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Midweek Check In · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Thank you. what's up what's up what's up what's up
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  Speaker 1: everybody hey y'all already know who it is it's your
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  Speaker 1: favorite girlfriend of 504 bringing you another episode of black
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  Speaker 1: girl interrupted podcast ah i am so excited to see
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  Speaker 1: y'all don't judge me okay y'all i don't got no
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  Speaker 1: fat everything girl but uh y'all welcome welcome welcome welcome
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  Speaker 1: welcome welcome welcome um Back to a Black Girl Interrupted podcast. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it is your girl, Ash, bringing you another beautiful episode
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  Speaker 1: this week. I do apologize for my... Let me start
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  Speaker 1: off by saying thank y'all so much for the way
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  Speaker 1: that y'all love on me, for the way that y'all
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  Speaker 1: pour into me, for the way that y'all have supported
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  Speaker 1: me since the very beginning. I wanted to be the...
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  Speaker 1: I just... I wanted to start off by saying that
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  Speaker 1: first because... Black Girl Interrupted Podcast would not be where
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  Speaker 1: it is today if it were not for y'all. So
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  Speaker 1: I am very grateful for all the love, for all
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  Speaker 1: the support. Thank y'all to everybody that has been voting
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  Speaker 1: for me. I have finally moved up to second place.
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  Speaker 1: So keep those votes rolling in. Tomorrow night, they do
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  Speaker 1: the second round of cuts. And I believe it is
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  Speaker 1: the top 10 will stay. So Keep pushing to get
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  Speaker 1: your girl to number one. I just don't think y'all
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  Speaker 1: understand how much this really truly means to me. Um,
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  Speaker 1: tonight I'm gonna do something a little different because tonight is,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm doing my midweek check-in. Um, but I,
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  Speaker 1: I really want to just let you guys know what's
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  Speaker 1: been going on. Um, so I have not posted about
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  Speaker 1: what's been going on with me, um, physically or medically
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  Speaker 1: what's been going on. So, um, You know what? Before
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  Speaker 1: I even jump into that, let's do our mental health check-in.
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  Speaker 1: So anyone that is new to Black Girl Interrupted podcast. Hey, sus.
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  Speaker 1: Anybody that is new to Black Girl Interrupted podcast. There's
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  Speaker 1: my sister, Yoshi. Thank you, sus. Thank you. Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for sharing my post. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: for voting for me. Thank you for loving me. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you for supporting me. Let me tell you something. Y'all
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  Speaker 1: not going to get me emotional tonight, okay? That's not
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  Speaker 1: what we doing. Tonight is, we're going to have a celebration.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to have a beautiful night tonight. So y'all
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  Speaker 1: not going to have me up here crying like y'all
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  Speaker 1: always do. But I have not posted. So for, to
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  Speaker 1: kind of give you guys an update. So back in September,
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  Speaker 1: not only do I have fibromyalgia, but I was also
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  Speaker 1: recently diagnosed with ankylosing spondylitis, which is a autoimmune disease,
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  Speaker 1: which is, Basically, I have arthritis in my back. So
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  Speaker 1: due to that, I had to have a couple of
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  Speaker 1: procedures done. So I've been able to I have been
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  Speaker 1: unable to sit for extended periods of time. So this
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  Speaker 1: is my first night back in doing my podcast. So
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  Speaker 1: only only a select few knew what was going on.
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  Speaker 1: But I am good. God has me. I'm fine. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm not going to complain because it could
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  Speaker 1: be worse. Life could be horrible for me. But by
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  Speaker 1: the grace of God, I am still here. I know
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  Speaker 1: many people are asking, you know, physical therapy. Unfortunately, at
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  Speaker 1: this time, I'm not able to do any type of
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  Speaker 1: physical therapy due to the, my body is full of inflammation.
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  Speaker 1: And basically, my spine is older than I am. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of wear and tear. Um, so I
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  Speaker 1: am on a lot of, uh, medications and things like that, um,
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  Speaker 1: to try to help alleviate the pain, but, uh, I
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  Speaker 1: won't complain. You know, I, I'm still here by the
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  Speaker 1: grace of God. I am blessed. I am blessed. I
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  Speaker 1: am blessed. I am highly favored. Oh, thank you, Sissy.
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  Speaker 1: I love you so much. Um, but I, again, I
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  Speaker 1: won't complain. Um, does it feel good to be back
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  Speaker 1: doing Black Related to Rutherford podcast? Absolutely. Um, I, I've
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  Speaker 1: missed y'all. I miss our conversations. I miss the things that,
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  Speaker 1: the topics that I continuously bring to you guys, but
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  Speaker 1: just know that I am back. I am here and
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  Speaker 1: we're going to finish out 2026 strong as we walk
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  Speaker 1: into 2027. So that's just kind of a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of what's been going on, but of course there's other things,
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  Speaker 1: but We'll save that for a different day. But again,
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  Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you to everyone that has, again,
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  Speaker 1: supported me on my podcast journey. Thank you to everyone
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  Speaker 1: that has supported me from the beginning until the present.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for understanding, excuse me, and being
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  Speaker 1: patient with me as I transition back into doing my podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Not only have I been trying to, you know, taking
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  Speaker 1: it easy and taking care of myself, but We do
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  Speaker 1: have a internet radio station that will be launching January
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  Speaker 1: 1st of 2027. It is called Grown Folks Radio. I'm
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  Speaker 1: absolutely ecstatic about that. I will post the link. I
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  Speaker 1: will start posting and sharing just to rev up for
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  Speaker 1: the release. I'm sorry, for the launch of Grown Folks Radio.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so excited to be a part of that. I
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  Speaker 1: will be on Grown Folks Radio Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday,
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  Speaker 1: and then on Saturdays. Um, man, it's so many things
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  Speaker 1: that have been going on. Um, I have to share
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  Speaker 1: it with y'all. Like, I don't think y'all understand. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I know you too, honey. It's so good to see you, sweetheart.
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  Speaker 1: I know you. Um, and then it's, I hope to see,
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  Speaker 1: maybe I'll, I'll come through and hang out with y'all
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  Speaker 1: a little bit. Um, at the anime bar for Halloween.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm not dressing up or anything. I may just
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  Speaker 1: come in and hang out for a little while. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm old. Y'all know I can't do all of that.
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  Speaker 1: And my sister Yoshi says, yes, you are. Absolutely. But
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  Speaker 1: I have just had my hand in a plethora of things.
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  Speaker 1: Also coming in March, we will be releasing a true
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  Speaker 1: crime podcast that I will be a part of. So
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  Speaker 1: your girl has been busy. So just because y'all haven't
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  Speaker 1: seen me in front of the camera doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 1: I have not been working hard. behind the scenes to
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  Speaker 1: bring y'all, uh, great content. Um, gosh, man, but again,
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  Speaker 1: happy Wednesday. Uh, y'all know what it is. I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: my midweek check-in. I want to know how y'all are doing.
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  Speaker 1: I have missed y'all tremendously. Um, man, we, we just,
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  Speaker 1: we ready to rock and roll, man, for 2026. Um,
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  Speaker 1: y'all know we are already, you might as well say
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  Speaker 1: November because November is, um, Sunday. The first is Sunday.
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  Speaker 1: So we are going to finish out 2026 strong. There
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  Speaker 1: are so many things that we have to really, really,
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  Speaker 1: really tap into as we round out the year, as
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  Speaker 1: we roll into 2027, because I want to stop and
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  Speaker 1: I want to encourage somebody. I made a post today
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  Speaker 1: on Facebook that says, some of y'all don't clap enough
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  Speaker 1: for yourself and I don't like that. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to tell y'all, I need you to start celebrating yourself more.
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  Speaker 1: You know, regardless of who supports or not, I want
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  Speaker 1: you to start supporting yourself. I want you to start
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  Speaker 1: loving yourself. I want you to continue to pour into
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  Speaker 1: yourself because you are just, you're amazing. And I know
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  Speaker 1: in this time, in this climate, you know, it's election time.
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  Speaker 1: It's been a lot of things that have been going
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  Speaker 1: on in the news. People are going back and forth.
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  Speaker 1: People are, friendships are, friendships are ending. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: people are being exposed, but I want you to know
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  Speaker 1: that Dennis has bring the podcast to the anime bar.
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  Speaker 1: You know what? I do have a cat. You know what?
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  Speaker 1: I do have, that's not a bad idea. I very
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  Speaker 1: well may do that. I just might do that. Um,
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  Speaker 1: my sister Yoshi says, God is able. I am so
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  Speaker 1: proud of you, sister. And she says, I celebrate me.
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  Speaker 1: And I want you to. I want everyone to stop
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  Speaker 1: and give yourself a round of applause. Because with everything
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  Speaker 1: that we have endured in 2026, whether it be a
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  Speaker 1: loss of a job, whether it be a loss of
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  Speaker 1: a loved one, whether it just be anything, I want
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  Speaker 1: you to stop and take some time and I want
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  Speaker 1: you to celebrate yourself. I want you to give yourself
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  Speaker 1: a round of applause. You understand? Matter of fact, let
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  Speaker 1: me do this. Okay. Yeah. are. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: continue to celebrate yourself. But I also want you to remember,
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  Speaker 1: not everyone is meant to go with you on your journey.
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  Speaker 1: Not everyone is meant to go and follow you on
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  Speaker 1: your next chapter. You understand? And one of the things
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  Speaker 1: that we have got to learn how to do is
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  Speaker 1: we have to let go of things that that are
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  Speaker 1: not pivotal to our mental health. We have to start
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  Speaker 1: letting go of things that are detrimental to us. We
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  Speaker 1: have to start letting go of things that mean us
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  Speaker 1: no good, whether that's a relationship, whether that's a job,
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  Speaker 1: whether that's anything. But today I'm celebrating me. Today I'm
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  Speaker 1: celebrating you. Today I'm celebrating everybody because it's a celebration.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we have made it. Here we are almost
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  Speaker 1: 11 months in 2026. And then we move on into 2027.
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  Speaker 1: What are our goals? What are the things that we
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  Speaker 1: set for ourselves in 2026 that we didn't get to
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  Speaker 1: accomplish that I am going to encourage you to do
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  Speaker 1: in 2027? So if it's a book that you're writing
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  Speaker 1: and you are stuck, get up. Write that book. Keep going.
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  Speaker 1: Not everybody's going to celebrate you. Not everybody's going to
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  Speaker 1: be proud of you. And that's okay. Be proud of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: There are some people that quit and never get up
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  Speaker 1: and do it again. Because they're stuck. Because they're afraid
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  Speaker 1: of failure. Failure's going to come. You're going to fall down.
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  Speaker 1: But you got to get back up. You got to
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  Speaker 1: keep pushing. You got to keep moving. You got to
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  Speaker 1: keep showing up for yourself. I was telling my girlfriend today,
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  Speaker 1: my girl Jazz. So shout out to my sister. I
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  Speaker 1: love you, girl. And baby, when I tell you that
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  Speaker 1: side eyes and alibis, just wait. Just wait till that
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  Speaker 1: launches in March. I told her today, sometimes we dim
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  Speaker 1: our own lights. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.
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  Speaker 1: And it's okay to critique yourself. But also at the
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  Speaker 1: same time, you have to give yourself the grace. You understand?
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  Speaker 1: That's one of the things, excuse me, that I've had
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  Speaker 1: to learn how to do in this season. You know,
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  Speaker 1: having fibromyalgia was already enough for me. Then to be
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  Speaker 1: diagnosed with something on top of that, that constantly keeps
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  Speaker 1: me in pain, was hard for me. But one of
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  Speaker 1: the things that I did not allow her to do,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't let it take control of my mental. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't let it stop me from showing up for myself.
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  Speaker 1: So I say all of that to say, I'm celebrating myself.
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  Speaker 1: I'm clapping for myself because today is the first day
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  Speaker 1: in a long time that I've really truly showed up
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  Speaker 1: for me. You know, I've had, my sister says, that's right.
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  Speaker 1: That's a true statement. I've had people trying to excuse
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  Speaker 1: my language, shit on my marriage. And this is not friends.
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  Speaker 1: This is family. I've had family talk about me in present.
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  Speaker 1: But I've also said, I'm not going to allow the
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  Speaker 1: negativity to tour me for the route that I'm on.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? And when I say I'm not going to
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  Speaker 1: allow it, Now you're going to work on my terms.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? I'm going to deal with you accordingly. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to talk to you when I feel like talking
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  Speaker 1: to you, when I have a purpose to talk to you.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? So I say all that to say, stop
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  Speaker 1: letting people dim your light. Stop letting the projections from
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  Speaker 1: others affect you. Because at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: we don't owe anybody anything but ourselves. You understand? We
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  Speaker 1: don't owe anybody an explanation about how the dynamics of
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  Speaker 1: our marriage works, our relationship works, whether it's your work,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's your personal, whether it's a business relationship. You
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  Speaker 1: only owe it to yourself. So stop over explaining yourself
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  Speaker 1: to people about why you move the way that you
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  Speaker 1: do or why you do the things that you do.
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  Speaker 1: Stop doing that. Because whatever they eat, don't make you oomph.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all know the word. So stop allowing outsiders to control
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  Speaker 1: your emotions. Stop allowing outsiders to dictate how you're supposed
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  Speaker 1: to feel. One thing that I learned, and I was
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  Speaker 1: having a conversation with my daughter, and I was telling
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  Speaker 1: her and I said, you know, I'm so proud of
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  Speaker 1: her and how she continuously shows up for herself despite
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  Speaker 1: the obstacles my daughter encountered, you know, from losing her
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  Speaker 1: father to, mending a relationship with me, between trying to
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  Speaker 1: balance a job and work. I mean, in school, I
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  Speaker 1: told her I was proud of her for continuing to
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  Speaker 1: show up. And my daughter told me, she said, I'm
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  Speaker 1: proud of you. She said, because regardless of everything that
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  Speaker 1: you endured, you still stood tall. So I want y'all
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  Speaker 1: to do the same. Stand tall. Stop worrying about outside
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  Speaker 1: is because, let me tell you something, people are going
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  Speaker 1: to talk. They're going to always have something to say.
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  Speaker 1: But you don't have to explain that to them. You
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  Speaker 1: don't owe them that. You only owe it to you.
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  Speaker 1: So I want you to continue to pour into you.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to love on you. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to encourage you. I want you to stop right now
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  Speaker 1: in this moment and tell yourself how proud you are
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  Speaker 1: because you showed up today. And that takes a lot.
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  Speaker 1: When you're going through things mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, it
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  Speaker 1: takes a lot out of you. So be proud that
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  Speaker 1: you got up today. Be proud that you got up
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  Speaker 1: and you went to work today. Be proud that you
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  Speaker 1: got up and took a shower or maybe combed your
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  Speaker 1: hair or maybe made you a sandwich or cooked a meal.
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  Speaker 1: Be proud of yourself for that. Give yourself the grace.
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  Speaker 1: Stop beating yourself down. We do this. I have done it.
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  Speaker 1: I have berated myself to the point where I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I was done. You understand? So it's, there you go, sis.
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  Speaker 1: There you go. That's it. And she said, everyone and
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  Speaker 1: everything is not for you. And it's not. And the
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  Speaker 1: biggest haters come from right inside your very circle. Your
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  Speaker 1: family will be your biggest haters. You understand? But the
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  Speaker 1: strangers will be your biggest supporters. And that's the sad part.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? But I've learned to bet on myself so
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  Speaker 1: I want you to bet on yourself I want you
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  Speaker 1: to invest in yourself whatever it is that you have
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  Speaker 1: whatever plan it is that you have set for yourself
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  Speaker 1: I want you to follow through with it I want
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  Speaker 1: you to take it one day at a time one
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  Speaker 1: foot in front of the other I want you to
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  Speaker 1: also remember and y'all know I say this every time
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  Speaker 1: I don't care about how many times you fell down
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  Speaker 1: I just want to see the amount of times you
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  Speaker 1: got back up you know Dennis says screw the haters
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  Speaker 1: you know Exactly. The less F's you give the haters,
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  Speaker 1: the better you feel. Absolutely. And the sad part about it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, is family, my very own family. And that's sad.
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  Speaker 1: And you would think you would be celebrating. You think
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  Speaker 1: you would be happy for me. You would think that
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  Speaker 1: you would be grateful that I, let me, let me,
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  Speaker 1: let me see this. If you've never been married, never
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  Speaker 1: been proposed to, Stop telling people how the dynamics of
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  Speaker 1: their marriage should work. You understand? One thing for sure.
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  Speaker 1: I have the greatest husband in the entire world. Let
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  Speaker 1: me start off by saying that. I have a man
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  Speaker 1: that allows me to just be me. My husband has
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  Speaker 1: been my biggest supporter. My husband has been my biggest cheerleader.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? We are a team. And one thing I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to allow. Is to let dissension come in
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  Speaker 1: our household. Because right here on Mazini Drive. We're drama
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  Speaker 1: free over here. We don't tolerate nonsense. We don't deal
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  Speaker 1: with that. My husband has taught me how to communicate.
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  Speaker 1: You understand? My husband has taught me how. That it's
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  Speaker 1: okay to be upset. It's okay for me to scream,
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  Speaker 1: shout and get it out. But most importantly. My husband
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  Speaker 1: taught me how to love me. So. If you can't
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  Speaker 1: celebrate that with me, I don't even want you around me.
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  Speaker 1: Because my husband is here to stay. The only person
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  Speaker 1: that can separate me and my husband is Jesus Jerome
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  Speaker 1: Christian Christ III. That's the only person that can separate
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  Speaker 1: me and my husband. No mama, no daddy, no sister,
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  Speaker 1: no brother, no cousin, no uncle, no niece, no nephew.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing can come in between us. You understand? Because God
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  Speaker 1: made us as one. God has blessed our union. God
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  Speaker 1: is overseeing our union. So I want y'all to, again,
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  Speaker 1: stop allowing outsiders in your relationship. Cut them off. I
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  Speaker 1: read a post the other day. Someone said, is it
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  Speaker 1: a bad thing to cut off a family? No. Because
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  Speaker 1: you have to protect your peace at all times. It's
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  Speaker 1: okay to set boundaries. Because again, I have more years
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  Speaker 1: behind me than what I have in front of me.
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  Speaker 1: And what I'm not going to do is I'm not
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  Speaker 1: going to spend whatever time I have left on this
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  Speaker 1: side being miserable. And I'm not going to allow anyone
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  Speaker 1: else to make me miserable. So to my husband, Raphael,
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  Speaker 1: let me say this to you, babe. I love you
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  Speaker 1: and I appreciate you and I thank you for everything
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  Speaker 1: that you do and everything that you continue to do
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  Speaker 1: for me. Now, take with that what you will. I
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  Speaker 1: had to get that off my chest because when I
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  Speaker 1: tell you all that had been weighing heavy on my
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  Speaker 1: shoulders because I couldn't believe. But then again, I'm not surprised.
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  Speaker 1: So to anyone that feels like I'm not happy in
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  Speaker 1: my marriage, baby, you got a rude awakening coming. Now,
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  Speaker 1: to anyone that's in a relationship, a friendship, a situationship,
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  Speaker 1: that's you. That's your business. Stop over explaining to people.
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  Speaker 1: If you decide you want to walk away from your
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  Speaker 1: job tomorrow, you do what's best for you. You do
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  Speaker 1: what's beneficial for you. Stop letting other people dictate your
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  Speaker 1: next move. You understand? Don't let anyone dictate your next move.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: As long as it is the best and beneficial for you,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: stop worrying about everybody else. So I want to get
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: into my mental health check-in because I want to know
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: how everyone is doing mentally. I just saw a post,
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: a young lady I follow on Facebook who recently lost
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: a the father of her children to suicide. Oh, absolutely. Absolutely.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Sometimes your family are your biggest haters and they are.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: And that's the sad part, you know, is that the,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: you would, so I love to see love, whether it's
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: a man and a woman, two men, two women. I
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: just love to see love. As long as you are
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: happy in your relationship, stop worrying about everybody else. Don't
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: worry about what everybody else has to say. They talk
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: about Jesus Christ. You understand? And they still do. And
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: God has kept a lot of us. You understand? God
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: has walked us and carried us through a lot of storms,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: through a lot of situations. But, you know, They still
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: talk about it. I praise them. Because God has been
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: absolutely phenomenal to me. God has been good to me.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: God cured my husband from cancer. God is going to
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: heal me from my ailment. So I'm not worried about that.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: Because I know how wonderful and gracious God has been
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: to me. Even on the times that I wanted to
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: give up. God kept me. Dennis says, Don't let others
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: into your relationship, especially if you don't ask for it. Exactly.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: People love giving unsolicited advice. I didn't ask you for that.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: So he says advice is accepted only if asked. Absolutely.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: And let me tell you something. The only person that
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: I'm going to ask regarding my marriage is God and
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: my therapist. That's me. Nobody else. I mean, because nobody
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: knows the dynamics of me and my husband. Like, me
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: and him, we have so much fun together. Like, we
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: have a ball. We laugh. We joke. We play. We
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: do everything. But I want to get back to mental
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: health because I've seen, again, a young lady that I follow,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: just recently lost a father of her children to suicide.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: Then I was in another social media platform and I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: was asked about my mental health. And when I tell y'all,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: I'm in the most safest space in my mind that
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I've been in a long time. I tell people therapy
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: is okay Therapy is good for you. To anyone that
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: is struggling, just know that I love you and your
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: mental health matters. Y'all know how I advocate for mental health.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Y'all know that. I push and encourage therapy because therapy
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: has helped me. Therapy has been the best thing for me.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: But I also want you to know that healing is
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: not overnight. You have to take time. You have to
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: be careful with yourself. You understand? You have to know
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: your triggers. You have to know when it's time to
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: take a step back and focus on you. You have
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: to know when to put you first. You have to
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: be selfish with yourself. You understand? It's okay not to
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: talk to everybody every day. It's cool. But I also
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: want you to remember to love yourself, to pour into yourself,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: to keep loving yourself, to keep pouring into yourself, keep
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: showing up for yourself. This is what I want y'all
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: to do. Again, y'all welcome back to Black Girl Interrupted Podcast.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: It is your favorite girl, Ashley, bringing you my midweek check-in.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I know it's been a while since I've seen y'all.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: For anyone that is new or that is just now
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: tuning in, I have been working on a lot of
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: things in the background. Um, I have another podcast that
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: will be launching in March and then I have a
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: internet radio station that will be launching in January. Well, I,
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: let me, let me correct. Let me rephrase that. I
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: am part of a internet radio station that will be
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: launching January 1st. Um, so tonight I'm just doing my
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: midweek check-in. I want to, I want to know how
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: y'all are feeling. I've missed y'all. Um, And I tell
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: you this every time. It's amazing when I'm able to
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: get in front of this camera and these lights come
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: on and this microphone goes on and the words flow
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: so smoothly from my mouth. And I'm able to interact
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: with y'all. I'm able to pour into y'all. I'm able
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: to love y'all. I'm able to encourage you. That is
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: one of the most beautiful things I love about doing
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: my podcast is that this is not only therapeutic for me.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: But I've been told that it's therapeutic for others. I've
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: had people send me messages and say, man, Ashley, thank
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: you for that today. Or thank you for sharing. Thank
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: you for being so transparent. Thank you for allowing us
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: to get to know who you are outside of just
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: this podcast. For anyone that is, again, that is new, hey, sus,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: I love you, beautiful. And again, this is Jazzy. This
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: is my... Newfound Sister, who again, I will be launching
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Side Eyes and Alibis with in March. We said March 25th.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: It could be pushed up sooner. It could be pushed
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: back later. But again, as things start to transcend, we
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: will start posting more. We will start talking more. We
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: will start advertising more. So we are absolutely excited about that.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Thank you, sis, so much for um, tapping in with
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: me tonight. Um, I thank God that I met you. Um,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: and I'm looking forward to the beautiful things that we're
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: about to create, uh, for our podcast. So, uh, again,
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: thank you so much for tuning in, but, um, going, getting,
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: jumping back into our midweek check-in. Um, I want y'all
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: to know that I love y'all. I want you to
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: know that I'm rooting for you. I want you to
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: know that I am anytime that I say that I'm
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: praying for you, I add you to my prayer list.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: I do. Um, because I do ask God to watch
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: over my, my, my people, you know, watch over my circle. Um,
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: because I know a lot of people right now, it's
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: getting close to the holidays. Things are getting heavy. I
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: told you y'all was not going to have me up
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: here crying tonight. We're not going to do this. Nope. Um,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I'm going to get through one episode and I don't cry. Okay.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: It's getting close to the holidays and grief gets, you know,
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: and the grief starts to get heavy around this time.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: Some people, this is their first holiday without their loved ones.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: Some people, this is their fifth year, maybe their 10th year,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: maybe their 20th year without their loved one or loved ones.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Let me say that. So I, I, I want you
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: to be kind to yourself, be gentle to yourself. Um,
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: Celebrate their life. And I think why I'm triggered is
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: I received a phone call yesterday regarding my dad. And
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I had to tell them, unfortunately, my father passed away.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: He's been dead almost six years. And it triggered me
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: for a moment because it made me realize, dang, y'all,
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: my dad is really dead. And all I have is
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: my mother. So be kind to yourself in this holiday season.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Give yourself the grace to make it through the holidays,
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: whether it's your first holiday, whether it's your fifth holiday,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: whether it's your 20th holiday. Be kind to yourself. Be
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: gentle to yourself. I want you to not sit in
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: your depression. I want you to get up and I
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: want you to celebrate. I want you to celebrate not
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: only them, but celebrate you. Because they are... My therapist
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: told me, your loved one still lives through you. So
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: as long as you are still here, they are still here.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: So I want you to get up and I want
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: you to celebrate. Even if it's just a walk to
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: the park. Even if it's a walk to the mailbox.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: Even if it's just a walk in your backyard. Celebrate them.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Celebrate you. Get up. I don't want you to lay
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: in it. I don't. Because although their life ended, your
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: life still goes on. Your life still continues. So be
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: kind to yourself. We're going to talk about that this
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: holiday season. We're going to talk about grief. We're going
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: to talk about tips to help you over that holiday hump. Again,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: some people are celebrating the holidays without their loved one
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: for the first time. Again, some people are celebrating for
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: the 10th time. Some people are celebrating. It may have
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: been 30 years, but it may still feel like it
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: happened yesterday. So I want you to get up. I
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: want you to get up right now and I want
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: you to look at yourself and I want you to
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: tell yourself you can do this. I'm proud of you.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: I am so proud of you. I'm proud that you
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: got up today. I'm proud that you combed your hair today.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. It gets hard. It gets rough.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: It gets heavy. But I want you to know you
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: don't have to carry the weight of all of this
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: without thought. You understand? I want you to know that
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: God has already fought the battle for you. It's already
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: been won. Take your hands off of it. Stop trying
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: to find battles that are not within your reach. Stop
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: trying to control things that you are not in control of.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: You understand? Because they were not meant for you to fight.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: I made a post and I said, this is why
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: you're exhausted because you're fighting a battle that was never
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: meant for you. So sometimes we have to take our
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: hands off of situations that are not meant for us
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: to fight. You understand? Because God is already in the
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: war for us. He's prepared us for this. This is
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: a season. You understand? This is a season of transition.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: So it's going to be painful. It's not going to
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: feel comfortable. You're not going to like it. You're going
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: to look at things and you're going to say, oh,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: but God, I don't like this. Change. Change. It's not,
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: you know, a lot of people don't like the change.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't like transition because of the fear. Oops,
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: y'all my bad. We're scared of change because we're afraid
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: of the unknown. But if you trust God, just know
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: that once you go through your storm, you're going to
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: look back and be like, man, God, I was stressed
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: out for nothing. I was stressed out for what? This
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: looks better in front of me than what was behind me.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: You understand? So I say that and I walk in that.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: I am so proud of where I am today. I
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: am so proud of everything that I've accomplished thus far.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: In my 40 plus years that I've been on this earth,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I am so proud of myself and where I am
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: in this moment. I had to wait my turn. I
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: had to be patient. I had to endure a lot
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: of storms. I had to endure a lot of pain.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: I had to endure a lot of naysayers. I had
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: to deal with a lot of haters that said, oh,
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: you just, you this and that. But I'm here. But
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I'm here. And you can't take that from me. Anything
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: that God has given to you, man can't take from you.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: Dennis says, just know they are always there. Absolutely. Hey boo,
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: I miss you T. It is so good to see you, babe.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: It is absolutely. I'm so grateful to see you. And Jazzy,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I am so proud of you.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: But I want you to know that we're going to
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: make it. Regardless of what, whatever happens in life, we're
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: going to make it. We're going to make it. Be
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: proud of yourself. Because I say this on every show.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: It's not how you start, but it's how you finish. Okay,
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: you didn't get it right the first time. Okay, you
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: have plenty of other chances to get it right. Because
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: all you do is you take whatever mistake and you
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: learn from that one and you build on that. And
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: you continue to build and build and build and build
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: and build until it's the way you like it. See,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: the problem with us is we do things because we
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: want acceptance. Because we want people to maybe not acceptance.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Let me say this. We do this for... What is
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: the word, y'all? My mind has literally gone blank. Oh, y'all.
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: I can't even... My mind literally just went blank. But
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: it's for approval. There we go. For approval. It's like
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: we're always looking for someone else's approval. Why? Why? If
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: it's approved by God, that's all that matters. Stop going
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: to people... for their approval, for the, you know, stop going,
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: running to people. It's a word y'all. I just can't,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: and it's not approval and it keeps coming to my mind,
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: but then it just keeps going away. Um, gosh, y'all
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: help me out in the, in, in the chat. Y'all
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: help me out. What is it? Stop going up, like
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: stop running to people for that. I'm just going to
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: keep using approval. You Stop trying to make it right
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: for somebody else. Make it right for you because as
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: long as it's right for you, then it's going to
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: be right for everybody else. You know, what is the word?
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: There you go. Validation. There you go. I don't know
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: why I just could not get it. It was right
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: there on the tip of my tongue and then it
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: just literally went away. We're always running to people for validation. Why? Why?
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Who are we trying to prove ourselves to? Stop trying
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: to prove yourself to people. Stop that. Let me tell
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: you something. That's not how we're ending 2026, okay? We're
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: no longer seeking validation from outsiders. You understand? As long
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: as the validation, and I'm going to repeat this again.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: As long as the validation comes from God, that's all
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: that matters. As long as God has put a stamp
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: on it, stop worrying about what everybody else has to say.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: I told my sister Jazz that today. Let me tell
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: you something, sis. Not everybody's going to like what we do.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: You understand? But as long as you like it, the
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: right people that are meant for you will gravitate to you.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: You understand? You keep doing what you do because the
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: people that are meant for you will come to you.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: Your circle will grow. You understand? The right energy will
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: gravitate towards you. That's what is going to happen. So
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: keep being productive. Keep doing what it is that you're
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: doing because guess what? The right people, again, I'm going
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: to keep saying this and I'm going to repeat it
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: over and over and over and over and over again.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: They're going to come to you. Your circle is going
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: to build. And the people that want to see you
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: go further will continue to help you grow. You understand?
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: That's what they're going to do. Stop worrying about everybody else.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: And that was one of the things that I'm still
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: learning was validation from people. What if they don't like
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: my podcast? Whoever my podcast resonates with, they're going to come.
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: whoever it resonates with, whatever it is that you do
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: and it resonates with someone, your people will come. Your
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: tribe will come. Your tribe will grow. Your tribe will
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: be built on people that resonate with you. You understand?
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: On the people that push you, that encourage you. Your
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: sister circle. Let me say this. Your accountability partners will come.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: The very same ones that will push to encourage you
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: to keep going to the next level will help pull
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: you to the next level. You understand? Because the type
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: of person that I am, I'm so humbled and I'm
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: so grateful that I've been able to help people go
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: to the next level. You understand? And my husband tells me,
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: he say, baby, you know, that, that's, that is like,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: that is like a gift and a curse for you.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: But like I explained to him, I do what I
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: do from the heart. I don't do this to be
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: validated by anybody. I don't do this for monetary purposes.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: I do this because this is what I enjoy doing.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: So whatever is the, whatever rewards are to come for me,
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: they're going to come. Because I do this genuinely. I
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: don't do this, again, to be validated by anybody. I
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: get in front of this camera. I cut this microphone.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: I cut these lights on. And I do this podcast
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: because this is what I enjoy doing. This is therapy
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: for me. You understand? Some people say, oh, Ashley, but
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: you overshare. Maybe I don't overshare enough. I do what
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: I do because I love doing this. I advocate for
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: mental health because I am a mental health. I'm a
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: person that has survived seven suicide attempts. This is why
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: I do what I do. This is why I advocate
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: for mental health. This is why I advocate, excuse me,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: against police brutality. You understand? This is why I march,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I protest, and I do this because I love doing this.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: This is a passion for me. I don't care about money.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing this to have a monetary value. If
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: it comes, it comes. If it doesn't, that's fine. But
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: I do this because I enjoy doing this. I am
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: passionate about what I do. Let me tell you something.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Black Girl Interrupted Podcast was not just for me. It
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: was for all of y'all. For men, for women, for boys,
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: for girls. It was for us. This is a space
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: where we come in, we kick our shoes off, and
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: we have beautiful conversations without the judgment, without the disrespect.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: Because I've told y'all how the house rules go. We
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: can have opinions, but you're not going to get on
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: my platform and disrespect people. That's not what we're going
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: to do. We're going to have cohesive and conducive conversations.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: This is why I do what I do, because I
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: love doing this. I enjoy doing this. I am passionate
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: about this. Would I love to see Black Girl Interrupted
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: be on TV? Absolutely. Would I love for someone to
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: come up to me and say, oh man, Ms. Ashley,
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: your podcast has helped me. Absolutely. Absolutely. I love doing
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: what I do. I love helping others go to the
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: next level. I don't want your money for doing this.
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: Just go and be great. So this is why I
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: do Black Girl Interrupted Podcast. Do I have to take
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: a step back from time to time because life gets
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: a little too heavy for me? Absolutely. And I'm also
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: going to be unapologetic about it. So I say all
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: of that to say, excuse me, Excuse me so much.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: I apologize. I say all that to say, be unapologetic
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: in anything that you do. Stop apologizing to people for
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: your self-care days. Stop apologizing to people because you decided
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: to go on a sabbatical. Stop apologizing to people because
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: you decided to take a step back. Stop apologizing to
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: people for that. Because your peace is everything. Your mental
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: health matters. Stop being good to people that only take
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: from you. Yeah, we doing our Maywee checking. Yes, we are.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: But stop apologizing to people for taking care of you.
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: Stop giving people passes to continue to mistreat you. Stop
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: accepting the bare minimum from people. If they can't give
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: you 100% of themselves, then maybe you move them on
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: out the way. And what I mean when I say,
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: if you're showing up and when I say, if they
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: can't give you 100%, I say, I'm meaning, let me
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: explain that. If you're always showing up for them, but
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: they're never readily, they're never available for you, cut them off.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: Because see, those are takers. You understand? And takers know
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: no boundaries. As long as you keep giving and giving
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: and giving and pouring and pouring and pouring, baby, they
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: don't have a problem with looking at your cup being empty.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: And their cup still being full. Because they're going to
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: take it. They're going to drink their cup. They're going
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: to deplete their cup. And then guess what? They're going
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: to come right back to you and want you to
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: fill their cup back up. Cut it off. We're no
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: longer doing one-sided friendships anymore. We're no longer tolerating one-sided relationships, friendships, relationships, situationships. No.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: Stop giving yourself to people that aren't giving anything to you.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: Reciprocity is the word. You understand? So this is what
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: we're doing and how we're rounding out 2026. Hold on, y'all.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: I got to kind of maneuver a little bit. Okay,
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: there we go. I apologize, y'all. My Beck is starting
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: to get a little sore. But I want you to
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: start showing up for you. We're in the last quarter
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: of 2026. I need y'all to walk into 2027 loud.
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: I need you to walk into 2026 clapping. I need
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: you to walk into 2026 celebrating yourself. You understand? You understand?
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: That's what I want you to do. That's what I
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: need you to do. That's what I'm telling you to do.
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: Celebrate yourself. Stop worrying about what other people have to say.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: Set those boundaries. You understand? Find you your tribe. Find
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: you the circle of people that want to see you
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: go to the top. That's what you do. We're not
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: tolerating nonsense anymore. We're not tolerating BS. Baby, let me
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: tell you, 2026, we got all of November, all of December.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: January 1, which is on a Friday. Baby, let me
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: tell you something. We need to be feeling good on
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: that day. I'm talking about I need y'all to start
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: writing down what are your goals for 2027. What is
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: your plan for 2027? Whether that be you finding a
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: new job, whether that be you moving from one apartment
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: to another apartment, whether that means you're purchasing a home,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: whether that means you're going to start saving money, whatever
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: it is, write it down. But also remember to extend
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: the grace to yourself if you don't follow through the
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: first time. Make sure you have a plan in place.
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: If plan A doesn't fall through, move on to plan B.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: Plan C, plan D, baby, you plan it out until
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: you get right where you want to be. Do whatever
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: it is for you. Love you. Pour into you. Take
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: care of you. Because let me tell y'all, I'm absolutely
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: going to love and pour and take care of me.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not worried about nobody else anymore. 2026, despite everything
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: that I've endured, 2026 has still been good to me.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: I'm really excited to see exactly what 2027 holds for me.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: I couldn't be more excited. I couldn't be more grateful.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: Most importantly, I couldn't be more blessed. And I couldn't
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: have done all this without my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ,
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: you understand. So I love y'all. I'm rooting for you.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: And I'm so proud of you. You did it, babe.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: You did it. Even when everyone else says you couldn't
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: do it, you did it. Celebrate those small milestones. Everybody
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: wants to just achieve them. Celebrate the small ones. Celebrate
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: your small steps. Because those small steps are the steps
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: that will get you to your big steps. So I'm celebrating.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: Your girl is celebrating. And I'm going to have a
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: ball of fun while I do it. So if no
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: one has told you today, I love you. And I'm
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: proud of you. You did it. You better keep rocking on.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: You understand? Because 2027. Honey. Honey. You better step big.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: And I'm talking about you better let your haters hear you.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: We're no longer being quiet. We're no longer tiptoeing. You understand?
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: We're celebrating loud and proud. Oh, there's my cousin. She says,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: I love you too. I love you more beautiful. I do.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: I love you. And don't forget to tell Brie. I
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: forgot to message her and tell her happy anniversary. October 23rd.
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: I was so grateful to be a part of that
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: celebration that day. I was in for my daddy, y'all.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: My cousin got married. It was so beautiful. I met
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: my husband, too. Oh, hey. But I didn't know he
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: was going to be my husband, but he is. So, um,
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: so anywho, so I want to, um, as I get
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: ready to bring uh, this episode to a close, I, again, um,
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: I want y'all to keep voting for your girl. So
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: I am now in second place. Okay. Okay. All right. Um,
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: I have now moved up to second place. Um, here
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: is my flyer. there it is right there. Uh, there's
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: the link on the screen. Uh, you can vote once
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: every 20, you can vote for free once every 24 hours. Um,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: I'm not asking anyone to donate, um, or pay for votes,
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: but if that is what you choose to do, you're
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: more than welcome to do the free vote is, is okay.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: It's fine by me. You know, I'm not picky. I'm not,
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: I'm not begging, you know, beggars came, you know, so
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: I will take the vote no matter how they come.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: So if you decide you want to pay $ 5 and
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: give me five votes, that's beautiful. If you just want
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: to do the free votes, that is beautiful too. I
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: am okay with that. Um, I did see someone donate
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: a hundred dollars. Um, thank you to whomever paid for
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: a hundred votes for me. Um, man, man, man. I just,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: I'm humbled. I'm grateful. Um, Hey, beautiful. Hey, Tiff, with
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: your beautiful self. Um, thank you, Miss T. I love you.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: I'm so proud and happy for you. Thank you. That
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: means the world to me. Um, like I said, um,
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: I'm grateful. I am grateful to be on this journey.
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: Let me take this off, but, um, I am gunning
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: for first place. Um, the prize will be, um, a 25, uh, $ 25, 000, um,
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: a six episode podcast produced by our heart. I heart
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: radio and a chance to be able to meet Ryan Seacrest. Um,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: this is for the Ryan Seacrest foundation. So again, I
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: am grateful for all the votes, whether it's a free vote,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: whether you paid for votes for me, I am grateful
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: for that. I do have the link posted at the bottom.
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: For those that cannot see that are just listening to
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: this via audio, it is tophost.org forward slash 2026 forward
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: slash slash Ashley, A-S-H-L-E-E hyphen Marshall. And that is Marshall
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: with two L's. Um, I am grateful for all votes. Um,
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: thank you guys again so much for the love and
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: the support that you guys have continued to give me, um,
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: since the very beginning. Um, I'm humbled. I just, I
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: don't even know what more to say, but I, I'm just,
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: I thank y'all. Um, and to the person that paid
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: for a hundred votes, thank you. Um, I don't think
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: y'all understand how much this means to me. Um, I
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: am trying to take black girl interrupted podcast to the
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: next level. Um, and I'm doing it brick by brick. Um, so, uh,
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: I just thank y'all so much. I love y'all. Um,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all. Um, black girl interrupted is back in
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: full swing. Um, I have to kind of do again
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: for those that are just tuning in. Welcome to Black
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: Girl Interrupted Podcast. Due to my ailment, I'm not able
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: to sit for extended periods of time. So if you
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: guys see me get to fidgeting and moving around, that
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: means I'm trying to kind of stretch so I'm not
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: stiff when I stand up. Again, I was just recently
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: diagnosed not only with fibromyalgia, but ankles and spondylitis, which
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: is arthritis of the spine. Um, as of right now,
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: we do not know if surgery will be required, but
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: I do know, um, working with my, my doctors, um,
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: I cannot do any type of physical therapy in this
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: moment due to the amount of inflammation that is in
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: my spine at this moment. Um, there is, I do
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: have edema also, which, uh, is fluid. in the spine
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: so and my spine is starting to narrow but I'm
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: not going to let that stop me from doing what
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: it is that I love doing and that is podcasting
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: so Black Girl Interrupted is back yes I know normally
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: we we have these long episodes but what I'm gonna
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: start doing I have to start breaking them up into
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: parts so that is where we are right now in
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: this moment so Um, I love you guys. It is Wednesday.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: We did our midweek check-in. Um, I am wishing everyone,
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: everyone an amazing rest of the week. Um, if you haven't,
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: please don't forget to go out there and vote. Um,
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: you have until November 3rd. So go vote whichever way
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: you choose, uh, to vote. Um, Make sure you do
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: your research on candidates before you go to these polls.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: Do not go to these polls just voting because they're
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: black or white or whatever the situation is. Do your
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: research because our votes are who put these officials in
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: their seats. So make sure you judge wise. I mean,
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. You vote wisely. Let's see. What else?
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: What else? What else? What else? What else? Um, I
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: am now that I am back in full swing, I
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: am now currently, um, Oh, I love you. You would
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: have to pop your face in here. You would have
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: to do that. Now y'all never let me do a
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: show without tears. Y'all never let me do it, but
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: I love you. God, I love you so much. Gosh, I,
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: Y'all never let me end the show without tears. I
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: just received a text message. I just want to say
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: thank you. I love y'all so much. I'm going to
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: keep doing it. I promise. I'm in it. Y'all. Oh.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: Y'all just never let me get through a show where
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: I'm not in tears. Y'all never let me get through
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: a show. Um, but I just received the most amazing
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: text that said they're so proud of me and they're
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: rooting for me. Thank you. I couldn't do this without y'all.
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: Black girl into the podcast would not be where it
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: is without y'all. I would not be in second place if,
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: if it was not for y'all, I would not, be
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: able to continue to get up and do what it
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: is that I do, if it weren't for the love
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: and the support that I receive from y'all. So I
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: want to end by saying I am so proud of you.
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: I am rooting for you. You are a winner. I
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: don't care how many times you fall down. I just
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: want you to get back up. I want you to
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: keep pushing. I want you to keep striving to be
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: the best you that you could be. Even if you
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: have to ration it out, even if you have to
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: do it in portions, even if you have to split
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: it up, keep showing up for you. Keep loving on you.
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: Keep pouring into you. The right people that are meant
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: for you are going to come. Stop looking for validation
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: for people. As long as it's validated, stamped, and approved
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: by God, that's all that matters. Black Girl Interactive will
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: be back in full swing Tuesdays and Wednesdays. I have
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: to push it back till maybe eight o'clock. Because again,
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: I have to give myself time when I get off work.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: I have to be able to move around and things
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: like that before I'm here to sit. But I love y'all.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I'm rooting for y'all. I'm praying for you. Excuse me.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: And I will see y'all next Tuesday. I post, but
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: I know this month is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: breast cancer is every day. I know this is Domestic
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: Violence Awareness Month, but domestic violence is every day. These
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: are conversations that we're going to have every day, not
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: just because they're isolated to a particular month. I end
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: by saying your mental health matters. Take care of yourself.
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace.
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: I love y'all. I will see y'all next Tuesday. God
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: bless you. Love you.