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DLHS Hour 2 | Dad taking a shower with nine-year-old daughter okay · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: It's Sadel Hugly show, so on the New York City podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Well, listen to it.
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  Speaker 3: Last time I was there, he said she was jumping
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  Speaker 3: in the shower and he wouldn't be long. Finally, I said,
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  Speaker 3: she's nine. She shouldn't be showering with you. He said,
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  Speaker 3: she yells for me if I don't and disturbs the boys.
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  Speaker 3: I told him they'd be okay. Let her have her tantrum,
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  Speaker 3: and at nine she shouldn't be throwing tantrums anyway. Thank you,
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  Speaker 3: don't give in. It's time to stop running whenever she yells.
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  Speaker 3: And a dad showering with his almost ten year old
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  Speaker 3: daughter is not okay.
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  Speaker 1: You think that sleeping, taking a shower and a father
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  Speaker 1: taking a slo with a nine year old is a
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  Speaker 1: little weird or.
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  Speaker 2: Is a good paraty? What do you think, Sanders? I
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  Speaker 2: think it's weird.
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  Speaker 4: I think you know, the nine year old, especially nowadays,
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  Speaker 4: young girls go through puberty so much earlier, you know,
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  Speaker 4: and the fact that she probably could name that that's
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  Speaker 4: a penis. It's a problem for me, not at nine five, okay,
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  Speaker 4: I get it. And even sleeping together at night, if
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  Speaker 4: you get in the bed with your dad and you're nine.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
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  Speaker 5: Let's just straight out the shower and you ain't getting
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  Speaker 5: no clothes on.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, changes everything for me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and the girl, you know, if you listen to
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  Speaker 1: the story, she she doesn't do that because she is
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  Speaker 1: between the mother and the father. But this was a
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  Speaker 1: story that was relaid by the girlfriend of the man.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes they can't even be intimate because little girls
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  Speaker 1: in the bed with them.
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  Speaker 2: At nine years old, she saw it like daddy's halfway
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  Speaker 2: to take a shower. That's a little weird, that's very weird.
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  Speaker 5: And when Daddy's not around, she has no problem taking
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  Speaker 5: a shower by ourselfs or singing by ourself.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I do think that we are a society
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  Speaker 1: where too many people got tested the wrong way and
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  Speaker 1: not enough people got tested the right way. So I
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  Speaker 1: think that that is that is true. But this is
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  Speaker 1: even far from me. So the question we're asking, here's
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  Speaker 1: the scenario.
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  Speaker 3: Last time I was there, he said she was jumping
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  Speaker 3: in the shower and he wouldn't be long. Finally, I said,
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  Speaker 3: she's nine, she shouldn't be showering with you. He said,
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  Speaker 3: she yells for me. If I don't and disturbs the boys.
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  Speaker 3: I told him.
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  Speaker 2: They'd be okay.
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  Speaker 3: Her have her tantrum, and at nine she shouldn't be
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  Speaker 3: throwing tantrums anyway. Thank you, don't give in. It's time
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  Speaker 3: to stop running whenever she yells. And a dad showering
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  Speaker 3: with his almost ten year old daughter is not okay.
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  Speaker 3: He told me that's how he parents and he's not
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  Speaker 3: changing that until she's ready. I told him I'm not
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  Speaker 3: being a part of this dynamic anymore, that it's inappropriate,
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  Speaker 3: and I left. Since then, he's been messaging me, asking
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  Speaker 3: me to come over to talk and asking me to
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  Speaker 3: accept and understand his parenting. But he asked me not
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  Speaker 3: to talk about it with anyone, and she said, so,
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  Speaker 3: I haven't yet. I've even watched the kids a few
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  Speaker 3: nights when he's been called to work. When I do,
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  Speaker 3: she sleeps and showers just fine on her own. I'm
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  Speaker 3: just kind of done with the weirdness.
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  Speaker 2: You think he's a little weird or as a good parent,
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  Speaker 2: you we're going to go skip.
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  Speaker 5: What do you think, Oh, it's not weird if your
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  Speaker 5: las's name is Epstein or you know, you having to be.
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  Speaker 1: Defended in that case. But Trump says some very provocative things. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's a big patter sitting on it in a weird way.
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  Speaker 1: Did he talked about our boobs? Yeah, her legs, that's
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  Speaker 1: totally inappropriate.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, you know, you get to a certain age
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  Speaker 5: and she's at that certain age you're talking about.
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  Speaker 2: It was she's.
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  Speaker 5: Almost ten, she's nine, says she's almost ten, And you know, no,
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  Speaker 5: that's you need to while you're being a good parent.
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  Speaker 5: Also is teaching them what's appropriate and what's not. So
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  Speaker 5: that's that's out of it.
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  Speaker 1: But I do think, and I think that we were
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  Speaker 1: in America. We have a lot of people who have
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  Speaker 1: not been touched the right way, and too many that's
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  Speaker 1: been touched the wrong way. And I think that almost
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  Speaker 1: any level of affection is weird to some people.
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  Speaker 4: But I also think as children, boys and girls, certainly
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  Speaker 4: girls in learning the autonomy of your body and privacy
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  Speaker 4: of your body is important, especially as you're about to
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  Speaker 4: go through puberty and a lot of things. You don't
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  Speaker 4: totally understand what's going on with your body, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I just I have some concerns there.
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  Speaker 1: I think that child services will have some good good
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  Speaker 1: parenting are a little weird, go right to the phones.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think it's just absolutely it's so sad. This
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  Speaker 6: man has no reason, none, whatsoever getting in the shower
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  Speaker 6: with his ten year old daughter. If the child has
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  Speaker 6: special needs, then that's where where's the mother?
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  Speaker 7: What is she doing?
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  Speaker 6: That's her, that's her job. The child has the father,
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  Speaker 6: the baby has no business sleeping with the child. You know,
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  Speaker 6: that's just my opinion. I think he's a pervert. He
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  Speaker 6: is a pervert. Why in the world with your ten
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  Speaker 6: your ten year old daughter be still getting in the
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  Speaker 6: shower with you.
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  Speaker 8: No, that's sick.
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  Speaker 6: That's sick, and somebody needs to really really do something
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  Speaker 6: to him. That is absolutely ridiculous. I think it's a ludicrous.
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  Speaker 6: And where is the mother? And I just this just
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  Speaker 6: gave me chills when I heard about it. I had
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  Speaker 6: to call in.
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  Speaker 9: I don't allow my children's dad to with them. They
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  Speaker 9: canswer in this lamp and he damn sill good not
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  Speaker 9: being no showers seven years old, and she thinks it's okay.
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  Speaker 9: I mean, this is just my opinion because this is
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  Speaker 9: the way I was raised.
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  Speaker 8: I respect other people.
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  Speaker 9: But no, seven years old, that little girl is developing.
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  Speaker 9: He didn't even want to be in the shower with her.
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  Speaker 9: And when I when my kids were be in the bed.
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  Speaker 9: If we're all in the bed, trust me, my child
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  Speaker 9: is not in the middle at all. I think that's sick.
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  Speaker 9: This ain't that kind of world no more so.
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  Speaker 8: I watched that video and the part you guys are
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  Speaker 8: leaving out is the part where she says he told
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  Speaker 8: her not to say anything to anyone about it. That
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  Speaker 8: alone tells you that he knows he's wrong. There is
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  Speaker 8: nowhere in the world a grown man should be getting
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  Speaker 8: in the shower with any eleven year old, especially his daughter.
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  Speaker 8: And I don't know where the mom is, but somebody
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  Speaker 8: need to let her know that's wrong. And she doesn't
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  Speaker 8: know he's doing it, he's wrong, period.
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  Speaker 10: First off, a nine year old child deserves privacy and protection.
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  Speaker 2: That's period.
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  Speaker 10: Sleeping in the bed with dad, taking a nap, that's
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  Speaker 10: one thing, But taking a shower crosses so many boundaries
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  Speaker 10: and something like that when it's happening, honestly, it needs
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  Speaker 10: to be reported and it shouldn't be minimized. I couldn't
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  Speaker 10: even sit on a man's lap at that age, so
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  Speaker 10: my grandmother, we weren't having that. So getting in the
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  Speaker 10: bed or taking a shower with your dad naked.
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  Speaker 2: That is like never.
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  Speaker 6: I can't even imagine a time when that's okay.
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  Speaker 2: So the question where I ask, here's a scenario.
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  Speaker 3: I forty two female, have been dating my boyfriend, thirty
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  Speaker 3: eight male, for over two years. He has three kids,
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  Speaker 3: two boys ages thirteen eleven and a daughter who was nine.
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  Speaker 3: When we first started dating, his daughter slept with him
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  Speaker 3: and his boys shared a room. I assumed it was
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  Speaker 3: a space issue, plus she was seven. I didn't think
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  Speaker 3: much of it. A couple months in, I'd be at
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  Speaker 3: his place during the kid's bedtime and he'd say, the
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  Speaker 3: kids have to shower before bed. Okay, normal. So I'd
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  Speaker 3: hear him run the shower for his daughter. He'd say,
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  Speaker 3: I have to hop in there with her.
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  Speaker 2: Good parenting are a little weird, go right to the phones.
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  Speaker 11: When my child was eight nine years old, my daughter, well,
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  Speaker 11: I had never taken a shower with my daughter, and
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  Speaker 11: that's something I would never, never, ever do. And I
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  Speaker 11: would never take a shower with my son either, and
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  Speaker 11: I would never do that. But sleeping in the bed
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  Speaker 11: with your daughter seven years old, I get that, But
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  Speaker 11: taking a shower with her dad is absolutely off limit
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  Speaker 11: as a father or anybody else, So that would be
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  Speaker 11: a little weird for me. Taking a shower with your daughter.
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  Speaker 11: Sleep with her is one thing, but taking a shower
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  Speaker 11: with her is off limit, So that's weird to me.
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  Speaker 12: I would never do that.
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  Speaker 7: Wow, I mean, I can't believe that that's even a question.
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  Speaker 7: Somebody doesn't have healthy boundaries. You know, you really need
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  Speaker 7: to teach your daughter at a very young age healthy boundaries.
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  Speaker 7: I mean, you know, sleeping with dad because you might
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  Speaker 7: just want to be with your parents. I can understand that,
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  Speaker 7: But taking a shower naked, I mean, I mean, my goodness,
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  Speaker 7: I mean, did that happen to him, you know, when
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  Speaker 7: he was that age. I can remember my father telling
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  Speaker 7: me to put on a road when I had on
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  Speaker 7: my pajamas as a little girl. So I don't understand
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  Speaker 7: how a grown man is okay with just letting his
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  Speaker 7: daughter shower naked and her seeing him that way, I mean,
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  Speaker 7: him seeing her that way. I don't understand in his
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  Speaker 7: mind how he feels that that's all right.
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  Speaker 12: A grown man got no business showering his daughter a
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  Speaker 12: seven year old or a grown man. In the show
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  Speaker 12: I Got Kids, I ain't never did anything like that. Bro,
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  Speaker 12: We don't get down like that. That's that she his
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  Speaker 12: missions or whoever the girl is, and he's talking to you.
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  Speaker 12: She needs to call the police on that. Dude, Get
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  Speaker 12: that girl some help. Something up be going on somewhere.
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  Speaker 9: This gotta be an April Fool's joke, because no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 8: That's inappropriate.
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  Speaker 12: And for her not to have called maybe because I
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  Speaker 12: don't have any children, not as patient, but no, no.
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