis stuff is also a safe place to be.
1:18:22
Rick Costa: Yes it is.
1:18:23
Carmen Lezeth: It's very safe.
1:18:24
Rick Costa: When you've been hurt that deeply, that means you can love that deeply and for somebody to betray that it hurts what book you get there from Well I don't know, damn, maybe that was his genius bitch.
1:18:39
Carmen Lezeth: Why are you being me?
1:18:40
Carmen Lezeth: He's got the Lord and that's it Everyone.
1:18:45
Carmen Lezeth: I've had a great time.
1:18:46
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much Everyone for stopping by again.
1:18:49
Carmen Lezeth: Remember, it's all about the joy, except for tony.
1:18:53
Carmen Lezeth: No, it's all about the joy, baby.
1:18:56
Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate you all coming on.
1:18:57
Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, as always, tony, you know I got you.
1:19:00
Carmen Lezeth: And ted hicks, thank you for coming up for five minutes I'll take it.
1:19:04
Ted Hicks: All you have to do is send me the link.
1:19:06
Ted Hicks: Oh, I was searching.
1:19:08
Ted Hicks: I searched through my corporate email, my consultant email and then my personal email for tonight.
1:19:17
Ted Hicks: I was like she includes me every week and I'm like did I do something wrong?
1:19:24
Carmen Lezeth: Are you a lawyer by any?
1:19:24
Rick Costa: chance.
1:19:25
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't send it to anybody.
1:19:27
Carmen Lezeth: So thank you everyone.
1:19:28
Carmen Lezeth: We'll see you again next week.
1:19:29
Carmen Lezeth: It's all about the joy.
1:19:31
Carmen Lezeth: Bye, thanks for stopping's.
1:19:31
Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy.
1:19:32
Carmen Lezeth: Bye, thanks for stopping by.
1:19:34
Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy.
1:19:35
Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful folks.
1:19:38
Carmen Lezeth: Have a sweet day.