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- 1:09Well, some people dip their toes into life, but Annabelle dives
- 1:14right in. Whether it's surfing waves
- 1:17across the globe, leading sunrise yoga on Abasot Beach or
- 1:21filling a room full with her soulful voice, Annabelle Lee
- 1:25seems to weave magic into everything she touches.
- 1:29From Liverpool to Berlin, from the shores of North Wales to the
- 1:33surf of El Salvador, Annabelle's journey is one of music,
- 1:37movement and a spirit that refuses to sit still.
- 1:41She's a dunker, a singer, a surfer, a yoga teacher and soon,
- 1:46well in a while, possibly, a physiotherapist.
- 1:50And if that's not enough, she also She's also the one who
- 1:53started the Abasot Christmas singing group that brought the
- 1:57whole village together. So today was talking salty hair,
- 2:02sandy yoga mats, sound baths, surfboards and songs that drift
- 2:07across coastlines. This is Annabelle's Annabelle
- 2:10Lee's world, and you're about to step right in it.
- 2:13Morning, Annabelle. Good morning, Mark.
- 2:16Wow, what an introduction. Well, if I could get any more
- 2:20alliteration into it, I probably never try.
- 2:23You remember everything I do better than me.
- 2:25OK, so let's take it from the top.
- 2:28Where do we start? Annabelle, you pick one, OK.
- 2:32So travelling, travelling. Let's capture our audience's
- 2:35imagination with your travels and where have you been and why?
- 2:39Why? Yeah, I've been to quite a few
- 2:42far-flung places, some really interesting places, always for
- 2:47kind of longer periods of time as well.
- 2:48So I'm not really a holiday person.
- 2:50I would say I'm more of a traveller.
- 2:54And yeah, I think I've been. I've been to India, I've been to
- 2:58Central America, I've been to Mexico, Australia, Bali, lots of
- 3:02Europe, mostly first serving and also for yoga as well.
- 3:08So when I travel, there's, there often is a reason for it.
- 3:10You know, like I say, not just a holiday, but to, to kind of do
- 3:13something to, to see something or, or for an activity that I
- 3:16love. Yeah, right.
- 3:17OK, I'm, I'm going to ask because everybody else would.
- 3:21Where's your favorite place? I think that's a really
- 3:23difficult question. I I can't really pick one
- 3:27favorite place. I feel like I have lots for
- 3:29different reasons. It would be between India and El
- 3:33Salvador, and I can't pick my favorite, but I think India's
- 3:37probably the most interesting place and diverse place that I
- 3:40visited and one that really, really captured me, you know,
- 3:46and, and one that I'll never forget.
- 3:48And obviously places like El Salvador, I mean, the headlines
- 3:51tell us that El Salvador or effectively South America
- 3:55generally is not the safest place in the world.
- 3:58Yeah. Were you ever, sort of, did you
- 4:00ever feel as though you were on your back foot over there?
- 4:02No, I think obviously it is risky going travelling to these
- 4:07places and I don't go with an agenda, a plan or kind of just
- 4:12go at all. No, I go with a one way ticket
- 4:15most of the time. I hope for the best.
- 4:18But, and obviously, yeah, I'm travelling on my own as a, as a
- 4:23solo female traveller, it, it can be quite scary.
- 4:26But I don't know, I've never really felt scared.
- 4:29I've always felt quite relaxed. And you meet people along the
- 4:32way. So every, everywhere you go can
- 4:35be dangerous, like anywhere you go in the world can be
- 4:39dangerous. You know that everywhere, every
- 4:40country has its risks. But you meet people and you find
- 4:45out what they've done, what they found worked, what didn't work,
- 4:48you know, and, and you just kind of, we're all vulnerable,
- 4:51travelling on our own and we link up together and you make
- 4:55amazing friends. You know, some people I'm still
- 4:57friends with now and then it doesn't feel scary or unsafe
- 5:01anymore because you've made friends with people who are also
- 5:05doing the same thing, and you and you travel together.
- 5:07And I guess you even, you'll even meet these people at the
- 5:10airport on your way out and then just keep bumping into them.
- 5:13And that's my. Thought no, literally that
- 5:15happened. Yeah, on my first solo trip that
- 5:17exact thing happened. I met a guy in the airport, He
- 5:21was German. And then we parted ways and then
- 5:24we ended up being in the same hostel for the first night in
- 5:28San Jose in in Costa Rica. And then we realized we were
- 5:31actually going to the same town in Costa Rica.
- 5:33So then we ended up like surfing together for the first week of
- 5:36my trip. And yeah, it was kind of like
- 5:38the universe giving me a sign that everything was going to be
- 5:41OK because of course I was a little bit apprehensive
- 5:44travelling on my own for the first time, you know, going that
- 5:48far, yeah. Yeah, so.
- 5:50And I mean, The thing is, if you're going to travel on your
- 5:52own, you might as well, just as you say, just put a pin in the
- 5:55map and just think. I'll go, yeah.
- 5:57It's a little bit like, where's the furthest place that I can go
- 6:00that's the most interesting and the most different to what we
- 6:02have here. Yeah, I'll go there.
- 6:03Sure. Why not?
- 6:04And it really was like that for my Central America trip.
- 6:07I I knew that I wanted to go to that part of the world.
- 6:10And I honestly can't tell you how I made it dump in Costa
- 6:12Rica. I just did do.
- 6:14You take your surfboard with you.
- 6:16Yeah, Right. OK.
- 6:17So you see, that's a level. It's a bit like when you go
- 6:19skiing, I remember. Yeah.
- 6:21You automatically start to connect to people even if
- 6:24they're not on your resort. Yeah, like, along with the ski
- 6:27bag and the pair of skis and. And people know what you're up
- 6:29to. That's it.
- 6:30And you find the like minded people by carrying your, your
- 6:33board. Definitely.
- 6:34And yeah, I, I, I tend to travel with my board on the longer
- 6:37trips. OK, if I was going for maybe a
- 6:39week, I might not because it would probably be cheaper just
- 6:41to, to rent one. But yeah, most of the time I
- 6:44travel with it and it's not easy.
- 6:47No, no, no. It's.
- 6:48Slightly bigger than a backpack. Absolutely, God, just put it
- 6:52over your shoulder. No, no, no, no.
- 6:54No. But as a conversation starter,
- 6:56sure. Yes, yeah, they don't think
- 6:59you're going out on a knitting holiday.
- 7:00That's. No, and I love hearing what
- 7:02people think's in the bag and you can make plenty of, you
- 7:05know, it's a dead body to see how people respond.
- 7:08Or are you going kayaking? No, I'm not going kayaking
- 7:12surfing. You see, that's how little idea
- 7:15that most of us have got about things that are hidden inside
- 7:18these canvas bags. Australia.
- 7:21Did you surf out there? Yeah, I did.
- 7:23I went on like a family trip there for a a couple of weeks
- 7:26and I said I wasn't gonna go in the water because I think
- 7:29probably my only fear in life is sharks.
- 7:32Yeah, I think I'm. Fairly grounded.
- 7:34Yeah, yeah, and there's a lot of them there.
- 7:37I just don't wanna be more to death by shark.
- 7:41But when I got there, I realized that actually your chances of
- 7:45being in a a car accident or something else are higher than
- 7:49being bitten by a shark. And I thought, I can't come all
- 7:53the way to the other side of the world, to this beautiful country
- 7:56that's renowned for incredible surf and not, not go surfing.
- 7:59So yeah, so I went for it. As you know, son Ryan, he lives
- 8:02out there. He's a big surfer.
- 8:04And we did and we still do. Be honest with you, have
- 8:07apprehensions and sort of thing, you know, are you in the water?
- 8:10Especially because about a month ago there was a a big white that
- 8:14sort of jumped out of the water and took a guy off the board.
- 8:18He didn't just have the board, he took the guy off the board.
- 8:21And left the board. And left the board and just one
- 8:24straight off and and. But as Ryan said, exactly the
- 8:28same as you statistically it's you know, the amount of times
- 8:32that wherever you travel, you can get yourself into a pickle.
- 8:36Yeah. And surfing is a quite a sort of
- 8:39a, a quantifiable space, yeah, so.
- 8:41You know, that's it. Yeah.
- 8:42I always just make sure I'm closer to the shore and the
- 8:47other ones can be sharp baked. I was gonna.
- 8:50Say you've got about 10 other people around you.
- 8:53I'm not the meteus, let's be honest.
- 8:55So they're not the shark that's not gonna pick me.
- 8:57So you just don't go for the surfer type just because he
- 9:01looks good. You go because he's bigger, He's
- 9:03a, he's a better meal than you are.
- 9:05Exactly. Yeah, OK.
- 9:09So, so II I mean, India's got some great, some great
- 9:13coastlines, I would imagine. I haven't a place I'd like to
- 9:16go, but I haven't. Do you surf over there or was
- 9:19this for a different reason? Yeah.
- 9:21So in India, I didn't surf at all.
- 9:23And it was the first time that I've been on a trip where I
- 9:25actually wasn't thinking about the sea and wasn't thinking
- 9:28about surf, which was a big thing for me because surfing is
- 9:32your life. My life.
- 9:33Yeah. My, it really feels often like a
- 9:35reason for living and that's what I dedicate my life to.
- 9:38So to be somewhere and not be thinking about it, not checking
- 9:42a forecast all the time, looking for where the nearest surf is
- 9:45was really interesting. But it was because I was there
- 9:48for a different reason. I was there to qualify as a yoga
- 9:51instructor and then go travelling afterwards, you know,
- 9:54with a backpack this time, not a surfboard, and just see the
- 9:58country, the culture and and practice lots of yoga.
- 10:02Yeah. So that was that trip.
- 10:04And did you have lots of sort of yoga destinations mapped out, or
- 10:08was it a case of you'd go to one destination, you'd practice
- 10:12yoga, you'd understand the culture of those people there
- 10:15and then just ask them for recommendations?
- 10:17Or was this again another well, I'll just get on the bus and
- 10:21wander off. I mean, sort of, yeah.
- 10:23This one was more planned before I left.
- 10:26I had the place on the yoga teacher training course.
- 10:28So it's a 200 hour course which it was really intensive for a
- 10:32full month and but I went with a one way ticket.
- 10:35My plan was to travel India afterwards for as long as I
- 10:39wanted to, provided that I met someone or some people to travel
- 10:43with. It was a country that I felt
- 10:45that I would, I feel more comfortable travelling with
- 10:48someone, not just on my own. So yeah, so I came back.
- 10:51So I started, I think because there's the tourism is a lot
- 10:56less there and it's very, very highly populated country and
- 11:02it's just completely, it's like it's like a whole of the world,
- 11:04you know, like it's really, really different.
- 11:06And it's not as easy to travel on your own there.
- 11:10I think I just felt more comfortable being with someone.
- 11:14Yeah. Yeah.
- 11:15Because, you know, you get on a train and it's completely packed
- 11:18and everybody's, like, stroking my hair because they've never
- 11:21seen blonde hair and white skin before.
- 11:23And it's, you know, so it's a really, really interesting
- 11:26experience, but one that I'm glad that I had someone with me.
- 11:31I had AI made friends with a Canadian guy who I'm still
- 11:34friends with now. Actually.
- 11:35I met him this year in Germany, and he had bright orange ginger
- 11:40hair. So you can imagine the two of
- 11:41them just drew attention everywhere we went.
- 11:44But because I met him, I felt comfortable enough to travel.
- 11:49And and yeah, we travelled together for for a month
- 11:51afterwards. But yeah, I started in
- 11:54Rishikesh, which is kind of known as the yoga capital of the
- 11:58world. Obviously yoga originates from
- 12:00India and that's what they they, they coin Rishikesh as the as
- 12:06the yoga capital of the world. So I started there with my
- 12:07course. I knew that's where I wanted to
- 12:09go, to be away from the beach as well for a bit because I'm
- 12:13always at the beach. So to be in kind of surrounded
- 12:17by the mountains was what I wanted to do.
- 12:19And then after that it was just a case of going with the flow,
- 12:21see who you meet and see where where looks interesting.
- 12:25And the yoga, the sugar aspect of it was just my personal
- 12:28practice then when I was travelling around India.
- 12:30So I would just start and end each day with my own practice
- 12:33and try to consolidate a lot of the knowledge and the
- 12:36information that I was given during the course.
- 12:39Yeah. Do you find that yoga is for you
- 12:42spiritual or is it more sort of is it more of an internal
- 12:47levelling that you? Because not everybody, when you
- 12:49mentioned the word spiritual, people think that it's a bit
- 12:52edgy sometimes. Yeah.
- 12:55But there again, on the other, on the positive side, some
- 12:57people find yoga because it is so spiritual.
- 13:00It allows you to get so deep into yourself.
- 13:03Absolutely I. Just wondered what it was.
- 13:05What? Where's your driver when it
- 13:07comes to? Yeah, I love yoga for the fact
- 13:10that it can resonate so differently with everybody and
- 13:13everybody can to kind of get different things out of it and
- 13:17maybe go into it thinking that they're getting something out of
- 13:20it and then coming out out of the class or the, you know,
- 13:23whole journey with something completely different.
- 13:25And every instructor and everyone that you meet who
- 13:30practices yoga or shares the practice, they all, yeah, they
- 13:34all do it from, from a different place.
- 13:36Some people are very spiritual. You know, there's, there's a
- 13:38definitely a level of woo woo involved.
- 13:41I would say I'm medium level woo woo right now anyway.
- 13:45I'm. Woo woo for those that don't
- 13:48understand. It, well, just the spiritual
- 13:50side of things, you know, hippie dippie, that kind of thing.
- 13:54Yeah, yeah, I'm probably getting more hippie dippie woo woo as I
- 13:57get old, but I'm, I'm, I'm a medium level now.
- 14:01Let me tell you, somebody who practices yoga every day at my
- 14:05age, you're pretty woo woo. I'll take it.
- 14:10But yeah, I mean, I, yeah, I started yoga as a thinking it
- 14:14was a physical form of exercise, which obviously it is.
- 14:18But that's not really the goal of yoga.
- 14:21The goal of yoga is actually to be able to meditate, to be able
- 14:26to connect the body and the mind and the breath.
- 14:30So to do that we go, we work through Asthana, which is the
- 14:34poses, the movements to essentially condition the body
- 14:37to be able to sit for long periods and meditate.
- 14:40And the long periods is because the, the kind of the longer you
- 14:43can sit, the deeper you can go emotionally, spiritually,
- 14:47accessing, you know, things about yourself that you didn't
- 14:51know or things come to the surface.
- 14:52You, you sit with, of what they, they call actually in India,
- 14:55your monkey mind. And you let it go and you see
- 14:57what happens and, and you just find out things about yourself
- 15:00through meditation. And that is actually what yoga
- 15:03is all about. It's more you know it it
- 15:06traditionally, but in the Western world.
- 15:08It isn't just fitness because in the Western.
- 15:11World yeah, exactly mobility. And that was a really hard
- 15:14adjustment for me when I came back from India having this
- 15:17incredible immersive month of really understanding what yoga
- 15:21means and yoga as a way of life, which I always it always was for
- 15:24me anyway, but really understanding the meaning and
- 15:27the the reason for practising. Not like, you know, I'm going to
- 15:30go put some some lycra on and and throw some moves on a mat.
- 15:33It's not that, but unfortunately I had to make that adjustment
- 15:36when I came back from India and started teaching because you
- 15:41also need to give people what they want and what they need.
- 15:43And so for me, I try to weave a lot of the traditional things
- 15:48that I learnt from my course into my teachings, but also make
- 15:52sure I'm giving the people what they want and what they need.
- 15:54And obviously in the Western world, you know, we do think of
- 15:58it as a yeah, as a form of exercise.
- 15:59And of course it is as well. We are conditioning the body.
- 16:02We are like, you know, we work so much on the hips, which is so
- 16:06important. And I'm not taking away from all
- 16:08of the the movement aspect, you know, but as I go on my own
- 16:12journey as a yoga instructor, kind of working out what's
- 16:14important for me and what's important for people, it
- 16:17changes, you know, but that movement will always remain.
- 16:21But maybe my classes might bring in something a little bit more
- 16:24spiritual or a little bit gentler, depending on the time
- 16:26of the year. You know, I want to always
- 16:28adjust to the seasons and to what what I think people need
- 16:31It's. And certainly the feedback that
- 16:33I've, I've heard and we've heard from the classes that you do
- 16:37here in Abasol, especially when you do them on the beach, I know
- 16:40you still continue to do them in the in the hall on a Sunday,
- 16:43isn't it? But when you're on the beach,
- 16:47people who we've come across before have said that it's a,
- 16:51it's a very flowing, easy yoga and their expectations are
- 16:56definitely met. I think it's really, as you say,
- 17:00it's really important. You have to.
- 17:02You have to turn everything into the environment that you're in.
- 17:06And I'm there for the people. I'm not there for myself.
- 17:08You know, obviously I enjoy it and that's why I do it.
- 17:11But I'm there to share something that helps other people.
- 17:14And, you know, you have to, to see what's or who's in front of
- 17:18you and what they need. And as a yoga instructor, you do
- 17:22feel the pressure you want to, to please and help everybody.
- 17:25And you, you know, I walk out of every class and I reflect on
- 17:28what I've offered and if that's met the needs of what everybody
- 17:31wanted that day. But like, I'm not a mind reader,
- 17:34so I just have to go with what I, what I can read.
- 17:36The energy of the room, you know, you really feel the energy
- 17:39of the room and the people. Every week it's different.
- 17:42You know, some weeks I might only have four people.
- 17:44Some weeks I've got 12 people. And that really changes
- 17:47everything. And, you know, yeah, you've got
- 17:49to look at the age of people, how they're moving.
- 17:51And so I I go in with this plan, you know, every week I plan a
- 17:55class and. Actually.
- 17:56I barely look at my notebook. Yeah, I do.
- 17:59I do plan some things. You heard it first here, isn't
- 18:03it? She does.
- 18:04Plan you should see my notebook is so organised but then I don't
- 18:07look at it, OK. Well, by the time you've written
- 18:11it down, it's done, isn't it? Yeah, that's it.
- 18:13You've internalised it by by writing it down and for me
- 18:15that's it. That's a comfort as well, a
- 18:17safety net to have. Have it there, yeah.
- 18:20Yeah. So it's nice that it's nice that
- 18:21there are, for example, online apps that people can access
- 18:25because they can then almost sort of take away that learning
- 18:28that you've you've introduced to them.
- 18:31And that is to do it at their own pace, at their own speed, at
- 18:34their own level of comfort. And although they can't actually
- 18:37have you in front of them then, then at least they can sort of
- 18:41relate to what they've learnt. That's it, Yeah.
- 18:43I think you don't have to attend a lot of classes to have a
- 18:46really basic understanding of yoga.
- 18:48But I always say to people, you know, do attend physical classes
- 18:51because you need that instructor in front of you making sure your
- 18:54alignment is correct. That's the most important thing.
- 18:56Something that really I value hugely is, is alignment, getting
- 18:59things in the right position so you're not injuring yourself.
- 19:03And obviously this is something I will be looking at more when I
- 19:06go to study physiotherapy in January and hopefully I'll be
- 19:10able to tie everything in together and my yoga classes
- 19:12will become really physiotherapy informed as well.
- 19:16Which would be a really nice angle that yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 19:19Because you can sort of take somebody's condition injury,
- 19:22call it what you will, and you can actually sort of tailor
- 19:25almost tailor a plan of rehab to them because on the back of your
- 19:30yoga. Kind of Exactly.
- 19:31I've always been someone who believes in a holistic approach.
- 19:34Yeah. I don't believe anything that
- 19:35needs healing or repairing, that there's just one way to do it or
- 19:39one thing that's gonna work. You know the body needs a
- 19:42holistic. Approach because.
- 19:44You know how I feel about painkillers.
- 19:47I have to be desperate times. Yoga is my painkiller.
- 19:51OK, well, that's good. So with that sort of with that
- 19:55sense, that holistic sense and that sort of sense of well-being
- 19:59in in in yoga. And obviously you've got to have
- 20:02that I guess with surfing, I'm not a surfer, but you've got to
- 20:05be completely at one with your with yourself.
- 20:08How does that translate into singing?
- 20:12Because. Singing this, it feels as though
- 20:15it's quite an opposite set of of values and emotions and actions.
- 20:21It's singing came before yoga. Take it.
- 20:23For me, yeah, yeah, it did. Yeah, yeah.
- 20:26Yeah, and music. Music before even singing.
- 20:30Yeah. Oh, maybe.
- 20:32No. I think singing was how I began
- 20:34with music. I think I began with music in
- 20:36secondary school, actually. Oh, no.
- 20:38I started playing violin in primary school and then tried
- 20:42lots of different teachers and realized actually, it wasn't the
- 20:44teachers, it was the instrument. No offence, The violin is
- 20:47fantastic, but I was no good at it.
- 20:49And then I switched the saxophone and then I, I don't
- 20:52think I realized I could sing until I was about 15, actually.
- 20:55Yeah. And then I started singing
- 20:57because I was really into dancing when I was younger.
- 20:59And actually, that's how I transitioned into yoga, because
- 21:02as I got older, I stopped dancing and then I picked up
- 21:05yoga instead. But yeah, music was always
- 21:08there. That was first.
- 21:09So were you were sort of a, I'm gonna say precocious 345 year
- 21:13old that used to to to dance in front of 22. 2 1/2 I was on the
- 21:19stage in my Tutu, gorgeous and singing as well, to be fair, I
- 21:24think when I was, yeah, when I was really young.
- 21:26I've always been on the stage. Yes, I love it.
- 21:28I love performing. Yeah, I still love dancing.
- 21:31I just don't do it as much as not, you know.
- 21:33Yeah, you like being in front of people.
- 21:34Yeah, I think I like sharing things with people.
- 21:37That's what it is. It's about sharing.
- 21:39It's about I've got a lot of energy and a lot of love to
- 21:42share and give and so why not? And I've never had a any of that
- 21:47fear being in front of people. I think it's just the natural
- 21:51place for me. Yeah.
- 21:53Which is interesting because obviously that to a lot of
- 21:55people brings a lot of fear. And I'm confident enough.
- 21:58Yeah, and I think I just, I've always felt that ease being with
- 22:02people and and in front of them and performing.
- 22:05Yeah, yeah. And, and believe it or not,
- 22:07there's a number of people that I've asked over the last eight
- 22:10or nine months to, to join me on the podcast and they won't,
- 22:14because even even a microphone is a fearful thing for me.
- 22:19They're they're just, you know, it's a, Oh well, a I'm not
- 22:21interesting BI don't really know how to what to say.
- 22:25And, and you can tell it's there's a big barrier, so.
- 22:28Yeah. I mean, I, I probably feel more
- 22:30nervous for this in front of a microphone than I do hundreds of
- 22:36people performing. I don't know know that it's
- 22:38permanent. Make it an easier, I'll get onto
- 22:41the table and a few back backdrops.
- 22:45Yeah, that might help, yeah. Yeah, OK.
- 22:47Something about it being recorded and permanent that is
- 22:50more scary than performing in front of people.
- 22:52The moments there and then it's gone, right?
- 22:54Yeah. Absolutely You'll never.
- 22:56You'll never lose. This.
- 22:57I have to listen to this now for the rest of my life.
- 23:00And I'm sure still with many, many other people as.
- 23:02Well. So and singing, I mean,
- 23:04obviously you, you started the, the singing club, the, the
- 23:08avatar singing club, which I'm very proud, I mean this
- 23:11sincerely, very proud to take over from you.
- 23:14And but still, you know, this is really a land to a slaughter.
- 23:17And I'm very glad that you were there last night.
- 23:20The lamb was being slaughtered a little bit, as you probably
- 23:23know. Anyway, you got me out of that
- 23:25one. But so why now is that?
- 23:28Was that just another expression of, well, I've got this love,
- 23:31I've got this sharing mentality, Let's sing together?
- 23:35Yeah, I think I'd always wanted to have my own choir or singing
- 23:41group and I never really felt good enough.
- 23:43And I also never felt, I wasn't really sure where I was going to
- 23:48settle or, you know, I didn't know if it was definitely going
- 23:50to be avoc. So I was a bit apprehensive
- 23:52about starting on here because I lived here for eight years and
- 23:55then, yeah, moved back to the world and now I'm back again.
- 23:59So I felt like Christmas was a good opportunity to do
- 24:02something, see how it goes, see if if I have the confidence and
- 24:06the skill set to do it. And, you know, I just wanted to
- 24:10share music and singing with anyone who wanted to come and
- 24:14sing with me. And that was how it started.
- 24:17Honestly, I can't really remember.
- 24:18It was probably just one day woke up and went, yeah, I'm
- 24:20going to do that. Let.
- 24:22Me tell you from the other chair we were all sitting around you
- 24:26in a Crescent 1/2 Crescent moon looking thinking on Earth.
- 24:30Have we got ourselves into because especially in Wales,
- 24:33because everybody can sing, can't they to start with
- 24:36inherently and they've all got good voices and they all very,
- 24:39you know, there's a lot of collegiate this about it.
- 24:41And we all, I think however many of the eight or ten of us, we
- 24:44just sort of thought this is a bit, yeah.
- 24:47But I mean, I think the first session we got about, I got
- 24:49about 20-3 people. And yeah, it was, it was really,
- 24:55really lovely just to get people singing together.
- 24:58And obviously, as you've seen, now that you've carried it on
- 25:00and that consistency is there, the numbers have stuck.
- 25:02You've got like 20 odd people every week because it's just
- 25:06that joy from singing is infectious.
- 25:09And the more people are there, the better it is because the
- 25:14people, the person next to you makes you feel confident that
- 25:16you can sing. You know, sometimes I've been to
- 25:19singing groups where people want to be there, they want to sing,
- 25:21but they almost feel that they need permission to.
- 25:24And that group that I established was, although I did
- 25:28call it the Christmas Choir, which I kind of wish I hadn't
- 25:30now because I didn't want it to feel that pressure.
- 25:33It's. Almost.
- 25:34It's almost metamorphosed into the Avatop singing.
- 25:37Yeah, the singing group is exactly right.
- 25:38Because I never wanted it to be a rehearsal.
- 25:41I never wanted it to be. Here's the part that we're going
- 25:43to learn together. And I never did that.
- 25:44And you haven't either, right? And we want that to carry on.
- 25:47It's there's no pressure. It's show up, come as you are
- 25:50and just sing to feel good and have a laugh.
- 25:54And. And didn't we laugh last night?
- 25:56Like, you know, it was first, first session back and the joy
- 26:01in the room was just infectious. And everybody went home smiling.
- 26:04And that's what I wanted. And I just, when I established
- 26:07it, I had a word with myself and was like, stop thinking that
- 26:10you're not good enough to do this because I'm definitely good
- 26:13enough to lead people in a room singing to make them feel good.
- 26:17And. An equal.
- 26:19I think the one thing from from my side is you didn't give me a
- 26:23framework of formality to follow.
- 26:26I think if the 2 words that sort of spring to mind is chaos and
- 26:29random random randomness. If I could even say because it
- 26:33is, it is random and it is. Chaotic.
- 26:35Maybe that's how you lead it. Back.
- 26:38OK, isn't that, wasn't that your intention?
- 26:41No Christmas chaos. No I, of course.
- 26:45Yeah, there's an element of chaos, but I think it's just
- 26:48about, yeah, fun, isn't it? Sense.
- 26:50Near Chaos. Ally Yeah, Yeah, no.
- 26:52You're still you're. Leading the group, I don't think
- 26:55you give yourself quite enough credit for how how well you
- 26:57lead. Well, maybe because I don't
- 26:59understand music. I can't read music I've never
- 27:01played in. It.
- 27:02But isn't that so nice? Isn't that a message to everyone
- 27:05that you can lead a singing group despite having next to No,
- 27:09no, that's not what I was going to say.
- 27:12Next to no formal musical education, right.
- 27:14Your formal musical education was in this lounge last year,
- 27:18two years ago or three years ago.
- 27:20Me telling you what to do, handing the baton of the choir
- 27:24over with 25 vocal exercises, which, by the way, Mark is doing
- 27:28very well. Spare.
- 27:30My blushes spare my blushes so. But abersoch, yeah, 'cause
- 27:35abersoch is that sort of place, isn't it?
- 27:37You know, let's face it, it's, it's a sort of place that
- 27:39encourages participation. People, you know, anything that
- 27:45you sort of seem to start down here seems to once it's got some
- 27:49momentum, people commit, commit to it.
- 27:52So I'm, I can't go any further without saying so dunking.
- 27:56Where does dunking play a part in your life?
- 27:59Oh well, I have to say I'm so happy to be back here because
- 28:03obviously I was living on the world for a couple of years and
- 28:05then I've moved back here this year and I'm so happy to be able
- 28:09to be dunking again. I because of my job, I can only
- 28:12come twice a week, but even that just makes such a difference to
- 28:16my mental health. And it's everything about it,
- 28:19isn't it? It's not just the cold therapy
- 28:22or being on the beach in the morning or getting up bright and
- 28:25early. It's also being with everybody,
- 28:27the social aspect, the encouragement and the motivation
- 28:32and knowing that whatever happens for the rest of your
- 28:34day, you've survived, survived this trauma.
- 28:39It's not, no, it's not, but it is to start with it.
- 28:47I think maybe the first couple of sessions you think war we're
- 28:49doing this for and then that high that you feel is incredible
- 28:53and it's it's like nothing else. And you carry it with you for
- 28:55the rest of the day. Yeah.
- 28:57And it's, it's addictive. It's really addictive, isn't it?
- 28:59Obviously. And.
- 29:01And certainly if we go back to the very first podcast that we
- 29:04did with Hattie and Emma, Hattie made the the observation that
- 29:09it's very much or it's been very much likened, full immersion has
- 29:13been very much likened to a hit of cocaine.
- 29:15It's illegal. I've heard that.
- 29:17I think they don't. They talk about it, that
- 29:20actually being that your body undergoes a similar process or.
- 29:24Feels the same high. Yeah.
- 29:26The endorphins. Yeah, yeah.
- 29:27It get exactly the same from the, the, the, the spirituality
- 29:31of, of being with other people. And there's a real I, I always
- 29:35like to think there's a real rhythm to Abisoc and there's a
- 29:38rhythm to dunking because you know it, it doesn't, it's not
- 29:41just staged. There's a flow as soon as you
- 29:44get onto the beach. It flows until you get off the
- 29:46beach. Yeah, it doesn't.
- 29:47And it's a very special community.
- 29:49And I think obviously since the pandemic, there's been a lot of
- 29:52cold water communities popping up.
- 29:54But I mean, maybe we're biased, but there's something very
- 29:57special about the other sort of dunkers.
- 29:59It's the location, everything about it, the fact that we can
- 30:02go to the same spot every day, see the same people, you know,
- 30:06it's really, it really brings routine into your life, which is
- 30:10really, really important as well.
- 30:12And you know, when I was back on, on the Wirral, I did some
- 30:15cold water swimming when I could, but the tides were so big
- 30:19that I couldn't just go when I needed to or at the same time
- 30:22every day. And I found that really
- 30:23difficult. And I lived just 5 minutes away
- 30:25from the sea. I was living near Liso Bay,
- 30:28which is really lovely. And it was great for swimming
- 30:31when the tide was in, but that was not when I needed it.
- 30:34You know, I wanted to go every morning and you couldn't if the
- 30:37tide was out. It was 10 meters of tide, so it
- 30:39was too, too far away. So I think, yeah, I've never
- 30:42taken for granted how wonderful and special the Avastock Dunkers
- 30:47community is it? It really is and it, I think it
- 30:50goes from strength to strength. And certainly if we look at how
- 30:53the how people have taken to the podcast, it's it's very
- 30:56encouraging because they listen because they want to know about,
- 31:00you know, about us all, I guess, in a, in a deeper way.
- 31:04And that's the other thing about the dunking is, and I
- 31:07continually say this to anybody who does dunk is whenever you'd
- 31:11go dunking, always put a walk in there after because that 1520
- 31:16minutes of walking as we do go up to Jeff's growing them back.
- 31:20It's it's absolutely revealing you really different person,
- 31:24different day, real. Leveller, yeah, masses of
- 31:26benefit for that. I mean, I started doing that
- 31:29because I just needed form up afterwards.
- 31:35No, but it is, it's, and it's a really open environment and I
- 31:37think, you know, it's first thing in the morning.
- 31:40So however you've woken up is how you appear when you go and
- 31:43dip. And some people are morning
- 31:45people and they don't want to talk and they think they don't
- 31:46want to talk, but they get there and they've got something on
- 31:49their mind and we'll find a way to, to get you to talk about it,
- 31:52you know, and in a really safe space.
- 31:55And then maybe afterwards with a coffee or something.
- 31:57And it's just such a friendly, the atmosphere and I mean, I'm
- 32:00sure lots of dipping communities around the country are like
- 32:02that. But yeah, it's just a really,
- 32:05it's such you get to know people so quickly as well.
- 32:09And it's like 20 minutes of, of walking together every day and,
- 32:13and. Who just heard people's?
- 32:14Stories. Before you go down, who on earth
- 32:17would get undressed in front of other people on the beach and
- 32:20then they freeze your watches off, get out of the water, then
- 32:24get undressed again? Yeah, then.
- 32:26Walk. It's so funny.
- 32:28My favorite, yeah, my favorite line that dunkers say to each
- 32:31other in public is I didn't recognise you with your clothes
- 32:34on. Well, exactly, exactly that.
- 32:37I think that's such an under such a full stop for the
- 32:40dunking. Yeah, absolutely.
- 32:42So before we wrap up, I'm going to ask you a question which I
- 32:47ask everybody, and I might even ask you too.
- 32:49I've got somebody else's in my mind.
- 32:51But if you could dunk anywhere with anybody, who would it be
- 32:54and where? Oh no, that's that's such a big
- 33:00question. I actually, I would really like
- 33:07to dunk with my dad. Yeah, I've, he's never tried it
- 33:14and always just thought I'm a complete lunatic when I do it.
- 33:18You know, he's like #1 fan when I do dunk.
- 33:20But I would really like to see my dad dunk and I would love to
- 33:23go for a dip with him anywhere that I could do it.
- 33:28Is it too cheesy to just say right here?
- 33:31No, no. Not.
- 33:32Not at all, actually. The sand's dead easy to get in
- 33:35and out of. Yeah.
- 33:36Yeah, the tide's great everything.
- 33:38And yeah, there's there's no better place to to dip than
- 33:41obviously. And I am going to ask you
- 33:42another question because and when we go off air, I'm going to
- 33:45ask you to give me a question for the next person because
- 33:48that's that's how I try and do it.
- 33:49And they'll never reveal who who has asked the question.
- 33:52So, but it's just, you know, just let your mind soar a
- 33:55little. The, the, the question I've got
- 33:58for you is, would your former self, if you're, if you look
- 34:02back at your former self, would your former self be proud to see
- 34:06you where you are now? I I would hope so, yeah.
- 34:10I think she would be. I think she'd be.
- 34:13I don't think she'd be surprised.
- 34:14She wouldn't be surprised. Not one bit at all.
- 34:16The things that I've done, because I think I've always been
- 34:19like this, you know? And I think, yeah, she'd be
- 34:23really proud that I've taken a different route, that I've never
- 34:26let any of the kind of negativity or, I don't know, the
- 34:31norms like suppress me. Yeah, yeah.
- 34:35I, I, I just have done things my way always.
- 34:39And yeah, I think she'd be proud of that.
- 34:43Well, can I just say thank you very much indeed.
- 34:46Had a lot of fun doing this. And as I say to anybody who
- 34:50comes on the podcast, may the spirit of the dunkers go with
- 34:53you. Thank you so much.
- 34:54Thank you.