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Navigating Christian Dating · Relish: a Christian podcast

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  Good morning, Alex. How are you doing? Doing well. Good. Good.
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  Everyone, thanks so much for joining us.
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  Last few weeks, we had the Defeating the Biblical Claims from Atheists,
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  or the Biblical Claims of Contradictions from Atheists, and got a lot of buzz.
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  So if you're still here or you're coming off of those episodes and seeing this
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  one, we hope you stick around and check it out, because we've got some good
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  topics today. Well, cool. Yeah.
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  Reminder that I come to this cold. he hasn't talked to me
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  anything about it and so this is one poor preacher that's
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  coming cold to comments just like he would in a conversation
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  yes yes and i would say that dawn has an
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  incredible gift for these things and sometimes i
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  don't realize it until i'm editing it you know in the post-production editing
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  it and actually like seeing how quickly he comes up with things and sometimes
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  i forget that like i'm bringing heavy topics to you that your mind Mine has
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  to be just firing on all cylinders in order to just...
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  It's the donut I have before. The donut? Yes. Is that the key? Yeah.
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  Okay. But you're very graceful. Thank you.
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  All right. So this one comes from someone that will remain anonymous.
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  Okay. And it's about the dating life for Christians. Oh. And this would be a
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  Christian man. Okay. Okay.
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  Talking to him and to others. I do have some other close friends I've talked
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  to about this before, too.
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  But this person in particular kind of was like you know it doesn't
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  seem like there's a lot of christian women around there around that
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  are wanting this christian
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  lifestyle so like where do you find them what are you looking for well the first
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  where to find them okay you need to engage a christian community that has the
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  same values you you have and i know you might go to to the same church you've
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  always gone to and you say, well,
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  I really take dated all those girls. I'm not really interested in any of those.
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  Well, once in a while, maybe you shouldn't go on vacation and go to another
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  city. What has another church that has the same values and start looking at those girls.
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  I mean, here's a historical piece, maybe hysterical.
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  I used to drive Amish and there would be groups of Amish go for a sing in a
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  whole nother state so that they could, you know, integrate, mix up the Amish.
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  Otherwise, you know, you're dating your cousin real fast.
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  And so I would say, go to a church that has the same values,
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  maybe in another town, maybe a joining town.
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  So you're not going with the same ones you grew up in
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  Sunday school with but that has the same values
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  and and look at you know what god might
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  be having there i know that when i was dating yeah
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  i i looked at all the girls that in my own community i
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  know their past and so i i
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  waited till i was in seminary yeah and then
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  found charlene and it yeah it's been great met
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  her over pudding and it's been sweet ever since yep that that
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  would be the context so you maybe not go
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  to the bars i'm not sure that's the place to start meeting christian women
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  the second piece is even
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  if you're in meeting them in a church take
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  time in your dating life to make sure they have
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  the same values you do and and i'm not saying just about sex right that we're
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  not we're gonna wait till we get married to have sex well that's really good
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  But there's a whole lot of other issues that Christians have to be talking about
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  when we talk about making a holy Christian marriage.
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  And so that's part of it. Do that part of the dating.
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  Take extra dates just for that. I include that in our counseling.
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  When a couple comes to me for counseling, that's included.
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  What are your values? What are your values? How do they mesh?
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  How do they challenge each other? Because sometimes that's a sharp edge.
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  And sometimes God puts two people together to sharpen them and make them better.
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  We're actually better together than we were separate.
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  And so that piece is important. What was the last part of that?
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  Where would you meet them? And then where would you go to find and what should
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  you be looking for in a wife? So qualities. Yeah, qualities.
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  Okay. You're going to naturally, guys, I got to be really honest.
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  Us, you're going to naturally look for a woman who reflects the qualities of your mother.
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  Yeah. And what I'd say is make sure you meet her mother.
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  Yeah. Because she's going to reflect the qualities of her mother. Yep.
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  And if you can't get along with her mother, probably better stop dating. Mm-hmm.
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  I, yep, that's really sharp. I probably said that too tersely.
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  Yeah. But. No, no, no. I don't think, I think that's, I think that's very valuable.
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  So, like, I mean, like what I would say is, you know, if something is like having a lot
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  of kids is important to you maybe you would look to
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  see how a a woman would
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  be interacting with many kids or something
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  like yeah how are they loving the children yeah yeah i mean sometimes it goes
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  beyond the surface of just asking you know like oh how many kids do you want
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  or or you know what do you think about you know this verse in the bible or something
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  like that or yeah there's so many you have to kind of study to see how the interactions
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  happen you know i would say like Like with men,
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  like how do they treat their mother is a very good indicator too. It is. Yeah.
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  Because I know that I pick on my mom a little bit. Well, just a little bit.
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  And that's kind of our love language, being a little ornery to each other every once in a while.
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  Sometimes it gets carried away on my part, especially in the pool setting.
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  I'll squirt her. And I found that my wife does not really care for those kind
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  of little ornery things to do to her. So that was a learning experience is making
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  sure that I knew not to do that.
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  Yeah. The first 12 years of marriage is a very deep learning.
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  Oh, yeah. You learn. Uh-huh.
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  And then when your kids get to be teenagers, there's a whole new area of learning. Oh, yeah.
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  That's what I keep hearing. Yeah. Is I ask, you know, I'm like,
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  hey, when do these kids start remembering like anything?
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  And I ask someone, they're like, oh, that's not a big deal. Wait till they get
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  this age. Then they don't say anything at all.
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  Right. So yeah, let them talk now because you'll have peace when they're high school.
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  Well, certain kinds of peace you'll have when they're in high school. Yeah.
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  It's a whole different, it's a whole different ball game. Yeah,
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  absolutely. There's never less challenges, right?
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  So there's a, I've got a few more kind of two more segments of this question.
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  So the first two questions were, where should Christian men go to find a wife?
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  And what should they be looking for in a wife?
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  And the next part is like, is this the proper question?
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  Are these the proper questions? Or should we be asking, what should a man be
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  doing to make him or make himself acceptable or make himself right for being a husband?
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  And that I would go to, are you a disciple of Jesus Christ?
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  Are you reflecting our Savior in your life and the way you live?
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  And if you can find a godly man or a godly group of men to be a part of,
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  let them, I mean, we as guys, we sharpen each other.
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  If given the opportunity to be in the midst of scripture and conversation with
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  each other, we sharpen each other. And that's a great thing.
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  So find you a Christian man that you respect.
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  Respect his values, the way he lives, the way he conducts his business,
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  the way he treats his life, the wife, the way he treats his family.
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  Find a guy that you can see those things that you want to be as a Christian man.
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  And follow him, ask him questions, have coffee with him, read the Bible with
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  him, ask these kind of questions to him, and then live through the responses with him.
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  We have failed to do good Christian discipleship. Oh, yeah.
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  And this is one of those areas that you're going to be attractive to a Christian
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  woman living out your Christian life. Yep.
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  And hopefully at the end of this, we'll put some forth some like,
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  here's one, two, and three. Here's the things you got to do to pursue.
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  I jotted some things down. So hopefully we'll be able to hit them off.
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  You got the question ahead of me. So that's fine. That's yeah.
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  I need quite a bit of time to come up with just even a fraction of what Don can do on the spot.
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  All right. So the next one, the next part of this is.
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  It talks about the verse in Ephesians, you know, how it tells,
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  you know, the husbands or wives be submissive to your husband.
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  Ephesians 520. So it's the submissiveness part. We've talked a lot about this.
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  This person was concerned that there aren't any submissive women left in the dating pool.
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  Oh this is a fun this was a fun yeah issue
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  because i feel like there's so much
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  wrapped around this topic that's easy to miss and it's easy to then focus on
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  the women for this quality that you think that is is is dire oh right yeah and
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  if you walk into any relationship and you're trying to test to see you know
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  is this going to work out and you're like say first thing off the bat bless you say,
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  oh, are you a submissive woman? Or would you be a submissive wife?
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  That might not be the first one to start with. I wouldn't go there first, for sure.
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  But I also go back here and say, okay, so do you know what submissive means
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  according to the biblical definition?
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  And I note that in verse 21, it says, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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  Then it goes in wives submit right and
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  that word for submit is not will you
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  please bow down to me right that is
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  not what is being said here it's it's aligning ourselves in a way under christ
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  with christ as lord where is the man in that in that it's a battle term right
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  it's an alignment term it's It's not so much, I submit to your every whim.
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  It is, I align myself under you or with you.
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  So when it says, wives, submit to your husbands, align yourselves to your husbands
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  as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head
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  of the church, his body, for which he is Savior.
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  And so it's an alignment under Christ is what you need to be.
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  That's why it's important as a man to have your Christian discipleship in place
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  and know where you're submitting your time, your life, your energy in your discipleship to Christ.
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  Then you can find, I mean, I don't think you're going to have to,
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  I'm sorry, maybe I'm over optimistic and it's been years and years since I've been on the market.
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  I think men who live out these values will be so attractive in the Christian circles.
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  I mean, I think girls are asking these same questions, guys.
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  If you live out your Christian discipleship, you will be so attractive,
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  you may have to do a selection process.
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  Think about it. if you want a godly woman someone who is going to live by biblical principles,
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  they're they're doing the same thing saying there's no godly man out here and
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  i feel like this was one of the parts of this where i thought you know you're
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  focusing a lot on this one thing.
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  And maybe we should be focusing on how to make it so that you're the godly husband material right Right.
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  So you're going to be the one that is the highly desired, because there might
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  be a lot of women out there saying, there's no godly man out here.
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  That's true. None of them are following Christ. They are. I can vouch for that.
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  You can vouch for that. Good. And what I say is then the church is sort of not
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  done well at cultivating male discipleship. Yeah.
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  And we just need to gain some groundwork.
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  Women's ministries have happened quite a bit. I mean, there's all sorts of women's
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  studies out there, and women are much more apt to get together quickly and put
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  the Bible study together than a group of men are, because men are just way too busy.
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  Right. And so many times they put that off until they're retired,
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  and then they have more time.
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  Mm Where you find someone that has those values and you ask them questions like
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  this and allow them to live into you and you into them.
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  Because, you know, as an older guy who meets with young fellas,
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  it adds a lot of life to me. Good.
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  To be able to talk about life and what it is like now.
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  And it's educational to me. us old guys because we
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  don't realize what these young people are
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  going through right right and i think you know a lot
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  of the problems or the issues or complaints about the
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  dating pool or married life or a thousand
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  years old but some of them are newer some of them are newer yeah and i just
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  i i have this context in that there's about eight guys that i meet with every
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  week that are between 18 and 22 and i'm learning a great deal oh yeah about
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  these kind of things yeah yeah.
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  In that verse in Ephesians, when it talks about Christ being the head of the
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  church and that the husband is supposed to be underneath that,
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  is that the hierarchy? God, Christ, man?
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  Right. All right. The thing is, God is in Christ, and so that trinity is there.
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  I was trying to piece it in with the verse. And this isn't the only place that Paul talks about it.
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  Right. Because he talks about it in 1 Corinthians 11 and chapter 12.
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  And so there's a hierarchy that's in
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  the body even yeah i mean the the
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  but the hands aren't more important than the feet and all those
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  things but you know i sure have a heart going in the midst of that right so
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  each each of us have different gifts and abilities working within the whole
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  same with the husband and the wife you lend each other right the The strengths that you have.
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  Yeah. And so you're better together than you would have been separately.
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  So this alignment term that's used that we have rendered in the English as submit
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  is more of how do we get the most out of us?
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  Right. Yeah. How are we better together?
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  That's why it's a military term. they use that
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  military setup so they
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  are more efficient and a better value
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  so it's that same thing that we want to carry into marriage and what I find
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  fascinating about this passage you know it is a little on the surface a little
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  bit simple and it's a very clear I think term you know if you look at is it
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  submissive or is it alignment.
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  I heard Tim Keller talk about this once where he said that, you know, why is it like that?
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  It's because no one has the right to tell you exactly what that means for your relationship.
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  The Bible doesn't really even go into it except for just on this one part.
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  So you got male and female, you figure out where those qualities align,
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  where your culture, your upbringing, where those strengths and weaknesses and
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  gifts, where those fit in.
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  And I said cultural, but also So, like, what gifts does God give to you to bring
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  to this relationship? Right.
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  To give. Right. Right. Because if we're taken, that doesn't make sense.
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  So, I just thought that was very interesting. It's like, it's just you two.
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  Don't look to outside sources to figure out what it means for your relationship. Right.
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  But also don't be afraid to seek counseling or anything like that, obviously, but true.
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  There's also another piece that Paul weaves in here that I'd like to,
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  with the submit piece, I also want to put in here the fact that husbands are to love their wives.
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  As they love their own bodies. Love is a language that women understand.
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  They know that they're loved if they're agape. In other words,
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  if you're willing to sacrifice for them, if you're willing to give up yourself
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  for them, they feel loved and cared for.
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  That is a language that's universal among women.
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  Yeah. The second piece is when it says, and men, and it says then they're to
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  respect their own husbands. investments.
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  In verse 33, however, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself,
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  and the wife must respect her husband.
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  Respect is one of those things that we as men understand. I mean,
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  cuddling does a certain amount for us.
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  Sure. And we understand when people have gone to dire ends to help us.
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  But when they respect us, that's what we guys need.
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  Right. And that makes a lot of difference. So if you're living a good,
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  solid Christian life and are not respected, then you have to ask two questions.
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  Am I not worthy of that respect?
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  Or is this person, this woman, just not willing to give me that respect? Right.
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  And I've found over the course of time, respect is one.
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  And so that it's not going to be something that they bring in a box and lay
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  in front of you. Right. And you just have it without cause.
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  But it's like any place else in our life. Respect is one by how we live with others. Yeah.
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  And it is same thing that's why we don't get
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  married in six weeks right right you you
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  you have to have a dating period long enough where she
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  understands she's loved and you as
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  a guy understand you're respected right and you
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  have to have the actual conversations too because sometimes
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  you get caught up in just the the new love
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  the romance the sparks flying and stuff
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  but you gotta have the
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  conversations right i mean huge red
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  flag if one of you is not comfortable having difficult conversations why not
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  oh boy you got to be able to figure that stuff out find somebody you can communicate
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  with yeah yeah and not to say that those things can't develop over time but
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  make sure that that person knows that they need to develop over time you bring up
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  a good part i mean if we don't trust each other to have those conversations
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  then maybe we just don't trust each other enough right and so that you brought up a good point right.
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  There's a little bit to it too where it's like you know don't talk about politics
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  at thanksgiving because politics are divisive but you should be able to talk
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  politics with your projective spouse Oh yeah.
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  In a rational way. And even I've got a couple of couples that are radically
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  different politically, but because they love and respect each other,
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  they can have those difficult conversations.
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  What's interesting is how creative and productive in informing each other they are. Yeah.
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  And so they are much better together, even if they're opposites because they
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  respect each other enough to know, well, there is a point to that position. Right.
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  And there's a point to that position. Right. Okay.
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  Yeah, you definitely wouldn't want to, with anybody even, especially a spouse
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  or projected partner, you wouldn't want to label them as this because they voted
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  for this person. Figure out why. Right.
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  My wife and I don't see the same as far as for politically.
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  And that used to really drive me nuts. But once I figured out why she had these
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  views, I realized that it was all just out of love and care.
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  And the emotional attached
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  things to to that view right and and
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  she didn't agree with all the things from whatever side
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  you know so it's it's figuring those things out because sometimes you
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  know politics obviously wants us to say you know the left or the right
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  whichever side you're on the other side's definitely an enemy and they're a
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  danger to society and if we keep trusting them it's all going to heck in a handbasket
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  right but the understanding piece has got to be got to be there too amen and
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  over the course of time it's that middle piece that needs to be the overarching.
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  Struggles start because we can divide we
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  can divide alliances and so that that isn't always the best right but we've
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  got to flush out the truth and that's usually what's done in the middle okay
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  and so that that's what carly contributes to this broadcast what's that your
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  heart oh yeah Yeah. Yeah.
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  Yeah. There's, she's got a, just an incredible capacity to see that side, right? Yeah.
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  Praise the Lord. God bless you, Carly. Where I'm all just like,
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  you know, it's, it's logic.
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  Let's work the logic. You know, if they can't, if they can't,
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  if they're unwilling to work, then they shouldn't eat.
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  See it right here in the Bible. Right here in the Bible. Yeah. We've got one of those.
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  Yeah. Paul talks about it. okay so so let's go over a few i got a list right
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  so what do you got to do for finding a spouse this is men this is women what's
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  number one what do you got to do.
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  Mix among the people who have the same values you do. Yeah. Okay.
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  That way you've got the pool to start looking at. I was going to say make God the center of your life.
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  Make God the center of your life. Well, I was assuming it was already there.
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  Okay. So we're hoping that's that part.
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  Okay. Okay. So let's make that number one. And number two is to get your pool of people. Right.
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  That reflect the same values. Right. And don't overlook that if someone's a
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  friend that they're not wife material. Because if you marry a friend, that's a great thing.
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  In fact, I know some people who have been friends.
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  They actually met each other freshman year of high school. We're very, very good friends.
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  Friends all through high school, all through their college years, and then got married.
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  I mean, it's like having an eight-year dating romance.
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  They just figured it out. They're just like, at some point, they're just like, we're fun together.
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  We like to hang out. Why don't we just. Hang out forever. Yeah. Yeah.
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  And that's cool very cool couples okay yeah and
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  say like pray for wisdom pray for wisdom well i was gonna put our discipleship
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  in there disciple okay make sure you know even if you're in this pool of people
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  make sure you've got your discipleship lined up make sure you're mentored and
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  and growing in christ right and then then start to get your eyes open,
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  conversations don't eliminate your friends right that are happening to the other sex yeah Mm-hmm.
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  Prayer. Why didn't I put that in earlier? Because you're going to need some
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  of that. You're going to need a lot of prayer, dude. Yeah, you are. Yeah.
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  Dude and dudette. You do the prayer piece. Might make it that part of your God
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  piece at the very beginning.
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  Yeah. There was a group of women, I remember, in my past church who were working
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  with their toddlers. So it was sort of like a mops program.
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  Oh, yeah, yeah. And there was about five women who had toddlers all the same age.
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  And so they committed themselves to pray for the upcoming spouses for their children.
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  And they continued to pray year after year and they'd meet year after year. And these women prayed.
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  And so when the weddings came around, they went to the weddings. Wow.
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  You know, proclaiming God's providence in providing this spouse.
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  That's really cool. Yeah.
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  So pray into it. Ask your parents to pray into it. Oh, yeah.
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  And make it a process that God is going to bless with His Holy Spirit.
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  Yeah. I find that part in James.
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  That's probably the most quoted Bible verse we have on here,
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  but in verse five it says, if any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God,
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  who gives generously to all without finding faults, and ask knowing it will be given.
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  Right? Because that's an important thing that you
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  also need to be able to carry into a marriage relationship is that
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  trust piece that trust you got to be able to trust god if
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  you can't trust god then it's a test how can you trust anybody
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  else right so if you're asking for wisdom seeing if god
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  is actually going to provide this time if you do that same thing to your spouse
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  yeah i'm not going to say they can tell and something bad's going to happen
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  but that attitude is is not going to yield good fruit no no same way with god
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  right okay this is a test right nobody likes a test no No, no, no.
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  Let's see if you're a good spouse. Let's see if you do actually love me.
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  Test to see. I'm going to check you out. Yeah. Oh, that's.
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  In fact, don't go into church saying, I'm going to check out all the chicks here. Yeah.
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  I came to. I actually had a guy do that at church.
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  Oh, my God. I came here, and he had come from a neighboring city,
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  and he, I came to your church because I understand there's women eligible to be married.
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  Oh, boy. And I thought, oh, dude, you're starting about this all wrong.
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  Oh, man. He didn't go away with anybody from our church. What do you know? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
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  I think step three I had written down. It's like, don't be passive.
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  But I think we cover a little bit about that just going in.
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  Right? Yeah. Yeah. I'm sorry. I wasn't looking at your notes as to what was
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  one, two, and three. These are just scribbles. But I like make God the center.
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  I like that. Mm-hmm. Pray for your wisdom. I like that. that's very good yep
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  yeah don't be passive yeah mm-hmm.
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  So, yeah, I think we covered all of them. I say some like, you know,
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  as far as like some tips is what you're doing in your life, you know,
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  go on, make the first part of your day productive.
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  You know, don't be someone who sits in his idol and that's not going to help you out.
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  Don't look at TikTok or any of those videos that are just talking about what's
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  wrong with women these days.
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  Don't let that rot your brain. Right. I mean, if anything, spend more time in
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  silence or something like that instead. And that is hard. I know, but.
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  And the, you know, listening prayer. Yeah. Take time in your prayer life to give God time to talk.
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  Silence. Yeah. Set in silence. Yeah. It's amazing what God will say in those moments. Oh, yeah.
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  That's absolutely true. Yeah. So I think that wraps up our day.
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  John, will you pray us out? I can do that.
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  All right. Heavenly Father, we thank you for these questions.
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  We thank you for our listeners. We thank you, Lord, that we can be a part of
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  their day by listening to this broadcast.
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  Heavenly Father, we do pray that you would continue to guide and bless all Christians
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  at this time, that you would lead us in ways that honor and glorify you,
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  and I especially raise up those who are looking for their life partner.
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  Lord, move among us. Guide us
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  ever closer to you. In the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior. Amen. Amen.
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  Thanks, everyone, for joining us. Hopefully, you can pass this along to someone
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  who is in the dating pool looking around.
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  And we're open to more questions about it. Yeah, absolutely.
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  It is a tricky thing to do, and just don't get discouraged. Right.
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  Have fun. God's got the right relationships for us. Yeah, yeah.
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  And even it might be His will for us to be single. Yeah, that's also true.
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  And that's got to be part of it, too.
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  That's true. That's true. So I guess thanks, everyone, for joining us,
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  and we will see you all next week. Lord.