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Being Different Will Cost You. Do It Anyway. (S5) S36:E6 Thursday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there, hello everyone and welcome to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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It's so great to be with you guys
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today.
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If this is your very first time with
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me, I want to take the opportunity to
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say welcome and of course I want to
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say thank you.
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Yes, I do.
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All right, if this is not your first
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time and you've been here one, five, ten,
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a hundred or maybe more, or maybe you
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just lost track of the count, that's perfectly
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okay.
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Because I not only say thank you and
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welcome to you, I want to say something
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else special.
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I want to say welcome back.
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It's always great to have you guys here
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paying attention to the show and listening to
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what I have to say.
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All right.
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If you're thirsty, I have my Aro water
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here with some fresh lemon.
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Perhaps maybe you want to do something else,
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grab a snack, some fruit, what have you.
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That's totally up to you.
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And come on back to the show.
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Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my, of course, amazing, inspiring creations.
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So without any further ado guys, let's kick
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this show off.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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All right.
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So being different will cost you.
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But do it anyway.
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Series five, show 36, episode number six.
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Before I welcome you to another show, I
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want to talk to you about another coffee
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shop in New Jersey, because that's what we
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do on Sundays and Thursdays.
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The one that I want to talk to
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you about right now is an interesting coffee
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shop.
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It's actually called Tree House Coffee.
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It's in Jersey City.
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It's on 205 Brunswick Street.
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And yeah, it's actually, they have a couple
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of locations.
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They have one in Jersey City.
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They have one right on Brunswick Street.
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They also have another one on Bright Street.
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They have another one on Westside Avenue, 434A
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Westside Avenue.
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They also have one on Pavana Avenue in
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Jersey City, 615 Pavana Avenue.
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So it looks like they're mostly in Jersey
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City.
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You can order online, you can pick up,
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they have all kinds of different things.
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So they have an online shop where they
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have things like Single Origin Ethiopia.
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They've got Melandro.
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They've got some interesting things.
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So they have that.
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They call it shop coffee.
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So I guess they have their own blends.
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They do delivery.
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So you can order at the different, tell
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which store you want.
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And basically you can order things like, they
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have one, something called a Bees Knees Latte,
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a Cara Maple Latte, a Strawberry White Mocha
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Latte, a Cold Brew, a New Orleans Style
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Latte.
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So again, a shout out to you guys.
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Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations,
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which you can do 24 hours a day.
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That is after the show is over.
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But I want you to go to jcmacademy
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.com, click on the contact us and invite
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us to come in and do a live
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show, author talk, Q&A, and also a
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signing afterwards, after we do the show.
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All right, guys.
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So let's get right into the show.
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So this is series five, show number 36,
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and it's episode number six.
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So welcome everyone once again to the ever
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popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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Who am I?
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Oh, sure.
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Let me let you know.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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In case you guys did not know that,
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I am an engineer.
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I'm a marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host,
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coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at Montclair State
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University, passionate lifelong learner, and so grateful now
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to be a published author.
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In case you missed my book, it's Drain
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to Driven.
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Our master weekly topic is Stop Living a
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Life You Never Chose.
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Today I'm talking about being different and it
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will cost you, but do it anyway.
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Choosing your own path sounds exciting until people
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question it.
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Growth can cost approval, comfort, familiarity, and sometimes
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relationships, but conformity has a price too.
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Today I'm asking which price is actually worth
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paying.
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So let's get into our 30 points, shall
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we?
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Number one, let's understand one thing, and that
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is different choices attract opinions.
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When you choose differently, people notice, some will
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support you, and others will question you.
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Listen to useful feedback, but remember that an
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opinion isn't proof that your direction is wrong.
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Number two, stop expecting everyone to understand your
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path.
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They won't.
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Don't waste your energy.
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People see your choices through their own experiences
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and priorities.
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They never, or I should say they may
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never completely understand why something matters to you,
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but don't let that discourage you.
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You don't need universal understanding or approval to
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move forward in this world.
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Many people think you do, you don't.
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Number three, guys, thinking independently sometimes means disagreeing
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with the group.
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That can feel uncomfortable, but belonging shouldn't require
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surrendering your ability to think for yourself.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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a lot of people miss in our lives,
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so I want to make sure you're definitely
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aware of that.
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It's something that a lot of people miss,
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but it's something we need to pay definitely
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some attention to because it can really affect
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your life and where you're going.
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So that's very, very important.
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Remember that an opinion isn't proof that your
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direction is wrong.
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Number two, stop expecting everyone to understand your
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path, as I said.
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You don't need universal understanding to move forward.
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Number three, independence has a social cost.
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Yep.
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Thinking independently sometimes means disagreeing with the group.
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That can feel uncomfortable, but belonging shouldn't require
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surrendering your ability to think for yourself.
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Number four, choose authenticity over easy acceptance.
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Acceptance feels good, but ask what you're being
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accepted for.
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If belonging requires pretending, hiding, or shrinking yourself,
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the price may be too high.
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You don't want to go down that road.
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Number five, stop shrinking to make others comfortable.
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Don't automatically make your goals smaller, your ideas
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quieter, or your personality less visible because somebody
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else isn't comfortable with your growth.
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I think that's an important one.
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Let criticism sharpen rather than define you, okay?
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Criticism can contain useful information.
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Examine it.
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Learn from what's valid.
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And discard what isn't.
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Don't allow somebody else's criticism to become your
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identity.
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Number seven, accept that growth may change relationships.
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It could.
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When you change, some relationships may change too.
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The interests from them, routines, expectations, and priorities
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can shift a little or a lot.
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That doesn't automatically make the relationship a failure
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or a wrong direction.
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A stop is important.
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So number eight, stop asking permission to evolve.
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You don't need permission to learn, to improve,
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to change direction, to establish boundaries, or reconsider
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what you want.
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Responsible growth belongs to you.
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The sooner you understand that, the sooner you'll
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become successful.
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Number nine, become comfortable standing alone temporarily, okay?
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There may be moments when nobody immediately understands
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your decision.
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Temporary solitude doesn't prove you're wrong.
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Sometimes you're simply moving into unfamiliar territory.
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Number 10, choose conviction over popularity.
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Popularity tells you what receives approval.
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Conviction tells you what aligns with your principles.
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Know which one deserves more influence over your
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future.
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Number 11, stop explaining every unconventional decision.
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You don't owe everyone a detailed defense of
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your choices.
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Explain when communication matters, but don't spend your
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life convincing every observer that your path makes
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sense.
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Number 12, trust yourself enough to be questioned.
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Confidence isn't having everyone agree with you, okay?
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Let's be clear about that.
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It's examining your decisions honestly and still moving
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forward when your evidence, judgment, and values support
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them.
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That's a key point, but it also means
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sometimes you're going to be alone when you
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start.
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And I think that's the part that scares
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a lot of people.
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It's okay to be alone, all right, especially
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when you're getting started.
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Number 13, let results speak eventually.
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You don't always need to win the argument
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today.
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Consistent action and eventual results can communicate far
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more effectively than endless explanations.
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Number 14, stop returning to places you've outgrown.
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Familiar doesn't automatically mean right.
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Sometimes we return to old situations because they're
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comfortable even when we know they no longer
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fit who we're becoming.
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And that scares a lot of people, guys.
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I mean, that scares a lot of people.
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Number 15, let's learn to make peace with
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disappointing expectations.
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And you might say, John, how does that
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even work?
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How is it even possible?
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Well, someone may have imagined a different future
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for you.
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Respect their feelings, but remember that another person's
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expectations doesn't automatically become your obligations.
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This could be your friends, your family, or
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what have you.
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That's important, guys.
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Number 16, choose your future over temporary approval.
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Approval feels good.
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I will definitely match that, okay?
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And it feels good immediately, right?
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But alignment offer rewards you later.
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Don't exchange years of your future for a
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few moments of acceptance today.
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You don't need that.
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Number 17, stop hiding what makes you different.
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The qualities you once tried to hide, okay,
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may become some of your greatest strengths that
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you'll discover.
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Your experience, ideas, skills, and perspectives, they have
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value.
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But we need to learn how do we
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embrace them?
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How do we own them?
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And how do we operate when other people
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are not embracing our value?
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As I said, if you're coming in this
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world and asking for somebody to pat you
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on the back, go home, okay?
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It's nice to get a pat on the
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back.
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It's nice to get, you know, ego stroke
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once in a while.
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But you don't need that, okay?
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And that's falsality.
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That's not going to help you grow.
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Number 18, please learn how to build confidence
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without consensus.
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Everyone thinks you've got to do something because
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somebody else says to do it.
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The Joneses said to do it.
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The Wagners, you know, the bandwagon theory.
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But you are very smart.
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And you do not need a consensus to
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grow, to learn, or even be successful.
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If your confidence exists only when everyone agrees
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with you, it isn't stable.
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Guys, build confidence through preparation, evidence, experience, values,
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and responsible judgment.
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Anyone else trying to get you to do
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something, okay, is doing it for their own
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intentions.
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And if their intentions are not aligned with
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you, I think you've got to examine that
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a little closer.
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Number 19, let rejection redirect you.
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Don't let it discourage you.
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Rejection hurts.
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We've all been rejected, right?
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Rejection hurts, but it can provide information.
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Sometimes a closed door prevents you from spending
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years trying to belong somewhere that was never
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right for your future.
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I know that may sting, but I think
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the hardest thing for us to know tonight
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is that we have to admit that we
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need to make a change, okay?
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None of us are perfect, but when we
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admit that we want to be better, we
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want to change, we want to pivot.
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Number 20, guys, stop confusing loneliness with wrong
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directions.
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So many ads do this online, right?
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Feeling alone can be a difficult time, but
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loneliness isn't proof that your direction is wrong.
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I'm telling you right now.
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Change can create temporary distance before new relationships
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and opportunities will ever develop.
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That's important.
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Everyone wants everything tomorrow, but they don't realize
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that we have to first be that person,
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okay?
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And if you're wondering how to be it,
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you have to learn how to say no
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to some people, and you have to say
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yes to yourself more, but also realize that
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these other people around you may not like
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your success.
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That's okay.
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Be successful anyway.
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Number 21, find people who respect your growth.
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You don't need people who agree with everything
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you do.
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If I did, I wouldn't be successful.
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Find people who respect your development challenges and
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let them help you grow constructively, and don't
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require you to remain unchanged.
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See, people that say, you know, John, I
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like you, or I liked you when you
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did this, or when you were quiet, or
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I liked you when you...
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Basically, you liked me when you could control
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me.
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That's basically what it comes down to.
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But once my fire started getting going, and
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a true story on this, guys, there was
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an elected official, he's out of office now,
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and he actually didn't like me because I
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was starting to show up in the limelight.
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I didn't do it intentionally.
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He was doing all kinds of crazy things,
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like he would call the police in the
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town, and it was a joke because he
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was trying to get me arrested.
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I wasn't doing anything wrong.
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Even the cops were like, John, we're not
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arresting you.
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We're just telling you to just leave the
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property because, you know, he's saying if you
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could do that, you know, which is we
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work for him, and I get it.
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So, he actually called my office and asked
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my secretary when, you know, he could meet
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with me.
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It was important.
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Okay.
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And he called on a Monday, so I
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told her, tell him that I'm available.
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This Thursday at 8.30 a.m. or
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next Friday at 4 p.m. First of
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all, you should know, even though they're supposed
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to be in the office at 8.30
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in the morning, he doesn't get through till
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9, so it's not my problem that he
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can't get there.
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The following week, 4 o'clock, they get
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out of there right at 4.30. Sometimes
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they try to leave early.
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So, I remember going to his office, and
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he said something very interesting.
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He said, John, he said, what are you
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ever going to give up?
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So, I'm president of the chamber, which now,
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by the way, is growing.
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What are you ever going to give up?
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So, I sat back, and I said to
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him, I said, you know what, sir, I
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thought about it.
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At first, I sat back in my chair.
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I relaxed.
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He said, what are you doing?
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I'm just thinking.
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I said, sir, I don't want to give
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you a lie.
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I want to make sure I tell you
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the exact moment, the exact hour, minute, day,
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and second year that I'm actually officially going
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to give up.
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So, just give me a minute.
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I'm almost there.
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He's like, oh, okay.
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And I said, sir, I'm going to tell
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you when I'm going to give up.
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He's like, oh, excited.
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I said, I'm going to give up when
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a little baby boy or a little baby
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girl tells their parents they don't want to
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learn to walk anymore.
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Always funny faces.
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So, I'm quiet for a minute or two,
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and I said, sir, I have a question
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for you.
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He says, yes.
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I said, you have two children, right?
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He says, yes.
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Boy and a girl.
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He says, yes.
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I said, one's in college, just entering college,
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and one's leaving college.
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He says, yes.
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I said, okay, great.
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I want to ask another question.
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Do they both walk?
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He says, of course they walk.
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I said, okay, I want to ask you,
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did they ever tell you that they didn't
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want to learn to walk anymore?
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And I asked that question.
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When did they ever tell you that they
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didn't want to walk anymore?
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That's the question I asked him.
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When did they ever tell you they didn't
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want to walk anymore?
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He came back to me and he says,
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never.
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I said, sir, I said, you're a very
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bright and distinguished gentleman, and I knew you
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would answer that question precisely right the first
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time.
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And, sir, that's exactly when I'm going to
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give up.
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Never.
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He went quiet.
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He said, you're arrogant, and get the blank,
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blank, blank, blank out of my house, out
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of my office.
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So from that moment on, I knew it
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was going downhill with him, but I knew
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that he was going to leave someday.
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He said, be patient.
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I talked to a friend of mine who
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I wanted him to run for the position.
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Now he's in, and now the whole thing
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has changed because there's new administration, people that
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support me.
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It's not a political game anymore.
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There's respect.
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New person's in town, everything changes.
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So what do I tell you that for?
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You've got to bring your A game, because
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if you don't, someone else will.
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Number 23, let your actions prove your intentions.
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You don't need to constantly announce who you're
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becoming.
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Demonstrate it.
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Show it.
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Be consistent.
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Follow through.
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Let repeated action create credibility, not just once,
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but continually.
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Number 24, stop abandoning yourself to belong.
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Belonging is valuable when you can participate without
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betraying yourself.
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But too many people, whether it's in high
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school, we've all done this, we try to
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become someone else to belong.
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Why?
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If acceptance requires hiding your true values or
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morals or likes or dislikes, silencing your voice
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of becoming somebody else, you have to reconsider
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this price.
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A price you may not pay today, but
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you'll pay tomorrow.
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And it may not be money.
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It may be something very valuable that money
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can't buy.
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Number 25, accept the price of independence.
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See, independence can bring criticism, uncertainty, responsibility, and
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occasional loneliness.
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Yep, that's true.
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You make the decision and own its consequences.
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That's part of real independence.
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Number 26, choose alignment even when it's unpopular.
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Popularity is nice, but popularity can change overnight.
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Alignment gives you something more durable.
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When your choices reflect your values, you're building
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a life you can recognize as your own,
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not as something you have to live up
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to for someone else.
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Number 27, your path doesn't require a committee
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vote.
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Okay.
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Advice can be valuable.
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Mentors can help.
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Trusted people can reveal things you've missed.
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Gather wisdom, but don't outsource your entire life
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to other people.
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If you do, you will be very sorry
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and then wondering, how do I get my
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life back?
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A wise person once told me, John, think
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hard and strong on the goals you want
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and work toward them, because if you don't,
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you'll be helping someone else build their goals.
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Number 28, become courageous enough to look different.
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Being different isn't automatically courageous, but choosing a
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responsible path you believe in when conformity would
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be easier can require tremendous courage, right?
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And I think courage is something that a
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lot of people, they get daunted by this
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because they don't think they have what it
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takes, but really, you have more than what
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it takes, guys.
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You have more than what it takes.
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Okay.
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This is a problem for a lot of
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people, right?
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Being different isn't automatically courageous.
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We have to learn that.
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Number 29, the cost of conformity can be
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much higher.
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Conformity has a price.
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It can cost authenticity, creativity, respect, confidence, opportunities,
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and years spent living according to expectations you
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never consciously chose, but somehow you got roped
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into being that guy, that person.
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Number 30, pay the price required to become
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yourself.
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I'm not telling you it's going to be
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easy, okay?
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But it's going to be worth it.
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Being yourself isn't always free.
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You may lose approval.
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You may lose friends.
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Someone may misunderstand you.
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A relationship may change.
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You may have to stand alone temporarily, but
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do it anyway.
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But there's another price we don't talk about
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enough.
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What is that?
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What does it cost to continually abandon yourself?
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We don't think about that.
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What does it cost to spend years satisfying
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expectations you never chose?
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I'll give you one hint.
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Read my book, Drained and Driven.
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You're going to start going to burnout, and
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you're going to start losing the joys of
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life that you used to enjoy so much.
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What does it cost to make yourself smaller
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so other people remain comfortable?
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That's where today's episode connects, guys, directly to
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our master topic.
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Stop living a life you never chose.
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Choosing your own life may make you different.
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But, ladies and gentlemen, this isn't about ignoring
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good advice, becoming arrogant, or assuming you're right
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simply because you're different.
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Listen carefully.
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Consider evidence.
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Ask questions.
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Learn from people who know more than you
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do.
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Stay humble enough to change your mind when
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the facts change.
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But after you've learned and you've listened, evaluated,
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and thought carefully, you still have to make
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decisions on your own.
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Your life cannot permanently remain in a committee.
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It's easy to say you'll be yourself.
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When everybody approves, the real test comes when
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someone questions you, prefers the old version of
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you, or doesn't understand why you're changing and
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you change anyway.
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Think about one area of your life, whether
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you're being in a situation making yourself smaller,
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just to remain acceptable.
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Maybe it's an idea you haven't pursued.
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Maybe it's something you want to learn.
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Maybe it's a boundary you haven't established.
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Maybe it's a direction you've wanted to explore.
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Learning changes you.
24:05
Experience changes you.
24:07
Responsibility changes you.
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Success changes you.
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Failure changes you.
24:13
Getting the point?
24:14
Education changes you.
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Life changes you.
24:17
The goal isn't to remain exactly the same
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person forever.
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We grow, we morph, we change.
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The goal is to keep developing without losing
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the values, the core values and integrity that
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matter so much to us.
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So ask yourself this, ladies and gentlemen, what
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is conformity already costing you?
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Is it costing you confidence, your creativity, an
24:37
opportunity, your direction, a future you actually want?
24:40
Maybe being different costs temporary approval, but pretending
24:48
can cost years.
24:50
Maybe independence costs comfort, but conformity can cost
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direction.
24:54
Maybe growth changes some relationships, but refusing to
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grow can change your relationship with yourself.
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That's priceless.
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Choose thoughtfully, listen carefully, stay teachable, be humble
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enough to reconsider your own assumptions.
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But don't you dare abandon yourself simply because
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somebody else would prefer a more convenient version
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of you.
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That's not what you want.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur and much more.
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And this has been another amazing episode of
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Inspirations for Your Life.
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So we start on Saturday on basically day
25:29
one with a brand new master topic.
25:30
We roll all the way through the week
25:31
and we finish up on Friday.
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Your path, ladies and gentlemen, doesn't require universal
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approval.
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If you think it does, it's high time
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you start changing.
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Because whose life are you living anyway?
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Yours or somebody else's?
25:48
Your growth doesn't require everybody to understand it.
25:51
Your future doesn't require a committee vote.
25:53
If you think it does, it's time to
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change your life.
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Maybe, well, you know, I want to be
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nice.
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I want to be the good guy.
26:02
I want to be the yes person.
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Yes person doesn't become successful.
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You're not here to become a 24-7
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people pleaser.
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If you are, you're not going to be
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successful.
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I'm just being honest.
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Your path doesn't require universal approval.
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Get that through your head.
26:21
Again, your growth doesn't require everybody to understand
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it.
26:24
Your future doesn't require a committee vote.
26:26
Being different may cost you not just money,
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but living a life that was never truly
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yours can cost far more than any amount
26:38
of money you could ever earn.
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I think sometimes the reason people don't stay
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with themselves is they don't want to be
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lonely.
26:49
They don't want to be alone.
26:51
And they'd rather do what the crowd wants
26:55
so they don't have to be alone.
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Right?
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But sometimes being alone will get you to
27:02
connect with the right people, maybe connected with
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the wrong people.
27:05
Being different may cost you, but living a
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life that was never truly yours can cost
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far more.
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Know what you're willing to pay.
27:12
Know what you're unwilling to surrender.
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And have the courage to become yourself anyway.
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I know this is not an easy topic,
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but these are the topics we go over
27:23
here.
27:23
I hope you have a great rest of
27:25
your evening or day.
27:26
Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
27:28
more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations,
27:31
short-form, long-form content, articles, reels, and
27:33
so much more, including articles, too.
27:36
But I want you to know that your
27:39
life starts with you.
27:41
It starts with your choices.
27:43
Don't give them away to somebody else.
27:46
Don't give away your power.
27:49
Don't give away your power.
27:51
Because, you see, once you do, it's going
27:55
to be very hard to get it back.
27:57
I hope you have a great one, and
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I hope this show resonated with all of
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you.
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Be well, everyone.