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Funeral Era · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question in for our American mamas. Does
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  Speaker 1: it feel like you're going to a lot of funerals recently?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Mama Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining is now our American mama's turning out Ofville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlison. You know, honestly, the last funeral I
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  Speaker 1: went to was your mother's funeral a year ago. Last
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  Speaker 1: that was the last funeral that I've been to. So
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  Speaker 1: my answer for this question is no. But this is
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  Speaker 1: not the Stephen Parr segment. This is the American Mama's segment.
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  Speaker 1: So is that something that's going on with you?
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  Speaker 3: I feel like we're in our funeral era. It it
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  Speaker 3: feels like so many people are passing, their parents are passing,
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  Speaker 3: Like I'm always going to a funeral and wait wait wait.
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  Speaker 1: Wait wait wait, wait, hold on a second, because when
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  Speaker 1: I look at your Facebook feeds, to me, it seems
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  Speaker 1: like you're in your wedding phase because all that kids
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  Speaker 1: are getting married.
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  Speaker 2: Well, think about our age group, like we're in the fifties,
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  Speaker 2: so all of our kids are getting married, but all
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  Speaker 2: of our parents are dying. So we're right there.
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  Speaker 3: But what's so bad this is horrible. But I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to these funerals and I'm like, like, this wasn't a
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  Speaker 3: very good one. This was not a very sick at all.
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  Speaker 3: We have to.
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  Speaker 2: Funeral. It's horrible.
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  Speaker 3: But let me tell you it's because of our grandmother, Gracy.
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  Speaker 3: Gracie was obsessed with having assful successful Yeah, and every
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  Speaker 3: time somebody died and make her mad because I'd be
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  Speaker 3: one less person to be at her funeral. She wanted
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  Speaker 3: to be full.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. She was so funny because she made it clear
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  Speaker 2: to all of us, my our cousins too. We laughed
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  Speaker 2: about it all the time. I remember distinctly when one
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  Speaker 2: of her friends clearly passed away and she she was
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  Speaker 2: in the kitchen. I was studying in her den and
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  Speaker 2: she said, she goes, oh fiddle, And I said, what happened?
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  Speaker 2: She said, Claarly died. I swear I'm gonna have nobody
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  Speaker 2: at my funeral, and she said, and she was very
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  Speaker 2: big on making sure that. She said, y'all, I want
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  Speaker 2: a successful funeral.
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  Speaker 1: And so isn't a successful funeral where the body ends
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  Speaker 1: up in the ground.
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  Speaker 2: Is way more. This is a Southern woman that had
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  Speaker 2: Southern reasons. She wanted her son to give the eulogy,
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  Speaker 2: and she told him, she said, listen, Tommy, same as Tommy.
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  Speaker 2: She said, listen, Tommy, I need you to when you
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  Speaker 2: get up there, I want you to let a one
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  Speaker 2: tear trickle down the cheek. Don't cry. Nobody likes that.
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  Speaker 2: It's a cringey when everybody when my son cries, just
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  Speaker 2: a cheer to let them know that it mattered. And
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  Speaker 2: from time to time, I want you to pose for effects.
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  Speaker 2: She wanted it to. But what she didn't know is
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  Speaker 2: that I was one of the ones that I was in.
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  Speaker 2: I was out of college actually, but I was one
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  Speaker 2: of the ones that gave the eulogy. Dad did too well.
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  Speaker 2: She didn't know I was gonna tell these stories. And
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  Speaker 2: she would have been thrilled with it because it was people.
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  Speaker 2: She was so funny, even though she was eighty nine.
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  Speaker 2: The place was packed because she had such a way
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  Speaker 2: with every generation. Like you had the college kids that
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  Speaker 2: got to know her because of Kimberly and me. You
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  Speaker 2: had the circle, they had the you know, the Methodist
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  Speaker 2: Women's circle. Go sure. She was one of the ones
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  Speaker 2: that would make you know the cast roles for you know,
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  Speaker 2: for any event that they had, so there were so
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  Speaker 2: many people there and it was so amazing to look
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  Speaker 2: out there. I thought it was so funny to look
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  Speaker 2: at it at a funeral and think, oh, she would
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  Speaker 2: have been thrilled so many people.
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  Speaker 1: So when you go to funerals, yeah, you're judging them
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  Speaker 1: through the lens of your grasie.
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  Speaker 3: She ruined us. I look at every funeral now, I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: no pausing.
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  Speaker 2: For well, you know, it's so funny. Kimberly. I was
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  Speaker 2: talking to car Karen Birch was we were just talking
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  Speaker 2: about this, and she's like, I don't I mean, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what people are gonna say, you know, when
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  Speaker 2: I die, I don't know what we're talking about. And sheaus,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know it's going to give my eulogy. I said,
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  Speaker 2: I'll give your eulogy. I'm a probe at this point.
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  Speaker 2: I've been giving them for a few of them.
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  Speaker 1: And by the way, at your mother's funeral, that was
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  Speaker 1: amazing you.
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  Speaker 2: She killed it. I would give This is what I
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  Speaker 2: think that this is what I think everybody wants at
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  Speaker 2: their funeral. I think people want you to share funny stories,
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  Speaker 2: happy memories, things accollete things about them that nobody knew
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  Speaker 2: things about them that people will leave people. Because I
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  Speaker 2: went to Miss Susan Corley's a few weeks ago, and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, what this sweet woman who just was
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  Speaker 2: came to the baseball games. I had no idea how
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  Speaker 2: highly regarded and in telling she was. She had not
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  Speaker 2: only so many degrees, but so many accolades with her
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  Speaker 2: gift for tea business. And so I'm listening to this
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  Speaker 2: and they told funny stories about her hair had to
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  Speaker 2: be in place. I thought, this is a successful funeral.
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  Speaker 2: She would have been thrilled to death because her son
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  Speaker 2: got up there and gave the eulogy and he cried
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  Speaker 2: and he didn't ball, but he did step back from
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  Speaker 2: the podium. That's good. It was good stuff. And I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my God, Like if I'm looking down, I won't.
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  Speaker 2: I told I'm already mad at Kevin because he's like,
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  Speaker 2: I said, Kevin, you have to give my eulogy. Noah said,
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  Speaker 2: you don't have Facebook. You don't no one knows how
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  Speaker 2: much you freaking love me, which you think of me
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  Speaker 2: because I don't get a happy Birthday from my husband
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  Speaker 2: on Facebook like everybody else. And he said, Terry, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not doing your eulogy. I won't make it. I said,
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  Speaker 2: you're doing it. You're doing it, and I will write
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  Speaker 2: it for you before I die. You're doing it anyway.
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  Speaker 2: We laugh about that because he'll never ever be able
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  Speaker 2: to it. It takes somebody that can kind of handle
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  Speaker 2: it in the moment. But it is important to make
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  Speaker 2: a funeral says for the one that dies. If you
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  Speaker 2: like to ask her, American mom was a question?
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  Speaker 1: Terry Outaville, Kimberly Brother listen, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you,