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Episode #202: Embracing Flexibility in Your Schedule · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Hey, everybody, welcome to tea sign with Amy and Bev. Hello,
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good day, Hello. How are things? Oh? Good? Fulfilling?
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That's an interesting thing too. People ask me, how are you all that?
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And I'm like, well, I'm a very fulfilling schedule, and they
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just kind of look at me like I have two heads. They're like because
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they don't understand what that means. And a while back, I got away
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from saying I'm a busy I'm busy, I'm a busy schedule because that just
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sounds like so heavy, overwhelming and overwhelming and how important am I in all
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this? And so when I say and it sounds kind of daunting and a
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little bit of struggle. But when I say I have a fulfilling schedule,
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I even when I say it, like typically, my eyebrows go up and
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I feel this excitement in me because because it is it's a it is a
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fulfilling schedule, because everything I'm doing is fulfilling, like it's I enjoy it.
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Is it a lot? Absolutely, it's a lot, but I'm doing
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okay with it. So I'm just it's fulfilling to me. And and so
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when I explained that to people that are like, oh, Oh, that's
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a good way to say it. So even they see the positive side of
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it without me even pointing it out. So there's that I could see someone
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I could see it's like someone looking at you because that that's a like as
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soon as you say it, you stop to think about it because it's not
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what we normally hear, and that's what's important about you, how we use
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our words and recognizing how we've been using our words. Right, So that's
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awesome. I like it. How about you? Well, we started to
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talk about and I'm not sure Pa roll with it. We started to talk
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about like, initially I had group coming up this weekend, and I got
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my grandson's playing ball, so it's like wanting to be there for all that
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stuff, and then totally rescheduling my calendar and then just you know, having
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conversations around home and it's like, why are you canceling group? That's something
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that you love doing. And for me, it was just because I just
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wanted to make sure that I'm accommodating because we have our group, that our
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meeting that we meet up on Sundays and ends. My grandson's balls are ball
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games. Are might want to edit that out? Ball games are you know,
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in a couple of Saturdays, and it's like that's it's it's right during
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group. So and it's I'm at a space in my life where it's important.
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Family time is important. And before when I was growing up, I
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grew up with a mother that worked two or three jobs, part time jobs
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to make ends meet for her family. So that's what I knew. So
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I always knew that I had to work. So's I missed out a lot
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of functions, a lot of family stuff. Even when my kids were a
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little there was a lot of times that I missed out on that because I
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was afraid I was going to do something wrong by not being at work,
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and I wasn't honoring the family or honoring myself. And now I'm learning to
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honor myself. And it's even like trusting and having faith. So even for
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you, I was like, well, I'll send you a message and if
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we can do meet up on Saturday early before I have to go to I
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say, see the words right there, I just started use where I have
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to, I don't have to. I get to go watch my grandson play
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ball and it's his first game and it's awesome, right, and I'll be
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there for all games. But it's recognizing all these words that we use for
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our daily activities because when you say those things, when you have to do
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something that feels daunting. We've had to do things. We had to go
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to school, when we were kids, we had to do whatever. There's
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things that we had to do. These aren't things that we have to do,
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just like you saying I have a fulfilling schedule that's so light and airy,
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and it could be whatever you wanted to be. There's it's open for
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your imagination to create whatever you want. And to me, when I say
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have to, it doesn't. There's no creation there. But so I get
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to go to this game. So I thought, well, I'm just gonna
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leave it up to the world. You know, I'm gonna leave it up
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to the universe. If it's supposed to happen, then it'll it'll work all
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right for you, and it'll work all right for other people because it's short
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notice too, Like I'm doing this on short notice. I let everyone know,
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Hey, this Saturday is canceled. I've got my grandson's game. And
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now when I say these things, I'm not like, oh, I can't
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make it because I'm making some excuse. I'm just saying, sorry, guys,
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my grandson has a game that's important to me and it's not even so
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much sorry, right, So go back to words, Thank you guys for
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waiting around, and what is still show up for groups because they still do,
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and there's gonna show up tomorrow on Sunday because you were accommodating to do
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this on Saturday instead of Sunday. So it's like there's so many things unless
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you voice or ask someone, what you've gone already is a no. And
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if I ask and you say yes, it's like, okay, well then
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that opens the doorway for everything else. And guess what. I've been talking
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to Spirit and it's like the regular daily tech activities that I'm doing is becoming
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not so much fun anymore because it's like Groundhog Day over and over and over
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again. So this is another way that things can switch up and I'm not
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doing maybe I'm not having a day off, but I have things that I'm
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doing on different days and that kind of changes things and makes things exciting too.
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So okay, so before we go any further, just a quick plug
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in for what your group is. It's not that I want to continue conversation
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about what you guys do or anything, but just give everybody a heads up
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about what it is so in case they're interested. Oh, it's just like
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a very open group where like minded people that come together with conversations that we're
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having right now. So if you're hearing our conversations now, it kind of
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goes along that basis. There's no gosh, I don't have any rules around
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regulations in the group. I've got people. It's like they get worried about
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showing up late. I'm like, just show up. It doesn't matter what
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time you come in because it's always divine. We get so caught up in
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wanting to control things and wanting things to go a certain way that I don't
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do that. It's like if you show up at eleven o'clock and you got
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to leave at eleven thirty, Okay, come in and get your hugs,
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see you later. It doesn't matter. But we're just there for conversations about
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spirituality. We could be talking about channeling, we could be talking about mediumship,
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we could be talking about just experiences that you had in life, addictions,
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just whatever whatever comes forward. It's always fascinating and fun because it's whoever's
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they're in the group, that's the information that needs to come forward at that
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time, right in that time space reality. So it's just like minded people
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coming together and having conversations for a couple hours every other week, every other
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Saturday, at this Sunday, at this time. Yea charge for it?
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Is that still true? Do what at this time? There's no charge for
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it? No, there's no charge for it. Okay, it's just a
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space. I mean, if people want to donate or whatever. I don't
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ever stop anything like that. But it's never been a conversation. It's just
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just to be open. And now I have another friend that's sending She's like,
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she has a group that's coming together us next month and she's setting out
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an invite. So I'm not sure exactly what that's all about, but it's
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like to me, it's like more of these like minded groups just happening.
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This happening wherever. Yeah, and if it is in person, so people
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know it is an in person group. And if you're interested in you're live
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in the area, then just leave a comment or with this video or send
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Bev a private message so that you guys can get hooked up and she you
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know, can exchange numbers or whatever you want to do. So I just
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wanted you to explain what the group was. So out of my office,
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right, it's out of the office over off you know, a Rainbow diner,
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so the massage room, and it's super the energy and there's amazing and
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I always love going in there when I have appointments and classes, so it's
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worth it. So I want to go back to what was. What you
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started with is doing things that are important to you and asking, right,
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you had to ask, you know, hey, Amy, can we do
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this earlier? And of course it's up to me to look at my schedule
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and see and if I have the opening and the And it's very funny because
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the day before I was actually after after recording today at eleven, so we
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started at nine. So at eleven I was supposed to go teach a class
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in that in home class and that just means it was it was a private
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class. It was by invite only. It was not a public you know.
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So anyway, there wasn't enough participation. And so the girl who was
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hosting it send me a message and she's because this will be the second time.
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People are like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, and
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then it comes down to it and then no. Right, So she was
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feeling distraught and because this would be the second time it was rescheduled, and
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then people not want, not wanting to show up even though they said they
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would, and so she's you know, I can feel her angst. This
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was all through messaging, and I could feel her angst about it, and
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I just sent her a reminder and I said, it's okay because maybe we
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one of us or both of us need to be available for something else that's
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going to come up. And on that day, on Saturday, it's okay,
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and it's learning to have faith and trust. And I'm not kidding you.
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Within minutes after me sending that to her, you text me and I
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said, it's all okay. It's like that's where I'm at with myself when
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things shift. Okay, well, what is that making room for? What
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do I need? What is it that I possibly need to be available for,
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or even BEV needs to be available for, or this host needs to
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be available for. And if we would have been tied up in that class
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or tomorrow for you know, tea time doing it on Sunday at our usual
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time, there were there may be because we don't know the whole dynamics of
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the universe. It's way too overwhelming for us to understand all that and the
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intricate maneuvers and pieces and parts to that that because our energy is always creating.
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Our energy is always creating, and we're emanating that out into the universe,
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and so you think about all the I'm gonna use the word manipulating because
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it is. It's a manipulation of energy that we're connecting to each other for
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things to happen. And great, I'm doing tea time today class got canceled.
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What is that making room for? What is the universe? Craig?
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Because that's the way I see it. I'm like, what is the universe
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creating for me? What am I co creating with the universe? About what's
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going to transpire right now? Interesting thing is for a couple of weeks now,
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I'll just be honest. I am not the greatest housekeeper. Not I
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do my best because I have a very fulfilling schedule. So I'm like,
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for a couple of weeks, I'm like, man, I really got to
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do like a guy, really got to clean my house, right, And
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I've been thinking about that and thinking about it. And of course I'm looking
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at my house every day and I'm thinking, passia really need the dust,
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and and so maybe that's what I was doing. I was creating space so
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I have a day to clean and get caught up on things. And so
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this is part of that co creation process that I was like, oh,
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you know what, I got this game I want to go to. I'm
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going to see my grandson play. And then this class got canceled. I'm
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just like my weekend's opened up, just saying like I have less commitment,
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but I have stuff to do, right. So so maybe that was me
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creating that space. So but we all are participants, that's the thing.
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We're all participants in this. Maybe the host has something she's been thinking about
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that needs to get done or you know, again not knowing the whole dynamics
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of the universal arrangement, and I don't, I don't. I'm gonna say
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this, but it's not to instill fear. But what if some kind of
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situation arises and it needs her attention. There's that right, and she's available.
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So we don't always know why. But when we learn here's the key
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word, when we learn to be flexible and roll with it. Amazing things
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can come out of it. So I'm just that's that's my experience. I
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mean, I've been experienced this for quite some time. But two people in
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the same day and that interesting and it's so much dynamics too, could even
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going to the party with the or with the not party, but with the
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gathering. Even for me, like so if I go to a gathering and
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maybe everyone says they're going to come and then nobody shows up, It's like,
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what is that mirroring to me? So that's a time for my repersonal
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reflection too, right, It's something for me to look at because sometimes that
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happens. How am I keeping my word for myself? How am I?
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But it's also not being tied to anything. It's like, how am I
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being more flexible? How am I being like in the flow of things instead
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of trying to control things? Still wanting to have this group come together,
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and it's like it's not working out. But it's like you know, for
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you, I know that you're on the go almost NonStop. It seems like
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because you have a very fulfilling calendar. I'm very blessed that very fulfilling calendar,
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Like having this space is awesome too, because sometimes we don't make the
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space for ourselves, but we have a desire withinside of us, and that
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that's kind of stands true when when you would hear Esther Hicks talking or Abraham
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talking through Esther Hicks and talking about how, you know, how we have
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our schedules and how we have our routines, but there's like a process to
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everything, and it's not necessary for us to try to control the outcomes of
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things, but it's to kind of be there along on this journey to kind
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of be open to the flow of it all. I was go somewhere else
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with that, and I kind of like, that's okay, I'm gonna well,
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you're gathering your thoughts. The other thing I want to point out too,
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is what if by BEV scheduling changing the class to Sunday, that there
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are people who can't attend on Saturday and they're like, oh, this is
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a golden opportunity for me to go. But that is yeah, so maybe
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there's more people than what's been typically showing up or fresh new people, right,
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So that so it's like I understand, you know, I get when
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people people and I used to be this way too. People get very rigid
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in a commitment, very rigid, and I understand making a commitment, but
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I also understand the dynamics of the universe. Yeah, and that there's really
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like I had already pointed out what I've already talked about is to me,
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I'm like, everything happens for a reason. So if this is if this
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is meant to be this way, if this is meant to be changed this
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time, then there's a reason. There's something going to come out of this.
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There's for whether it's for me or BEV or or this host, whoever
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it's going to affect. Maybe it's the people that that that can't come to
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Bev's group on Saturday, they get to be there on Sunday, and it's
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what they need for now, Like this is where they're at in their life
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and they need that support and then and they're excited about being able to show
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up and receive that. So flexibility is super important. And I feel like
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when you when you hold So when I make a commitment and I have to
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change it, there's a lot of things that come up with that that could
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be I'm inconveniencing somebody because I need it to change I'm not feeling good enough
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because I can't show up when I said I would. Right, it's just
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another reason to beat ourselves up about it. What are they going to think
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about me if I change it? If I ask to change this. So
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there's judgment criticism. Right, So there's that path that we do when we're
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living in that very rigid space and still holding ourselves in a space of not
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good enough. I'm just like, listen, if I can't, if I
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couldn't have changed my schedule for BEV to do this today, I've done it
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before. I would do solo, or we would say you know what,
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well, maybe we could do it Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday. We've done
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that too. So it's like there's there's always room for shifting and changing and
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maneuvering and and it's okay, but that's life. Life comes up. Life
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gives us these things to help us be flexible and to shift. I mean,
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here's the biggest shift that had to happen in our in our lifetime that
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I'm aware of so far is COVID and when everything's shut down and listening to
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all these multi millionaire influencers who do personal development, who are on stages every
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month and with huge amounts of people, and they couldn't do that anymore.
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They had to think fast, how am I going to reach people? How
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am I going to How am I going to get money to pay my bills?
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How am I going to continue this work that I do. Whatever their
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story was doesn't matter, but that was like the biggest shift that people had
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to take to still be able to reach their communities, to reach out to
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people. And that's you know, we all know because we're doing it.
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That's where zoom came into play or video outreach. Right. They had to
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know how to do that. They call it pivoting, how to pivot like
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quickly, like right now. These people had had events plan that had been
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planned for probably over two years. Tickets sold out, stadiums sold out,
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and everything got shut down. All of them had to pivot, every single
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one of them. But what I will tell you is I'll guarantee you this
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and I know it for a fact, is they had a support system.
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They were calling each other, Hey, what are you doing? How are
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we going to do this? How are we going to change this? What
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are we going to do to reach people? Right? They had a support
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system, so that's that's another thing. Like Bev and I support each other.
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We understand what we're doing, we understand our schedules. I understand families
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important to Bevin and all that. So it's okay to ask, and it's
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okay for me to change my schedule as well because of whatever else might come
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up, whatever I'm making room for. So it's all growth, that's the
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way I look at it. So like regardless if it's the mirroring, regardless
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of like every single phase of its growth, or even maybe trying to control
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it and realizing we don't have control over these things, and it's letting go
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right as soon as we let go, this like everything kind of flows for
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us, things kind of shift. But every single part of it's been an
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opportunity, all of it with me being flexible and still having group because I
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enjoy having group. I enjoy it. It's beneficial even if I'm the one
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that's sitting back in the background watching how I'm watching how everybody is kind of
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moving through with each other and having different perspectives. There was one time,
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and I say that's because it's like perspectives are different are good. There was
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a time I would say I will never go and get chemotherapy or radiation.
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And then I had a gallon in group and she says, you know,
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she was a nurse, and she says, I had I had to decide
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this is what felt right for me to do. And it's like when she
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said that, it's like taking I had to take a step back and take
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a look at what I was saying because I wasn't being neutral to it.
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I was pushing against it, first of all. And so for me to
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step back and recognize that that's exactly what I was doing, but it doesn't
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have to be in my experience. But at that particular moment, I was
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no longer resistant. I was after she said that because I got a different
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perspective, right from I just from my experience, I gained this, I'm
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not doing that. It's not good for you, ball Alf, but it
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could be. You know what I mean, It's it does. It's just
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how we look at something. We can sit and look at all these foods
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that are being delivered to the stores that maybe we might perceive as contaminated or
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not exactly what we'd eat. But what happened to our blessing of foods?
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What happened into our raising the vibrational frequency of things instead of being in the
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state of what is like we think that that's how it has to be.
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When we can shift things, we can always shift things and just having the
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perspective of what we were talking about today, even to the to your little
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class being, I say, little class to your gathering being canceled, it's
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on the out. I always tell my clients all the time, don't feel
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bad about canceling. It's always about divine timing. And it's like sometimes in
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our experiences, we when we say yes, I'm gonna all make it,
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I'm gonna come because at that moment where our soul is like, yes,
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we're gonna go do it. We're gonna go do this thing. But we
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get into our headspace right when we're not into the place where we're at,
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where we're listening. We get into our headspace and we find a million other
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things that we could be doing. So instead like, oh, I've got
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the house to get taken care of, you know, because we can put
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that on we can go look at that from a different perspective. I got
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all this stuff to take care of. I don't have time to go for
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this. I don't have time for myself, right, That's kind of what
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that's saying. And so it's like, that's why when I say all of
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its growth, all of it is, every single piece of it is.
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Even us having this conversation is growth for me to even look at things.
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So then this last group that I had, one of them was talking about
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tough love and I don't know if I brought this up before, tough love
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when it comes to drugs and addictions and all that stuff, and another other
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person's like, no, I don't believe in tough love. I don't believe
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in that tough love, but I don't believe in enabling. So there was
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like a difference, like there was a different perspective. And as soon as
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she said that, I was like, that's awesome, that's awesome, because
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I would we always we can get into this ideals of everything's black and white
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and that you know what I mean, there's no gray in between. But
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there is gray because there's different perspectives to each of each of the situations.
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From everybody's perspective, it's different. Someone else gets to bring in another perspective
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of just what we're talking about right now, and it opens us up and
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for me, that brings me into a neutral space. And I've always said,
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or I have said for a very long time, if we're becoming in
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a neutral space, we have nothing more to learn from that experience. So
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then it doesn't need to be there anymore. It just falls to the wayside
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because there's nothing for us to gain from that. We're already neutral to it.
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We're already we've already moved past it. We're not emotionally attached to it,
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we're not emotionally having a reaction from it. It's awesome, but all
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that being said, all that stuff is just gauges. It's just gauges to
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let you know where you're at right now. Are you being flexible? Are
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you being open? Are you know? I was like, oh, yeah,
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I got I've just got to have time for myself. Well, but
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getting together with all of everybody is time for myself. So it's back to
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the same words when you first started the whole conversation. It's about you what
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words are we using? Like, are we saying we're having a fulfilling calendar?
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Am I having joyful visits with everyone? Yeah? It's it's just a
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matter of how what words are we using because those words have energy, and
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even if we don't even mean to do something like that, we're almost like
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dampering our own energy when we say some of these things about things that we
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like to do. So it's like it's said, you know, we create
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this whole duality withinside of ourselves and it's not necessary. But again that there's
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a learning in that. It's recognizing that that's happening right now or it could
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be happening right now. Yeah. What also is coming up as you were
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talking and it's not anything you said, it was just information coming to me.
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Was that? And I'm just using this as an example, and I
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know you can understand that right now. Is that BEV could call me or
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text me and say hey, can we change this? And I say yeah,
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okay, and then a couple of weeks that hey can we change it?
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Yeah okay, and then that keeps happening, and then I'm like,
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oh, why do I always have to change my schedule? Why am I
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always accommodating BEV? And then that starts forming some resentment And when that resentment
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starts coming up, and then that leads to some anger issues, right,
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And so that would affect if I'm having that kind of energy in me,
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that's going to affect our conversation for tea time. That's going to send and
26:00
that energy is going to be in that recording. In that conversation, BEV
26:06
definitely will pick up on something something's wrong. But because I don't know how
26:10
to use my voice and speak up and say hey, then I'm gonna hold
26:15
that in. But even holding that in, that's gonna emanate out into this
26:19
video into a video. If we were to have that conversation and and then
26:26
that goest, you know people, I mean, it's going to depend.
26:30
If people are picking up on that energy, they're gonna they're gonna watch the
26:33
video. People aren't picking up on that energy, they're not in alignment with
26:37
that type of energy, that video won't get watched. And and it's the
26:41
same whether we're having an uplifting conversation or a heavy conversation and people are in
26:47
alignment with the energy of the video and the energy of us. Because it's
26:52
our energy going into the video, then that will determine who's watching. Now.
26:59
That also would put me in a victim mindset, poor me, whate
27:03
is me? Feel sorry for me? I'm right, Bev's wrong, and
27:07
I could conjure up all kinds of stories in my head. And the thing
27:11
is, I never had the conversation with Bev right. I didn't know how
27:18
to use my voice. So I'm using that as an example because we also
27:22
do that too, because I've had those conversations with people. And I had
27:26
that with a client just recently and she said, she said, you know,
27:30
I feel like I'm being a pushover about this relationship and I'm always doing
27:33
what he wants me to do. It's about a separation and divorce and all
27:38
that, and they have kids, and I just I just feel like I'm
27:45
always accommodating him. Well, first of all, first of all, you
27:51
make a choice. You need to be okay with that choice. That's first
27:56
and foremost because you're making that choice. It was my choice in how I
28:00
responded to Bev. It was a yes or no question? Can we do
28:06
tea time tomorrow early? It was a yes or no question? And whatever
28:11
I answer, I have to be okay with that. That's my responsibility.
28:17
That's not on BEV. And if I say yes because I'm being a people
28:21
pleaser to accommodate her schedule even though it's going to inconvenience me, and then
28:26
I get have some resentment about it. That's my responsibility, that's not on
28:32
her. I'm the one that made the choice. So when somebody asked you
28:37
to do something and you go ahead and say yes because you're people pleasing,
28:44
and then you're feeling used or walked all over or taken a for granted or
28:52
whatever that case may be, you're the one who said yes, just saying
28:57
okay. So there's that side of it as well. And I just wanted
29:02
to bring that that has nothing to do with me or the way I showed
29:06
up in the just so you know that, but I do need to use
29:10
that as an example so people understand that that's the avenue that we can take
29:15
when we say yes to something, even though deep in us that we had
29:21
this was something you write. If it's if it's not a hell yes,
29:22
don't do it. I have somebody tell me that because they asked me to
29:27
do something and I was standing there and I was like, my people please
29:30
are when they say yes, but I was holding back and she's like,
29:34
I can tell this isn't like a hell yes for you. And if it's
29:38
not a hell yes, and don't do it, don't commit to it.
29:41
And she totally let me off the hook by saying that. I was like,
29:45
oh my god. I was like, I didn't have to tell her
29:48
no, and that was all great, you know, because the people pleaser
29:52
it still shows up at me sometimes, but I also know, hold on,
29:59
I need to see how this feels, I mean, and really what
30:03
it was. There was two instances that happened with the same person asking me
30:07
to do something. One was teaching a certain kind of class and it was
30:17
one of those things like I knew I could do it, but I also
30:21
knew I couldn't do it from the way I teach right, and so that's
30:27
what was holding me back, and that's what I was processing in my head.
30:30
And she's like, if it's not a hell yes, don't do it,
30:33
just tell me no. It's like, okay, no, I don't
30:37
feel comfortable doing this. And then the other one is she wanted me to
30:44
teach a class with a room full of kids. I stood there and I
30:51
was like, I want my people please are one to say yeah, I'll
30:56
do it because I had to do with meditation all that, but in me,
31:02
just so you know, a room full of kids, not my not
31:06
my jam. It's not my thing. Some people can resonate with kids and
31:11
do great. That's not me. Don't call me to do things with children.
31:15
It's not my thing. And so I was very hesitant, and she's
31:21
like again, She's like, it's not a hell yes, don't do it,
31:25
say no, And I said, okay, no, but it was
31:29
awesome. Yeah, it was. She's the one though, that had to
31:32
let me off the hook. Oh gotcha. Hey, So even though I
31:37
really wanted to say no, I was having a cult saying no. And
31:42
I understand. I understand that. I think probably most people are. Anybody
31:47
that's listening probably has understood that at some point, because it's true. We
31:51
do that a lot. And it's just like even even yous, like for
31:55
me, it's like sending a text message gave you the opportunity to sit and
31:57
think about it, to check your schedule to see if that's because for me,
32:00
it was like if I wasn't in a space of oh god, I
32:04
got to change, because if you couldn't, we would have just done our
32:07
recording tomorrow morning and not a big deal, no big deal at all to
32:09
me, because that was the message from the universe that yes, I should
32:13
change it to Sunday or not change it to Sunday, do you know what
32:15
I mean? So for me, I kind of left it out there as
32:17
like, Okay, well I'll ask and if it works out that way,
32:20
then we'll all change this will change the schedule. So it was for me,
32:23
I was just kind of like flexible in the whole process and just waited
32:29
to see how the universe liked. Does the universe want this to happen?
32:31
Because you know, for me, I feel like if it's supposed to happen,
32:35
it's going to happen, because I feel like the universe is orchestrating all
32:37
of it anyways, Like even us having the conversation can you do this today?
32:43
Was was orchestrated because typically in the past I would not have I wouldn't
32:46
have bothered you because I wouldn't want to bother you. Right, I would
32:49
never ask because I wouldn't want to bother you. But it's to be in
32:52
that space, and it's being like you said, being okay with your decisions,
32:55
but take it, take the time to think about your decision before you
32:59
say yet yes, before you make that commitment. And now which helps people,
33:05
Yeah, because how many because our people pleaser came out, you know
33:07
what I mean, And it happens, and if it happens, then you
33:09
recognize our people pleaser came out, and you change your mind, you don't
33:12
want to go. Then you contact the person and let them know that you're
33:15
not getting to know just exactly how things played out. But there's always a
33:19
bigger reason, and we don't have to know why, right, it doesn't
33:22
have to be the fear thing. But like you said, there's been times
33:25
where I there was a time not that long ago that I'm in my office
33:30
and it says canceled group and I'm like, what the heck? Oh,
33:32
I don't know what that meant. So it's like, well, I can't
33:35
end up canceling group because I heard it twice. I don't go for the
33:37
third time. These days, I got the message on a second call,
33:42
right. But it's like, but then recognizing maybe it saved someone from an
33:45
accident because they would have made sure they were going to be there, or
33:49
there's such a bigger picture from things, and it's and it's not to hold
33:52
on to it. It's just to let go and just go with the flow,
33:54
be in the flow of things. I have been more in the flow
33:58
of things, like this past week, I played with my granddaughter. We
34:02
played in the watch and it's like we you know, we had all the
34:07
dirt moved around and just we're out. We were out there for hours.
34:10
I totally lost track of time, Like I can't remember a time that I've
34:15
lost track of time for that amount of time, Like never even thought to
34:19
look at the time, to look at my phone. And of course we're
34:22
in We're in March now, and it's the light staying lighter longer, right,
34:28
the sun's staying up longer. So you totally lose track of time,
34:31
and I did. But by the time I got all done, I'm sitting
34:34
at the end of the you know night and everyone left, and I'm like,
34:37
God, I'm freaking tired, Like my everything was hurting, but I
34:39
had it was the most amazing day. And it wasn't just because there were
34:45
so many factors. It's I'm grounded. I'm being grounded. I'm outside.
34:49
How often do we spend time like that? And we don't. I was
34:52
on my hands on knees, dragging around the sand, you know, not
34:54
with gloves on. I took my shoes off. We buried my feet,
34:59
like and then we buried her feet, but she likes to bury the feet
35:00
to you know, maybe not realizing how good it makes you feel. But
35:05
she was in such a great space, great mood. I was in a
35:07
great food. It's just those are the kind of moments to just write them
35:10
out right, milk them as long as you possibly can, and be in
35:14
that space. And then also now it's to the point where hey, grandkids
35:19
can start staying tonight, you know, so we can spend more time together
35:22
and we can run around out here and they can have they can feel what
35:25
it feels like to be with piece and ease. And the TV's not running
35:29
because we don't watch TV. I mean, I'll turn on something for them
35:31
maybe you know most of the stuff I don't even have like on our firestick,
35:37
but you know, all the stuff that we can watch stuff, but
35:39
we don't sit and watch just watch TV. It's just not we're always doing
35:43
something. We might be playing the game, we might be reading books,
35:45
we might be coloring, drying. There's like so many different things we can
35:49
playing with the dogs. So it's like all these other things that we're doing
35:52
and it's like an opportunity for me to have the experience of them staying tonight,
35:57
honestly, and then to have the how is going to be the next
36:00
thing? Making the breakfast together, spending all that time together, and it's
36:04
mindset right, It's just it goes right back to the fulfilling schedule. I
36:07
mean really it's the same thing. I could look at that as daunting,
36:10
like, oh my god, they're going to stay the night, and I
36:13
hope this is you know, we can go through the whole all the stories
36:15
that we've ever experienced. This could be a possibility, and or it can
36:19
be just like this is exciting and what does that look like? How is
36:22
this going to show up for me? And not trying to control at all?
36:28
Right, And that's that's a big word too. Control. Hobey's leaving
36:36
is uh, everybody wants not everybody because I'm kind of I'm kind of relinquishing
36:43
those reins. Is everybody wants to control everything, and it's it all.
36:50
I mean, it just stems back too well in childhood, we didn't have
36:57
control. We had we didn't have control. It was the adults around us
37:01
do as I say, not as I do, and we had to behave
37:06
in a certain way we got in trouble. You know, everybody knows all
37:08
the stories, and so then we become adults, and that's where you know,
37:15
like what I was saying has become very rigid, and it's because we
37:19
feel like we have control over something for the first time, so to speak.
37:29
But I mean, in reality, we know we don't have control.
37:32
Because I mean, even so Bev could have asked to change to this time
37:37
Saturdays to Sunday. We did it an hour early, so we're at nine
37:42
and ten, and I could have said yep and all that and then showed
37:47
up and she say, oh, something came up. I can't do it,
37:51
Like I don't have control over that. She doesn't have control over things
37:55
that are happening in her life. She just gets to choose how she shows
38:00
up. And so I could be like, oh, okay, well now
38:05
I have a choice. I either go ahead and do a solo thing today
38:08
tomorrow in my own time frame, or reschedule. Hey, okay, we
38:12
if you can't do it now, you want to do it on Monday or
38:14
Sunday night Monday too night again going back to that, or just do it
38:19
by myself because maybe my schedule it has is full and this is you know,
38:24
rearranged stuff so I could be here today so that we could get this
38:29
done. Because I love doing it with Bev. I prefer to do it
38:31
with Bev, but I'm very capable of doing it by myself as well.
38:36
And so you know, there's just so many dynamics to a situation. But
38:43
when you think you have control over something or someone, you better take a
38:46
step back. You better rethink that strategy, because I one hundred percent,
38:53
thousand percent, you don't have control anything outside of you, nothing, nothing,
39:00
So I wanted to just want people to understand that. And I and
39:06
again, I just want to reiterate to you Bed that any of the negative
39:09
stuff that I'm saying about this whole dynamic of showing it is nothing that I'm
39:14
feeling inside of me. I just let you know that. But I definitely
39:16
feel I feel what you're saying. I mean, I understand it. That's
39:20
the difference, right, that's the difference between when you're standing in your truth
39:23
and when you're not standing in truth. I can feel you so like you
39:27
were saying before, if you would have came into this conversation with the animosity
39:30
and those feelings about like oh, this is out of my country. You
39:32
know, all those feelings, then it would have felt differently, but none
39:36
of it felt like it was. It was just a story. It was
39:37
had nothing to do with me, right. And I'm just using all of
39:42
this as an example for the different avenues that could be taking in over one
39:46
situation, and what in saying yes right and that's important, right, and
39:55
this whole control thing why people got to who you know. I'm in a
40:02
position now where I have a full time job and it's a lot of politics,
40:07
a lot of political stuff around me, which is very interesting because I'm
40:13
not a political type of person. I just want to say, like,
40:16
oh, before this job, I can't tell you last time I read a
40:21
newspaper. I really can't. It's been like years since I've read the newspaper
40:27
or watched the news. I watched the news. Don't read the newspaper.
40:30
But because of the position I'm in now at work, I do read the
40:32
newspaper because first of all, it gets put on my desk and I have
40:37
the opportunity to read it if I want to. It's not that I have
40:40
to if I want to, so I'll skim through it to see what's going
40:44
on, because a lot of what's going on pertains to what I do and
40:47
where I'm working. And so I'm also you know, attending city council meetings.
40:52
This last week, I went to our state capital for a day.
40:57
I mean, just all these things that are happening around me. And again
41:04
that was me saying yes to the job. And but here's the thing.
41:07
It has broadened. Just like you having that conversation about chemon radiation, right,
41:14
this has broadened my thought process. This has given me other things to
41:19
look at and contemplate and witness and and but also recognizing just even just the
41:31
control how controlling people try to be is oh my gosh. And here's what
41:43
I know. I used to be that way. And it's great indicator right
41:45
when I when I look at them and how unhappy they are and how much
41:53
struggle there is in their life, and uh, their addictions to things,
42:02
whether it's smoking or alcohol or drama or whatever it is, and I can
42:08
look at that and go, it's not mine. It's not mine, and
42:14
I don't have to get caught up in it. So to be in that
42:16
environment every day for at least eight hours every single day, five days a
42:23
week, and be like, don't pertain to me, it's not mine.
42:30
I don't have control over this. I have control how I show up.
42:34
Like every day I get to do a check in with myself multiple times a
42:37
day. I'm just like, Okay, well that happened. What are we
42:40
going to do now? Right? Instead of getting all caught up in why
42:45
it happened? Who did it? Well? Right, the drama of it,
42:47
It's like, Okay, well it happened. Here we are What are
42:50
we going to do to change it? What are we going to do to
42:52
move in a different direction? What are we gonna do to pivot? What
42:54
are we going to do to what solutions do we have? Right? And
43:00
when you are in a room with somebody who is control, controlling and addicted
43:08
to drama and all the things, it's again, it's a huge check in
43:15
for me as to maintaining my energy. How am I doing? How am
43:21
I doing with this situation? What am I learning? Like it's every day
43:23
is a constant for me. What am I learning from this? How am
43:27
I showing up? Oh? Did I get caught up in the drama?
43:30
How much did I contribute? Okay, We've got to do better, you
43:34
know, We're gonna have a your opportunity to do this again in a moment,
43:37
So let's get on our gain. I have conversations with myself all the
43:42
time, always having self awareness, and do I get caught up in some
43:46
of the stuff I do and then I'm like, oh, because I can
43:51
feel my body. My body's like what are you doing? What are you
43:55
doing? This? This not? This is not our right Like my body,
44:00
I'm tuned into it to understand and notice and recognize those uncomfortable feelings.
44:06
And when my thoughts start going in a direction that doesn't feel good, I
44:10
tell you what I'm on it like right now. It's not days, weeks
44:15
and months, years, it's right now. You've got to shift. We
44:19
got to change our language. We got to change what we're saying and thinking
44:21
about. We got to change how I'm showing up in this conversation, in
44:24
this situation. Because if I'm contributing to the drama, I'm not being a
44:30
solution oriented person. I'm being a problem involved person. So if we're all
44:37
doing that, where's the solution going to come from? You can't because you're
44:44
stuck in it. So when I go, when I have that awareness,
44:50
step out of it. And have that internal conversation what's the solution? Now,
44:55
the whole energy changes, and then I bring that start shifting the energy
45:00
of other people who's involved, then things can change. So the control is
45:07
only within yourself. Yeah, and you're growing throughout the whole day. When
45:12
you're doing all this stuff, Man, you're like neutral, and then all
45:15
of a sudden you realize you're not neutral, and then you're like, oh,
45:17
questioning yourself because it created the desire to have questions. Right, That's
45:22
where the Esther Hicks would say, rockets of desire. Right, it's no
45:25
matter what we're experiencing right now, it's creating rockets of desire. It's creating
45:30
rockets of desire what you would desire in the situation, even if you don't
45:35
know exactly what it is, you just know you want something better than what
45:37
it is right now. Which goes back to our last recording is how can
45:40
they get better than this? Like, no matter where you're at right this
45:44
moment, it doesn't matter if you're in a good place or what you perceive
45:46
as a bad place, how can they get better than this right now?
45:51
And then something that's interesting. I was talking to one of my very very
45:57
good friends. And she was telling me that, oh, I was working
46:00
out, and she said, and I'm not promoting getting high any that stuff.
46:04
I'm just saying, I'm just using this as an example that she'll go
46:07
to the gym and she'll get high. But she said that she noticed because
46:12
she was high, so it made her step back and like, you're already
46:15
doing it naturally, but she made her step back and pay attention to how
46:17
she is being while she's in this environment. And she recognized that she like,
46:23
she's doing this weight and she could feel all the tension in her body,
46:27
all the stuff. And then she says, once everything started to calm
46:30
down and she started recognizing, she said, I relaxed. She said,
46:32
I was able to go up by like thirty or forty more pounds and it
46:37
was almost effortless, and it was just her being. It was enough for
46:40
her to slow down, because sometimes people's minds don't slow down enough for them
46:45
to see things. So for her, meditation is great, and I'll promote
46:49
meditation, but for her, this is what she was doing and it took
46:52
her into the mind space to me of similar to meditation, where she was
46:57
seeing things, her seeing herself going through this and then really realizing how much
47:01
we're resisting, how much are we resisting on a daily basis, honestly,
47:07
how much are we all bunched up, even though I've gone through so much
47:10
of my own growth and my own feeling and letting go of control right because
47:15
we do. First of all, if I'm trying to control everything, that
47:19
means I have an attachment to an outcome, an outcome that I don't maybe
47:22
could be even better than what my attachment to that outcome could possibly look out.
47:25
So for me, it's like letting go of it now, just letting
47:29
go, just letting go and going along with it. And then I'm tuning
47:31
in again to my intuition and stuff like that. Almost similar to my really
47:36
good friend how she's noticing these things, but she was saying them, and
47:38
it was like, oh my gosh, like just to stop and see.
47:43
When we're resisting anything in our life, it shows up in our experience,
47:47
but it kind of goes along with our conversation. What you were saying earlier,
47:52
Then it comes in and then you just feel you might feel talking to
47:55
this because this is something I recognized I might be talking to the person.
47:59
The other person that's a c for me, And it's like I'm throwing my
48:00
hand over my soular plexus like I'm because I and then automatically I'm recognizing that
48:07
this is not this is this energy is not feeling good. But at the
48:12
same point, it's not that it's a bad thing. It's obviously hitting a
48:15
trigger for me, So it's creating questions again, right, it's creating questions
48:19
because I want to be in a state of happiness, bliss or joy,
48:23
peace, whatever it is in that moment, because it's not always the same.
48:25
Do I want to be in peace all the time. No, I
48:28
like to be freaking excited and you know, flying and feeling great. But
48:34
I also like the piece too, So it's like I'm never going to be
48:36
just one thing all the time. But it's it's just recognizing all these things
48:42
that are happening in our experience are for us. Right, It's all happening
48:45
for us, so we can stop carrying around that resistance, stop holding Like
48:52
when she said it, it's like it can and encompass everything in our lives.
48:54
And it's like we've been resisting things since we were a kid because we
48:58
were being told what to do oh, and then then it comes to oh,
49:01
I have to do this, and then well, I don't want to
49:04
do this, And then we come up to these grown adult children, and
49:06
I want to stay because because sometimes I've had my temper tants. Well I
49:08
don't want to go. I'm not gonna do I'm not I'm just not gonna
49:12
go do it. I'm not going. Okay, I'm just canceling. I'm
49:14
not gonna go. But recognizing where I'm at, was I neutral in that
49:17
space or was I still was there still like some sort of a trigger,
49:22
And it's recognizing that it's not good or bad like all this stuff, and
49:24
it's happening so much faster now that I could work my way through this and
49:28
then have the understanding like, wow, we do have resistance. You're one
49:31
of your ways and your body is knowing your shoulders start coming up mine too.
49:37
I've got quite a few clients like, well, hey, it seems
49:39
like when this happens, this is what happens. Yeah, because it's how
49:43
is it going to get our attention? Otherwise? Unless we set ourselves up
49:45
to have this fulfilling schedule? How can we set ourselves up? And it's
49:50
with our words oh. Every time I start to notice any type of resistance
49:53
within my body, I just take a breath in, I go I,
49:57
I look at it, I have a conversation with it, I have questions
50:01
about it, and it just falls away from me. Like there, that's
50:04
just I'm just throwing that out there. But it's just different perspectives of ways
50:07
that we can handle things or look at things, and then realizing it's everything
50:12
is a gauge. Am I being a victim right now? Am I being
50:15
triggered for my own childhood behaviors? Most of it is all childhood, right,
50:20
not my behaviors, but maybe the way my interactions were with my adults.
50:24
Yeah, when you were talking about your friend going to the gym,
50:31
interesting enough. I was listening to a podcasts today with Ed Milette and Brendan
50:36
Burchard, and one of the things they pointed out was that I and I
50:42
used to do this so and I was actually it was actually a confirmation when
50:50
when I heard them talking what they said I've been doing and I'm like,
50:54
ah, look at me, Like that was a moment this where I was
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like, ah, look at me. Go you get the girl, right.
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But what they said was that they're talking about where they are and what
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they do when they work out. But let me let me hit on what
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was not necessarily for them, But what typically we do. We have an
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issue in our life, and we keep thinking about it over and over and
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over and over and over and over. No right, we stay in it.
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So we're stuck in the the victim side of the drama of our life,
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and we keep beating ourselves up. And they should have kudawuda and I
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should have said that, or I should have done that. They're a jerk,
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can't believe they did right. We stay stuck in that whole entire story
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for years and then just life's happening, and you're always everything's happening to you,
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and life sucks and all the things right, and we just keep living,
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reliving that. We keep it alive in ourselves. Well, what their
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conversation was, might let Brendan Burchard the Marine. What their conversation was is
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when they're working out, when they're in a gym lifting those weights, or
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on the treadmill, or they're driving or you know, in those moments of
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solitude, they're thinking about their goals, they're thinking about what's next, they're
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thinking about the you know show, how are they going to show up?
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Differently? They're thinking in terms of future how what's my next step in reaching
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my goal? Like their future thinking, they are not past thinking. And
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that's I'm either I have been listening to, like let's just say Louise Hey.
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I'll turn on video of her for affirmations, put my little earpads on,
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and that's what I listen to. While I'm working out, or when
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I'm walking or doing an elliptical, I turn on a video that's about personal
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development or spirituality or something. That's what I'm watching and listening to. Or
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I'll turn on some music and I will start thinking about the next class I'll
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be teaching and or topics or write future thinking future And I was like,
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damn, that is awesome. That is an amazing feeling because I also know
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what it feels like to be in a space of just beating myself up constantly,
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which it contributed to the suicidal ideations every single day, like not wanting
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to be on this planet. So to be in a space where I'm at
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now, where I am future thinking more love it. I love it.
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And the other thing I wrote down while you were talking was. I heard
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this also from a speaker I forget who said it. That. They said,
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create a life you don't want to run or hide from. Create the
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life you don't want to hide or run from. That's what I was doing
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in my earlier years by using alcohol. I was running from my life because
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I didn't know how to deal with it. I didn't know how to deal
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with the emotions and all the things. Now, because I'm future based,
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I'm goal and oriented, I'm intention setting. I'm projecting that energy out about
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good health and prosperity and healthy relationships and all the things that's exciting, right,
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and so I'm moving toward that. I'm moving toward a life I'm creating,
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not trying to run or hide from my life. So there's that,
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and so all of that, you know, just coming to light this morning
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is also a great indicator of the progress that I've made in my life to
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be here to have this conversation, Because if I was still in my victim
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mentality, I would never hear this stuff, I would never internalize it,
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I would never check in with myself. And today I can say it felt
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great when they were talking, having this conversation about working out and being what
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they're thinking about. It was like, yes, yes, this feels good,
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this is great, and I'm so glad that I'm finally in that space
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because it does feel so good. And then that just takes me right into
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being right. It's because that's where I'm my practice is right now. It's
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just being. It's being and receiving the guided information being like even yesterday or
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whenever I had sent you the message, just to send the message and just
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put it out there and if if that's the way it was meant to go,
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it's meant to go. I was just totally open, and I was
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just in my boat navigating right and it's like I'm just gonna put it over.
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I'm gonna go that way. But maybe maybe the boat's still gonna go
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to the left instead of to the right. And that's okay because it's you
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know, I don't exactly know the whole path I'm supposed to be going.
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The universe seems to have my back and also recognizing this. I listened to
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a person last night. He was talking about Guardian angels and I and I
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have been a little bit. I never really talked to by Guardian Angels or
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anything like that. Or guardian angel. I don't know if we have more
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than one. I think that's an individual basis. I guess I might need
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more support services. I don't know on my team, the better bring them
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on. But it's to be in that space of gratitude, right, it's
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being it's just being. So if I'm being right now, like when you
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put the headphones and you're being right that moment, you're listening to that stuff.
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Even though we're creating for the future. Creating for the future is the
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best way to do. From what I'm learning, is being in that space
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and feeling what it feels like to achieve what you're looking to achieve in that
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goal. Right, you're automatically changing yourself. So it's like it's so exciting.
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It's so exciting what we're so capable of. And I feel like I'm
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just right on the precipice of this whole thing, like how we're creating and
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how how I can create, Because just because I can create this way doesn't
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mean that everybody else creates the same way. Because we all have our own
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stuff, we have our dualities with inside of ourselves, our own ideals,
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and maybe we're not at a place where we can lay down the victim,
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you know what I mean that maybe that still shows up for us or whatever.
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But I don't know, like all this is just fun stuff. This
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being is just fun stuff because we've learned, we know how to do.
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We you and I we can do We could do all day long. But
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it's just like why are we doing it? And then what are what's coming
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out of it? And in that space and I'm appreciating what I'm doing right
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now? Am I appreciating what I'm capable of doing right now? Is gratitude
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and all this stuff and how this puts us in connection with our our guardian
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angel, all this stuff, and he's like, I just summoned my guardian
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angel in it's like, hey, I need your help. That's basically how
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he said, Hey, I need your help. And this recognizing again we
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have so much support services that are around us all the time. We're never
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by ourselves. And I'm maybe it wasn't happening like this for me for a
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while, but it's like every time I ask for help or for questions or
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I want to uplift my energy because I don't like the way where how I'm
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feeling right this moment, maybe I don't know how to get out that feeling
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right that moment, I'm praying, I'm calling on God and I'm calling you
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know, Creator, I'm calling on my guardian Angel, I'm calling on the
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angels. I'm calling on whatever comes into my mind at that moment, because
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there we're not doing anything wrong, it's all divine, and then information is
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being loaded into us. And a lot of times I would be like,
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oh, well, I'm not I'm not going to talk to I'm not talking
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to hart Angel Michael about that. You know, I'm just sit throwing that
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out there. Maybe not necessarily in that type of realm, but it's like
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there has been times where I would feel like, oh, talk to my
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holy the holy spirits, like talk to my guardian angel, Like I didn't
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know how that all fit into play. And it's like, just don't have
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resistance, just be and the information is going to flow right into you that
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you need. And even when you're like you've got the brakes on, because
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I've had the breaks on a few times lately, like nope, not doing
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anything, not going anywhere, this is it. But I don't at the
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same time, I'm how was my tones when I said that How did I
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feel when I thought that? Was I in the space of gratitude being Was
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I planning my future? Because you are planning your future with everything that you're
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doing right now? But am I a willing participant when I'm creating? Am
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I creating what I want to create? So it's like this whole conversation has
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just been about I'll just really pay attention to you, really pay attention to
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you, take the time to listen and decide if you want to make a
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decision and join a group or not join a group. If you walk in
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and you like where you're at and it's great, great, And if you
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get it in there and it's not what you really thought it was what you
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wanted to do, you don't have to stay like it's everything's like flexible.
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It's like you do you boo boo? That's the kids are you know,
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saying to someone else and it's like it's but it's it's true though, it's
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important for us to just honor ourselves and to listen to that. And it's
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not with an attitude or ballast or anger or just any of those things.
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It's it's all from a neutral space or from a space of love, and
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if you're doing it from that, then it doesn't feel bad, because otherwise
1:00:05
you feel bad because all the thoughts you had you never said anything to the
1:00:07
person. You're like, I'm sorry, I just can't make it with and
1:00:09
you feel like shit because you had all these horrible thoughts that didn't even resonate
1:00:14
with the person, had nothing to do with the person. But you put
1:00:16
all this energy into it feels dirty. It just doesn't feel good. So
1:00:21
it's but I wouldn't have recognized that if I hadn't gotten to where I am
1:00:23
right now. Honestly, those are things that I would never have noticed how
1:00:28
And I say dirty, but it just felt lower right, It just doesn't.
1:00:30
It didn't feel good period. It just didn't feel good. So why
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was I doing it right? And I'll tell you that the unhappy people the
1:00:40
people are miserable, and then we're not going to go into these conversations making
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a point. The unhappy, miserable old people are the ones that are people
1:00:50
pleasing, being fixers, being control freaks, and haven't done any healing processes
1:00:55
for things that they're hanging on to, and so they're leaning on the addictions
1:01:01
of drama and substance abuse, and they're giving their power to that by saying
1:01:13
this is why I drink, this is why I smoke, this is why
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I do well. Then you're giving your power away to all of that outside
1:01:20
of yourself and you can't again, can't control anything outside of yourself. You
1:01:23
can only control yourself. And so when you decide that you are done feeling
1:01:29
miserable, feeling heavy in your emotions, then that is a huge indicator it's
1:01:35
time to do something different. But the only person you can change you,
1:01:37
The only person you're responsible for is you, with the exception of littles,
1:01:42
and the only person you can control as you. So it's time to step
1:01:45
it up. Like I'm just I have these conversations almost every single day,
1:01:51
and it is time. If you are not happy in your life, it
1:01:53
is time to step it up and do something different. And the only person
1:01:57
who can do that is you. So let's go, let's go. It's
1:02:00
time. I just like that. It's time, okay. And it had
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to happen for me. I just had to get to a space where I
1:02:12
was sick of me. That was it. It wasn't I was sick of
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my life, I was sick of me. I was sick of how I
1:02:17
was showing up. I was sick of how I was feeling and I needed
1:02:22
something different. And it started with me. So and it keeps going with
1:02:25
me. I'm not I don't walk through my life saying, oh, because
1:02:30
he did this, I'm upset and I'm depressed, and I'm no, it's
1:02:35
because I'm allowing it. It's because I'm choosing to feel that way. And
1:02:38
so I am taking control of me and I have no control over anything outside
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of me, and I know that. So it's it's a realization. And
1:02:52
so when you're ready to step into that, listen to the video again,
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just saying, go to the chain, get on the treadmill and listen to
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this again. It's gonna be about a little over an hour, So just
1:03:05
saying, stay on the treadmill, listen. All right, my friends,
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any final words, make a magical week, telling you absolutely, make it
1:03:19
magical, make it fabulous, make it amazing, make it creative, make
1:03:24
it what you want it to be. Don't wait for it to happen,
1:03:29
right, yes, all right, my friends, Thanks for hanging out with
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1:03:35
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1:04:10
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1:04:15
incredible week and I will see you next time. We will see you when
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we see it. You do you boo. I'm bye.