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New Family · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mama. Dear mama, how's it going
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  with your daughter in law joining your family? Well, let's ask our American
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  mama. Mama, Mama and joining us now our American mama, Terry Nettville.
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  So Tristan Steele just got married as a beautiful wedding, they said,
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  A. I believe correct me if I'm wrong here. I think this was
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  a worldwide record for the number of bridesmaids. It was twenty seven. It
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  was no, I think it was yeah, late fourteen, and then he
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  had twenty seven, wasn't it. That's crazy? Okay, So they had
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  a whole I mean like they just wrapping around the island. So look,
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  they were. They're a good couple. She's you've known Tristan for you Yeah,
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  they started dating when they were six, right, and now they're twenty
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  five. So how's it going with her joining your family? Oh? God,
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  I love her so much. You know, I tell young moms when
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  they have their babies, you know, as you pray and you do every
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  night for your children, also pray for the future spouse. Pray for that
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  soul that's going to come into your child's life and make their lives even fuller,
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  you know, so, so I did. I did that when you
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  know, all three of mine were little. I prayed for that person.
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  She is everything, when I tell you everything, she is everything I could
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  have ever hoped, wished for, prayed for. She's everything. And you
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  know, it's so funny because even when they were just dating as teenagers,
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  right, I just and you know this with Bailey and and Claire, you
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  just kind of know when that person is just so right and you just please
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  God, let this be it. Yeah. And so they're you know,
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  they've got their own twosome, their own little family, and it is such
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  a beautiful thing to see because she said the other day we were talking and
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  she said, you know when people say that it's just a piece of paper,
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  she said, it's so much more than that. Something happens. There's
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  like a bond that just tightens you after you in front of God and your
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  family. Wow, that's great. Yeah, she feels that already. Is
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  you do become one, You do become that. And to see them start
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  their own little you know, couple family, right, that's what it is.
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  Now that's an interesting point because the question here, how is it with
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  her joining your family there's a guy I follow on on Facebook. He's got
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  a real Mark Driscoll. He's a pastor, yes, and he does the
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  sermon. He says, when your kids get married, they're not joining your
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  family, They're creating a brand new family on their own. I agree,
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  And if you want to be a part of that family as the parent,
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  you have to adjust your mindset to make sure you understand they're the family.
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  That's a new family on there. And she hasn't joined yours. Your son
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  or daughter hasn't joined their family. They've created a new family. That's that's
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  incredible, because that's how I feel too. I've always felt like that,
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  like I never even when. Okay, so, I've got a friend years
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  ago that said something that stuck with me and I thought, oh no.
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  She said, I feel so sorry for whoever comes into my son's life because
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  I'm number one. I'm his number one. Oh yeah, yeah, And
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  I remember, and I laughed it off and joked about it with her because
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  I was uncomfortable. But I remember thinking, that's the weirdest thing I've ever
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  heard in my life, Like, no, I don't want to be his
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  number one. Way he's married to somebody else. That's so weird. So
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  even as when when Steele and Tristan got engaged after his baseball games, we
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  would all go to meet him to get hugs and stuff. And I could
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  tell at one point that he was like, Oh, should I go to
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  my mama? Should go to her? Should I go to And I looked
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  at him and I did my thumb, like go to her. You know,
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  I was already setting the stage. She is going to be your number
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  one, has to it has to be like that. Let's look in the
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  Bible here, let's look on the one the team commandments. Right, honor
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  your father and mother. Honor your father. Yes, husbands love your wife.
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  Yes, that that love put them first. Exactly. The Bible's even
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  telling you wife has to comfort. You can honor mother and father, but
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  you better love Why God, do you just remind me of something? Okay?
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  So when they first got engaged, I got it. They've chose a
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  date and it was going to be while our guys were gonna be in Omaha.
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  That was my what I thought would happen. Okay, it didn't happen,
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  but at the time, I was like, oh, y'all, y'all
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  cannot y'all can't get married on that date because Sladen and the team are gonna
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  be in Omaha. You can't do that date. It upset. It's the
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  first time I've had ever upset her in nine years. And and so Steele
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  called me the next day, and I remember I was outside by the pool
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  sit with Kevin talking and Steele calmly said, he said, Mom, I
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  appreciate you letting us know about the date and that that's something we need to
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  recognize and look at because a lot of my guys are groomsman's are baseball players
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  on that team. Yeah, he said, I appreciate that, he said,
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  but that you know what, Tristan has put my baseball in me before
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  anything for all these years. This is the one time, Mom, this
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  is the date we choose because this is the best one for Tristan and I
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  love you. But I would really appreciate it if you would never mention this
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  again. This is the date we're gonna get married on, and I'm sorry
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  if it conflicts with Omaha. And I said to him, it just kind
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  of snapped me back, and I said, Steele, first of all,
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  I promised to God, I will never mention this again. I'm so sorry
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  that I've set her I was being selfish, but I will say this to
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  her, to you, the fact that you're willing to call me and tell
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  me, look, you need to stay in your lane. This one comes
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  first, and her feelings come first. That lets me know the kind of
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  husband you're going to be for her, and I think that that is a
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  beautiful thing. And I am so sorry, but I am also so thrilled
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  to see the kind of husband that you will be for my daughter in law.
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  of will thank you so much, Steven